I got married at eighteen to my hubby, I was four and a half months pregnant. We'd met at the end of March and by the middle of April he'd asked me to marry him. I moved in with him in the May found out I was expecting in August and we married in the October. I borrowed the white full dress off a friend, there was about a handful of guests. We married in a church with no flowers, music and it cost £45 that my dad paid for. We didn't have a reception, we went back to our flat, my mum had done food, had a cake made. We didn't have a honeymoon. The following March we had our daughter, she was our first, followed with three boys. So twenty-five years later we are still very much in love and our 24,23,20 & 18 year old kids are very happy. Our three son also have autism and other disabilities but they live like anyone else and are very independent. We've not looked back, you can spend silly amounts on weddings but do the marriages last? Sadly not always, if you love each other and want to spend the rest of you're lives together nothing else matters. I love watching you're posts, your blessed with a wonderful family and the boys are brilliant. I love grounded people who embrace who they are and not what others expect. Keep the posts coming xxxx
suzanne nicholson thank you so much Suzanne possibly one of my favourite comments I have ever received. You sound like you have the most amazing family and some absolutely wonderful children. I love having subscribers like you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow this is a true love story. This is what I think. You don’t need to have a massive wedding and spend a fortune. I feel like when they do that it’s more for the guests and not because they are in love and wanna be married! Your sons are obviously warriors. I have a disability so I know how hard it can be and I see how hard it is for my mum to see me in pain etc. You and your husband are also warriors. I know that to you they are just your children but to see them have harder battles then the average person and ten times more battles is tough. I don’t know if I’m making sense here but your story is amazing. I wish you many more years of a happy marriage. 💕
r Begum thank you, I do my best and that’s what counts. After all none of us comes with an overly large handbook with step by step instructions and sometimes that would be wonderful but sadly we go in blind and have to figure it out. Thank you again for your lovely comment xx
Lucy Jessica Carter aww thank you, from what I’ve seen you do a great job yourself. Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t always been easy but you just roll with it. In regards to my sons if they didn’t have a strong supportive parent who they could trust and rely on then they’d be alone. I figured out we take our day to day living for granted children and adults with disabilities struggle with basic skills and we just need to be more aware. My hubby has told me he’s thinking of banning me from watching RU-vid because I’ve gone nuts with cleaning, changing things in the house, Christmas, shopping and waffling about people on RU-vid 😂what can I say🙈it’s all good. Keep up the great posts, take care 💖💖💖💖
I got married at 16, wedding cost £500 and Honestly we didn't enjoy having everyone's eyes on us and having to spend most of the day dashing about. The best part of the day was leaving together knowing we were husband and wife and would be spending the rest of our lives together . We've been married 24yrs now and our love just grows stronger and stronger. An expensive wedding isn't needed, Being married is about love not just one day and a party. You two are adorable 💏
Our wedding costs us nearly 40 grand! And I felt all the pressure in the world for it to be the best day of my life. Thank you for making this video as it has confirmed what I was too afraid to admit. Our wedding day was chaos , amongst the glitz and glamour of our beautiful wedding venue, expensive catering and fresh flower walls everywhere, I felt under so much pressure to make sure I looked amazing, everyone was happy and every photo would look flattering. None of this ended up going to plan! But I’ll allways remember the laughs and amazing feeling my family and husband gave me on the day. Was it the best day of my life! No? And often I don’t believe people when they say their wedding day was. So thank you again for shining light on this as not a lot of people would admit to this!
