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@@mm4chelle Yes! I have had this twice and it makes me not want to have anymore even though we had plans for a huge family. It makes me sad thinking about it.
I would love a Collab with Colleen Ballinger now that she's also a twin mom! And another youtuber from New Zealand, Black Friday (Freya), had a very interesting pregnancy. I would love to hear you talk to both of them!
It’s crazy to me that so many types of birth control fail, and people get pregnant when they’re aggressively trying not to. Meanwhile, some of us are actively trying with no luck. The female anatomy is wild 🤣
@@summerviator5966 right! I waited until my mid 30s when I felt the most stable. Then I found out both my tubes are blocked and had to do IVF!!! Thankfully I’m pregnant but I don’t think I’ll try for another. It’s draining and expensive.
Agreed. 4 months of nothing. A friend of mine has been trying for around a year. They thought she was infertile. They got tests done, turns out, HE'S sterile.
My favorite part of this episode is the 3 kids quietly eating breakfast- all seated in their chairs while their dad is freaking out on the phone with their mom. It’s so surreal lol.
Ikr? Three kids under the age of 6 sitting quietly eating breakfast while their dad is freaking out on the phone? Forget the tied tubes, this is the most unlikely thing to happen in this episode :D
I saw a mom with a group of 4 children walking around an amusement park. The mom wore a shirt that read, "My favorite mythical creatures are vampires, werewolves, children who listen."
Re: the car accident... she's a young working mother in the US. I wouldn't be surprised if the medical attention she got after the accident basically amounted to a paramedic checking her for signs of a concussion and then telling her to seek medical attention if she thought she needed it, which she then decided she didn't, because the medical system in the US is a joke, and lots of people avoid going to the hospital unless they think they're actively dying because of money issues.
I mean, is it routine to get a pregnancy test if you go to the hospital for something else? It probably should be, but I’ve only had to go to the ER in the US once, when I had a bad case of mono, and they didn’t do a pregnancy test.
@@jglobetrotter2830 They might if they collect your urine, just because they already have it available. The ER has collected my urine maybe 50% of the time depending on why I'm there.
The fiancé asking "are you sure?" is probably because of the shock. My boyfriend asked "how?" when I told him I was pregnant! We were actively trying to get pregnant and he's a grown ass man who knows how babies are made! Now he denies having said that but he absolutely did and it was so funny.
My husband said something similarly disbelieving in the same situation, I was so confused by his response that I didn't know what to say at first! I was finally like, "I don't think false positives on pregnancy tests are a thing".
EMS worker here - it is very possible she did not go to the hospital after the car wreck. Many people are very reluctant to go for financial reasons, and it's not like we can force them, so I was not at all surprised unfortunately
Yes, we refused medical attention after our wreck and my mother unfortunately now has permanent damage and chronic pain that may have been treatable at the time. We had good insurance but hell no were we about to pay for an ambulance ride!
It depends, she had 3 kids and was in a stable, long-term relationship/marriage. I have a friend who is 37, and a single mum of 5 kids, who was turned down for tubal ligation because there is a possibility that she could meet a man and want more kids.
I was 23 when I got mine tied. I had one child already and got it done after having my second. Not married. Just had to find a doctor who would do it. I was sure and still am that I don’t want anymore children. Very content with my little family 👩👦👦😊
Some doctors sure are weird. A male friend of mine (after having 1 kid and not wanting more), tried to get a vasectomy but the doc said "no, you may be married, you may be like 40 years old.. but we don't know if you won't want another kid in the future". I don't unterstand those docs. It's one thing to say "Think about it and come back in like 2 months" after having a talk about pros and cons but its another thing to just say no.
I work in maternal health and the only person I've ever seen strongly encouraged to not get a tubal ligation was a woman who discovered she was pregnant during the appointment. It was 2 months after the birth of her 5th child, poor love.
So, when I was in college, my anatomy and physiology professor told us a story about her friend. We were doing our study of the reproductive system and she told us that her friend and her husband decided they were done having kids, so she got a tubal ligation. She got pregnant. After that surprise, the husband got a vasectomy. The wife got pregnant AGAIN. My professor said she never would have believed it was true if she didn't actually personally know the couple.I have no idea what the odds of that happening are, but I thought you'd find it interesting.
I mean, with the current world population, we can expect a 1 in a billion chance to happen seven times. It's just that we never expect to meet one of those seven.
Happened to a relative of mine- not twice but THREE times! Her husband had a vasectomy, baby #5 born. She had a tubal, baby #6 comes. She gets a second tubal and along came baby #7!! I can't remember what exactly they did after that, but #7 was thankfully their last! 😂😂
At this rate I think I will stick with fertility tracking, condoms, and a urine pregnancy test right after my period every month! Now I am wondering how many years I should wait after menopause before we ditch the condoms, if ever...
Right?? I have tokophobia so anytime I have to take a pregnancy test (I got sterilized and don't have tubes so there's only a 0.00000000001% chance) I dread a positive diagnosis. I'd have to call in a diagnosis for abortion next lol
Yeah for the first few months I started bleeding on the exact day I would’ve gotten my period had I not been pregnant. My doctor theorized that maybe it was my body trying to keep up with routine but idk. I agree somebody needs to look into it more!
This is such an interesting case, thanks MDJ!! It proves the importance of why we always do pregnancy tests when female patients of reproductive age come in. Even with tubal ligation or “ongoing periods” (PV bleeding), there is still a chance of pregnancy. And missing a pregnancy or ectopic pregnancy could have awful consequences!
