I literally only know Torrid from Nisipisa’s window shopping, so it’ll probably forever be the “jersey fabric and outdated trends” store to me (I buy from the thrift store though, so I’d never shop from anywhere like that anyways tbh. My town doesn’t have much shopping and all the stores sell are all polyester anyway, so unless it’s something like a workout singlet, merch, or something specific, I just buy second hand or wear what I already have. Those thrift stores can be terrible though. There’s literally none in my university’s town and then they won’t carry inclusive size options, so I literally could never judge someone for buying new at a normal rate, especially when I can get all the cute clothes once they’re out of trend and durability tested)
I’ll never understand why they can’t make plus size clothes JUST NORMAL CLOTHES BUT BIGGER. They always add ruffles or a cold shoulder or make it long. Just make the exact same thing BIGGER.
I'm a straight sized person and I am baffled for you too. It doesn't make any sense. It's not as if they can't hire a pattern maker to modify the patterns to better fit plus sized people. It's not rocket science. Either they're fatphobic or too cheap to properly grade and resize their designs. Or both. :(
Because most clothing companies have a base size 2 so when they size it up it doesn't translate because the size 2 doesn't take the natural curves that occur with plus size bodies. That's why some things look cute on the skinny girl and ends up looking like a shapeless tent when the just make it bigger. If companies started with a more average base size like a 12 or 14 as they size it up it will stay proportionate. I recommend everyone get their clothes tailored if they can.
Stores by stock based on what sells. They can’t afford to keep plus sizes in stock because they will never make money off of them. They cost more to produce, they don’t fit the same way as straight sizes so don’t sell as well, they don’t have as many people buying in store either and they take up room from clothes that do sell. It’s like asking why McDonald’s doesn’t have as many salads on their menu as burgers. They won’t sell.
People always talk about how great Torrid is, but almost every single dress there is like some boho maternity shit with an empire waist. How about just making a regular dress?
Hundreds upon hundreds of memories of frustrated clothes shopping rushed to my brain at "I'll just take anything in my size". That is so real. And then you finally get something and it doesn't even look good 💀
It's soooo true!! I couldn't even find a sports bra that would fit me at Target. It's the worst when all the cute clothes you want to buy are too small.
I'm not even that fat (L/XL in American/European sizes), but growing up in Asia is a great way to mentally mess you up when it comes to perceiving your own body because this is exactly my experience trying to shop at thrift stores my whole life 🙃
Me and my sister are complete opposites when shopping, she’s an Xs and I’m a 2xl so when shopping everything’s ginormous on her and everything’s baby clothes for me. We have similar styles so we shop at the same places but the stores near us tend to only have small to large. It’s a nightmare to find something that fits slightly lol
Anyone remember that movie P.H.A.T. Girls (Pretty Hot And THICC)? I have no idea how poorly it has aged but i used to LOVE it because it was about a plus size shop clerk/aspiring designer facing these problems, learning to love her body, and making an actually good clothing line for plus sizes that was affordable and cute. We need more of those kinds of self love narratives and better options in stores!
A friend and I went clothes shopping for an event we were both attending. She insisted on going to second hand shops (which never have plus sized clothing in my town). After her buying a bunch of stuff and me not finding anything, I asked if we could go to New Look cause they at least have a plus sized section and she went "Oh actually I'm too tired now and need to go home to sort my new clothes" :/ I ended up not finding anything for the event...
I used to weight 260 pounds, it was actually impossible to find clothes anywhere other than Walmart, Torrid, and occasionally JCPenny. An entire 2 story mall wouldn’t have a single shop that sold any clothes in my size. Now I’m currently 200 flat and it’s still almost impossible to find clothes, easier than before but still impossible. And forget finding cute clothes, I have to go online hunting for that. Can’t wait for the day I don’t have this problem anymore, though I wish it was something the fashion industry/companies would fix for plus size people rather than it being because I’m losing weight 😒
Most clothes are online these days. Shein, ASOS, Fashion Nova, PLT, and BooHoo are great affordable options since you're still in the process of losing weight.
Yes this. Also why should we have to shop online for clothing??? That makes it SO MUCH HARDER because you can't try on everything to make sure it fits right. Thats always my biggest problem, it doesn't fit right on my arms because oh its a plus size shirt but the arm holes are the same size as the smaller sizes 🙄🙄🙄 i got clothes from Shein and some fit okay and others didnt. So much work to go and return those items rather than never have getting them if i tried them on in a store first. I get that online shopping is great, for certain things. But clothing? I need to try that shit on first. Uhg
@@TomikaKellywhich is even more annoying because you have to try and figure out or guess what size is best and then wait till it arrives before you can even try it on. I hate online clothes shopping.
This is so true. As a plus sized to a size 6 back and forwards I'd buy stuff for my home when I am plus sized and goning the extra mile for clothes when size 6
@TheMessiahPraiseMe Didn't say anything about being uncomfortable with how I look. Just said I didn't enjoy clothes shopping with my friend. But I'll be sure to take your goofy response into consideration next time Mr. TheMessiahPraiseMe. I really value the feedback I get from no-life randoms on RU-vid.
