If i was that pastor... i could pause the wedding process for a while until i see the full willingness and openness of the bride.. She absolutely look like taking the wedding for granted, not committed and really not serious... are you people really still together by now... ?? I read the comments where you say you were serious but shy... it just didnt add up to me... if you are still together... make everyday a new beginning and commit yourself to it... happiness... !!