I am 66. I am trying so hard to understand non-binary. This was some progress. I did not totally fit the mold and still am not sure about my own self. You kids are cool!
Hi, baby enby here! I just wanted to say thank you for existing. It's not often that older folk are so open to us and nice. Thank you. (I'm sorry I am not good with words but I am glad you exist and are here)
It’s great that your here to learn :) You remind me of my grandma...I recently came out to her. She was very open and it trying to learn. So thank you❤️
@@gaybot8375 You could just try telling her if that’s an option. Kids are pretty adaptive to things like that typically. My lil bro actually loves to change my nicknames all the time and immediately solely call me the new name he’s chosen (which feels great because I’m a trans boy in the closet so my birth name is used by pretty much everyone and it sucks pine sap)
I have experienced 'passing as non-binary' I am actually a girl, but I don't pass. I look and sound like a boy, but I wear the military outfit designed for females and it confuses ppl so much that they just call me they/them pronouns.
@@des-astre yeah accept for the fact that I am a girl, so for me it just further cements the fact that I don't pass as a cis girl and that if it weren't for the uniform, they'd be calling me he/him
@@des-astre Oh no, it's okay! I understand that we're working towards different things, and I am aware that all of us dream of being gendered correctly. I am totally aware that the way I am gendered by others would probably be a dream to most nonbinary individuals, it's just not my thing specifically. I hope you smooth sailing to whatever gender you feel comfortable with...
Well, I do look like a boy too (due to having very short hair with the left side longer), but rn I'm having an identity crisis. Idk if I'm demigirl, non-binary or bigender. Anyway, my name is Kuro and you can use she/her or they/them pronouns on me.
To all the female to nb, congrats on graduating from the cis-terhood. (I am honestly so proud of that) Edit: omg I have never gotten this many likes before! Thank you guys so much! Remember, no matter what, you are loved and appreciated for who you are. You don’t need to try to be anything. Just be yourself and people will love and admire you for it. Have a miraculous day!
TIPS FOR BINDERS!!!! You always hear the "if it hurts take it off!" which is a YES, BUTTTTT if it is your first time (ONLY YOUR FIRST TIME) it is natural for it to ache a bit more than usual, take it slow in intervals (i was able to handle abt an hour at a time for the first week or so) :))) ily all!!!
Another tip for taking off binders!! Fold it up over your chest, and reach up and behind you, tugging on the shoulder blade area and shimmy that bad boy over your head. It's harf to explain but that's the easiest way for me to get it off without dislocating my shoulders like the other version does. Stay safe y'all!
I would also recommend that you get the right size binder 😅 I got one a little too small. Definitely don’t recommend as it puts pressure on areas it shouldn’t.
0:31 This is the exact excuse my parents use for not using my pronouns, they still don't use them. Idk how my pronouns are "uncomfortable" but I hope they realize that my pronouns and neo pronouns make sense and shouldn't be deemed "uncomfortable".
@@acekenny9339 Yeah but the thing is, they just act like I'm dumb. They have been saying the same thing over and over since April, and they just keep going on and using she/her pronouns on me. If I correct them it's "the wrong time". Once I was in the car and my dad kept saying I'm still a girl even though he knows I'm non-binary, almost hit me saying how my pronouns don't make sense, and now mocks me over my identity. So idk what to say about the whole " I'm getting used to it!" thing because honestly, it's pretty easy to get used to. 😅
@@handcrusher2658 Yea that is not nice i do not know much about this subject but aren’t there several non-binary pronouns? So have you asked them to try different ones that you are comfortable with? Oh and a maybe stupid question if someone uses they/them pronouns should one say “they are walking” or “they is walking”.
66 year old grandma type here. Again. I am getting such sweet love notes from so many of you for the first remark I made on this video. I love you all. What is hurting my heart is that I can sense the misunderstanding, rejection and even abandonment for some of you in your replies to me. I just don't know what is wrong with people. You must all be old souls. We have the toughest journeys but also when life is good, it is really good. A lot of it has to do with American culture and I think it is deteriorating beyond repair. There are many places where people are not this hateful and judgmental. But there are also places where the consequences for being different are far more horrific. I hope you understand that you are OK. You deserve to live the life that makes you happy. You don't have to be loyal to abusers. Get out there and explore the world, stick together and make this planet a better place. You are making my existence better! Thanks for all the sweet notes. You don't have to be a genius to be intelligent. Having an open heart, accepting others as they are, respecting others that are different than you, and keeping your mind open is absolutely intelligence. Hugs.
