Sheikh Khalid Yasin gives a brief explanation about Polygamy (multiple wives) in Islam. This is taken from the lecture 'Some Advice to the Muslim Women' Produced by One Islam Productions www.1islam.net
The laws of Nature: Truly, I say man don't live by that law, but truly man lives by the words that proceed out of God mouth. Now we must see that this is the desire of the heart and one must quickly deal with: We must not wave our eyes away as Christians have done so in God presences, but this is truly a topic that one must engage with God, with the matter of heart.
at least all parties agree in fornication. the first wife voice does not matter at all, her consent isnt even considered. the man just goes on his way marrying as many women as he wants ....In this day and age, polygamy does not benefit society. Prove me wrong.
'''marry women,whom you think good '' two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then marry only one''' Al Quran Surah nisa 3
I’m a single parent and have been for many years this never crossed my mind when I was young and married, but now Subhan’Allah Allah has made me understand the benefits of sharing a husband. The sad thing is not enough men and women are on their deen enough to do this successfully I rate those who do. May Allah guide us with knowledge and patience to do the right thing Aameen.
Me too sister. When I was younger i hated men who practiced polygamy. Now I see the deep wisdom and need for it. We were programmed to think it's wrong and that it helps the man. All it really does for the man is feed his ego. The women win in the end.
@@JahannamHellfire If done in secret yes, if all people are happy it’s no one else’s business. Their are plenty of women that are going to be left childless and single, never will they experience having their own child. This can be the answer to a lot of modern day problems.
What happens if there are 5 women and only 2 men? Will 3 women live single and not have the opportunity to have a family? God has the solution....you dont. GOD knows his creation.
Sure there is, many divorced women and women with children struggle in finding a spouse. Allowing them to be a co-wife would allow them to easily find a husband. I also feel that Muslims have bought into 'culture' and attached a stigma to such sisters too but allowing polygamy (as one sister in a similar situation stated) would allow such sisters to find husbands.
Humaira Begum I agree with you, it’s ridiculous for a man to even think he can take care of one wife, no way he could be a good husband to more than one- plus, I’m sure that women would prefer to live alone rather than have to contend with her husband having multiple wives- as far as the single adult woman who wants children, there are so many children all over the world that need loving homes, and adoption would be the best thing for these children. A woman could live a much more peaceful life without a husband, in comparison to being one of many wives- talk about chaos!
Islam Explained oh great we helped so many women lol children are so happy knowing oh dad is with the second one sexing there tonight lol Let me make boy friends girl friend because dad playing making me all excited hahaha
Asalaamu alaykum, I encouraged my husband to marry a 2nd wife. He had no children I had 6 from my marriage before I became Muslim. He chose not to, but because of the marriage I had i truly just wanted a companion. MashAllah may Allah for give his sins and grant him Jannah. Ameen. My husband has returned to Allah but I learned a lot about myself from him.
@@djaz1054 very kind, but its my hope that Sisters will know love is not limited or less because of another Sister. Love deeper. Want for your Brother what you want for yourself. I live by it as much as I can. ❤
@U 571 thank you, but it is Allah who has made it To be. May Allah bring good in this world and the Hereafter and base your heart firmly upon faith and all your ibbadah be accepted. Ameen
alhamdulillah on my first steps being muslim ((2014-) i learned polygamy, why and so many why's was answered alhamdulillah, and never knew in future that Allah prepares me to be in polygamy marriage,(2016) and alhamdulillah all this years of being muslim and married into polygamous man, i can say i am blessed that Allah allows me understand about polygamy, my co-wife loves me for the sake of Allah and i love her for the sake of Allah, ❤️❤️❤️
@@alexianeves As-salaamu alaikum. Check out the "Outstanding Personal Relationships" channel. It will provide exactly what you're looking for. Insha Allah.
You should read up on some history young man/women about your beloved usa. The so-called whites of america invaded america 100's of years ago and slaughtered the people already living there. today they are still invading & slaughtering millions every due to false accusations of wmd or fake attacks made up & blasted through the devilish media. nothing has changed much. What hate speech....99% of Muslims preach peace. why dont you go listen yourself & stop watching fox & cnn..this is 'justice/
Polygamy can or cannot work depending on the parties involved. I get a bit tired of the generalisations. We can accept polygamy is part of Islam, that's pretty obvious. But as it is in England at least, it is VERY HARD for a man to provide for a family. And that's without even being extravagant. And the man really needs to be intelligent before going into this. Because if he is insensitive and selfish, treats one better than the other, that's going to be disastrous. I frankly struggle to get over a lot of things that happened to me when I was in polygamy. The more some sisters give the more arrogant some brothers can get when they get comfortable. Pretty tragic. In sha'Allah brothers behave better. Forget a woman's jealousy. A woman numbs herself after time and kills her emotions to get by. But everyone has a breaking point.
