One thing I have learnt in 22 years of my life is... Stop taking permissions for everything... After a certain age we have brains enough to think and analyse stuff through our own heads... Think something out well... Make a list of pros and cons and just do... Maybe it doesn't go well and things turn upside down... But thats what experience is... You will learn!
@@cam0987 my technique for dealing with shouting is giving logical replies in a composed manner... You need to have a strong gut and take the shouting... If it becomes unbearable leave the room and stay inside your room for a few hours. Trust me first they'll say, " badtameez hai" later they'll accept it and understand when their heads cool down. Afterall all they want is your well-being only!
@@cam0987 also make this point very clear that you thought it out well... and you are up for constructive suggestions but are no more asking for permissions. Also trust me parents can give wonderful suggestions, if they believe in you! If they think something is not good then ask the reason, maybe you'll get a different perspective which you didn't thought about. But if they can't provide a legit reason, then you need to make your own call!
You have mentioned me to a T. I left home around 18, I Just turned 28 last month. After living 10 years away from my parents and seeing enough of the world all I want to do is live with them again. I feel much more confident to run the family.
@@Highdrough It is stupid to move out so young though. Renting your own place is just immolation of your own capital. You won't get anywhere in life without money. Move out only when you have a mortgage and emergency fund OR if you're getting married / starting a family. Unless this criteria is met, there is ZERO other good reasons to leave.
Absolutely spot on Varun. Moving out of home for a few years has changed my life. No pampering, listening to different perspectives from people at hostel, growing as a person, breaking boundaries (in a positive way), taking decisions yourself. Your video aptly sums up my experience of moving out of home.
From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru. More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges. Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic. So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct. Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way. One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things. Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life. The others who showed restrain are doing better. This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low. Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things. In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life. For everything you gain, you loose something. Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical. I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing. Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right. The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite
I will turn 20 years day after tomorrow and I always wanted to leave my house, live alone and independent. But, my parents are really strict and they are seeing me like a little child who didn't even take own decisions. After highschool, I wrote top entrance exams for study somewhere else and explore new places and cultures. But, my parents didn't allowed me. Now, I graduated and taking a drop year to improve my skills and trying to financially independent, and preparing for pg entrance exams for study away from home.
22 this side! An eye opening video for me! Till 4 months ago ( before my result came and couldnt clear ) i was okay, But now, its different! Not tired of them but tired of not doing enough for them! But now for about 1 month, i am open to work from anywhere, anytime for them and for me too! ❤️ Lots of things to say but thank you 🙏
You don't have to listen to any xyz chadda who had a laptop in his basement and now claiming himself to be a "startup owner" and running behind money like all those rats do .. I'm 25 now , i left my home when I was 20 , I worked as a chef... For chefs the pay is like shit .. got paid 12k to live in Mumbai and got some pocket money from my parents to survive there, then went to Bangalore and after that went to Hyderabad .. learnt a few languages .. seen a lot and now I'm already fed up with the greedy ass society . Do things your way , stay home if you have to .... One way or the other you gotta leave home sometime and if you don't have to consider yourselves lucky and juz explore whole india and even around the world if could as a part of a vacation . Go live somewhere for a month for a finite amount of money and come back ... This comfort zone bullshit and hustle culture has to go!.
I am doing CA and i have to study around 10 hours .If I started living alone it would be literal hell and now after ca inter my articleship will also start 🙂. I wonder why people get influenced under such people. Everybody has their own life and have to deal with something. Instead of just labeling your opinion right he should have atleast tried to understand the 19 years age old generation. And i feel no regret that i left my home under influence of somebody. The person reading this if you are planning to leave your home just by listening to someone then please ask yourself is this what you want. You will get your answer soon.
Very true, during my college years I did see a lot of CA students, they would literally stay in the library all day, for someone doing that intense work even saving those 2-3 hours counts a lot. But there are not many people acknowledging these facts of life, I see most commentors are reminising nostalgically. Other are thinking he is some kind of authority on the subject and being all yes sir, yes sir. People should learn the fact that making a video on YT is mostly a matter of views, if a certain topic is trending or some other bigtime youtuber makes videos on a topic, everyone else just follows, they make videos around the same topic as soon as they can to capitalise on the views. And hence their videos are a result of less to no research. In most cases the video are like reading an article you will find on Google's first page, just add in an incorrect fact from ancient India and there is your receipe for new video. What a waste of humanity's time.
