To the parents who think throwing their child's game system and breaking it is going earn you their respect, they're going to respect you less and resent you more
Fr… I understand taking it away for a time being (let’s not lie most of our parents have done that lol). But literally breaking it? Wasting money to prove a point?
When I was a child, my mother would beat me with an extension cord, a wire hanger, went a month with only having bread cereal and water to eat, then learned how to dumpster dive for food, was verbally abused as in told by my mother that I'm a burden, a mistake, she should have aborted me when she had the chance, the only reason she kept me was because of my disability, I ruined her life, I'm fat, ugly and worthless. Now that I'm an adult her words don't have much of an impact on me, but I don't allow anyone to harm or talk to my daughter the way I that was growing up. And if I catch someone talking in an abusive way or disrespectful way to my daughter I start snapping off reminding them that they won't treat and speak to her like that. I will always protect my daughter.
honestly it’s these videos that helped me realize, while my parents may love me, they are still toxic and don’t understand boundaries (they are the overprotective type who think they are doing what’s best, so they manipulate me because they think they are helping when they aren’t)
One thing I learned from having strict parents is how to sneak around, stay out of sight and not get caught and that's how I became so good at stealth.
I don't know if my dad would or would count as bad overall or not but one thing I don't like is when I was younger and cried I would sometimes be yelled at to stop crying
i’m a teen. i told them how i felt about the abuse i went thru as a child and they said “that isn’t abuse, you’re just being soft” “why are you always talking about it” my dad always started it, so now he’s “sad” that i don’t like him now “why does he not like me now” just the toxicity of my family i hate. there’s so much drama that happens in a week. i ask for help with something, how to do it, and my parents are like “UGH FINE ILL FUCKING DO IT FOR YOU” even tho like i was gonna do it. i tell them that, boom, explosion. fine. and then i want some freedom and they’re like “no, you’re not gonna do things by yourself bc it’s too dangerous” even tho there isn’t barely anything that happens here. just i’m done. and then it used to be “you shouldn’t have to work, im not making you work” but now it’s “yeah you need to work” because they don’t wanna buy me a car to get places with. everytime i ask something, it’s like i get blasted at. i cant say shit 😭
Thank you for mentioning your struggles with SH. I need more figures to look up to who have made it through and who inspire me. Love you Jayus, keep being awesome
My parents were strict, and to this day I’m grateful for that. I had a really good (not perfect obviously) childhood which translated into a good relationship as an adult
I am so thankful that my parents aren’t toxic. That don’t spoil me, there are restrictions, but they always tell me to follow my dreams and when I like something, they encourage me to make it a hobby. They encourage me to travel around the world when I grow up. I don’t know how I would live without them
17:01 this being the most relatable thing i’ve seen all day is sad. my mom used to yell. YELL. at me to take my mask off while ordering food at a restaurant, the time when i most needed it. the point of the mask is to protect you from other and others from you, so taking it off while around another person is just rude to them
Honestly this was SO relatable I have deeply religious parents and im not allowed to listen to music. ever. i am not allowed to any social media, or tv, And im not even allowed to close my door or own a Journal after my parents go through my things daily. I often change my clothes at school and have secret compartments in my drawers with more cute clothing. As I am not allowed to wear ANY form of tight clothing OR jeans with holes. But at the same time i can't wear baggy clothes because they are too "boyish" Last time i wore a tight shirt I was made fun of by my family saying i dont have a good body for tight clothes, the next day I wore it to school I got dozens of compliments. This is just the tip of the iceberg folks:)
On the subject of removing doors, we only had to do that one time and that was to our oldest daughter (the other 3 learned the lesson through her) and it was 100% because she was slamming the door constantly when she would have 13 yr old temper tantrums. We told her if she kept slamming it, we would take it away. She did so we did. Slamming stopped and the other 3 kids learned what not to do. As for just removing the door as some odd punishment, or the idea that Anyone doesn't "deserve privacy", is just insane. But there are times when it does make sense.
