For most of us who actually do have a heart and a soul, losing our mother is one of the most difficult experiences in our lives. How someone could harm their own family is incomprehensible to me.
Yeah, this loser seems to have just done it totally to make his escape attempt more likely to succeed. She was the one who raised the money for bailing him out. Goddamn.
I wasn't particularly fond if my mom but it's unimaginable to ever think of doing anything like what this guy did. Today, I think a lot of people are on the verge of losing everything and what happened here will become less uncommon because of desperation. It's horrible and I wish more seniors would get their lives in better order for their own protection. She had a lot of house to take care of.
If his mother was evil and abusive to him, I could understand his hatred. But she was good. Too good. He himself said so. So HE was the evil one. He is a sociopath. That's why he killed her.
I don't have the best relationship with my mother to say the least but I can't even imagine doing something so heinous with a dumbbell and a knife... let alone if she was so supportive she was cooking me a meal before going to prison... extremely disturbing and sad
This guy was something else on the stand. As an attorney in my first career, with a lawyer stepfather, and lawyer family friends, I've always been intrigued when lawyers go off the beaten path. But usually, it's financial misdealings or getting into trouble to due substance abuse. This guy killed his mother. It's hard to come back from that one.
When my ex husband was declaring bankruptcy, he used an attorney/friend of his who was addicted to cocaine and frequently came to court disheveled and unprepared. One his court date, the attorney was late to court. When my ex asked the judge to wait a few more minutes, the judge said “who is your attorney??” As soon as he said the name, the judge twisted his face and answered “No.”
so weird. he had a beautiful wife, a nice home, made good money, but was keen to throw it all away... most people would, uh--kill--to have that kinda life.
He betrayed everyone who trusted him. His clients were swindled out of money that was awarded to them. He risked his freedom and left his wife alone to raise their children. Someone who is capable of these things is evil and his poor mother paid the ultimate price.
It's astonishing what this man thought other people would believe. It's like the clumsy lies of a child. Makes me wonder how he was a successful attorney.
The roasts on this channel are unmatched. "He was found guilty after the jury deliberated for 90 minutes. It's not clear what they were doing for 89 of those minutes." Lmao oh Dr Grande, you G.
The episode of American Monster on Richard Merritt is eye opening. Between the childhood videos of him and his brother's stories about Richard throughout his life it is evident that he was bad news from a very young age.
If onle they could see the future,I'm sure that military dad of his would have drowned his eveel behind back in his younger years. He the deveel's first son
89 minutes is just about right for catering to bring in a sandwich and soda pop for lunch, a bathroom break for everyone, and then one minute to for everyone to say, "Guilty". I actually recognize this guy from a private school where I used to work in Georgia...very sorry to hear about his mother who I actually met once.
This one has made me so angry. My own mum is also seventy-seven and I would sacrifice everything in my life to keep her safe. His mother had been the only one he could turn to after he threw everything away and he repaid her like this. His brother must hate him so much.
I have a relative who is a lawyer. He stole over $300k of client money and fled the country. Thing is he also had a long history of "borrowing" thousands of dollars from family and never repaying it. They all just forgave his debts hoping he would build a successful law practice and become financially independent. He had many good qualities, but for some reason he just couldn't understand that he was burning all his bridges. When he started the law practice he was living very frugally. If he had continued to do that I believe he would have suceeded. But he started living off client money and then tried to get a loan to cover the difference but was denied due to bad credit. He dug a hole and couldn't get out so he just bought a plane ticket and left everything behind.
@@citacita7889 Yes. You are correct, but two things can be true at one time. People fall in love, get married, and/or have children for numerous reasons. Many times people mistake lust (i.e., Greek word έρωτας, meaning love, eros, cupid) et al. for love. A parent can also love a child to death "in the name of love" by simply giving in to all of his or her demands for numerous reasons unrelated to love (e.g., single, divorced, working, career, or widowed parent being much too busy at work or with romance to spend quality play time [See the foundation of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and Mildren Parten's Stages of Play-Learning Model], guilt, trying to balance out rejection or a lack of attention from a physically absent and/or an absent-minded parent, etc.).