Exactly!.. You don't have to listen to any xyz chadda who had a laptop in his basement and now claiming himself to be a "startup owner" and running behind money like all those rats do .. I'm 25 now , i left my home when I was 20 , I worked as a chef... For chefs the pay is like shit .. got paid 12k to live in Mumbai and got some pocket money from my parents to survive there, then went to Bangalore and after that went to Hyderabad .. learnt a few languages .. seen a lot and now I'm already fed up with the greedy ass society . Do things your way , stay home if you have to .... One way or the other you gotta leave home sometime and if you don't have to consider yourselves lucky and juz explore whole india and even around the world if could as a part of a vacation . Go live somewhere for a month for a finite amount of money and come back ... This comfort zone bullshit and hustle culture has to go!.
bro, I'm a final student, just completed group 1, this video applies to us as well, moving out will help u in managing time, u have to do chores and study too, and if you wantt to do articleship in a good city, u would have to move out, assuming u dont live in metro cities
I was literally soo nervous about leaving home and goin to college this year.... Like living alone with no common guardian there... But this video truly puts my thoughts into perspective... I'll just focus on building skills all 4 years... Gonna try to make the most out of these years
I'm in 10th grade rn and going to move out next month for entrance exam preparation. I'm an introvert still I'm excited to face the challenges life will present to me in this journey.
I'm almost 30 but My dad does everything in the house from walking dog to cooking to managing house to buying stuff for the house....i literally wakeup...eat food...and do remote work from morning to night. I and mom are heavily dependent on my dad. He would shout at me for not doing house work but still he does it in the end. Every parent doesn't want their kids to struggle 😢
Never been able to make my grandparents understand this. My mom gets it though. It is unfortunate that my father passed away when I was very young, but my grandparents have sort of used it as an excuse to do everything for me. I am extremely grateful and a tad bit pissed that they did it. I am not joking when I say that my comfort zone was so damn great that I did not have the intellect to fill a cheque for some folks when I was 21. I feel the pain now. I tried explaining it and they understood like 20%. The rest just went over their head. They use emotional blackmail. Like Seriously! Now, I'm 27 and planning for my Master's and now, they're like how will you take care of things when you move to the States. Well, geez, I wouldn't be doing this if only you'd let me try stuff on my own for at least 2 years. Surely, I will make some mistakes, but isn't that how you learn and grow up? If you shield a person from experiences then, you're just paving way for a hard downfall at a later point in life. At that point, getting back up or knowing how to do so will also be very difficult.
Yeah sir i am going out to bangalore this year most probably, and i will be 18 this year in july ,what should i do even i am very irresponsible🤔and i don't know much about these things deeply, i just understand them on a basic level. Any advice
@@anilarora4143 First thing, take some time to settle into your new environment. Enjoy it. Try to develop monetizable skills. Programming in any language, graphic design, photography, content creation, etc. It will be hard initially, but you will get there. One key suggestion is to spend at least a 4-6 months in areas that you have an interest in. Learn as much as you can about each of your interest in those 6 months and then see what you like the most. If you enjoy it, find a way to monetize it. Once you start making money, don't buy Apple products or any fancy stuff. Learn to invest in the stock markets, ETFs, mutual funds, etc. Diversify it. Start a SIP, if that works. Now, you may not have heard about some or most of these, but fret not, start learning from resources online and in college you will meet at least one person who is interested in each of the things mentioned above. Learn from friends and remember, "You are always the average of the 5 people that you surround yourself with". So, choose wisely.
I get you bro... But all you got to do is say to them that this is your life... You will be doing your own mistakes and learning your own lessons... But be whatever now you want to be independent... And it's not a permission.. It's a statement.
The thing I love about Varun is connecting the dots from all disciplines that exist throughout and being able to concisely denote and comprehend all of it at once with logic.
As an atheist individualist who comes from a traditional Japanese and religious household, I completely agree with the importance of independence. I moved out at 16 and I'm currently in my early 30s. I simply don't subscribe to any traditional or religious doctrines, nor do I agree with most of their perception of right and wrong. It was a difficult life, juggling work and highschool, but it was well worth it. The reason why alot of young adults today are reluctant to pursue independence is because they have been psychologically conditioned to be afraid of doing anything that's challenging.
Same I do have a brother who is a asshole and suck to be me I'm the only one who doing home chores and mess up I was going have two options is to leave or off myself to a bridge yet I want to leave since I hated here more than ever
You don't have to listen to any xyz chadda who had a laptop in his basement and now claiming himself to be a "startup owner" and running behind money like all those rats do .. I'm 25 now , i left my home when I was 20 , I worked as a chef... For chefs the pay is like shit .. got paid 12k to live in Mumbai and got some pocket money from my parents to survive there, then went to Bangalore and after that went to Hyderabad .. learnt a few languages .. seen a lot and now I'm already fed up with the greedy ass society . Do things your way , stay home if you have to .... One way or the other you gotta leave home sometime and if you don't have to consider yourselves lucky and juz explore whole india and even around the world if could as a part of a vacation . Go live somewhere for a month for a finite amount of money and come back ... This comfort zone bullshit and hustle culture has to go!.
