Past and present relationships. 

Listening to your thoughts is always interesting!

Yeah so true .... I am always attracted by people who aren't afraid to speak about their flaws with honnesty :) I hate the game of seduction where you have to pretend to be someone you are not

This is one of your best videos, thank you so much for it. I'm 29 now and I have realized very similar things you talked about in this video. I'm also always honest about my feelings and I communicate them openly, I'm not able to play games. I expect the same level of honesty from the other person, but apparently it doesn't work this way. Few times in my life I was attracted to cold, unapproachable men, because there was something mysterious about them. But then I realized that this isn't what I really want. I was asking myself: do I really want to be in a relationship with someone who is cold and pessimistic? Do I really want to keep falling in love with people who are somehow broken and they just take from me? No, I really don't. No matter how attractive they can be to me, I said myself that this is enough. Relationship is always about two people and when there is no warmth only at one side, it's not worth my time.

It's scary how alike we think!

I'm happy being single for years 😊😊😊 I think that we don't choose to love someone..woman or man...Love ( feelings) it's something magical😍It could happen just one's in your life time and will never happen again...🤔 I love meeting people...Friendships mean a lot for me😊 I have lovely friends and lovely knowledges😊

This is one of my favorite videos of yours. I relate on almost every level! Consistent self-reflection (and therapy/counseling) is key for everyone

It's *almost* creepy how I can actually relate to your story and your feelings :p

That is one huuuuge mug!

You should turned into "Relationship Instructor " ha ha 🎃 You may say you are inexperienced, but you elaborated brilliantly.

You're so inspiring, love 💙

I can always relate soooo much to your videos ! Thanks for sharing your thoughts

Je me reconnais tellement dans ce que tu dis c’est même troublant ...

Je me retrouve vraiment dans ce que tu dis ! C’est fou ! Merci pour tes vidéos,tu es une personne incroyable. Je rêverai de compter une personne comme toi dans mes amies. Merci ❤️

You are lovely, and every word you share is engaging and sincere. That is why you have so many fans, including myself. :) My personal thought on relationships is to pursue the one that really moves you, the one that really cares and is sincere from the heart. I have been in my share of relationships, and I enjoy being single as well. But there's nothing like being in love with someone of the opposite sex, in my opinion. It is the most thrilling, inspiring, meaningful thing that can ever happen to a person. I believe that as we find such meaningful love (which for some of us will happen once, as one of your viewers said), it will forever shape our persona, even in terms of our likes and dislikes. Of course, the loss of someone always brings the challenge of knowing when to take emotional risks again. But we grow by every meaningful relationship, especially those which are long lasting and challenging.

Tes argumentations, pensées ou confessions me font toujours prendre du recul Merci 💙

I understand you, and totally agree with! A love relationship is a exchange of love, thoughts, body, lives and a bunch of others things. To be in a love relationship with someone requires more than just ''beauty'' and enjoyable moments, requires something more profound, something that transcend what other kinds of relationship can offer, or differs in a way that can blow your mind.

You are really intelligent. Very interesting! I can relate to many things

Je me retrouve tellement dans tout ce que tu dis ! Expériences et façon de penser, ton cheminement etc Je suis asexuelle aussi et ça me fait toujours beaucoup de bien de t'entendre parler de ta vie, de tes expériences, .. bref, j'adore tes vidéos :) Lucky Me, d'être française et aussi bilingue en anglais, je peux tout regarder de ta chaîne 😋

😊💙🦋 I Loved this Videos Antastesia.. such warmth of heart in it.. I really relate re sexuality etc. I have felt the same like i’d Be ‘jipped’ Or missing out if I was in a long term relationship w a woman. It’s odd. I have let a lot of people especially psychics influence this idea ☺️... but who knows whether it is an intuitive knowing that a longer term partner will happen to be male... but I still love women.. I love loving women... and I love having crushes on women. I love it. So regardless of ‘who’ I am with I want that to be a part of me I let be and express.

I have the EXACT same feeling of internalized biphobia, for some reason when I picture myself in ten years I'm dating a guy, and then I go "oh but it could be a woman or a non-binary person, why would I think 'man'"! Great to know I'm not alone in feeling like this :)

I really don't think everyone is a closet bi. Some people are just not attracted to people from the same sex as them, I can't see the difficulty in that. I personally don't feel attracted to girls, neither in a romantic nor in a sexual way. Never happened, probably never will. No matter how well we get along, I will never feel this attraction in my mind or body. And I don't think I've been shaped by society for that matter anyway. Saying that we are all bisexual sounds just wrong to me. I really don't think that's true: being straight doesn't make of you a narrow-minded person: it's just a fact, why can't you accept that as it is?

Bonjour Antastesia, Je te remercie de cette belle vidéo, qui abord un sujet très intime je trouve. En tant qu'homme du même âge que toi, je me reconnais dans tout ce que tu décris, la peur du rejet, le fait d'avoir une mauvaise image de soi, d'être entier mais d'avoir peur de ses sentiments...Et surtout, comme toi, je n'envisage pas d'être avec quelqu'un pour qui je n'aurai pas de sentiments forts. Pour ma part, la psychanalyse m'a beaucoup aidé à travailler sur moi.