Facts! When I had my bilateral salpingectomy, I felt comfortable in its effectiveness because I was only able to find one documented case of this procedure failing (as defined by the patient accidentally becoming pregnant later), and reassuringly that paper did say they too were unable to find any other evidence of this procedure ever having failed and they conjectured that the case they reported on stood a chance of being the only failure ever observed ... BUT THAT'S STILL A NON-ZERO CHANCE! Yeah most likely the procedure was done poorly or otherwise not up to current standards in some way -- BUT STILL! There are virtually never 100% guarantees in anything in medicine and I wish people would grasp that lol.
I always get so annoyed when I go to the doctor for, say, pneumonia, and they'd ask when was my last menstrual cycle. After watching these videos I'll be way less annoyed the next time they ask 🤣
I can’t get pregnant after cancer treatment and I don’t have a partner who could get me pregnant. Obviously I understand the medical necessity of checking, but every time it’s rubbing salt in the wound.
My friend had a surprise pregnancy. She went to two doctors and they couldn’t figure out what was wrong with her. She went into labor…thought she was dying. Had a healthy baby girl. When she told me, I was shocked and then said to her “didn’t your doctors run a urine test?”
40 years ago, I asked for a tubal ligation and found my husband had to also sign before the hospital would do it. I had been pregnant at the time so it would be after the pregnancy or during a c section if required. In the meantime, my husband learned how big the surgery would be for me when it was just an office visit for a vasectomy . He went ahead and had the vasectomy, only I didn’t have to sign anything. Are they still making women get their husbands permission while men can decide on their own?
Even today, doctors can be sexist with scheduling tubal ligations. A woman could need to be married, have kids and be dead sure she doesn't want more. I want to add, if a medical professional brushes off your concerns without explaining why you shouldn't be worried, try seeking out a new doctor.
I had my tubes tied at 21 after my second child was born, that was 13 years ago and I also had to get a signature from my then husband on the form. I had it done directly after my planned c-section. The form had to be signed 4 months ahead of time. They said it your even a day late then clearly your not that adamant about not having anymore kids so they wouldn't accept it if so. Luckily my ex husband didn't want anymore kids either or I would have been at his will. It took me 3 years to get divorced from him bc he refused to sign the papers just to be spiteful so I'm sure if he had wanted to keep me barefoot and pregnant he would have refused signing for my tubal.
At 23 I had mine done with my second c section and wasn't married to the father of my kids so my OB never asked him. She just asked me and my mom if we were sure right before my surgery and we both said "hell yes" without hesitation haha.
Yep they still asked my partner if he was okay with it too. 🤦♀️ Meanwhile he had his done about a week ago while I’ve been in the process for 9 months now to get mine done too. I’ve known since I was 16 that I never want kids, am 32 now. It sucks, I just want to get it over with.
If you have a uterus and you're serious about not having children, consider getting a bilateral salpingectomy (sal-pin-geck-to-mee, 'geck' as in 'gecko') instead of a tubal. In a tubal they clamp/cut/burn the tubes. In a bilateral salpingectomy they remove the tubes completely. The failure rate of a bilateral salpingectomy is lower than that of a tubal because the tubes are totally gone. This also provides some protection from ovarian cancer as some types actually originate in the fallopian tubes, not the ovaries. It's a laparoscopic procedure, you can go home the same day, and it's usually covered by insurance the same as a tubal.
Do doctors actually do this though… because I can’t find one who will do anything despite me never wanting kids. I get told “what if your future husband/boyfriend want them”
@@toroallin5734 you have to find the right doctor to do it. There are lists somewhere of doctors who are willing to do the operation on people without children. I don't know exactly where you can find it, but you could look for it.
This is literally my worst nightmare. Lol. I had tubal ligation with c-section of my second. I was 32. My two were the result of failed birth control. First one the pill, second Nuva Ring. I was on the table and the doc asked me if I was sure I wanted to do it. I said not only am I sure. If it fails Imma come find you. She laughed... I didn't. So far so good... Of course I use an IUD as well. I'm really, really done tho.
Genuinely curious, how did the birth control fail? Were you on antibiotics? Or didn't take it at the same time, or-with the ring- not take it out or put in when you were supposed to? I'm always curious how these things happen
@@jessiebouclier4776 the ring was used as directed. There is a fail rate with every method. Even when strictly observed. The pill was taken every day. I will say it was not taken at exactly the same time each day. However, I'm not certain honestly how much that contributed. My OB appeared to believe that I was simply very fertile in combination with my husband, who is the father of both children.
@Veronica Robinson I use NuvaRing as well and I'm literally always paranoid it is going to fail. You should have seen my face when hubby and I were messing around in the hot tub on our first day of our honeymoon, while I was in my most fertile week, and I look over and see my ring floating around in the hot water 😳 we stopped for that night and I was extra careful after to make sure it didn't happen again. And that is not the first time it has come out during sex. But I'm too unreliable with the pill, read too many horror stories of the IUD, I'm needle phobic so the implant isn't an option, and I'm allergic to condoms .... so ring it is until vasalgel is approved for males.