My husband and I went to NYC and got married by ourselves, it was amazing and I wouldn’t change a thing! We had a reception when we got home to include everybody else.. (and so I could wear my dress twice!) xx
It just shows you don’t need to spend loads on everything to have a good day, your wedding looked amazing and I think weddings you hear about and see are unrealistic! It’s all about the memories and the love x
My mum and step dad go to the Maldives every year and I’ve been 3 times which I’m privileged to be able to do, our family tend to spend money on holiday rather than new cars and designer things. We don’t go to these massively expensive islands, but it’s the best place in the world, you want to cry all the time when you’re there at how amazing it is. I would take everyone so they could experience it just once in their life, please go, you won’t regret it, all the best x
You're both so down-to-earth and I love all the points you made about the real value of a wedding - the actual marriage. Money doesn't have to be the primary factor
This was so refreshing to watch, you two are so down to earth and relatable. Money isn't everything and you are definitely not getting married for the right reasons if spending tonnes of money on luxury and extravagance is the.most important thing! x
I got married in santorini with 37 guests - it was perfect. You two should renew your vowels there someday 😍😍😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️ love you two together - so down to earth xxxx
Ive always stood by the fact the wedding doesnt make the marriage - been proven to me as well. I was a bridesmaid for my brother when he was just 18. Cheapest wedding, under £1000... everything handmade and second hand back in 2003. Church was free as they were already members and used the hall attached for the reception. My Dad had a DJ set from his 'dj days' and everyone chipped in. All the love and work tho to avoid expense I still heard 'itll never last' my sister in law was pregnant at the time. I was then a bridesmaid again for my cousin several years later, she did it all. From dress fittings in Paris to various venues for photos before the ceremony to lavish food and band.... my bridesmaid dress was actually a top and skirt and alone at just 12 was over £300. Well you wont be surprised when i say my brother is still happily married to this day... however my cousin is not. So after recently getting engaged ive promised myself to set a budget what we can afford and have and to stick to it... cos as you've said and i fully agree the wedding does not make the marriage. ❤❤
Such a nice video, your attitude is sooo refreshing! Love your jumper Lucy! Jordan is soo funny my dad also had no idea what was going on at my parents wedding! Such a lovely video as per usual xx
I’m due to get married in 15 weeks and We’ve cancelled it twice due to covid, lost my job and lost family member the last 8 months so we’ve decided a small intimate ceremony and a meal is what is best. 👌. A massive wedding just isn’t everything any more. X
Just been recommenced this. You’re such a likeable couple, so down to earth. You were the same ages as me and my hubby were when we got married 🙂 just celebrated our twelfth anniversary x
Your soo real, and I loved this video. But my wedding day really was the best day of my life I wouldn't have changed 1 thing, it really was the most breathtaking day of my life. It's nice to see another perspective though. ❤️
Omg thank you so much for this. We were so wrapped up with having the perfect wedding, we spent 30k on ours and shortly afterwards I had a mental breakdown and was signed off work for two months. There was so much drama with friends and family demanding things that it just became an event to make everyone else happy. Thank you for being so honest! There is so much pressure for it to be the happiest day of your life so when it isn’t you feel like you’ve majorly failed! X
Great down to earth couple! I'm not actually married myself, but for young couples that are thinking of tieing the knot this was a really great way to let people know that it hasn't got to be all over the top, get in debt for, & just to fulfil other people's enjoyment & to feel you have to live up to people's perceptions, do what is right for you & what YOU can afford! By the way Lucy where's your white/grey jumper from Hun?, it's lovely. X
My wedding day cost around £150/£200 for everything including clothing. 6 family members were the guests and it was the most wonderful day ever. Was romantic & intimate with the people who support and love us the most. It’s our 4 year wedding anniversary this month❤️
Ah we did ours on £2.5k 38 guests. 50 at the church and 38 for a meal at the restaurant we had our 1st date on. My dress in the sale £100. Valentine's day wedding. 3 and a half weeks notice. Job done. 8 years in Feb and happier than ever. You don't need tonnes of money or all the time frame. If you want to do it you will do it. Great video you two.x
Me and my partner went to the Maldives to the island of Kuredu and it was amazing and beautiful! I highly recommend going-the wedding area on the beach looked stunning
i absolutely love how organic and honest you both are, there is always a lot of fluff regarding weddings and it truly sets the bar high, as well as the expectations! It's nice to hear some truth behind weddings and takes a lot of the pressure off!xx
I got married when I was 21 and also 24 weeks pregnant. We had a wedding booked for July 2019 but instead we decided to secretly marry February 2018 with just our parents and siblings around, my proposal was nothing big or romantic but it never bothered me. We just did it our way. My wedding ring cost £10 and my husbands was £15, I didn't even wear a white wedding dress - we spent about £180 in total that was for the registry and cake. We enjoyed a sit down meal afterwards. I just think you get married for one reason, whether you spend 20k on a wedding or £20 you still have the same outcome. Weddings are about love, not about how flashy they are or money. So I love this video x
I am so glad you have made this video. I am getting married on Christmas Eve at a registry office with only our immediate family as witnesses. It took so long for our parents to come around to the idea as they dreamed of a big lavish wedding for us, but we have a son and just wanted to be married and have that family unit. It is like you have explained exactly what was on my mind! Was so upset because I did not want to hurt anybody in the process but with the money we have saved we are using it as a deposit to buy a home. You have made me feel so much better so thank you!