Fern, as a young non binary teen, thank you for your messages. It honestly makes me so happy to know that some older people try their best to understand others in the trans and enby spectrum. I'm still anxious about coming out as enby to my family but I'm so glad that even some older people will accept me. Thank you so much Fern for your kindness. Best of luck and have a great day xx
This comment furthers my feeling justified in not giving my dad the excuse of age for being obviously uncomfortable with the world becoming more diverse.
hey guys! remember, if your non-binary, or anything else that has something to do with not being male or female, you dont have to go by they/them! i myself am non-binary, and i use it/its pronouns! everyone is valid, you use the pronouns you want to use, and no matter who, what, or where you are, your still so valid!! ♥️♥️
When they acted like their parents it just.... Oh G O D. MY MOM AND DAD AT THE EXACT SAME. My mom is constantly invading my privacy and doesn't listen to my therapist because "tHEy ArEN't P A R E N T S!" They almost never use my pronouns and told me that going into the boys bathroom is "INaPplROpRIaTe" and "FOrciNg YOuR BeLiEFs ONtO OThERs"
That's kind of silly, since _they're_ forcing _their_ beliefs onto _you_ about that going into the boy's bathroom is "inappropriate" and that what you identify as is not valid and such. Smh...
To be honest I’m shit at pronouns so my solution is to assume everyone’s just a bunch of bees operating a human and this has worked so well. just thought I’d share that because I don’t wanna misgender people even if it’s an accident
i know probably no one will ever see this nor care but i just realized this is me. i always felt that im neither a boy nor a girl and that im just me. this makes me so happy, confused and scared. just... yeah. (sorry needed to tell it somewhere)
That's perfectly fine! Your gender and your gender expression can be the same, different, or anything in between! If you do bind, however, just remember to be safe and take breaks if you need it :)
You are a female. Unless you’re actually trans, as in female to male, you’re a female. Being non-binary is the funniest crap I’ve ever heard and you’re a joke for identifying as one
If you can't wear binders for whatever reason then i have some tips Sports bra's they are much more comfortable and they do make you a bit flat not as much as a binder would and do not work if you have big boobs Loose shirts they arent as effective as binders or sports bras but if you dont have big boobs you should be fine Layered clothing so this would be an alternative to loose clothing and a bit more effective do not wear this in the summer if you live in a hot place like arizona for your own safety if you have big boobs this may be the best one for you
One time, I heard someone chose Lucifer of Satan as their chosen name, just to annoy the transphobes, homophobes, other -phobes of the lgbtq community.
im non-binary and i use they/them pronouns but i dress in what society would say is 'girly' but in my household clothes have no gender same with colors and overall looks. the other day i was hanging out with this 6 yo and her brother who is now 9 and she took off her ring so we could jump on there trampoline and the boy put the ring on and said "wow i look good in this" and the girl said "no you can't wear that! boys can't wear rings!" and little dude came back with "tell that to our dad who has his ears pierced" then i explained to her that there isn't such thing as boy and girl things
I have a plan to send my mom pictures of chest binders and... Stuffs... To hint that I prefer they/them pronouns. She's very supportive and not at all homophobic or transphobic but I just wanna have a little fun.
I told my mom about binders and that they can flatten your chest if you don't wanna do surgery and she just said "you want one, don't you?" And I just responded yes and she said "I can't get you one right now since they're a bit pricey but maybe soon." **Happy dance intensifies**
I don'r know if my parents are homophobic or transhobic. When someone on the TV is talking about trans or gay people they change the channel or ignore it. The last time i talked to my mom about trans people she said that it was a bad thing, but we were watching a movie and a character said that she was lesbian and she didn't care
@@nothanks673 yeah i most definitely agree trust me, so that's why i like to put feminine and masculine in "" to emphasize that the fact that clothes are labeled that is stupid and made up by society
I'mma tell y'all about my fellow NB friend Avery When we first met I got a crush. But it sucked because I didn't know what I was crushing on. Their hair was short and white-blonde, they always wore overalls and the colors were like denim and yellow. Their voice was pretty neutral, and they were flatchested(7th grade, hadn't gone through puberty) and I had to listen for a solid MONTH for someone to say he or she. Mind you, I had no idea what NB was. They ended up rejecting me when I asked them out (Just got out of a relationship, needed time), but we still good close friends now. When I told them that story, their mind was blown. They'd achieved true androgyny before they even knew they were NB. And I think that's beautiful.
