it's easy to judge if you've never had children but the truth is no matter how much we love them, no matter how hard we try to do everything perfect at some point we will all make a mistake because we are human. And no matter how harshly you judge us for our moments of weakness (no I've never left my child in a car or had her almost drown in a pool) you could never punish us more than we do ourselves.
TheCjma88 As a child we view adults as a totally different species, and our young minds believe that once we reach a certain age, we’re “adults.” But what it truly boils down to is that there is a lot less flexibility, a lot less forgiveness for mistakes, and a lot of knowledge that comes from those mistakes. I’m 21, and by the time I hit 13 it dawned on me, truly dawned on me, that my parents were once just like me. Sometimes we don’t feel much different from the person we were years ago, and sometimes that person we once were seems so small and childlike. My parents are by no means perfect, and my family is by no means a perfect family either. There were trials and tribulations that I may have faced too young, but my parents, regardless of their marital status or their feelings for one another, have always loved me. I was raised by my father, a loving, compassionate, highly intelligent man who really was not a children person, but he put his all in raising my sister and I. So unlike many others, I will go out on father daughter dates, I’ll shop for his clothing when I shop for my own, I’ll happily be seen in public with my father, because parents devote so much of themselves and sacrifice so much of themselves for the sake of their child. We all start off not knowing anything, and we all continue on while learning. Parents are human, imperfect. Parents are children, forever learning. But most importantly, parents are the foundation of a child’s life, and they build and build until the child can take over the reigns. So I agree 100%, don’t be too harsh on a parent for making a few mistakes. (Although abuse is a totally different matter so before anyone comes at me with that, sit back down.)
True, I've made mistakes while taking care of others kids before and my parents have made mistakes while raising us. We turned out fine. Actually, my younger brother at one point accidentally fell into a hot tub when he was 2 while we were on vacation and my dad jumped in and saved his life. He was watching us in the hot tub. My brother just took one step into the hot tub and next thing you know, he was face down in the water. I remember that moment like it was yesterday even though it happened when I was 5 (almost 20 years ago.)
The way she says "And I felt like I had damaged him"...the tone in her voice suggests she knows that's what he's thinking about himself. But then she continues with how she forgave herself. "It took me a really long time to forgive myself. But I did, and you will too." That is her telling him that it will get better and he will come out on the other side a better father.
I love this scene with them together. Austin even said that this was the last take and Joy just spoke from her heart and didn't go by the script. It comes off so nicely. Joy did an amazing job. Austin had been nailing his scenes this season, too!
She is so sweet ! Haley ( Bethany ) seems to have always the right words to say to make her friends feel better when they are down :) Bethany is so calm, lovely and sweet :) she would make a real Awesome Mom to her own kids someday ;) I hope she wants and will have kids of her own :)
I think Season 9 was a great bounce-back season from Season 8. And the theme of Season 9 seemed to revolve around parenthood. This was a great scene. And I dont think I have ever come across a show in my lifetime that handled music as well as One Tree Hill to provoke the correct emotions. And I love how Haley is speaking from experience to comfort Julian, because people forget that both Haley and Nathan had been parents for about 9 years at that point. So they were the most experienced in their age circles. I love the delivery from Bethany here. It was at the right tone.
Such a shame that a show that touched on real feelings and situations ended up being run by such a piece of shit. There goes any hope for a spin off with Jamie's age group...
That is hands down the best piece of acting I've seen on the show. Joy is a fantastic actress, sad to see the show go but really looking forward to seeing what else she comes up with in future roles and with Everly.
As much as oth is and always will bey fav show- and this scene was brilliant but the storyline/ arc of Julian leaving Davis just didn't sit well w me and I do get why it was written an whatnot but it was very unrealistic so I wasn't too fond of it :( and I've never said that about anything oth but the storyline was too deep for certain aspects to bounce back to quickly. Great scenes and all but unrealistic
That is so wrong....your baby is going somewhere....and we the parents only share one life time with them. And if your baby dies tomorrow, there will be no trying next time. As a parent, one should always provide the best.
Then wtf did you want her to say to him "You made a big mistake, dwell on it" like of course not, she's gonna let him know that the one mistake does not define him and he should continue doing better
Yea, make him feel worse then he already felt. Until you've been in a similar situation, don't judge. I know what he's going through, I've been there before. It lead me into a deep depression for days because a couple of mistakes that I made while I was a caretaker (I worked with kids.) I eventually had to quit partly because the guilt ate me up alive and it still does. I'm still trying to forgive myself.