🙏 There's is always a way.. Put الله Allah first in everything and day by day..step by step things will get better.. ان شاء الله .. Thanks for sharing.. I will put an extra layer to the way I am to be better.. after reading this.. I think just like there are good woman there are also good men.. ان شاء الله you will attract the good man to come to you with your positive.. energy 🙏 I want to help .. I am here to help.. and everyone with a good intention.. is ready to help too.. الله is with you الله معاك 🙏
@@mknmohamed Salaam. JazakAllah khair for your kind words. Alhamdulillah for everything. There are good men and women of course, and we also make mistakes. But we always have hope in Allah, and He is the Best of Planners.
To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@ImranKhan-xh3hr do you remember the story: a man came to our Prophet sav and complained of poor life. Our Prophet advised: marry. Then he came again complaining and our Prophet said: marry. And again... the man started living good life after 3rd marriage. Sahabiys were not rich when marrying the 2nd 3rd or 4th wives. I dont think it s a criteria if the man can be just with all, which is not easy.
@@jamessmart5291 To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Imam Shaafi’i offered an additional exegesis for the final clause of the pivotal verse discussing the divine legislation of polygyny and the divine limitations imposed upon this ancient institution.[9] He espoused that the closing clause of verse 4:3, usually interpreted as ‘that is more suitable that you may not incline to injustice’ should be understood as ‘that is more suitable that you may not be financially strained by numerous children’. Imam Shaafi’i reasoned that divine decree had already listed fear of committing injustice as a reason to not wed more than once, hence it was pointless for the same reason (for not wedding more than once) to be expounded twice in the same verse. His alternative interpretation pursued the perception which held that the presence of a plurality of women in a man's conjugal life would produce undesirably large numbers of offspring, which could be a potential cause of financial hardship and poverty in the future. Given the emphasis that Islamic law stipulates on the welfare of children and nurturing children with permitted means of income, Imam Shaafi’i opined that it was legislated for a man to marry just once as an increase in the population of a family due to multiple marriages could potentially harbour harmful monetary consequences for the man who marries more than once.[9] Ash-Shaafi’i is of the view that it is desirable to confine oneself to marrying only one although it is permissible for him to marry more than one. This is to avoid being unfair by being more inclined to some of them than others, or being unable to financially support them. [al-Hawi al-Kabir 11/417].[11]
true, true. but why doesnt he mention the part that says if you are afraid of being unfair towards your wives than marry only one that is best for you. 4:3
truthwillrule X because he's a typical mainstream "sheik": speak for woman as 'special' cases and make men seem innocent. he's. not Islamic and not following Islam in the right way.
Soo the husband will be lier,if he does not tell his wife the truet about a nother wife and children,that's like if be is a cheater,and a big time liar if he is a Muslim and a true believer the he should be hones and fear Allah much in his heart::
again the womas is not hidden. It's just that he doesn't have to innform her before getting married so she doesn't get in the way. but we prefer that there is an understanding between husband and wife
Polygamy is not compulsory in Islam rather its allowed if someone wanted to practice polygamy or in certain circumstances which there are conditions that have to be fulfilled too, otherwise Quran says marry only one, it's permitted but not compulsory nor encouraged
I was excited to learn more about Islam and excited to marry a Muslim Brother. Now I'm just sick. I'm not strong enough to deal with this. Maybe this isn't for me.
He doesn't necessarily need to marry more then one tho so if he agrees that he'll marry only then its ok nothing to be sick about just human preferences
Don't be discouraged sis. This is a hot topic for all these men but most Muslim men don't actually practice polygamy. It's a fantasy for most of them. In fact, according to world stats the practice of polygamy has been steadily declining. Most Muslim men are only willing or able to be monogamous. So if you're serious about Islam and marrying a Muslim man, continue to do your research and find a man who isn't interested in polygamy. To make sure it's not just lip service, you can put a no-polygamy clause in the nikah contract. If he breaks it, you have the right to annul the marriage contract. Understand that polygamy is halal for Muslim men but it's not haram for us to not want to engage in that lifestyle. May Allah have mercy on us all & guide you to the beauty of Islam. All the best to you.