I've been pregnant 3 times, live vaginal birth 3 times, all healthy and full-term. I 100% had my period for the first trimester of all three pregnancies, confirmed by each doctor I'd had for each child (different doctors for each kid as I was in different places of my life). I did NOT know I was pregnant with my first child due to having regular periods, my doctor was sending me to have my thyroid checked, as I'd been having unusual symptoms but also having regular periods; I was pregnancy tested and turned out I was pregnant. At the ultrasound it was discovered I was already into my second trimester. When I got pregnant with my second child, I knew based on a physical reaction to meat lol, I was still having my periods and was actually on my period when I got pregnancy tested, they did a pelvic at that appointment as I was currently bleeding, they discovered I was in fact having a period; that period lasted it's normal five days, I continued having periods for two more months. My third, I knew right away I was pregnant (experienced at this point ;) ) and, again the doctor was concerned I was still having periods and so they wanted to see me the next time I'd had my period, so I went in and they did a pelvic exam and also determined I was in fact having a true period. The periods stopped, again in my second trimester. So, I don't know the anomaly there, but it IS possible to have real and true periods while pregnant.
It is impossible. You’ve now had two doctors tell you. Maybe you misunderstood. Bleeding? Yes. But the endometrial lining will not shed during pregnancy as this will cause miscarriage. Take care. ❤
I am always shocked when a routine pregnancy test isnt run when visiting the hospital for anything. I am a Virgin and Ive had countless pregnancy tests at the hospital, pretty much whenever I go in they run one even when I say im not sexually active.
I'm actually surprised that I wasn't given one when I got x-rays on my tail bone, considering my mum was beside me when the nurse asked when my last period was and whether I was sexually active. Like, what teenager is going to admit, in front of their parent, that they're sexually active? I wasn't, but that's besides the point.
See, I had the opposite problem. I went to the campus doctor in college after a CAR CRASH complaining of pain in my side, and he absolutely would not move on from “you’re probably pregnant” I get he had to ask, but how is that the only possible diagnosis for pain after a car crash? I ended up just taking Tylenol for a few months until it didn’t hurt as much…
When I got Nexplannon (implant birth control) they tested if I was pregnant I think a week before, day of, and then I got in a car accident and had to again. That was so wild, I'm always shocked when people's pregnancy are slipped under the radar when they have frequent dr. Apts.
@@bookcat123 yea honestly the medical field fails alot of females/people with uteruses. Its hyper focused on our reproductive organs and often that pulls away from the actual cause of concern.
honestly the most unbelievable part of this is that a young woman got her tubes tied without permission from her husband, father, father inlaw, priest, several doctors, and like 20 rejections over 15 years.
Literally was just told by my (female!) Dr that she won't let me have a partial hysterectomy because I might get a bf/get married in the future and they might want kids. Excuse me what?
@@catb8703 I would have walked out of the office before she finished the sentence, ass hanging out and all. Find a better doctor, even if it takes a while.
Yeah that's because the regret rate for tubal ligation is about 40% for women who have it done in their 20s (as MDJ explains in another video). So yeah. I'm sure it's frustrating but would pretty much be medically negligent to be gung-ho about it.
@@luna-p I state so often in my family that romance, sex and family doesn't interest me at all and one of the discussions I had "My mom and her sister both had ovaries cancer. You're telling me you're not accepting to remove them once I'm in my thirthy if I didn't have kids even if it's a preventing mesure because it was a really agressive one? What the fuck?" (And knowing they were 45 and 51 when they needed to be operated... What the hell?)
@@everythingrebekahlorraine for sure! The price is a huge difference, but if I recall there is a bigger focus on midwifery in New Zealand. I’m interested to see how that plays a role in the delivery room as it would mean a larger focus on complicated births at hospitals. Though I haven’t done a ton of research in recent years, and not sure if I’ve ever looked specifically at NZ for their prenatal care and post natal outcomes.
@@karawbear I live in NZ and originally from the UK. Here in NZ (I’ve had a baby here) you can get a midwife throughout your pregnancy for free who does all prenatal visits, checks, blood and urine tests, prescriptions for anything you need including antibiotics etc, they’re there for the birth, and do 6 weeks of home visits/postnatal care :) including weighing the baby and tracking growth, helping with feeding. There are also hospital midwives on hand during labour and delivery and they’re also there if people don’t want an independent midwife. Generally an obstetrician would only be required if the person requires a c section or if there are any complications throughout pregnancy/labour, and normally they would just consult at the level that MDJ is at. Any clinics they run would consist of more complex things rather than just general pregnancy and baby updates. If someone came into A&E with a pregnancy related problem or complications like hyperemesis or bleeding etc and needed to be admitted then the junior doctor (house officer or registrar for O&G) would generally see the patient in A&E and if they were admitted it would be under the consultants name, and they would lead the ward rounds in hospital for the gynae patients. So I guess it’s quite different. Everything is also free. Hope that helps. Any other questions id be happy to answer :) obviously MDJ would know more about the specifics of her job and be able to compete to the USA, which I know little about
@@greenerpasturesgrl that absolutely sounds quite different! In the USA there are not proper standards for midwifery laid out so I could technically tell people I’m a midwife and not get in trouble for it. Because of this midwifery is not common and often discouraged as a whole by physicians regardless of the individual qualifications. Not to mention, insurance hardly ever covers a midwife or a doula and so you pay thousands out of pocket for their services. I have not had my first live birth yet so I don’t have personal experience, but I do plan to find a midwife who has nursing certifications (since as mentioned that is not required) to help me through birth. I’m not sure I’ll be able to afford postnatal midwifery though as that costs extra in most cases. I hope MDJ makes a comparison video that encompasses the diversity of care in the USA while making the comparison of the separate countries, because state by state it can change how dangerous it is to give birth.