"I didn't know what I was crushing on" I relate to that so hard, and used to strive for that, which I have since acknowledged is an unrealistic goal, due to the excessive amount of testosterone that has been flooding my veins at increasing levels for 22 years.
Ugh it is SO hard to explain being NB to my friends because when they think of trans they think of boy ---> girl Or girl ---> boy And they cant get girl ---> non binary (Which is me) And my friend thinks im over exaggerating because I asked her to respect my pronouns and not constantly deadname me on purpose even though it makes me uncomfy
It's a bit of a jerk move but you could use the opposite pronouns for that friend (who doesn't understand why the wrong pronouns make you uncomfortable) and they'll pretty quickly correct you, and you can then point out that that's what they've been doing to you. It might help them understand why respecting pronouns are important. And for the others not understanding things you could find some resources online that may better explain these things to them, it might help :)
as an afab feminine presenting enby, it really annoys me when people say I can't be non binary because I "don't look like one" NON BINARY PEOPLE DON'T OWE YOU ANDROGYNY OKAY 🤚😃
Ah, I really needed this! I've only been out as non binary for a bit and today I had my first not so great interaction... Someone called me broken, said that there's only two genders and asked me what's in my pants. I starting to feel bad for being non binary.
@@scoootaloot6391 Gender-Fluid people are actually just vapor that shape into a human body whenever they so feel like it, so in conclusion, your just a homophobe so please go away
I love that you use your platform to spread awareness and amplify people’s voices! (and not just talking about this one video lol) Could you possibly do a nonbinary transfem compilation if you haven’t already? I feel like they are definitely underrepresented
I have a genuine question, how can you be nonbinary and a lesbian? Isn't the term, "lesbian", used to describe _females_ who are attracted to other females? Nonbinary people aren't females and instead don't have a gender, right?
I'm a cis girl and I've always felt like a girl. But I experience chest dysphoria and I really like presenting androgynous. I don't care whatever pronouns people call me. Does that make me trans or non-binary? I'm confused because people say I'm non-binary even though I like being called a girl and I'm comfortable with she/her pronouns. Please help me out.
While experiencing dysphoria or wanting to dress differently doesn't inherently make someone trans/nonbinary, the two together would put you somewhere on the enby spectrum, maybe demi girl? And please remember that you don't have to use they/them pronouns to be nonbinary, you can use whatever pronouns you see fit.
I'mm not sure if I'm nonbinary or genderfluid yet, but I definitely don't identify as a girl. I don't like she/her pronouns or being called a girl but I like my girl parts and boobs and looking feminine and stuff so I feel you lol If you identify as a girl then you're a girl! You don't have to be girly or like your girl parts to be a girl, you are what you identify as and you are what you feel you are I understand the feeling and I realize that it doesn't matter what you like, wear, etc. It's what you want, what you feel, what you identify as!
Imo, you can dress/present pretty much the way you want regardless of whether or not you want to be identified as any particular label, if someone asks or something then it might be easier to explain if you were comfortable saying "oh well I'm non binary so I like being androgynous" but if you don't identify as such and its just that you feel more comfortable in those clothes then whatever feels best. If it were me, I wouldn't likely label myself non-binary if I still felt completely feminine in identity and perspective, but wearing andro. clothes doesn't make you less of a girl in itself.
Thanks Mr. Demon for teaching me LGBTQ+ meanings. I want to learn what the sexualities/genders mean to help support people with those sexualities/genders.
I came out to my mom as non-binary and she said “that’s confusing, explain more?” After I actually I explained she said “oh that’s a cool way to be” and I almost started to crying happy tears 😭
This is the first video abt nonbinary I watched since I came out and because I'm so fed up with the constant misgendering at work. Thank you so much for spreading all of this positivity and care and just amazing people 🥺 This really warmed my heart and I have tiny happy tears in my eyes.
I made a bracelet that I wear that says “they / them” so my friends don’t forget but since I can’t find the bead I need to make one that has my name I have a feeling they are still gonna say the wrong name- [the friend that messes up my name doesn’t purposely do it, I can tell because he normally uses it correctly but forgets and calls me the wrong name and my friend always points it out and whispers to me “he just called you *my dead name* “ and all I say is “I know it’s fine he’ll figure it out”]
@@scoootaloot6391 How do they not exist? Can you give me a reason? Why are you on this video, which is literally "NONBINARY TIK TOKS" if you think they don't exist? You wanna call me 'Mr Special' when all you're doing is trying to validate yourself and your wrong opinions on gender.
