To the sisters who continue to blame Hmong culture for being oppressed, learn from this sister in the story. We don’t live in Laos any longer. Our relatives can advise us all they want because they believe they are helping you fix your life but don’t wear your shoes. So hear them out but make your own choices and stop playing the blame game. We’re in America, you’re free to make your own choices and live your life!
My ex husband told me he was going to put me in the pressure cooker... he told my kids he wished he killed me... I was scared because for the last five years of our marriage of 28 years, he was talking to girls overseas.... I left my ex... my uncle told me in our extended clan, no daughters left their husband except me... he wanted me to go back to my ex. My kids said I shouldn’t!!!! My uncle told me if my ex killed me, it would be out of love.... he said I should go back.... The day of the final meeting, I didn’t go to the marriage ending meeting... I called and did conference call... End that marriage! My uncle has two wives and is a womanizer so I didn’t respect him... therefore I didn’t listen to him! So sad!
She was stupid in the beginning for dealing with his cheating and didn’t leave when she first found out and stayed because of culture so it is the hmong culture to blame💁🏻♀️
It’s the 21sr century and we are in the great USA, why do hmoob women go seek help from neej tsa who have no care for them to tsa them, but stump on them some more? We work to bring in our own break & milk. If you are being abused, escape. If your spouse cheat, leave, why stay to tolerate. A rotten marriage, bandaging will not heals it.
I'm glad u found love again....everyone just want love and respect from their spouse. Ur ex deserves what happened to him. Be stress free be happy and take care!!!!!
Stop and think, is it your relatives life or yours? Do they pay your bills? Do they take care of you? If the answers are no then gtfo of the relationship that is not worth staying anymore.
Tracy Lovee Amen, sister! When a battered Hmong women divorces her shitty husband, she gets the blame from the relatives and they invalidate her side of the story, in order to save face, especially from those sexist loud mouth relatives who can’t even keep their marriage intact. These kind of Hmong ppl have the mouth to talk and act like they pay ppl’s bills but in fact they don’t bc all they know how is to gossip and make bad decisions (for the most part lol). I always tell those Hmong ppl to stfu, don’t caste stones from a glass house, and go work on their unhappy relationships, if they keep talking down on divorced or widowed folks.
If my husband running for pathas, I will divorce him cause I have no time for those kind of business. Lol. Our generation don't care for that kind of stuff.
ua li cas koj muaj muaj hmoo es koj tau txiv los koj cov me nyuam tau txiv thiab nyob li kuv ces yeej tsis mus yuav txiv vim hais tias yus tau txiv los me nyuam yeej tsis tau; yus zoo siab los me nyuav tu siab cas koj hos yuav zoo siab
nej cov poj mhoob tia 21thod cawv nej mu xyua cov poj niam nyob Suav teb,Khej India teb,Israel teb, middle est teb,khej Africa teb,kaulim teb,thiab tag rho cov neeg nyob lub qab ntuj khwb no es nej ma los thuam peb mhoob mog.Tsihai cov neeg twg li laus yog tus txiv lo yog tu niam tsi tsim txiaj cev yeej neej poob qab mog zoo siab ntsib nej kuv cov mes poj mhoob Siab zoo thiab zoo nkauj.lovingyou.
Your EX husband just got a taste of his own ill medicine. Hahaa. Good for you that You’ve moved on! A man is nothing without his strong woman standing behind him guiding him.
Women, when you know your relationship isn't good, you know he's mistreating you, you have a choice. Don't fall pray to the old ways. Only we can make a change to better our lives.
If you have a good one...hang on for dear life my friends... As soon as you think you're better and leave your significant other, others are just waiting to jump in and replace you.
Peb cov txiv neej hmoob mas thiaj Txawj ruam,. Tus zoo ces ho tsis yuav, tus poj laib mas, ho nyiam 2,. Ces cia rau poj laib mam muab tsim mas thiaj txaus siab.... Poj laib ces Txawj 2 txhawb yav hmo ntuj xwb, los txiv neej yeej nyiam 2
Sister. You work so hard for your husband and get nothing in return. You did your best and your husband didn't do his part; he has chosen his own path now. Let him go as he wish. I don't feel bad for your husband at all.😱😰
Cov txiv dev no yeej g sawm kom tau lub neej muaj neejzoo e xav ua neej li nw lub siab ntsaw nrog cov nkauj mo ab xwb thaum kawg nkauj mo ab muab tsim ce mam li paub yuav g muaj chaw tuag lau
Txhob ntshaw txiv pob tha txiv ua nom.khwv tshaj.txiv neej tsis hlub yus yus khwv y tes taws lem tasxmob laug tag yog koj tus txiv tsis hlub tsis pab yus ces nkim zog xwb .yus hlub yus zoo dua
Txhob hlub tus txiv dev no lawm os txhob xav tias nws tseem hlub koj no os qhov nws nco ces yog nws tus niam yau tsis hlub thiab tsis kam ua nws qhev li koj es nws nco2 nws tus qhev xwb os.
