I'm an ugly man. I am in my sixties now. I have never had a relationship. It used to bother me, but now I'm not interested anymore. I live on my own which I prefer, and I do things that I like. You have a good sense of humor and that's a quality. Some people are shallow, they put great emphasis on looks and beauty. Some attractive people are good people too. They don't judge. I like you.
I actually have been in a sexual relationship before, but I haven't really felt secure enough in myself or prepared enough in other things to try to go for an actual relationship. I'm like you, I've already given up, and I'm on a mission to not let it bother me and just be a good person. Thank you!
@@ACrownofFlowers Thanks Gabe for your kind words. You have to do what is right for you. I was a people pleaser always seeking approval from people. I found that when I did that , some people would expect me to always be that way. Also people would take advantage.
@@ACrownofFlowers I know what you mean. I struggle at times. I used to beat myself up. I dont do that anymore. Do good things that make you happy. At least I'm not In an abusive relationship with someone. Some people are, and they are trapped. Be kind to yourself and have people that you feel comfortable with in your life. Don't associate with people who you don't feel comfortable with. It's very important. Best Wishes to you Gabe..I know how you feel, it's hard, but keep positive.
@@carltwidle9046 thank you so much, Carl. It's nice to see that there's someone with direct experience of what I'm talking about from a very similar situation.
I have learnt to accept how I am. I have a disfigured face with scarring on my head and face. People are put off by my face. What happened to me wasnt my fault. People stare at me sometimes, but I'm used to it now. They are only thinking what happened to me to get the scarring. Good hearing you. From Carl in New Zealand.
@@Kierispet159 Thank you, I do accept it but there was a time where I would get upset. I remember looking at myself in the mirror and thinking how ugly I look. I became an alcoholic because I was unhappy. That's behind me now, and I am sober. And have been for a number of years. My life is better.
@@Kierispet159 I do have a good friend and we get together for a coffee and a chat. People sometimes stare at me but I'm used to it now. Thanks for your kind words. From Carl.
I’m from the Bronx and know ugly! It’s how people treat each other that makes them ugly. My friend your not ugly, your a gift of God here to teach the ignorant. God bless you!!
I really appreciate that you think that about my videos. I know some of the things I say are controversial, but I always try to be nuanced at the same time.
You're not ugly at all man, you seem like a very kind and understanding soul, and if people can't appreciate that then that is their own issue. For you to get on here and talk about things so personal to you, truly shows how much stronger of an individual you are than any of them. Being different is a good thing, as it allows you to see the true faults our society so easily dismisses as being "out of place". If you ask me, I think you will make an amazing spokesperson, you're words meant a lot to me, and it's not often a video comes across my recommended that I actually sit through. Thanks for sharing with the world, because the world certainly needs more people such as yourself!
Fuck man this broke my heart. You seem very smart and articulate, this world is just brutal. Wish you the best my man, happiness is possible for you don't give up on it completely.
Please keep making these videos man. Very very few of us have heard your perspective. Very honest with no sugar coating. Its been very impactful to watch your videos and it's only the 2nd one.
All those gals that change how they act around you just because of how you look will forever struggle in their search for a “Perfect man,” keep improving yourself. We are continents apart but I promise you this, if I ever had the pleasure of meeting you in person I would treat you no different to any other Joe on the street. You seem well-mannered and a joy to be around. Carry on brother 💪
I’m going to be honest. I’m not sure why RU-vid recommended this video to me but I’m happy I was able to find your channel bro. I know it’s hard but never let others judge you based on appearance. I just want you to know that those people don’t matter to someone that’s has an amazing soul likes yours bro. You truly have something that will never fade but only grow with the more you experience in life. You are beautiful dude and I hope you never feel differently.
I’ve come across a lot of people who are considered “attractive” but when you know more about them, you realize how ugly they are as a person. You’re such an awesome and beautiful person that it would be stupid for someone to ignore that about you. Keep that light in you bro and don’t let anyone bring you down.
@@ACrownofFlowers I’ll quote DemiDemi who said “Tough times never last, only tough people last” Ik it can be rough at times but we must keep going man. There’s people out there who appreciate you and see you for who you truly are, those are the people we gotta keep going for :D
Thank you, I appreciate it. And yes, it's more just about people not really interacting that much with us. We automatically fear what we don't understand.
dude, you're smarter than me and you have a lot going on, your philosophy is wonderful and your perspective gives you significantly more depth of heart and understanding than most. You're funny and thoughtful. I am an autistic girl, and while its not anywhere near as obvious, I have been called the r-word and while I laughed it off it lingers with me for a long time. people think im not smart because of getting overwhelmed. You have a perspective worthy of writing about fr, you could write good stuff, videos is good too. The obligation to be kind is important to me, and its gotten me hurt. You're funny, I wonder if you like memes. I like dank memes lots. Thank you lots
Thank you so much for your support. I'm glad to hear it seems like we've been through similar experiences. Neurotypical people seem to think that just because our brains don't operate exactly as theirs do at all times that we are dumb. I do enjoy dank memes a lot-and you're welcome. I also like that you have Dot from Animaniacs as your profile pic.
