I’m a first time mum, my son is 15 months, no walking or talking yet. The day after he was born he had two episodes where he stopped breathing and therefore his brain was starved of oxygen. When he was discharged we were shown an MRI of his brain showing us how much damage there was. We were told to expect the worst in terms of his future. Despite that we were referred to a range of therapists eg physiotherapist and Occupational therapist to work with him- the early intervention Pumla spoke about. From my understanding The idea behind it is to help his brain create different pathways to do things. He’s been home for a year this week and he’s trying to pull himself up to stand and really trying to say words . The journey ahead is still long but to be where we are is honestly a miracle, I believe God used those health professionals to intervene early and help him to reach his very best potential. I look forward to having an amazing testimony in 18 years time like Sheena that Pumla was talking about. Hope this encourages a mum who may be struggling on a similar journey and may be scrolling through the comments like I was😂
Oh love. Thank you for this. The journey is a tough one but you will get ahead of it. All the best with your little one. Inshallah he will overcome it all ❤
Any mother or father struggling with child development issues reach out to me. I am a child neurodevelopmental specialist. Now working and practicing in the Nordics and opening a clinic next year in Uganda. I and my colleagues have various nerurodevelopmental assessments techniques, tools and experience. Before we do child focused development treatments we first do a thorough assessment. I got my PhD focusing on various child neurodevelopment aspects and now I am a professor in the same field. Thank you.
Recently my boy was invited to a birthday party where there was an autistic beautiful girl around 5 years. Munange for some reason, the girl came over and gave me a big hug, kissed me on my forehead and couldn't go anywhere. I love kids for sure and this girl couldn't speak but her actions really melted my heart. I noticed that she was autistic because here they're quite many , so when the mum came to me, she thought it was an inconvenience. I told her it's okay because we were really having a moment with her little girl. Up to now we have become good friends and her girl seems comfortable whenever we meet.
Thank you ladies for this show. My first time commenting because this topic really hit home. Currently dealing with Speach delay but am believing God for a miracle. Love you all lots
My sister has an autistic baby and you know us baganda, your sister's baby is your baby. We didn't have a clue what it was apart from family members who had travelled, but I am telling you if you said anything about him we would ear you a live ( just to mention, our dad didn't drink alcohol so he had over 30 kids) so you made that decision ready for the consequences. As we grew older, we all educated ourselves, we took him out of the special needs kids school in makindye and put him in main stream, he might have taken long but guess who is on his final year at university, yes my baby and couldn't be more proud
@@rachaelmwine which episode do you talk about it? I love only heard you mention it once and I’d really like to hear the whole story. Was he diagnosed with autism? If so how old was he when they diagnosed him. Only if you feel comfortable sharing that of course
You people school has helped my daughter. She wasn't speaking, wasn't social also no potty training. She is making 4 this month and can say her name, understands when you talk to her, now less destructive. I'm so grateful
I love how you ladies tackled this much buried topic and particularly appreciated Rachel sharing her experience raising Micah. The grace and confidence she exudes speaks of her involvement and investment in Micah. My prayer is that he too will go on to graduate from University. Thanks Bump Love for educating and impacting our lives.
My son at two could not express himself well he had speech delay.One time we went to hospital because he was I'll.The doctor in one of kampalas big hospitals just says ". This child will never be able to study he will never concentrate maybe he is autistic " I broke into pieces .I was not ready for that thank God he is in school now comes home and says so and so "susu on himself in class "he reads three letter words yet he is just four😢 My God is great
Ladies mwebale nnyo. This was so educative. Us who don't have children yet we are quick to judge but I now understand we have to extend grace, I am going to be better. Have also learnt that we always need to seek help from experts
Hello Ladies, I'm your biggest fan from Tanzania I never miss your episodes every Friday, I have even turned on the notification. I usually enjoy everything from you ladies may God bless you.
Thank you, Bump Love, for this discussion. I have always noticed that whenever a topic of child development is handled, society focuses on the negative. The delayed milestones, the slow learners, etc, are given much attention. I would like to call your attention to the challenges we face as parents with children on the extreme positive side of child development. This includes both physical, psychological, intellectual etc being a parent who has lived this kind of life with two children at the extreme positive, it is such a strenuous, tramourtizing, stressful experience. Unfortunately, so many parents have such children but have not recognised their children's development difference and end up mismanagement them. Some children my have a mis of being ADHA, gifted, growing 5 years older than one's actual age and hormonal imbalances. I will be grateful if managing such children is also covered.
This has really challenged me to be more mindful and not make assumptions about other people's children's behavior. Kindness cannot be over emphasized. Thank you ladies for the shos
Bump love is one show that manifests the goodness of God and perfectly how He wants us to live...I mean happy... there's a way I feel happy about myself because you have educated me....I feel empowered....I feel there's no motherhood challenge for me.....I know how to treat me, my family and society..... Am so glad am in an informed circle Thank you so much....