Peb ua neeg nyob ces luag tej laus tias dev tsis sawm tsau neeg tsis sawm zoo ces zoo li no ntag tau tus zoo tsis txawj yuav thaum kawg ua dev xyuam khuav thiaj tau mus nriav quav qhuav li no ntag. siab zoo ces yuav txais tau ntuj los ntoo ov.
Txiv neej hmoob ces liam tshaj dev txhua tus. Xav kom poj niam ua qhev tuag nthi tab sis thaum poj niam hais kiag ib los xwb ces ua ciaj ua tuag li txiv neej hmoob ces nyuam qhuav ntxim qhov tebchaw meskas tsa cai rau poj niam xwb os.
Cov pab tha niam no ces yog tib co xawb xuav daim av luaj 3 nti xwb. Yeej tsis muaj ib tug coj zoo li es hais rau cov mi niam tsev tsis txhob lees ua niam pab tha tsam ho raug kab mob siab nawb
Teb chaw mekas no, meej mom tsis tseem ceeb lawm, tos hmoob muaj2 teeb meem yog vim meej mom xwb. Tiam qhua mas cuag li tias huab tais tsis tau so ib tsam lo ib chim los luag yeej tsis pom yus qhov zoo li, qhov no yog qhov kuv txub tshaj ntawm hmoob lub meej mom muaj saib loj tshaj. Teb chaw no peb tsis yuav meej mom lawm peb tsua yuav sij hawm thiab nyiaj txiag xwb. Hmoob ruam thiaj tseem tsav meej mom tej meej mom tsis muaj nuj qhis dab tsi teb chaw no yog koj tsis tau ib qhov role los ntawm mekas ces tsis tseem ceeb lawm. Peb cov poj niam txhob tshaw tus txiv muaj meej mom thiab tias qhua tsis muaj qab haus dab tsi quav dev xwb pabtha quav dev txiv dev xwb mog
Zoo kawg li os tus mi mi niam tsev aw UA Tau li ko CES kuv thov qhuas koj nawb mog, Zoo li kuv CES UA tsis Tau li ko es kuv thiaj tseem nyob txom nyem tab sis twb Laus tas lawm mus los tsis Tau ib tug lawm os 🙏🙏
You are a beautiful and wonderful wife, men are just waiting for your husband to divorce you so they can steal you to be their wife. You are the best thing he has ever had in his life!!!
This man doesn't know without his wife by his side he is nothing. Some men think they are better without their wife... Don't feel sad old man. You deserve it🤣🤣🤣
Nyob ntuj tim ub ces thiaj ntshaw ua poj nom xwb os. Nyob tim mekas no ces leej twg tus txiv ua nom ces tus niam yog thawj qhev xwb. Yus tsuas tau lub ntsej muag thaum tawm rooj xwb. Ua qhev mob laug dawb2 luag tseem tsis hlub tsis xav yuav rau thaum laus.
The x-wife is no more than 2 year older than I, but our lives are totally polar. I spend my weekends being lazy, sleeping until noon or clean my house while my husband does the yard work. If I'm cutting vegetables, he's cutting the meat. Most weekends, we take off out of town and spend quality time together, just the two of us. Why is she bragging about her husband being a leader, and I ask, a leader of what? Does he have the power to make policies, money to contribute to organizations, or has wisdom to pass to others. What a ffff joke.
Peb hmoob lub niag npe pab tha tsis yog tawm ntawm ib lub tsev kawm los tsuas yog tawm ntawm kwv tij Los xwb cov pab tha teb chaws no yuav ua cas yog neeg ntse na. Npwb li npwb xwb.
