Part 1: Did Mom Trade Me For Drugs? | KARAMO 

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i feel like the mom was r@ped and was being taken advantage of poor woman i hope she stays strong

She’s still really very young, &very much in pain she doesn’t realise that was the best thing that the mum could’ve done

@@thehoneyeffect absolutely... I pray that she finds peace and understanding 🙏

Yes we do realize that being raised in a different home/environment was best, but it does not erase the pain, questions, trauma. There is a plethora of things we deal with and is easily triggered by when we've lived through this level of abandonment. Trust me, it looks/feels much different looking from the outside in as opposed to the inside out.

@@juanitaevans2715 that is so true❤️

16 kids all screwed up,all because she did.nt believe in giving her kids away...Which is what she did anyway...She chose drugs over her kids..and because she has been clean for 9 month...All is forgiven,in her eyes!! So sad 😞 😔

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Love would have been for her to get off the drugs and be a good mother. Her mother took the easy way out in my opinion

@@catherinesmith263that’s scary that you believe that’s all it takes to get off of drugs. You have to learn more about addiction and how that works. Nobody (who is on drugs) just wakes up and becomes clean cuz they “love” someone. Come on na 🤦🏽‍♀️

@@UnicornFamilia right 👏

She had a good life with those people based off luck. Those were strangers not even family, she can keep saying it was a friend but you NEVER really know people and she didn’t know those people. They could’ve been monsters

Same

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She can understand all that and still be angry towards her mother for making those decisions cause at the end of the day all of the moms decisions impacted her positively AND negatively, through a grown ups perspective she can understand why her mom did it but that doesn't erase the hurt it caused

@@zooked-rl6jq : I definitely agree with you on that . That’s why I mixed emotions . She has a right to her feelings for sure 🙌🏽

She's not really appreciate from where she's coming from. if she's really appreciative, she will understand her mother's situation.

I too lived a much better life with my adopted family; however, dealing with the abandonment as a child runs deep especially knowing you were treated differently than the others. The trauma, triggers, reminders, emptiness, etc., is real and painful.

To greet her mom with a hug shows that she is trying and that she cares. It's painful and a pain that is indescribable.

Most of us that had children young didn’t realize that fact I’m 45 and I had 4 children by the time I was 24 I made many mistakes but drugs wasn’t one I have 5 children now and I’ll say I did a damn good job even though I had no idea what I was doing I tried my best and stayed as focused on them as I knew how I showed them good work ethic I held them accountable I told them I loved them showed them how to be self sufficient I didn’t put them in bad situations knowingly etc that made them turnout to be descent young adults we can’t always use the times and environment as a crutch for bad parenting and bad life decisions my heart goes out to this woman and her children but putting her ignorance to the side common sense plays a big part in a lot

@@prettybrowneyes8565 I don’t understand how the truth is a crutch. I’m in med school and don’t mind admitting at all I could have made better choices. Life is objective in many instances and not subjective. People need to quit making excuses and admit having several kids, that’s on the man and woman, and not being prepared to give them stability, spirituality and connection isn’t healthy! It’s one thing to raise kids and another to parent them. My mother was an addict and didn’t allow us to be abused either, but her toxic decisions and lack of accountability affected us..so it does make a difference. I know this is a uncomfortable subject, but it needs to be had, that’s why Karamo had the show.

@@prettybrowneyes8565 my mom left me and my 3 siblings at 22. im the youngest and i have no hate for my bio mother simply because as adult i realize that she had pain hurt trauma and struggles because her mom didnt raised her but raised her other kids. we were also split up when i was 3 . they went with their dad and i went with the family that raised her, that eventually gave me up to the system. i understand her hurt and frustration personally but she has to heal at some point.

No excuses

Y'all grown n should know right from wrong or just don't have kids dumb ases

I already see how different she is. However, I think she should be thankful to God that she is still alive to build a better future for herself.

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It was absolutely a blessing and I don’t think she’s discounting that she did have a good life but it it is still hurtful, wanting someone and knowing that they gave you away or wishing for someone and they can’t be the person who wish they were.

