ObGyn Reacts: Surprise Home Birth ALONE | Didn't Know I Was Pregnant 

Y'all, I honestly thought I was watching the prequel to a horrifying Kendall Rae episode!! So happy her and baby Blake are ok!!

She was clearly traumatized by a medical professional at some point. She’s terrified to go to the hospital or a doctor under any case. This is a serious phobia.

Her reluctance to see a doctor breaks my heart. When I had serious complications from endometriosis my obgyn gave me advice. "If you end up in the ER again for this, tell them you're having severe stomach pains. Once they get you a bed, THATS when you tell them its endo related. You'll get care faster if they dont know it's a womans issue "

A lot of people are calling her dumb, but knowing that some people in the US call UBER instead of an ambulance to avoid the high bills, it's not surprising the real reason she didn't want to go to a doctor was actually financial rather than bad treatment.

As a therapist , i’m wondering if the reason she waited so long and didn’t think about calling for help or telling anyone , may have been related to temporary psychosis related to trauma or perhaps her extraordinary high blood pressure ? Such a shocking story but thank God they both ended up okay. And SUPER impressed she clamped and cut the cord herself , obviously must have birthed the placenta herself, and nursed him without any support at all .

*Me:* "wow this lady is straight up stupid" *Doc Jones:* "poor woman, how badly they must've treated her in the hospital for her to refuse medical help" *Me:* "...oh my god i'm a heartless monster"

Having had severe pre-eclampsia and HELLP Syndrome, and having my blood pressure be through the roof, my liver failing, etc, I can tell you that after my son's birth my cognitive reasoning abilities were at zero while my maternal urge was at maximum. I can absolutely understand her going into a dissassociative state and making incredibly irrational decisions with her blood pressure so high. It's clear that afterward she regretted her decision, but at the time she was probably experiencing something akin to a fugue or dream state.

My guess is it was a mix between shock, fear, and guilt. Some animals hide when they are giving birth, and wont come out for days. I suspect it was this instinct and she was just running on pure instinct at that point and just didn't know what to do. She needed someone like her husband there to do the right thing for her.

With her blood pressure that high and her being in shock it kinda makes sense she didn't seek medical attention. She probably wasn't in the best state of mind. So scary. I'm glad both mom and baby are okay.

my guess: this woman had a dissociative episode because of this overwhelming pain and then the birth

They should have a spinoff called _I didn't know I was about to be born_ that consists of interviews of babies.

About her falling asleep after, I actually could understand. She probably felt so relieved that everything seemed to be ok, but was too weak to do anything else. I lost so much blood with my first, I passed out when I tried to stand.

This sounds like the shock sent her into a dorsal vagal state, not necessarily shock but a state of inaction or only performing actions that are directly related to survival. Like when you're depressed, you know you're not well and the right thing is to go to the doctor, you know that you need to do certain things to make yourself feel better but you can just manage to feed yourself and sleep, let alone look after your personal hygiene, other aspects of your health etc.

MDJ- Doesn’t understand why she made that decision. Also MDJ- No I think I’m ok to drive myself to the hospital in active labor.

It took us 6 years to get pregnant.... We are almost 22 weeks with our miracle baby girl. 😍

I was a smoker, and I was noticing I was getting super sick after a cigarette... and got even more sick after a few sips of wine. Decided to take a pregnancy test, as I was a week late (which wasn't unusual for me, because I did have a stressful job)... turns out I was pregnant! I was 5 or 6 weeks! Quit smoking right away, and 5 years later still smoke free!

This video is two years old, but when she said "I didn't take care of myself, now this baby and I are gonna die and it's gonna be all my fault." I just started bawling my eyes out. I cannot imagine out horrific it must have been. Even in ancient times we had mothers, grandmothers, someone trusted with the mother for birth. It got to me, had to share..

MDJ: "I try to be very nonjudgmental with these" Me: this is why I'm not a doctor

Honestly, I can completely understand why she didn't call for help after giving birth. She had just gone through an enormous shock and trauma, and was also physically very ill, so she was likely not thinking clearly. On top of that, she likely had fears that if she went to the hospital and they learned that she had been drinking, smoking, not getting prenatal care, etc., that they may take her son away from her. Or perhaps she was afraid that if she went to the hospital, that she would find out there was something wrong with her baby, whereas if she simply stayed with him at home she could stay in blissful ignorance, and just have a perfect little fairy tale of her and her baby. Taking all of that into consideration, and throwing in possible depression or anxiety, I'm not terribly shocked that she did what she did--although it was extremely dangerous and she absolutely should have called 911 immediately. But the brain is a funny thing. And we humans can rationalize just about anything if we really want to.