I hate listening to alllllll of the family arguments and they have a big impact on me and My little brother he always cry’s and I confit him wile I’m trying to calm my self down too
I'm really happy my terrible dad just left us once at all.. expect he tried to keep up relationship with me for a while, but he got mad to me because I didn't tell him my mother got pregnant 6 years after they had divorced and he has given his rights away to me and my brother.. well that was still fixable, but after he moved his new woman in the house our mother and us left he didn't have premission to keep contact with any of his kids (not adult kids or kids kids).. and ofcourse the new woman's kid moved there too
Great subject matter. I only have two “critiques”. 1. I could barely hear most of the kids you featured, and I have excellent hearing. 2. Video two would start while you were still commenting on Video 1, so that neither you nor the video could be heard or understood. My sperm donor (who was married to my mom) was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive to my mother and I both. While I did suffer all of that abuse at his hands, what was worse was seeing and hearing what he would do to my mom. My mom took it upon herself to provide me with the best possible life while at the same time, trying to protect me from him, and from witnessing what he would do to her. We were a military family. He was in law enforcement, and was well-respected at the workplace. This was decades ago - long before the term domestic abuse was even created. Men were still allowed to treat their wives any way they saw fit. There were no women’s shelters, nor any other type of resource for women or children. At age 12, I ditched school for the first time. I came home to my mother and sixth grade teacher talking at the kitchen table. They wanted to know why I ditched. Sperm donor was overseas at the time, but due to return soon. I told them I wanted the police to arrest me and take me away so that I wouldn’t have to live with sperm donor anymore. Mom looked at teacher and said, “That’s it. I’m filing for divorce”. She was true to her word. When the divorce became final, it was in early July. We were at a 4th of July party hosted by some family friends. My mom lit two sparklers, handed one to me, and led me by the hand around the corner. That’s when she told me we were celebrating our own independence, because we were finally free from “him”. One of the best days of my life.
My grandad snapped a mop on my head and my head started bleeding like shit then it got blamed to me cause he said he doesnt wanna get mad but I make him.. Bruh
Parents suck, I've learned though that, 90% of their stupid shit are mistakes, and a lot of it is just stuff that they don't know how to handle, or we misinterpret. Like that dude that had the cameras in his room. For years we thought my best friend's aunt and uncle were insane. They took the door off his cousin's bedroom, they would monitor his bathroom time, they would low-key like call places that he would go all the time to see what was going on. Mind you this dude was 19. It wasn't till 5 years later that we all found out what was going on. And the messed up part is we found out when his mom was telling us that we were going to his funeral. Apparently he developed a heroin addiction, and his parents didn't really know how to deal with it they just tried to monitor him and be supportive, while keeping it low-key because they didn't want him to have the stigma of being a junkie. They literally tried everything, we found out that the three separate times we thought he was staying with his grandmother, he was in different rehabs. They spent thousands of dollars to try and help him, and almost all of my buddy's family they just seemed like crazy overbearing parents.
Luckily my parents just neglected me. Handed me a soccer ball and some video games and told me to figure it out. After watching some of these, I feel like I got off pretty easy. Thanks, all the best!
13:22 I put all my fingers down and started counting toes. No wonder why I have anxiety. My dad has me made me tramazited when some one yells. When someone starts yelling and it could not even be at me I will start having a mental breakdown because its scary for me. But I still love my dad. ❤😢
the strongest rule i ever had was "dont eat the crumbs of food after you have eaten" idk why. i always thought it was weird that they pushed that rule so hard. they were always saying "Remember dont eat the crumbs" even if we never did they always said it
That second Put A Finger Down...there were 18 that they said. Every single one of them has applied to my parents' treatment of me... Every. Single. One...
When I was living with foster parents they had cameras everywhere I wasn't allowed to eat after 8pm and had to eat all my food or couldnt have food for the rest of the week so yea then when I moved in with my grandmother and dad my dad was out doing idk and my grandmother said get out of my room don't date a girl focus on God and I would draw on myself and where black she said why are you what you wanna go to hell are you gonna join a cult??? and would threaten to hit and hurt me btw I dont live with my mom and grandmother talks crap about her all the time
ah.. we don't communicate, so at least something after all these years, yay. I still live with them, tho.. I basically raised myself anyway, so... yeah
I think it’s actually pretty unhealthy and dangerous to try to teach a child that if they don’t act the way you want them to that others can strip them of their privacy. Could be a slippery slope there
There's more to these stories than we see and most of them deserved punishment for being disrespectful. If I pulled any of these stunts I probably would've been tied to a chair and waterboarded again
I hate to be the one to break it to you, but you’re being abused. That is an actual form of torture worthy of jail time. Sure some of them probably were being bad but that doesn’t in any way justify what the parents did. You should seek help and try to get into a safer situation before things escalate.
The fact my parents act like my sisters the favourite- like one time when I was 10, she was nearly 22, and she stabbed me with a hanger, and I got yelled at??
