Nurse Criticized for Posting TikTok After Patient's Death 

This woman is not grieving. She’s performing.

My sister is a nurse and whenever she has lost a patient she doesn't even want to talk to anyone let alone pick up a phone set it up and put on a show for social media.

"Look at how strong and caring I am". This is absolutely sick.

As an RN of 43 years and now retired, this is so disturbing on so many levels. I’m grateful that my bedside ICU days were before all this social media stuff. HIPAA was passed for a reason.

Imagine setting up the phone, opening TikTok, choosing the song, setting the countdown, then pacing in the hallway doing this nonsense.

Narcissism is a major problem in this country, and I blame all social media platforms for turning people into attention seeking fools.

How disrespectful it is not only to the patient but to also to the patient's friends and family.

As a healthcare worker, this is cringe AF. I've lost patients, unfortunately, and there's too much work, charting, dealing with doctors, nurses and even families. I don't even have the time to think about pulling out my phone, going to a corner and record myself dealing with a death.

As a nurse I absolutely find other nurses who post tik toks while on the job extremely annoying and unprofessional.

Imagine how distasteful it would have been to see your nurse set up a camera, press record, and then act like this after your family member died.

This is so embarrassing and immature if I was aware of my physician ever doing this I’d refuse treatment from them

The last thing a person experiencing real grief wants to do is record it.

She 100% took a patient dying and made it about herself. Yes it’s unethical

I have been a nurse for 30+ years. This was VERY unprofessional and yes, unethical. It's never about YOU!

I died on the gurney in the e.d. I'm glad the medical staff worked so hard to bring me back instead of running out into the hall to make a video.

I developed very close relationships with a few patients when i worked in a nursing home. I considered them actual friends, not residents. Id have lunch breaks in their rooms chatting, theyd give me cookies and id just let them tell me their stories. Not once when my friends died did i ever think of making some weird tiktok. If youre able to process the thought of " i should record my grief" - youre probably not really grieving. The most i did was reach out to their families and offer condolences. I dont need strangers online giving me sympathy. Ill cry in private. Rest in Peace Maidi and Nana Lois 🕊

She opened tiktok, set up her phone in a good angle, show her fake cringe emotion, apply the song/text etc. wonder how many takes did she have to do in order for her to post this 🤮🤮🤮

We live in a world were people want to be seen as some sort of local celebrity instead of acting professional when dealing with serious matters.

How ridiculous!! She's not thinking about the patient she lost, she is thinking about how she can be a centre of attention and get sympathy from other 🙄😒

She’s not grieving , she is performing and it’s disgusting.

I’m a nurse, while true we feel really down after losing a patient, but you know what? It shouldn’t be about us. We don’t make it about us. We move on and carry on with our duties. We don’t make videos for attention. That’s just really unprofessional and a narcissistic behavior.

Ppl who record themselves acting sad never fails to make me cringe.

She should be fired. That’s unacceptable.

Imagine your dads dead and the nurse that failed to keep him alive hits the griddy

Just because she saw someone die doesn’t mean she can just turn on a camera and showcase her emotion and put on music and everything else. This isn’t about you. This is morbid

Social media is the worst thing that has ever happened to mankind.

She should be in prison for the level of cringe alone

Weird. I have only been upset once in the healthcare field, i do hold some grief when a patient does pass away but i just talk to a good friend or psychologist (they offer free mental health services usually at the workplace). These tiktokers do it for attention, it is unprofessional. Social media is our downfall.

I always thought someone recording themselves crying or snapping a picture of themselves crying was weird! This world is too invested into social media. I'm a 90's baby (91 to be exact) and you can't pay me to be bothered with anyone if I go through something traumatic. I don't even want anyone in my face. Everything does not have to be recorded. It comes off as attention seeking versus being emotionally drained

Yep, staging yourself in front of a camera like this is unprofessional, and narcissistic. It's not about you, and it's all about the patient, and yes, their family too.

When a patient passes away, it’s not natural to take the time/effort to position the phone just right to then be able to accurately video record her own ‘natural reaction to someone’s passing‘ . .

I was born in the 80's and so happy that I did not have social media in high school. I hate Tik Tok and my daughter is on it a lot. I think that it is a beautiful thing to be able to get an education online and connect with so many people from all across the world but we need to get back to basics, what happened to reading a book, going outdoors, and eating without your phone at the table?

I’ve worked in a lvl 1 trauma ER and seen countless reactions after a patient codes and passes. No one’s reaction was grabbing a phone and recording themselves. The audacity of these people to seek attention after one passes is truly astonishing.

They need to stop this.Everything doesn’t have to go on social media.

If CRINGE were a person.

I've been in health care sector as frontline staff for the last 9 years. I've never grieved like this and I don't know any colleague doing this either. If someone's death touches me deeply, I allow myself few seconds of sadness and regrets then I have to go back to work, to look after the rest of the patients.

The loss of sincerity we have suffered due to social media is just the worst thing.

