As a masculine presenting female who is a single mother, this episode definitely hit close to home for me. I had my son on my own at 35. I feel like my situation is so very similar to Jazz’s. I actually got out of a relationship with a woman with a child and felt like I would not date any more women with children but I knew I wanted a family. I felt like my time was running out so I decided to have a child on my own, regardless of how it would affect my future relationships. I feel like my wife is out there and what is meant for me will find me. Bottom line though, you definitely have to approach me differently if you want to date me because I am a mother.
Another topic would be dating/relationships/marriages with studs or fems who have a child with a previous partner. The "co-parenting" relationship between the two can be very interesting
I thought this podcast was going to be about “OUR Experiences Dating Women With Children”. Imma need a part 2 because only Jaz talked about her experience. I need to hear all 3 experiences
This was a great episode ❤. Thanks for letting Jaz really express herself - her insights expose the shady side of how women try to come up off the biological nature of women.
I like the conversation and the different perspectives of the two women on the panel with no kids dating women with kids and Nookie being a mother and dating women with kids.Great topic.
I loved this discussion. I love that yall have different perspectives from the 30s to the 40s and onward. We need more of those kind of evolved discussions
I’m a mother and my pride won’t let me ever ask someone I’m dating for any type of help lol idc what it is, if you want to offer something then cool, but I’m good with just dating my person without involving MY responsibilities but hey, I’m a Leo 🤷🏻♀️ lol
And some partners will never let you have to ask because how they view it is, if I’m dating or involved the mom then they want to also be active in the child’s live. This topic is pretty broad.
1:09:48 great topic and discussion. Not sure why my notifications are not popping up but glad I'm catching up. For me it's maturity and mindset of the individual. Which in my experience, we respect each other and if one is happier with another, we wish them much happiness. And I'm a mother of 3 teens, the mindset the mindset the mindset. Lol it's not for everyone and I respect everyone's perspective you know. It allowed me to learn more about myself, boundaries and growth during my experience. Much love to you all keep shining ✨️
In my early 20s I’ve dated one person with a kid and she was mature and great, the only thing I would struggle with is being included in having a part as a parent, especially because the father was still in the picture. For everybody it’s different, I would love to have a woman with a young kid but that also has boundaries. The woman has to realize it’s a partnership so I’m pouring into them and they are pouring into me. I don’t want to be considered a part time parent cause I’d be in it for the long haul. Can’t ask me to consider your kid but I’m not able to also parent the kid (respectfully). The person has to be mature, the bag a ego, pride and one sidedness won’t work with me.
I’m with you jazz and I have a teenager and a single parent dating, I don’t like having a partner attend to my child as often as me & more than the father would. If you choose to help that’s totally fine if not that’s fine as well. I would just require that you and my child build your own authentic relationship and that can’t CANNOT! Be bought.
Hey hey! Long time listener and first time commenting 😊. First off, I want to say I love watching/listening each week and was so glad to see y'all found another way to reach the masses! I hear people say that a lot, "I don't want to bring a child into this fucked up world", but the world is changing everyday. Life is exactly what we make it and the kids are our future. Who's to say that these growing generations aren't the positive change we need? Just listening to your perspectives on things shows that each of you have a lot of knowledge to pass to someone, newborn or not. I say all of that to say don't let fear, or unpleasant past experiences, stop you from finding and doing what you truly want in life. What's the best that can happen? 🫶🏾
I did dat shit 1 time and was like hell naw this shit for the birds bruh I'm way to selfish to be dealing with someone else kids...them Heffas only won't help from yo dumb azz there's no benefit in dealing with women like dat....she already booked, busy, and stressed from bein a mama I'm definitely not tryna get involved with all dat hell naw..woman with kids definitely ain't and will never be for me it's much more opportunity out there don't settle or downgrade yoself frfr💯💯💯💯🚫
It seems like Jazz just dated the wrong woman who happened to have a child… she would have been an opportunist and taken advantage of her even without the kid… I hope she is able to reconcile the difference one day
I’m a Taurus & am very proud & cautious in helping assure I have my own foundation.. totally don’t get involved with anyone because of financial gain or someone taking care of me. Way too prideful to be bought
Happy birthday to your daughter my b-day was also June 2nd 🎉 and my turn up was reading and chilling 😂this was a very good conversation… I’m a fem with children and I primarily don’t date I have a deeper protection and have to safe guard…just can’t add any woman into our lives and the process is definitely a long one with introduction to my children… children become attached quickly based on the comfort of mom and if a breakup occurs it’s 9/10 going to be a disconnect from the children as well which is disheartening… I absolutely love being a mother….looking for “step-staddies” to me is weird… judgment or preference doesn’t bother me… comes with life regardless but realistically because I lived life based on stigmas early on and the opinions of others (like family) I know that dating within our community is more of a “trying” task than a fem with no children that lived and lives out loud for the majority of their lives… and the understanding that I’m not looking for a woman to fill a void…my children have myself and a full family of support… anyway enjoyed the convo
I have to agree with letting you partner be a part of the community. As a single mom I needed a lot of help but I would only accept it from my family. When I dated someone I never asked or accepted that person doing anything for my child that they wouldn’t do for anyone else because my child is my responsibility no one else’s. I told my girlfriend I can’t accept any help from you until you’re a part of this family I felt that relationship she had with my daughter had to exist outside of us.