My mom has her tubes tied after having her third child. A few years later, she and my dad were more financially stable and owned their own home and they started to regret the tubal ligation. They were wishing that they could have another baby and BAM! She got pregnant with me.
I absolutely love the kiwico sponsor on this video. It’s like “Did you too not know that you were pregnant, and you know have a kid? Here’s how to entertain it!”
The reality of being one of those 10-13 in 1,000 is something I cannot describe. I have 1 ovary, and had tubal litigation during c-section with my youngest. Two months ago after being admitted to hospital for severe sickness which turned out to be hyperemesis, I was informed I was 9 weeks pregnant. My own local doctor whom I had already had appointments with never even considered a pregnancy test the odds were so low. I got 4 days to get used to the idea before I went through a ridiculous amount of trauma miscarrying, on the 3rd day I was admitted back in to hospital and went through things I will never forget. Sorry to anyone who took the time to read this, I know it's only my story but I never ever thought anything like that would happen to me...just make sure you are fully informed of every little thing that could happen x
Yeah I think another commenter said that their doctor suggested not to do the ligation until weeks after the cesarean bc the tube would be swollen and if done then the tubes might go back to normal having a bit of wiggle room for an eggs to slip by
I had a "period" with my 8.5 year old. At least I took a test. It's just I was much further along than I thought. Lol And it wasn't light or pain free either, it was super heavy and I had intense cramping. I consider my daughter a miracle baby because of it. I still wonder how she survived all of that!
Same, my doctor even told me that I must have written the day of my last period wrong, but I do keep my tracks very organized Im sure I wrote all the dates correctly 🤷♀️
5 pregnancies all the same... they finally figured out the complications that was causing it for me and turned out to be more dangerous so thankfully we have 4 healthy babies hoping to be 5 soon
I wanted to have my tubal ligation done at the same time as my cesarean with my youngest, but my obstetrician and gynecologist advised me to wait at least 3 months until the swelling had gone down, so after about 3 weeks I got my 2nd IUD. In the 5th year of having the IUD, I had my tubal ligation. That was 6 years ago now and complete success, no more babies! The problem with getting the tubes tied straight away is because they are still swollen, the clips can't be done up tight enough, or they have to use bigger clips. Then once the swelling does go down, there's room for an egg to slip through. This comment isn't directed at Dr Jones, obviously 😆 but this is exactly how my gynecologist explained it to me, so I hope it helps someone else understand.
I was told almost 40 years ago not to have a tubal the same time as my C-section because of the failure rate. I'm surprised they still do them at that time these days, it's not like it's a new discovery.
@@anntowle1706 I've had it presented as a more useful option, since the tubes are much closer to the surface of the skin shortly after birth. Didn't know what the downsides were until now.
I recently got pregnant with an IUD in place. I had the covid vaccine about a week before I was supposed to get my period so when it didn't come I just thought it was because of the vaccine. I waited to take a pregnancy test for several weeks longer than I normally would have because of that, but the whole time Mama Dr. Jones' voice was in my head saying "just take a pregnancy test".
@@mollyapteros It was 1.5 years into a 3 year IUD and when they removed it they said it was properly in place. I've got a nice ultrasound picture of it right next to the gestational sac and the fetus
My mom had no clue she was pregnant with me she ran track for her college. She did her physical before a race and that's how she found out she was pregnant the only was she pregnant with me she was 5 months along. I seen pictures of her you could not tell at all . She also has a heavy flow and never thought anything because she said she never skipped a period
I've been certain I've never wanted kids since 12 years old. I'm 39 and still haven't convinced any doctors of this fact and am gonna put my energies into getting my partner a vasectomy (he's also 100% not interested in kids) since everyone presumes, on my behalf, that I'll regret this decision and change my mind when I meet some imaginary "right man."
Vasectomies have an easier recovery period as well, so if you are able to get a doctor to give your husband a vasectomy(it’s much easier to find a doctor who will do a vasectomy vs. one who will do a tubal ligation) it will be better in multiple ways
Man, she's twenty four with four kids! Man I know you can have kids as soon your period will come in, but anytime I hear someone around my age with multiple kids I can't believe it. I had a classmates who is 22 and with 2 kids and I was like how!
@@kristineapodaca3173 I think it's more like, I still don't feel mature enough to be responsible for another human life at my current age. It's wild that some people who are the same age or even younger took the plunge to step it up.
When my mom was pregnant with my sister (her first pregnancy), she didn't know she was pregnant until about 6 months bc she hadn't really started showing and still had monthly bleeding.
With my first born I didn’t know I was pregnant the whole 9 months 😭😂. On December 31st 2019 I went into the ER for abdominal pain and trouble breathing. Coming out finding out I was 35.5 weeks pregnant, from there on I had to go to an appointment every other day. I gave birth at 37 weeks due to preeclampsia and had to be induced. My daughter was born January 23, 2020 ❤️ she was healthy and full term, thank god. She is my rainbow baby after so many years of miscarriages, I always irregular periods
Happened to me. I kept bleeding every month on the dot and it wasn’t till I finally got them to do a blood panel to figure out why I felt like crap rather than them dismissing me, they were like “ummmmmm yeah you’re pregnant.” 15 weeks in fact. With a copper IUD. 😑
Could you talk about bleeding during pregnant? I’ve had 5 miscarriage and 1 beautiful boy who is 4 now. I’m now 17 weeks pregnant (with a girl) and have bleed bleeding on and off through the whole pregnancy. I never bled through my first and it stresses me out so bad!! And now I have the flu so bad for a week now and started bleeding a bit yesterday. The stress in this pregnancy is so high!!