This the comment I was looking for.. I believe that if she realize how drugs effects these people then she will probably be better off.. They steal, lie, kill and don't think about NOTHING ELSE.. I know it's not right.. and I wish she realize that it was 16 to get divided.. I'm sure it wasn't that many family members around.. and she went to someone her mom knew and trusted.. Mom, made a good choice in her head..

@@neikasworld9513 drugs or not that's not an excuse. She has the right to still be mad and hurt. You gotta think about the shit she was already exposed to before her actually getting adopted. Not just that but not having your mom throughout the years especially those teenage years and when she first starts her period. She has every right to still be angry . Black folks always want someone to forgive and forget, and sweep it under the rug. Life don't work like that and she deserves at least an explanation of the truth and not excuses

@Doneesha cunningham I'm agreeing with you because you are absolutely right, if you look back I said it was wrong.. you commented on my comment and it was my opinion under someone else's comments.. black folks always come for others because of their opinions.. why? I have a right to my opinion... As A child that grew up in the system because my mother was addicted, being split from my other 2 siblings, I just said if she came to realizations of how drugs affects them and how many it was, she may be a little better with her mom not having a real answer.. Not everyone is the same, but for me, I NEVER questioned ,got angry, nor was disrespectful about the situation I was put in.. not by my choice... I NEVER said she shouldn't be mad nor have questions..

@Doneesha cunningham These videos that are posted on RU-vid have sections for comments, which gives EVERYONE access to their opinions and THEIR facts.. don't know why when people say things that others don't agree with or like, they "come for " that person.. kinda like a bully if you ask me, this is why I don't comment much or just don't respond back to people that's trying to start something because of my opinion

@@doneeshacunningham2949 your really rude. I know these videos could make us frustrated but you don’t have to be rude to other people who share their opinions. This whole situation is sad I hope it gets better for the whole family

Agreed and that's my issue as well

Yeah i was feeling this way as well. I understand she's hurt but.....yeah

Its rubbing me real wrong.

I didn’t like that either! Seems like a jealousy for her siblings when they were abandoned also! And she seems to have lived a better life than them!

I really don't like that shit

16 kids must have required some thought at least?

@@annemx. it’s possible she could’ve had multiple kids at once like twins quadruplets quintuplets sets of children that’s the only thing I think of that would possibly allow her to have the equivalence of 16 children

I understand her frustation. I was aldo the only given to relatives. I got a better education but even it nags me why I was the one. I never expetirnced groeing eith my mom. Never called anyone mom. I don't know how it feels to call anyone mom. There's a whole in my heart. People don't understand. They downplay my hurt saying I had a better life. True but I hurt for my mom.

@@nozizwefulela3403 Awwh 💜 I’m sorry for you! I had both parents in my life but they were pretty shitty so just remember love and care don’t always have to come from a parent or blood relative. Hope you’re thriving & living your best happy life 👏🏽

She gave kids that were born after her to family members though.. and it wasn’t even a legal adoption she just gave her daughter to strangers frl

Go ahead I wish I the best

Definitely try

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Try sweetie

Exactly and stop asking why when she already knows the why! The mother was on drugs for over 27 years. She knows full well that she didn't want to experience that life of going without due to the mother's drug usage. She was blessed to have a wonderful life and she should be grateful for that. Hopefully one day she can let go of all that anger and start creating memories with her mom and siblings so that she can start the healing process.

You have your mom. It shows. As someone who grew up without a mom that gap will never close for me

@@SpontaneousVirgo she doesn’t need to feel “grateful” how disrespectful of you to ignore her pain and try to justify her moms lazy trifling decision.

@@catherinesmith263 she does need to feel grateful! She was the one blessed out of the 16 kids. She had a wonderful life so what pain? For the record it’s not disrespectful to verbally state how I feel about the situation. However it is disrespectful of YOU to think that YOU could come for ME DISRESPECTFULLY!! She needs counseling and I’m sure her adopted parents feel disrespected with all of the sacrifices that they made for her!

