Normal thoughts VS Intrusive Thoughts: How To Tell The Difference

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So you think you might be experiencing intrusive thoughts? In this video, I'm going to show you the difference between normal thoughts and intrusive thoughts how your normal thoughts can develop into intrusive thoughts. I will also show you how you can take the power out of them and make them less intrusive.
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@msbgr8 2 года назад

As someone who suffers from OCD and GAD, I always thought intrusive thoughts were exclusive to me; that I was a horrible person. I remember my first therapy session where I was actually honest about my thoughts and the relief I felt when my therapist validated my thoughts and assured me there was hope. I am so thankful that I have tools to not be so rigid in my expectations and welcome uncertainty...no matter how hard that is.

@DrTraceyMarks 2 года назад

I’m so glad you got that insight and see how you are so not alone 😊

@kristymarie6065 2 года назад

Uncertainty is hard. I find my ocd gets worse the more stress I have in my life. Do you take meds?

@notpub 2 года назад

You are not a horrible person. You are kind in sharing your truth even though it makes you vulnerable. This means you are strong and that you care abt others. THAT is an admirable trait to have.

@davida7559 2 года назад

@@DrTraceyMarks do you do therapy one on one ?

@JenniChiodo 2 года назад

I've had the same thing happen to me I've had horrible blasphemous thoughts and it has been comforting to know I'm not alone that others experience this..

@zachydrogeo 2 года назад

I was 12 years old and it was the first time I was picking up my baby brother in the hospital. It occurred to me that I could easily drop him out the 4th story window. I remember thinking to myself “what the f is wrong with me??”. Thought I was a horrible person for years until I later realized I’m not the only one who experiences this.

@nadimhossainfarhan2737 2 года назад

Same thing happend to me when I hold my niece for the first time. My god I am not the only one here!

@westsidesagittarius3103 2 года назад

Honestly that's kind of a funny thought I just laugh at them in order to keep from actually doing them

@feleciawallace8420 2 года назад

@@westsidesagittarius3103 -- I like your way of handling the terrifying thoughts that pop into your head, I will try that method... What I do is to try to think and realize it's just another dump brain cell that control thoughts going bonkers, it'll pass..

@Thicc_Bitch 6 месяцев назад

physco@@westsidesagittarius3103

@Thicc_Bitch 6 месяцев назад

sick

@Metayi 2 года назад

these thoughts have DESTROYED my mental health, it's become hard to sleep and my mind feels totally charged. I can not take it anymore

@mgeoff88 2 года назад

I’m sorry to hear that. You should talk to a therapist about what you’re going through. Medication could also help with limiting/dealing with these thoughts. As far as sleep goes, taking valerian root or melatonin would help with your sleep.

@MrCmon113 Год назад

That you cannot take it anymore is just another thought and disproven by your continued existence.

@shrimpquesadilla 2 года назад

I have intrusive thoughts many times a day, particularly relating to violence/aggression. Ex: when I was holding my puppy the other day I suddenly had an intrusive thought of throwing her against the wall. I was, of course, beyond horrified my mind could think of such things. My therapist told me to think of those kinds of thoughts as your mind giving you tutorials on what not to do. That actually made sense, as I have GAD and my mind always thinks of what to do, what not to do, what would happen if I did something etc.

@bengalboypaco3140 2 года назад

I can relate to you anna we both know we would never hurt our precious animals

@shrimpquesadilla 2 года назад

@@bengalboypaco3140 exactly!! i just view that thought as my anxiety-riddled brain going “hey do NOT do this, this pup is a super delicate creature and that would be bad!”

@davemckay4359 2 года назад

You are TESTING yourself. Testing your strength. Testing your resolve. No one, absolutely no one person is perfect, innocent, etc...everyone IS capable of being completely evil, it's your resolve against it, that defines you

@AshleyXD007 2 года назад

Does this happen everytime you hold them or what is the ratio as to this happens. Coz i feel the same sometimes. But it's very very rare.

@Umberto2 2 года назад

You are just running the gamut of all possible things, but you must know that you would never do this. It’s just a thought. It’s not you. Face the thought and accept it and float with it. By realizing its fallacy, it will pass and your nervous system will resolve.

@jordancurrie1756 2 года назад

I literally developed sever OCD Intrusive thoughts, depression, and anxiety out of the blue 6 weeks after recovering from covid. Intrusive thoughts are with out a doubt the worst thing in this world. I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy.

@mariawilliams8573 Год назад

I went through the same thing after recovering from covid. I am now on meds and they have provided so much relief.

@moonie2687 Год назад

Dude..no one understood when i said i was sick with covid but in a different way in that it made me severely depressed and hopeless. My mental health has steadily been declining ever since..

@jordancurrie1756 Год назад

@@moonie2687 I'm so sorry to hear that. 😥

@AA-iv2mx 7 месяцев назад

Truly they are the worst Thing in the world! God bless you friend💓

@estrella-v1994 6 месяцев назад

I'm sorry that happened but it's fascinating to think that the virus affects so much more than just our body. This is what scares me so much about COVID and illness in general.