I'm a half orphan, sitting with my speechless mother while we are watching your wonderful educational analysis together right now, dear Dr Grande and I'm really touched by this 😫, and I don't get why people kxll their family members just for fun... I'm sooo happy for his ex-wife to see his red flags earlier to save herself and the children❣️ This case is an example of why divorce sometimes makes sense even with kids❣️💯 And rest in peace, angel Shirley❣️😇♥️
@@danae-rain3019 Depends which country you are living in. I am from Germany, we are having the term, when you are a kid and one parent died, you even receive then money from the government for being half orphan
Dr Grande, have you ever analyzed the case of my medical school classmate Dr John Hamilton, who murdered his wife on Valentine’s Day, 2001? Place was Oklahoma City. He’s serving life in prison.
@qd63991 I like how the first thing you say is "have you done a episode on my classmate......" As if anyone cares that a murderer that was caught was your classmate, like that is the main thing, and the murder case is just "ahh wudever, but hey who was that serial killer's classmate tho????" I bet a lot of people have told you that you are a narcissist eh?
What’s wild to me is that Richard could’ve have just got his head down done the 15 and that would have been that. He would have faired very well In prison too by helping other inmates with legal advice and passing his time with that which would have also gained him some positive friendships in prison iif he was helping them out with his legal knowledge. It wasn’t like he was going in for doing crimes towards children or women. And his mum would’ve definitely stood by him, visiting him regularly and topping up his canteen. But no , he thought murdering his poor mother was the way to go and look where it got him.
@@stfuplsok I'm wondering about the time that he was living with his brother as a teenager ,and not his parents, due to no high school courses in Saudi Arabia. A great deal of tuff love happens during that time. Lots of correction that he might have missed?
@@stfuplsok My assertion is, his parents, were not in the home actively raising their child during his teenage years. These are years of a considerable amount of correction for most teenagers. 🚩
Richard’s mother looks like the epitome of a graceful, classy and loving woman. My mother died when I was 8 years old. At 61 I still miss her greatly and think of her often. How could he do that?
Hello Dr. Grande…how sad for Richard’s mother. I’m sure she didn’t think her son was capable of how she died. Thank you Dr. Grande. I hope it is warm where you live. Denver’s high today -1 degrees!! ❤️🌵💕from Jean.
I theorize that he denied all wrongdoing to his mother and conned her into paying his $40,000 bond! Then when he pled guilty she called him on it and possibly even told him she was disappointed or disgusted by him! Could have been enough to make him snap? Or he told her he wasn’t going to prison and asked her for more money when she refused he snapped? My guess is it’s one of those two scenarios!
I think those are quite likely scenarios. If individuals do not have personal insight into their internal strengths and weaknesses and their external opportunities and threats, they will be ill-prepared to become spouses and/or parents whose relationships are aligned in mutually shared directional strategies (i.e., values>mission>vision) for themselves and/or their families. So, whether it is at the personal or professional level, in the chain of top-down command, control, and custody and bottom-up feedback, strong interpersonal links must be forged early in the process of communications, cooperation, collaboration, coordination, correction, commitment, and compromise through play-learning (See Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and Mildred Parten's Stages of Play). In the stream of my consciousness of yesteryear, all of this is what I used to call common sense in thought, word, and deed. As the results of this case seem to indicate, a parent who does not do the hard work up-front to civilize his or her children during early childhood cognitive-emotional development from birth on in order to make them good citizens in society later, should not be surprised when their children, whose heart-minds they actually do not know, ultimately turn on them as adults (Matthew 7:21-23). RIP Shirley.
These are good theories. I was just now wondering if he was supposed to inherit money from her. What kind of motivation would drive somebody to do something this insane? Not that the money would even be enough. The scariest part is, there are people out there who do this with absolutely zero motivation
"Not clear for what they were doing for 89 of those minutes." Oh, Dr. Grandee! Your dry wit is phenomenal. It offsets these thoroughly detailed but so often grim tales of bad decisions. Grim but oh so enjoyed. Thanks again.
I bet he used the last name Malvo because he watched the TV series Fargo. There was a killer named Lorne Malvo in season 1 played by Billy Bob Thornton.
