My story exactly except the first night I cried :( tua nyuj hu plig rau menyuam lod niam pog tsis tuaj koom. Tuaj lo tsis pab ua ib qhov haulwm kiag. Thank you to the sister who is brave to share.
No matter how clean you are, mopping while your in laws are still there shows how much you dislike them. If you dislike his family that much then divorce was the perfect solution.
I would said when you first got married to your husband. You shouldn’t change anything around in your in-law house. If you live by yourself than you can do whatever you want. When your in-law came inside your house with the dirty shoe. You should of wait until they go home before mop your floor.
I love a clean house too but I wait til everyone leaves before I start cleaning. Mopping after them while they’re there is very disrespectful to some people and they take it personally. Maybe do your cleaning after all the guest leaves. Change how you talk to them about cleaning or how dirty they are.
Yes. You are over do it. You clean while they are there that’s disrespecting them. Doesn’t matter how much you like to be clean you should wait until they leaved
Txhob tu siab mog me niam hluas aw. Yus yog neeg zoo ces yus zoo siab qhov yus muab tso tseg es txhob khuv xim lub niag neeg yav tas los nrog tsev neeg tub nkeeg os mog
Hmmm who wouldn’t like a clean house. Maybe you should think about how u react to them. It’s good that you love to be clean but I feel like you doing too much to the point ur in-law scared to come to ur house. Would love to hear the other side of the story!🤣
After listening to your story, l think you're more at fault than your in-laws. You're too extreme. Yes, it's best to keep your house clean, but that mouth must have been thunder and lightning. Take responsibility for your actions. Don't try to change others, only do what you can and control yourself.
Sister, they don't deserve you! You are a good house wife. My mom is like this and So is my siblings. Its not your fault that they cannot handle someone like you. Its their lost, i wouldn't be able to enter someone's dirty house if i saw dirty bathroom.
I can’t live with dirty people like wearing shoes in the house or have clusters, trash in the home. She may be a little extreme but I rather live with someone who has ODC then dirty people.
My husband wasn’t a very clean person when I married him. Over the years my cleanliness rubbed off on him and now he’s a clean freak! I can never live in a dirty house with dirty people!
There’s always two sides to the story. I’d not like it either if someone comes into my house and boxed my dishes and towels in garbage bags without letting me know. Cleaning is good but there should be a limit. Would you like if someone do that to your belongings without asking you? If your house is dirty, wait for your guests to leave before you clean.
There are two norms of lifestyle; messy/smelly or cleanliness. I feel your pain as well because I’m a cleanliness type. I I wouldn’t be able to use the bathroom 🚽 if it’s that grossed out. I CANNOT stand going to visit kins’ who live messy and nasty like a junkyard; makes me unease and uncomfortable 🥵. I avoid going out. Cleanliness is all part of healthy hygiene and a safe haven. It’s not about excluding others but living peacefully and harmonious; providing a piece of mind. Even though you weren’t intentional about the floor, you could’ve dry it up quickly or forewarned your mil.
I’m glad that when I’m married to my husband we lived by ourselves and we’re always keeping our place clean. Lucky I didn’t have to deal with lazy n dirty people.
Mab, you are such a great storyteller!! I really enjoy all your stories!! I especially love your funny sense of humor, I laugh all the time. And then you are also very intimate when you tell sad stories, makes me cry too!!
I am over nquag and got the opposite treatment. They would cook eat and leave counters and sink full of dishes, pots and pans. Bathrooms when dirty, they tell me to go clean. When we finally move out, they want to move in with me and I have to tell them NO and help them pay their rent so they don't ever come to my house to make mess for me to clean.
Good learning. Sometimes they are not in the same place we are. That's where the conflict happens. And it's ok. Good luck on finding your match, sister.
The word “over” nquag thiab over nyiam huv was the one got you into trouble. Ua neej nyob yeej yuav tau nyiam zoo thiab tab sis txhob “over” nyiam huv. Yog koj coj li ntawd yog kuv los Kuv yeej tsis xav tuaj saib koj thiab os
Sister. I understand your point of clean but please respect your in-laws and when you are new to the family do not try to change their way of living. When you have your own home, you can clean as you like. Try hard to keep it their way and that is called "respectful" to the elderly especially your in-laws. 😰🤔
Txojjkev uas tsis mloog niam mloog txiv lus ces lub neej nyob txaus ntuj ntii xwb. Thaum niamtxiv qhuabqhia zoo hos tsis yuav ces hajyam ua lub neej tsis vammeej hlo li os.
You should have learned that that's their lifestyle. If you truly loved your spouse, you should just focus on you guys. But you should have waited until your in-laws left before you started cleaning.
I always get confused during hmong weddings and wonder why the elders always say if you married into a lazy family, you have to be lazy like them. If you married into a family that smoke opium or steal, you have to steal and smoke. Now I understand what they mean. After I got married, I finally understood. If they are lazy and you are the nquag one, you will not get along with them. I can’t stand dirty people either.
