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Mwikali, I wish you had asked her to talk about the red flags she saw and ignored or 'painted over' as she says, before walking down the aisle. Not the bad omens on her wedding day.
OMG! THIS IS MY LONG LOST FRIEND BARBARA!! 😱😱 WHAAAAAT? BARBS, NI MIMI YOUR "BEST BUDDY IN FASHOO.. now in UK" (yes you've guessed right)... Waat? U got married ata sikujua... i need to reach out like juzi... wooi Wajiro!... i love u mama, pole sana! Such things just dont happen to innocent Godly people like u! how??
Truth, I was married to a pastor.... Did he not abuse me, isolated me from my friends and family, it only lasted 3 years but it felt like 300 years of running from one family to another
I ignored the voice saying No on my wedding day too....and lived to regret decades after. I always say animals have an instinct and they don't wait for a second chance to confirm..... they trust their instincts..... we humans ignore the inner voice until it's too late.
To be fair, we are taught to ignore our instincts and rationalize things. If you have children, train them that their instincts are there to serve one purpose: To protect them.
@@rethabilesenoge7736 Did your husband cheat? If yes, you can get a divorce. If no, you can still separate. You will need to plan how to leave that man without making it obvious and getting money for yourself without him knowing. First things first, you need to accept and be at peace with your situation. Mourn for what you have lost- your time, dreams, hope for a good and long marriage etc. Secondly, raise your self esteem. This will remind you that you are valuable as a person. Marriage did not make you valuable. Divorce/separation will not make you less valuable or useless. Thirdly, reassure yourself over and over that you matter; that you are not worthless, you are not hopeless and you are not helpless. You may feel like that but it is not permanent. Feelings are never permanent. Fourthly, check your pride. You may start to feel good and be tempted to start being proud or lush out or behave arrogantly towards him. Do not. That is the easiest way to spoil your plans and to get noticed. Finally, after you have done everything you need to do, leave. When you are at a safe distance, at a safe place, tell him about the divorce or separation. (If he is wealthier than your family or you have a family that will not accept your plans or they will cajole/threaten/guilt trip you to stay married, do not go to your family nor tell them where you are.) PS: During this time, a lot of pain and hurt will be experienced. You may be called selfish, inconsiderate, uncompassionate etc. You may be insulted, told you need to hang in there, given examples of people who were going through what you were going and did not divorce/separate etc. Prepare yourself for these responses from your family, his family and him. Also, manipulation through sit downs and reminiscing the "good times" will be used. You may be guilted about "throwing away the marriage after years of marriage. Do not feel guilty when you are not in the wrong. Do not agree to meet ups with your family *no matter what*. Do not agree to see your mother or aunts or your favorite in law etc. These are grounds for ambush. You may need to change your number. If it is a hostile situation, you may need to change your appearance- how you dress etc.) This will be a long tiring journey but you are worth it!! All the best.
@@rethabilesenoge7736 Oooh dear please relax your minds, people talk but what does God says matters, if you are a Christian please keep your faith to God have hope for better its only God that changes situation, marriage is attacked spiritually not physical so depth calls unto depth Love creates love, hate creates hate, change the way you see things relax your minds in the thoughts of the holy Spirit and a way shall be paved. JESUS CHRIST IS LORD
I can relate to her. My wedding is 99.9% similar to yours. I had all the time to walk out, but ignored all that and ended up in tears for 4 years.....glad its all gone and God is a forgiving God, a God of second chances.
OMG! Now this is kama vindu, what what? My joy is that the lady has made peace with herself. Keep praying my dear your faith is on another level. And.. isn't she pretty y'all?
I had such an experience in my past relationship. The Holy spirit really warned me 😂😂 all the red flags were everywhere. But Mimi ni nani....but God is merciful. He has given me another chance. I am keenly looking out for His direction
Watch out,"redflags" as u commonly refer to opposing interests will always be anywhere u will go unless one gets married to oneself to be completely in sync. Otherwise,u introduce somebody else in ur life, prepare to accommodate and make necessary compromises. But as long as u set urselves as standards against which partners should measure,u r not about to settle!!
Why am I loving her 😩😩😩😩😩😩 I cry and laugh at the same time. each time she gets emotional I 😢😢 and when she bursts the laughter i am 😂😂😂😂😂😂 dead. Love you popote ulipo darls ❤️
But that is the essence of marriage--patience, persistence,accommodation and compromise. U can't paint pictures of women as being flawless beings looking out for "redflags--flaws" in men and expect marriages to work it ways. U should be concentrating on how our mothers have been able to hold their marriages long enough to receive us back from failed marriages execusing ourselves by pretexts of "redflags"!! Too much text book approach than common sense!!
But that is the essence of marriage--patience, persistence,accommodation and compromise. U can't paint pictures of women as being flawless beings looking out for "redflags--flaws" in men and expect marriages to work it ways. U should be concentrating on how our mothers have been able to hold their marriages long enough to receive us back from failed marriages execusing ourselves by pretexts of "redflags"!! Too much text book approach than common sense!!