As a Christian I just want to say, Jesus does love you, so do I, I want you guys/all to feel safe and happy in your body(and life) non-binary=a person who's just different- lgbtq+ as a whole = people who deserve safety and love just as much as anyone else.
I felt so called out with the three dogs in a Trenchcoat. Yes I am 707 Fireflies that make a hive mind and I’m agender (they/them). Loving it. Just the steady stream of wholesome :)
Warning: I basically tell my whole life story and it’s pretty boring :) I’m AFAB, and legit everyone calls me a girl and uses she/her pronouns when really i’m in the closet hiding the fact that i’m non-binary, i only have 5 friends and only trust 2 of them so those two know that i want to be identified as non-binary and respect my decision, they also use my preferred pronouns even when around others but people always correct them saying “*she/her” which is pretty annoying. I’ve always hid my chest which to my mum isn’t a big deal because the first bras she got me were sports bras and just thought that i felt more comfortable when i wear them instead (which i do but that’s all my mum knows, she doesn’t know my whole non-binary thing) the reason i haven’t came out is because even though i’ve felt like this for 2 years, i’m just not ready to tell them because of how things are in my family (everyone is supportive when it comes to sexuality but from what i know, my family don’t know any non-binary’s/genderfluid/genderqueer/transgender/etc personally)
@@urban_gse_ I don’t really have any advice on coming out as I haven’t myself but what I can say is that even though you don’t know who I am, i support your decisions
Thank you for making theses videos! I’m not non-binary myself but I’m try my best to educate myself on more sexualities/sexual identities. You all are loved and have value. I completely support whoever you are, and who you will become. Stay happy! 💞💞
My biggest achievement as a non-binary is that i can make everyone question my gender. I go by he/him mainly but i don't mind she/her or they/them pronouns either. And y'all i attract people like a magnet, I'm living for this shit. I'M AN UNSTOPPABLE SUCCUBI.
Binder tutorial enby looks exactly like me, and I feel so heckin valid seeing how I might look in a binder. I can't wait til mine comes in the mail and I can be flat!
Finally! Nonbinary tiktok that I haven’t already seen! I didn’t realize Mr. Demon hasn’t done nonbinary tiktok yet. Or was there a nonbinary compilation and this is just another? Or am I confusing it for the genderfluid one cus there’s some similar tiktoks for those.
Okay funny story: I was watching a video giving advice and tips for playing a non binary character in a video game. I noticed at one point the person got their pronouns wrong, so I pointed that out in the comments. Keep in mind that this is still going on. Someone replied with something along the lines of “Dude, who cares?” I proceeded to tell them that it made some people more comfortable, and I told them that if it’s an accident that they messed up the pronouns, it’s alright, as long as they fix their mistake and try to get it right. They gave me a lecture about how it’s “Harder for people to use grammatically” and they proceeded to go on about how they were fine with people being open and supported when it comes to sexualities, but they thought it was hard for people to change their perspective of someone and use they/them pronouns. I told them that “It just makes some people more comfortable” Then pointed out the fact that they seemed to be using They/Them pronouns for the person they referred to, so everyone basically, and seemed to have no problem with doing so. They have yet to reply to the message, but I wanna see their reaction so bad.
i am not ready to tell my parents i'm non-binary, because i don't want to hear my mom talking for like 2 hours, just to tell me she accept me, i am not that pattient, so i guess i have to wait
My friend publicly came out as non-binary and I said I knew. They asked “How on earth did you figure it out?!” Their name is Cactus. And they wonder how I knew😭
as someone whos hyperlax (my joints and other body parts are way too flexible) i CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH how important it is to take off the binder if you start to hurt. i basically have rubber ribs and they got really squished in the binder once to the point of hurting for weeks after and i had to go to the doctor. so listen to your body. if youre in pain even before 8 hours of wearing a binder, take it off
I needed this, my mum just told me that when your non binary it is un-necessary to use they/them pronouns and how they make sentences hard to read. Now I wouldn't really care that much, if it wasn't that I'm a closeted enby with multiple enby friends
