She didn’t say it’s their ‘fault’. But it does still have everything to do with that person. They made the decision not to reciprocate; they set their own standards. So if they don’t like you back, YOU shouldn’t feel insecure about YOURSELF. Their feelings have nothing to do with you.
One of the things i learned in a relationship is to be your genuine self from the start. Then if they don’t love you as you love them you have nothing to worry about because you were being yourself the whole time. They just weren’t the one. If you ever think “i have to be more this..” or “i have to be more that…” than you’re straying off the path of authenticity, and you need authenticity for a successful long term relationship.
Yep! I’m glad I learned this young too. Don’t run after people who say they don’t want to be with you and don’t try to force people into relationships if they say they don’t want one. BOTH people should want to be with each other.
Yes indeed and i think that she has a sensitive and warm personality, i know someone who 's looking like her. Scientists has found that people who Look similar also have the same personality and that girl who's looking like her has the same way of speaking same body language, warm personality and intelligent too 🙂
Some people just won’t like you. I think people need to first be secure in themselves before even getting into “love” and all. Just cause you like/love someone doesn’t mean it has to be reciprocated. They may not find you attractive, they may not like your personality, they may prioritise other things in life and they may just not envision a life with you. It’s fine. Not end of life.
I couldnt have said it better! It kinda annoys me she said its has nothing to do with her and it has EVERYTHING to do with them... That is a recepie to never improve yourself.. Learn to love youself and then people can love you and ALLWAYS leave room open for improvment your never perfect and you never will be but the imperfections make you unqiue and sepcial
A lot of what people look for in a partner is really superficial. So she is right that it’s degrading. And it is degrading even if they find you hot because often times they want you just cause of how you look rather than the person you are. So it can be degrading either way
@@neelrl3676Oh plz cut the crap ! Except for personality we need not improve anything if people don't find you pretty enough will you go on and get plastic surgery done on your face? If yes I feel sorry for you. If people can't love us for who we are we don't need such people
We love who we love, don't waste a single breath on those who reject you, they spend their whole life rejecting people and in the end they are alone, breathe with the people who want to breathe with you, smile with you and love life with you❤❤
No one is forced to feel what the other feels, but starting a relationship with someone without liking the person enough for that is such a toxic behavior, affective responsibility is very important, those who are not aware of this end up making a lot of people suffer for someone who doesn't deserve it.
I think what she is referring to, is being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t love you as much as you should be loved or you think you should be loved. You tend to put the blame on yourself and think that you are the reason they don’t love you to the extent that they should or as much as you love them.
I feel this, it hurts even more when you're with that person and you see them treating another woman with more grace and love than they do with you, it used to be a constant "deer in the headlights" situation. The kind where you see their behavior is different from the behavior you get from them but you can't move. Once I took myself out of that environment and could no longer see their actions and betrayal, I was no longer hurting as much and the only pain I could feel were the thoughts/imaginations I created in my own mind. What you can't see, can't hurt you. It's only what you create in your own head that will cause you more pain and suffering.
I needed this when I was in a relationship. Now it’s over and I feel happier now. Knowing that I no longer have to worry about if he still loves me, because I loved him a lot. And I was I think draining myself thinking about this person that no longer is apart of my life and I’m happy about it.
i'm loving my girl but she doesn't love me back like she used to before i don't know what problem is i'm asking her that if she is okay she says 'm okay but she's always gives cold and short responses
And the fact that they don’t feel the same way should be respected and accepted. Trying to force that individual into a relationship because of how you feel only perpetuates self-hatred and despair because inevitably you will not extract for them what you so desire.
It hurts to hear, I've had 9 rejections in two years and have been so lost obviously to see and feel that. But I'm now trying to embrace my flaws and break loose hopefully :)
Maybe just don't confess to every single person you have a crush on before you even spend a lot of time with them. How do you even like 9 different people in the span of two years?
Gimme a break ok 😭@@Allyfyn Well, I just kinda move on whenever my heart tells me… Indeed it seems that my reputation is ruined but once I reach uni Ill make sure no one knows of my past and only the true ones who care Abt me will know and accept.
Quit chasing Chad. He’s never going to “love” you or commit to you. And that’s exactly why you respect him. You girls always waste your youth - and all your best children (eggs) - getting passed around by the local Chads, meanwhile ignoring your perfectly good husband, then taking your perfectly good DNA to your grave with you. There is an incredible Holocaust going on right now: all you dumb chicks are NOT MAKING BABIES
It hurts, but the best thing that can happen is getting rejected by someone who doesn't feel the way you feel about them. Then you have opportunity to someone who will love you the way you deserved to be loved
I love how you explain this because a person that I was with a month ago tried to change and tried to do all these things, but it wasn’t about them. It was about me, and they couldn’t see that when I ended the relationship, they didn’t understand.