This makes me Ultra o mega grateful and happy to have the parents I do always so loving respectful hearing not judgmental and just great to talk to they are the absolute best!
Take it with a grain of salt take it with a grain of salt. But yeah, if your parents are hitting you and by consequence you're blacking out, yeah, that's just beyond acceptable.
I think the important distinction is between strict and toxic. My parents were strict. I could do all the stuff like fake-sleep, tell who was coming by their footsteps, hide my phone/whatever I had open on my laptop in a matter of seconds, etc. BUT I was still aware that my parents loved me and were trying their best. a) I'm grateful they were strict -- I had a 4.0 GPA and am just a better person in general because of it and b) I have a good relationship with them to this day.
I couldn't have a boyfriend because "boys will always be on earth" (never had a boyfriend at all, I'm 23 now), looked through my phone and found out I was talking to strangers (still talk to strangers but ik some mean well, mostly discord), could barely hangout with friends (had to ask), never slept over a friends house unless they knew them, I guess that's all
As a kid that has two brothers and strict parents I was never really allowed to do things Like when I was 5 I had to ask permission to go outside and that didn't change until I turned 9 Still need to ask my parents to go places that's not the neighborhood plus I need to ask them about the plans I made and if they disagree plans are canceled simple as that
More pocket money... Lmao my parents are the same as yours, only difference between our parents is, i don't receive pocket money. Bruh (it's understandable, because we are a bit financially weak..)
I feel so lucky my parents are kind. My dad was definitely angrier when I was young but I was a real pain in the ass so kinda deserved it lol. Now the only issue is my moms anxiety which makes her stressed out and pressure me to do better and be more like my sister, but honestly I know she cares and that's why she so anxious about my life.
I am still in my childhood- my parents think that its ok to randomly search my phone like *"if u have a phone its gunna get searched"* bruh thats not how it works let me have some privacy. the funny ting is, my mum thinks that bc i dont want them to VIOLATE MY PRIVACY that i have something to hide.
When i was a kid they sorta starved me. They left me like a cup of water and half a bagel for a whole fay and i was locked into my room (when i was like 13) for a whole day like (24hours) no electronics or anything.
They don't let me go outside unless I beg them rlly hard and in my life I just go out w my friends like 3 times or smth they only let me if I go w my sisters or cousins I am 14 and also they don't let me wear what I want only baggy clothes not even shorts. I can't use insta or pinterest. It's not allowed 4 me to listen korean boy groups. Or watch animes. I can't have a bf until I am a grown up and 4 them it's 22. If I get bad grates or lie them ab it they'd give me punishments. I'm turkish btw
Fun no amazing fact:its illegal for parents to put cameras in your room and sueing your parents is possible 6:00 I don't understand why parents think grounding kid for sh or trying to commit sui**de will help it just makes it worse
I was going through my black phase and my dad told me I couldn’t dress like that because I looked like a h0oker, also he made me get a haircut, and change everything about myself..😃 also he would constantly yell at me for the most random sh*y like touching a door. And would constantly scream how I always f*ck 5ings up and can never do anything right.. this still happens.. I’m 12🤩 Edit: also I have to lock myself in the bathroom for privacy 🤗 that’s where I am run but I’m in a cabinet in the bathroom🥴
My dad used to have this one rule where I wasn’t aloud to walk behind him. So he had a slogan type thing where he would said “walk in front, beside, but never behind. I mean I get it ( he didn’t want me to be hit by cars or whatever) but one time I had to stop and tie my shoe so I was tying my shoe and he noticed I was behind him and started getting mad at me even though I said I was just trying to tie my shoe. I was grounded and had to eat my least favorite food (peas and macaroni mixed together) and if I didn’t eat it I would just starve. I was sick to my stomach the next morning and he didn’t believe me so I went to school threw up and embarrassed myself in front of the whole class. And he never did it again.
Most of the "put a finger down" , I ran out of fingers. Of course that is me thinking back to when I was a child, I was bullied as a child by the other kids as well. I still have PTSD from some of the s*it that stems from my childhood as well as panic attacks but I am doing better than I did 10 years ago.
@@notyoutube2599 interesting because it could be about " jayus personal exsperiance with the topic" Or " reacting to videos that have such content" or even "giving examples of like if your parents do these things that makes then toxic" so please don't just to conclusions next time please thank you.
I am about halfway through the video at the time of me making this comment, I am sure all these story are sad but I don't think any of them will trigger me like the story of the girl who mother called off her wedding, I would never speak to my mother again if I found out she pulled a stunt like that
