Office Politics - How to Deal with Difficult People at Work 

If you get a chance, check out a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook. I think it will answer your question.

Hi, I work in a environment where I am projected as Manager to the client company but I have to report to a person who is having similar experience as mine, and I can tell you that guy is Jealous of me, He tries everything under the sun not give me credit or promotion. Client is happy with my work . But person I report to Bad mouths about me. How do you think I should handle such situation.

Hi Linda. Your so beautiful from the inside and pretty on the outside. My first situation where I had to deal with a harder person was when I worked for BYCC as weed wacker and the sun shined on me very bright while I chopped grass. Suddenly, I begun to lose my energy so I dropped the weed wacker and walked to a strong tall tree drinking cold water. The supervisor in an angry voice said, "Who's that not working?" Most of the employees pointed at me. The supervisor stormed over towards me and loudly said, "You don't want to work, go home!" That's all I needed to hear plus I didn't like the way he spoke to me because It's not that I didn't want to work the strenuous labor position he didn't understand that I had a major problem which was the cause of my behavior. I threw the weed wacker in the air that flipped then as it fell on the grass making a thump, I hoped it didn't hit anybody on the head. I walked off the plantation field and went home. P.S. From that point on, I've been hired at many job positions and not keeping them. I don't believe I didn't keep my jobs because of Social Anxiety that was not the reason I left my first position. Everything happens for a reason. For an example, I worked at Stop & Shop as a stocker, Star Market as a bagger, Walmart as a People's Greeter, UPS as a Package Handler, A & T Taxi as a driver ect. and I've enrolled in so many online colleges currently taking Small Business Management at Ashworth College. When I traveled from one city and state to another, my cousin thinks I'm crazy who completely shuts me out of his life. Out of all of this bad employment history, dropping out of school and everybody like my aunt who attempted to get me into accounting worked out for me. In 2016 I designed my independent organization out of the Supplemental Security Income Program called Internal Intelligence Agency LLC as my new brand name where I'm in the process of developing my Professional Home Office.

Thank you!

Make a diplomatic deal with the colleagues to Avoid conflicts...

Mooncelt listen!! This is where I’m at!

Mooncelt I agree because I go through this!

Exactly

True

In my case, I am frustrated due to my arrogant, micro managing, over pressuring, demeaning boss

Exactly! How do u make a jealous idiot with low self-esteem (=narcissist) to leave you alone 😫😫😫

M Ra : Unless the person is a boss/supervisor or they are abusive or harassing (contributing to a hostile work environment) it’s best to politely detach and ignore the ignorance. Practice mindful compassion. The ridiculous coworker indulging in loud long personal telephone conversations clearly craves attention. Politely ignore her. The self-important idiot who interrupts your unpaid lunch with simplistic, non-time sensitive requests needs gentle correction (as many times as it takes). The sorry excuse for a man who insists on giving you the once-over as you exit the restroom is a substandard human JOKE. Sometimes we’re the toxic coworker intentionally or not.

A new co worker makes me feel less than because the supplies finish after I have to use them for cleaning. He is in charge of bringing in more supplies but talks down on me for running out. And my boss is his brother and doesn’t corrects this. He actually wants me to use less of the cleaning supplies and backs him up.... what can I do to put a stop to this? Sue??? CA

So true

Patty Loves : cooperate with your boss. If he insists you use fewer supplies, do so. If the workplace is less clean it’s management’s responsibility to correct that.

Been there.

True how to deal with it

Relateable

@@sweetyreddy8118 change to another company or different group of people in the same organization

Any company that don't notice doesn't worth your time leave

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Lots of psychos and people with dictatorial tendencies in the workplace.

I hear you. 😅

😄😄😄😄😄

Paychos is all we need to know.

It MUST be a virus!!!! Im being sabatoged at work. Crazy. I dont know what to do. Im always defending myself...

It sure is. If you get the chance, read The Hatchet Man's Playbook. Absolutely spot on.

💯💯💯💯

There’s a great read, “The No Asshole Rule.” It’s short and too the point about recognizing toxic workplaces and people, and practicing coping skills. Ultimately it’s usually best to move on from a truly hostile work environment.