@thetaureanmisanthrope 2 года назад

Dr. Tracey, you are a godsend. I'm serious. No one on RU-vid speaks to my feelings the way that you do. I hide my feelings from my partner and children because I don't want to put them in a state of distress, but you make me feel like I'm not alone in my thoughts and feelings. I've been struggling mentally and emotionally since the death of my children's grandmother, and I try to ward off intrusive thoughts by keeping myself busy and taking care of my family. I can't deny that I struggle the most when my children and partner are sound asleep, and I am left alone with my thoughts and memories of her late at night. I can't describe the feeling. It just feels like a piece of me is missing, and no one cares or understands because of the age that she was when she passed away. I feel so broken, and I don't want to stress my family out with how I am feeling, but I feel so...lost. I can't explain it . Please keep me in y'all's thoughts and have hope that I can overcome this overwhelming feeling of grief because I can't stop myself from feeling so heartbroken as the days go on. It's been close to three months, and the heartache just won't let up. I don't even feel like myself.

@AgentK200 2 года назад

I’m sorry to hear that, Tauren. And condolences. I can relate to what you’re a saying, my grandmother’s in the hospital right now.

@thetaureanmisanthrope 2 года назад

@@AgentK200 I really hope she gets better. I really do. People underestimate the impact that our elders have on us. My biological Mama passed away years ago, and I feel that she allowed my children's grandmother and I to cross paths for a reason. My children's grandmother saved my soul and healed my heart. I'm so lost without her. All I can do is cry. I'd give anything to hear one last encouraging word, to sing with her, to feel the comfort from her embrace, and to hear her say that I'm beautiful and the perfect mother for her grandchildren. I feel guilty for abandoning her in her last days to chase things that seemed important at the time. Please pray for me, and help me keep hope that the pain will subside. I'm hurting so much, and I just want to be okay for my family. Thank you for your kindness.

@thetaureanmisanthrope 2 года назад

@@AgentK200 Feel free to reach out if you need someone to listen or even care at all. Life is not meant to be lived or experienced alone. I hope with all of my heart that your Grandma is healed and feels the undying love that you have for her. Take care of yourself, and keep in mind that it's okay to feel. Your feelings are valid.

@divorceblackhawk7744 2 года назад

@@thetaureanmisanthrope I just lost my father. I lost my mother when I was young. It is so hard. I have cried openly in front of my children. I tell them I think it would be weird if I wasn’t sad. If you truly love someone and they pass on - who wouldn’t be floored with grief? What has helped me cope is to remember that they are not lost, they have just changed form from physical to spiritual. If you listen you might still be able to hear her. Your relationship can become a spiritual one. If you don’t believe in the spiritual, remember that she lives in you and the grandchildren. Her words are in mind, your neurons. Sending you much love ❤️

@thetaureanmisanthrope 2 года назад

@@divorceblackhawk7744 Thank you so much. Your words truly uplifted me today. I know her presence is all around me. I just wish we could talk to each other again, you know. She was my rock, and I didn't know being without her would be so darn hard. But thank you for your kindness. It truly helps.❤

@jayluis189 2 года назад

Reading these comments makes me feel definitely better. Makes me feel like there's other people going through the same shit. Thanks for sharing your situation, everyone! Pretty sure others feel the same.

@Runner525 2 года назад

Yeah I've been going threw it lately man been getting to me

@blahblahblah6898 Год назад

I just want to tell u that it will get better. A few years ago this thoughts almost led me to develop a serious depression. I didn’t even know this problem existed so I actually thought I was the next big psychopath. I cried to my sleep about the possibility of harming other people and at the same time I fully believed I could do it. As soon as I discovered what were intrusive thoughts it got easier since I now did know I wasn’t a monster. Battle ur thoughts. Not in a way of shaming, but acknowledge them and simply tell them they’re not real, and they’re not you. That helped at least, this internal monologue eventually became so convincing the thoughts started appearing less and less often.

@pickelsvonbrine 2 года назад

I have OCD, Bipolar and ADHD. Before treatment I was tortured by my intrusive thoughts and I began to believe I was a bad person or a threat to society. After a lot of work and understanding I was able to finally be free from them. They still come and go but it is no where as bad as it use to be

@goodbye2876 2 года назад

Yep

@sallykoch3526 2 года назад

Soo grateful

@EmmaDeFazio5938 2 года назад

What is worse ocd or bipolar?

@goodbye2876 2 года назад

@@EmmaDeFazio5938 OCD. I would love to be bipolar.... Crazy sex drive managable mood swings and medicines that work while with OCD, no medicines work your thoughts torment you violently AND I mean violently! I have to physically shake my head to try to get rid of thoughts....its like your mind has a mind of its own and wont shut up about things you dont want to think. Like think of something that you shouldnt think and that thought repeats over and over again. Im religious so its 100000 times worse when it comes to sins I shouldn't think it makes me think all of them. Its hell in itself

@EmmaDeFazio5938 2 года назад

@@goodbye2876 Oh I was thinking bipolar cause you have mdd and do risky things with mania i guess they are both bad

@Vegitobluuuuu Месяц назад

I’m not religious or anything but once I started praying it really started to make me feel better and minimize those thoughts

@stevenspmd 2 года назад

Learning to ignore intrusive thoughts is the trick. This is where meditation really helps. Any and all thought stopping/rituals just reinforce the intrusive thoughts. I personally suffer from GAD, OCD, intrusive thoughts so I understand the pain. I might add it is also possible for sexuality to get wrapped up in these types of thoughts too; the short story is that intrusive thoughts pick the topic that will bother you the most; and for me that varies depending on whatever is going on in my life.