I don't think I'll ever date another woman with kids. She had no boundaries with the kids dad & I didn't feel appreciated. Genuinely loved those babies though 🤦♀️
Me and my girl have been waiting for this episode to drop. 😅 I’m 20 and she’s 35 but she has 3 kids… we run into problems but usually it’s me having a hard time with it and thinking about the future but when you guys were talking about how it depends on the love for the person and how you don’t even realize that really hit because it really be like that!!!! Honestly tho I feel bad for the one with the kids sometimes because they get so much heat maybe just a age gap thing. But anyways thank you for blessing this Friday can’t wait for more episodes!!!
Im a single mom and I never asked someone I was just dating to do anything for my child always thought that was unfair. The only thing I wanted was for my girlfriend to accept that I hardly have free time and I can’t relax unless I know my daughter was ok, but that is still a very hard thing to go through.
I too dated a woman with a child and honestly I don’t regret the break up, we should’ve dated in the first place. However, I miss the child, he’s a young adult now but I also am a woman who like Jaz I don’t want my family to want for anything and financially invested into the child and our home. I wonder about him and pray he’s doing well.
That was a really good and interesting topic of discussion.. and it actually made me really think about if I want to date someone with kids or not. I am getting up their in age so I guess that may come with territory….I have a question for y’all tho. Have y’all ever been in a relationship with someone who y’all felt ran away from the love that y’all shared? Or have y’all ever ran away from a love that y’all shared with someone?
Interesting topic and as a lesbian approaching 30, it’s the realization that a good amount of women will have kids. HOWEVER, since I don’t have kids so I won’t seek a person with a child or children. There are too many things I still want to do in life that that additional responsibility can hinder, and at the same time it’s the question of does this woman actually wants me or looks at me as the help. I do feel if ole girl was able to keep her woman in designer, she should give the same to her daughter sometimes. My stepmother and men my mother have dated have never left me out, when they have the funds to keep their partner dressed to the nines or have them gifts. Granted it wasn’t 100% of the time, but out of respect they made sure I was cared for. Within that, as a mature woman now or eventually if I do start dating women with children, you should treat that child as your own, but also if there is an additional active parent, that child should not be your full responsibility. I don’t have respect for “lesbian” women that enter into this community looking for a helpmate and someone to solely put their child off on. I also don’t feel this so called motherly instinct either to play step-studdaddy with everyone woman I meet that has kids. It’s unfortunate how many have to raise children on their own, but we need to stop taking them on as charity cases and then these kids end up confused with the constant introduction of someone new in their lives.
Narcissim with a friend/homie: Bru… I was so prepared to protect against narcissism in a romantic sense but never prepared or thought about a situation with a homie. A homie reached out. Said was interested in friendship & all hell broke loose.🤦🏽♀️
I met my ex wife after she came out of a relationship with a woman that had 2 kids. She had the two kids as her screen saver on her phone the night I met her. When I stayed at her place, she had things they made her around her home. That was the thing I remember feeling conflicted about, knowing she had a home with them and I knew she missed it- or at least parts of it. Like she had already built something elsewhere that was attached to another woman that wasn’t me. My Venus is in Leo, so I struggled in the beginning with that dynamic but she never made me question what she wanted to build with me. That was years ago but this convo definitely brought back those memories.
One thing I'd like to say to Jaz is that the Universe is always listening. If you think and feel you will attract another women like that ex you delt with, you will. You have to believe in your soul that you will meet your person and that, that person will be the one to build that family with you. You have to speak and feel what you want to attract, not what you don't want to attract. You have to trust yourself and so so solid within yourself that no matter who you meet, you will know whether or not they are aligned with what you want almost immediately. I speak from personal experience. It is absolutely possible for the Universe to bring you everything you want.