My first child was a born at UCLA Medical Center in 1973. It was a long and painful breech birth. I was used as a teaching specimen; It was close to midnight when I was finally ready to deliver and the head OB allowed the outgoing staff and the incoming staff to watch the delivery; rude and humiliating remarks were made by nurses during the delivery. It was a nightmare. I swore I would never have another baby in a hospital. I went on to have two home-births, one at 36 and the other at 41 years old. It was like night and day! I would have had another, but I miscarried, I can definitely sympathize with anyone not wanting to go to the hospital. To this day I distrust doctors and hospitals. I take very good care of myself to avoid the doctor or hospital as much as possible.

I was really traumatised by doctors when I was young and in situations where I felt like I was dying and I had to be forced by my loved ones to go to the hospital. So I understand her completely.

My guess is that everyone here is right: 1. No insurance and also being taught from a young age to never go to a doctor unless you have no choice. Losing literally everything because of medical bills is a real thing. 2. Extreme negative past experiences with the medical system. Many women with PCOS and all kinds of other conditions are told that they are being dramatic and their pain isn't that bad. 3. A dissociative episode caused by the severe trauma. That could easily make it so that she couldn't think through the situation well enough to realize that this is actually one of the times that she does need to go to the ER. Even totally healthy people can experience dissociation in any kind of traumatic situation. She might have "needed to" dissociate to cope with the pain that she was too afraid to go to the doctor for.

I gave birth in the hospital alone. About 45 mins later the nurses came in to check me again and were completely astonished when they saw me holding her. I was only 2cm when they checked me last, so with no epidural I gave birth. I didn't call to let them know because that was a peaceful moment without all the chaos of 3 nurses and a doctor rushing around. I was ok and she was ok and that's all that mattered in that moment.

Tbh, I think it definitely could've been shock. I've been in shock before (after being hit by a car) and while I was super focused and could use logic to an extent about some things (like going to my next class and telling them I was going to the office to call an ambulance, so I wouldn't get an unexcused absence) other things, I was completely nuts about. Like, when they told me in the ER that I had broken a couple ribs and one was detatched and 'floating', only connected to where it was supposed to be basically by muscle, I told them 'oh, just take them out'. Uhhh...no, that's not what you do with broken ribs, generally speaking...And while at the time, it felt perfectly reasonable to tell my professor I was going to be missing class and get an office pass and all...looking back, I'm pretty sure that after being hit by a car is not a situation where most people still expect you to show up and explain why you're not going to be there. So...while I don't think I personally would do what this lady did in the same situation, I can kinda understand it from the perspective that shock can do really wierd things to your cognitive processes that in hindsight make NO sense, but at the time you don't realize it at all, and think you're being perfectly logical.

Why did the narrator say they had struggled to conceive "In spite of" her PCOS? Shouldn't he say because of her PCOS?

Everyone: Omg I can NOT imagine why she didn't call an ambulance or go to the doctor sooner! Me, with an anxiety disorder: I mean... I kinda do

Mike: chest compressions, chest compressions, chest compressions MDJ: pregnancy test, pregnancy test, pregnancy test Me: I see you there 😏

I like how zero of these stories that I've seen even mention the placenta coming out. I've never had a child, but from friends who have I've been told that the placenta portion is the bloodiest and most insane part of the delivery (outside of the pain, although one friend said passing the placenta was more painful in her experience). Imagine if that comes flying out of you after birth and you had no idea that this existed in pregnancy at all since almost no one mentions it on tv or other media.

13 years of trying to conceive and it took a toll on me mentally. However, when we least expected it.. surprise your pregnant! I just turned 17 weeks and pray for a happy healthy baby in April.

If her blood pressure was truly that high then likely she was in an extreme state of shock where somehow primal urges to care for the baby were showing through. When I was pregnant, I went into septic shock at 26 weeks. Absolutely no suicidal urges before that point but that day I called my doctor scared because I was driving and felt this urge to drive my car into a semi on the interstate. My heart rate was 190 and I couldn't catch my breath. I was hospitalized for a week and recovered. Ultimately he was born at 31 weeks. He thankfully is a healthy 9month old now. We do crazy things when we are dying.