@tonjo575 2 года назад

I started having intrusive thoughts about 2 to 3 years ago. Back then, I didn't know anything about anxiety and psychology in general, so if let's say I had an intrusive thought of stabbing someone, I just hid all knives I saw to not harm someone. Now, 3 years later I had one intrusive self harm thought. At first I panicked but then I realised that it's the same thought I used to have when I was younger. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that you shouldn't run away from these thoughts. Just face them, maybe expose yourself to them and pretend to agree with them Good luck 💜

@uniquemystique8566 2 года назад

I’ve been having these lately! It’s so weird. I’m not a violent person and I’ll be sitting there, anxious and talking to someone and suddenly a thought to hit or punch them appears in my mind and it makes me upset.

@unknown-tl1rr Год назад

Yes one time in my psychology class I was annoyed at how slow the teacher was talking I had a thought to throw my pencil right at her face then I caught myself and was questioning my own control omg what if I actually do it but I didn’t mean it

@melvayaredaguilar Год назад

happens all the time interacting with difficult people

@llRocketll 5 месяцев назад

I feel this. I even get thoughts of bullying people or disrespecting boundaries and what not but the thing I’ve been told is that you’re mind will take your worst fears (mine is hurting others physically, emotionally, spiritually etc.) and it will run with that to show you what not to do but then the anxiety takes that thought and makes you think that it’s a reflection of who you are as a person when in reality it is quite literally the opposite of who you actually are as a person. I hope this helps because it’s begun to help me.

@fearfulpixel6165 2 года назад

Every single point was spot on, oh my god, even down to the examples you described. I was diagnosed with OCD in 2020 (my therapist described it as “pure OCD” or scrupulosity, where I tried to fight for control over my thoughts). It’s still bad at times, but I do know that my thoughts aren’t always concrete representations of my morals or who I am as a person

@reclusiarchgrimaldus1269 2 года назад

Careful how you say his name dude

@clara_echoflower 2 года назад

I have pure OCD, as well

@yukizuki7735 2 года назад

I've been having intrusive thoughts for months now. Recently i started having doubts about whether if i had acted according to my intrusive thoughts. I know i didn't but my mind keeps saying otherwise. When it happens, i wish i could just press the replay button and check it. I can't talk about it to others because even i know i'm being ridiculous. My day starts and ends with me fighting against these thoughts and frightening myself with "what if"s. Sometimes, the line between my imagination and reality gets blurry. I don't how to trust myself. I just get really scared that i might do something harmful to the people whom i love most. All of my intrusive thoughts are based on my biggest fears. Sometimes, it is really exhausting being alive . I just tell myself giving up doesn't solve any problems. So it's either to try to get better or to keep drowning in my own fears. I saw your video about mind wandering and decided to dedicate myself to meditate on daily basis. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. It really helps. 🙏

@danielasanchez511 2 года назад

Hi I can relate as well, it's been difficult for me with 'what if's' as well and learning to trust myself and it still is hard at times, and for me it was exhausting with driving and learning to trust myself with all the what ifs and things that could be possible. know you are not alone in these struggles.

@blahblahblah6898 Год назад

I suffered from this exact same problem a few years ago. It will get better if u confront them, acknowledge them, and rationally understand why they DO NOT define u. And if it doesn’t get better seek professional help, there’s tones of professionals out there who would be able to help u and make ur life easier ❤️‍🩹I know how hard it is to be a prisioner of ur own mind, how difficult it is to keep a normal life and yet be battling endless wars in ur head at every single moment. U’ll get trough it, and most importantly just know U ARE NOT defined by those thoughts.

@000luvrnhatr000 2 года назад

I have OCPD and experience intrusive thoughts. What I do that helps me is when I get one, before i start giving too much attention to the thought, I tell myself in my head “hey no that’s an intrusive thought and you don’t mean it” that has helped when it comes to the guilt and anxiety when they come up. Just something to try if you’re struggling with those.

@Kawtar-stars 3 месяца назад

I use the same technique and it works

@layna-heyhey 2 года назад

i had a problem with religious intrusive thoughts (I didn't know such thoughts were a thing at the time). IT seriously ruined my 20s for me. I prayed to God, and just waited on him. Praise God it got better, then I was able to get help with other mental illness things. I'm glad videos like these exist that could possibly point people towards the help they need, by putting a name and definition to the experience.

@maggiecameron2577 2 года назад

What did you pray for? I am currently in my early 20s and I have so many intrusive thoughts telling me things like I "truly don't believe in God" and have to fight it every single day. I am so sick of it. Any advice to help?

