There are very important issues you speak that are not usually covered, thanks a lot, I can relate a lot to them. We want the approval of cis people for safety of connection with them, for not loosing their connection and support in the end I guess. There's sometimes a lot of pressure when feeling questioned or with the responsability to explain and justify yourself, even if those people love us. I connect too with that holding back at the same time, fearing being too annoying, when you would like to talk about something that's worrying you, feeling it's uncomfortable for them or that they are gonna get too worried due to added fears about being trans. It would be very interesting to treat those very points with more time. Thanks for these honest and careful words. Greetings from Spain!
I'm 46 & grew up wishing I was a female & never felt attracted to gay males at all. I had no idea what trans was back then. I found out in college what trans was & I felt maybe that's what I am. I also figured it's society that pushes us to label our sexuality and now even our gender. Everyone has the freedom to choose what they want to do to themselves. But I chose to remain me, the way I was born. I look fem enough to pass if I truly need to, but I enjoy being a gender bender of sorts. I don't agree with surgery or hormones to fit into what society thinks is normal for us. We are all born different & unique. Why would I take away what makes me unique to conform with societal pressures? I don't look down on anyone for their individual choices, but sometimes I feel that society is what does this to us. I'm sure that many people like us existed way back in the days when there was no surgical options. I feel it's disingenuous to go thru mutilating surgeries to conform to what society defines as what a male or female should be. Why can't I juz be a gay guy who feels like a woman, but knows I'm a biological man? The same for u. Why can't u juz be a woman who feels like a man, dress & act accordingly w/out surgery or hormones? Why should society dictate to us what is right for us? Why must we mutilate ourselves to be who we are? I get not having the proper body parts to line up with what our minds tell us we are, but so what? We can be who we are in our minds w/out the invasion of surgery & hormones. Just be u, hun. W/e u choose is right for u. I'm juz explaining my pov. Yes, if I would've been born a female, I "think" I may have been happier, but I'm not. So, I embrace my uniqueness, live my life naturally, healthy & free to be me. It always turns out that we're our own worst critics. Most ppl accept us no matter what we do. Also, all these new terms are way too confusing & I feel it's done on purpose. There are 2 genders, male & female. Everything else is juz mass confusion coupled with body dysmorphia, imo. Again, I do get the feelings of intense desire to be or that u actually are the opposite sex, but in the end gender is related to ur biological make up, that being only male & female. Even trans identify as 1 or the other until all these other terms were thrown out there by whom exactly? :/ 👸🏻
Thanks for watching! These are some good questions and there's a lot to cover, so I'm going to make a video responding to what you've said in the near future. Keep an eye out =)
Cool hun. I didn't get a notification, I guess ur not on G+. :( I know from living this for 46 yrs, it's very difficult to process & to really come to any definitive conclusions. It's all what works best for the individual, I suppose. I'm glad ppl like u are doing these types of vlogs. I only wanna assure u that no matter what ur choice will be, ur luvd ones should still be there for u. Mine were & would be even if I had surgery. But again, everyone is different & has different circumstances.