The trauma plus having a blood pressure that high (imagine how high it must have been right after birth) was too much for her brain. When I have high blood pressure, I do stupid things, and my blood pressure never gets that high. One time I left a grocery cart mid-store and took the bus home because I felt tired... I had driven there 🤦🏾‍♀️ I fell asleep for hours. I woke up, still feeling tired, and went to put the groceries away, but they weren't there. I asked my then boyfriend and he said I only had my purse when I came in, but I was 100% sure I drove to the grocery store and shop around. I thought I must have left the groceries in the car, but my car wasn't there. I called the police to report it stolen. They found the car in front of the grocery store a few hours later. While they were searching, I fell asleep again. To this day all I remember is going to the store, grabbing the cart, grabbing veggies, fruits, and vaguely remember the meat section on the back, then feeling tired and thinking "when I get home, I'm going to nap" and then I woke up at home. 🤷 We went to the hospital because of my "missing hours" plus I was still super tired and they took my blood pressure and I saw the nurse panicked face. I spent a few days in the hospital until they were able to lower it. My ex said I looked normal and even said hi to him. I was in a type of shock, but I could do things. I just can't remember any of it.

As a woman with PCOS in a lot of online groups of other women with PCOS, giving up on talking to doctors because they almost never take us seriously is very common.

I think it's a little strange no one brought up Post Partup Depression as a reason for the over attachment; she didn't know she was pregnant, but her body did, meaning that sudden hormone change still occurs and she could still feel the symptoms.

It is almost like she was scared it wasn't real so she didn't tell anyone so her fantasy wouldn't get ruined

The thing I kept hearing her say was that she hadn't care of herself. I almost wonder if she was afraid others would find her to be unfit and take her baby from her. After my son was born, I remember thinking that someone was going to take my baby away from me every time something was not happening perfectly. I remember talking to the nurse during a well-check call about my son having a crying fit the second night we were home for 4 hours where he wouldn't eat or sleep or settle. There was this tone of accusation in her voice that really set off irrational thoughts in my mind. Considering they were having so much trouble, I would imagine that she was terrified to lose her baby, even if her actions were actually risking his life more.

Something that struck me with this one is my own experience of being completely paralyzed (not just afraid, but completely paralyzed) at the thought of asking for help, which is a trauma response. It made me wonder what might have happened in her past, from neglect to abuse, that made her feel safer in an insular reaction. I have experienced this myself, in particular related to gynecological and prenatal care. I think the trauma/personal history lens is one the obgyn world could embrace more, I found it completely lacking in my own care when I was pregnant and postpartum.

I really hope she's well mentally and has all the support she needs

6:53 "If you are sexually active with someone who can get you pregnant" - Love the subtle inclusive language you us in your videos

The only thing I could think of is that she's had such a bad experience with the medical field that she just did not trust them anymore

My guess is the combination of shock, blood pressure, distrust and my personal theory depression, made her unable to seek medical attention. Personally I know that depression can result in not taking care of yourself when you know you should and if she had bad experiences beforehand I can see why initially she would just feel unable to go and later after the initial shock, the guilt sets in and she doesn’t want to face the reality.

I love how the mother reacts when he was born. She was calm and collected. Motherly instincts definitely were there

Honestly, I had the same reaction the father had: That woman stole a baby! But I assume the doctors who checked her out confirmed she had just given birth, and maybe the father had a DNA test done?

Having bipolar disorder, I can just imagine being manic and just being like "ok, cool, baby. haha wait till greg sees this" "I don't really feel like making a doctor's appointment so I won't"

Her: "I couldn't sleep so at 1:00 I finally decided..." Me: oh good shes gonna go to the ER Her: "...to finish packing" Me: Seriously

My first instinct would be that she was avoiding calling a doctor because she was afraid to find out if she had caused him any serious problems. She said that was her biggest concern and after smoking during pregnancy and now being gone through something so traumatising that makes a lot of sense. And because she didn't trust doctors to make anything better, just to tell you what's wrong and that they can't do anything about it, that would have been the only thing on her mind and the potential help just a far away possibility that didn't seem rational to her.