@pleasebekindandcompassiona5836 2 года назад

@@maggiecameron2577 not believing in God makes it worse .one should believe in God and try to live your normal life leave the rest on God .God is the one who has the ultimate control over everything.

@tammi67able 2 месяца назад

@@pleasebekindandcompassiona5836❤

@PsychoBible 2 года назад

As a therapist, it's just good to know we're saying the same things. I'll be sharing this video with clients for sure!

@berninme 15 дней назад

This really helped me. I realized while I do have an intense number of intrusive thoughts throughout the day they could be way more fucked up.

@EddyGordo21 2 года назад

I am an introvert, and whenever I start working on the lawn or become 'idle,' where I do not need to use my mind, my thoughts start coming and it usually has to do with people who have hurt me, people who I do not like and my confronting them in my mind, or creating scenarios where I hurt the person because he/she tried to hurt me, my mother, or my spouse. But when my mind is busy, I never have to deal with any of them.

@MiscellaneousOpal Год назад

I've had anxiety for years now, and I've struggled with intrusive thoughts for nearly as long. They got significantly worse in 2018-2021, but now in 2022 I've been able to reduce them by visually confronting the thoughts through art. Since then, I've been doing a little better mentally :)

@Wolvious Год назад

ive suffered from intrusive thoughts for 14 years, exposure therapy helps me the most. it is indeed scary, but the ideal of never getting better was scarier

@amenhotep7704 Год назад

There are days where i can't control my thoughts and i feel like i can't focus on anything my Queen

@brokendiamond4830 2 года назад

I have intrusive thoughts, most of them are violent, aggressive, and maybe sexual😔. Theses thoughts started when I was in kindergarten. I never knew what these thoughts mean, and I was to ashamed to tell anyone. My mind is like a dirty machine, and it can cause urges and fear that these thoughts might become actions. I’m scared to have close relationships, I feel like I’m constantly daydreaming, zoning out, and dissociating. These thoughts triggers urges and behaviors, like it’s a time machine. Listening to music help express these emotions and helps me zone out so, instead of having the urges to do that action, I have zone out or daydream in my second world or something. But if it’s too strong, I need to sleep. Another thing that triggers intrusive thought are things that people say, do, and show. Then it triggers emotions. So I’ve been struggling with this for years, it even makes me struggle in school, I’m worried about driving and getting a job. 😔

@AdolGlow Год назад

Are you seeing a therapist or taking medication? I heard Zoloft is good for intrusive thoughts

@piperjaycie 2 года назад

I read somewhere that the intrusive thoughts are caused by the brain accidentally flagging a certain thought as important when it shouldn’t have. Also that say part of your brain asks for example “Is the door locked?”. Another part of the brain either remembers yes it is or doesn’t remember so checks the door and it is locked. It then sends a signal to the other part of the brain to say “The door is locked so switch off the signal/question”. I read that this return signal is the or part of the cause of intrusive thoughts because the part of the brain asking or sending the signal in the first place doesn’t get the return signal. It gets lost or stuck on its way because of lack of neurotransmitters. Since this part of the brain doesn’t get the message that the door is locked it just repeatedly sends the signal(intrusive thought) over and over. Apparently this is why OCD is so distressing because one part of the brain is repeatedly asking a question or sending a thought that another part of the brain has already dealt with or fixed or decided is not important. The person is aware of both of these and that the issue/thoughts has been dealt with but the other part keeps asking or sending signals despite this. I have simplified the process that I read because it was just easier to write on here. Can you please clarify how much of this is true and/or accurate?

@solarstevie 2 года назад

The fact that this comment possessed me to get up and check that my door was locked...

@parksophie8854 2 года назад

Wow if this true it’s a really good explanation 👍

@mollymcdade4031 Год назад

I’ve been handling OCD and intrusive thoughts for about 10 years but sometimes watching stuff like this is a useful reminder of the basics that are easy to forget

@ATC0001 2 года назад

I get the same intrusive thought of causing serious harm or even death to someone very important to me, I won’t say who. And I’ll often think about this scenario for like a good five minutes before I snap out of it. I’m not sure what causes me to think of this violent and aggressive behavior and why it’s always the same person. I just wish I could have more positive thoughts and work toward something that will help the both of us. Thank you for the video and thank you to everyone that commented, I don’t feel as bad knowing other people experience similar things.

@ATC0001 Год назад

@@bisous101 Hi. Just read this. I didn't want to initially, but I ended up speaking to the person about it. What an uncomfortable conversation it was. However, once we spoke about it, I noticed I don't ever get those thoughts anymore. Hope this helps.

@patrickoakley7890 8 месяцев назад

@@ATC0001this is exactly what is happening to me right now with my wife. For 9 years not once did I ever have a single harmful thought about her. A week ago a random angry scenario played out in my head and it's been driving me insane. I just can't live with myself thinking awful things about the most precious thing in the world to me. I've begun to recognize that it's just OCD and the more time I spend around her, the less I ruminate on those thoughts, but I just don't understand why it happened in the first place! I'm wracked with guilt and I am suffering in silence.

