Am 40, chose a child free life. Nna I have never felt emotionally ready to handle that responsibility and didn't want to experiment with a whole human. One of my biggest fears is transferring my issues to an innocent child and end up like the toxic mothers I heard about on this live. Wishing the ladies healing ❤️
I'm also in my 40s and I also took that conscious decision. To make that I don't fall pregnant even by mistake, I took it as far as sterilizing in my early 30s. Most people close to me still do'nt understand my decision but the older I grow, the happier I am with the decision I took.
Our parents are very toxic. I think all our mothers were like this. The trauma they’ve inflicted on us as kids. And the trauma they’ve experienced. Definitely narcissistic….
I pray all mothers find healing ❤ this cuts deep. I am 23 and I've only opened up to my older sister that I wish I didn't bring our mother so much pain. I feel like I've always been a burden for her, I don't know how to apologise to her. I love her so much, I still need my mom. But I don't know how to do it anymore, my head is about to explode. I don't know how to save us all.
I always like Thabang's take but on this one I feel like she was treading carefully. It felt as if she was rationalizing why a mother could possibly hate her child and in turn making excuses. There are extremes to this topic and I believe if we can call out men for their behavior, surely we can call a spade a spade when it comes to mothers.
I used to feel so guilty when I couldn't relate when other say they love their moms coz it felt so weird, I never had that. But ke I'm taking in step at a time to forgive and move on❤
That is the best action to deal with a narcissist, to distance yourself from them. If not you will suffer continuously because they don't have remorse, insensitive, manipulative, controlling, abusive, unable to take responsibility for their actions. They will blame you for what they are doing to you. I don't understand how a therapist can place a child in a compromising situation when trying to help them. As a Lay counselor I know that before I counsel a child I must start with the mother and follow up with the child sesepetely. Whatever is said in thise sessions is confidential. If there is a criminal offence committed by the parent then the police need to be involved and the child to be taken to a safe place away from the abusive parent who should face the hand of justice.
Some mothers have never had love from their parents therefore they may lack giving love, especially those who are taken away raised in foster care orphanages etc. Some were intelligent but could not chase their dreams due to lack of finances etc.
Yoooo guys mothers mothers why are you deliberately doing this to us? I'm in a similar situation where my mother gathered with my big sister to say I'm a witch.. It's been over 5 years not going home and my home is a 10 minutes drive but I cannot go home. I'm healed thanks Madam speaker. Witness you are not alone my sister and all the other callers. Eish we guys siyaGowisha hle.. By the way I'm Pndy from Katlehong.
This is so sad. But we thank God for giving you all so much strength to make it even in this situations. God is faithful and loves is all. Will keep you in our prayers
Hey lovely lady. Its my first time ever on your channel and ive been blessed by this live session. Its healing to know we who experience such things are not alone.. God bless you
The Trauma is now in our DNA. We need to reprogram. Most people are facing narcissistic mother because this world currently belongs to evil forces narcissists included.
@@nette2144 that is true but I made a conscious deci9not to continue the curse. I love my kids no matter what, I hold their hands every step of the way...
Heeey I have never heard of such hurt from your own Mother. But I also blame family members, you can't take up rather protect that child from that mentally sick being.
I’ve listened to these stories and what I’ve concluded is, men need to treat women they impregnate with care, because bitter women are vicious. 😢 How do you hurt your baby as a woman. How do you unleash such cruelty to a person who is 50% you! Also why not give these children to their fathers if you despise them this much and if their still married to the fathers, why not leave. You’re angry, your partner is mistreating you. But now you choose to mistreat the children😢
Our mothers had their own trauma from their relationships with their own parents. As a result they found themselves seeking love and validation from men who were unavailable emotionally, financially etc. Then they fell pregnant hoping that the men will change. Unfortunately, in some cases this didn't happen. Bitterness and anger became a part of their entire existence, as a result of their perceived "betrayal". Hence, the ill treatment of the child. It is difficult to love something that reminds you of something that you despise! On the flip side, because of their own trauma, even if the men were good partners, our mothers were toxic in those relationships, contributing significantly to the breakdown of the relationships. But they never want to acknowledge the wrong they did. Always point a finger at "your father". I always tell my mother that healing starts with acknowledging the truth. You can never heal if you do not want to acknowledge your part in the conflict.