This is so cute! You two got married for the right reasons and will probably stay together forever. So many people rush into expensive marriages that don’t last nowadays and it’s refreshing to see that you two are just so happy and content as you are. ❤️
You are the most sincerest couple and as a family of four you seem so happy and so in love. Hope you and your boys have a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year 😘
I did my whole wedding on £1800 so I do agree you don’t need to spend a lot xx my best friend made my wedding cake my husband friend is a photographer so he did our photos, my in-laws did the buffet 💕💕💕 fab video love you two to bits 💕💕
THANK YOU you two for this!! My partner and I have recently got engaged and we are shocked by the pressure we have felt to have "the perfect" wedding. This is exactly what we needed to watch and hear!! Please do a more in depth vlog about budget wedding tips etc, and a wedding under £1000 sounds great!! Xxx
I loved this video! Me and my fiancée want to get married next year and we have been looking at Vegas we don’t want a big wedding can’t afford it and don’t like being centre of attention or inviting people don’t speak too! This has helped me out a lot as my family have turned there nose up at my decision however it is up to us at the end of the day and why waste money you don’t have when you can have a nice house and honeymoon. I’d love you to do a budget wedding tips video. Love you videos Lucy xx
Im just finding you and your blogs (which i love btw and have been binge watching) i got married very cheap too. We got married on our 9th anniversary. Already had 2 kids. Pregnant with the 3rd. Went away for our anniversary alone together and secretly eloped. No guests other than 2 witnesses. Came back few days later married. Best decision ever made and id do it again. Been together 12yrs and married nearly 3 now.
We just got married 29 October this year. Don't get me wrong, it was a day full of love but I wish we had've eloped. I was worried sick all day being in front of everyone.
I think a lot of people focus way to much on the wedding day, when it’s not about that but the life you are committing to each other. And everyone always seems to want to out do each other with big weddings. We had a small wedding (although it cost a lot!!) but I have the best marriage and that’s all that matters!! X
Me and my hubby are exactly the same, We also had our 2 children on our wedding day. My mum was so excited so I was happy to let her plan it and go along with it been her only daughter as I would of married him in a bin bag I wasn’t bothered. Love being married
We tried to keep our wedding reasonable as well, we spent about 4-5k including what our parents put towards it. We knew we were about to start saving to buy a house so we didn't want to spend an extortionate amount on the wedding. We looked at a couple of hotels where it was easily going to be 10k or more. In the end my mum did our cake as she used to do them professionally, we used my dad's classic car as a wedding car, decorated function room ourselves (even including chair covers and bows from ebay), made our invitations and even did a sweet table for about £50 when I went to a wedding fair and they were £300 minimum! So much you can do yourself that saves a lot of money.