You don't need to go with poligamy if you Don't want. It is dependent to the permussion of 1st wife. It is matter if choice not must to do. It is allowed in Islam for the guy who is not satisfied with one
SubhanAllah...Allah has created all of humanity...Allah's wisdom is supreme...The creator knows us inside out and knows whats best for us, both men and women! Allah's laws are based on supreme practicality, wisdom, justice and fairness and not what we humans wrongly think as being right!!
Muslims Love For All Hate For None (Fight back with Love) My beloved sister in Islam. It's not for you to say you don't allow your husband. This is the Deen of Allah. Allah says , it's not befitting for one who believes in Allah and the last Day that when He and His messenger have decided on matter you have any say. This Deen is naseeha
Hayat Musa Wail I am bout to marry a married brother but my mum s against it but I wanna marry him for the sake of Allah...besides I 've never been married n never engaged in any illicit affair
I don't understand why people make an issue of polygamy in Islam as if prior to Islam men only married one wife. The common culture was to marry as many wife as you want. Islam put a limit with strict conditions of someone wants to marry more than once.
@@heewatamsuen7252 peace brother do u no in the bible that the king had over 300 wives. And the only religion that stated man was able to only 4, was only Islam
As Salaamu Alaykum Sheikh Yasin, I so enjoyed this information directed at the Muslimah in Palygamy. I was clapping and praising Allah all the way through your advise to my Sisters in Islam. You have been and still are a good source of information on this serious issue of sharing the love, etc of a married brother who has the desire for following the Quran and Sunnah of Islam, It is and was a pleasure listening and with clear explanation of this issue to receive a clear and truthful lesson on what Allah says and what His Prophet says in the Noble Quran and the Authentic Hadiths,. May Allah accept your fasting and continue to bless you with His Hikman and good and clear speech, Ameen. As Salaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatulilahi wa Barakatuh.
To be able to maintain the family. In Islam, it is necessary for a man who wants to marry one woman or more to be able to meet their feeding, drinking, clothing and housing expenses. The Prophet (PBUH) said the following: “O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry…” (Bukhari, Sawm, 10, Nikah, 2, 3, 19; Muslim, Nikah, 1,3; Abu Dawud, Nikah, I; Ibn Majah, Nikah, ; Nasai, Siyam, 43) There is no doubt that the hardship of marriage lies in the expenses of the wife. “You are never able to do justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire: but turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air).” (an-Nisa, 4/129) “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
You know before I used to think it was ok to mess around but since I fell in love, I know we can be with one person. Not every human is the one for you and sex isnt good with every person. You are blessed if God put's love in the man's and women's heart (who are married). People dont understand.
I needed to hear this so bad! Allah is speaking to me! Thank you Ameen I wish I could speak to one of the Nation of Islam elders about how it should be done correctly in being in a dual marriage!
I just want to thank the sheik and may Allah reward him with the best in jannah for his efforts. This talk opened my eyes SubhanAllah. HasbunAllah wa naam alWakeel!
You know what he is talking about ? if you are litrate enough to watch his video in here, I hope your god has given you the brain and use google, to find out the real statastics. Why, he is talking about western, as there is 0.50 :1 ratio in east. Now the question is Why. So many from your religion marry to 4. 4:1, leaving 3 people without a wife. LOL, you ideots , no one can help you. you loosers.
Yes, keep listening to the senseless jiberish this dumbas is feeding you like mindless goats, cos that's what any of you who actually considers what he says are!!
I am muslim.I have one wife until I leave this earth.Let me tell you something about muslims have to have so many wife.If you love them equally if you buy house one wife buy the other one the same thing, Al-Amin told us don't disrespectful to our sisters and don't abuse them.Only one man do that Al-Amin.Preach polygamy easy honestly practice very hard.A lot of men saw only the sexual aspect of it.There is no one verse in Koran said practice polygamy none zero.