To be clean, orderly, organized for your health is always a great thing and saves time in finding things. We’ve been to others homes where we asked “when they were moving” because it was so messy and disgusting. Being lazy overspills to all aspects of life, which will effect health too. If he chooses another over one who is clean - let that lazy person go!!!! He is a mamas boy who likes to be controlled.
Txhob maj yuav txiv ua ntej... yuavtsum xub xub mus saib nquab zeg tsaiv mam li yuav thiaj tsis lig nawb. Yog pom nquabzeg tag lawm ces tso tus hluas nraug povtseg zoo dua yuav tsam ua neej tsis kawg ntsig nawb. Ua li no thiaj qhia tau rau lawv paub tias yus tsis nyiam nyob lub neej tubnkeeg li lawv hlo li. Nyob huv huv zoo dua nyob li khibnyuab nawb.
Hmoob twb hais tias pom nquab ya, tsis pom nquab zes. Yuav yuav luag, yuav tau mus xyuav luagub neej tso. Tej yam kev coj ua neej li no yeej nyuaj kawg. Tus nquag yeej tsis haum tus tub nkeeg. Tus neeg nyiam huv yeej tsis haum tus neeg vuab tsuab. Tsis hais ob tsev neeg, ob viv ncaus, ob niam txiv , ob kwv tij los yeej tsis sib haum. Yog me me sib yoog tau, ces ok. Yog loj ces kawg yeej yuav tsis haum vim ib leeg nyiam ib yam. Yus yuav tau xaiv tus uas nyiam ib yam li yus thiab es lub neej thiaj yuav mus taus.
Ib tug neeg nyiam zoo yeej nyob tsis tau nrog cov neeg tsis nyiam huv ..kuv qhia rau koj tias kuv kuj yog ib tug neeg tawm ntawm tsev neeg nyiam huv mus nyob nrog ib tsev tsis nyiam huv mas yeej nyuaj kawg li tiam sis kuv tus txiv mas nws ho nyiam nyiam zoo li kuv thiab tsis tag los kuv tys niam pog ces ho yog nws niam tshiab xwb laud kuv mus nyob nrog lawv tau 8 lub hlis xwb wb kuj ho mus nyob wb lawm ces kuj kaj thiab zoo dua lawm ...kuv mloog koj zaj dab neeg no mas ua rau kuv xav txog kuv yav thaum ub thaum i kawg li os ...kav liam os ua lub siab loj thiab nawb tus neeg nyiam zoo li yus tseem tshuav yeej yuav muaj hnub ntsib xwb
Ppl like that will never appreciated you no matter how much you tried or not change the way you live, it’s not your fault it’s them and that ex husband of your was an idiot
Tus sister mloog koj tham koj zaj neej neeg no mas koj yeej phem dlaus lawm, koj yuav txhuam tsev yuav tsuam cia niam poj lawv mus tsev tag mam txhuam yeej tsis lig.... coj li koj coj yeej tsis muaj neeg tuaj xyuas koj li os, peb yeej clean vaj tsev ib yam tabsi txhob tus raws phuam som raws tej laus li koj ua tsis zoo nkauj rau tej laus....
ntawm kuv los kuj tsis tos taub li thiab. muaj ib cov niam tsev mas yeej tsis tu Vaj tsev kiag li. yeej tsis nyiam huv li los lawv nyob tau2 kawg. peb Yog ib tug niam tsev peb yuav tau tu tej Vaj tsev tej tais diav kom huv Si thiaj li Yog ib tug niam tsev zoo. kuv pom ib cov niam tsev yeej tub nkeeg tiag2 li.
Thaum pib kuv agree nrog koj tab sis thaum yuav xaus no koj yuam kev lawm tos lawv tsis kam tuaj tsuj koj lub tsev los tej zaum koj yeej hai txaus nkaus rau lawv lawm thiab koj niam pog tsuj koj lub tsev los av los yuav tsum tos lawv mus tsev mam so yog koj so right away ntawm lawv pob tws txhais tias koj yeej txhob txwm ua twm lawv thiab yog leej twg los yeej chim nawb.
To the girl who has the family is nasty your in law I think you need to please yourself first don't think about that nasty family I can not leave with unclean people that too nasty smells like trash don't feel guilty about yourself just be happy that you are not like nasty family you will find good clean man
COV TIB NEEG ES TUB NKEES CES LAWV YEEJ TSI NYIAM COV TIB NEEG NQUAG LI NAWB THIAB LAWV TSEEM THUAM TAU YUS THIAB OS VIVCNAUS AW...COV NIAG TIB NEEG ES TUB NKEES CES YEEJ NYIAM LI NTAWD NAWB LAWV AW...
Kuv los kuv yeej nyiam zoo tiab o. That's wat happen to my ex family too. My mom came and visit us and i got yell at cuz their bathroom is disguised too. I have to clean. But after that we moved out n lived by ourself. But thay was when i first got with6 him. When we lived by ourself i clean my own house.