The pain a parent feels prior to finding peace with Autism, banange! Its another journey that can stand in the way for the child's help. With 2 autistic boys....i had to learn the hard way. I so relate with racheal.
Our old education system indeed taught us to cram more than comprehend but having gone through UPE and the education system, studying abroad has been a breeze. It has been a walkover and more of a revision whereas the students here struggle with concepts. So maybe there are some positives to it but glad some changes have been made and maybe it depends on the student. Thank you ladies for the show.
Hello bump love family. Watching from Kenya .I feel so much encouraged especially that i am raising a child almost 4 years with speech delay and has ADHD and its so much difficult to deal with the child in public as many people think" you did not raise the child well"
owe ngonge Nabacwa, am really amazed at your level of intelligence eh, to the point that am imitating you and surprisingly i now even subconsciously laugh ur style. keep it up
You ladies form the best team under the sun! wow! You give hope to the people out there struggling with issues. The different personal experiences u share, Pumla's in-depth insights, the few light moments, all make this show the 1st of its kind. You're surely fighting ignorance in some of our elite, and am also hoping that the folks who don't speak this colonial language can get these wonderful insights always. We'll soon stop hearing things like witchcraft whenever find autistic kids.Thank you!
Ladies thankyou so much for this .Autism is such an interesting topic.I realised my daughter's problem when she was already mature it was a Eureka moment for me .l found my daughter and we are so much happier in the family now.Stay Blest.
Thank you ladies for your amazing answers to anonymous mother. Rosette’s answer of the world is taking you ku speed. So true dear mother. Please stop and take stock. Fill your cup, regroup, then seek help for your child and your family unit including the maid.
Haha Pumla its so true.. the schools in some countries like the Uk don't seem to be teaching much when we compare with how we were taught.. it can seem like they are wasting time but actually it works. Glad to hear our ugandan curriculum is changing too
I don't know when she does all those training with her schedule. I agree with Rosette calm down and choose things that matter. You cannot be training your child on paper. Your child is your responsibility no one is going to blame your maid when your child turns out wrong.
Lieing here with my 6 mths bump and young first time mom always looking forward to every Friday, I feel like I am ready for anything 🎉🎉love you ladies❤❤❤❤
We tend to be judgemental, about people's parenting until motherhood or life humbles us when same situations hit close to home or even home. So yes, let's be slow to judge and quick to emphasize
About what Pumla said about how a mother's emotions affect the progress or well-being of the child. I saw it clearly with my sister. My mother lost her husband a month after my baby sister was born, so she wrapped her whole life around taking care of her last-born baby girl and always talked about how my sister is a sickly child (even during times she wasn't sick) and somehow my sister was sick throughout from ages of 0 to 9 years old. Not three months passed without a doctor's visit and not two weeks without new medicines. There was a table in the house dedicated to her medication and cabinet files of doctor's visits. Then when my sister turned 10, she moved in with me because I was in a better county and position to give her better opportunities. Let me tell you, I can testify that for the last 7 years, my sister has only been sick once and that was 2 months ago. The only doctor's notice I have gotten is that one for 7 years.
As a Ugandan, a mother of 3, and a Nalongo (lol), I want to thank you, ladies, for your time, energy, and effort invested in this channel hence why I subscribed. I am curious though, how effective the channel is in the non-English speaking community (especially Ugandans, as they say, 'charity starts at home') who continue to be starved of such incredible life nuggets due to the language barrier leading to their slow or lack of development.
Pumla...pumla...is simon cowel voice. Thank you for that research. Thanks bumplove. This show shall be remembered. Nabazukulu njakubagamba. Love u love .
Thank you Pumla for explaining it so well. Indeed educating ourselves and others is the key. People are generally very understanding once they are more aware. Thanks for this very important episode ladies.
Another thing people need to know is that children who are non verbal have alot of behavior because they can't communicate their needs. Trying to incorporate sign language at an early stage can be helpful.