So emotional and over whelmed. You grabbed your phone, opened an app, set up your phone, hit record, walked away ,recorded youself, walked back to your phone, hit stop, did overlays, selected a song, trimed the video, watched it, then posted it. This is a performance piece.

I was in emergency services for 16 years. I had to put up a wall inside in order to do my job. Sometimes it didn't work and I used to feel guilty for my emotions. As bad as i felt I knew the family and friends felt so much worse. Even if social media had been around back then, i cannot imagine wanting to capture those moments on video and post them for the world. She's making the death of a patient about her. It just doesn't feel right.

they couldn't have been too upset when their first thought is: "hey, i have to get this on tik-tok".

This still isn't the worst thing I've seen. Remember that mom who was dancing next to her dying child? .-. social media has brought out the monster in everyone.

She was so grief stricken that she set up a camera, added music, and dramatically walked and posed at just the right angle to display her grief…

When I lose a patient, i dont want to talk to anyone. Let alone go to my phone and stage how sad I am. Incredibly unprofessional behavior

We should all message her: "Wow, what an terrible experience you had... it's amazing you made it through..."

I’m a doctor and I’ve cried many times while in a room with a patient that’s about to die or when examining them to pronounce death. I’ve never once thought this would be a great time set up a tripod and record this. I caught flack from hospital CEOs for just mentioning stuff that happened in the hospital on Facebook. There would be hell to pay if I recorded a video.

As a PICU nurse who unfortunately experiences children’s deaths a few times a year…this nurse is ridiculous. The real nurses I promise you grieve quietly while working and get right back to work so the next child has a fighting chance.

Karens wanting to be Instagram famous

who witnesses a death of a patient and then says grab the camera and film me upset over it? very odd

My mum is a nurse and one of her patients died, she would never do anything like this, this is just disrespectful and wrong.

it would be a different story if someone else, like another patient, took a photo of the nurse to showcase what they can go through during a difficult moment. But I agree that taking the time to set up a camera and video of yourself getting emotional for views is out of line professionally.

I still remember the first patient I ever lost, and telling the family that she will be alright, she coded (unexpectedly) and couldn’t be resuscitated. When I found out, I was shocked. I put my phone down and didn’t even text the attending back because I was shocked. Truly shocked. My attending asked me if I was ok, and I remembered at that time I hadn’t even responded back. I was so shocked I couldn’t even process the emotions and then 30 minutes later I broke down in tears. You know what wasn’t on mind? Let me record myself. That idea has never crossed my mind even regardless of the amount of lives lost. This is not just cringey but also insincere. It’s staged and not a true reflection at all of what healthcare workers truly experience when a patient dies.

Not too long ago I had a patient who died at the beginning of my shift. I'll probably never forget it because that was the first time I had NOBODY to call for a patient. No family no friends , nobody .... I said a prayer for the patient and felt sad but I would never pull out my phone to record anything that happens while I'm at work ..... I will never understand why people do it .....

I was an EMT for 12 years, I worked 5 years in an emergency room and have seen many patients sadly not make it. The worst was when we did CPR on a one month old that did not make it. I walked out of the ER and cried. I would NEVER make a video of me after that happened. This nurse did this for attention in my opinion and it was beyond unprofessional.

Even in the face of another's death, tiktokers still manage to make everything about themselves. And people wonder why so many of us have lost faith in humanity...

If she actually cared about the patient she would not use their death for personal gain/attention. Where is her dignity? And how about respecting the dignity of your patient? I think it's completely disgusting and these people should be fired.

Everyone needs support. Health care workers deserve better support they deal with grief every day and hide it better than anyone.

When you set up a camera to film yourself mourning over a patient, it’s more about acting rather than feeling the full emotions of grief. Who does this? I’m a nurse. Worked in ICU for many years, lost many patients. I would never video myself over something like this. This is more about “likes” and recognition. Social media has destroyed our moral values.

I’m a nurse, who graduated in ’93. Her behavior is absolutely unprofessional. It’s heartbreaking when you lose a patient, but maintain your professionalism and dignity….that’s how you honor your deceased patient.

People can show grief, but there is a right way and a wrong way of doing it. They dont have to record their grief for all the world to see.

She is so overwhelmed that she had time to set up a camera??? It’s beyond cringe…. I have never had a performance like that after a death of a patient. Sorry. But a time and a place. That’s someone’s family

After having just retired from 30 years in the fire service, yeah I felt the same way after losing a patient, but I NEVER filmed it, much less acted like this in public, I saved the emotional breakdown in the PRIVACY of my own bunk back at the station. This isn't a very wise thing to do what this nurse is doing. Just my humble opinion.

As a healthcare professional who has lost dozens of patients during Covid. This is sick and cringey.

We need to get rid of TikTok and other such narcissism factories.

Who pulls out their cellphone to videotape their grief in the moment? Narcissistic people, thats who!!!! This is sick! And she shld've been reprimanded, if not lost her job! Highly unprofessional... and ABSOLUTELY UNETHICAL!!! Disgusting!!!

My sister has her patients pass away all the time. She works with the elderly. You know what she does? She writes their stories in books. She writes the lessons they taught her. She grieves with me by her side. She doesn't post it because, it's disrespectful to the persons memory and their family.