You're not ugly, the difficulties you have to go through are though and I hope life hasnt been too tough on you, keep your head up man hope it all gets better
Hey man I can relate to you on a level. Being a little plump in my teenage years, I am literally invisible to people especially boys in my college. Iam underestimated by very much everybody until I topped my university not once but thrice. After that awkward teenage phase and losing some weight, I can feel me being overwhelmed by the attention Iam receiving from both genders. I kinda like the attention but I feel like I'm missing my freedom from before. It's like I'm under 24-hr surveillance now. I didn't even know that I was invisible until then. Now that I'm a bit fat again, I can feel that attention withdrawal. I love the hypocrites being out of the bag man. But again, there are few rare people who treated me the same every day and there's my family who love me to the moon and back. Honestly, I don't want to associate with shallow people. Beauty can be a double-edged sword my friend. Hope you will find that someone who loves you for you. Not for your appearance, money, or any other thing. Because every innocent and good person deserves someone to love them like that.
💗💗Thank you dearly for sharing your truth Darling! You are incredibly charismatic and brilliantly insightful! I am currently watching all of your videos today! Subscribed! 💗💗
My friend, you’re not ugly, you’re a beautiful soul living in an ugly world. You’ll meet a good friend, a wonderful woman in your life, don’t lose hope, you have a good heart, don’t let this ugly world screw with it
Though possibly, saying this out if pity is not much kinder then just outright speaking the truth. Sure he may find love so on so fourth, but it's going to take a very unique situation and person for this to happen. Woman can be cruel as sin to guys they deem undesirable and they are programmed regardless of virtue signaling they may do, to want the best they can get and being a kind guy who's wholesome is usually not even a factor and if it os, it's after the initial sexual attraction. So maybe don't offer up false hope.
Dude, you are not ugly. You have a medical handycap, but that does not make you ugly. You are kind and have a good heart and that makes you beautiful. I’m sorry people can be such assholes.
Man you are so brave, you're not ugly and sometimes people just don't know how to interact with something they don't understand. Keep your head up, you seem awesome!
Yeah, I understand. I hold no malice towards the people I talked about in this video, it's just frustrating. In fact, the one girl that I talked to I saw again about 7 months after making this video to give her a graduation gift that I got her.
Im an ugly girl and this is really a horrible way to live. You dont like look at the mirror, cant make friends, cant have a relationship. Everyone is beautiful or average people. I feel sometimes ashmed to just live in this body with ugliness. I hope people like us find the peace to live. Wish you good luck man.
Same to you. I have personally adopted a philosophy of life which seeks to let go of all desire, and I feel like that's the best way for people like us to move forward. Just remember that the moment you decide you don't want to live is the moment that they win.
Same here. Im 16 and as a teenager i wanna experience having a boyfriend or going out with friends, but i am Always so ashemed and i feel pathetic even just for asking someone out. I have a crush on a boy, he Is really pretty and he Is a good person, i dont think he would ever judge me, but everytime i walk in front of him, i cover my face and try to be as small as possible so he wouldnt notice me. Ive Always wanted to talk to him or write to him, but his life is full of beatiful people and i just dont fit in it. I had a group of friends, whenever they wanted to take a pic or whatever, i had Always said that i am shy, but in reality i Just cant stand how i look. Eventually, I ended the relationship with them cause i felt like nothing compared to them. I just was the funny one cause it's the only thing i could be. I tried to change my style, my hair, i tried any kind of makeup, but that just made me feel worse. We're not alone, we're just in the wrong place. We don't need people with judging eyes in our lives, even if we are the first to judge ourselves. Let's love ourselves for who we are and spend every drop of sweat on us, we are worth it. ❤️
@@U9YYE3Agreed. That picture thing is too relatable. One time a girl in middle school asked me to take a picture with her, and I did. She said she was going to post it online, but I literally saw her delete it right in front of me. I also tell people that I'm shy taking pictures, but in reality I just don't like the way I look. Stay strong gals. Don't let anyone gaslight you about your own existence.