@jeanetteq6024 2 года назад

I'm so glad I'm not the only one with those random thoughts. My imagination creates wild scenarios that quickly pass.

@iamvoicelessmusic 2 года назад

OCD and ADHD here! My goodness, this explains intrusive thoughts so well. For me, my intrusive thoughts often revolve around religious topics, as I myself am a Christian. As a teenager I went on a 5-month long tangent questioning things like salvation and eternity. It was terrifying, but thankfully got through that time with counseling and support. How I wish I knew how to deal with such thoughts earlier! I still struggle with intrusive thoughts on various subjects, but I've learned how to cope with them and how to fight back! Thank you for your videos!

@augustaseptemberova5664 2 года назад

edit: Thanks for sharing y'all! :) I have a topic suggestion, if you don't have a video on that already: Is talking to oneself healthy / unhealthy and why? How much is too much? What steps would you recommend to tone it down? I've always talked to myself in my head, or whispered when writing something, or doing maths, or making some kind of plan in my head, or trying to figure something out. In the last year it became almost a constant whispered feed of my inner monologue. Since the last few months, I catch myself speaking out loudly. It can be me talking to cereal on a shelf in a shop ("I'm not picking you, you're not healthy. I'm picking you instead!"), or me on my way home describing to myself what I'm gonna cook when I get home, or me replaying some situation in my head and giving commentary to that replay, the commentary being largely internal but singular sentences come out vocal. It can be me cursing ("ffs why is this laptop so slow!"). I wonder why it's getting more vocal and if it's healthy. It's probably socially not appropriate, but generally I don't mind being a weirdo, so long as it's not unhealthy. However, I'm returning from home office to work soon, and there I don't want to be a distraction to others. So I'm looking for ways to control it a little better.

@shrimpquesadilla 2 года назад

i second this suggestion ^ i’ve done that literally my whole life and i could never figure out if there was something wrong with me or if it was okay or why i was even doing it in the first place! i’d also love to see a video on that

@RG-vs8qz 2 года назад

I thought my family and I were the only ones that did this. I’ve done this since childhood and people tease me for it. I can’t tell if this is normal or not

@ninabear444 2 года назад

this but i also have full blown conversations out loud. they aren’t conversations where i’m replying back, it’s just more like word vomiting a lot at once. like i can embarrassingly talk to myself out loud for 40 mins. it’s so weird because i don’t fully realize until i’ve been talking too much. recently i catch myself and i slowly fade out of it because i’m embarrassed. i don’t know where it stems from tbh i’ve always talked a lot in my head even as a kid i would take hours to fall asleep. don’t know if that’s what you meant but i also do say sentences out loud like my inner monologue just comes out while i’m doing random tasks

@SSEBBlue 2 года назад

I’ve always been curious about this too, but although for me it’s completely internal. I have back and forth full blown arguments with myself like it’s two voices and it’s such a downer and frustrating. If I am drunk though, all of those internal conversations and arguments show externally 😓. I’ve even texted myself arguing with me on a group chat drunk. Idk if it’s intrusive thoughts still or what 😔, but it’s always like talking to another person that just so happens to live inside my head. Usually when I’m going through my depressive episodes where my stress is a constant, but hardly a thing otherwise~

@gnarthdarkanen7464 2 года назад

I frequently use it (talking to myself) as a means of sorting out my thoughts or organizing them... It can help with writing out stuff, from dissertations to full-blown novels... visualizing before I sketch out a set of plans for some project I'm building... OR even rehearsing for in-game functions as various NPC's and monsters need be employed to engage my Players and their Characters as an Acting Game-Master. AND from time to time, I engage vocalizing internal monologues and dialogues to remind myself of things or rather like trying to be my own coach... It kind of depends on what I'm doing, particularly... BUT I DO talk myself through a lot of things... Frankly, I see very little "unhealthy" about the practice... or habit... There might be points where it's embarrassing or where people are likely to act negatively about you doing it... AND there might be techniques to catch yourself and avoid it in public... If I had to propose a theory, I'd suggest that a lot of the increased tendencies to talk to yourself (ourselves?) recently has to do with isolation and the pandemic over the last TWO YEARS... It's quite likely that getting more regular conversations with other people will help diminish most of the habitual side of this kind of thing on its own. Maybe you can invite a co-worker to "spit-ball ideas" or "as a sounding board" for a little thought-organizing or some similar brain-storming session between the two of you, rather than look peculiar or "nutty" in your cubicle carrying on "solio"... ;o)

@egg6345 2 года назад

this was such a good video, i feel like the really disturbing persistent intrusive thoughts are so hard to describe to people who don't have them, because sometimes you don't want to get that specific ya know, so having the examples in this video be on that level is nice

@tomkins7382 2 года назад

Dr, you just described me, down to a T! I've done therapy, but it's so, so, so, so reassuring still to hear you describe and normalise the nightmare that is living with intrusive thoughts...I really needed this video today. Thank you.

