5 Parenting Tips for Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant Kids | Tameka Montgomery | TED

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How do you raise kids to step outside of their comfort zones and unlock their inner potential? It all starts with helping them develop a resilient mindset. Mother and business owner Tameka Montgomery makes the case for cultivating an entrepreneurial outlook at an early age -- and offers five strategies for emboldening young minds to embrace opportunities and solve their own problems, no matter the path they choose.
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@williamperry1369 8 месяцев назад

What an amzming mother to have! Thankful that her and her husband have such intentionality in their parenting.

@user-rc8mo5on9j 2 месяца назад

This is powerful truth. I've seen the same things at work. I think I would add one more idea to the mix however. The idea of how to empower others with your economic choices. When kids learn that their growth and development can make things better for a larger group or the world, it's even more compelling than just realizing their power to fulfill their own needs. For instance, the children of the speakers raised the funds to go to Tanzania, exposing them to the situation of people in another country. They learned to take a cultural/historical artifact and create a superhero design based on that artifact. With the larger consciousness of how one's own responsible action can change perspectives and opportunities for others, they are reinforced in feeling value and pride in their own choices. Good job, Mom and Dad!

@Golden_Kelsi Год назад

I think parenting is a rebirth for parents themselves and give amazing opportunities to bring up their children through all stages of development. We as parents grow and learn with each other. I am a 28 years old full-time worker who is thinking about how to raise my children appropriately. There are so much to learn!

@lydiaflih8114 Год назад

so childhood is gonna be about what you will become as an adult instead of just enjoying childhood. I disagree with several methods such as never paying for things they want. I call that a gift, i fear never giving them gifts will make them think later on that you need to "earn" acts of kindness from others. Let's not forget giving children gifts is not only about giving them a toy they want, it is a way of showing them affection as they feel loved when you do willingly something to make them happy. I find it sad to take that away.

@vietnamesestyles Год назад

💯

@beataplaya Год назад

Makes me question what is the profound reason of having kids.

@shelleyblack 8 месяцев назад

I think you missed the whole point, it’s actually not about money. It’s about teaching them drive, teaching them to work hard to follow their wants and needs and dreams, it’s about not becoming entitled adults and have skill sets to solve problems later on in life. Skills that healthy successful adults posses.

@tobi1919 8 месяцев назад

I understand your point. But listen again, she never said dont gift something. Just reduce prosperity. So what she didn't tell is, its all about balance. Give the kids gift, give them toys, but encourage the kids to earn something extra by their own. A flight ticket is a bit harsh, but if the kid already has the ability why not? My parents were more normal, but my mum hates sugar-stuff, so I had to earn money for that. That was for sure a good lesson and it would be possible to enforce me earning also money for other things.

@Anna133199 6 месяцев назад

@@shelleyblack You can get this drive without having this insanely transactional, extreme, weird childhood. There's nothing wrong with an allowance. Just don't make it a huge one. If they want more, they work for it. Also, paying them to read? That's not teaching them about the joy of reading. It's sending the message that reading is a chore that one should be paid to do.

@Zerobob26 Год назад

I'd simply want my kids to be happy and have a full human experience, if that's even possible in today's consumerist, narcissistic world. Spending your life chasing "success" is folly.

@owengonzales53 Год назад

Yes!! Success is arbitrary, and probably unhealthy in the way it’s typically thought of. I’d rather have my kids do something they’re passionate about that they feel genuinely makes the world a better place for others and for themselves. Chasing success, never being satisfied with where you are, is a recipe for an unfulfilling life

@freesk8 Год назад

Money is not evil. Money represents human labor, and human value. Teaching people that they have to feel guilty about earning money is crippling them.

@snorlaxzzzz380 Год назад

Conceptually I get it but I wonder if this approach might condition kids to feel like everything they do needs to have a "return" (e.g., financial gain). It could potentially take away their passion for things that they are intrinsically interested in.