@@ACrownofFlowers I'm glad there are people outside that feel the same as me, even if it is kinda sad. Thank you for your kind words, keep It up, we got It ❤️
One thing I’ve had even to learn about my father and fathers in general the way the father’s love is different from mother’s love. In a sense a mother loves you as you are; a father loves your potential and pushes you to challenges your the hand you’re dealt. He loves you but the same way a mother loves you. Also man your so eloquent in the way you talk. Anyone who actually listens to you will never think you are a r-word that person was tripping. I know you don’t need hear this from me, but keep on achieving greatness regardless what society views as attractive thats the way of the stoic!
Glad you shared your experience, you definitely have a good head on your shoulders and I think guys definitely feel ugly a lot. If they aren't getting attention and girls like other guys. Man you have a good personality seem like a fun guy. Definitely would hang out with you brother keep up the great videos 👍🏾
Just focus on improving your life and I'm sure a sweet girl who likes you for you will show up. Either way got to be comfortable with yourself. Try live to be happy and better yourself as a person
The world can be hard to deal with a lot of the time. I agree that people stay away from people that aren’t the same in some way. Keep going dude! I have autism so my disability is not always perceived immediately. This only makes it harder for me. We are all trying to stay happy. I think I have given up on finding someone to be with. I enjoy company of friends and pets and family. Also you’re funny as hell lol
Dude I just wanna say you're awesome and thanks for making this video. You're also a decent looking bloke, better looking than me, good jaw, good brows, good face shape. Own it, you're also Hella funny and intelligent. A good girl is gonna love you no problem and I love your attitude of "having an obligation to love each other even if people don't do it to us" what a powerful flipping comment! You remind me a lot of my cousin and he's happily married with kids, you've got this. Rock on brother! 👍
I appreciate it dude. This video was made almost a year and a half ago and nowadays I'm more focused on trying to form or break into a friend group. I'm also going to start volunteering after I graduate from graduate school as well.
I hope no one will hurt you, because you deserve happiness. And if I lived closer to you I would be happy to go out for a beer to watch some football game or something.
@@ACrownofFlowers i hope you recover from the problem you have.BTW,you aren't ugly.Just average.Girls don't like you because of your physical disability.If you grow broccoli hairs you may get a girl still.Also you are white.So it's not over for you yet
dude, you aint ugly- idk why but i got jealous by your lips XD and yeah dont wait to care what others think or say about you cuz you have unique personality that most of the ppl lacks and ik you can make it out. you have a whole life ahead of you stay strong and confident soldier. we loves you!❤🩹
What???? You are not ugly. Your looks are fine! Whatever bad things people may say, it is all superficial. Keep talking. Grow your channel and let everyone know your genuine spirit. Good luck in everything that you do!! 💞
I don't think you're ugly i think youre very handsome and intelligent as a human not for a disabled person and im not saying that to be nice keep youre head up love and dont forget to be kind to you're self we are rooting for you and i wish for confidence and peace coming youre way ❤
Brother, don't let your lazy eye bother you too much! It's a quirk sure! But own it, there's always something about one self that you don't like. And a lazy eye is not the worst. You're perfect the way you are, and owning it is the way forward.
I’m a woman and I’m being completely genuine when I say you’re actually really cute and just from this video you seem to have a great sense of humor. From other comments you seem to have decided to be cool with being alone but if your feelings about that ever change I think there’s definitely someone out there who could appreciate you!
Thank you. This video was made about a year and a half ago and my position has changed slightly. I feel like I could definitely find someone who was also disabled and or neurodivergent, and I would be very happy with that. I really appreciate your comment and I find your username hilarious. The SCUM Manifesto is definitely on my list of books I have to read eventually.
@@ACrownofFlowers That’s great man. You seem kind and thoughtful and I’m sure you could make someone really happy. And I totally recommend the SCUM manifesto, it’s hilarious and I hate when people portray Valerie Solanas simply as some crazy lady who sh0t Andy Warhol.