"You don't have to cut the cord right away." THANK YOU!!!! Everyone stresses about the cord in precipitous birth situations. Unless it's an extremely rare situation of the cord impeding the baby from breathing outside the womb, there's no reason to rush to cutting the cord. With everything else going on, that's seriously not important.

If the husbands first though is "did she take someones baby..." I question her mental stability. I hope she's getting more comprehensive help.

I know this is an old post, but I just saw it and want to comment. I have been a labor and delivery nurse for 30 years and I have another possible explanation for this Mom's behavior, which is recreational drug use. It explains her odd behavior during the pregnancy, birth and after. Cocaine, for example, can contribute to high blood pressure, premature birth, and low birth weight as well as placental abruption. The weird behavior of not getting help after the birth could have been fear that her drug use would be found out and she could "get in trouble" and maybe even lose custody of the baby. I've seen patients who knew they were pregnant, but did not get pre-natal care because of those fears. Some came in with emergency complications related to drug use.

I think it had to do with feeling shock and it's also surreal, because when you can get pregnant and are suddenly faced with a baby, it's a whole new level of shock. Like she can't break the "spell" of actually having a baby in her arms.

Sounds like she had a dissociative episode where the perfect life in her head was possible for a little while

MDJ your absolute empathy when hearing how that woman never called for help... You can hear so clearly that the show was shaming her for being "stupid" or "ignorant" or whatever else, but you listened deeper than that and understood that there was a real reason for her decision. Beyond just understanding it, you stopped the video and articulated the reality for so many patients with PCOS.

I use to work for a dentist. He had a policy that anyone getting anesthetic had their blood pressure first. There was a gentleman that had super high blood pressure and he was so mad at my boss for not just doing his dental work. But also insisting he went straight to the emergency room. Apparently the patient called back and told him he saved his life. He had some kind of event at the emergency room.

I had my period with my ectopic pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant a week after my period. They asked me when my LMC was and I had to be like "so here's the thing...." Currently on pregnancy #2 and haven't had a hint of bleeding the entire time

Could it be that her extremely high blood pressure caused confusion, personality changes, etc.?

Maybe she was acting odd because she couldn't think clearly with such high blood pressure? Great video as always MDJ

I feel that mistrust! The last time I was in server pain I waited until I couldn’t take it anymore. I’d given birth naturally twice I was in my second trimester. I only went because I was worried about my baby. When I got the ER, they treated me like I just wanted drugs. It was the worst and is costing me with insurance $2000. It was a waste! I hate the hospital and doctors. Most doctors are always so cold and don’t listen. I had to need one doctor to run a more intense test for thyroid problems because it runs in my family and only showed up on the second test.

I completely understand this as someone who has gone to the ER many times to get help. Finally 12 years later I have found something who discovered I have PCOS and thyroid problems. Up until then everyone would just blame my weight. I remember one time I went in just gushing blood and had been bleeding for 3 months, had been passing out. they did nothing but give me iron and sent home to rest.

Now that I've had a baby, I'm laughing at how old that baby is. No wonder people have such a distorted view of what it's like to have a newborn!

"If your periods change and you've been sexually active... with someone who can get you pregnant" - I see what you did there, Dr Jones xDDD I remember that comment under one of your videos: - If you're sexually active and something goes off, get a test. - I'm a lesbian. - Okay, you can get a pass.

It is possible she was in shock for that few days. When I heard a friend of my died suddenly age 30, I cried in private, but couldn't bring myself to tell anyone over the phone. Only when my mom came over to drop something of I told her. So I get the feeling. Still not smart if you know you need medical care though.

People calling her stupid. Women give birth at home every day. She was in shock. Why are y’all to tell someone how to deal with shock

Her stood there saying “hi honey, look at our baby” is straight from a psychological thriller. So creepy.

Whether it's PTSD from a previous medical experience or anxiety or paranoia I don't know, but it feels like a mental health component could explain why she could be fearful of what might have happened to her and the baby and also fearful of calling anyone.

As a nurse I have noticed people with blood pressure that high tend to be unable to make great decisions .