You don't have to listen to any xyz chadda who had a laptop in his basement and now claiming himself to be a "startup owner" and running behind money like all those rats do .. I'm 25 now , i left my home when I was 20 , I worked as a chef... For chefs the pay is like shit .. got paid 12k to live in Mumbai and got some pocket money from my parents to survive there, then went to Bangalore and after that went to Hyderabad .. learnt a few languages .. seen a lot and now I'm already fed up with the greedy ass society . Do things your way , stay home if you have to .... One way or the other you gotta leave home sometime and if you don't have to consider yourselves lucky and juz explore whole india and even around the world if could as a part of a vacation . Go live somewhere for a month for a finite amount of money and come back ... This comfort zone bullshit and hustle culture has to go!.
I'm living with my parents in my 30s. I spent my entire life away from them in hostels since the age of 7. Life is good here. I'm happy and and content like I was never before, but the only drawback is that they settled in a small town where there are no opportunities. I wish my parents had settled in Bangalore or atleast a Tier 2 city. I am here to quench my thirst for love from parents, which I have missed for 23 years, eventually I would have to move out again for better opportunities, hopefully I can convince them to come with me to live in the cities.
I am 19 and thanks god i watched this video last year , i was about to go to a college near my house then i talk to my parents about moving out they hated it first after a ton of arguments i end up in a hostel
3:50 I agree with your general point 100 percent. But, take it from a 30+ year old with a history of full hostel experience in college- “lights out at 10” is not such a bad idea. Most of our bad lifestyle choices and habits take root during our hostel years-enabled and fostered by watching our peers and freedom without answerability. If one can be wise enough to keep good habits, well and good-otherwise it is very difficult to break out of negative lifestyle patterns later.
Yes its Right One & half Year ago I was decided to go out from home And i goes . And after one & half year i come back my home I see that my thoughts are changed and i am now more matured than before Now i am going to be 22 i believe that Its works properply if want to do something good on your life ✨ Thankx @Varun Mayya
This is so true living in a different city with different people changes so much can definitely tell from the experience.I was the first person( also a female) in my village and in my family who have studied outside of the city or even studied that much.
From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru. More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges. Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic. So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct. Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way. One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things. Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life. The others who showed restrain are doing better. This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low. Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things. In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life. For everything you gain, you loose something. Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical. I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing. Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right. The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite
Thanks varun for making myself clear! I have been planning over for months that I should leave my hostel and live on my own without depending on my parents. It will be financially hard for me, but I just want the freedom and the hardship that can be push me to gain my financial freedom. I will get you know when I start living on my own!!
He leaves home and tells you to do same by telling you benefits.. He gets a girlfriend and got married and tells other to do the same.. says marry early .. See he is correct from his end .. but I would say don't regret for anything and don't make decisions in hurry.. look at your situation .. think carefully what you need to do and do it accordingly what your heart says... Thanks.
I am almost 26 now, still dependent on my parents. Collected degrees and diplomas from my hometown. My Parents just didn’t want me to leave even when I was able to get some good colleges and voila, I regret that decision. Currently, Living a decent life but consumption is anyways surpassing production. Unable to visualise my mission. Although, I feed myself well bodily, mentally, emotionally but still just don’t feel satiated. I am an introvert but can talk to anyone and quickly make some good connections but unable to keep as I live a rhythmic life. I want to go out now, but I don’t know what will I be doing by going out, secondly I am a single child and parents are at their sensitive age. The only time I feel like going out is when sometimes homely quarrels makes me feel shit about not being independent but on the counter side wisdom keeps my haste in check. Anyone’s opinion/perspective is welcome. How should I view my life ahead ?
Bro as you told, if your parents are in critical age and if you don't want to leave then you can do something remotely. I have seen enough opportunities by doing this. And if you feel that you can go out then don't think about the time you wasted in past. Just go out, it's never too late.