Aww I love how you said you're favourite part is actually being married over the wedding day 🙌. I totally agree! I love being married to my best friend ❤️
This is reality talk! I didn’t really enjoy my wedding day either but I can look back at photos and video and believe I did! Would like to have done it with the knowledge I have now! Don’t get me started on moaning relatives either!! One of my bridesmaids wet herself on the carpet while standing behind me!! She was only eight at the time. I love your honesty you two.
My wedding was on a budget too and was around £5000. But yes I am the same, I LOVE being married more than i loved the day. I also used loads of gypsophila 😂 Your wedding sounds pretty similar to mine X
I love how you are talking about the fact that you don’t need a huge massive wedding. I feel like when you do that it’s more for the guests then the actual bride and groom. Yeh obviously they do it for themselves to but the majority of it is entertaining the guests etc. My mum got married in Vegas and it was perfect. She had been married to my dad once before and she did that here in the U.K. she went to Vegas because my grandpa had died and she wanted something different then the last time as it was rushed because my grandpa was very poorly and she wanted him to give her away he ended up pulling through for another 5 years. They were engaged field ages they just hadn’t got round to it. Vegas weddings aren’t just getting married by Elvis etc. There was only me, my aunt, my uncle, my sister and my grandma there. It was perfect!
I agree the wedding shouldn't be the be all and end all. We did our wedding as cheaply as possible too. We could have afforded a more expensive wedding but we preferred to buy a family home. It's not the wedding that's important, it's the marriage. We had a lovely day and everyone always says that our wedding was beautiful as it was so relaxed. My wedding dress was £48 from Ebay! X
I've been engaged for 4 years and tbh a wedding scares me not getting married just all the stuff you gotta do in front of people I would rather do it how you said if you could do it again I think I may do that
You guys are so down to earth and so funny. Love you guys together. Jordon is so good looking and funny and fun to watch. And him saying his favorite part was...... gettin into bed 😂😂😂😂 so honest! The end had me rolling, is it 😆
I've not been to Boro bora but we had our honeymoon in The Maldives and went back again 4 years later. It is absolute HEAVEN on earth. Reethi Beach Resort. It's a must!
Bloody hell I married a French man..spur the moment thing...cost £370 ..lasted 10 yrs ...he was only on one those student exchange haha...had 2 beauts of daughters ...plus biker hubbys are the best...been bought up in biker fam and the fun times I member from my dad doin enduros and tt...is all bout family fun ..which for me ..all those memories of sleeping in the car coz of a bike event ..were the best times and priceless xxxxx
I love the title of this video! I also loved your wedding post on instagram the other week. My wedding day was awesome, but I’ve been too ashamed to say that it wasn’t the best day of my life, until you have admitted that yours wasn’t. I’m so glad I’m not the only one! I unfortunately got too swept up in the moment and invited a few people who I wouldn’t necessarily have invited now. It put a downer on it looking back, because I don’t see them now and have only seen them twice since the wedding and have since found out that they weren’t necesssarily very nice people. Secondly, it rained on my July wedding day and we had picked a venue that really was only perfect in the sunshine (my bad, I know!). As much as everyone says ‘rain shouldn’t ruin your wedding day’ (and it didn’t, it was still amazing!), it just meant that the ‘wow’ element of the day was missing because guests couldn’t explore the beautiful venue and gardens properly due to the weather, and were huddled under parasols for post ceremony drinks. I’ve tried and tried to get over that just over a year on from the wedding, but it will always stay with me that it rained on my wedding day, whilst I’ve seen a lot of people I know getting married on beautiful sunny days. Some people might think that’s ridiculous of me to feel that way, but every bride has a vision for their day (whatever that vision may be) and mine was for all my guess to be drinking champagne on the lawn in the sunshine. I really take my hat off to you for publically admitting that, even though your wedding was awesome and beautiful, it wasn’t the absolute best day of your life, because I feel exactly the same xxx
Me and my husband got married in Las Vegas in September 18. We decided not to invite any family because we wanted to get married for ourselves and not to put on a show for everyone else, we also knew that some people wouldn't have been able to afford to go all that way to watch us get married so to avoid arguments we decided to do it alone. It was the best day of my life we had everything planned before we got there. The chapel was absolutely stunning and just like the pictures I had seen online. They planned our transport, flowers, photographers, private dinner afterwards and more. We then went and watched a cirque du soleil show in the evening which was incredible. We spent a week in Vegas and then went to Florida for 2 weeks. Best decision we could have made because like you said we spent all that money on ourselves! I knew i would have felt exactly the same as you if I done it here in the UK xxx
Maldives I went to this year- I never get holidays blues nor the need to return to anywhere once I’ve already been but Maldives is absolutely incredible have severe holiday blues and we are going again next year! Would say though, pay the extra money and go somewhere a bit more expensive as you get for what you pay for out there!