@sannyvain7196 2 года назад

I have had intrusive thoughts about pushing my mom when she gets me upset ,lord knows I’ll never harm my mother 😞 I love her so much and having those thoughts get me so emotional .

@sherntell 2 года назад

Wow! You went there with this one! We all needed this one.

@fussyfissy 2 года назад

The car bump example was too real! Thank you for all you do Doc!

@crystalbrown7330 Год назад

You were created by God just for these purposes in our lives. I've been praying on answers for these issues for a long time now, years. And he's FINALLY answered my prayers 🙏🙏🙏!! I've found so many answers from your videos so far and this is the first time I've heard about you, TODAY! I pray that God continues to work in you and through you to keep affecting the lives of people like us. Thank You!!

@cbot2423 2 года назад

I love you Dr Tracey! Thank you so much for all the work you do to educate us 🌈

@patdavis2005 2 года назад

Thank you so much Dr. Marks. You are helping many.

@erinmoore7802 2 года назад

Dr. Marks, your videos always come at the right time. Thank you.

@mothermay.i 2 года назад

Dr. Marks, this is what I deal with all the time. I never knew what or how or why it was happening. I appreciate you so much! I have never been able to get these thoughts to come into words and I feel like that is what is holding me back from being my greater Self. Thank you thank you so much! You were so blatant and I also chew on my words and sugar coat a lot. This is helping me to shake this hold on me. Peace and Blessings!

@jasmine-fv1ci 2 года назад

I love this so much , this really reassured me. I’ve had such bad intrusive thoughts , it’s depressing sometimes .

@jamesscott3400 Год назад

I'm almost in tears. Thank you for this video

@Itsrichardash 2 года назад

This video is amazingly helpful. Thank you for making this

@tanveerchowdhury7630 2 года назад

Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks for the post

@lisajabas108 2 года назад

Thank you Dr Tracy for keeping it real

@hanisiryani43 2 года назад

Thank you Dr Marks. I have these intrusion thoughts too many times. It's scary but now I know that I'm not alone.

@memantimemachine 2 года назад

I've had my mind on the nature of intrusive thoughts and I think this video did a great job of laying dome framework to understand it, thank you very much!

@DrTraceyMarks 2 года назад

You’re welcome and thank you!

@Buzz0Killington 2 года назад

Intrusive thoughts brought me to the brink at times before I began my therapy journey. Thanks for making yet another great video!

@eduardmihai 2 года назад

Today I came across this channel and since then, I look and listen and I'm speechless. I have OCD, intrusive thoughts, anxiety (and social anxiety or anything that include anxiety), being a perfectionist, and sometimes depression moments when I just lay down or at night when I cry until morning. I always had them, some my whole life, and some were "developing" like intrusive thoughts, but I just thought it was me and never think they were a real thing or a disorder.

@Cerberus1441 2 года назад

Oh my god, it's like this video was made for me! It hits every single things about me. Thank you so much, Dr. Marks!

@bboyneon92 2 года назад

You bring comfort within me Dr. Tracey. This information goes unspoken/undiscussed otherwise. With all the shame, embarrassment and fear revolving around this. Thanks to the internet. Thank you for choosing do this. Lots of love to you. ❤

@kyliemousseau431 2 года назад

I haven’t had a therapist for a long time and was wondering doctor Tracy if I could ever message you about stuff like this and someone to talk to because this actually really made me feel better about myself and my thoughts with all the insight you gave. Thank you so much for posting something like this I needed to hear this.

@polarpalmwv4427 2 года назад

I absolutely love watching your videos. Not only are they educational and interesting, they are also well done. You are very engaging to watch! Super work Dr. Tracey Marks!

@eLnof 2 года назад

you have no idea how relieved I am to have found this video!!! thank you! thank you very much!

@indisguise7904 2 года назад

Thank you for your videos . They’re really helping me understand myself better.

@kevinmaxim 2 года назад

It's interesting that this video came up in my recommendations, as I've recently come to the conclusion that the frequency of my intrusive thoughts is a problem that I need to address with a therapist. Thank you for sharing this video! I finally feel seen and understood.

@SarahhLouise16 2 года назад

Very happy this video popped up on my page, I’ve had intrusive thoughts all my life, but I’ve had some horrible time in my life where the thoughts take over, I get depressed to the point of feeling sick and afraid of myself and had thoughts of needing to end my own life because I couldn’t handle how they made me feel any longer. I’m currently going back to therapy because I have episodes of being okay and then being really bad.

@Yummmypie 2 года назад

Thank you, so so much. You are my safe space, you understand me as well as many others more than anyone, so thank you!!!

@croftant2 Год назад

Omg this helped so much, simply knowing I'm not the only one is relieving.

@Zoom_1012 2 года назад

Dr. Tracy, you're so enlightening. I want you to know how much a lot of your videos shed light on the state of my mental health.

@atlashaarthe6206 Год назад

Thank you so much, this was exactly the video I needed. I have allot of intrusive thoughts and anxiety over them and this helps allot with processing them

@AyeAshley1 Год назад

So glad I found your page Dr. I chuckled at some of these because I’ve had some thoughts similar and thought I was sick SOB. I now know it’s normal and see that they are happening less. Thank you for your help. ❤

@GorditaGuerita Год назад

This is such helpful information! I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts from a young age and only recently have learned what they are! Thank you for what you do!