Hmoob sisters, this is the 21st century, we have so many opportunities out there to create our own identity; and not just relying on selling ourselves our souls to slave for hmoob men and ride on their identity shadows. Because many hmoob pojniam didn’t have thier own identity, they settled to be just niam slave for the pabthan xeem hmoob so & so, those men don’t see their significants & don’t value them. Does f. senator Mee Moua afraid of husband cheating? I believe she Not, because she created her own identity and she is Not just niam so and so, but she was her own identity. Marriage is 💯/💯 Not 50/50 or 20/80 or so on. If in your home, your spouse isn’t giving 100% to your family, he/she doesn’t deserve to hold a position outside the home. Because he/she is not capable of it.
Koj txiv yog cov coj noj xwb, tsi yog cov coj ua os. Noj li noj xwb es koj niam yog nws tus qhev xwb os. Hmoob ib txwm tsi muaj nom os, muaj tib co noj nkaus2 xwb os
Why are you still call each others koj niam koj txiv after divorce. Hmoob mas ntshaw nrov npe tshaj plaws , ntshaw ua pathas, ntshaw ua tus coj. Tab sis yus twv coj tsis tau yus tus kheej. Lol..meej mom quav dev. Ib nrab ntawm peb cov niam tsev hmoob los yeej ntshaw ntshaw kom tau npe es yeej willing to do everything rau neeg qhuas thiaj li khwv khwv tsis nco txog tias nws txoj sia cov neeg qhuas nws ntawv ceev tsis tau cia. Hmoob yog ib cov uas tsuas hais noj noj tas li xwb. Lwm cov neeg lawv muaj meeting lawv tsis yog noj noj li hmoob. Meeting yog meeting. Tsuas yog muaj me ntshis snacks thiab dej haus xwb. I am glad this lady finaly found her way out. Feem ntau peb cov niam tsev los yeej ntshaw ntshaw lub npe nrog tus txiv tab txawm tus txiv twb tsis hlub los nws yeej tsis kam tawm i don't understand. We are in America your relatives your husband relatives not paid your bills they not the one go thought the pain why you have to do what they told you? We are adult growing old being grandma already please woman have some self respect.
Why do kids get involved. Why not protect your mother, why allow your father to do this to your mother and tell her to put up with it. How fucked up is that? Auntie, I'm so happy you finally got out of that horrible life. So sad it took you so long. So happy your husband is suffering now. I hope he suffers for the rest of his life. He deserves everything that he has.
What’s the purpose of this story... lam coj tuaj piav rau peb mloog xwb los. She still miss her ex (that’s how I got). Tsuav koj tau lub neej zoo kaj siab lawm ces yuav li ntawv xwb mo.
From my observation, the good and fair Hmong leaders who have a stable marriage aren’t taken seriously in the community while the leaders who are the neighborhood drunks with many wives and a sexist tend to get the most praise or are often the loud ones in the community. Leaders should be looked up to if they know how to lead vs. knowing how to drink and letting go of one’s moral compass to save face. I don’t get some Hmong ppl these days and I’m happy you finally have the courage to leave. Your ex deserved his karma and ppl with midlife crisis need to think with their brain more vs. their genitals and wanting to fight against aging.
Tus niam tais no zaj neej neeg tsis make sense, you was 11 years old in 1981 es cas xyoo 1990 tawm es ho laus2 lawm thiab me nyuam lo tag, neb nyuam qhuav sib tau 11 years xwb tsis txaus ntseeg. Tamsi no koj nyuam qhuav muaj 50 xyoo rau 2020 no xwb raws li koj hais koj lub hnub yug hauv zaj neej neeg uas koj muab piav rau peb mloog....