I feel same like you. I can say your personal experience is 99% same like me. My confidence level is down and very low. People can think many stories, but it's hard to express my emotion. Cause I struggle to find someone to understand my emotion. Me & family has some depressing experience in relation, which I am still struggling. I fight everyday with certain things, which cant be fixed in my life. But I am always trying to overcome to that. I also feel same about love in early life. But I am more independent & bold now. I seek someone who I can express my every feelings, without any stress. Someone who I can share my every secretes & feel relaxed. I think everyone has their story and perception for love. It's all build up with the real situation in family & surrounding. I never been attracted to money, but yeah I was interested in many, but never had courage to express it. But today I am bold to connect , very open my feeling. I no more like a girl cause of beauty. Definitely physical appearance matter, everyone attracts first to them who looks good and dress well. Still I believe same, I can't say if you will remain plain & messy people going to love you. Not very good, but well groomed is essential. I dont know how to explain. Maybe it's time & our own story that makes us look love in different way. Some look love in beauty and some looks love in how they express to other.

Its been a while since I've thought about the topic personally but I relate to everything you've expressed and due to childhood experiences I don't think I have effectively allowed myself to be attracted to anyone, I don't find I like anyone till they are at least allowing of the people around them to freely express themselves, people who don't feel the need to conform or for anyone else to. People who have a kindness towards every hardship. That's my baseline but people I like the most and would enter relationships with would be those who make me 'more' myself than I am on my own, people who enjoy being around me when I'm entirely open, expressive, dancing around being silly, joking, having a deep conversation, reflective, introspective, emotional and personal ones and so on. I much prefer to talk everything through than not. And at the same time, I hope I can allow someone to be themselves entirely, even in ways they may have forgotten, encouraging of who they choose and want to be.

oooooooh i got the same mug !! every other mug feels so small in my hand now

Hi ! First, i'm sorry for my english. Then, thank you sooooooooo much for this video, it brought me very much I think (even thought I'll really see it later). And, I'd like to share my own experience if anyone finds it interessant 😉 i'm in a romantic relationship since 1y9m (whatever) and... you tell that you think people would more be attracted to you and that it's better to everyone if you're really "yourself" and I agree. But I have to say, even if that is so sad, that I am every day more natural since i'm in this relation ! As you do, I'm really afraid for people to "refuse" me in their groups or friendship (if I right understood what you told, I can't find the worlds to explain what I mean in english), and I do struggle with... but we have to be natural ! I know that... and that so difficult I mean 😅

When I started identifying myself as bi, I also used to picture my future self with a girl more than with a boy because it felt indeed more "real", more "natural"

Hi emy, sometimes I feel the same as you, when I meet someone who has a lot of things that I consider interesting, I star imagine myself with that person but never willing to take the risk to make the first move, I just admire the way he is and that's it, I sure It's because I'm not totally confortable with the idea to share personal things to someone, or because I'm no ready enough hahah also you said a keyword "family" I have bad realationships experiences that involve family so.. this is a stronge factor. Everyone wants to find someone to feel confortable with, as easy as that, and I have never felt bisexual, obviously that I find some girls atractive but I have never imagined myself with a girl in a serious relationship, it just too weird lol

J'ai compris la majeure partie de la vidéo mais ce serait super si tu pouvais aussi en faire une qui traite du même sujet en français !!! stpppppp ^^Bisous

You know how weird it can be to listen from someone else your own exact thoughts? Well, that's what happened to me with your video. I can't believe it. Your whole relationship thought process is the exact one I went through. And it's funny cuz we're probably about the same age too ('91?).

Sorry for about my mistakes!!! English is not my native language 🙄

Stop le lipton c’est bourré de pesticides :(

I don't know how to comment about your speech, I wish if i can talk like that without being afraid from the comments of people just because i share my feeling and ideas and experiences. - Zikoniss.

I have been wondering what your age is?

Hey Amy! Thank you for this video, it was very helpful for me. Not cause it was something new, but it made me think about this matter again and gave some new inspiration. I totally understand you and can relate. I've done some work (and still doing) about that too, and I agree that to some extend it can be changed. About the bi thing though: I think I understand you on this matter too, I've thought about that myself and there were even times when I was thinking that I could have relationships with any gender maybe, but that was at the times when I was feeling rather asexual (in my personal case - cause of some trauma, it seems). Now that I discovered that I'm, in fact, very sexual, I discovered at the same time that sexually I'm totally straight, and also that sexual attraction is very important for me when it comes to really romantic relationship (even though I might feel quite close to romantic without having sexual attraction - I mean, I could feel love, but it would not be enough for smth "more than friendship" as people put it (which is probably not the best way to put it). And I definitely don't find it sad, to be clear, I find it rather interesting and it felt very freeing to notice it and admit it, as a fact about my actual feelings, not the society, you know? I'm saying that cause I thought it might be interesting for you cause it differs from your experience. I have to say that I think now, based on my experience, that even though I agree on sex being overpromoted which harms people very often (I was a victim of that myself), but it can still be a very positive and natural thing itself, and powerful in a good way, IF it is natural for you and not pushed by the society.