I can't give you any advice as I am going through a similar situation myself, even though soon I will be shifting to hostel or rented apartment to pursue my mba, I feel we introverts should come together and form clubs, find a common ground to interact with different people I so wanna develop an app towards the same or if one already exists then would love to join one
Unfortunately this video by Varun Mayya is fuckall. He's assuming stuff. He's speaking from his own experiences that his parents shut the lights at 10 o clock. Even my parents did. But one who wants to stay awake will do it anyway. He can't take it that some of us actually haven't had major arguments, that we're friends first. He's GUARANTEEING that I boast about my house chores and I bluff about them to look cool. Balls. Apart from my work, I cook dinner for two nights and help my mother during lunches. Whatever they say, for a period of time I'm fully available for house chores. Why? Because it's on my priority list. Simple. I don't work while cooking and dont cook while I'm working. One just needs will. I go out and return back around 3-4 am. Drink and party with buddies on weekends. When my sister is working I even do her share of the house chores. There's mutual respect here and my parents take my opinion before making 90% of the house decisions and listen to me as I listen to them. Every house is different but point is.. Agar parents ko dikhe ki baccha mature hai toh they will include you and let you do whatever you want. But as a kid you also gotta have an attitude and not crush under their scoldings and give it back when needed which most of Indian kids lack. They're all basically wimps and that's why they all try to run from their own parents. Take care of yourself and parents. Chill out.
Leave the home. The homely quarrels will be over one day.. Your productive age won't come back. Take the hard decision. The more you think and discuss the more perspectives you will get. Right now you don't need perspectives.. You need action and independence and a taste of life.
I left it. Now I am learning more about the real world.But before that I spent my core years finding out what kind of a person I truely was and who I truely am ,and what are the things I want in life in that safe haven called 'home' and now I am ready to take my life in the direction that I want.
So I will share my experience Studied 7 year in hostels (jnv, gov funded ) Class 6 to 12 Now I am at home with my family since 2 years ,I enjoy here but there are some moments which make me remember hostel days every day ,made my mind to move out next sem. Comfort se dur hi manzil h
Bruh hiring a cook and maid is very common in metropolitan cities where one has to work their asses off for what they desire. Due to time constraints and physical toll, it’s impossible for anyone to cook and clean your house every day. Having house help doesn’t mean he’s not independent. Being independent doesn’t mean t do every work on your own. Simply delegating that task will do too. But living alone made him realise the importance of trust and how he couldn’t blindly put his faith into people he doesn’t know. To hire a house help, you need to be very vigilant with them as some of them can con you or steal from you. All these are a part of life experiences that he’s sharing which doesn’t contravene his point!
@@gxoxgirl Bhai main bhi metro mein rehta hu. It's just that I don't consider this as being truly independent (in the literal sense). Just making an observation. It's my personal opinion. You may or may not concur with me and I understand it. Have a great day!
Learning to cook 10 minutes meals and "keeping" the house clean is enough. There's a thing among chefs in the kitchen , if you don't wanna clean your pan and make sure you grill your steak properly .. please don't listen to privileged useless people like him 😂. He might be earning a lot of money now and giving jobs to kids who are already well to do and would rather go out of his company and try to sell the same Pani puri he's selling instead of doing something useful for the society ..
You mentioned everything about myself about why we should leave our home for some years & so it's the only thing and way for Self development, exploring the world, knowing the good & bad, learning to be independent, managing all our daily stuffs, developing new ideas of life & most importantly...u have to be Alone for some period of time to discover your true potentials... As I do... 😊
It may be helpful for the people who are always kept beneath the hands of their parents but not everyone is privileged enough to do so. For example, I'm a college student and i am not able to leave home and go for a hostel just because my parents can't afford it but it just because my parents are not that educated, i take almost all the decision of my life on my own. Everyone's life is different, we should develop these qualities that is the point, no matter at home or by leave home.
I am 22 and the same I am a single child but I want to move to another place because my growth just stopped here. Right now my family can't afford it but this year I will complete my course and try to search for a job of any kind.
From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru. More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges. Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic. So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct. Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way. One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things. Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life. The others who showed restrain are doing better. This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low. Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things. In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life. For everything you gain, you loose something. Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical. I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing. Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right. The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite.
My mom is old and I cannot move out even when I want to. I do everything at home for my mom as she unable to work she is so old that she argue all the time but I am always patient I have left opportunities /jobs because I cannot move away from my mom and I do not earn that much to take my parents with me and then live in a rented apartment . My life-6:30 in evening to 4:30 in morning I work in night shift Sleep till 10 morning Study , prepare food , do all the household chores then work on my dream I study , go to library . I take care of my mom her medicines and everything . I don’t think everyone has a choice . I cannot be selfish And choose me.