@isaacthek Год назад

Those were great success stories, but I would like to hear more about how she handles teaching kids about FAILING successfully. When their ideas don't pan out, when they don't get enough for the tickets, etc. How do you address their disappointment and disaffection then without abandoning the method you've established?

@tomoclubedu Год назад

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@mommybreakdown Год назад

I think that was her last point with #5 about letting them solve their own problems? I personally would provide empathy and support through the failure. I wish the video were longer so she could go deeper into that part.

@BusCord Год назад

I'm glad this technique works for you -and there were a lot of good points in this talk; however, training children to chase money can only create the wrong kind of resilience

@freesk8 Год назад

Money is not evil. Money represents human labor, and human value. Teaching people that they have to feel guilty about earning money is crippling them.

@annewalsh2324 Год назад

Exactly. These kids will grow up thinking the homeless are just lazy when they don't even know what kind of advantages they had to even get as far as they are right now. Some kids parents don't have a car to pick up free items, or the money to have as a backup if those items are bug infested and the home suddenly needs treated, or the gas to drive to get them. The parents supplied the stuff to wash the cars and the place to do it at their nice home, most apartments wouldn't be cool with that, let alone some states with permits. She didn't make resilience and self reliance the focal point she made money the focus. Absolutely wrong take.

@freesk8 Год назад

@@annewalsh2324 So, you are trying to say that just because 10% of the parents can't implement her advice, that she should not try to spread her teaching to the other 90%? I think your real goal is to attempt to censor her. To suppress ideas that you disagree with for political reasons. Your argument fails. Instead, in order to undermine her argument, you need to show why her teachings would hurt her own kids. Until you do that, you are just trying to shut her down.

@BusCord Год назад

@@freesk8 Money is like a house, a tree, or a lawn: it's a thing we exist with; it provides a service to us; she could have just as easily given a talk about forcing her kids to build shelters, or mow lawns all summer, and I would have said the same thing: let them be kids. The woman wrapped up the presentation nicely by talking about her child's love for art, but it left me wishing it was the actual topic

@freesk8 Год назад

@@BusCord In our culture, we trade in money. We trade our labor for money. We trade our money for houses with trees and lawns. I'm not saying that money is as wonderful as a tree. All I am saying is that money should not be denigrated. And kids who grow up understanding how money is MADE, will tend to be happier in the culture and the society that we have. Now, if society were different, perhaps different lessons would make sense. But it is not. We should prepare our kids for the culture they will live in if we want them to be well-adjusted and happy. The speaker is doing this, and her kids should thank her for it.

@ParentingPlanet 9 месяцев назад

Kids become strong like superheroes when they face real challenges, learning how to solve problems and never give up. Each challenge is like a puzzle piece that makes them even tougher!🙃

@Dr.RiccoMastermind Год назад

Children need to live their nature as Explorers and seekers, being allowed to do and pursuit what they can burn for - off self-learning, testing, exploring

@maeg4268 Месяц назад

Thank you for sharing! Definitely adding to my parenting goals.

@Karthik_Shiva Год назад

Let them be Children. Don’t put any method or train as they are not humans. Let them learn and grow

@FabledExistance Год назад

Yeah no. If you don’t train them, the internet will. It’s already bad enough out here, we don’t need a self-raised population trained by twitter and Instagram

@nancykibe8559 Год назад

Fantastic ideas & Strategies! Thats exactly what I & my family members would have needed when growing up. Thanks for the info.Will definitely use it on my kids.

@alexandramichelle1493 9 часов назад

What a significant Ted talk. Thank you. Independent minds is freedom.

@KE-xj9vm Год назад

This is definitely resonating. There is a spectrum for everything. Like not paying for family holidays for your kids is a bit harsh. Most people I know are not entitled brats and they got an allowance and family holidays paid for. I think there is a risk of causing resentment when you are denying your kids too much. But I’m all for the problem solving part to figure out how to get what you want in a clever and practical way where you create value for others, not steel or con them because you can’t figure out another way to do it

@elichristopher8488 6 месяцев назад

Such an inspirational speech! Thank you so much for sharing this journey of problem-solving, entrepreneurship, and self reliance, which is such a huge component of fulfilled life. Blessings.