Went to the Maldives for our honeymoon, was 100% worth it. Would recommend to any couple. Vid uploaded if you want to see our experience, we also coupled it with a stop to Dubai.
We got married in Mauritius with just our best friends and it was so chilled and cheap (for a wedding). We then had a party back home with friends and family but it was a lot more stressful trying to please everyone. You are totally right though, for me it's about being married not the wedding xxx
What a gorgeous couple 😘...loved this video and totally agree with everything you both said....too much pressure on you to have the perfect wedding day now. Your photos were stunning 😘
You BOTH make a BEAUTIFUL Couple... So.... Funny to watch the interaction Keep LOVING each other FOREVER... BEAUTIFUL FAMILY now that your Twins are here is even that much more SOLID.... GBY ALL ❤💙💙💙💖💖🧸🙏🎉
I relate so much! I had a fab day but we did it on the cheap. Cost about 2k in total. People get sucked into they hype of this big white wedding and then get in debt for years! it’s about love not money xx
Just watching this, my friend bought all her wedding stuff on ebay. They were together for 10 years before they got married. They asked for donations for their honeymoon. They didn't care about the ceremony either. My other friends are just eloping and have been together for 8 years. My sister had a big wedding and it was lovely, but me personally would rather have a small wedding x
Such a great video. I also feel like my wedding day wasn’t the bed day of y life. I had post natal depression but didn’t realise what was wrong with me! I never felt like I could admit it wasn’t the best day of my life. So great to hear it’s not just me! Xx
Love this video! I’d love to be married but because I want a marriage not a wedding, it would be lovely to celebrate our love with family but just a good party or go to a restaurant. Such a lovely video x
I’m sure Maldives will be lovely. However, there are other places which offer what Maldives has to offer i.e white sands and clear turquoise/ blue water at a cheaper price . For example, Philippines has beautiful beaches just not the water villas. Plenty of luxury hotels I.e Shangri-La . Zanzibar is also beautiful. Expensive in terms of accommodation but nowhere as expensive as Maldives . For those that can’t afford Maldives please know there are other places which are equally as nice and so affordable , you are not missing out by not going to Maldives ❤️
Put so much into perspective for me I get married myself next year.. Needed to see this video. 😍 - Me and my partner have the same age gap as you two. And we’ll also be 24 & 27 when we get married. ☺️💖
Ahhh you’ve got a new fan! girl your unbelievable so down to earth and real! Loving the vibe, your fella is unreal aswell love how yous are together xxx
Deffinately the Maldives! We had our honeymoon there and it is literally paradise. Never seen sand so white and sea so blue! The only thing is every holiday you go on after just doesn't compare haha! Love your videos 😘 x
Jordan throughout this video is sooo funny😂 "I'm not talkative when I'm hungry" 😂 I absolutely love you as a couple and am so grateful you made this video! As a girl there's so much pressure from other female friends about how amazing is your dress going to be and your ring and your hair and it can be too much! 💖
You can't get married for £30. We went to the registry office - you still have to pay for the registrar, room and admin plus notice. Admin fee and notice where we live cost us £170, plus there was a £275 charge for the room at the registrar office. So still, very expensive for a piece of paper. Rather keep the money.