Another ridiculous intruder story; this should be banned in court 🙄What a monster to kill his poor mother so brutally. Agree with your analysis & points. Thanks Dr G😊💛💛
@@momof1576 Of course there are "mom" but you do realize they're RARE and wastes everyone's time investigating. It's like saying you got kidnapped by 👾 🤖👽.
People look askance when I tell them that most of the lawyers I know are a month away from bankruptcy at all times. They do okay until they start making good money. Then they expand their lifestyle such that they struggle to keep up. Some years ago a lawyer Buddy asked me what it meant that I drove a 15 year old Ford Taurus. I told him I wasn’t trying to make a statement but it probably means that I had a lot more money than he did. (He drove a Mercedes.) Incidentally he’s dead now. Started getting investigated and got on meth pretty bad. He committed suicide when he learned that he had a federal indictment for dealing meth. Don’t envy these people. You have no idea what their true situation is.
When bashed over the head a hundred times a day and swept up in the roaring cataracts of Trump and Gaza and Ukraine and Trump again and again and again, there is nothing more restful than a Dr. Grande video. The repetitions within are like the chorus of a song (always so satisfying when we get to the lyrics we know!), made by his restful voice and rhythmic delivery into a lullaby. How curious that the gruesome and outrageous subject matter sprinkled with his straight faced humor only serves to keep us fascinated, like children by a bedtime story…but made that much more enthralling by the fact that it’s nonfiction.true, real, maybe next door!
I would not recommend horror stories to children, no matter how well-delivered. I believe that Dr. Grande's videos should be age-appropriate for an adults-only audience of viewers.
Wow! Absolutely Crazy! The guy is a classic narcissist- why though? He is his own god, no moral compass, the deceiver - a demon for sure. So sad for all those who loved him. Chameleons are so difficult to detect and protect oneself from. My ex “Richard” is just as evil but much more skilled, he goes after the mind not the body,,, the sadistic slow kill gives some a bigger thrill - but in the matrix those pansies will be pushing up daisies from hell,,, and so I pray. 🙏 Thank you Doc - great insight and warning! Mothers teach your children LOVE LOVE LOVE not only of self but for others❤❤❤
Hi Dr. Grande. Richard was a complete psychosocionarc, just saying, it certainly was obvious by his actions. I hope he rots in hell, & Prison is too light of sentence for an uncaring creep like him. Thanks for another interesting video, peace to you & Mrs. G, love yall 👦 guys & 🪆 dolls , Janine Smiley☕️🍩☕️🍩☕️🎂💞
I used to work for this lady who grew up as a military brat she probably moved two dozen times during her school aged years she said she basically reinvented her whole personality every time she moved
It is my opinion, that in a case of external, not an internal, locus of control, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), such as a household economic hardship and instability, may lead to lack of attachment, lack of a strong sense of self, and increased psychological mirroring in order to fit in to a series of social milieux.
@@sparkplugpeggy4910 It is not uncommon to pick up on other people's mannerisms in psychological mirroring. It is done in sales all of the time. There is nothing odd about it. Trying to fit into a new school's cliques as a teenager, if you are unsure of yourself, is normal. Personality, however, is fixed by the time a child enters first or second grade.
As a former military brat, I can understand where she's coming from. Every new school has it's own personality and you have to do what you have to do to make friends and fit in. Some kids do it better than others but it's always a challenge.
It never ceases to amaze me just how easy it is for women to fall for criminal sociopaths. By this point, he probably has a relationship with some desperate woman who believed his innocence and wrote him a lettee 😂
It boils down to biology in the interplay between sex hormones (i.e., androgens, estrogens, and progestogens). Androgens are steroid hormones, such as testosterone, which are synthesized in the testes, ovaries, and adrenal glands that are responsible for the sex drive in both males and females in the development, differentiation, and maintenance of male primary-secondary male characteristics. Estrogens are steroid hormones that are responsible for the need to nurture in the female reproductive system and secondary sexual characteristics, although they have important physiological roles in males. Estrogens are synthesized in all vertebrates and some insects. So, while estrogen levels circulate at lower levels than androgens, estrogen levels are higher in women than in men. Progestogens are steroid hormones responsible for maintaining pregnancy and are present at other phases of the estrous and menstrual cycles. Thus, cognitive-emotional development is an interrelated process. It may be that criminal sociopaths prey on the feelings of women with high estrogen levels who were raised in households headed by psychopathic fathers and co-dependent mothers.
