Thank you Dr Barkley. I parented this way naturally because my parents didn’t. Parents need to realize children are people and people are particular. All of us.
Hi Dr. Barkley. I'm unsure if you'll ever read or respond to this comment, but today is my first day since elementary school being medicated as an adult with ADHD. The difference is MASSIVE. Thank you for all of your hard work in this area of research in addition to your rebuttals of pop psychology pundits like Jordan Peterson. Best regards, Aidan
Russ Barkley, to me, you have been a role model as a scholar, a researcher, and a clinician for over 35 years, now, and you were, are, and will always be a great source of inspiration to me. Thank you so very much!
As an AuDHD parent (recently diagnosed) to 2 neurodivergent kids I want to thank you for your videos. It is difficult enough to understand and learn about and navigate my own brain, and find the tools to help my kids learn and navigate their own brain. I learned to not make a path for them, just to make sure the path they make is as safely as possible.
Hi Dr., I've been recently diagnosed with ADHD and yours has been the single most comprehensive and inclusive dive into this challenge that I am now working on facing. Making sense of my past and present with all these online resources has been really helpful, and none have been as helpful as you. I sincerely thank you for being the professional and person that you are. You are sustenance in a world that increasingly plays to our weaknesses.
Thank you Dr Russel Barkley, you teach me so many important parts of ADHD. I bring the knowledge I gain into my work as a registered specialist nurse in psychiatry. I myself have ADHD, as do my two sons. I brag about you at work and try to inspire more people to watch your videos. Many thanks and have a nice day!/ Jennie, from Stockholm
Not a parent yet but I know of parents' struggle with ADHD kids and I find this video very calming, reassuring and empowering. Thank you for your work, the time and the energy you put into this. And congratulations on the sound and video improvement. It's very crisp, very cool to hear.
Thank you Dr for your work, I just wanted to say that it is very eduring watching you put on the work to be a science communicator, thank you fol that.
This is one of the best formats and explanation for us parents with adhd children. I am a parent of adult adhd children and although I wish I saw it this way when they were younger I think it still applies and am grateful!
This is such a nice comprehensive discussion about the (real) role of parenting in children’s ADHD. Your videos are part of my morning routine, Dr. Barkley- thank you for taking the time to make them.
True. A shepard watches over and steers to safer pastures. Nutrition is a huge thing. I have one twin adhd and the other "aspergers". Both require similar extra supplements such as magnesium and omega. School is a huge factor. I will sacrifice what I can to ensure they stay in the school they are in. Where can I order your books?
Thank you for all you do Dr. Russell. Q though: what if you have a very smart, talented and capable ADHD “sheep” with 0 motivation and manners. Very defiant and argumentative. What to do then?
Doc, i know you dont answer personal questions, but generally speaking, do you know of any resources that collate practioners or treatment centers for adult adhd that are trusted and effective, or more specifically, which adhere their practice to the most up to date understanding of the subject ?
I'm almost finished reading your book. “Taking Charge of Adult ADHD” and can't wait to check out your book on parenting children with ADHD. I already do the “Shepard” method you are describing. I try so hard to keep myself regulated to help my child to regulate. (I follow a gentle parenting approach) I see so much of my family and myself in my daughter. A mosaic I would protect with my life. 🥹❤️
Yes, basically some people see this, but Barkley is not one. There are plenty of other sources for that if you want to explore it, but he's already made videos talking about how any benefit is a misattribution of one's positive qualities on to a disorder that is unrelated, and I think he does so in part because so many people want to treat ADHD as not being a disorder with the view that hey, this person may not be able to safely drive in public or hold steady employment, but what about all the good parts!
My guess is that Dr. Barkley's perspective is going to remain grounded in what science has found. My personal opinion is that there may well be benefits, but because of the way science works, those benefits are less likely to have been detected. While science has the potential to make sense of complex human issues, scientists have to "look in the right places"- they need to design experiments that are sensitive to the differences that they're trying to demonstrate. If benefits of ADHD only emerge in certain specific circumstances, it might take a while before someone runs just the right experiment to find those benefits. If there are many ways (in a biological sense) that a person might end up diagnosed with ADHD, but only some of those ways have those possible benefits, it would be tricky for science to find those benefits. If ADHD *could* have benefits but only if the person with ADHD has the right habits to unlock them, that would be another thing in the way of science finding those benefits. It may very well be that ADHD, on average, does not provide any positives. For people with ADHD like me, that leaves an uncomfortable possibility to wrestle with. I don't want to think of myself as just strictly worse than other, more normal people. I think that discomfort leads people to want to believe in ideas like "ADHD comes from the DNA of hunter/gatherer/Neanderthal/otherwise-cool-or-badass-people". Ideas like that can be (and in this case, have been) disproven. There is another way out of the discomfort: to insist that everyone (including ourselves!) is equally, inherently worthy, simply by virtue of being a person. That idea cannot be proven or disproven. But because it's a question of *values* rather than *facts*, we can choose to believe it, without hampering our ability to pursue scientific truth. And this idea is valuable: it is a defense against the eugenic perspectives that have fueled racism, genocide, all the worst things that humans have done to one another.
