Lol, interesting story. Nice and entertaining story for a change. Strong woman...no regrets...you did what you gotta do to save your marriage. I applaud you for your willingness and determination on saving your marriage.
Dear women, take notes from this lady bc she confirmed that having a tummy tuck and looking your best doesn’t keep a man who wants to cheat. A cheater will only stop cheating if they want to stop cheating as a last resort when they run out of options 😂
I am so lucky kuv tsis muaj tub tabsis kuv tus txiv yeej tsis uas phem thiab yeej tsis thaij li thiab kuv cov kws tij thiab kuv niam pog nws tsis pub kuv tus txiv yuav niam you vim kuv niam hais tias tej zaum yog wb txoj hmoo no. Kuv ua vajtswv tsaug kawg nkaus vim kuv cov kws tij siab zoo2 es lawv tsis txw kuv tus txiv ov.
Sorry but y'all in the US so you should know the gender of the baby is determined by the sperm. Not the egg. Women only hold one chromosome. Men's sperm holds both X and Y chromosomes. Egg only has X chromosome. If sperm that fertilizes the egg is X, you get a girl. If it is Y, you get a boy. If he truly loves you, he would do anything such as go to a fertility clinic and extract Y chromosomes from his sperm to fertilize your egg then place in your womb. We have all this technology to utilize ppl. No need to cheat. Besides, boy or girl, they're YOUR children. They carry YOUR DNA. Didn't you hear? Tub yuav nyab tabsis tub khiav mus ua nyab lawm hos ntxhais yuav vauv tabsis ntxhais ua tub lawm os. More girls are taking care of their parents nowadays while the sons let their wife wears the pants. Your choice.
Only you can do that to your husband. Most men doesn’t care if they decided to look for another girl. They’ll not coming back to you. The moment my husband decided to look for another girl. I’m out. He gotta go. Bye Felicia!!!
I agreed with you sister. Daughter or son don't matter but Daughter loves parents more. These days sons are no longer ours. We birth them to married and leave us. If they have a good wife then they can love us if they marry a evil wife don't expect anything.
So... you blame yourself for your husband's adultery because you can't give him a son? My goodness!!! Have some integrity for yourself. He's a cheater PERIOD!
Good and happy for you, sister. Hope your husband don’t come on here accidentally on Ma Vaj Channel even though you say he doesn’t listen to these channels & hear your story.
Koj xavtias koj yog ib tug pojniam ntse. Tabsis cas nej cov Pojniam Hmoob no es yuav muaj low self-esteem ualuaj li thiab. Yog ib tugtxiv es niajhnub nrhiav nraim hluasnkauj tham thiab twb tham kiag hluasnkauj lawm, los nej tseem khav nrees haistias nej zoo thiab keej dua es mus play games lino nrog nws thiab xwb. Nej tsis paub tusiab li los? Tiag2 mas yus yuavtsum saib yus tuskheej muaj-nqis thiab pob. Luag twb xam nraim sab-nrauv lawm xwb. Koj xavtias yog nws hlub koj tiag, tabsis nws lam nrog koj nyob lawm xwb vim rau nws ces nws kevtws lawm xwb os. His love is not pure and 100% with you. I am better than that, this is how you should think. And not because he's trapped in your games. Love yourself!
wow. Mr. Peng Her, a Master Degree in Physics! Smart man. Congrats and best wishes for the election bid. Hoolyyy krap, she spent over $5,000 just to keep her marriage persist. Ua movie tau lawm o zaj no..LOL
Cov niam tsev nej txhob xyaum tus pog vwm no tsam nej tus txiv tsis ruam li nws tus ces nej ntsib teeb meem nawb tswv yim lwm yam yuav pab yus lub neej muaj ntau os ib tug poj niam es nyiag nyiaj ntau npaum li thiab tham nrog lwm tus txiv neej heev npaum no niag txiv twb tsis paub thiab ces nws yeej siab phem kawg kiag thiab niag txiv yeej ruam kawg kiag nej txhob sis lub tswv yim no tsam nej tus txiv ho tsis ruam li nws tus nawb cov niam tsev .
Sister, you are one of the lucky one that your plan works and not back fire at you. Your husband is one out of 5 men that have up on cheating on you because a CHEATER will always will be a CHEATER no matter what.
I will tell you this. A cheater will cheat. You saved it this time, but he will continue to cheat. It will be an endless cycle. It's better to just step away.
4 minutes into this story and I already like your philosophy. The Hmong mind is a ruam tsab ntse way of thinking. The gender is determined by the guy. Hello.... no boy is because of your husband.
I agree! We are in USA and I don’t understand why they still don’t know. She is the egg and he is swimmer…depends on the swimmer who get to the egg first. Boy or girl.
Tus niam tsev no muaj zoo tswv yim kawg .qhov loj tseev muaj zoo tswv yim los yog tau txiv siab phem ces g works kiag thiab. tej zaum nws yeej hlub koj tsuas yog nws raug lwm tus cob xwb Es koj qhov plans thiaj works xwb os mog
Me niam poj hmoob Melikas koj lub tswv yim no yog kuv ces kuv muaj peev xwm mus nrhiav tus tshiab txog 10-20 leej naj es koj puas muaj $50,000-100,000 los ntiav cuav hluas nraug maj??