@@M-qw9ru While it is true that Oxford Languages defines criminality as "behavior that is contrary to or forbidden by criminal law," the precursors to criminality are wrong words and evil thoughts. His wife/girlfriend may intuitively have already known that there was something "off" about him.
I suspect the prosecutor knew it was a slam-dunk. Why waste huge energy on an unnecessary closing argument? My dad's a lawyer, and I'm not making this up: he knew a lawyer once who'd suffered a brain injury that then enabled him to see people's auras. So this other lawyer was in court one day and he could tell that the jury was going to find in his client's favor. It was overwhelmingly obvious to him because of his bizarre gift. So for his closing argument, he stood up and said, "Please find for my client. Thank you," and sat back down. It was outrageous because it could've given his client the obvious right to cite malpractice! But after a brief deliberation, the jury did indeed find for his client! Hey, whatever works! :o
I would love to hear your analysis on the Girardi case! Very similar circumstances surrounding the theft from clients, Tom Girardi just didn’t kill anybody
I would love to hear Dr. Grandes take on it. He’s been found competent so he can’t hide from these charges anymore. His wife is a peace of work too. She’s living it up with stolen money
Thank you Dr. Grande for your analysis on this case, always appreciate how your well researched and presented your videos are and like the accompanying dry humor. Long time follower, thank you for all you do.
I was at rogers state prison with this individual in 2022. I got there in March 2022 and left December 2022. They call him "Irish" in prison. This man gave me personal legal advice. He was in building F dorm 2 and I was in building F dorm 4. This was a very intriguing man to begin with but you could tell He was a arrogant know it all. He worked in the kitchen and was the kitchen lady's assistant. He handled paperwork and what not. one day one of the kitchen stewards told me while I was working (I was a baker in the kitchen), "you know Irish is a sick bustard right?" I was appalled. I replied, "what do you mean?" She then told me how he was being investigated for murdering his mother and I didn't believe it. I made it to washington state prison and in November 2023 sure enough. I seen his case on the news. I just got out and looked into this immediately. You never know who you are next to truly. Never put anything past anyone...
How could a lawyer be dumb enough to steal 400,000 dollars and think that nothing was going to happen to him? He's a lawyer. He knows what happens to people who break the law like this. They go to prison and lose everything. Crime doesn't pay but a job being a lawyer does. He and his wife had money. Why steal it? It makes no sense to me. But he did need 3 chances to pass the BAR so maybe it will makes sense now.
Excellent vid as usual ! Love the closing remarks as words of caution. Reminds me of a saying "show me a liar and I'll show you a thief" but well I have heard it extended also to "show me a thief, will show you a murderer" ... anyway wow particularly true here 😮. I reckon it will save a lot of trouble in one's life to heed this warning.
Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande! Your true fans love your humour and sarcasm. January 15 is National Bagel Day, National Strawberry Ice Cream Day, Wikipedia Day, the Procrastinator's New Year, the Feast of the Ass, Humanitarian Day, and National Fresh Squeezed Juice Day.
Hard to figure out why he killed her so brutally. If he did this just so she wouldn’t call the police, why so much anger and brutality? Just doesn’t make sense other then he was a complete psychopath.
In the last moments, he must have thought how dumb is it, that his victimized/abused mother was now cooking his last meal, before prison. Methinks, it felt like a slap in the face, as he was 'siphoning' from this senior citizen, and now she's 'sending him off' with a mother's home cooked meal.
Well, that took an unexpected turn; Richard's selfishness knew no bounds. Thanks, as always, Dr. Grande, for yet another interesting video to accompany my morning coffee.
Danke. Ihre Aussprache war klar u gut verständlich, sodass ich als jemand, der nicht gut Englisch kann, es trotzdem verstehen konnte. Ein wirklich tragischer Fall. Wie wird man zum Hedonisten? War es am Ende die Erziehung der Mutter selbst?