On heartbreaks. 

There is a Japanese art called Kintsugi, which is the art of repairing broken things so that the broken thing becomes an object of beauty precisely because it was broken. We can't avoid being broken, I think. We can only make an art of the repairing.

"The balance of everything, and the capacity to choose the good over the bad". So interesting that definition of happiness.

Feel comfortable in knowing that you are so not alone in your emotions. Your story is telling wgat many of us feel ourselves. This is why you have the followers that you have. It's very soothing, knowing that One can understand and share in the context of what they are hearing. Heartbteaks are painful but they indicate that you still remain innocent and yet powerful enough to respond to life's challenges. You just haven't met up with The One quite yet. That person exists and the intersection where you will meet, you have not arrived at yet. What you hold most dear in your heart is what unfolds to you in abundance so guard your thoughts with diligence. Those thoughts are your roadmap.

Heartbreak is basically disappointment with life or disillusionment in regard to people or situations. Life rarely turns out exactly how we (or others) expect it to. But it's not always a negative thing because sometimes we need to let go of our illusions and face reality in order to make progress. For example, the realisation that you'll never be a movie star, but can certainly work towards a job in the film industry.

When me and my ex wife divorced we continued to have a close relationship with each other. We never argued in front of the kids. I left my ex wife with the house so that my children did not have to uproot or downsize to a different house. I paid child support every month until they were 18. Also the main thing was to try to show our two children that we BOTH as parents were there for them 24/7 even though their parents were no longer together.

I've lived through many serious heartbreaks. I've lost 3 babies,one who died during in labor. I watched my mother die of cancer. The worst was waking,on Valentine's Day of all days, and finding my husband dead at 45, having to tell our 5 children he was gone. Leaving the cemetery, leaving him forever nearly killed me. Tonight, the night before Father's Day, listening to all the kids cry. There is some heartbreak that you never recover from, and losing the man I was with more than half my life, having to live the rest of my life without him and watching the 5 kids we created have to grow up without him, qualifies. I can't imagine going through anything else that could cut me to the core as much.

Bonjour Emy! Thank you for sharing your story and as always for being so vulnerable. I believe this is one of my favorite video's of yours to date. I specially like how you concluded saying that hapiness is not the absence of pain and sadness, but a way to balance it all. Take care

Thank you for making this video. It's really helpful for me right now. I appreciate your honesty and the emphasis you put on making choices :)

Sixth, great video, love how you pointed out that heartbreak doesn't just apply to couples! Friends cause the most I think.

This was really beautiful. Thank you for sharing your experience without pretension. When you talked about your parents, my eyes teared up. Sending love.

Obviously everyone's experiences are different, but I empathise so much with you. I have experienced a lot of heartache in the past and I found this video really helpful and relatable. I am sorry that you have suffered this much. Thanks for making this.

I really feel you, Emy. When I was a teenager, I also met a person online with whom I fell in love. But she left me all alone out the sudden which broke my heart. I still remind myself, it wasn't my fault, better forget about it but sometimes pain comes back so strongly and crushes me down. Thank you for the video. Bad things happen. For some people more often than the others. What's important is that how you handle them, learn your lesson and keep living no matter what is going to happen next.

Mon père nous a beaucoup fait souffrir ma mère et moi. Après 13 ans de souffrance, ils ont divorcé. C'est un soulagement pour moi, sinon tout aurait été 100x pire. tout ça était dur, ça m'a rendu mature, mais ça m'a changée à jamais..Je te comprends Emy, courage..

Perfectly timed video Emy. I'm going through heartbreak right now and was looking for a video to watch and when I saw yours I was so relieved as if you had known what I had been going through :)

I've had the same experience, being heartbroken by someone online at 14-15 and that person means so so much to me and has influenced me so so much

As someone who recently just went through a strange heart break thanks for this video (scrolling down my feed saw you did a video on the subject and had to watch)

Emy, first of all, I want to thank you for posting this video. I am very touched and moved by your story about your parent's separation. My parents are unhappy and have been that way for a very, very long time. They are still together and 2016 mark their fifteen years of being together. I used to feel very sad when I see children of separated parents but then I realised, not all couples who are together are in love. I am convinced that loveless marriages run in my family but hey, I can't do anything.

Merci beaucoup, Emy. I needed this today.