Am from Kenya and I really love your shows... Today I have noticed I have not subscribed and am really sorry.... But I always look forward to getting more wisdom from you ladies...stay blessed🥰
Thank you ladies for the show. As usual, always looking forward to Fridays as long as I am breathing and TGIF 👌 Ms.Anonymus, I kinda feel what u r going through. We as mothers always feel so so so so so ... bad when our children don't attain some achievements especially if their peers have attained them. One thing I can tell you is that work on your mental and emotional aspects. In such senarials, we really get out of hand and most of the times, we put the pressure on our husbands. If you've been watching bump love, ... men want peace 👌 Naturally, I think mothers mind more about children than father's do. In my opinion.👌In our times, we have added bringing something to the table to our ultimate roles as women and wives and ideally, nothing has been added to the men coz they are meant to natural providers. So, ka pressure ku bakyaala kangi. Clam down, work on your mental and emotional self and maybe the husband isn't supportive coz u probably have changed of course due to pressure. When these men have peace, most of them will automatically support. After working on yourself and your relationship (I don't mean that it's not good but I am just thinking ....) you will have the support that every woman wants. Partner support.👌 My boy had a delay in speech but it's until I resigned from where I was working and gave time to him that we saw results. Sweetie, work is very essential in our economy but for the sake of our children, most times it's us mothers to sacrifice things like work. That's why I started with gaining partner support first. Actually, its my husband who told me to give it a break and come home for the sake of the children since covid was done and he was going back to work in office. Initially, he was working from home and I was doing clinical work with a certain organisation. So, I had to resign. Our boy had all the playmates at home since his sengas children are always around... So, socially, he wasn't bad... But speech. At birth, he had a tangue tie and we had reported it to the doctor and the doctor told us that it had been cut. So, we were okay knowing that probably it's just a delay. When I came home, we downloaded all apps for sound, helping the child to speak bla bla bla... I tried to give him time. So, one day, we were brushing and I told him to lift his tangue in a certain way and he couldn't do. The tangue tie had been partially cut. And that's when we realized the cause of his delay coz society always told us that aaa he will speak... he will speak. After it was cut, I was home to help him out in tangue excercises. He actually started speaking well after he joined school this year. So, sometimes, we just need to give these children some attention and time. You can maybe request for leave to intentionally work on your child if u feel you can't lose that job. See good pediatricians and psychologists. Most times, we have to sacrifice something for those we love, just like Jesus did.
As pumla has said let's educate ourselves over diff issues and heal for da beta of everyone, big thx bump love. The only show I watch n listen attentively for a full hr .
Very heavy topic, ladies. Thank you. I personally wish I had known and intervened much ealier. I was that mom that believed the narrative that children are different and it was just delayed development for my now 10yr old. I thank God that despite this draly in getting help, we have made so much progress. To a mother out there wondering whether your child is fine due to observed delays, like the ladies advise, see a doctor as early as possible and allow them to help. It will help both you and the child. Dont live in denial. Good thing we now have more help in Uganda for cases like ÀDHD, autism, down syndrom, etc.
Quater way into this conversation and I am already feeling for some parents esp. The ones who always use words like Are you Duffed? Others real say to their kids, You are stupid or say to other people, that kid is stupid😢😢😢Good Lord! Watchting this Video is making me realize how myself I was raised late stimulation it is.
I am not yet a mother or a wife but I guess by the time I get to be I will be a better mother and wife(In Pumla's voice) I just can't wait to be that person groomed by your truly and fully honest and guiding words. Unless otherwise, Just wish me luck🧚
The bible says out of your belly shall flow rivers of living waters ; I believe Shina's mother sacrificing everything quickened her development and it has paid. The purpose of life! Leaving the nurturing and stimulation to a care giver is slowing the process cos of the disconnect between them. I feel it's scary to stay your career for a child but life is intangible. Hugs and Strength and Grace to Anonymous. Now Rosette with the Jjaja Class broke a rib.... Sis is hilarious 🤣
Thank you for this one as well. I love reading and learning new things. Just equipping myself, like Pumla I like to have an informed perspective really. And if I can not read up, I just listen to other people who are more knowledgeable on these subjects. I have a nephew on the extreme side of the autistic spectrum and I have seen so much growth plus the milestones are incredible especially since it was never on the table when he was first diagnosed. All these things take patience, extra patience, and a whole support system. I hope all parents and caregivers get the help they need.
Hallo Ladies👋 You’ve really added so much value to our lives just by listening to these conversations. Keep doing what you do. May God bless each one of you That blessing that makes rich and adds no sorrow🙏🏻. Everyone surely needs a bump lover in their lives.❤
Thank you Ladies, this was insightful. @pumla how did you retrain yourself out of cramming at that adult stage when you were struggling at Master's level?
I actually had to get a personal tutor the whole year I was abroad. He coached me through the fundamentals of my MUK undergrad. Imagine, as I did my Masters, I was also restudying my Bachelors degree 🤦🏾♀️. The tutor taught me how to tap into the part of my brain that allows cognitive thinking, alternative reasoning and problem solving. I then kept training it to critically analyse information, build on it and then form judgements. It's very doable and easier at an early age. It is your job as a parent to facilitate this part of your child's brain to grow while in the traditional curriculum. P
My daughter made a year without teeth 😆, so here I was asking my mum why my daughter doesn't have teeth at 1 year? Mum was like, "have ever seen someone without teeth?, relax she will have them". I did 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Ohh ladies, Great job Bump Love. I love these discussions and always can't wait for the next topics. However, you've talked about support from the fathers and all sorts, I don't know if you've already discussed about fathers who unprofessionally donate sperms and after wards reject the products (gifts) but when the mother/well wishers come in and support this gift and he/she makes way through this world, the man starts to think of ways of getting back into the product's life?, But I feel I need to listen in to this topic coz I may play a victim of the circumstance. How do the 2 creatures (father & abandoned child) go about the situation? What is the formula, because to me it's a farfetched reconciliation.