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800Thank you so much. And I mean, to be fair to Valerie, she kind of was. 😂 My three times great-grandmother Vicenta Laparra de la Cerda (Reyes) was a radical, disabled Guatemalan feminist. She started the first feminist newspaper in Guatemala, and I think the second or third in Latin America. She and my grandfather were exiled a whole bunch of times because of that and the newspaper got banned a bunch of times. I have to be honest that especially when I was younger it was hard for me not to have resentment towards women because of the rejection that I faced, but learning about her story, as well as some honest conversations with my older brother and other family members led me to calm down. I'm still dealing with a lot of that resentment, but I'm in a way better place now then I was back then and even a year and a half after posting this video. Anyway, I hope you can take some time to also look at the video that I made on my grandmother: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-RjKOdsHmM-c.html
@@ACrownofFlowers I watched that video and read her Wikipedia page(translated) and she sounds absolutely phenomenal! You should be very proud to be her descendant, she sounds so ahead of her time. It’s crazy to think that she was promoting female education and helping to make women’s voices heard over a century ago and there are still places today where we don’t get that right. I can totally sympathize with radicalization in regard to feelings about the opposite s3x, although in my case it had nothing to do with rejection. As a young teen I was very religious and only concerned with having a big family and being as appealing as possible to a potential husband. As I got older and dealt with various difficulties in life and learned more & more about the world I became almost prejudiced towards men. I still struggle with it because there are indeed a lot of dangerous men out there who hate and abuse women, children and animals or would if they got the opportunity. But part of maturing is realizing that you can’t hold an entire group accountable for the crimes of a percentage of them. I’m so glad that Vicenta helped to inspire you to let go of some of your resentment. As long as you continue to do introspection and approach life with an open mind and true empathy I’d like to think she would be proud of you!
@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 yeah, she was one also one of the very few at that time that was calling for any sort of acknowledgment or help for disabled people as well. Which you can't really say about a lot of feminists even today. And I agree, even today women's rights in Latin America are sort of questionable. Wow, I'm sorry you had to go through that. My mom was a model back in Guatemala when she was younger and she faced a lot of the same pressure as you. In a lot of religious countries, women's only value is basically to have children, and even during my resentful phase I never believed that. But I have both seen how my mom is basically objectified by so many men that she has to constantly be on the lookout. And part of the reason why I "gave up" on romantically pursuing women (and to a lesser extent) men, is because I didn't want to and I still don't want to be one of those guys. I've turned my focus to friendship because I've already been involved with a woman and it made me realize that s-x alone wasn't going to make me happy- but just because other people were superficial and only cared about looks, that I didn't have to be that way. And as you say, like it literally doesn't make any sense to be prejudiced and dislike an entire half of the population. I was also very religious, and in fact, it's funny because the Bible calls us to be completely celibate. Both Paul and Jesus give people an out because they realize that if they didn't that would be disastrous for society, but it is interesting that they forsake physical pleasure in favor of friendship. And I have to be honest. I always think about that and that's what I'm striving to do. I fail a lot of the time because I'm human, but I really feel like that's the way. I don't actually believe in God anymore though-I'm more of an agnostic when it comes to the actual existence of God, and a de facto atheist in day-to-day life. Thank you so much. I really hope that she would have been proud of me as well. One of the principal goals of this channel is to provide a third way for men between some of the more radical takes of some feminists as well as do people like Andrew Tate (who I really despise). All that being said, I wish you luck on your journey of healing as well. I'm glad you were able to come to see yourself as more than just your reproductive faculty. I also appreciate your sympathies with my struggle and hope to see more of you on the channel. 😁
i've made a fake profile on instagram of an ugly face , at first it was for fun but then i got really dissapointed in some people , but i saw alot of people's true colours it's amazing the way you get judged
Yeah, and like I said I will never say that it means everything to people, because there are obviously examples of people with disabilities that have great friend groups and great relationships, but that's not the experience of most.
I mean as far as my ethnicity goes, I think I actually did win the genetic lottery? Because I'm light skin from a Latin American country. My condition was entirely the environmental and the result of brain damage early on in life, but thanks and good luck to you too.
I’ll probably sound like a lot of other guys on here but I just wanted to tell you my man I cried watching that. I know in some ways how you feel. I always hated how I look big forehead massive eyebrows scar on my head and a lump on my nose I can’t get rid of I hate how I look I’ve tried to change but I there’s only so much I can do. My parents never wanted to officially put me down in schools as “retarted” or special needs but they always put me in those special classes and refused to tell me if I was or not. because I struggled to learn anything and socialize I’ve only ever had 1 girlfriend it lasted 3 weeks I know how hard it is. I never had a lot of friends to hang out with I have 1 friend and he barley talks to me now. Your video makes and keeps me trying to do the right things like you said don’t hate keep pushing moving forward you seem like a really smart good person I hate this world more people like you thank you ❤❤
I am ugly and I have accepted it. It hurts to see my friends have people have crushes on them and the only reason people really knew me was from my friends. Sometimes my friends say things that hurt my feelings like how my face isn’t symmetrical and how my smile is too gummy and how many pimples I have on my face and why I keep the same hair style for a long time and how my personality isn’t the best and how “unhealthy” I am (I’m not unhealthy I just eat certain foods more then other foods.) I hate looking myself in the mirror. it sucks being ugly but you can’t pity yourself forever. But to the creator, you’re not ugly, true ugliness is someone who is a bad person or someone who is disrespectful. You seem like the nicest man I’ve seen on here. :)
I'm so sorry to hear that. I can relate. I hope your friends don't treat you badly even if their friends do. (Edit: I just read your expanded comment and I'm sorry, but you're totally right about everything you said after that. I hope you can find friends that don't make fun of you at all. And I thank you very much for saying that).