I think we need a platform where both parents that separated tell their children why they separated because you don't know what information the child was given by the parent who lived with the child.
From the age of 10 years when my mom took me from her grandmother's home to his father's I never had peace, till a boyfriend rescued me to vat n sit. I am now stuck in a vat n sit relationship with kids. Feeling loveless and helpless, atlist now i can tell things are so much better than the time I was at a place called home. And I am trying to heal but it's difficult because I think I am in this situation because I was running away from a bullying mother
You have a purpose greater than your mother's love. God used her as a vessel to bring you into this world for His glory. I had to understand this and believe it to live a fulfilled life. I can email you my details.
Hi,I'm Jacobeth ,with same mother issues.i can't even mention it cause I was confused.people will say how can a mom bore you 9months ,keep you and,. you say she hates you.Sho thanks for coming out,it's a taboo even in church,and I wonder why healing doesn't take place.cause people are not open to tell how they conquered.if they manage to get healing.thanks .still test God for permanent healing.
What causes mothers to hate their Kidz is because they compare and create competition amongst their children. This led them to favor some over the rest. And because God is not led by parents attitude or love towards their some of their Kidz, he bless them anyhow. They end up hating them more because they are surprised by God and by who they become. So since they hate themselves and their decisions instead of repenting they fuel the hate. Some are just impatient with their Kidz because of their own status which God does not use when he created man.
It is a vicious cycle, mothers were raised by toxic parents who had probably suffered abuse from their parents too... the cycle never ends and it is vicious, thats why parents are toxic. You can imagine from your workplace how many people can you really vouch for and say they are good people, those people are parents... do you think they are good parents when they are bad people in general ?
As a Pedi person; this tribe has to do BETTER!!. Our men know what love is, ge ba re mma; they are done. But our WOMEN. Tjooo let’s break this generational curse.💔💔💔
Some times we are hated because of the pain our fathers caused I for one am hated cause my father left her while pregnant for another woman she would beat me for asking about me
But what dd I do I sometimes feel so lonely n often tell myself that am an orphan cos this 2 goat they are very much alive but busy with their beloved kids 😭😭😭the only person who loved me is no more my grandmother
This is so sad yoh ngeke. The trauma people experienced and still battling 😢. See the scripture which says God is father to the fatherless hai it’s true because the siblings who are rejected succeed more than their favourites, these mothers don’t realise that they’re also destroying their favourites while in a mission to destroy the children they hate.
Nna, I am unable to comprehend that a mother can compete with their children. However they may be other reasons they are struggling to express their love
Mother once told she doesn't like me, I had to work to be accepted by that woman I am now taking care of for but I haven't healed from those words, parents are toxic Madam Speaker and kids should always be tolerant
How did you get over it. Because I've been doing that but since I can't, I am unable to, it's back to one again. Is it even safe to say she's toxic I feel like I am not honoring my mother. I love her
It's my 1st time here...I'm sorry but i disagree completely with you on this one,Children, teenagers are just something else so please don't even try nd blame this on parents Kid's are on drugs Nd it messes with their mindset So it has nothing to do with hating a child But has everything to do with today's influences nd the environment as well Haai Cc Cc ngeke angivumelani nawe kule
If it has everything to do with today’s influence then why are other kids not like that? Why are other kids whose parents take accountability are not affected by what you’re raising as concerns? Mothers need to stop bleeding on kids , learn from other mothers who have good relationships with their kids on how they do it. You can’t always be a victim as a mother, no ways. Also welcome 🤗 since it’s your first time here ❤️
If a child is 3 years and mother hates and illtreat her, what has that got to do with rebelliousness. Sadly some children are hated from the time they were conceived and born.