Yog nws yog koj dab laug tus tub mas nws yuav tsum muab koj hu ua muam thiab yawm yij no mas thiaj yog paub. Yog nws hu koj ua niam tij no ces txhais tau tias nws yog koj niam pog tus dab laug tus tub lawm.
Your scheme worked for you, but you didn't have to resort to all that scheming. All you had to do was take him to the doctor and the doctor would have told you both that it is the man's sperm (kab menyuam) that determines the sex of the child. Not only that, but the doctor would explain about XY (boy) and XX (girl) chromosomes: A woman's egg only carries an X chromosome, but a man's sperm can carry either an X or a Y chromosome; if a sperm with an X chromosome fertilized the egg, then you will get an XX baby girl; if a sperm with a Y chromosome fertilized the egg, then you will get an XY baby boy. I hope lots of uninformed Hmong women see this and stop letting people blame them for not having sons. If a couple is truly desperate for a son, they can do it through gender selection via fertility clinics, but it will be expensive.
And that's how you do it. Ok ladies, learn from this story. It doesn't take much to pay off someone in Laos to do a job for you. And then afterwards, leave the cheater.
I mean, i don't get it. U gave him permission to date and marry a second wife. But when he starts to talk to another woman, u went to extreme measures behind his back just to ruin his relationship. So.....what is your point?
She only gave him the approval to make herself look “siab loj.” Deep down she refused to let it happen, that is why she secretly ruined his relationship. Old Hmong women tend to do that.
Sadly, all that effort and he’ll cheat again once he heal from that heartbreak. Also, hmong people need to know that it is the father who holds the gene to determine the sex of a baby. It’s ridiculous how they always blame it on women for sex and infertility.
Sister glad things worked out for you. But I would of done worst to him by bargaining for my own son too, that would of been a pay back to the in laws. Let the race begin, who will get a son first, lol.
This woman is pure evil to the cord, she prevented her husband from spreading his genes. She’s will be curses to live a long prosper life to the bitter end with guilts and regrets
Sister tho your smart and calmn and patient about his wanting a 2nd wife and cheating I can understand why you did what you did...LMFAO....one thing I do not understand why did you not tell him that the only way you'll agreed to is for him to signed over everything to you, the house, all assets, his life insurance, his 401K, total Control of all the money. Most of all you should've given him herbs or meds that would put his lil head out of commission.
Your mind is so messed up to think you’ve won and he loves you. You’ve only fixed the symptom, not the disease. Remember, you’re not safe yet until death. These ogs can have Laos fever at any age lol
Out, dab laug Tus tub hu koj ua niam tij li cas na? Dab laug Tus tub thiab koj twb yog Muam npaws nus npaws ces neb yog nus muag es koj yog Muam na, cas nws ho hu koj ua niam tij na???
I'm happy it worked out for you wanting to hold on to your marriage, but I don't get why hold on to something that desire something else. It's a little on the extreme side. I'm not in your shoe so I would never know the worth of holding on to someone whom desire is to have a son per say to your story. In a relationship when there's no love there or two people see things differently. There's no reason to hold each other back. What if they stay with you but all you have is a pretend show of happiness?
Tus niam tsev, koj khav tias koj ua tau txhua yam, yam koj ua tsis tau ces yog yam dab thawj xwb. Kuv xav tias koj yuav tham txog koj lub peev xwm mus saum hlu, ua U.S president, ua doctor kho koj tus kheej lub plab, ua kom koj muaj 1000 tus tub. Mloog mus, koj tsuas khav ua dev pleev nrog koj tus txiv thiab ua heev kom nws swb koj xwb. Yog li txhob khav loj loj, khav tias koj muaj peev xwm khoo koj txiv xwb. It's not over yet. Your husband will try again and again. Your husband will be smarter. So don't be so confident yet. Should khav of being a great person, not just a controlling wife. Khav that you know your husband so well, yet he already has girlfriend. Just because you hired a man to date his girlfriend in order for him to be jealous, it doesn't mean that you stopped him from thinking of future girlfriend.
But is it worth it to "save your marriage" when that person already made up his mind you're not enough? You may have won this time but he will refuel and do it again later I wouldn't even bother.
I understand that she did it to save her marriage but I would never forgive a cheater. He betrayed her once and he will do it again. She’s dumb for even killing a pig to cheer up his cheating spirit. Let him go if he wants to go. This lady must have a lot of time and money to play this game. Not me! If he doesn’t want to be with me, I don’t want him to stay either.
I would not try this hard to make my man keep me..no thank you! I would not invest anything because regardless a cheater will always cheat. You can't always stopped them for being a cheater. Stop wasting your time sis. Be yourself that's all I can said. Thanks for sharing your story but I am not taking this as an advise.