@aduad Год назад

I think the title of this video is slightly misleading well the resilient part...this is more about raising kids to make money and I don't know if this truly translates to resilience....also any kid that can raise close to a $1000 on their own is already living a different type of life...The average parent is barely making that in a month...in the end we need to raise children to be good human beings...yes we want them to be self sufficient and take risks but raising them this way I think perpetuates the broken society that we already live in and perhaps they'll thrive in it but we should all want better.

@tomoclubedu Год назад

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@KE-xj9vm Год назад

You are right in many ways. However I think you missed the point, it’s not about making money, it’s about problem solving to get what they want or be where they want to be. Yes these kids mentioned here are privileged even just by proxy to their intelligent parents, but this is exactly what kids should be doing in lower socioeconomic societies, to enterprise to make money to live the life they want to rather than be so desperate that they turn to crime. Knowing that you can problem solve your way out of any situation is what makes you resilient, not just the ability to endure hardship without throwing the towel in.

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@sonimatrisal5359 Год назад

@K E what about kids playing instead and enjoying their childhood. What about laughter, kindness, friendship, integrity, character, history, science, art, sustainability Don't we need to teach kids that rather than getting rewarded in dollars everything they do a chore or read a book

@beni-fruks5693 8 месяцев назад

This in my opinion is a technique you need to learn because at the end HOW TO MAKE AND GROW WEALTH LEGITIMATELY IS THE GOAL OF MANKIND after our altimate service to God and humanity

@chillcago Год назад

I think this is great. I learned a lot from this. I may take it and put my own spin on it but great TED talk.

@geekscreation7533 Год назад

Insightful video. :) i do agree on the part on reducing prosperity though. kids nowadays have lots of things, and having them come too easily will spoil them. Also yes, allowing them to solve their own problems will help them become more resilient. The key is to make them understand that if they never quit, they wont fail. i used to reward kids with money for doing chores as well, but after sometime, i stopped. Because doing chores are their responsibility, and not something to be celebrated when done. I dont want my kid to grow up having "whats in for me?" mentality even for common things like doing the laundry. The day you stopped rewarding "daddy dollars", they stopped doing chores - I dont think parents want that to happen. Instead of giving money, I'd prefer positive reinforcement like giving praises, hugs and kisses to encourage a simple good behaviour.

@tomoclubedu Год назад

Rewarding kids from time to time with the right things gives them that motivation to keep doing things. Check us out for SEL related games, webinars & gaming sessions! 💥🚀

@niceguy1eee 4 месяца назад

😊😊

@niceguy1eee 4 месяца назад

😊

@ZymaPro Год назад

The best part of this talk is the speaker's own story. This is definitely a conversation worth having. There are quite a few assumptions that get into the talk but the best points are from her own story and experience. The quote is definitely on point. Children and humans are naturally entrepreneurs. It is our school systems and our cultures that quickly destroy that. It is we who need to be mindful to work back to what is wise and natural... explore without limiting beliefs, achieve, survive, thrive.

@valexander8891 Год назад

I don't think kids' adults who are entrepreneurial are really chasing money. I think to want your own business, find solutions to global issues, trying to change the world aren't cha Ching $$$. I taught my grandkids when they wanted things to get lawn jobs, snow removal, they did and earned what the needed. It was fun to watch them get excited about earning and finding ways to expand that ... and I saw them help people for nothing, donate time and money when needs came up at church of school. I still watch them as adults do this!

@prairieprincess4155 Год назад

Agree!!! I wish my parents would’ve had this same mindset!👏👏👏

@heidivaliev3706 2 месяца назад

You are a GREAT mother!! I wished I had done that with mine.