I want love button on RU-vid for such videos. I couldn't go outside my hometown after 12th standard and lost 4 years while doing bachelor's degree in engineering. Now, I'll soon move out for masters degree. I hope I haven't lost much in these 4 years. Thanks for this video. 💯💯
@@kaiserbala7419 They are not right if they are not teaching you about spirituality..if they only teach you about how to earn money by becoming doctor engineer..than they have lost their intelligence
True man 19 yrs and literally feeling the same sitting in home that outside world is developing very fast and I am not able to digest this literally I am out of my mind😔😔😔
gets worst when parents are poor and old 60+ with 100s of heath problems. man i dont even have a proper skill to compete with others and grown up mans are doing all the part time jobs.
Hey, i am 25 and i moved out 6 months ago. Being a single child and a middle class family girl i had to leave my studies and help my mom in doing house chores. The only thing my parents had in mind was to get me married as soon as possible. And it turned out to be a disaster. Now i am a single mom at 25 who left her home to become independent. In past 6 months i learned alot how the world is but i really like out there doing things on my own. I still don't know what my goal is to be in the future. Still exploring things. Moving out is so important trust me.
Trust me I moved out at the age of 18... Got admission in du and lived in a shared flats with co students ... Thought I was out only for 2 years (until corona happend) but it changed my whole life... how I viewed things, how I solved problems and how I dealt with people... Above all I made tones and tones of memories!
Honestly, people who say being independent (or just anything else) is against culture have no idea what culture they are talking about. One tends to think that anything out of the ordinary is against our culture. Nobody really has time to skim through old historical works, analyse and prove it. I plan to go abroad for studies and come back by 30. My father, in fact, believes that leaving home is a must for a young man, so no issues in the family regarding that.
Man, I loved everything about you, your knowledge, experience, way of talking, the point you are trying to convey with backing from holy texts. ❤❤ would like to hear more from you about living life... Best wishes to you 👍👍
I never left my parents. I'm 45 now. I get homesick whenever I go out for months. I wish I left them at an early age. At this age when even my parents are old it's a bit hard.
It's not shameful to live with your parents like the internet says it is. It's actually the smarter choice. You save more money and can financially help your parents.
You don't have to listen to any xyz chadda who had a laptop in his basement and now claiming himself to be a "startup owner" and running behind money like all those rats do .. I'm 25 yo Indian , i left my home when I was 20 , I worked as a chef... For chefs the pay is like shit .. got paid 12k to live in Mumbai and got some pocket money from my parents to survive there, then went to Bangalore and after that went to Hyderabad .. learnt a few languages .. seen a lot and now I'm already fed up with the greedy ass society . Do things your way , stay home if you have to .... One way or the other you gotta leave home sometime and if you don't have to consider yourselves lucky and juz explore whole india and even around the world if could as a part of a vacation . Go live somewhere for a month for a finite amount of money and come back ... This comfort zone bullshit and hustle culture has to go!.
What parents must realize is that, no matter how much they try to keep you on the right path, if the kid has a mind of their own they will not listen (which is a good thing). Having a mind of your own, you are able to carry out your own actions, but you must also hold yourself 100% accountable. If you want to be independent and free, do it without the help of your parents. And it is your responsibility, if you go back home, at least comeback as someone who has made a good use of their time and energy.
staying in hostel changed my life forever...u r true about joining clubs..doing events..more than anything else...if u see ppl in college who are hustling..u feel like if he can do so can I..plus u learn soooo much
I managed to score 99.6+ in CAT(only because I met a senior in my hostel who went to IIM A and he motivated me to prepare for CAT) :). Pretty sure if I would have stayed at home I would have never even got to know what 'CAT' was tbh
Well, if you are the only child leaving home for independent living, it's like throwing a weakling into a war, learn from the mistakes your parents already made when they were young instead of making them on your own, this way you save time and also because at the end family is all you truly got(Vin D). So have the guts to take responsibility of a family. That will make you tougher and stronger than independent living.Peace!
I can totally relate with your words..I became much mature in my life and most importantly intelligent,smarter,responsible when I moved out from my house to living in a hostel of college
Staying away from home doesn't mean to not visit home.. Do visit and take care of parents ..call them regularly ❤️ I follow these things because i leave in another City since 5 years... Am 22 now.
