Painful Transitions - Even when embracing my gay and getting a divorce is the right answer, it hurts 

As I mentioned in your first video. My former wife of 14 years came out at 42. We got divorced. That was seven years ago. It will all worked out. And yes she had to deal with a lot of opinions from friends and family I promise it will all be good. Stay strong. Your husband may still have a place in your life. But that’s up to him and it takes time The reason I’m watching this is to better understand what she went thru all those years ago. Very similar story

Ok, I didn't comment on your initial video, but feel compelled to put my voice into the mix. I was a rebel....out early in high school in the late 1960's. Loving family, all accepting....all good. Rare, but good. Two long term relationships with two great women, and then.....a late bloomer, married with 5 kids came crashing into my life. We tried really hard to be honest, ethical and respectful...seems like you are doing that too, it will pay off later. It was not easy for her. But she knew, at age 47, that after 25 yrs of marriage to a great guy, that a HUGE piece of herself had been denied for too long. We only live once, we need to be who we are or at the end is disappointment, bitterness and regret. We have been together for 31 happy years. She has 6 grandchildren and a great grandchild. Her kids and grandkids love me, and I them. So, I am here to tell you, from a pure queer perspective, the Lady Love of your dreams is out there, be open to her when she shows up. Best to you young lady, and welcome to freedom.

Your honesty is empowering! You should write a memoir.

Wishing you strength and peace. I can only imagine how difficult this transition is for you. And unusual for those around you. It’sgoing to pass, though. And you’ll find a new normal. Best of luck going forward!

Thanks for posting this video.... I really needed to hear all of this today. 🙏🏼 ❤️ The part that spoke to me most was when you said that we, humans, can feel multiple emotions at the same time and that's completely okay. And that something positive can carry/contain/bring about painful emotions as well. I'm so inspired by your strength and clarity. Congratulations on living YOU, on celebrating YOU - without having to conform or minimize your inner truth for anyone or anything. 🥰🎉🌈 I'll be following your jouney...

I admire your courage and authenticity in sharing your story.

I can feel all the things that you are expressing. It is all crystal clear. I wish you the best and I will be following and encouraging you along the way. It is a tricky situation. The same thing happened to my uncle when he came out at 49. You are both making the right decision.

Thank you for being so vulnerable for us to see, and learn from! You said that both you and your husband believes this is the right decision, so everyone else should stay out of it (wouldn't that be nice!) I am studying to be a counselor - hopefully you have some good mental health supports in your life to help along the journey. Take care!

I really hope the hard parts get easier for you soon. I’m still stuck being too afraid of those parts to do anything. Thank you for sharing your story. I look forward to hearing you live your life the way it was meant to be 🖤

Thanks for your bravery..for yourself and for others. It’s important. I recently came across the show Gentleman Jack and thought it was interesting a lot of the same emotions and drama lesbians have experienced 200 yrs ago are ones some of us still have to struggle with today because of culture, religion and societal norms. But the future is getting brighter though and it’s because people like you have gotten brave enough to come out and push forward.

Cindy, I know someone who's going through the same thing, but she feels stuck in her situation. Not sure if she'll ever get out... I have the upmost respect for you and am proud to watch you through this journey!

This must be very rough. Stay strong! I wish you the best

I am dreading this. Missing the companionship. I don’t know if I have the strength

You are so brave girl!!! I admire you so much ,embrace who you are better times are on the way being gay doesn't change the great person you are.

The pictures were the toughest and takes you off guard when you least expect it.

Love you hun ❤️

You’re going to make it through this. I’m going through something similar with my 6 year long relationship. I’m already so much happier on the other side but have been there too, ok

I’m 37 and I just told my hubby that Ike women we have been married for 15 years and it’s hard for me

This was so validating. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago because I realized I was gay. I really feel that urge you spoke of to keep wanting to spend time with your husband and snuggle and watch a movie. Those are the moments I really miss. It can be exhausting reminding yourself that it is all for the better. Thanks for documenting your journey

I am 32 have 2 children and was married we separated 8months ago and i think he knew i was gay before i did... I finally came out today and fully accepted myself. You gave me the strength so thank you 💕 xx

You find out real quick who your true friends and family are. There is a price of admission but the journey is worth it.

I needed this so mush

Sending virtual hug ❤

Thank you for doing this, as a nonbinary person thinking about comphet is kind of interesting, because the world doesn't only want me to not love women, it wants me to be a woman as well. Everything gets super complex as I am also pansexual, but I have SO MUCH experience of dating and even being in relationships with men that I don't love for their sake, ignoring my own feelings. I am in a relationship with a man currently who still identifies as straight even though I am nonbinary and not a woman. He wants children at some point, I don't which means he might leave me, so I'm basically waiting for him to leave. I'm polyamorous but currently he's my only partner, I want to have a relationship with a woman again as I've only had that once(and it was a chaotic relationship). He's monogamous and I don't think he'll change.

It is painful now going through all of it, but you will be more comfortable and happier when your living your life with the love of your life. Life is too short not living the life you want. Don’t let people look down on you for being gay. Keep your head up.

I kinda relate to your struggles but I have a deferent story if you don’t mind sharing, my boyfriend is getting married to a woman we live in Saudi Arabia it’s quite impossible to maintain a gay relationship and he said to me he want to have kids we both are bisexual but I’m struggling to watch him go marring another woman. He said we can still be friends but I’m really hurting I don’t know what to do!

I know this video was posted a while ago.. but I’m in a heterosexual marriage and realizing how strong my feelings are for women. Do you have any advice as I’m taking a hard look at my life and kind of starting out on this journey of self acceptance.. we haven’t made any decisions yet. I’ve told him about my feelings and it doesn’t seem like he really believes me or sees it as a reason to question our marriage.

In your next vid try talking about the impact on your kid try talking about what " youwillbe doing to keep your kids contact to his or her father ".

I was just wondering are you going to do anymore videos you inspire me anyways if not is there’s any way I can contact you just to vent thanks 😊

Hiya first of all a big hug , how long were you married for the reason i ask is that ive come out as crossdresser at 60 , being married for 32years i daughter about too get married herself. Come from a Baptist church background, and my wife doesn't want to acknowledge my crossdressing at all. It's extremely difficult and emotional situational...💖

Never ever let yourself be ruled by a false sense of self for the sake of society, friends or family.

I feel the same way about being trans!

all the best! tom is another day👍

🤔 10:41 Says "My husband whose a lesbian" I initially thought it was just my hearing, but, apparently RU-vid is hearing the same. I turned the subtitles on & it's saying I heard correctly and I know I haven't lol 👁 👁 👃 👅

Stupenda creatura mi vuoi dire anoi italiani che sei innamorata ma per noi amore e nella nostra cultura se un poeta non avesse la parola amore come scriverebbe una poesia se Michelangelo non avesse il marmo che farebbe a scoprire il Davide nel essere umano alla nascita viene messo amore nel suo cuore e va donato ese lo riavrai ti farà volare su più su fino a toccare il blu

Jesus is the way the truth and the life, no one gets to the Father but by him. Jesus died so that you can have everlasting life. Place your faith on Jesus. Trust Jesus. God bless you.

I honestly dont understand how u didn't realise before you got married.....

I feel like you're doing a mistske. I've been with a woman for past 5 years. It was the worst years of my life💔😪

Well you are moving out. You are gay, so why are you saying "My husband"?.