Cov pojniam 1975 yeej ruam. Nej cov pojniam puas paub vim li cas neej tsa pheej yuam nej rov mus yuav nej tus txiv dev? Vim neej tsa tsi xav tha nej. Thiab txiv neej hmoob mas tsa2 txiv neej cai. Tabsis nej twb muaj 1 pab me nyuam me nyuam mam li tha nej cas nej cov pojniam ntshai tsam tsi muaj chaw tuag ua luaj li. Me nyuam hlub leej niam tshaj leej txiv yog leej niam coj ces tag nrho pab me nyuam nrog leej niam. Nyob tebchaws meskas tsi muaj leej twg mus thov kwvtij neej tsa mov noj. Kwvtij neej tsa hais npaum cas, lav npaum cas los yus xav tias tsi zoo rau yus ces tsi tha ua li lawv hais. Lawv lav xwb txhob ntseeg vim cov txiv dev tamsim no ces tham hluas nkauj 1 yam ces lawv tsi ua li lawv hais. Yog koj hais tias lawv lav no ces tso $10,000 los sign ntawv es yog thaum muaj teeb meem lawv hais tsi tau ces $10,000 yog yus li... ces cov txiv dev no yeej thauj qab txhua tus. Yus lub neej yog yus lub tsi yog lawv lub. Lawv tsi nrog yus nyob. Lawv tsi khwv rau yus noj. Thaum yus mob lawv tsi mob. Thaum yus nyuab siab lawv tsi nyuab siab. Ua neegj nyob, nej xav tibneeg xav tau dabtsi tshaj. 1 cov hais tias kev hlub, 1 cov hais tias nyiaj. Tabsis kuv hais tias kev kaj siab. Txawm sib hlub npaum cas los tsi muaj kev kaj siab ces yeej tsi happy. Txawm muaj nyiaj npaum cas los tsi muaj kev kaj siab ces yeej tsi happy. Nej saib haujsam. Haujsam tsi muaj tus hlub, tsi muaj nyiaj. Tabsis lawv nyob tau kaj2 siab. Nej saib cov muaj ntau2 tus hlub thiab cov khwv ciaj khwv tuag kom muaj2 nyiaj, cov no twb tsi happy li.
Tus niam tsev, yus twb muaj lub neej tshiab lawm ua cas zoo li koj pheej tseem tos nrhw seb koj tus qub txiv puas hu tuaj? Please stop that or your current husband will be mad. You have a mouth to tell him to stop that nonsense yourself. Do not ask your current husband to intervene. That is not his job to clean up your mess. Is it clear?
Tracy Lovee Because Hmoob people Xav tau Ntsej muag and lub Qhuas. The only reason They serve the guests just for praise. Would they do if people don’t praise them? No.
Cov niag pob txha laus lwj lem zoo li ko ces nim kav theeb tias nws ntse diam Thaum kawg ntse ntse ces ho ruam kiag lawm los mas Hmoob aw...nyuam qhuav haum xwb mas. Nyuj ua nyuj thauj nees ua nees ris! Xav kom peb cov poj niam Hmoob yuav tsuj muaj peev xwm li koj ces zoo thiab tsim nyog lawm os.
This is why Hmoob cov Paj tha ces quav Dev xwb! Tab tom ntxim xwb! Tus Niam tsev aw, tsuas yog koj es koj thiaj tseem nug koj niag qub txiv hmoo los txog niaj hnub no xwb! Yog li qee tus ces tso zis twb tsis tig ncaj lawm!
Koj tus txiv yeej yog tus coj noj coj ua tiag2 .nrhiav nrhw pim ua nce toj nqis hav xwb. Coj noj tab niaj hnub quab yuam poj niam ua zaub nqaij rau noj tej no puas yog neeg ntse nej xav saib?.
Kuv tsis nyiam cov niag poj niam ua pheej hmoog neej tsa hais I'm ua qhov zoo2 ruam ualuaj txhob rov yuav nws kom nws tau yug koj thiab tos tsis tua nws lub qhov mos ab kuv txub koj vim koj tsis ua tiag2 tawv kom dhau nws thiab coj pim mos ab tuaj tsoob koj saib, I hate aswhol txiv zoo li no and f..k.
Es kwv tij twb lav tias lawv mam khoo kom tau lawv tus neeg tab sis twb ho tsis noob hais kom tau nws thiab ne. Es hnub no ho tseem yuam kom yus mus koom thiab. What a BAD kwv tij and neej tsa you have
Tus xyob txhiaj ces twb yog tus txiv tsev no vim koj twb khiav cov poj laib no tawm tuaj yam niag pob plig tag es koj tseem rov mus coj tus poj laib no tuaj caum tau yus tuaj tsim koj
Neej tsa ruam cais yog koj cov ntag hais tsis tau guav dab tsi li os . Noj koj niag txiv guav xwb . Zoo koj muaj peev xwm heev koj thiaj ua tau yog koj ruam li cov neej ghau mas xwb ghuav ghuav ntag thov ghuas koj kawg nawb tus mi niam tsev zoo thiab ntse aw .