Its is such a blessing but also saddening that the most balanced and nuanced perspective on the dynamic of family comes from a non western channel. I was straight up furious watching western creators delight in forsaking family FOREVER; it just really bothered me because while I want to experience outside life, I want to use these collective experiences to make my familial bonds stronger. What a sad state in the west that traditional family values have eroded to the point of people actively rejoicing in fully rejecting the tribe that raised them with love. I understand that each situation has complex dynamics in which people cannot fully feel loved, but it really just seemed like many people wanted to move away from family for reasons rooted entirely in selfishness and resentment, not taking the time to understand why certain family struggle to show love. Its ok, everyones karma is different. Those annoyances brought me to this channel, and now im centered again. I may also have a natural bias since I am a man of faith, that is comfortable unconditionally surrendering, loving, and serving others like Hanuman. I will pray that my family understand the difficult path ahead of me; and I will trust in my faith to be a guiding force that will heal. Shri Ram, Jai Ram, Jai Jai Ram🤚
Yes there are always prons and cons living alone .I have also lived alone but for like several months but living alone like that is exactly not necessary .There is always a different culture other than solely english in our country .See after and during covid ,many have changed ,started and got many got remote jobs that is also a point.(Leaving out any business or studies here..)They did not need to move out. See always a change is not necessary to bring your success that's my point. See you can always be independent but ,what I feel if you dont have clarity in your head ,nothing works just being independent !! I have seen many people in late 40's and 50's staying bachelor in PG and hostel and life did not work for them. But I would recommend live healthy,stay fit and dont get succumbed to too many unnecessary things going on. Many dont know how to earn money ,so tha has nothing to do with living alone and having some friends. I have also seen many people not from village delivery foods at night coming from different city.That could be done on our own city also.This just makes you a freedom wanderer with some money and making your financial way out ,but wont serve you good for a long term purpose living outside.
My parents brought me to a small town in bengal from a tiny village when i was 7 and now after a decade im moving to pune for college . I am really grateful to my parents for what they have done for me ..
Above all, when you are out there in the world, try to be Open Minded & show acceptance towards others, their language, skin color, region they come from, religion. Do not bring your caste, religion, region or language to the table, Bring ideas, skills, character, talent to the table! Then only your place will be a better place to live. Otherwise, everywhere you go, we only see groups- gujju, hindi, marathi, punjabi, south etc!!
Agreed, i moved first to a college hostel from the home that is also far away from home to a different state with different language, culture etc First i struggled a lot and still surving, no money no food on time, no one cares about you, and that's the worst feeling in the world But also i understand that i will makes you much stronger and i taken this as a challenge and i am gonna overtake that❤
i always wanted to run away from home not because I hate my parents but because I wanted to explore the world. Finally I'm 18 and moving out this month
Agree 💯. I'm 24 Dad is self employed so I'm one of the main helping hand for bed ridden Grandfather since I wfh. Well not completely happy with it but I'm proud of it.
A topic close to home🙂, im 19 and at the start of this year i really wanted to move out of my house as fortunately or unfortunately i ended up taking a college in the same city, so i wouldnt get to experience hostel life. The dillema i faced eventually was that at 19 i am making enough money to pay rent and manage my expenses but how do i tackle the 'savings/investing' argument when you're young. Should i spend 70% of my monthly income on rent+house expenses?
Generally you don't want to spend more than 50% of your income on rent+house expenses, but you are young so it is fine. Get a roommates if possible to reduce the rent
Bro, you can't do everything at once. Trust me, shit will fall into place one after another. The more time spent thinking is just lost time with no action. Accept that you will make some mistakes and learn from them. That's how you become wiser. I'd give up everything to be 19 again. Who wouldn't?
You know I'm going to turn 18 this may month And I'm preparing for my competitive exams Hopefully I go to a good college which is out of my hometown ☺️ The facts you've said in this video was 💯% correct 5:45 is the point I've always been worried What would happen to my parents if i leave ? So many doubts But.. the points u said that part was just eye opening for me .... I'm so happy that your video was such an eye opener for me I'm always protected in my home , but i just wanna explore all good and bad stuffs in this outside world Hopefully I want everything going fine😄😄😄💫💫💫💜💜✨✨✨
You are so right! I have seen a stark difference between me and my friends. I have stayed in hostels and pgs since college. My mentality has developed in a positive way compared to my friends. I am competent at decisions and adjusting myself to any situation life throws at me. Hell i have lived a week with 20rs in my pocket. At the same time, my friends cannot function without their parents for a day.
Hey Varun ! just wanted to tell you that I just got to know about your channel a week ago and now you are my one of the favourite youtuber . Genuinely....Keep Sharing and Keep Exploring
Yes! definitely agree with you Varun. I used hate when my mama said me to move out of house and experience the world when I was till 24. I started experiencing the world in my mid 20's and now I'm regretting... No worries now my parents believe in me, Now I'm man enough!!! I suggest people between 18-25 should really leave their home and save themselves addicting to bad habit, they can do wonders if they do above 2 mentioned things.