My baby had delayed speech.We were so worried that we took her to kindergarten really young.The first time she spoke, she said a full sentence! I had been trying to tickle her and she was irritated so she blurted out angrily 'what are you doing?'I was surprised and over the moon at the same time! Before that, she had delayed to crawl and walk.But when she finally did it,all happened in a space of a week!I kid you not!.She crawled,stood up and walked within a week!Soon after she was climbing the metal grills of the door and windows.Now I was worrying about her losing her grip and falling down. During the delays,doctors always told me to wait it out even when I was dying of worry.Idid things banange,including swing her legs against grass in the morning,because apparently dew did wonders to the legs.
The way i love you my pump love ladies im ready for adoption 😂😂😂 thanks once again for this good information about raising our kids i stopped comparing my kids developments to others it was stressing me for nothing.
❤👏Bump Love...we are so grateful to u. I wish these types of convos were around in the dark ages of 80s/90s when some of our parents were totally lost & at their wit's trying to understand what was developmentally/mentally " wrong" with their children. The reason why most parents esp in that era "hid" those kids was because of the stigma brought on by the ignorance. Ma mum ❤️ was one of those parents who would have moved the world just to understand why her son wasn't hitting his milestones (ma bro is dyslexic). Even the community one could have run to as a safe place, was a cesspool festering with witchcraft theories. Thank Heavens for the enlightening 2000s & may we all humans (parents or not) be kind & open to learning different things abt each other. Actually the word "normal" shld be erased frm daily use, coz when it gets down to the nitty gritty ...all of us humans are not "normal" but we are beautifully different. Offcourse some are crazy as vampires in sunlight but... At the end of day, what every human disabilitites or not craves/desires is to be seen, heard, understood & acknowledged. Thanks Ladies!
Hey bump love thank u so much for this topic it was quite informative. Could u please address the topic of disability that arises in adulthood ie loss of limbs, blindness and how it affects marriage and kids
Hello Bump love. I'm grateful for all the light you shade on several life issues, especially around the subject of motherhood. A kind request, kindly discuss something about sickle cell disease. It's so rampant lately.
@@pumlanabachwa8668 I'm a carrier too . Got a sickler am raising ! ( Believing Jesus for our miracle) but it's a tough experience. I only pray for a day when the world will be totally sickle cell pain free, it's possible if we all tested and made informed reproduction decisions.
Wow I have been taking things for granted. I better pay attention to my children 🤔 Pumla thanks for always availing us with the necessary knowledge. Thank you team and God bless you🤞
Im glad to hear that you ladies paid/are paying attention to your children's behavior. I really appreciate this topic. After I graduated from the university, I worked part-time with kids, actually young adults who were autistic. Some were non-verbal and some verbal. They were all in their 20s, even taller than me and im talking 6 feet tall but had minds of 2-3 year Olds. Singing and clapping made them smile. Kwegamba small, small things, even just dropping a box on the floor, would make them laugh. My level of empathy went from 90 to 100. I worked there for about 6 months before I found a job I had gone to school for. I have always felt honored to have been given the opportunity to have worked with those boys because now when I meet autistic kids or even any kind of developmentally delayed child, I have a different mindset. There is even a connection with their parents and i know how to react when the child approaches me. I also know and have experienced that most parents who can see that your educated are willing to chat with you and just engage on a level no one else would understand.
I am a first time mom, saw all these programs in USA that you can have a child read by age 3.I jumped on the train because my child was very interested by 20 months 😢 though waited till she was 2 years and we started. She’s not yet 3 years and can read ( phonics, sight words) for 3-5 years old and this is affecting her. She’s over stimulated and her energy is so much for us 😭😭😭😭. I feel like I messed up my child and I can’t speak about it with anyone including her pediatrician because I fear to be judged. Every one around us call her smart but as a parent who stays with her I know what I am going through.
Oh WOW! Seek medical help and find out what interventions you might or might not need. Speak up Tracy. Better to be judged now than face a lifetime of regret
@@pumlanabachwa8668 I stopped it all, trying to watch her progress and maybe will take a little longer. I will get intervention at the end of this year incase of no change.
Great advice to all parents, especially of young children. Surprisingly, young men - college level - hardly have any contact with young children - unless they work in service provision domains. So their first real contact with children is their first born child. And, in most cases, it is an accepted fallacy that child/child care = mother or child minder. A continuing sad situation in rural parts of our country/ ies, hiding atypical children is still the norm. Now, what to do?