@TheMessiahPraiseMe it's just shitty clothes everywhere nowadays. I like how I look. That doesn't fix my pants that are too tight for my hips and too wide for my waist at the same time
@@Nice_Tree You really gotta wonder about the thought process of the person designing those. Like, do they think a plus size woman looks like a 5ft tall rotisserie chicken?
@@Nice_Treeomg, you are so right about all the pants being too tight for hips and too wide for the waist. I have this problem all the time and I'm not even curvy. My butt is kinda flat and my waist isn't really slim yet almost none of the pants fit me and need to be altered. And sellers say that lots of women have this problem. Who is it sewn for then? It's so annoying!
Lol @ the Aritzia part. That was me shopping at that store with my slender mom and sister last year. I did a lot of aimless flipping through the racks and salespeople didn't even bother to approach me lol
People that make women’s clothing don’t want “big girls” to have pretty clothes. lol at the wedding gown market. Just because you are a bigger girl doesn’t mean you can’t be beautiful on your wedding day.
Shopping was so depressing as a teen because I developed early and had wide hips and big ol bondonkers, so nothing was really made for me. They were measure for the average teen who still had a slimmer teen body, so my friends and I always had to split up.
Yup! I gave up and started wearing women's clothes at thirteen because by then, even being slightly underweight, I was a 28F bra size with a 25 inch waist and wide hips but no butt... Absolutely nothing fit. At all. But the women's clothing at least sort of worked.
I remember going from huge youth sizes to small woman sizes. Like, 12 y/o me felt huge having to buy XXL, meanwhile 22 y/o me can wear S size without a hassle.
I hated clothes shopping with my mom. Also because im nonbinary and she only let me get womens and girls clothing. Ive been telling my mom since like 7th grade i wanted a reduction when i was older because they developed so early and i hated them at 13. Still hate them at 25 and now theyre even bigger
I'm like 325 so finding stuff that works with a tummy and spoke to my fashion style was a PITA. Weirdly, I've been enjoying a few select pieces from Ashley Stewart, way too many from Hot Topic (Old Goth is still gonna Goth) and indie Decora/Lolita brands. I will n ever stop looking like a fey witch or a unicorn princess and that's danged hard to find in most stores.
Literally me at forever 21 like they get the skinny girls the cutest things but then they toss the plus size shirts and other stuff on the side and give us the ugly stuff when we gonna get the pretty stuff
I’m guessing it’s just outdated and not modeled with plus sizing in mind. Plus, stretch fabrics are such a common way to make things fit without tailoring them to the body, but they can be so unflattering. I think the plus size garments will get cute when they’re able to be designed by designers that understand the plus size body and have the corporate support to develop new garments with plus size forms in mind. (Which hopefully they’ll do soon. It’d be nice to expand to new, undersaturated markets, and could also be useful for people who like tailoring)
Understand your body type and where your fat distribution is wanting to go. Learn how to dress for your size (it’s easier than it sounds I promise) and you’ll get away with so many super cute outfits because you know what to look for. When I’m really bloated I go for high waisted but loose fitting skirts and crop tops. The A line from the skirt and the short top make my waist look thinner and my tummy less obvious. ❤ best wishes.
@@exvousszYeah, how dare those plus-sized women want nice clothes. 🙄 Don’t they know they should accept being unfashionable as a punishment for their body type? /s
@@exvousszYeah, I agree, we really need to put more pressure on the fashion industry to hire models of varying sizes. It's not just dangerous to the models to encourage them to be dangerously skinny, it's also just lazy on the part of the designers
@@rosesweetcharlotte i did mean with loosing weight, like if you’re so insecure about how big or small you are then you’re the only one whom can change that but yeah i guess that works as well
I feel these videos in my heart! Most of my adult life I was PLUS SIZED, they weren't nice enough to call it CURVY when I was younger. I had to lose weight a couple of years ago for a health issue, not by choice, I was happy with myself. When I see stores that have a bigger "Curvy" dept than "average" sizes, it makes me smile!
Plus why is it that in stores like tj maxx and stuff, the.plus size clothing is a bunch of stuff that makes us look like 90 year old frumpy aunt sue, ya know?? And I can't afford clothes from Torrid. And why do all clothing designers think all fat chics are tall?? We most certainly aren't
same. I’m skinny and tall (think Minecraft enderman) and finding pants that fit me right but don’t fall down without a belt is rough. I do wear a belt a lot, but when I do my pants look bunchy around the waist because of how skinny my waist is compared to my long legs. Humans aren’t one proportion!!
I'm short (5'1), I have thick thighs and a smaller waist. Trying to find pants is impossible, because the thigh parts are either too tight or the waist is way too loose. And when both of those parts are just perfect, the pants are way too long 😭😭
The day in my weight loss journey that I did not buy a piece of clothes, not because it didn't fit me but simply because I did not like it and I cried tears of joy in the store's changing room
That’s amazing, congrats to both of you in this thread! Weight loss can take a lot of effort and perseverance, and the fact that you were able to do so is a testament to your dedication.