I'm no doctor but I had bleeding with my second and I always thought I was gonna miscarry. Turned out I had a subchoronic hematoma, its usually harmless my doctor said. you can look it up, talk to your doctor. Hope that brings you peace of mind
I'm not a doctor, but I had bleeding during my pregnancy. The doctor said it was because my hormone levels were so low. She wasn't that concerned but it freaked me out. She gave me progesterone for the whole first trimester. Luckily, I didn't have any bleeding in the second trimester. I had a tiny bit of bleeding in the third trimester. I ended up getting preeclampsia in the third trimester, they kept me hospitalized for over a week and baby girl was delivered during an emergency c-section at 37 weeks and one day. If you have any bleeding in pregnancy, you should get your doctor to look at it. Sometimes it's not a big deal but sometimes it is so only your doctor can know for sure after testing you.
Are you taking any medications or supplements with blood thinning properties? If so, talk with your OB about whether it is beneficial to continue to take them. If that's not the case, it could be a SCH. Most are harmless and resolve eventually on their own, but it's worth getting checked out.
I know it’s hard but try not to worry too much. I had spotty bleeding off and on for my whole pregnancy with my second daughter. Having had a previous miscarriage and being 40 it really worried me, but when they finally did a pelvic exam after months of sending me for emergency ultrasounds, it turned out to be harmless cervical polyps caused by the pregnancy hormones, which eventually fell off when I gave birth. Subchorionic hematomas (blood clots along the uterine wall) are also very common and can cause huge gushes of blood with no damage to the baby…my best friend had that and gave birth to a very healthy boy. Soon you should feel your baby moving which will make it easier to relax. Best wishes!
My mom still got her "period" for both of her pregnancies. She didn't realize she was pregnant till about 6 months in both times. There was nothing wrong with us, just due to the position of her uterus and cervix it didn't hold the blood in well so every month she'd spot for 4-5 days and she thought it was her period.
My daughter had a classmate who was conceived after a vasectomy. She was the couple’s second child. The third child was conceived and born after a tubal that was performed during the birth of the second child. It can happen. Some children/people are just meant to be born.
@@Emily-hd9sm I have felt that same way and pregnancy is my biggest fear in the world, however please keep in mind if it ever does happen to you, adoption is always an option. I don't feel that it's wrong if not all of us want to be parents;there are plenty of other people out there who do want to be parents though. Please don't feel like if it ever happens to you it's all over with because it's not. Its your life and you have other options like adoption, so please never take your life over something like pregnancy thats just one of those natural things that can't always be helped.
I had my normal periods right on cue with all the same symptoms for 4 months into my pregnancy. Luckily I was doing a pregnancy test every week because we were trying for a kiddo so I knew right away. I brought it up to my dr who said it must have been implantation bleeding the first time. The 2nd time I called freaked out and he said it was probably spotting from my cervix being sensitive. The 3rd time he asked me to come in, did a bunch of tests, told me the baby was fine and he didn't know why I was still having bleeding. Same with the 4th time. After that it stopped. My hormones where fine, no complications, and it was always at my normal period cycle and felt the same with the same amount of bleeding I normally get. I have heavy cycles so I was scared the whole time till it stopped, despite what the dr said, that I was gonna miscarry. All these women in the comments saying it happened to them, and all these drs saying it's not possible. My dr. said it wasn't a possibility of it being a period and must be something else, despite the evidence other wise, and them never being able to find another explanation. Maybe a study needs to be done to find the cause?
I definitely agree there should be more studies on this! There’s so much about women’s bodies that we just don’t understand, especially with hormones and pregnancy. However, since as she mentioned a “period” is the shedding of the lining of the uterus, if there is a fertilized egg implanted in it then it won’t shed the lining. So definitely has to be something else but why it would occur so regularly like that is beyond me. I’d guess that it might have something to do with certain hormones affecting sensitivity but the fact that we don’t know means that there should definitely be more research done on that!
When most woman bleed during pregnancy first thing they do is run to the doctor 🤑 just to be told they’re fine or need to come back for observations which is more money for the doctors 😮💨 Its most likely all about money , pregnant woman are jackpots for doctors 😅 I know & know of over 12 females who have had their period while pregnant, yes period ( heavy flow , 7 days , on time , pmsing , cramps & had healthy babies ) but doctors claim it’s impossible when nothing is impossible same way you can get pregnant while already pregnant 😮💨 Just a whole bunch of opinions 🤷🏾♀️ No one can ever truly define the female body because every female has a different body 💖
A friend of mine had her "period" throughout the entire pregnancy, didn't gain much weight, basic holiday weight, and no other symptoms. She was having back pain and went to the hospital and found out she was in labour. Also, my Aunt, with all 3 of her pregnancies, had a negative result on pregnancy tests even though she knew she was pregnant. With her last one, she decided to take a test right before she went in for her c-section and it was still negative 😂
My husband got a vasectomy, he wasn’t happy about it lol. But after 4 kids and complicated health issues and pregnancies it was the right choice for us, and the Catholic hospitals near me wouldn’t give me a tubal ligation (which I was willing to have, especially since my last 2 were via c-section.
