“I cheated because he may have cheated” is the dumbest excuse. This is the pettiest bullshit I have seen. You shouldn’t be in a relationship, you should be in therapy
there is no way that op is expecting help from anyone when it 's clear they fault. i don't blame op's ex for breaking up with op. open is just needs to move on and leave their ex alone
"My fiance found out and broke up with me, my fiance ruined our relationship, I'm scared my fiance would cheat on me (they already broke up btw so technically it's not cheating)" Post starts with "i take full responsibility" lmao wtf is this sh*t, i don't want to live on this planet anymore
1. I'd do anything! Try not cheating next time. 2. You aren't taking responsibility. 3. The boyfriend isn't revenge cheating if he dumped your cheating ass. 4. You are the problem, you will always be the problem and you shouldn't be in a relationship until you realise that.
Story 2, one day, op will get a call from his brother telling him that Adam tried to do something to his wife. Only then will your brother understand how screwed up Adam is.
Story 2: NTA. The fact Stephen wants Adam to be his best man AND around his future wife is very telling. Just don't go to that wedding at all. I fear that something terrible will eventually happen to Julia (Stephen's fiance) 😢
That is not true at at all OP says he distanced himself from Adam in college and only ignored him because his wife begged him to it says so at 16:38 does nobody actually pay attention to the story.
@@UnrealityMatrix he said he 'distanced' himself not that he called him out or shunned him in any way. He was just as complicit by not publicly withdrawing support for an abuser. Even if he was never arrested or convicted he knew he was guilty of statutory rape and date rape and he still enabled him and allowed him access to the women he was associated with and never spoke up or did anything about it until it affected him personally. He IS TA, not because he is shunning him but because he's only shunning him NOW and not from the beginning when he found out he statutorily raped a minor and date raped younger girls all through college.
@@sweeety969 He did call it out often everytime he did Adam squirmed away with "it's just a joke dude lighten up" or Steven said something to the effect of "Adam is just dark like that". There just never was something drastic he could do. It's fine for you to feel disappointed that Adam didn't get a real consequence until he did something he couldn't play off. But it's not fair to put all that on OP because he didn't immediately go all SJW John Wick on speculation. Because at no point in time was he ever shown explicit proof until Adam did something to his wife.
Absolutely. Men like him who knows shit but do nothing about are just as complicit. Look at the shit with P Diddy now. EVERYBODY KNEW and most people ignored it or joked around about it... Completely destroyed an entire music genre. Because even if they didn't partake, most of the people in that industry-in that genre at the very least- knew and were complicit in their silence. Usher, Diddy Jay Z, 50 cent, the Weeknd, literally every big hip-hop artist and even some peripheral artists, like Justin Bieber implicated. No one knows how far this even goes. I know this is an extreme example but it's in the news lately and is topical but it happens everywhere, all the time, and even in similar scales. Look at Dan Schneider and the Nickelodeon scandals, or the Mr Beast shit now...
Well if he sleeps with someone NOW it would not be cheating because he already dumped her. Might be s little hurtful how quickly he moved on, but OP already hurt him worse. OP is dense.
Story 1: "I'm takimg full responsibility. No excuses." Proceeds to make a ton of excuses, and blame the, now ex, partner she cheated on. The OP is so delusional I think all that stuff her coworkers supposedly told her is just a lie she convinced herself of to try to justify her cheating. Story 2: OP needs to avoid the wedding and go LC with his brother and mother. Adam is a threat, and Stephen is an enabler and apologist. Mom is more interested in the appearance of a happy family then the safety of the family members.
OP is dumb. She's blaming everyone too. Her childhood, her boss, even her ex for not being there.. And she doesnt even have the decency to think what's best for him, just herself. " I cant leave him because I love him"
Honestly the OP deserves to be alone. And funnily enough the security guard she cheated with hit the nail on the head with her. “You say one thing but you do another” she’s untrustworthy because she’s proven she doesn’t even trust the people she claims to love. Even in the last comment she learned nothing, “I still believe he cheated, but even if he didn’t before he definitely will now”
🤣🤣how’s is he ruining yall relationship when you cheated how delulu do you sound the moment you cheated you ARE THE ONE WHO RUINED THE RELATIONSHIP not him
@@cameron765it’s less about dating someone who has trauma and more about someone who doesn’t want to heal or help themselves. In op’s case, she’s a literal attention whore, she constantly uses her own trauma as an excuse.
Story 1 ...... He works as a model from what to what assuming hes cheats and op cheats with so many dudes for attention and now wants help uhh hate to break it but yea no recovery if you want attention so badly get it from someone else before you ruin that as well under the same excuse
1st story holy shit op fcked up badly and their partner needs to leave them now. the lack of talking things out in this story is stupid. 2nd story title alone makes me nervous.... verdict on story not the asshole at all OP is justified to do as he wishes to protect his wife and his child, going NC with asshole who touched his wife is the best thing he can do and if no one accepts that they also can be on the NC list.
Assume makes an ass out of you and me, you shouldn’t assume things. Like someone else said it’s not cheating if he dumped you and your in the wrong but in your head you probably didn’t think you was worthy of him as he’s too good for you. Plus you shouldn’t listen to people and go and see a psychologist to get your head sorted out. Plus tour boss was saying that he cheated to get you into bed and it worked.