While I'm not plus size I totally relate to the heaviness of entering a clothing store with with total appreciation and cynicism. As a hijabi usually I'd buy anything as long as it's long and wide enough, actually liking a piece of clothing is a farfetched fantasy.
I HATE Aritzia. My friends dragged me to one in the 10th grade and it genuinely caused me to redevelop bulimia I’d managed to get control of previous to the trip.
I felt that anything in my size. I’m so tall there are never any pants my length and apparently tall people can’t also be skinny in the stores I frequent 🤦🏽♀️.
Right. Fat people can't be short. Whenever I found clothes for my perimeter, it was for someone 30cm taller than me. Can't clothes company realise that there exist many sizes in the world?
This. I’m 6’1” and 143 pounds. When I go shopping I can’t find anything that fits. They assume if you’re tall you’re also the size of a house. It’s ridiculous.
@@user-no9xy3xy8lSame but I’m 5’9” and 110lbs. I can’t wear dress pants without them looking lumpy at the waist because of how much I had to adjust them with a belt.
This is also pretty damn depressing. When I worked at a clothing store for adult women, it was a tad bit easier to work around heavier women, we had larger sizes. It was women who were very, very thin who were just out of luck. It was hardest when they would come in after cancer treatment and just not be able to buy the clothes they wanted
@@rosesweetcharlotteomg, that sounds terrible :( so many people lose a lot of weight after having health issues, having to scavenger for decent clothes probably doesn't make it any easier for them...
As someone with the waist width of a 3rd grader (seriously, I fit in some of my shorts I’ve had since 3rd grade) and the leg length of a men’s medium, it’s rough finding things that fit my proportions right 😭 (For reference I’m going into 12th grade this year)
This is why big girls many times look like they're wearing tents. It's either way too big or small enough for Thumbelina. So we opt for too big. A hat, earrings, anything to dress something up.
The amount of regrettable clothes I've grabbed just because they are my size is kind of embarrassing, but not as embarrassing aa hearing seams pop when I try on clothes at regular stores
@@fantasea114 uhh if clothes are falling apart whilst you're trying them on... it is the manufacturers fault lmao. Where are you buying such cheap crap that you think that's acceptable 💀
Im overweight but not obese, have been since young. My mother would take clothes I would show her at the store and tell me it was adorable and would look great on my skinny sister 😢 no cute clothes for me.
Okay but my mom would regularly tell me I couldn't try on clothes in the "petite" section because I was curvy as a young adult (not curvy anymore but thats not the point). 28 years !! later! i learn petite is HEIGHT BASED. I'm at or below 5'4. I'm literally the petite height /)_T
We have a women’s clothing store chain in Canada that sells nearly everything in XXS -3X and in petite, regular and tall lengths. I love getting my no longer have to hem plus size pants there.
Literally the only stores I shop at that don't carry plus-sizes are owned and operated by, like, a few people, and they don't carry XS either. Where are all of these stores that "Don't carry plus sizes"? Even Forever 21 carries plus sizes, and it's not the "old lady floral blouses and shoulder cutouts" either.
This is so sad 😢 im not too big but im not skinny and im very tall so my grandma sewed me a lot of custom tops and dresses because being thicker and tall clothes never fit right
I'm just looking for wherever they're selling the stomach covering part to all the clothes that are hanging at every store. And why are they asking full price for half a shirt? WHERE ARE THE MIDRIFFS AT? Are they being held hostage? Is there some way to negotiate for them so that my only choice isn't just a big t-shirt that still somehow feels like it's strangling me?
sizing is becoming literally insane. i go to a store now and i’ve put on a little bit of weight since i left high school, im a medium to large now and even i struggle to find stuff that fits at a reasonable price a lot of the time, can’t even imagine how much harder it must be for actual plus sized people
I know this feeling :( All my friends are way smaller then me, which is fine. But I don’t think they understand, that finding stuff in my size is like really hard when thrifting. Doesn’t make it any easier with texture problems lol 😅
Background: I have ME/CFS and fibro which make it extremely difficult to leave my room, let alone the house. Shopping is exhausting and it will leave me in a crashed physical state for several days- and that's with going on a good day. I have a complicated relationship with clothing. My proportions are a nightmare. Others tell me I'm very small or petite, but I don't see it. I feel like a thundering pigmy rhino bopping around the clearance section at Target. My chonky little legs, big hips and belly, and of course the boobs that could take someone out...yeah no. "Petite" doesn't fit the vibe. I gained weight VERY quickly (145 to 240lbs in less than six months!) and so I never got to know this new body as it grew. Suddenly NOTHING fit and I was left with nothing but PJ pants and some old t-shirts. I gave up on wearing jeans almost immediately and embraced the legging life. I could always trust my leggings to fit me, even as my weight fluctuated wildly. Bras were also forgotten and I just wear sports bras to keep the boobs from running wild. Various factors have caused me to start losing weight, so I just recently broke 200 and hit 195lbs. Maybe I will be able to get my old clothes out at some point?