@@JerryFederspiel - personally I feel that there are certain positives to "hyperfocus" and the day dreaming distractibility. I may even be somewhat exaggerating Barkley's position. In his book he talks about a poet that would take breaks from medication because she felt being more open helped her with creativity. The main thing is that it is still a disability, and people are not just "unique," but allowing them ease of access to the various treatments, principally stimulants and other medications is the proper thing both for the person with ADHD and everyone who has to interact with them, either on the roads, or in relationships, or in the workplace. Many disabilities have been turned into a positive - Keith Richards and Jerry Garcia developed unique playing styles due to deformities on their hands. But it doesn't mean we should treat each problem as an opportunity - sometimes it's just a problem!
Would you consider doing a video on the things that worsen ADHD later in life - both those that truly do and those that have less known regarding? I am thinking of everything like concussions in sports and car accidents, but also hormonal changes, drug use, aging, and other health conditions that can damage the brain like diabetes. I also don't really understand how ADHD and other executive function disorders are really different, other than the question of the age they first were seen still having some DSM requirements. I've seen studies and book sections on m-TBI and stimulants, and they seem to often work in the same manner. I know we once talked about ADHD as resolving with age, but for many it actually seems to get worse - and is that something that would be prevented with early treatment, or is it best to be treatment avoidant for some reason? Regardless, thanks for yet another video to help guide us!
Also, many of us ADHD women manage to hold it together with school and careers because we can, with huge effort, maintain a modicum of control. But once delightful, unpredictable, messy, 24/7 kids enter the picture, that's when the wheels come off the bus for many of us. Sari Solden speaks about how many women get diagnosed when they have children either bc the kids have ADHD, get diagnosed and then the parents think Hmmmm, OR because the mum is so overwhelmed by life with child(ren) that she goes to a doctor/psych wondering if she has anxiety and/or depression but discovers out she's had ADHD all along.
@@Handle8844 - yeah, I actually found the structure of living childless as a student so so much more manageable than as a parent with bills and taxes and such.
@russellbarkleyphd2023 - I would also like to add COVID into that list, both in the changing environment of the workplace, but also with the neurological effects for anyone infected - blood vessel damage to the brain, principally the frontal cortex, most notably?
I thing I have A.D.H.D cos I can't control my walks,boddy,hands,sometimes I see I'm walks a side one side my memery is not good if you are say my name dr barky I can remeber I few ninutes ,so I feel my attention like I'm absent brain I'm 2023 years I hate my life I can't see my eyes is good I feel I sow but like absent😢😢😢
I don't know if this also applies to hereditary traits or developmental delays due to premature births but I just learned today from a French ADHD lady coach that we are not our brains and that our brains are not us. apparently this should (perhaps) also change our relationship with everything that emanates from our brain such as emotion, reaction, proposition, meaning, abstraction, etc., etc. this hormonal disruption still remains at a physiological level which is totally unconscious to us as a neuro-physiological process forcing us to react according to this ignorance: we think that it is us when it is our body, our physiology, our neurology, etc, etc, ... who are reacting to an environment according to their structure, their dynamics, their potential and we, we make a judgment on our performances which compared to those of others are not brilliant, effective ,productive and so on. I think this lady did well to distance us from our nervous system and vice versa: this way we can demand something other than an existence, a career and/or choices which would open the doors to neurological correctness for us. *this is for the young people: I will be 66 years old next November, I am retired and I cannot count the to-do lists that I made to reach retirement safely, i.e. without untimely resignation, without major depression and things like that. with the help of a psychiatrist too (this is very important to specify).
Just a quick sarcasm, if you allow. Shepherds don't exist any more due to cost inefficiencies; they have been replaced by electric fences and drones. An analogy to modern parenting, no?
Does anyone know of a *12-Step Adult ADHD group*?? I think this is a support that would help me the most. Anyone heard of or know of one that exists?? ❤
I dont have kids. May have adhd myself. Not sure i 100% agree with shepherd metaphor, cos sheep in that scenario are managed for products/ outcomes FOR the shepherd/ community the shepherd is part of ( consumption/ capitalism). I prefer the terms stewardship/ service i think, as i like to also apply it to ecosystems management. I also think adhd peeps are MUCH more like cats than sheep😂 English doesnt have the right words .... yet
@@DigitalResurrection - I also like it because of the biblical connotations. Being a good shepherd is a very very old metaphor. But yes, he may be right that it's a shepherd for cats!