@beni-fruks5693 8 месяцев назад

❤❤❤❤ this is valuation to me thank you

@husyenaljawadi9718 Год назад

Every individual is different, every family is different, so being different, there is no manual of raising children. I am glad it works for your family, however, not necessarily it works for other families. Further, tell us, after 20 years, how long they do anchoring. Family is not only about MONEY or so called SUCCESS, there is a lot more in it.

@josiecat8080 Год назад

Preach!!! 💪💖✨👏🏼

@tomoclubedu Год назад

Individuality is important & teaching the kids being individual since childhood is also important. Check us out for SEL related games, webinars & gaming sessions! 💥🚀

@fanshen Год назад

This is brilliant. I'm not a parent - but I learned about how I could live my own life differently from this.

@Call0Me0Ishmael Год назад

Wow, wise lady. Thank you so much for helping me to focus on what’s essential for raising my kid. I was going crazy getting sidetracked with fluffs instead of focusing on what matters

@tenitaharrison7450 Год назад

Awesome thanks 👍

@shannonnefra9738 Год назад

When I was nine I was grooming dogs, to earn extra money. By twelve I was pet-sitting, my needs were met by my family. However, if I wanted something I earned it! And this is something I teach my daughters aged fifteen and seven. I was not entitled, we must work. Thank you for this talk 💌!

@nmelendez2060 Год назад

So you can’t buy him the gift of a trip but he can buy you a gift. Hopefully their relationships aren’t from an entrepreneurial mindset too.

@petermihacerar1137 9 месяцев назад

Best feeling in there.

@dricabrewer Месяц назад

Wow! What a powerful woman! I'll follow her advice. ❤️

@moganak884 Год назад

really awesome

@richardabbe799 Год назад

I loved this!

@sukfunpang5960 Год назад

so great , it is good for teaching with children.

@tomoclubedu Год назад

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@finetrue Год назад

Lots of great points. But can not agree with the part of overly addressing earning their own moneys and never giving allowance. Success is not just about financial resilience, they also have right to be “spoiled” once a while to feel special and loved instead of being forced to rely on themselves all the time. Maybe I got it wrong, or maybe the actual practice is not this exaggerated. We want our kids to be happy and be able to feel loved, cared for, respected, and be able to love, care for and respect others, regardless of financial reasons.

@LEDISTIAMULYANI Год назад

In my opinion, this tips can be a challenge for children to be brave in doing new things, to be more confident, make them dare to learn new things from the outside world, and can make them solve their problems in their own way. These tips are great for changing their mindset and giving them the space to be able to do what they want.

@DaddyJokerson Год назад

Love this. Nurture your kids. ❤ teach them well.

@valexander8891 Год назад

Good they go to go to Tanzania. Now had the come up short would you have paid it? I think travel is a family thing, and such a great op for service, that taking your kids traveling is not going to raise entitled children. My dad took us to travel, but we had to earn our spending money, money for wants - I really like my kids taking action but what do you do if they don't hit it?

@bilocollection 8 месяцев назад

Great strategies for fostering entrepreneurship in kids! 🚀 How early do you think parents can start implementing these ideas to nurture an entrepreneurial mindset in their children? 🧒💼

@Queen-ConsciousYa 2 месяца назад

Age 5 when they are able to learn about the concept of financial and economical independence/money

@SafesApp Год назад

That was great

@oneworldonehome Год назад

"To prepare the parents then is really the first step, for they cannot give their children what they themselves have not yet learned. If the parent has not yet learned real discernment, has not yet learned the value of discretion, has not yet learned how to listen within themselves objectively, has not yet learned how to restrain judgment and condemnation of others, well, what can they give their children except their own prejudices, their own expectations and the burden of whatever was placed upon them in their childhood as well? What is important for children is what is important for adults - Knowledge, wisdom, relationship and purpose." *_The New Message from God » Raising Children_*

@johnchapman5125 Год назад

Thanks for sharing.