I love ppl with kids my sister had 13 children and my other sister had 5 my oldest nephew have 22 children etc I love family I have no problem showing up for my soon to be family I also feel like if I want to I will most things doesn’t have to be asked you can feel when something needs to be done where your other part is lacking in or need help with
People with children operate life differently. Their life is completely consumed with taking care of their children if they are good parents and active parents. People who don’t have children should not be in relationships with people who do have children. I don’t even care what the circumstances are. The only thing you will be doing is taking on disrespect from children who understand you are not their biological parent and if you are not doing everything in your power to make the relationship work you will have problems. Many people stay in unhealthy relationships because they are comfortable. There is simply not an even playing field and the expectations are wayyy too high for the person coming in without the kid. Than the person who failed at creating a two parent household for the child they brought into the world. Rather it was their fault or not. It did not happen for whatever reason. Blended families only work when another child is automatically birthed into the situation or the other person in question has children of their own. They work because the playing field is evened out in the sense that they now have a child together or they are both coming in with children.
I loooooove this topic as I’m happy in a relationship with my partner ( she has 4 kids , we have a 6 years gap) we lived together for 1 year. In my humble opinion this episode lacked a little bit of maturity. Rising kids is something serious but I think it’s a broad topic and all depends on the person. Can’t wait to watch part two. 🙂
I think Jazz should most definitely step out on faith and do it by herself but make sure she’s really ready for that responsibility by herself and have a good support system behind her
I feel it’s way harder with the baby daddy still around fr. I feel like there’s always “I’m the dad “ . As he is however I’m with your baby momma so I’m going to be around your kid for the sake of this relationship nothing else . When the baby daddy falls short it’s like it’s my duty to step up to that plate and I’m not doing that . If he wasn’t in the picture yes I would . But I’m not picking up the slack of you just because you’re irresponsible if that makes sense .
I’m going to disagree with the scenario where the child will always choose the parent. To me that depends on the relationship that parent had with their child. I’ve always told my daughter to consider the consequences of your choices and decide what you can and cannot live with. If a situation ever arises where you feel like you have to decide what’s best for you or what’s best for me choose yourself because I’m your mom I’ll always make the same choice.
Jas situation has less to do with the woman having a child and more to do with that woman's character flaws. Im a queer mama of a 7 yr old. In my experience in dating i dont have expectations around who im dating and them being hands on w my kid. Matter of fact, nobody im dating regardless of gender needs to meet my child unless we are serious and committed. Once we reach the point of being in a relationship i do appreciate help and support and my person would know thats part of it. It takes a village to raise a child. And everyone in that village has their place and responsibilities with some having more than others for sure. That said theres someone out there for everyone.
Children or not,has nothing to do with ignorance! You cannot get upset at all! And I expect dark skin stud(forgot her name) to stand up for them because she’s feeling a way
1:04:38 I don’t know any person I touched or talked to should not engage in anything but a friendship with my friends etc I couldn’t handle that a lot of knots dots and pop pops
She dated a woman with a kid who just used her financially. Sorry about that. I am a mom and i would never burden my partner when it comes to my kids. But if we are married I u need to want to treat my children like yours. if u can't then don't bother stepping into a relationship with a woman with children.
Probably because the dad was still around but if it’s just me u the baby with no daddy am talking dead beat no where to be found then yeah I’ll take owner
I'm A Lesbian Independent Mother By Choice. I Decided To Have A Baby Through IUI Single Because I Had Two College Degrees, Wasn't Able To Find The Old School Masculine Centered Stud That I'm Attracted To, & I Had Hit My 30s Without Finding "The One". Having Had My Daughter Without A Village Has Been Challenging, I Want To Give My Daughter A Sibling, & Once Again I'm Single. But Still Desire Love In A Romantic Relationship & It Would Be Nice To Have A "Village" For My Little Family. I Had Two Loving & Involved Parents & In Some Form I Want To Create That For My Daughter. I Loved This Podcast. Kind Of Made Me Emotional. 🤍
I love ppl with kids my sister had 13 children and my other sister had 5 my oldest nephew have 22 children etc I love family I have no problem showing up for my soon to be family I also feel like if I want to I will most things doesn’t have to be asked you can feel when something needs to be done where your other part is lacking in or need help with