Leaving home or moving out seems like a good thing but I don't know what will happen next. My only hope is that if things don't work out -if I move out- I have the strength to go back home.
Thank you so much for this video. Tackling this "moving out" thing from an Indian perspective was very well depicted in this video. Almost all the questions that one might have, being an Indian and moving out has been answered here. Cheers to you👍🏻
and what do you wanna achieve leaving your home, you're not gonna be better than others because there will be someone who will always be better than you.
Whoa..... the massive amount of knowlege you have! I love that you relate everything in this video with ancient texts, vedas, Buddha, gurukul...... PLEASE make more of these videos. 💌
From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru. More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges. Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic. So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct. Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way. One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things. Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life. The others who showed restrain are doing better. This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low. Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things. In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life. For everything you gain, you loose something. Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical. I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing. Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right. The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite
I smash hit button for you. And subscribed to your channel. You answered lots of my questions. I'm 29, working professional, running the household, imagine your parents stopping you from doing whatever you want, asking you not to move in a different city, not traveling with your friends, not letting to cook your favourite food coz you might make the kitchen dirty which might not be true, imagine a bullshit father coming to abuse you and slap you after eating on your money...All the behaviour which parents do to a class 7 kid, they are doing to 29 year old lady. My mother still interrupts and stops me doing things which are very normal in other households. I have no good emotion left for my parents. I just do my basic duty to them. I want to leave them, I want to see and explore the world, I want to cook myself n burn my hands, I want to learn the shitty world outside n get lost - but alas they still treat me like a kid. It boils my blood. I hate my parents. They did waste a lot of my time, they have no intention of my better future, and used my money. I lost my health due to them. And at the end of the day what will they do ? They will put all the blames on me, make me feel guilty and at the end of the conversation to show themselves clean they will 'we want your good, but everything is your fault '. I mean which parent does that to their adult daughter. You said it right about putting a hand cuff. I'm that Rich Siddhartha who is supposed to work late at night and give money to my parents, but not allowed to leave the castle and see the world myself as I am a woman.
If they are making you guilty to leave, best thing would be to tell them you are getting married and move out. If they stop you, you can in turn tell them what sort of parents are they to not let a 30 year old daughter get married. Tell them society will later laugh at them if you are left unmarried at such a late age, use their trick on them only. Good Luck.
I guess this was one of the reason that i moved out of my family, wanted to be independent , and now i kno i can be better on my own . Learnt a lot of things about life which i wouldn't have if i had stayed at home.
From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru. More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges. Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic. So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct. Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way. One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things. Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life. The others who showed restrain are doing better. This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low. Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things. In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life. For everything you gain, you loose something. Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical. I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing. Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right. The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite.
From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru. More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges. Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic. So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct. Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way. One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things. Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life. The others who showed restrain are doing better. This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low. Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things. In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life. For everything you gain, you loose something. Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical. I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing. Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right. The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite
@@pritech8302 You are kinda right but kinda wrong. About the influence of alcohol and stuff, it particularly depends on the individual. While in scenario of being out of home there is more chances of pertaking such bad habits. But for those who don't want to do such things, they don't. Some of my friends haven't gone out of their hometown for college, yet they drink alcohol at parties, while i just prefer not to. So no, it doesn't depend on if you are at home or outside. Yet the point stands you can do everything you want in your life and be successful even if you choose to stay at home.
I also think tha same but I'm not allowed because I'm a girl and if i left home without my partner permission then I'll not able to come back now I'm studying hard to go outside and studying for freedom my brother is allowed to go outside but I'm not my father think girl is for household and i really hate it my environment is polluted but I'm trying to get out of this 😊
Absolutely loved it ❤ I was thinking yhe same a month ago to move out to my hostel to explore the world, as there are so many restrictions at home.. Thanks for this video 🙌🏻
You don't have to listen to any xyz chadda who had a laptop in his basement and now claiming himself to be a "startup owner" and running behind money like all those rats do .. I'm 25 now , i left my home when I was 20 , I worked as a chef... For chefs the pay is like shit .. got paid 12k to live in Mumbai and got some pocket money from my parents to survive there, then went to Bangalore and after that went to Hyderabad .. learnt a few languages .. seen a lot and now I'm already fed up with the greedy ass society . Do things your way , stay home if you have to .... One way or the other you gotta leave home sometime and if you don't have to consider yourselves lucky and juz explore whole india and even around the world if could as a part of a vacation . Go live somewhere for a month for a finite amount of money and come back ... This comfort zone bullshit and hustle culture has to go!.