@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 Год назад

That’s so true young adults are living at home they are stuck

@TruJuLoMedia Год назад

Very helpful tips - succinct and easy to have as goals to follow to raise more confident kids.

@ashleemcin8445 3 месяца назад

I hear the talk, there's some great things in there. However, I don't think there's anything wrong with living at home for longer stretches. Different cultures do this and as long as you contribute to the home - cooking, cleaning, helping with bills- you're fine. Living at home allowed me to get on the property ladder much faster than my friends that didn't come back after college🤷🏾‍♀️.

@Obiidoko Год назад

Tips for raising resilient, self-reliant kids: 1. Don't give them an allowance. 2. Make them pay for their wants. 3. Reduce their prosperity. 4. Let them be delight directed. 5. Let them solve their own problems. thank you for the great content.

@Obiidoko Год назад

@@Dimitris_Balf depends on how far you go with the tips

@j.svaraba9193 Год назад

조언을 할수있지만, 방법은 제시하진 말아요. 각각의 가정마다 환경과 문화가 다르니 국가별 인종별 문화가 다르듯 한집건너 한집도 아닌 집집마다 그들 가정안의 문화는 따로 존재합니다

@drarchaeo249 7 месяцев назад

I desagree with the idea to monetise everithing. I was tough that study and helping at home was my duty. I do not like the idea of doing it for money. I tech my son the same. I agree with a frugal upbringing thogh.

@christiansoldier1547 Год назад

Dude, I'm 59 and we already had that system in place. the technology that took your kids away is what needs to change. Nowadays tough parenting is taking the tech away from kids and introducing them to reality. But !! don't expect it to happen overnight. There will be a disconnect period (withdrawals ). give them a few days or at the most a week then get started on them with reality.

@tka-tpa-prapatankalisari45192 Год назад

“We can change the world and make it a better place. It is in your hands to make a difference.” ~Nelson Mandela 🎓 😊

@NoticerOfficial Год назад

You do it with a father around

@pshapiro Год назад

This TED talk contains valuable wisdom. We can sometimes give our kids more by giving them less. Entrepreneurship ought to be a class that middle school and high school students can take. It could be an online class -- asynchronous -- so as not to interfere with other school subjects. As Tameka Montgomery explains, mindset is so important. Mindset can be cultivated.

@Kopfootball9 Год назад

No matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow

@anastasiaplaskasoviti8765 Год назад

I do not agree with this at all. The concept is nice but as a teenager (I started when I was 12), who had to work all summer long 12 hours per day every day, I can tell you that I hated my childhood and teenage years and I envied all the other kids that were having fun and a great summer. Yes, it made me 100% autonomous and that I never need anyone but the price was too high. Leave your kids to be kids!

@user-ic9ym3wt5i 4 месяца назад

Love this. Nurture your kids. teach them well.

@joesellers2492 Год назад

I'm not sure I agree with this philosophy.

@faridanjum Год назад

Tips: 1. Dont give them an allowance/earn themselves. 2. Make them pay for their wants. 3. Reduce their prosperity. 4. Let them be delight directed 5. Let them solve their own problems

@MaheshMasal 11 месяцев назад

❤

@ericgirard-realtor9813 8 месяцев назад

Turn your kids into salespeople when they're young. Great, don't enjoy childhood, always look for that hustle.

@sumahomes8177 Год назад

Good one. One of my friend mom raised a wonderful son and he betrayed her with 0 gratitude for mom efforts.

@tommypain Год назад

One of the best TED Talks I have ever heard. Pertinent, practical, doable, and essential. Thank you!

@mac2105 Год назад

This talk should be titled "how to raise kids that have a better shot at becoming a millionair than their parents had" and you should know that this is absolutely not the only definition of "good parenting".

@Queen-ConsciousYa 2 месяца назад

I wholeheartedly agree. However, she also mentioned that even if children do not want to own business , they can still gain valuable skills such as independence, self reliance and confidence and assertiveness

@JoshErons Год назад

Early responsibilities and perspective shift, these are the required condiments too raising anyone at all levels. The hustle culture has no age limits. Phil my friend brought me here, he sent me this link.