I just say that you guys nyab n pog gave us tub lots of headache due to both side refuse to compromise lol. We the young more educated should be the one to be a little more understanding, Else.
tim koj lawm thiab os sister aw koj yuav tau hloov koj tus cwj pwm thiab koj lub neej thiaj tsis muaj teeb meem os. txawm koj yuav nyiam huv npaum cas los tos niam pog mus tsev tso mas tus tsev twb tsis lig os
Haub yau es cas tseem muaj tej yim tib neeg tsis nyiam zoo li no ces kuv los yeej nyob tsis tau li thiab os kuv los ntshe yuav kus kes heev li os tus mi Vivncaus aw tsis yuav yus lawm los haj yam zoo os mog tus mi vivncaus aw
The moral of the story is should have listened to your parents... when they tell you you're not going to get along with your boyfriend's parents.... #keepitreal
Yeah you should have kept it to yourself from judging them. And mopping while your in-laws are there was kind of disrespectful. You should have waited until they leave. I’m not saying I agree with them being dirty, but there’s a limit to what you can and can’t do.
Remember girls, there is only 1 queen in every household nowadays. This sister meant well but her mistake she went into their home taking all dishes and towels out without permission, that is disrespectful! My stuff is my stuff no one ain't gonna come in and bag up all my stuff without my permission! What may not look good to u looks good to me
The Hmong mentality is to date multiple people and marry “the best one.” But in this day in age... date one person and get to know them well before getting married. Get to know their family too!! To have a successful relationship with your in laws and husband, you have to get along in daily life. Marry someone as clean as you, someone who views money the way you do, and someone who thinks like you. Or else there will be trouble.
Yog li ces koj tus txiv tsev neeg yeej nyiam being disgusting os! I'm like you girl. I don't like my house to be messy and disgusting. It's annoying when you have a family who doesn't like to be clean.
Tus pojniam nod khav theeb zog lawm. Tus neeg nquag thiab tus zoo tiag tiag ua dabtsi yeej tsis cem thiab tsis yws. Tos niam pog txiv yawg tu siab es tsis pab koj los koj yeej cem thiab thuam lawv dhau.
When I first heard the title I was like did I hear it right? Lol who doesn't like a clean house or be clean period?!?! I know I do. Also, who cares what your in-laws or anyone says about you. At the end of the day, they're not in your shoes or pay your bills for you.
yog kuv kuj muaj ib tug mi niam hlob ma nyiam2 zoo li koj thiab os ua noj haus ma qhua twb tsi tau tsev nws twb txhuam tsev lawm ua rau qhua ntog raug mob tseem poob nyiaj thiab ua rau neeg ntshai tuaj sauj tuaj xyuas lawm thiab ....
Yog kawg. Cas yuav zoo li kuv ntag lau🤣 except they come live with me . Ntshe lawv tus tsis nyiam zoo ntawv twb laj laj nrog my husband wb nyob kawg but no one else wants them🙄.
Kj yog ib tug nyab tsis paub Cai niam thiab tuaj tsuj kj lub tsev kj kuj niam thiab txiv mus lawm mam li txhuam tsev ma tus nyab coj li ko peb tsis nyiam os
Omg my in-laws are just like this!!old fashion and still wash rags In the bath tub and also leave the eaten food on the tablet for flies to feast on! Their bathroom says a lot abt their lifestyle as well too!!and they get butthurt when trying to clean or cleaning up their mess! smdh damn overgrown adults!! Can’t even wipe after themselves
This story is just straight up ANNOYING!! Clean freaks are too annoying, everything has to be perfectly clean and you can't touch or do anything in their houses, they don't wait til you leave to clean up, they clean up behind you making you feel uncomfortable. And some people are just freakn dirty, not messy 'DIRTY' - if you're place smells sour, reeks of pee, and has nasty stains everywhere YOU DIRTY.
Tus sister koj Txoj kev nquag yeej zoo Tab sis qhov koj lub neej puas vim koj Tsi paub cai. Txoj kev qhua yim nqua yim zoo xwb tab sis yog yus Tsev los tsi hais leej twg tuaj saib yus Tsev tseem qias npaum cas los cia luag mus Tsev tso yus mam tu yeej tsi lig li os
Nothing wrong being clean but I think you don't have respect for your inlaws you as nyab shouldn't take upon yourself by to pack away your mil things when she is the niam tsev of that household. Also mopping when your mil is still in the house is so disrespectful. I think you try too hard to try to change his family instead try to adapt to their family. I think you are part of the cause for your failed marriage.
Muab mloog lawm tsi yog koj nquag dhau lawm lo tab si koj muaj lub siab phem2 qhov ua koj niam pog lo tsuj koj lub tsev siv koj lub hoob nab ua koj muab moj lo so ua koj niam pog ntog ntawv yeej yog koj txob txwm xb os.koj siv muab xav tia yog koj mu rau ib tug neeg lub tsev es lub sib hawm koj tseem nyob ntawv es luag ce li lo so tu lawv koj qab li ntawv es koj ho xav li cas xb.
Wow...sound like my wife, she's very clean and love to be clean all the time..but you mopped while they still there and fail to a broken leg...I would be super mad and angry for hurt her like that...you should wait until later on