It makes me so angry that a hospital won’t do a medical procedure because of religious beliefs. Also, why would they give your husband a vasectomy but not give you a tubal ligation? Makes no sense
@@charlleedodson the vasectomy is done in office at the doctors across from the hospital so they aren’t constrained by the religious issues at the hospital. I personally don’t think any hospital should be allowed to do this, but especially when it isn’t just for elective birth control (although I think that’s a valid choice), but specifically for medical reasons. It’s unacceptable.
@@AirQuotes Agreed, it’s cheaper, faster, and has a much easier recovery time verses a tubal ligation, not to mention the original commenter already had multiple pregnancies, give women a break…
i would have DIED if that happened to me! thank God my tubal worked. i give these women credit for thinking they are done with babies yet accepting an accidental baby, it can’t be easy for everyone
@@resQfurppl she thought she was going through menopause when she didn’t get her cycle! Lol! She had 4 kids & there is a 7 year age gap from my husband & his closest in age sibling!
I've always had my 7 Days of my period every month even after my eight children and I had a tubal ligation in 2007 after my last child now I am 45 years old and this month I have skipped my period I have been having hot flashes night sweats so I'm thinking I'm going through menopause perimenopause I'm not sure what is going on but I noticed something different especially with not getting my monthly period however could it be that I'm pregnant as well my tubes were cut tied clipped and burned and long gone but I'm not quite sure what is going on with my body right now I'm so sad because I feel very bloated like and I look like I'm pregnant but I don't think I am😢
Oh and I forgot to mention I also took pregnancy test about a week ago and two of them were positive and the digital ones said negative and this week I took four more pregnancy tests two of them that are digital said negative and the regular pregnancy test said positive😢 can anybody relate to me I could really use some helpful tips I don't know what to do
I was pregnant and had no idea until i went into labor! I thought i just had appendicitis until i went to the hospital and they told me i was 8cm dilated and about to have a baby😬 I had a “period” the whole time and i was taking birth control! My daughters 1st birthday is on the 22nd!!!
My sons girlfriend felt sick whilst at school her mother picked her up early and she ended up in emergency care with suspected kidney infection. This was on a Friday at around 3pm. By 10pm she messaged me saying she has a positive pregnancy test and they would scan her in the morning. By 5am on the Saturday I got a message saying she has given birth to a baby girl 😮 Biggest shock ever! I was expecting my daughter (5 months pregnant) so I took over all the bits I had started to buy as she had nothing. She was in my house the week before and her stomach was so flat! Never suspected she was pregnant at all let alone full term! She is now a very healthy almost 3 year old. My granddaughter and my daughter are just 5 months apart 😂
My aunt had her period all through her fourth pregnancy, she however knew she was pregnant and having the period was a cause of extreme anxiety for her as she thought it was miscarrying.
Thank you so much for explaining the period during pregnancy thing. I have OCD that manifests in the obsessive fear that I'm pregnant so this was SO refreshing to hear that you can't actually have periods, because I am so worried that I would never know until it was too late. Love your videos, thank you!
Best way to take away that anxiety is to quiet your mind and listen to your body 💖 because the period statement is false lovies , every female has a different body and all doctors have is opinions on how they think your body should be 🤷🏾♀️ They can’t possibly know the outcome of every single female in this world. As long as you ended up having a healthy pregnancy isn’t that all that matters love ? Sometime it’s hidden so the anxiety or fear doesn’t take over 😮💨 Not everyone can deal with pregnancy so sometimes it has to stay a secret to everyone including the mom so the baby can grow in peace 😅
I had periods up to 3mths pregnant, with both my sons, which still, totally confuses me, as we are all taught that once you're pregnant, periods STOP, infact the second pregnancy I even had a period at the time of the first scan, they just brushed it off, did nothing
Were your kids healthy? If you watched this video (or others similar) you’ll hear that you cannot have an actual period, but you can bleed. They likely didn’t do anything because your son was healthy and doing fine 😄
That was not a period. It’s extremely rare to release an egg while you’re pregnant and I’m pretty sure uterine lining shedding will cause a miscarriage. I did IVF and my lining had to have a certain thickness before embryo transfer. I’m pregnant now and have bleeding thanks to my fibroids. Bleeding in pregnancy can be caused other things too.
It was still bizarre at the time, caused a major family argument, in fact, the only reason I found out I was pregnant, was because I had taken an overdose to get out of and away from an abusive partner, no1 was helping, they pumped my stomach, and that was how I found out, Counsellor and my family were convince that was the reason I over- dosed, my family can never admit when they haved f'd up. baby was fine, difficult birth, with agressive sister, in tow and not helping matters, she has since tried first kidnapping him, then painted absurd picture to welfare, which they unfortunately believed, because sis ter had done course and knew what to say everytime things were going my way again
@@mellamokori Yes,. both kids were healthy, infact the 1st son, even survived me overdosing, I didn't know I was pregnant, only way I could see out of an abusive relationship at the time, no help from anywhere,w asn't planning on getting pregnant, (but that is also not something I would tell either of my children - unlike my mother, who constantly reminded me that I was 1) not planned, 2) not wanted 3) that they had me, then tried to put me back)
I can confirm there is indeed a failure rate! I had a tubal ligation during the c-section with my second son in 2000. And then my third son was born in 2004. Biggest surprise of my life!