@risingsara Год назад

I do not agree

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@jamama3 11 месяцев назад

Make it your goal to help your children to love God. Then they will act wisely even when they are not with you. Just as God teaches by example, teach your children to love God by your example.

@frankdelahue9761 Год назад

Don’t be ashamed of who you are. That’s your parent’s job.

@sucaadsamaara4315 Год назад

I went website Ted

@Cerbyo Год назад

how? dont watch the video just write ur own comment and if u want mbe look through the top comments and feel good about urself cause urs is making more sense than that garbage

@majestyent5774 Год назад

I couldn't get more than 2 minutes into this. First off how to you mention statistical data (more than 52% of young adults living at home) without mentioning the complete data from that study (of the 52% of YA living at home more than 85% state the reason being wages; as in we can't afford to live on our own no matter how much we want to!) This is definitely an opinion piece from someone who can't wait for her kids to leave home, disregarding her main job as a parent, making sure that's what's best for them. The older generation needs to stop ignoring and distorting facts. My kids can stay with me as LONG as they NEED to. It's not about resilience, or fear of greatness, or even not wanting to "Adult" it's about having real tools (financial stability, healthy environments, education (most of you all rely on education systems to teach your children personal finance and it's either not being done by them or done poorly because THAT'S NOT THEIR JOB IT'S YOURS!) and patience) that's what helps make self reliant productive members of society.

@alexandramichelle1493 10 часов назад

Your opinion is saying that external factors are the reason they cannot support themselves. The TED talks comes form the opinion that we are responsible for ourselves as adults, and are independent in our lives. It really is about mindset.

@romulolmattos Год назад

Great video with excellent values ❤️

@homewall744 Год назад

You can raise your child to be free, or a slave. You can raise your child to be an innovative entrepreneur, to try and fail or succeed, or to be a cog of labor in another's dream. You can choose or have others choose for you. Be an individual. It's what you really are, though so many will try to force you to submit, obey and do as you are told to meet the needs your rulers.

@Wablestomp2 Год назад

Based home wall

@freesk8 Год назад

Well said, Home Wall.

@freesk8 Год назад

So refreshing to watch a TED video that is not left-wing biased. The vast majority promote the opposite values. That people should not be self-reliant, but should depend on government redistribution. Thanks.

@SunnySideUp360 Год назад

lol is that all that matters to you, the politics of the 5 parenting tips? political affiliations have nothing to do with this. Its crazy you assume shes right wing... LOL SHE WORKED FOR OBAMA AS A REGISTERED DEMOCRAT.

@SunnySideUp360 Год назад

That woman is as left wing as left wing can get. Get your mind right buddy.

@vietnamesestyles Год назад

@@SunnySideUp360 looks like you know the truth. Looked her up and look what do you see? Democrat for Obama.

@freesk8 Год назад

@@vietnamesestyles Promoting self-reliance and entrepreneurship? That's not left-wing, regardless of how she votes. Her philosophy, as expressed in this video, is conservative or libertarian.

@GaasubaMeskhenet Год назад

Money. The problem is money.

@freesk8 Год назад

Money is not evil. Money represents human labor, and human value. Teaching people that they have to feel guilty about earning money is crippling them.

@SunnySideUp360 Год назад

@@freesk8 tell that to Tameka's boss Obama. I'm sure he'll give you affordable healthcare at 550 a month for bare minimum care. Get in touch with reality for real man.

@samu6874 Год назад

Never ever have I understood why you would want the perfect easy life for your Kids or for yourself. There is nothing more precious than the Look on a childs face when it overcame hardship.

@GaasubaMeskhenet Год назад

Maybe it's because all the jobs that pay well break your soul and so nothing ever feels worth it

@christiansoldier1547 Год назад

Klaus Schwab says you'll own nothing and be happy ,,, so what kind of setup are you pushing ?