Yes you are good looking. More people than we all realize feel uncomfortable or insecure at times in crowds or unfamiliar surroundings or around others they don't know. Just know It may not be you.
I have a deformed face, Quasimodo, which is worse for a woman to be. Society is nastier towards deformed people, but far worse towards women with deformity, because we women suppose to all look like OF models or something. I am 41 years old and now don't care. People either accept me or go away. I have no time to deal with stoopidity from judgemental nasty folks who are unappreciated by what we can offer to the world. Also from experience, I had seen that the people within the system, those who work with the disable, but are not disable themselves, are the most judgemental nastiest folks around. They don't care about us, they want is the credit or glory that comes with helping the disable without knowing fully what it is like fully (I know there is a term for it but I had forgotten it). I am so sorry you had to witness that. However, it does not shock or surprise me by it, considering my own experience as a disable woman and how normies (the nondisable) treat and view us as. I dealt with cruelty and nasty bs (sorry for the language) of nondisable folks since birth. I was born with my disabilities and deformities. If I had control over it I would've made myself more beautiful, but I have no choice on it and I am not going to wear 20 pounds of make up and wear clothes from exploitative fast fashion trend nonsense only to be a joke at the end anyways. BTW, I think you are wonderful and normal looking, but I see your personality and humor with yourself (your soul). Those people are blind by their sense of pride, lust, greed and so forth. Remember Matthew 20:16 So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen. Also Matthew 5:5 “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.
I completely agree that disabled women have it worse. I've said as much in other videos on this channel. I'm so sorry you've had to go through that and I wish nothing but strength and peace to you.
Hi my friend, I was watching a video showing the biggest male fashion models of the 90's and when it was finished your video loaded. At the start of your video I thought that you were one of those male models as well doing a video of your own, so you are definitely not ugly. Your medical condition presents some challenges but absent of those, your facial features would rank high on the Golden ratio scale. I'm sure a lot of commenters lend support by sharing their own stories of being ugly. I have a different story to share with you at the risk of sounding like an arrogant and self absorbed A-hole, I hope to share with you another side of ugly that few people talk about. From an early age I was considered good looking. I've had girlfriends everywhere I'd go to school since the first grade. It was an uncomfortable experience dealing with girls who would scream when they saw me walking down the halls or going to class after recess. They would literally crowd around me at lunch time. I can't tell you how many fights that I got into growing up because other guys were jealous of me. I was literally in multiple fights per year every year until I graduated high school. I became really good at beating people's A$$es and I hit the weight room on a regular basis because I had to. In my junior year of high school the two hottest girls in the school, both seniors, asked me out at the same time so I took them both out at the same time and the three of us would hang out together all of the time until they got in a fight over me on Halloween night in my car while I was still driving. I had to stop and pull over to break them up. One of them ended up on the show The Girls Next Door with Hugh Hefner. I went on to my 20's and 30's slaying as many girls as possible and the end result is that it was a huge waste of time and money . I got zero fulfillment from it, a ton of drama from the women, I got in a ton of fights and lost my sense of smell. I find it really hard to go into social settings like bars and clubs because the process starts all over again, where women with boyfriends put their arms around me to make their boyfriends jealous and I get in a fight, or I meet a girl who turns out to be a psycho with baby fever. or my buddy's girlfriend is trying to sleep with me behind his back which is disgusting to me. You see the ugliest parts of human nature and the world we live in when you are an attractive man. I made a consorted effort to make myself ugly by gaining 50 Lbs on purpose and dressing like $hit to avoid the unwanted attention and keep the ugly side of humanity at bay. I consider myself a recluse and I enjoy avoiding people at all costs. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. The best thing to do is to just enjoy life as best as you can. -Kindest regards.
Well, that's certainly flattering of you to say. There was a woman who commented here along similar lines, and I have to agree. I haven't seen stable marriages or relationships in my life, most people seem to be very miserable in them. And your experience is exactly why I've sort of just given up on the whole thing, because you're right. I don't want to support or live in a world that is like that. My mom was actually a model, and she has told me much the same thing. I will say though that you are still lucky to at least have options, and to have girls that you wanted want you. I have never had that. I wish that before I had given up I could have at least been with more than one girl, it's too late now, though.