@TheManonCanon 2 года назад

The way she called me out!!! Thank you for this video

@wsup9745 Год назад

I suffer terrible from OCD and your videos are by a lot better than all the videos I ever saw thank you so much for helping us out, just know that you are doing great work, these videos really help me out

@mirandamarani3926 2 года назад

You're amazing, the way you explain all this, is exactly the way I feel when I have these thoughts, and I really felt relieved after listening at you. In my worst days I used to think that I may need medication or to be locked down in some mental health center. So thank you again

@inaantonetteswart4329 2 года назад

I have both bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder and intrusive thoughts is something I get a lot. I have this one thought I call the Monster, because I've been struggling with it for almost 22 years now. Listening to this and what my therapist said makes sense and helps me cope a lot. I have these monster thoughts less now, because of it and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. I love to watch your videos and learn new things. Thank you for helping people with their challenging lives.

@BeautifulBackRoadsMO 2 года назад

I have ocd, and gad and have gone through therapy as a younger person for intrusive thoughts. I don't remember much from the time and this really felt comfortable to listen to to reassure myself

@ricka0917 2 года назад

I love Dr. Tracy she is unbelievable makes so much sense all the time thank you I look forward to Wednesday’s

@emirojas92 Год назад

You explained this so well. When I had therapy my therapist tended to guess why I was so scared of these thoughts. You explained it well. This over inflated sense of responsibility.

@alwaystea Год назад

Thank you so much! 😢❤ this video means a lot to me!!!! I’ve been feeling alone and afraid. Like I don’t even know who I am anymore. But this video brought me calm.

@eduardocendejas4855 2 года назад

Dr, honestly this video helped me feel a little less anxious yet very anxious because it is bad. However, i feel people would never understand and that's ok. I will do my best to recuperate from this trauma. God bless you always and may you keep helping people

@underthemilkyway7267 2 года назад

Thank you Doctor for all you do. Sometimes I have conversations with my thoughts; and at times the conversations becomes an argument. I find myself yelling out loud when I'm at home alone.

@meganmcmullen4550 Год назад

This was great. I was trying to explain to my friend what ocd is and how it impacts the brain. And you did such a great job. I love the therapies to try.

@ThabangBosaka Год назад

I thank you Dr Tracey I enjoy my days with minimum stress. I feel better and perform better I started the suggested measures and now I have mastered the art, i no longer even bother myself. It was rough at start but I managed

@TheOfficialZombieWhisperer 2 года назад

Considering I'm always in dreamland I experience this consistently, it's easier to stay inside my head, my neighbor is a trigger, he is one of the worst, kidnapping, rape and murder of a little girl, I was a little girl when I was abused and he has females screaming help me as they run from his place and the cops won't do anything, my thoughts are really bad about him. Not to mention that I have been threatened with a gun on multiple occasions and the cops still won't do anything.

@broskimarioski 2 года назад

i have HOCD and its slowly made its way into anxiety… its gotten out of hand but your video has really helped, thank you very much you have earned a new subscriber 😌

@ishaalimtiaz6715 5 месяцев назад

This video was extremely informative and really reassuring. Thank you so much.

@AAa-kl4kb 2 года назад

I have tried looking for things about intrusive thoughts before, but I feel like I’ve never found a more clear answer. I am not diagnosed but I really feel like I have GAD and seeing this makes me feel less crazy about it. I constantly have intrusive thoughts and it really gets exhausting because I can’t focus because of it. I really didn’t think other people also had it often or couldn’t get it out of their heads. Thank you so much this video really clears my head a little

@philiphunn194 11 месяцев назад

I was absolutely horrified when I once had a fleeting thought of dropping a pan of boiling water onto my elderly dog. Knowing that others are going through the same kind of intrusive thoughts - knowing that these kinds of thoughts are not unique to me and how to combat them is a huge weight off my mind. Thank you.

@RYZENX7292 2 года назад

Oh my God, this video spoke straight to the soul!!!

@Brandiafinegirl62 Год назад

Dr. Marks you are to be very highly thought of. . Thank you for educating me. I have constant intrusive thoughts.

@abbeyabba2166 2 года назад

Your, explaining fluency approach is clean and awesome........

@TheFos88 2 года назад

The Shadow is a strange beast. Thank you so much for sharing these videos.

@nelclark3000 Год назад

This is remarkable information that I think few people want to talk about for fear of being judged. So they stuff it away and this makes it feel worse. It is actually normal to have intrusive thoughts. The problem is how we interpret these thoughts. Anxiety keeps us holding on to a thought and over analyzing it. I think this is so important to discuss and if more people saw this video they would find peace and perspective in this. I like this lady and the way she explains things. It's matter of fact and no judgement . This could save a lot of unnecessary pain in so many people's lives . Education is everything!