@freesk8 Год назад

Klaus Schwab is an evil socialist.

@Croissoont Год назад

No. If you want people to leave home, lower the price of houses. Learning 'how to adult', or to have an 'entreprenoulier spirit' wont make houses cheaper, and wont increase the avarage income of young adults. Stop trying to blame parents for the failure of the economy.

@adriana77w.22 Год назад

I don’t think so that the author had in mind to blame parents for economy situation … it’s seems to me my friend , you’ve gotten triggered …

@freesk8 Год назад

It is not the job of "the economy" to provide houses for people who have not earned them.

@annewalsh2324 Год назад

This. She's speaking out of a privilege she doesn't know she has right now. She needs to sit down.

@freesk8 Год назад

@@annewalsh2324 How dare you tell a black woman to sit down. Your statement is racist and sexist. Do better.

@tammydoerksen1169 Год назад

@@freesk8

@nataliailinykh9581 Год назад

I can't agree with the speaker more. Everything is to the point, laconic and clear. No talking nonsense. Thank you!

@Laralinda Год назад

Can't buy me love...

@freesk8 Год назад

Money is not evil. Money represents human labor, and human value. Teaching people that they have to feel guilty about earning money is crippling them.

@Laralinda Год назад

@@freesk8 It is okay to let the kids raise a business for buying their favourite toy. But she made them work for their family holidays (or in other words: make them pay for time together...)

@freesk8 Год назад

@@Laralinda The kids wanted a special and expensive trip. They could have had cheap picnics together at home.

@SunnySideUp360 Год назад

@@freesk8 i just sent my son to Asia for cultural enrichment. Didn't force him into labor to go on a trip with me. My young son is a hard worker. Given my own business acumen, he observes me and through admiration, respect and love he follows my example. If he wants to be a doctor one day, work at a hospital, thats on him. If he wants to be an athlete or run his own business its also his choice, hes well on the path to reaching greater goals. Why would you force your child to work just to go on a trip with you? I may have had to grow the hard way being raised by poor parents who spent their entire lives doing hard labor, but my folks never subjected me to this nonsense when they took me across the world for trips. As a grown adult I watched the sacrifices they made for me, I inherited their hard working mentality and combined it with my education. I'm not perfect but I'm much further ahead than my folks were at my age, they had to grow up as children inside a war that seen millions of my people killed. They wanted a better life for me and they didn't have to put me through those tips for me to achieve it. They nurtured me into a successful businessman making a six figure income. And in turn I will try my best to nurture my son to go far beyond me with love and guidance. It's important to realize that she has not even proven her theory with her own children, yet I am direct evidence of my own folks parenting. I became an entrepreneur myself, as well as my own parents too AFTER THEY RETIRED from their factory jobs. They did such a good job of raising their own children, that their children eventually raised them up as well. A good family sticks together, they grow up to work together, they provide wisdom and solutions based on their own experiences so that the others don't go through the same mistakes they already went through. That way they can encounter different and greater obstacles sooner than later.

@frankdelahue9761 Год назад

Overprotective parenting can turn children in to nervous wrecks.

@charlenecotton1576 Год назад

Are there only 5 techniques? Or is this the magic number to keep triggering me in my head.

@annewalsh2324 Год назад

Really disappointed to turn this on hoping to learn about resilience and self reliance to have it become a talk about making more money-fovused, apathetic people. The classist capitalistic lens this is presented in is what the entier problem is.

@freesk8 Год назад

Money is not evil. Money represents human labor, and human value. Teaching people that they have to feel guilty about earning money is crippling them.

@williamlashonse1013 Год назад

Kids arent living at home because they lack resilience, they are living at home because rent is out of control and wages havent budged in 40 years. Grow up

@lpdvv Год назад

Yes, you are right.