1. You aren’t bad looking comparing to other men 2. I wouldn’t purposely segregate you either, my adhd and depression just aren’t that visible but I suffer severely that I want to unalive myself like every waking minute. 3. I am in my 30s, people talks random shit when I am successful, backstab me when I am down on my luck and health, and completely destroy me when I am affected by my conditions. So don’t worry about rejections, you will face way more down the line when you somehow become successful financially 4. Dude your thought process is logical, you are better spoken than most of the engineering students doing presentations that I had the unpleasant to listen to, you will have lots of struggles, but you aren’t as depressed as me, on that regard you are better than me Let me be real, people won’t expect much from you, that’s a positive because you will always surprise them, you can get free press and trophies for things the so called average men do, leverage them, trust me I would join the disable Olympic if I had the chance, we only got one life bro we need to use it to maximum
But I'm not interested in all that stuff and I want to be at the very least equal. That includes not getting awards for stuff average people can do. That's not the way disabled people want equality-we don't want special treatment. I could care less about financial stuff.
Personally i think you are rlly cute and your eyes are beautyfull , and that shit about being attractive or ugly depends on the person , there will be people that will like you or not and that's completely fine , sometimes i feel ugly and I realize that I feel attractive when I'm healthy and taking care of myself . but then i just dont give a fk because i know real people will value me about who im as a human . Keep it up and never let anyone make you feel bad abt looks , we are all humans at the end , the important is to take care of yourself and staying helathy and positive that is very attractive ❤
I'm not ugly, but don't worry, looks will fade, at the end of the day, and most people pump themselves of botox and plastic surgery, and they don't age they expire like milk.. just keep doing you, my dude.
Hi Gabe, i am watching ur video and it feels me with sorrow. I think that a lot of human being are insecure and want beautiful people to surround them to fill there void. I am not what u could beautiful or average looking but i meet an girl who is an artist and what u could call beautiful. She liked my personality and kindness. She had bad experience before when she went for looks. She wanted to change her fate. We have now 2 children and 8 yrs as an couple. What i want to say to u is that there are special women out there that don´t care about ur physical appearance. Bwt, i think u are goodlooking and i can really see ur beautiful personality. I sat here in Sweden i wished that i was a female and then i would contact u. i really think that there are these beautiful souls out there that don´t care about physical apperance, my girlfriend is one of them. So there is big hope for u Gabe. A lot of love from Sweden!
@@ACrownofFlowers I have subscribed to your channel, who knows, maybe i come and visit in the states in the near future. i Would really like to know u, i don´t really enjoy the company of mainstream people. i get along fine with them but deepinside i feel lonely when i am surrounded by them
Your face is above average. In a flattering pose your face and hair has the capacity to be good looking. Like a 7/10. Hairline is especially solid, make the most of that hair and take meds to preserve if you have baldness in your family. You cannot buy a solid hairline like that and you would be surprised how significant it is to attractiveness to women, youd be considered equal or better to a balding able bodied guy for many women. The lazy eye, asymmetric facial movement and glasses bring you down a few pegs. You can fix at least the glasses with either contacts/laser or just get some cooler looking ones. You may be able to inprove facial symmetry with training. I myself did so after half i damaged nerves in my face and jaw after a major injury and surgery. Even if you cant its not that much of a big deal compared to the below; Although you are in a wheelchair and have very limited movement. Do not underestimate the significance of clothing, confidence and charisma. Clothing isnt about looking flashy, smart or rich. It communicates lots of intangible stuff about understanding and being part of culture and society as well as your own personality. Women, especially those under 35 are extremely into clothes and all they can represent. Currently your appearance is communicating that you are a complete outsider to contemporary culture, fashion, art, and socialising and that you have a non existent personality. You can change this real easily. Appearance (through clothes etc) is a great way to make friends without even saying anything. For example if you dressed like a metalhead , other metalheads would have affinity to you, they may even start conversations. Find people you like the look of and use their appearance (clothing) as a starting template, once you feel confident add your own unique personality. Remember that even for normal able bodied people, we live in a very antisocial sort of world. People stay mostly to themselves unless they have something to break the ice. Clothing, apperance and observable Charisma and personality is one way. Another is participating in niche hobbies/pastimes. Those bring you in close proximity to others you share an interest with, giving them a reason to talk to you. For example if you regularly went to a D&D meetup, people would be exposed to you as a person and if there was a friendship to be had it would begin. I am visibly able bodied and normallt attractive myself but depend entirely on the this pathway to build bonds with either gender. No one just walks up to me because they think im hot and if they did i would think they are weird and reject them.
