@@prettynerd4779 She obviously doesn't know her father either. The man clearly doesn't like the hooplah and is a simple man. He didn't request a big party and she didn't ask, she just get ploughing through and annoying people with her high strung energy...trying to "be seen". It probably would have pleased him if she had stopped, and celebrated his birthday his way. That would have been the unselfish and heartfelt thing to do. She was a wearisome personality. The younger daughter seemed to get him as a person and didn't try too hard...even when he was difficult. She just vibed with her father and did what she felt was right for her.
Marcia Gay Harden also did a tremendous job. Always outshone by her brilliant sister (Forlani). In a way she never knew she was giving a farewell party to her beloved, worshipped father. Superb acting by every member of the cast. The dialogues and monologues are perfect!!!!. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I grew up in the projects till I was twelve then I was raised in Boca Raton till now I'm 25 years old...You don't have to be rich or privileged or white to see the pure beauty and message of this movie...the scenery, the dialogue (the best part of the movie) the unforgettable quotes from a father..from the Angel of death..and the soundtrack!!! This is my all time favorite movie!
I know right....the beauty and innocence of this movie makes for a truly romantic film. I remember reading shortly after the release of this movie that Brad Pitt criticized his appearance in this movie....saying he looked too much like a pretty boy. Next movie he made after this film was 'Fight Club'....guess he enjoyed making that film more b/c his face got to be bloody and beat up...smh
@@MsVanillaSugar but his pretty boy appearance appealed to the women and explained susan's complete attraction to him even though as death he had very little to offer. I think its a great explanation of female behavior
its a rare American film that is actually classy. Most times rich people come off as cruel or pretentious or loutish but this movie is beautiful in its elegance and simplicity. Everyone speaks so gracefully. Check out Sabrina with Harrison Ford and Julia Oromond, its another beautiful and classy film.
Bill Parrish had the weight of the world on his shoulders, knowing that his time on Earth would be up soon. I don't blame him for being annoyed by trivial things like choosing which cake to serve at the party. I think its sweet how he saved face though. This is one of my favorite films.
Maybe so but saddest part bout this they don't know and the worst thing bout dying is your gonna be missed by one's that love you the most, have to agree with you there its a great film... ❤ proper tear Jerker 😢. But most enjoyable .
But those little moments......those moments where we give our attention not because it benefits us, but because we know it's important to someone else....and then can take joy in THEIR joy....THAT is how we love others.
Our need for validation comes in so many forms and degrees that it would be apprapo to say that a simple breath, from our first gasp to our last, is validation for being alive, and having lived.
Somtimes its the parent ( tey r so busy wid their emotions , tey cant giv t basic attention ) n that multiplies with time if nt taken care of … T beauty is that she is still sittin on t same tabl tryin to get her share gracefully ..,,No right n wrong ! ( Thas y psychotherapy failss … it cant explaiin dynamics ) Thas y she chose emotionally availbl man ( i guess ) …
While the acting and scenery really drew you into the movie and making you invested in each of the characters, the score was warmly enveloping, making you believe that you weren't just watching the Parrish family, but a part of them.
I get that, I work at a kindergarten so we celebrate like 3-4 children's birthdays each month with cake and everything. Now I don't even have cake on my birthday I just stopped liking it.
Parents take note. Don’t favor any child over another. I felt so sorry for her and I HATED bill for his behavior here. It wasn’t enough that he decided to fake enjoying the cake. He should have gotten up and hugged her and told her he was sorry and he appreciates her.
Yes,but,Alison did say that when ever she walks in the room this look comes over his face like "what does she want now",which indicates she relies alot on her father's money.
Don't think in that way . Alison might be her mom's favourite than Susan for her mother when she's alive. Atleast one of the parents should take care or consider the other child if any one didn't.
I believe that's the point of the film. Death isn't bad or ruthless or vengeful or brutal or anything. He has a duty to fulfil. And while he realizes how much potential he has to be a friend, a lover, a consultant, a family member ..., that job needs to be done and can not be escaped.
Quince just wants to be with the woman he loves and make her life easier. He doesn't attack her father because he knows thats not what she needs. "He cares" is what she needed and that is what he made sure her Dad knew.
Parents are usually why people (especially daughters) are crazy….. my ex wife was crazy, when she was 12 her shitty parents let it slip that she was supposed to be an abortion. She was I think fourteen years younger than her sister, her father told her mom to go get an abortion, mom drove to clinic and sat in parking lot crying until the place closed for the day then drove home and told her husband she couldn’t do it…… an innocent little girl of twelve, so innocent she had been in private school only up to that point, suddenly had her entire world destroyed and found out her father wanted her dead…. Shitty parents are why women are crazy…..
Poor Allison has been agonizing and driving herself crazy trying to plan the perfect party for her father ,trying to show him how much she loves him,and hoping that maybe he'll show her some of the type of love her has for Susan in return.,but he doesnt care.Makes you wonder if his attitude would have been different or the same if he didnt know he was about to die.Im glad Quince was there for her to validate the effort she was making.Its good she had a spouse that loved her so much.