@@lolaispure4296 yeah honestly i feel you from your comment alone i can tell your like her becuase you said you never grew up with a mom but it really does sound like you do love her and wish you could have and that's exactly how this girl is like when it comes to people like her and myself (even tho i have my mom ) no matter if your mom was crazy or on dugs it wouldn't have taken away from her daughter loving her and she said her self she doesnt care that she had a good life because she just wanted to be with her mom and people dont get to choose their parents so i think she was fully accepting of her moms issues which is valid the only reason people are saying shes lucky for being given a good home and should be grateful because she could have gotten trauma staying with her mom its a double edged sword either way there would have been trauma she just wishes it was from her family real family if its going to be anything and she has her own experience but at the end of the day she just wanted her mom to at least come looking for her and to let her know she just wishes it could have been with her regardless i wouldn't say shes ungrateful id just say her experinces are different and shes trying to say she doesnt care that her mom was on drugs she just wanted that connection not to be given to someone else that she also got trauma from that she stated when some of the adopted extended family didnt accept her but coming from someone who do has a mom but my mom did stuggle with abusing vices i can tell you that just because she did drugs and my life wasnt perfect doesnt mean i dont love her or blame her id never want to live with strangers or anything like that even with the hard life i was delt so i dont think shes trying to be a victim either i think shes just telling it straight but also bless the mom she just wanted the best for her even if she was on drugs she could have kept her and subjected her to way more unnecessary trauma but decided to try and get her a better life even if it wasnt with her again a double edged sword

That’s a special type of rejection…two betrayals-the mother and the family-all in one.

Exactly idk how they can be anything but quiet when she’s expressing herself, she never got to do this before, she didn’t even know y’all let her get out her years of pain so she can be open to hearing your thoughts smh

She’s actually not okay, she is in torment and filled with anger and her feelings are valid. It annoys me that someone can just say while I was on drugs and you have to accept that and yeah it ruined my whole family but I was on drugs people we need to do better OK

That’s understandable because if the kids are spread out who has room for all of them

I understand how she feel she was alienated from the rest of the kids but they all was giving away because of her mom drug habit I just thank God she was with a living family and this bring them all together and they get the help like counseling because as we all know the mom was in drugs so they had to be born with drugs in their system

Feeling like she doesn't belong anywhere 😩🤧

Yeah. It's the little girl in her asking the questions

Thats a VERY insesitive comment. As an orphan it offends me. NOTHING is bettrr than a mother's Love. No matter how good and amazing your adoptive parents are. I know about it.

She had everything except her biological mother. That's a pain that is unfathomable to a child. You feel lost and confused when you're not given explanations and answers..Trust.

Some people are just sperm and egg donors. Not because you gave birth to a child, doesn't mean that you're the best thing for that child. A drug addict doesn't care about anything or anyone other than getting the next fix. Her life would have been a worse tragedy than it is now, If her mother had kept her with her. God was good to her even though her mother was out of her mind, he made her give her to the right person he knew would take care of her. And that's a blessing in itself. 🇯🇲

@@lolaispure4296 NOPE... You're romanticizing bio parents. There are billions of people who have lived with a bio mom and have never received and felt "a mother's love".

It wasn't her mom. Every child want their own Mama's love.

but unless she knows all 16 which even the sister said they don't she doesn't know for a fact they were all with family. then you have to factor in did she give them to family to did family take them. because she said she was done with child services it sounds to me like her kids were taken from her and given to closest of kin

but it's not, i was a fentanyl and crack user for 11 years and i celebrated 9 months clean jan 4th. you're spewing bs, thanks :) i don't think one ounce about it

was thinking the same thing

What, people are diff

Yeah. I'm wondering if she is using

That part!!! My thoughts exactly

I concur! She equates being with family as living a better life, because she's lived a good life she doesn't know how much worse it could have been. She clearly needs therapy, and she needs to sit down with some of her siblings, maybe that would give her the wake up call that she needs.