Thanks for the advice bro-very comprehensive. As far as the glasses go, I physically can't stand having contacts, and I can't afford laser surgery. I currently go out during the warmer months to a spot and read under a tree with benches. People do actually come up to me and I don't think it's because I look good or anything, but just because people aren't used to seeing a person in a wheelchair out and about. And I have actually made friends this way, but nothing permanent. I'm actually trying to start doing activities with other disabled people. I'm also looking to get tested for autism, because I think I might be on the spectrum. I actually have been with a woman but that was 4 years ago.
I know that you are young,your hormones level crank up by now (teenager),you are more attracted to the opposite gender,but believe me,it is better for you to focus on your life and career..Forget about girls and focus on yourself and family.YOUR LIFE WILL BE MUCH BETTER.TRUST ME..God bless you kid...😇😇
Hi. Try to not think with ur mind what im gonna say now...but with your soul: Being born and to live in a body with " malfunctions" , your soul choose to play this game of life on hardcore, much respect to your soul bro for this "choice". Stay strong and balanced friend. Oh and being ugly means nothing! Remember that.
I don’t see a way to contact you privately, so here it goes. I have just begun to create my own channel. It’s like a vlog for therapy thoughts and introspection. That’s when I discovered your channel, just checking out others along similar lines.
Hey bro like i wouldn't worry too much what gurls see us as ay. I'm a good looking guy yet i remain invisible to the opposite gender for like almost my entire life, so this tells me it's not always about looks that gets the gurl.. but i guess it depends on their perception what's most attractive to them wether be certain facial features or how you carry yourself as a whole. Bro what's weird tho is there's so many fish in the sea,, but because the social media dictates how a person should look and be like, ppl will mis out on whats real and so we start to loose the natural connections we once had before tech took over our lives. So even tho im healthy and good looking it's still isn't enough to compete in todays society so im with you bro, and i believe our lord Jesus will continue everyday to inrich our inner self to overcome our negative mind set ppl have towards eachother. Because to him we are all beautiful in his eyes and at the end of the day that's all that really matters. GBU ✨✌️
Hey man. Same. Honestly, I've done so much to improve myself as a person, I work out, I'm well read, etc. At this point I've kind of just given up And have decided to work towards all helping the Hispanic and disabled communities-I going to was always going to do that, but I never thought it would become the main focus of my life after graduating with my masters in like 2 weeks. And yeah, I'm just like you. I've turned towards the teachings of Christ because I went through a phase where I had extremely negative thoughts towards women, And I still struggle a lot resentment, but Christ helps me get through it through his example.
That rocks bro 🤜🤛 niiiice. Yeh HE has a way of setting us up for great things.There's nothing better than finding your purpose in life. And you never know some lucky lady will come along and love you for you. I still believe that. Take care bro.
You have to think about the things you have and be grateful for it, I'm not talking about God and those things, for example I always repeat to myself that there are people who have bigger problems than mine. At least you can see, hear and speak, imagine having been blind or dumb or deaf, or born without your hands. Head up bro. Greetings from Chile.
0:41 That guy was just SEAmaxxer, he just flown girl from Argentina to Sweden so she can have better live, she was just using him for better life, when she will get Sweden citizenship she gonna dip him super fast lol
@@ACrownofFlowers Even if she do not dip him, it is painfully obvious why she is doing it. To get better life. Living in Argentina is super horrible and if it mean tolerate life with some broke ugly guy it is still better. David is not even nice as person, I did some digging on him. If he wan't from EU he would have nothing to offer. He just prove JBW theory. He is just leveraging his socioeconomical status he got from Sweden to save unlucky girl. If she was from Sweden as him, she wouln't even look at him like other girls from Sweden.
@@ACrownofFlowers Even if she do not dip him, it is painfully obvious why she is doing it. To get better life. Living in Argentina is super horrible and if it mean tolerate life with some broke unattractive guy it is still better. David is not even nice as person, I did some digging on him. If he wan't from EU he would have nothing to offer. He just prove JBW theory. He is just leveraging his socioeconomical status he got from Sweden to save unlucky girl. If she was from Sweden as him, she wouln't even look at him like other girls from Sweden.
Look man, you know I'm a pessimist. I think they're obviously might be a hint of that, but Argentina is still high up there in terms of developing countries-it's not all bad living there. Also JBW doesn't even make sense in this case because most people from Argentina are of European descent? They're one of the few Latin American countries where it is that way.