"DEGRADING" that is 100 💯% the most accurate spot on word, to describe how that feels. it really is degrading to love someone and they only reject you s d .ndd ñ
If you wanna hear it from a guys perspective. There’s so much pressure on us, there always has been but now it’s worse than ever. Some guys just become detached from it all and just don’t care anymore. That doesn’t mean it’s your fault. Or that he doesn’t actually love you. He’s just lost.
i think for a guy a true relationship is like a job interview where the guy gets so exhausted trying to keep the girl happy that eventually he gives up the chase.
This is exactly how I feel, but I use it to better myself, whenever something doesn’t go right, it’s because I wasn’t good enough and I need to be better.
Agreed. This “it’s always on them and nothing to do with you” mentality is a terrible message that breeds narcissism. It leads people to believe that they are flawless and have no reason to ever self-reflect or hold themselves accountable. The reality is, sometimes it really isn’t about you, but other times, you may very well be the cause of it. If someone doesn’t love you because you exhibit toxic behavior, then it isn’t on them. Very disappointing to see so many impressionable people in comments buying into this crap.
@@windowsVDwell yeah, i think most of the people in the comments are people who have done nothing wrong to that person and only wanted to love them unconditionally, but they simply didn’t feel the same way, i think that’s the people who this video is intended for
Loving and having strong feelings that range from anger, fear, worry, inadequacy are very different. So many people walk around relying on another to validate them or they cant sit alone. It starts there. You can't love someone and say if only i were prettier or whatever. That's just egos and basic attraction at work. There is 0 fear in love. 0. If that doesn't seem right, stop worrying about you and your feelings and do good and respect yourself. Be and do good with boundaries and love finds u
Have peace within yourself first, because most people don’t, be great, don’t settle for someone feeding you scraps, feed yourself, with good, beautiful things.
Actually its all on you, for not being prettier & funnier & more interesting. Thats not asking much, and you should be ashamed of yourself for not trying harder. Maybe you should come to terms you deserved whatever treatmenr you got? 😂😅
Olivias good way of expressing the hard shit we dont want to hear and conveys it into such a heart-filled saying thats soft and comfortable what an empathetic
Sorry that he they hurt you whoever that person was will be thinking of you for the rest of their life of the mistakes they made not to see how beautiful you are, your beauty your beautiful voice your very expressive eyes.
No one will love u the way u love. Everyone loves their way. Love is when two ppl accept each other and let be with each other, and where u can openly talk abt ur own feelings w/o a blame, and hear each other.
You can’t force people to love you, you can try to love yourself and that’s the only thing that should matter, because it’s HARD. Trust me I know, and i think this is what she’s saying too.
I just went thru that and it's just suffocating. And also I still love him but I'm trying to be over him cuz he doesn't deserve my genuine love and also he isn't worth it to lose myself over him. I hope I just get that but idk I just can not do that..
i am in the same exact situation. It's been a month since he left me. No matter what i did to move on, my feelings and love for him still remain the same. It's destroying me.
No one can ever love you the same way that you love them... facts over feelings... Us men care less about your looks then you may think.. Being prettier wont change that person...
If the person doesn't love you the same way then you are only in love with the idea of loving that person. There is a big difference and you have to be able to understand it. It takes two in order to be in love and not one.
Is ok to offer your heart.....and they leave....... need to be strong and let them go this is a true act of love is let them be happy....they have learned from you... something that in the future will remind of you ❤
It’s a good thing. Now he can go find the person he loves and you know he is not your husband and can find who is, cos if he was your husband he will love/want you. 😊
I will NEVER change for anyone ever again. I will not look passed lies or deceit any longer. If you paint me a picture, there is no more erasing and starting the painting again, you already painted it, you are who you are - that's a YOU problem, not a ME problem, and i know my worth now. Thank you.
It’s best to leave and find someone that’s interested in you and is willing to treat you with love and respect you don’t need to be prettier or more interesting a guy that appreciates you for who you are and already sees how pretty, amazing, and interesting you already are
Don’t ever try to change who you are for anyone else you just need to be you be confident in who you are what you are what you like what you do. And if the other person does not see you fully and doesn’t want to see you fully then they’re not for you move on, yes it is