When I had my first baby, thank god I was at a hospital, because I was in no head space to either ask for help or communicate with anyone or make any decisions. I knew I was pregnant the entire 9 months and I knew I was having the baby that day (ish) because my water broke, and yet I was in such shock, the whole experience was so new and I am pretty sure I hiperventilated over and over due to the constant surges all through out 24 hs of labour, so I was exhausted. This woman was in labour for 48 hs? I can totally imagine then not acting right away other than with her instinct of nursing the baby... I think I would have asked for help though after resting at least

😂😂😂 I spit out my apple juice laughing when she said " Even with medical assistance she is having a baby "

I think the motherly instinct still made her care for the baby despite being in shock. I think a mothers instinct is one of the strongest things on earth

For me, I can only fathom that after suffering with infertility she thought if someone interferes what if she doesn’t get to keep the baby...like mentally/psychologically she desired being a mother SO MUCH and no one else was around when she gave birth to this baby...it was just her and her son and she wanted this SO MUCH...she just didn’t want this amazing miraculous situation to end and honestly I could see myself reacting that way before I had my 3 children if I had not known I was pregnant and then BAM gave birth 😳But not after giving birth to just my first child, or even just after going into labor with my first child like the maternal instincts kick in and baby’s well being is priority #1. I would have been more terrified of my baby not being healthy than of anything else by that point. Not passing judgement whatsoever on this lady though because I have never been in those shoes. I’m just so so grateful on behalf of this family that mama and baby are safe and healthy! That could have turned out so badly 😣

My folks and I have a drinking game for shows like this. Take a shot of water whenever the narrator says 'disturbing'. Great way to stay hydrated when you binge this kind of show lol

Honestly...I kind of get it. I've never had a kid, but I did get hit by a car. My first thoughts were "something's broken or I'm dead" and then when I was not dead and nothing was broken, I literally walked it off (I was a block from my house) and then went home, had my roommate get some gravel out of my head, found my water bottle when I realized it was missing, tried to do homework and went tf to sleep. I had the person's contact info (she insisted on driving me part way), but I never filed a report, or even followed up to get reimbursed for the backpack that got destroyed. I went to my university clinic a day later and had whiplash. So I can totally understand how during labor you have all this time to think about your choices & being in pain, and running on adrenaline. But once you're not dead and no one else is, it's like you have permission to stop worrying. So you chill out, take a nap, and then things are still fine, so why go to a doctor. They didn't help you before! Which is a concerning attitude but it makes sense.

As someone who spent years in pain and doctors claiming I was lying, looking for drugs, or “being dramatic”... I completely understand her reluctance to go to the hospital or call for help. You know you’ll sit there for hours, you know you’ll have to explain your whole health history, and there’s a real possibility that you’ll do all that and just be told “there’s nothing wrong with you” or “have you tried Advil?” and sent home. I get it. And I understand not thinking right after giving birth. She was in shock. I went into labor so fast that my body didn’t have time to adjust. From start to finish, my labor and birth took 2 hours. I was so out of it after the birth that I didn’t know what was going on. For days l wasn’t thinking clearly and couldn’t have made ANY important decisions during that time.

I said true, then again when I was pregnant with my oldest son I had bleeding every month for over half my pregnancy. My constant visits to the hospital helped me find my OB, she was amazing though even she was puzzled by my bleeding, but he was fine and came out healthy and I haven't had that happen since him.

The mix of shock and trauma she just went into autopilot and she just kinda knew “feed care I have a baby somehow”

7:37 She:and that's when I saw a head.... My brain:well...at least it's not a foot😂

I was 16 weeks pregnant when I discovered I was pregnant with my third, no symptoms, no weight gain, cycle every month. Well 26/42/30 day cycles. I was diagnosed with a subchoroinic hematoma, this bleed continued throughout the remainder of my pregnancy resulting in multiple growing scans, CTG, blood work etc etc. All was fine. I would bag this show out so hard prior to having an unexpected pregnancy, then it happened to me! Karma Train. Did I mention I’m also a Nurse surrounded by doctors everyday that also didn’t suspect my pregnancy. I felt no movement, hence the consistent weekly CTG. my surprise is now 3, she fits right in with her almost 18year old and 14 year old sister.