@@ACrownofFlowers Argentina and high up? the only thing argentina is high is inflation, over 20% not per year, but MONTH, criminaly speaking it is on the same level as Brazil, so it isn't really fairytale living there. When you live in those condition obviously everyone would choose to tolerate some oofy doofy from Sweden, better than being in that country thats for sure.
There are alot of ugly dudes out there with attractive women. For a guy it's all about how you carry yourself, can you support a family, and what you know about the world.
@@ACrownofFlowers You'll be alright man, I wouldn't worry about it too much. The trick is to make the best of what you have and enjoy your life. Everybody's experience in this life is different.
Don't worry. Most people refuse to believe they are (probably) just average and refuse to date other average people. It's a serious problem and it's probably never going to get better. Disability or not, you'd probably still be getting rejected by most women. It might literally be because you are disabled and have two lazy eyes in this lifetime... but if you didn't have those two things going on, it'd be something else like... not making enough money, you're a little too short, you have one too many freckles on your cheek, you breathe air. People will reject you for literally any reason they can find. Your situation is by no means unique. I do think you deserve to find someone. Everyone does. I wish you the best luck in finding that person. (understanding this video is now a year old)
I understand my situation is not unique. And since the time I've made this, I've acquired a master's degree even-and that's still not enough. I appreciate that sentiment but I've kind of just given up. I'm going to fight for the disabled and Latino communities but I don't think I will ever get married or have children. Even if someone was willing, I'm so disillusioned by the way the world is and how much looks matter that I don't want any part in it.
@@No_NameStudios_developments yeah man. I have been lifting weights for 12 years. All you have to look out for is body image issues, but moderate weightlifting or any sort of exercise does wonders for the self-esteem.
You are not ugly my friend ,you just dont look "sexy" in people's eyes,its just what it is,but despite that you look and sound like a good person,unfortunatley in todays age thats just not enough ,its just not enough ,and it hurts.
I am so sick and tired of disrespectful people. OH MY GOD! Realistically nobody is ugly, people are judgemental and have their OWN opinions. Everyone has different tastes. BUT STILL CANT STAND THE DISRESPECT FROM PEOPLE!! THEIR FACE MIGHT NOT BE UGLY BUT THEIR WORDS AND THOUGHTS ARE.
I agree with you that in some respects everybody is ugly/attractive to somebody, but I do think there are certain evolutionary things that is just like inherent to human nature. That doesn't mean that we can't overcome them because we've overcome a lot of things that are not in our nature as humans, and I hope we do. But that's just the way the chips fall unfortunately. I really appreciate your comment!
Yes but at that point their looks has already done the work, they already have a partner, they have their children so yes at that point looks no longer matter as much... the thing is looks is the most important part in your 20s so you can get all of those things.
STOP!! NOBODY'S UGLY! It's an ugly term. Ugliness is on the inside. These are not just words. There is tremendous beauty in good people. Breaks my freakin' heart when I hear people talk this way. God Bless You.
I appreciate your words man and I wish I could believe you, but my experience tells me otherwise. What you say would be true if we lived in an ideal world. (I wish we lived in that world, but we don't).
Oke you are ugly and that is how it is. But never get depressed about that. Being depressed is what you learn from al those social media things. Learn to accept how you are and do nice things in live and your live will be much better
You have a good facial structure, if you be honest You're not perfect, like we all But ugly of course you're not It seems today the society, wants only fake people
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. ~Proverbs 14:12 Now, brothers and sisters, I want to remind you of the gospel I preached to you, which you received and on which you have taken your stand. By this gospel you are saved, if you hold firmly to the word I preached to you. Otherwise, you have believed in vain. For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance : that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, ~1. Corinthians 15:1-4 Simon Peter, a servant and apostle of Jesus Christ, To those who through the righteousness of our God and Savior Jesus Christ have received a faith as precious as ours: ~2. Peter 1:1 God bless you!
You're not ugly, man. Its just that chair gives you a bad effect. But being in w chair isn't an excuse for people not to like you people just have to like you for you.
Yeah, it's that people are afraid, not that they dislike me wholesale. But I would still counter and say that fear isn't an excuse to compromise on principles of tolerance, which many of the people that do what I described in the video claim to be.
Thank you. I guess it's just that when you're young it is probably one of the most important things and I've missed out on a lot of experiences because of that. That's not to say that I didn't also have my periods of being a weirdo, but it's much harder to recover from not having those experiences as a person who is disabled than not.