I was in a car accident on my 18th birthday and ended up in the hospital. They didn't give me a pregnancy test. I think it depends on the kind of injury if they would give her a pregnancy test, plus they often just go with what you say. Every time I've been asked if I was pregnant before an x-ray, they just go with what I say and don't test me.
Yep. I went to urgent care when I broke my ankle earlier this year, and was not given a pregnancy test. Nobody asked me if there was a chance I could be pregnant, but there was a sign on the door about letting them know if I was pregnant. Not really something I was looking at when I was in pain 😅 Obviously if I were pregnant or thought maybe I could be, I would have said something.
And this is exactly why even though my tubes have been tied for 8 years I still take pregnancy tests if my cycle is wonky. I had them tied at 24 and had no idea that the younger you are when you get them tied the higher your chance of failure. So far so good though.
I love the language you use! You take the time to point out that monogamy isn't the only relationship style. You say "Person who could get you pregnant', which is inclusive & to be honest more accurate. Thank you! Epic episode. I hope your MIQ stay has been good!
I was 23, married and pregnant with my fourth child. I literally had to beg my OBGYN to tie my tubes. I got divorced that year, and ended up getting pregnant four years later, after being w a partner who hadn't had a vasectomy for the first time. I was shocked and devastated when I got the call from the doctor's office, and was told I was pregnant. I often wonder if the doctor really did tie my tubes. He assured me that they were cut, tied, and burned...
I wonder if they looked at her tubes after the surprise Cesarean to see if/how the clip/ring failed. I would be demanding a full hysterectomy at that point.
My husband had a vasectomy and it's one of the best decisions we've ever made. And it's great that he can retest occasionally to make sure it's still effective.
@@allclay1993 the good thing is we had the cut and the burn so the chances of failure are very low, but just like the tubal this woman got he was young when he got it so a lot of time for it to "fail". (I think it was 2013? So he was like 27) But I'm also on other contraceptives as well for my own health reasons so extra backup!
I've been diagnosed with PCOS since my late 20's. Some doctors said I can't get pregnant some said I can. I've miscarried once in 2008 and never got pregnant again. Watching these stories just leaves me wanting a child even if I didn't know till I delivered. I don't believe I would feel cheated because the blessing really begins when they place your bundle in your arms.
My now 13-year-old son is the product of a failed tubal ligation. I had my first child (son) in Oct. 2000 at the age of 18. I then had my second child (daughter) in Jan. 2005 (about 5½ months before I turned 23), at which point I had a tubal ligation. My daughter was born vaginally, but I had to deliver her in the OR since I was going to be having the surgery immediately after and would have to be cut on. So, my OB/GYN did my surgery laparoscopically, tying my tubes off, cutting small pieces from each one and then burning the ends. Everything went well. I only stayed 2½ days in the hospital. Brought my baby home, and I thought that was it. Fast forward to 2½ years later, in Aug. 2007 I was going into my second month of missed period and I don't really remember exactly why I decided to take a pregnancy test, but I did and it came up positive. I remember I was slightly in denial when I saw it, but was also scared to death that it was ectopic (heard too many horror stories about those) so I called my OB/GYN and was like, "WTF?! How can this test be positive? Could this be ectopic? Do I need to get to the hospital like right now?" So she has me go into the office, do blood work, which also comes back positive and then sends me for a vaginal ultrasound. I was a nervous frickin' wreck the entire time. Once I got back to her office after the ultrasound she was like, "Welp, you're definitely pregnant and it's not ectopic. Due date is April 1st." (go figure the due date would be April Fool's Day 🤣) Fast forward again to the end of March 2008 and my son was born healthy, 7lbs. 3oz. Crazy thing about the whole thing is that my OB/GYN told me that BOTH tubes had grown back, not just one, and that if she hadn't performed my surgery herself she wouldn't have believed I had even had it done because they grew back so well. BUT... to top all that off, the even crazier part is the fact that I've also had Endometriosis and PCOS (diagnosed through laparoscopy almost 20 years ago), which supposedly makes it super difficult to get pregnant (well, apparently not for me 😆). Anyway, after this last pregnancy my OB/GYN suggested that we wait until 6 weeks after delivery and then do another surgery to just remove my tubes, to ensure it wouldn't fail again. So... that's what we did and now all I have left are little nubs. As for my son, he will be 14 this coming March 2022 (my other two are 21 and almost 17).
My friend got pregnant after getting her tubes tied. She ended up with a ectopic pregnancy that caused her Fallopian tube burst and she had to have emergency surgery. She lost the baby and she, herself, almost died. Good news that she survived and is doing well today!
Just had a bilateral salpingectomy last month. I'm 41 and was fed up with horrible IUD and pill side effects over the years. Now I'm like... uh... this is scary!!!
Scared of what though? Getting pregnant anyway? You won't. Your procedure is much safer in terms of birth control than having your tubes tied (1/200 failure rate, which is still lower than the PEARL pf IUDs and the pill, mind you). Don't worry please. You will be just fine and have surely made the right choice.
I am getting the same procedure done in February, and after discussing it with my doctor, she told me it's far safer because the tubes are entirely removed and not clamped off. So, just follow up with your physician and talk about the risks. I'm excited to be free of the pill.
I feel like I should add: If you want to make absolutely certain, like banging stones against each other certain that there will never ever be a baby, you can always ask your partner to get a vasectomy. That would be overkill, but then you'd get into the realm of lottery (which is to say never, ever going to happen).