To me the word love really means nothing because people have a box they call love and if you don't fit into it they are not loved by this person. Also the loving yourself before someone else to me just means I don't expect anyone to change for me so I'm not changing for them, if I love them done, its done, they don't have to change, we just grow, that's life, we grow and learn, everyone is a work in progress and fucked up and if we were to meet our "hero's" we would all see that, the illusion would be gone. Authenticity is the most attractive to me. When I do get In a relationship, I tell them I'm an evolve addict, what does that mean? I get rid of addictions and feel emotions and get rid of beliefs that aren't mine, but societies and get myself out of these boxes that other people project onto me based on my gender and race, I'm like I'm going to express fully and see what happens and when they say I love you I'm like that's why I hate the word, they say I love you and I smile inside and go lets see if you know what that means, everyone is loved already, not even a question, so me being me is on purpose, whatever I trigger in you will happen just being around me, and I'm not changing anytime soon because this is what I value. We learn from other people too not just our own experiences and what I see in this current version of relationships, yeah I don't want that. I'm naturally free and can't be manipulated by "love" or what people call love, I'm like I know what it feels like, and I know what the word sounds like, 2 different meanings. I also love being corrected, because I am an evolve addict, I like updating what I currently know all the time and don't get attached to concepts, I'm like break my illusions, feel the emotions lets go!, my dad is a compulsive liar so that's what that creates lol. And I listen to my heart(soul) as cheesy and dumb as that is, it's my compass.

sounds like Avoidant Personality ~~Disorder~~

I have seriously dated just 2 people not in a relationship but face to face dating the dating period lasted from 3 to 7 months. Beside that and casually going on 1 or 2 dates with a few people I have been single. I have also been questioning so many things, why I cant be in an intimate relationship with someone ? Well im 27 this year and heres what I havr concluded thus far: Im an asexual my mom was an asexual my sister is an sexual lol,, so I come from a generation of asexuals but I know I am attracted to guys not girls I sometimes find butch lesbians attractive just because they look manly but I dont want to know that they have boobs underneath their flat chest.. thats not attractive for me. I also have struggled with low self esteem for years thanks high school bullies and family upbringing and my parents have been really strict. All of this resulted low self esteem and rigid/timid me. So when I had the chance to ho abroad at 17 although I wanted to experience having a boyfriend I was mentally closed myself off from really opening up to another human being. Yes i was closed off thats the right word. And since I was closed off no matter how many times I tell myself I want a boyfriend I naturally attracted people who wants moment of pleasure or who were also just as lost and confused as I was. You see the alike attracts the alike. It took me years and years to finally figure it out. Now at 27 I am comfortable with myself and my body (body image i think also plays a crucial role ) I dont necessarily want a boyfriend now but if and when the right guy comes in to my life I will be able to recognize him and im not going to be closed off like i used to.

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Emy! great video! Please talk about the importance of recycling and the need to buy and use less plastic and waste...

Comme je te comprends... aujourd'hui, maintenant que je me comprends.

Hi Antastesia, I'm ace and panromantic and I wondered if you can relate to this: When I first started taking my attractions to girls seriously, I also started questioning whether I was maybe aromantic, because up to then I'd been assuming that if what I was feeling was gendered, it couldn't be platonic. But when I accepted that I could feel the same for girls as I could for boys, how could I know if it was romantic attraction at all? I've since figured out that I am in fact ace and pan, but it was an interesting phase. I went from identifying as heteroromantic to doubting between panromantic and aromantic, which instinctively seem like opposites.

Merci pour ta sincérité Emy.

Regarding what you said about "everyone's bi", I thought the same thing when I was a kid, and I still think like that in a way :) I feel like, as humans, we're highly responsive to social conditioning, which nowadays in most societies means heterosexuality, monogamy, etc. And I feel like that's what's responsible for "most" people identifying as heterosexual without even examining their feelings. I think a lot of factors play into our attractions: psychological, sociological, biological, and on a spectrum of heterosexual homosexual there are definitely some people who are at the extremes of this line, but most people probably stand somewhere in the middle, like the bell curve (or normal distribution). I hope that made sense :) Thank you for always starting these interesting discussions and sharing your experiences!

God will never abandon you and will always love you. Best of it all, He is always there to listen.

Ça à été super dérangeant comme vidéo pour moi... sûrement parce que ça remet en question beaucoup de chose que je croyais acquise et naturel.

If I m lucky I will meet u in Paris - the romantic city

Miss ya haven't seen you in awhile. I think sometimes you think too much. Haha. It's adorable though & well worth the thought. For me, I'll just believe in love@ first sight. Lol

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