Im 26 and recently started feeling the same like I'm stuck in here with my parent in really bad way, and the things you said are 100% relatable to me, like even when i am the primary earning member of my house (in fact making 10x than my parents making even today and they also agree on this) there is zero value to my decisions and opinions, recently i started blaming them for being overprotective, and bcz of that i missed so many things in my life. For many mistakes to do, my age is gone now, but i really hope to fix my life. I tried moving out recently but they started the emotional drama and all (you know Indian parents) if you are reading my comment please give me a solution i am really stuck with them. (In terms of freedom and personal development)
I loved how you positively presented all the issues that generally suffocate most young adults. I stayed at Uni till 2020 and have been home since then, graduated, and have started working from home. It is very suffocating and I feel like I'm going to get left behind, or am being indirectly restrained from unlocking my full potential. I find it difficult to articulate it in words without offending my parents. This video very beautifully encapsulates what I feel, and what I was confused about and wasn't able to articulate. You have my sub, Varun! Great Stuff!
Not everyone can move out just because they want to, specifically in India when the parents are extremely controlling and dominating for most part of life. If somebody is moving out at 20, for most cases the parents are supporting. Not every family will do that and you may not want to burden them as well. Very few people do part time jobs to earn money in India because the culture is so different. I moved out at 25 when I got my job outside of my hometown. So don't think if you're 27, it's too late for you just because he mentions 18-20 in his videos, that's not practical for most middle class people.
Your like my elder brother dude, I wish I could be this active in yt and searching content related to tech and growth and found your channel few years ago. Your content is so up to the mark cause in most of the content I feel the same relevance. I will surely meet you one day as even i am from Malleswaram ✨👍🏻
Life of a person depends on various factors its quite complex than just staying away from parents. Either way u stay with parents or without , u will still know the reality of this world after u graduate from ur university. Life is hard. Take independent and wise decisions don't buy into these kind of videos. Everyone has different privilege levels.
They like the idea of American culture more , of being independent , more than the indian culture of being a responsible person of your family . He dont even know what the conditions are in families of india . Where a boy or a girl , just cant leave his/her parents alone , just to be successful .
This video looks to be focused more towards counting views, poor to no research, no in-depth coverage of the topic and a fact picked from Vedas which is taken without clarifying the full context of time and situation. If his only argument is that staying away from home will make you responsible then his own actions of putting out such garbage content disproves that he is anything but responsible. But sadly he has already misguided the youth, who in their young age of 17 or so are very impressionable. It is pathetic how these people don't think of the consequences such misinformation will create in the society.
agreed, making video and saying move out is easy while in the other hand more than 60% people are middle class and if you are men! you have no option but to take responsibility of your self and your parents as well, not to mention siblings .
I moved out this year from my home away from parents. It's nice exciting new city, new people. But, back in my mind I feel that I am putting financial pressure on my parents. Even though they are completely okay with my monthly expenses still don't know why but I feel that.
You should start working too - earn from a part time or full time job. Why even depend on parents financially when you've reached an age where you could move out to live on your own
If you are an introvert or have social anxiety,moving out will not necessarily help you. After 10 I moved to hostel but nothing changed I live in my room almost all the time, now I am at home and my diploma is about to finish
You're right,, way back in 2019 i stayed months leaving my home because of my internship..my introvertness was not leaving my soul at that time(even now) , its not necessary that everyone should do this... Its just to get an experience about how to handle the outside world and learning to leave your comfort zone. Our Blood cannot be changed by getting ride of the comfort zone.
Finally leave my home state. What I learn from this video 1. Skill of interpersonal. 2. Principle of Reciprocity 3. People Skill 4. Independent 5. Financial Freedom 6. Able to make decisions by own
Loved this I am a girl though my parents don't want I wanna move out and explore the world. Pg's are a bit kinda safe place(I am saying this from perceptive of my parents)😌
If your parents are cool and understand your lifestyle, there is not even need to move out. You get to stay rent free. Utilities cost are shared between family members. You get home cooked meals. No bullshit about flatmates creating nuisance. Limited parties because 18-19 yo kids tend to get along without supervision from parents. You save many expenses. If and only your parents understand and don't get indulged.
You're afraid of going out. That's why you're trying to prove yourself correct. Most of the average people thinks like this. Don't worry you're not rare. Parents are cool doesn't mean you will learn how to face the outer world.
Moving out has its own cons. Living with parents has it own benefits. You have to look from different perspective. This guy stressed on benefits of moving out.