That’s a great way of looking at it! I’m gonna start doing the same.

Not entirely true. Although i wish it was like you discussed.

Mocha Leeshus you must work with true professionals

How though? Human interaction is needed in a workplace.

Mocha Leeshus I’ve done that so far. Then I stayed home for 2 days because I was sick. I was told by a coworker that I was being talked about negatively at work. THEN... I tried to contact this coworker that told me this and she is not answering me back. So.... I’m scared to return to work. People suck.

@@kp-rh2mo and also if you don't interact, they would complain that you did not communicate with them

Me too, but ppl still hates me and gossiping about me... just because I’m not one of them... lady coworkers in particular...

Yes..that is my problem im facing now... Huhuhuhu!😢

Focus on your work, your growth, tune off the gossip.

Mimibchugy - Ich Furz wie eine große Trompete. Vollen Klang, wie ein Kaiser Furz.

This is exact

I have been at my new job for 1.5weeks now.. nobody speaks to me so I just stay in my office.. I mean I don’t know them and they don’t know me so why be like that??? I don’t understand it.. I’m also pretty so it’s just.. I don’t know..😔

I don't agree with this as well. You have to be noticed, yes. But propping yourself up as the incredibly reliable, competent one can work against you because if you are promoted, you are essentially going to make the clowns in upper management look bad. You are now a threat to them.

Great idea. So HOW EXACTLY are investing smart or building assets? You are just like the other 1000 people who says the same super vague things and not revealing any specifics.

AthenaCannon Accumulate the money, then be an owner not a consumer.

Hot_Pockets_3 EDC most people can’t get past the accumulate stage.

@Hot_Pockets_3 EDC - Actually, they can still encounter office drama in the meantime ~ while saving and building. Miserable people *always* have time to suck others into their misery.

@@AthenaCannon exactly

People couldn't handle the mind games at work, they snap ✔️💵💥

Isn't that the truth!

People quit bcz it's out of control of Thier mind. I cry alone thinking how much i had to go through and still going through. Our own people expect us to adjust and compromise bcz of money.

I thought the same thing about number #1. From my perspective, depending on the type of environment you work in, being a superstar and setting yourself apart especially if it's recognized by the managers, is an easy way to bring work drama right to your door. Been there and done that.

So true. They don't want the competition. They want someone subservient and "dumber" than them so as to not outshine them. The problem is when you know your supervisor is dumber than you. It's just so inslulting.

This right 👍👍

so literally just do what youre paid to do

J J Wow... so sorry to hear that. Have you found another job yet?

Would you have advice if someone is let go for fraternizing? What would you say was the reason and some examples

@J J - View that as a blessing! Honestly, did you really want to stay in that environment of bullying and office politics?! They did you a favor. Now, share your expert capabilities to another organization via a temp agency (if necessary), as a consultant, or a volunteer. You have a lot to offer! Remember: Don't throw pearls to swine. Few people can recognize or appreciate greatness real time. Be grateful and share your talents where they are needed and appreciated!

J J: Unfortunately that what happened to good employees.

J J hope that all is well...

Restaurants and Office related jobs are different. I can't agree with your comment entirely because it is bias. Some are harder to stay while others is easy to stay, then move onto another.

Simple huh? It doesnt work that way. Some get harrassed!

@@wmc3260 make it simple then, you do not need extra complication in your life besides family problems. I can see that you haven't been bullied in your school days or you still have not learned how to handle bullies. Ignore them as we can't control what is not ours, their actions, mouths, etc are theirs. Just do yours, care for your own goals and move on. Don't even waste a second of precious time on them ut focus on your goals. Work gets harder since they keep harassing you? The management won't do anything and you felt you're stressed and getting health problems? Then think hard, what your goal in working for. If it is for income or career or both, do your current job, ignoring them and during break or after work, go job hunting and find the next job. If every job you went to, you get harassed, then time to reflect about yourself.

Yes, thank God I don't have to work with these ppl everyday because I'm out in the field

@@saariaaigner your right I was bullied I would ignore then I would skip class that way everybody was happy.

Absolutely!!!

It will affect health?..