The situation in my family was very ugly too so I kind of know what you're talking about. But my parents never divorced wich was even uglier in my opinion. I was hoping they will break up (cuz they was happy and calm when they was each on their own) but that never happen. I never saw them in a happy relationship and this affected me a lot. Anyway. My dad died in 2010. He had cancer.

my parents divorced when i was 11 or 12 I want to say, he had a second family, im not mad now, people just fuck up and you stop seeing your parents as these heros and they just become people like everyone is. also my version of love and relationships has always been very different, everything is temporary and people come into your life to teach you something, but you cant own someone even if there is this contract. or im in a relationship so that means i have to turn off my love for my friends because im with you, we are one now. no, nobody will complete you, sad but true.

thank you so much for sharing.

Thanks for sharing your personal story! i can relate to most of your videos and it is truly amazing of how we human beings are not so different from each other :) Keep up these stunning videos ! greeting from peru

Wow. This was so good. You are so wise.

this was quite inspiring, thank you x

Bless ur heart - that had to b hard for u- my mom remarried and has been happy with my dad for 40 yrs but I know that not everyone has the same family life- regular heart breaks suck as well like ur young dating life - and somehow they can still disappoint u even when ur married - I guess nothing is perfect in this life.

It was interesting and as always thank you !

The best way to remove anxiety and depression from mind is to take positive step forgetting all bad things ,the most important thing is career for any one and other things are no use.make friendship with family and friends,,exploring different food ,culture can make anybody life happiest and peaceful. I watched all videos ,I understand what u say.you are not ony beautiful but you r intelligent and honest,your way of talking attracts me ,atlast I want to say before u do anything say all is well.from sanjay

Tu es très touchante dans cette vidéo, cela remue en moi certaines choses. Et ce qui est génial c'est que c'est loin d'être une vidéo déprimante (alors que le sujet s'y prêterai bien), au contraire il en ressort quelque chose de positif, un peu comme ce que tu dis à la fin, sur le fait que "le bonheur ce n'est pas l'absence de la douleur ou de la tristesse, mais l'équilibre entre toutes choses et la capacité de choisir le meilleur au lieu du pire !"

If they make fun if u they are crazy - I hope u find a very special person that will love every part of u - as u seem to b a beautiful person inside and out - u should luv ur self- and don't listen to negative people who are more miserable then u!

Maybe it can make u stronger

Le plus important dans cette vidéo réside dans ton sourire final;)...

Thanks. I really need this right now. I am also Asexual and have had 3 really bad heartaches. Ive always been willing to have sex tho so that has never been a problem but becuz I never felt loved, I was way too clingy and obsessive. :( I went into a REALLY BAD depression where I didnt leave my room for days, didnt shower, didnt eat. I just cried and cried and cried in a dark room. I cried so much, my clothes and pillow were completely drenched. I wanted to die so bad and felt anxious going out.

thank you for your honesty... do you think, your bad experience with your ex-boyfriend, made you asexual? because my first love/sex experience was pretty bad too and now i feel disgusted and ashamed if i think about sex... because he was not very nice as well and he treated me sometimes like a piece of shit... ok, i don't think i'm a asexual because sometimes i feel aroused, but when i met someone and it comes to sex, just want to flee, because i feel so disgusted, even when i'm attracted to that person :(

I had never seen realy long relationship between two people like in cinema. specially between man and women. I mean realy never. friendship maybe, but not love. And for this reason I don't belive that it works. Often it's more like addiction. Even if it looks like very strong relationship, love, it always there is something hidden. It is always temporary. And I agree that life is a lot abot choices and prices. It not possible to get everything. And it's not good or bad thing. It just works like this.

Did you make a video on the last one? I don't know anything about it or maybe I misunderstood

+Rania El Fahli How can I say such things? Uhh becuz I have a right to free thought and an opinion. I also said I HAVE come to the conclusion... yes based off MY experiences. You dont have to agree... you have YOUR right to believe what you want based on YOUR experiences. I base my opinions not on just my life but looking at the world in general AND science. Science has proven love acts the same and fades the same as a drug. Its an illusion. A lot only stay together because they got COMFORTABLE

I felt the exact same way as a Virgin until I married - I was terrified of being used - wow-I guess other women go thru it as well!

Est-ce que je peux te poser une question?

+The Vegan Personally I lack both sexual attraction and desire but a lot just lack attraction so maybe u ARE Asexual... maybe u are romantic and just see guys u like as cute or cuddely. Thats how I view someone I fancy. I dont get all excited by abbs or anything. Maybe the guy expected u to act like a porn star or something. If not, I think u are just realistic. Sex IS gross. Most people have blinders on... usually sexual desires clouds a persons judgement. If it didnt... no one would procreate

Vidéo en français stp 🙏😬

Third! Bonjour ~ :)

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