No no no, the lines in this scene should have been: "I don't like cake, what I need is a liver with some fava beans and a nice chianti, ffffvvvvvvvv damn you all!" Don't they know who this nigga is?
** 54yo white man here. This scene has a very strong hidden message and that’s in what the Dad DIDN’T do! And that message is-> All of us just want to be appreciated. We want to be noticed. The daughter worked hard to get those cakes. It meant a lot to her. And for the Dad to be so apathetic about the issue was really damaging to her. Sometimes we aren’t sensitive enough to see how our inaction hurts others when all u gotta do is “take a bite of the cake!” When he said “I don’t care, you choose” is the worst thing u could say to someone! Just show you fucking care man. Wake up people!!!! lol. We are all delicate. Sting has a song “let’s not forget how fragile we are.”
I know a lot of people are thinking what's the big deal. For her it's the last moment she may have to celebrate with her father before he passes. So for her it is a big deal and she wanted it to be special for him.
Saying that this is a "First World Problem" or a "Rich white folks.. etc" makes me think that you didn't watch the movie at all. [He Does Give A Shit] context is clarified by the end of the movie, when she tells he that she wasn't his favorite. Him doing this small thing (Bite of Cake "with a dramatic gesture") is just saying that he loves her and she is not the least favorite. at least that how i see it sorry for the book i just wrote!
That's part of being a man. Doing something you don't like or aren't interested in because it makes someone you love happy. Might as well enjoy playing the part too!
Oh, for freakin' fuckily fuck... this scene reminds me of my own father, who never gave a single shit about me or my sister. And believe me: we tried, in countless ways... but his answer was always the same: painful silence, worse than a scream or a mockery gesture. I still wonder what the hell did we do wrong. Why he was so distant, even from himself!? It may sound cruel, but when our father passed away, my sister and I felt a weird feeling of relief mixed with anger and sadness. We never had the "talk" every goddamn offspring has with their parents at some point. The closest thing we did was a speech in front of his grave. Rest in peace... mister.
Hard to say the reason without knowing the man. Sometimes its not about what you do that's wrong, but rather its because to some, it can be hard to express one self. I know this because I'm sometimes like that too. The most you get from your dad is probably just a nod, which can be confusing. The closest analogy on how it feel is probably like when you first hold a kitten and you don't know what to do to avoid hurting it. Some people are like that, either from life experience or just how they are taught as a child. You might expect to hear him say "Good job" or "Nice work you did there" but to people like this, that sound insincere and sometimes feel wrong because it didn't quite feel right, like the word is a massive understatement. It certainly won't do to overpraised it as that too feel wrong and sound condescending. So in the end, they just be quiet, maybe smile a bit and probably nod. Its not that they don't know how to love (else, he wouldn't even have your mother in the first place) but more like being awkward and not sure how to express themselves.
It's entirely possible your father came from a generation or culture of men that didn't dare to break with traditional modes of behavior when it came to male role models. The strict disciplinarian, the stoic lawgiver, etc. There are more than enough examples of that all around us. I would hope that he had feeling for you, but it's sad that you never felt that. It sounds he was pretty divorced from the courage needed to feel tender or vulnerable. Fwiw, not every child will have that "talk" where the parent expresses an over-arching love or pride at some conclusion, or as an epiphany. Usually, that comes out over time, in the context of every day events, or transient asides; a gesture, a gaze, a chuckle. The "talk" you seem to idealize isn't really a thing. What would be nice is if you simply knew, because what else could it be? Hope you've found solace since then.
I always wondered why he picked up the cake at the end even after pointing at it, and then saying this one. It seems like picking it up was from another cut of that scene, and they merged them together.
I'm sorry but I really hate "daddy" in this scene. If he had an ounce of common sense he would know he's hurting his daughter (even if she is superficial and doesn't know how to get along). This is where a "white lie" would come in handy.
She is hurting herself and creating unnecessary drama and tension, because it's all about her. Very high maintenance. Makes the whole party thing a total turn-off.
Can someone please tell me what bakery or catering company was responsible for making the cakes in this movie? Have been wanting to know the answer to my question for a while now. Pray tell.
It represents the relationship between the eldest daughter and father and is foreshadowing for their goodbye scene. It has nothing to do with the cake it's about his willingness to put forth an effort into their relationship.
Tense and shallow, like a poorly designed, well built drumhead. Riches in hand exacerbate poorness of spirit, but it is not only the materially wealthy that suffer from breaking in the winds of time, rather than bending. It is when our own purpose in this existence becomes clouded, unattainable, that is when our souls dry up for naught of joy, and our bodies and spirit wither in regret. One cannot water a crop without rain, just as a people cannot endure constant trampelling.
These enjoyable little snippets on RU-vid eventually lured me into renting and watching the whole movie on Netflix. It turned out to be an overlong piece of shit.
This movie was stupid Dr Phil and that dad kissed the daughter on the lips the whole movie 😑 the movie industry is disgusting once you learn about the truth