@Angel Wings I know what you mean. I worked as admin in social work services and the managers were so bad and supportive. People would gossip and tattle on me over every little thing I did

Angel Wings : you are so right! I have experienced this on a number of jobs. Your metal health is not important!

I feel sick, exhausted and had chest pains today. Yes, it will eventually destroy your health.

@Cheryl Goldsworthy - Ha, initially I read that as "I got a new dictator." Thanks for the laugh (although I read it wrong), I needed that today!

Oh yeah. No surprise. EVERY TIME there is a change in management there are always mass firing regardless of departmental effienficency. They will lie to you and tell you there will be no firings , how they don't want to kill the goose that lays the golden eggs, but really all they want is for you to stay there long enough to teach them your job. (Check out a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook.)

EntyseOnline There is too much corruption on the jobs.

So true

Honestly HR seems like a dummy clown that’s put there to give employees a false sense of safety “We’re here for you as long as you work like a dog”

Sunny Palms Sunny palms I totally agree, the normal rules of human interaction definitely do not apply with these people, they’ll destroy you and enjoy it

That is why I packed my bags and now deal with goofy goats instead! Oh and those are real farm animals and not people. The fun part is watching the babies go nuts! I think the trade off is awesome. Of did I mention I am the boss? Lol

Sunny Palms I think people shouldn’t higher a psychopath/sociopath/narcissist/anti-social people, why should anyone have to deal with their issues.

This is so true!! Aaaaaaaaand usually the person ro stay is the sociopath! They die there! Meanwhile the company has lost so much talent along the way because they turned a blind eye to the real problem. I think anyone who is reading this who is in higher management. If you have a team that is constantly losing people to turnover but one person stays constant, you have to start taking a closer look at the common denominator in all these scenarios. That MAY be where your problem lies!!

Leaving my work mar the fact that have no job yet I just want to leave... I lost myself esteem depression cos of the constant bully I needed the money so bad that I had to endour the pain and the abuse..I am seeing a therapist now they're vampires 3 and half years ago I had a dream about the company after my interview with the boss I should've quit then and dreams keep on repeating for like 3time

I agree totally! Jealousy is the reason... others will subvert your successes and will not stop until you leave !

Yikes! Hang in there... keep doing your good work. That really will back you up. Use it as a push to always do better. :)

And tell her that you admire the work that she has done for all of those years. Maybe she’s threatened and a compliment or two will make her leave you alone. :) just an advice that I would give my son your age. I mean if you’re still at that workplace. Always have this tricks up your sleeve. Like a magician!

Congrats

Awesome much Success

Everyone wants to take down the big dog haha. Be it fear, jealousy, envy, or an inferiority complex, everyone has a reason it seems. I've found the solution really depends on finding the reasons that people act the way they do towards you. Most people you can just laugh it off or makes jokes about it with said people. Other people (The hostel ones that are afraid of your strength or skill), you have to firmly and swiftly do one of two things. You can either assert your dominance (In a professional way), or make them think they have nothing to worry about. Most people can be easily manipulated once you know what their personality is like.

@@jimbob-ic5kc Thats a good one. How do you make them think there is nothing to worry about ?

The only people not affected by office politics are the really mediocre ones who just take orders and stay in the background all the time.

@@biggreenbananas8929 There are videos on "ghosting" - good word, isn't it. I think the assumption that compels one to ghost is that all workplaces are toxic; therefore one should be as invisible as possible. Be competent, but feign mediocrity? .

Duncan Trout When people see you as competent and you act and talk competent and brandish your competence at everyone like a trophy, be prepared to simmer in heated office politics.

June Brown Right

Same! I've had such a hard time at my job earlier in the year.. unfair managers.. the environment was just toxic.. however I've learnt so much from that experience, it made me grow

did not change they thinking. They hard head.

AGREEEE

I think this video is HR's philosophy: blame the victim.

When you are their target, wonder why. Not everyone becomes a target for jealousy.

@@qwertzuiopasdfish true...

Even a super STAR or subject matter expert (SME) can’t be saved???

I mean your videos were very helpful for me, now I am facing same problem, 👍👏 so I will try this 4 Strategies, so you are Amazing

That is on its way!

They won't last long.

Quit!

Leave

Time to look somewhere