The fact that she had to prop her phone up, or get someone to hit the record button is absolutely absurd. This should go below our society's standards ,but our society unfortunately deems things like this as the norm and only feeds it. How disgusting.

“And the video- cringeworthy!” The worst crime of them

It is cringe. So sick of people seeking attention. I worked as a CNA in nursing homes for years. Lost many parients. Never felt the need to share it with strangers. I hate this era. Please, let it be the 20th century for forever.

It’s distasteful. Can you imagine if a family member found out she was using the death of their loved one for what- likes or shares? It’s disrespectful.

I've worked in health care at major medical facilities for 35 years, I've had patients hold my hand and take their last breath, I would never post my grief, I actually find this kind of bizarre.

I’ve seen her type over and over again. This is the kind of nurse that ignores patients when the ask for help. Is condescending when the patient needs something. And, makes fun of the patients at the nurse’s station where the patient can’t hear. What a joke.

I have been in healthcare for almost 15 years. Yes, I have lost people. Yes, it is one of the worst feelings in the world. So many emotions. So many thoughts. But not once have I ever thought "Hey I lost a patient, let me take time to set up my phone and record myself grieving to post it online for attention or sympathy." This is disgusting behavior, to be honest.

Imagine being SO overwhelmed with emotion from the pain of losing someone, that you setup your tripod, record a video and then edit it with proper color correction, perfectly timed text captions and a musical overlay.

This is honestly the most pathetic thing I have ever seen… Before this nurse was leaning against the wall in turmoil… First she had to open up TikTok, propped her phone up, then stepped to the correct place, so she could start crying and put her head in her hands. How on earth do people do this? I have so much secondhand embarrassment for you. How pathetic

She must've been TOO SAD because couldn't type "shake IT off." 🙄 What a doofus.

Maybe they're all low-key auditioning for a Nurse Jackie reboot?

It's one thing if she needs a private moment or a moment with a loved one or therapist but recording it and putting it online fells very ingenuine.

Her 15 mins of acting at the cost of professionalism

Lmfao she thinks shes in a movie

As a Nurse myself this conduct and display of emotion is seeking attention at the patient’s expense.

As a retired nurse I can tell you I would NEVER have done this,five of my twenty year career were spent on an Oncology unit,I’ve been retired for forty two years now,I still remember the names and faces of my terminally ill cancer patients,I would be FURIOUS if I recognized this nurse as the one who took care of my relative,it’s extremely difficult to watch a person die ,even more difficult to inform a family member that their loved one has passed ,I don’t go on any social media sites ,in my opinion this was grandstanding and should NEVER been posted .

I miss the days of no social media. Our world has become a generation of narcissists.

I'm a retired firefighter, and I've had a LOT of patients pass due to the extent of their injuries. NEVER ONCE DID I EVER THINK OF RECORDING MYSELF GRIEVING THE LOSS OF ANY OF THEM! THIS IS APPALLING AND PATHETIC!

as a nurse, i’m shocked that she even had time to do this. i had to schedule my crying inconsolably and cig break at the same time. i- edit: i meant, crying inconsolably, granola bar, and cig break lol

"I'm so devistated that I'm going to set up my camera, select music, get in position, and upload it" she got the attention she wanted. 😊

This is not crying. This is a performance. Social media has opened pandora's box for narcissistic people to share inappropriate and selfish actions.

As a nurse who has unfortunately lost my share of patients (nursing home)....this is disgusting.

I’m an RN and deal with death everyday, this is unprofessional, just deal with it quietly!! Medicine and healthcare is not the place for social media!!

If someone is that emotional the first thought is not to record a video to put on facebook.

As a nurse for 40 years- this is total b..llsh..t.

She's so distraught that she's picking up her phone, and setting it up to record her "grief". Narcissism at it's finest.

my dad was a doctor and losing a patient would ruin his entire day. taking a video of himself grieving is quite possibly the last thing he would ever think about doing. performative and frankly, gross and narcissistic. all for tik tok views.

You won't see any old school nurses doing this.

Throwing ass in a video where ur seeking attention from someone who passed away is wild

My wife was a hospice nurse for over 5 years. Never, ever, would she have made herself the center of attention when a family looses a loved one.

I haven't never had social media, but I will never post or take a photo or anything after a big tragic like that. Sometimes things that we go through don't have to be on social media. Other people don't need to know everything that we do.

Why would a nurse seek affirmation and attention over the death of a patient? It's gross.

Narcissistic behaviour to the next level.

I've been a nurse for many years, and I've cried many tears for the patients I have lost, and I will never forget them. I don't understand this new generation of nurses.

This is disturbing on so many levels. A breakdown is when you're overcome with emotion to the point where you can't focus on things like setting up a camera angle for a trashy social media skit. Crying for the camera is not a form of art. Its a form of deception. Being a nurse is a very serious profession. When women don't take it seriously because they're too consumed with internet clout, it makes a mockery of good nurses. She very well deserves to be dragged for this.