@vietang5686 Год назад

her sons are watching this video : ohh we were cheated

@melissamartin8208 Год назад

>>Calling Hokum And Hogwash On Balenciaga’s Apology For Bondage Ad Pics With Toddlers. Read at the Published Reporter. Fashion brand Balenciaga apologized after an outrageous advertisement sparked backlash. Yes, I am hopping mad! The ad depicted toddlers holding teddy bears dressed in bondage belts. Furthermore, I am morally outraged! Folks, do you actually believe the doubletalk by the company big wigs? Malarkey is my opinion. It’s a codswallop smoke screen for getting caught in the act. The company pushed their indoctrination of sexualization meter to see how the public would respond. Well, the corporate perverts got their answer.

@annekanyi Год назад

🙌🙌🫵

@user-ez2gw4nt3i Год назад

自分で金稼ぐとかすごすぎやろ

@manjulalgj Год назад

First you set an example by proving you we're right in raising em.

@ThePeytondoug Год назад

She had me going until she used a Steve Jobs quote-whose daughter openly hates him.

@alihussein3841 Год назад

Children are supposed to agitate you, it makes you quicker.

@buggyboy2849 Год назад

Let me quote a wise man on the issue of young people being unable to be resilient and self-reliant in today's world: "Give me rent."

@hannahcheck Год назад

The value of our kids is their success to make money and fit into our broken system?? Nah I’m good

@SpeaktheTruths Год назад

Why have kids?

@freesk8 Год назад

Because the future literally depends on that.

@anonymerpanda Год назад

that´s nice. but try to make money in germany. any kid would be arrested by the time he put up a lemonade stand xD

@rob4433 Год назад

5mins in and still not getting to the point.. Ted talks are great because they are 10mins. If you like the subject, you research it.

@josefk1491 Год назад

Maybe it's training yourself and people to be delusional and not have any layered understanding of real things. The lack of confidence comes from a lack of experience. Unless you are delusional in some way or another. I know this because I can express confidence in regards to things I am an expert at due to the amount of time I've spent on it. Why do I not jump into an alligator pit? Maybe because it has fuckin alligators in it. Why do I jump into a clean swimming pool? Because I can see it's safe. It's called using reason and judging situations the best we can. And in order to do that we need to learn how things work. So why is someone afraid and someone not afraid? Because one has reason to be afraid and the other does not, the question is are any of these reasons good? An entrepreneur can have bad reasons and thus jumps into the alligator pit, while the person who is too afraid to do anything has bad reasons and won't jump into the clean swimming pool.

@josefk1491 Год назад

in other words, children should not be raised to be entrepreneurs. That is the wrong goal. Children should be raised to understand the world around them and to enjoy it without being deluded into the extreme concept of self reliance. Resilience can be perceived as delusional too. Be self reliant when you can't depend on others at a given moment to handle a situation, this way you can make the decision that takes action when no action is the worse decision. Same with resilience. Be resilient and back down when it's reasonable to do so.

@Jezeus11 Год назад

So basically raise starving wolfs.

@nevis4567 Год назад

Damn that story about guiding your kid to raise money to buy the plane ticket made me cry. I might even want kids now lol

@freesk8 Год назад

If you like this one (as I do) then check out a Jordan Peterson video. Personal responsibility is empowering. Much better than government dependency.

@vietnamesestyles Год назад

lol check out the video of him crying and defending involuntary celibates. He's defending people who can't take initiative to properly groom themselves and too afraid to take initiative for themselves. You're hilarious. You have to be a comedian. 😂😂😂

@freesk8 Год назад

@@vietnamesestyles Actually, Peterson says to young incel men that if women aren't attracted to you, the problem is you. He tells them to improve themselves, work hard, get educated and get jobs. Take on responsibility. And that then they will become attractive. You don't understand what Peterson is saying.

@vietnamesestyles Год назад

@@freesk8 Yeah I understand he cries like a child/girl over nothing.

@freesk8 Год назад

@@vietnamesestyles He really cares. Nothing wrong with that. Quite the opposite, in fact. He has real compassion and empathy.