My mom got pregnant with my little brother less than a year after she got her tubes tied, hes always taken pride in the fact that hes the result of a particularly determined egg lol
I had regular periods for the first 4 months when I was pregnant with my daughter; if I hadn't gotten sick whenever I even smelled or thought about food, we wouldn't have known that I was pregnant.😳
If it wasn't for my period I wouldn't know. I usually get pregnancy symptoms every month (tenderness, bloating, moodiness, cravings) the only thing setting it apart is my period. So if I got pregnant and still had my period I wouldn't know either.
My boyfriend is saving up for a vasectomy. Neither he nor I want kids as we both are autistic with mental health issues. We couldn’t fathom having a child who had been dealt the same hand as we did growing up. Plus, pregnancy scares me with my medications.
I feel like I ghost written this lol I’m thinking of a vasectomy for the exact same reasons. Me and my bf are both autistic, mental health issues and I have epilepsy and take medication, so having a baby/being pregnant is a life or death situation for me. We both can’t look after ourselves let alone a baby, so we have slightly talked about this!
When my mom was pregnant with me, she didn't know until she was 5 months along. She took birth control the whole time and had bleeding whenever she didn't take it (in Germany placebo pills aren't as common, if you take birth control you just stop taking them every 3 weeks for 1 week to bleed) though it was very light. She was very surprised 😁
My cousin is currently pregnant with her fifth child (a girl after four boys!) and she’s due around Christmas. Her and her husband have decided that after the girl is born, they are going to get her tubes tied.
Maybe point them to this video and recommend her husband get a vasectomy as well? Obviously it's fairly unlikely that they'd have the same issues as this couple, but like MDJ says, at least you can verify that the vasectomy took.
I was pregnant with my daughter and still having monthly bleeding until my 6th month, not to mention that on my third pregnancy they would do a pregnancy test and all negative until my 5th month.
If you go the vasectomy route, definitely test that it's working. My brother (who is a Pediatric Intensivist and Assistant Professor of Clinical Pediatrics at a top medical school) had one done after the third kid, and didn't go back 2 weeks after to test (he considered it a waste of time)... They have four kids now.
Thank you so much for explaining the “period” during pregnancy. I’ve tried so many times to explain this people with the real explanation and no one seems to believe it. Some even say their doctors tell them it’s possible which blows my mind!
I have a story for you! My husbands Niece had both her ovary's removed because of issue after her first born. She became pregnant about a year after the surgery! We all were surprised and of course very happy for her. Obviously, they missed a bit of the ovary.
I recently found your channel and am very happy I did! This is my favourite series of yours so seeing it right after it came out is awesome! Another great video MDJ
My cousin was in a similar situation, in which she didn’t know she was pregnant until she went into labor. She had regular bleeding throughout her pregnancy, and her only symptoms were slight weight gain (which coincided with her overcoming an eating disorder) and craving strawberries (which she otherwise hated).
"How did they not do a pregnancy test?" Before knowing better, I've brushed off having pregnancy tests, and std tests, to get the care I needed faster and for it to fit into my work schedule, by telling my doctors that I am monogamous and have an IUD. Those were, and are, true. But I am surprised that they just took me at my word. But I was also desperate, because I couldn't wait for a follow up, at the time I wouldn't have been able to get the time off of work. So I guess they took pity and decided to believe me.
I had my tubes tied/clamped at 25 and had a reversal last year. I got pregnant a while ago, but I lost the baby. Since then, we haven't been able to get pregnant again. I advise everyone to be certain before they undergo a tubial, especially when I am constantly wondering if having my tubes tied is why we struggle to have a child. The guilt is difficult for me to get past.
My mom told me that she had periods during her all pregnancies with all her kids. Until she was over 4 months pregnant. All 4 pregnancies. Well, actualy she lost the first baby in miscariege and had 3 of us later
I mom had her tubes tied when she was 24, after having 3 kids. She was remarried and wanted to have another kid. She had it surgically reversed at 33. She did need fertility treatments to conceive but it worked. I was 13, when my mom had twins!
Before I even watch this, I 100% had every single period with my youngest until I was 5 months along. I oh knew I was pregnant because of me you know living in my freezer, eating uncontrollably, and the damn morning sickness
The reason why they didn't do a pregnancy test when the lady had a car accident is because when doctors hear patients say they had a tubal procedure done they will assume they won't need to do an extensive checkup for it because it's a permanent procedure
I watched most of the video thinking. Why the heck did they not get a vasectomy instead, cheaper, and safer. I am glad MDJ says this toward the end of the video. I guess it was because they were already doing the C-section at the time, so the tube tying would easier to do then? If she were my wife, I would just go get a vasectomy ontop of the tube tying since, 1: my wife has just undergone surgery and I might as well do my part, and 2: it just makes for less of a chance.
I absolutely love these because no one believes me when I say I didn't know! I was on the depo shot, so didn't have periods...I was tiny! People assume you have to be heavy to not know...but I was wearing my regular size 4 jeans. 🤣
Although bleeding at the same time every month is not technically a "period", y'all need to come up with a name for it because it's certainly SOMETHING and not having a good name for it is just causing confusion in the general public.
In one of the comments the woman said she was tested twice and they said it was indeed a period! No one has mentioned withdrawal bleeding either. I don’t believe science knows 100% of what the body is capable of. I too agreed with you before I just read her comment
8:55 Ok, but how do these bleedings happen so often, and at the same time each month? She said her "period" came each month, by the seventh or eight day... That's so weird...