Well said except the last part. How is he going to help someone when he's lost himself.

Exactly!

Chile... The lies are the hardest.

That’s a good point

Her mom having been on drugs does not negate her hurt at being given to strangers as if she was not worthy.

She Can Blame Her Mom! Her Mother Chose Drugs! 😒😒

Are you serious you must be a mom like her because is no way in this world you blaming the daughter for the lady supposed to be mom, because no child chose to come into this world that’s the mother choice, is nothing in this world would make me give up my kids and am a mother of 8 and I know it’s hard but the love I have for my kids makes me fight even harder.

@@sophiebutler5684 Where did I say I’m taking the mom side... I’m adopted and had to go through understanding as well. All I’m saying is that she has to see the bigger picture. The daughters feelings are valid. I never said otherwise...

Right

She is listening but she’s trying to tell her sister ALL of them went through the same pain from their mom.

@@tateannalang7135 Agreed and the sister doesn't want to hear that. She doesn't know how to have a conversation without all of that aggression.

Mental illness.

It’s called being irresponsible and selfish.

What is it that u want. Have u tried understanding drug addiction just try to understand that we cannot turn back the hands of time you are destroying yourself with hatred

Daughter will still beat her with words

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EXACTLY. It breaks you FOR LIFE.

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Yeah that’s very hurtful. It would make you think twice about why so they keep saying things like that.

A little louder please. Thank you. My fuckin point exactly.

No for real though she has sixteen kids we don't know what them other 15 going through to be honest she probably had it the best she the one that had a pretty good childhood what about the other ones

me too. Her vibe seems real chill like she understands the sister but is also gonna defend her other siblings too

@@kiera6288 imo the sister kinda needs to shut up cause she really is down playing her pain she saying "well we all went through stuff" okay?? This is about the sister that wasn't kept close like the rest, and the sister further proves the point by saying "yeah MY mother cause you wasn't around all of us" like girl u can't take away from her trauma but then contradict urself by saying she wasn't living with them like obviously duhhhh that's why she's hurt!!

@@kiera6288 thank u im the sister kita

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Did she say she was not grateful? it doesn't mean when her mom left her with people that are not her family did not hurt. She is allowed to feel exactly the way she feels.

Good point! How has your life turned out by being an adopted child? :)

She loves them. I know you don't have no trauma because you're really dumb on this

Because she's looking for answers, she needs clarity to move on. I know i would want answers maybe not be the answers she's looking for but maybe she can get some kind of underdtanding so she can move on with her life.

So she has no right to want to know them AND be angry? Who are you to judge her????

@@lolaispure4296 exactly these people have no idea what she went through. And, in order to fully heal from this, she needs clarity and closure.

@@sophiem1599 right??🩵

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Nine months "sober" in thirty years of addiction is nothing.

@@teresamarie7460 what? at least she’s putting in effort to change? wtf is you talking about.

@@teresamarie7460 it’s a start though

@@2muchofdev nothing, just being a b itch

Factz...im trying to have empathy but its hard.

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Those were my thoughts as well. Was actually hurting my feels a little bit. Couldn't imagine how the adoptive mother feels. Did the adoptive family spew you're not our family anyway as a result of disrespect.

@@brittneyberry4934 no respect for the woman that actually gave her a real life SMDH. I think she would be happy she didn’t have to grow up seeing some of the things that happened in both mom and dad. But to keep calling the woman a stranger was really getting to me

@@leahprater3422 100%. I wonder after the adopted mother saw the show was she saddened by it.

@@brittneyberry4934 exactly and she said the woman gave her everything too. Sad

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Exactly, she wants her mom to reverse the past not realizing all her mom can do is apologize, take accountability and try to build a relationship because the past is the past.

She wasn't ignored and it's not what's hurting her. Of the 16 children she was the only one placed with a stranger-actually mother's friend - whereas the other 15 were placed with various relatives. She can't understand why she wasn't given to a relative.