Ive had an ovairan cyst rupture two times - the second time I stayed home and writhed on the floor alone for hours until it subsided. When I went to emergency the first time they treated me like I was drug seeking or something and once I finally got in a room I was left alone from 11 pm to I believe 8 am. I was throwing up from pain but no one helped. By the time anyone saw me the pain had subsided for an hour at that point. Got an ultrasound and was told there was fluid like a cyst ruptured. Thats why I didnt go when I needed to the second time even though a ruptured cyst is the worst pain I've felt in my life.

she didnt want to say mistrust of medical system on tv

I understand her confusion. When I went in for what I thought was “stomach flu” it turned out my blood pressure was 210/180. I was hospitalized and it took me about 12 hours to have my daughter. She was born 10 weeks premature. Up until she came out I kept thinking I was going to go home fine. I didn’t feel that sick at all, but my brain was just not working right.

You don’t have to be traumatized by doctors to feel more confident in taking care of yourself than going to a hospital... just constantly dismissed and told your pain is no big deal.

I’m so glad you’re so compassionate to these people and give them the benefit of the doubt

Maybe she was mentally confused because of the blood pressure. Her still being able to take care of the baby was her instinct taking over. Just a thought. Adrenaline makes our bodies do amazing things.

This lady obviously was suffering from CPTSD from her previous medical procedures. It is not uncommon for trauma victims to have severe aversion to going to the hospital. This sounds like a classic case of trauma induced shock with dissociative psychosis. She endured a birth alone at home without support. Most likely assumed she was passing a mass or blood clot due to her polycystic ovary disease. This in itself would be difficult and painful. But somewhere during this she realised she was giving birth. That had to be shocking and traumatic. She acted calmly, knew enough to tie off the cord and get her baby to her breast. Then did the emotionally intuitive, instinctual thing. She took her baby to bed with her and nursed him. Let's not forget what an accomplishment this is. Birth is physically hard work. She was exhausted and emotionally spent and went to bed with her Baby. It is pretty clear that this couple deeply love and care for this much wanted child. All those infertility treatments and the years of longing for a Baby take a toll. It is not uncommon for trauma survivors to be out of touch with their bodies. It is quite possible she did not realise she was pregnant. I have seen this before where a young woman ( and her doctor!) thought she had a cyst in her ovary. Then after ultrasound it was discovered that she was pregnant. It is difficult for most people to understand when this happens. We ask questions like " How could she not know she was pregnant?" My answer is in most of these cases there has been previous trauma and the woman is cut off from her own body sensations. Often the woman is overweight, and the added weight of pregnancy goes unnoticed. Add to that a history of painful periods, cramping or polycystic ovary syndrome. And a woman who has endured multiple invasive medical procedures. Under the best of circumstances birth can be frightening and physically and emotionally traumatic. No matter how much you educate your Self and plan, the birth of your first child is physically hard work. This lady clearly thought she was just passing a mass or blood clot. And discovered she was giving birth. I think we need to be very gentle with her and not judge and trust that he did the very best she could at the time. I am so very thankful that she and her baby had a positive outcome. I will be praying that God would bless the parents with another child if that is their heart's desire. I am sending love and hugs from Washington State, USA, Jeanne of In Loving Hands Counseling and ASMR.

Had my period with my 3rd child for almost 5 months - I went to the hospital because I had some pain, they thought cyst but when they did the ultrasound it was a cyst that ruptured and also a baby lol they said it wasn't the most common thing , I had no pregnancy symptoms except my then sister in-law swearing I was pregnant, I had false home tests that agreed with my period - but there was a baby also they found out not long after that that I had severe preeclampsia We managed to make it almost all the way through my pregnancy before induction at 2 weeks before his due date. Today he is a healthy 16 Year old boy 😊

I'm from Germany and here it's called "Plötzlich Mutter". I watched this episode and it was so crazy to me. I'm so happy for the family that the little boy survived and that he's healthy. Wishing the best for them

Stories like these are why I take a pregnancy test every couple of months even though I have an IUD! 😳

Maybe she's like the rest of us and terrified of her deductible, after all many of us are 1 ER trip away from financial disaster anyway.

I think it’s more than distrust in the medical community. It’s probably a general mistrust in people - always feeling like she has to take care of things herself, embarrassed and guilty for even asking for help. That was me for years. It came from abusive relationships in my past. That coupled with shock would explain her behavior I believe. I can see that.

I have had terrible experiences with doctors and this woman's behavior makes sense to me. I have avoided getting care so often and I usually can't explain my reasoning, other than it's hard for me to trust that going to a doctor will do anything but cost me money and make me feel crazy. Docs like you are helping 😊

There are so many different reactions people have to trauma and unexpected situations, I'm not surprised she didn't tell anyone, but I'm a little surprised she waited dayS.