Marriage,like driving has a lot to do with navigation. So many things to avoid, prevent, accommodate,compromise if it has to work! Lakini nyinyi mnathani ya kwamba it has to be about you--u have introduced a lot of activism into marriage and forgotten what makes marriages work!!
I agree 💯. If you can't stand the Red flags before a relationship......No amount of miracle will make you accept them later or make them change for you
So inspiring n bubbly indeed I just love her fr free please mwikali bring her back we are waiting.😘🤗 N good job mwikali over there u such good listener.
what a story?very educative and an eye opener to many,,she is soo strong ,she is agreat woman ,,bring her back for part two.....waiting...pray for her that may God continue keeping her safe even beyond delivery time,shes blessed
Waa hapo... ninge enda solo honeymoon and enjoy my own company😔😏 but huko ni disaster.. Jameni.... Aki hapana hypocrisy kanisani mingi sana..😭😭😭.Mungu weee praise n worship now... Aki God is angry things happening in churches
So sad, we should learn to stand alone even in the church... Christ should be the only role model to us Christians. He is the only one who searches and knows our hearts
Omg 🙆♀️ why didn't anyone told me to come in with porcorns n enjoy this movie?🤷♀️🤷♀️ Jeez!!!🤦♀️this is a whole 2hrs movie mazee...we want part 2 pls 🙏...🤔😪
Part 2 waiting...... My dear sister never knew the story and every time we meet hug, laugh and am shocked and at the same time thank God because your testimony is speaking.
Guuuuuys please add subtitles for us as well. I love this show(I also just looooove Kenya), but I lose some of the big moments in the conversation because I don't understand what's being said. Pretty please consider it 🙏🏾. Your topics are so interesting I don't want to lose out on anything. Love you😘
This is my story but a bit different. Dealing with a narcissist psychopath is emotionaly and physically draining. I believe someone will see my worth someday
Before someone sees your worth, learn to see it yourself. I have found my worth in Christ. Once you see how valuable you are to the Lord, you are unstoppable. Read Isaiah 54:5 and following.
How have u arrived at describing him as a narcissist or psychopath with just one side as given by the author? U should be knowing that the author related with the said man before the eventual wedding and in the process behaving in a manner that didn't necessitate that narcist tendencies she describes. What could have happened in between there now that u lack the man's side of the story? Don't view ur husband through this cognitive filter if u want to stay married. Work on ur marriage without making urself the standard against which ur partner has to conform. A real marriage material person has no business with unnecessary sensitivity to trivialities. A real one transcends,ignores,accommodates ,makes compromises as they cultivate their marriage. Let anybody here tell us how disappointed they r in seeing their parents in their 60s or 70s still married and aging together before we glorify failed marriages. Childish. Marriage is unity of diverse interest and how well we navigate through not an issue one brings one's sensitivity into. Ohhh ameniambia hivo ,ok inamaanisha... Ohhh amefanya hivi,ok inamaanisha... Kwenda uko. Work on marriages.
@@carolinemwazi5583 U choose marriage to a partner or liberation fights(feminism) and thereby activism against them! Don't confuse the world and mislead millions of people that marriage is impossible. Avoid cascading individual confusion about marriage to the rest of the world. Only confuse urself and individually feel the pain!
Reverend Barbara... My spiritual sister.. powerful woman of God 🙏🏾 you teach me Faith. I always know you to be the strongest... Kweli ulipitia but who is God 🙏🏾
Listening to this story in the background as I work from home in Canada. She is so funny omg, I am dying of laughter and yet the story is so sad. Part 2 please!
I knew this lady Pastor back then she was like the prettiest lady I wish you could all see her not pregnant beautiful gorgeous woman. So sorry that she went through so much. Grateful that she survived. Glory to God that she's about to be blessed with a baby. The God of wonders has done it for her. Incase you are reading comments And are going through a rough time, God is about to shift you. In Jesus name!
I like how she's laughing at herself🤣she's hilarious. We thank God that you left in one piece🙏God is always speaking to them that are sincere in heart and deligently seek Him, but we never listen unfortunately.
So sad that men of the cloth are associated with such brutality. I agree with you that young people should look out for the red flags because underneath the cloth is still a man. Watched both episodes & glad you still have a smile & advocate for marriage even after divorce. I am a Pastor's wife & know firsthand that marriage works when with the right person. God bless you & your ministry
I love this lady the way she is narrating her story and making fun of it💕💕grate sense of humour...... . keep smile coz you are beautiful and I can tell you have a grate heart💗💗
I have experienced instances where I could not look into the eyes of an enraged person. It almost felt like I was looking straight in the eyes of a demon.
That is huge. If you're engaged or dating. Don't paint red flags. DO NOT. So, so true! I have experienced the turn around too - where the people you go to for help gang up with your abuser against you. They are manipulative covert narcissists. At the end of the day, God is your only ally - and good people not fooled by the smart looking, impressive exterior. Indeed God protects and keeps even in the darkest times. Always there for us - even in our not so smart choices.
