I was an army kid who had a lot of friends move away and losing contact is so easy, even with a landline. It literally could have been as easy as Said forgot to call once or twice and the school only allows calls at a certain time after classes let out and Tiwa couldn't call the school phones bc the phone number leads to the school office or something. Phones aren't always the solution to distance after all!
I love 10 Things I Hate About You, but I'm very confused why they went with that for the movie poster inspiration instead of - you know - Four Weddings and a Funeral.
Not totally specific to the video, but: The same way we shouldn’t write off poorly written children’s books as being “fine bc they’re for kids”, we have to stop accepting shitty and non-thought out stories just bc they’re romance or a less dramatic genre.
This is why I stopped learning to write a novel by reading other novels. Conflicts with consequences matter. Characters can't grow when the author holds their hand through the plot. Also, 10/10 Chekhov's Gun mention
Adiba‘s books are so celebrated in the queer reading space and I kinda got every book she ever wrote on my wishlists. And I didn’t even know this was part of her books too. I can’t 😂. I will read it to form my own opinion and I will get her other works soon too. ( a little bit also just to spite this horrible people)
I feel like a good chunk of people are ignoring the fact that one of the authors identifies as a queer Muslim 😭 People are allowed to think this book is icky for its Muslim representation but its made by a muslim soo I hate the policing of how one must pratice their belief but anyways the book itself sounds a bit lackluster other than this controversy
It's hilarious that someone would complain about this book having lesbians in it when the movie the title is parodying (4 Weddings and a funeral) has a gay couple!
@@jostinaluverdifferent people believe different things within any given religion. Considering the book was written by Muslims, I think we should be able to see that. Besides, religion isn’t an excuse for bigotry. Religious rights should be protected and respected, and so too should the rights and existence of gay people, including gay religious people
Like you said you're not Muslim so you can't speak on it. Dating in general is Haram in some Islam practices. Not saying it's correct but that would be something interesting for these authors to have a discussion about in their stories.
Yeah, like she's defending a concept she has openly said she's not knowledgeable on within this very video and criticizing actual Muslim readers for picking out flaws that they themselves see in the books that she simply can't see because she's not looking at things the same way they are
Respectfully, as a non-muslim, you really have no right to tell muslims that they are wrong for considering homosexuality a sin and bad representation of their religion. In their religion, homosexuality is considered a sin. So if they read a book looking for good representation for Muslims and come across a gay person, then it's perfectly reasonable for them to list that as a con in a review. It's pretty clear with an Islam and the Quran that homosexuality is a sin, so whether the authors are Muslim as they say or not, they are objectively incorrect to portray homosexuality in an Islamic lens as perfectly fine and acceptable. Muslims are allowed to get upset when they feel that their religion is being misrepresented, and I think it's not really your place to criticize them or that as an outsider of the religion looking in.
People can and are both gay and Muslim. Muslims aren’t a monolith. Shockingly there is incredible diversity of both identity and thought among the followers of one of the largest religions in the world. Not to mention, religion isn’t a valid excuse for bigotry. Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia and more have all had people use religious arguments to prop up, but that doesn’t make it right. And it’s not very kind towards religion to tie bigotry to it in such a way
@@arcane9205okay. And gay people are going to exist whether it’s haram or not. Why can’t a gay Muslim write about gay people? It’s haram, sure whatever. But suddenly things that are considered “bad” (to some) can’t be written about? If literature were to be policed by that mindset? The censorship would be insane. This is a fictional book. Being a gay Muslim in, what you’re clearly describing, a largely unaccepting community is hard. Let them have some romantic escapism. If the book isn’t for you, then it’s not for you. It’s not fair to be so harsh on it because you personally disagree with beliefs.
I usually like your reviews, but this is not it. You can't erase valid muslim criticism, especially when you aren't muslim. You wouldn't do it to poc, so why can you do it to religious people? Some poc might find something (trope, book, etc.) racist while others would find it fine. The same goes for religious people who are being represented. That shouldn't diminish their experience. In regards to the books that include Muslims, they always erase what makes muslim people muslim. There are many tropes that could include muslims without it being haram (not persmiable), such as the marriage of convenience, arranged marriage trope, etc. And yet authors NEVER include those. That leads me to believe they are writing books with Muslims to sell and prove a point*, not to make good muslim representation. *Islam goes against many of Western values, and that doesn't make it "wrong." Authors should stop trying to force Western values upon their muslim characters to say, "muslims aren't terrorists. They like to date, see!"
@asdfghjklasdfghjkl321 Did you even read what I wrote? I talked about the TROPES used, which include kissing before marriage (haram in Islam). People are allowed to write whatever reviews they want, and the fact that you're so quick to label it as "homophobia" shows me that you lack the nuance needed to hold this conversation.
@@asdfghjklasdfghjkl321 💯 agree! I hate it when some people defend blatant homophobia, racism, sexism, etc. with “well there’s clearly just a cultural difference” rather than accept the reality that one’s culture can be beautiful and celebrated but isn’t exempt from criticism when there are very real issues within said culture. Speaking on my own experience, I love my Filipino roots but I can’t just ignore the sexism and ignorance regarding mental health (and consent) within my community, that deserves criticism.
Meanwhile queer muslims are still existing, thriving, dating and living their lives. And queer muslim authors have every right to write fiction with queer muslim characters. You don’t get to tell them that they shouldn’t write about this and that. The target audience is of course not holier than thou muslims. Different types of muslims exist and that doesn’t get changed no matter how much you try to deny that.