@muchoguillo 2 года назад

I needed this since long time, thanks

@Sylintlyfe Год назад

OMG. Sometimes when driving to work I'll create a whole scenario in my head of a family member dying and I'll cry all the way to work tell myself and force myself to cheer up and tell myself it's not real so I'm not crying at work and this video really helps me understanding these thoughts more. Thank you so much.

@mattsmokes2505 2 года назад

Thank you Dr. Tracy. I’m struggling so much with this right now. I’m 24 years old and I’m recovering heroin addict and I have so much trauma, and it’s been so hard trying to figure everting out in my head.

@JasonZorn Год назад

I’m so glad you mentioned the gold standard treatment of ERP later in the video, Dr. Marks. That was what I was treated with in the late 80s and early 90s as a child and adolescent. It would be great if you’d consider doing a video, in the spirit of the late Dr. Wolpe, on how individuals can use a hierarchy of exposure scenarios rated on the SUDS scale to address the primary anxiety disorders treated by ERP - OCD, Agoraphobia, Specific Phobias, etc. In this video there was an emphasis on exposure, but I think it would be enormously helpful to spend some time examining the importance of response prevention in the execution of this treatment modality. Thanks again for the wonderful channel!

@billnyethenggrguychinesega9116 2 года назад

This is literally every second of my life. Thank you ADHD, GAD, Depression, and BPD

@emmymorris7648 2 года назад

Very interesting video! My only wish as that it was longer because it was just very informative and speaking right to me in certain areas. I learned about intrusive thoughts for the first time 22 years ago after chronic pain and depression began at age 11! I used to think intrusive thoughts ONLY came to me in a depression spiral, but later on, I realized they did happen at other times too and that those times needed to be taken seriously too and not “brushed off” just because they weren’t accompanied by the horrendous black hole of depression in that particular instance. That realization helped me a lot! And so did realizing several years ago that those intrusive thoughts did not mean I was automatically going to act on them and did NOT make me a “bad person”! This was just a really great video! I could relate to it a lot! 😃😃 I’ve only recently discovered your channel but have been watching several of your videos in a row since then, and it’s amazing how much I’ve related to them! I had no idea clicking on your great video about ADHD and procrastination would lead me to all of these other wonderful finds, but I’m SO glad it did! 😃😃 Thank you for creating these! It really does help to have words to describe certain things I’ve dealt with but had trouble describing to others! That help is very much appreciated! 🌺🌺

@jamescrocker2762 Год назад

Dr Tracey Marks thanks for your excellent content and highlighting this misunderstood condition! I've had intrusive/obsessive thoughts for over 20 years and unfortunately The mental health professionals involved with me were terrible! Fortunately I have a brilliant wife & mum to talk with and I read a very good self help book. I get intrusive/obsessive thoughts a lot less now and my relationship with my thoughs has completely changed. I know thought doesn't reflect on my morals or my beliefs. I'm not in charge of thoughts- they just come, so I'm not judgemental about them! If you're suffering with intrusive thoughts, education and understanding is key. Please don't suffer in silence reach out for help,you deserve it!

@alphadog3384 Год назад

This was so helpful thank you for your insight and knowledge.

@kashesan Год назад

Thank you Dr Marks! I have been worrying terribly about two of the apartments in my building becoming available to new tenants. I was very close to one of the neighbors who is moving out and I am concerned (using the term lightly!) that somebody harmful or loud and abrasive is going to take her apartment upstairs from me. I feel that there is some validity to these apprehensions but I don't want these thoughts to keep ruining my day or keeping me up at night. Acceptance/Commitment Therapy sounds like a good option. You are so appreciated Dr Marks!

@lindseycassella3015 2 года назад

Between therapy and mindfulness meditation practice and medication management my intrusive thoughts have become less of a burden. Having an intolerance of uncertainty is where i'm struggling the most. I'm constantly trying to reassure myself I can plan ahead enough so I can prevent anything from happening in the future. I will say that i'm starting to improve with it and I recognize these things take time.

@jillianr.2505 Год назад

This is soooo helpful! Thank you!

@c.kainoabugado7935 Год назад

Ty for valuable information on thoughts and suggestions on what to do.

@erict7093 Год назад

THANK YOU and thanks to my coworker who told me I am having intrusive thoughts! I quickly came to RU-vid to learn more about intrusive thoughts.

@AlannaSingsALot Год назад

Thank you for creating this video. I watch your others & was just about to ask if you had touched upon this topic!

@stevesmith-ny8jb Год назад

Thank you for all the help and information you have provided me over the years.

@RandomYTTroller 2 года назад

Thank you for these words of wisdom, I've never actually heard anyone talk about this, but I've had this issue with intrusive thoughts for a really long time, and it has affected my life quite massively.. I'm fairly certain I have OCD and anxiety too. The intrusive thoughts that bother me the most are the sexual ones.. whenever I tried to get intimate with my ex, I'd always have these thoughts of my parents and what they'd think of me if they saw me there and then, and I'd be turned off instantly. Or having sexual thoughts with family members, it just turns me off and I feel so ashamed and disgusted, I don't know what to do to stop it, I'm scared I'll never have a romantic life again