With distrust in the medical system she may have been thinking along the lines of 'I have had a surprised home birth. Women have babies at home all the time and without hospitals. He's breathing and I feel okay. I'm gonna keep this moment to my family.'

This video is so so so relatable as someone with adenomyosis. 5 years post hysterectomy and I still just ride ovarian cysts out at home. So often I was bedridden from laborlike contractions and never even telling anyone. And every time I'd gone to ER I was treated poorly- I was always sooo scared of this

I couldn't even come close to imagine what that must be like. I'm a 33 yr old dude, and if I was having stomach problems and had no idea I was pregnant, than instead of being constipated I look down and I see a baby head!!!!! Mannnnn, the human body is cray cray.

Am I the only one that’s wondering what she did with the placenta??? 😂

I almost fell out of my chair when she said she just had the baby and waited 2 days to show her husband first!! 😱😱

I have PCOS and had maybe a half dozen instances of unimaginably painful (like, pass-out-in-public, I-might-be-dying, worse-than-kidney-stones painful) bursting cysts. However, once I was diagnosed and put on a birth control pill, that symptom improved dramatically. I still have some ovarian pain on occasion, but it's much more manageable. I just wanted to mention it, because every time I watch this video, when MDJ says that PCOS shouldn't cause excruciating pain, my immediate response is, "well, that hasn't been my experience!"

I get it. I told my doctor about the female issues I was having and was told it was because I was overweight. So many doctors told me it was all in my head. Aaannnd .... I had stage 4B uterine cancer. At 32. Was given a few months to live, but I fought and am 46 now. Screw the medical system.

I'm a therapist and I work mostly with moms with postpartum mood disorders. It honestly sounds to me like she had a severe trauma response. I'd be curious to know if she ever had treatment for postpartum PTSD.

I loved how she said "even with medical assistance... We're having a baby!" 😂❤️

These reactions are my favorite! Because I didn’t know I was pregnant for 2 of my pregnancy’s for way past normal! My 1st child I was only 17 and I had lost an ovary at 11 and knew nothing..I assumed I was going to struggle with getting pregnant some day and I never had a normal period. I’d go months and months without one and because I’d only had sex once I didn’t know. I gained almost no weight. It wasn’t until 12 days before I had her that I got a severe kidney infection that sent me to the er passing out in pain. The dr said “how far along are you and I said, “what!?! I’m not pregnant” and that dr looked at me like I was nuts and told me that I was due any time and she couldn’t believe I couldn’t feel my uterus under my ribs. I think I was just so scared and blind to things at that age that my own mind wouldn’t let me even think I was pregnant. I was also suffering serious mental health problems because I’d had severe panic attacks, anxiety and depression and the year prior I went from having my mom dad and 2 sisters living together, one happy family to my dad leaving us on my 16th birthday, my mom having a total mental breakdown and my sister and I living in my car with nobody to care for us and me having to take care of her because I was the older of us 2 and my oldest sister at 21 being diagnosed with breast cancer at that time. Needless to say I was not mentally well and somehow my body did not register with reality for me and I had no idea I was about to have a baby. I went to an obgyn the next day and they put my due date as 8 days later and I went 12 days and was induced. The second time I was 27 and had to have a cryo surgery for precancerous cells found on my pap and they’d tested me the day of my surgery which was negative. About 8 weeks after my surgery I was still having a lot of cramping and was still spotting and was told it was all normal. I hadn’t had sex because I was so afraid to after the surgery and went 4 months like this. I started noticing the belly getting bigger and boobs hurting and so on and said there was no way I could be pregnant because I hadn’t had sex since surgery and I was negative on a pregnancy test the day I had surgery. Well, I went back to the dr and found out I was 6 1/2 months pregnant and I had gotten pregnant right before my surgery and since the test was done too soon it showed up negative and I’d thought all the symptoms had been from my surgery! My 3rd I knew when that pee test barely had a line and the 2 miscarriages I had I also knew very quickly. It’s funny both of my daughters were surprises like this but my son and 2 male miscarriages were all very noticeable pregnancies

I would be interested to see a psychologist's thoughts on why she didn't go in to the hospital for two days. At first it seemed like she just had a lot of bad experiences with medical staff/hospitals, but after the baby was born and she had days I wonder if there was a mental health issue going on