I'm not against polygamy, I know it's permitted by Allah under certain conditions, but If man takes marriage seriously he should tell his first wife, it's the mature, responsible, and respectful way to go about it. Respect and trust is everything in any relationship. When you marry behind your wife's back you're destroying any trust there was between you. And that's not a small thing. Instead some men take a second wife and end up losing both. Most second wives divorce their husbands because regardless of what men say, their real intention when marrying a second woman is to have her around for sex. Once the second wife realizes that, she'll leave because no woman wants to be just a sex toy. The first wife might stay if she has kids. But in today's society where a lot of people don't live close to their parents, and children are raised either by one parent or both with little help, it would probably be easier to get a divorce and move close to your parents. It would be easier than raising kids with someone who's not there 75% of the time or more since a lot of men don't divide their time equaly. If one wife fulfills her duties but isn't happy, he'll just go to the other wife. Today's societal structure and the upbringing of most men and women isn't compatible with polygamy. And if we're being honest it usually creates more problems than it solves. The whole family breaks up, or hatred grows between family members. Do men even consider the sexual desires of their wives? How can you possibly satisfy four when most men can't satisfy one? They love talking about how women are a test for men and so men should get more wives, but then that becomes a test on the wife too, because she's alone all the time. Why would you be okay with the person you love being anguishes, depressed and suicidal if you really loved them? Men put their desires first and humanity second, and I don't believe that's how it was intended to be. The way muslim men talk about marriage and women tests my faith more than anything else. Men want to be by the book when it comes to their rights, but expect their wives to be considerate, thoughtful and reasonable when it comes to the wife's rights. So many women help their husband pay bills and stuff willingly even though technically they don't have to no matter how much money they make. If she doesn't help she's stingy and self-centered. Thankfully most men will never find someone who wants to be their second wife (halal sex toy). If men were really serious about bringing polygamy back, they would focus on bringing good men back.
TSOC calm down please. She could be a daughter of a father who has multiple wives and affected by it. The conditions that Allah put to have multiple wives are so difficult that no men can do it.
I feel sorry for your husband if you have one. You message is sounds polluted with your personal issues and illness you have regarding this issue. You always starts with.."I don't have a problem with it, but....." And 'halal sex you?! Where did you get this talk from? Even if we speak your immature language, then as least it's 'Halal' which is permitted by Allah! Sort your issues out and get a grip!
Marriage is not always about Sex. It should be an unselfish relationship. There is more to marriage than Sex. If a sister can't see beyond Sex, then she is not matured and have the wrong influences around her. She need to find some mature women who will help her to focus on the suna and Our Prophet, Mohammed, saw. It is a wise person who can take correction and a fool who despises it. They should focus on themselves instead of the attacking the person who is trying to help you to mature and grow. Change is a good thing and one who stays the same their whole life is still a child and need to grow up. People who can't change is called "Developmentally challenged or disabled. ;~)
The fear that is mentioned like there is not enough men(statistics)so settle and control your jealousy be an obedient sacrifice. GOD is an abundant GOD and your person is in the plan for you and your faith should give you the confidence of that. I don’t have a scarcity mindset when it comes to GOD but that’s just me. If this set up works for you great.
Yeah, it clears my mind too! I can't even being to measure all the brain cells that have died while I watched this video. Glad we could agree on something.
One of those rules should be if the wive(s) agree to participate in a polygamy relationship. God has given you permission to pursue polygamy if that is what you wish but you still need permission from the women as well because marriage is a contract and someone cannot be part of a contract if she hasn't first agreed to it. She is a person, not property.
Mariyam try to read in Quar an Surah 8:17 ,9:29,59:2 if your God command you to SLAY,KILL CAST TERROR IN THIER HEARTH...OF YOUR ENEMY..THAT IS NOT...GOD.
What about the verse that says if you can not do justice between wives, then you should marry only one? And what about the verse that says, you can never do justice between wives even if it's your heart's desire? That verse alone let's you know that you can't so you should take only one, y'all know it's there, some of y'all have memorized the whole Quran. How many of you righteous brothers would still take a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife, if you were only allowed to marry widows and single mothers? A lot of you brothers will have one shoulder higher than the other on the judgment day before being thrown into the hell 🔥 fire. In the end it will be your own lustful desires that ultimately destroy you.
2 things sister. 1. Rasulullah (alayhi salatu wa salaam) had more than one wife, and so did many of his contemporaries. So either you have the correct interpretation, or Rasulullah (alayhi salatu wa salaam) and the sahabah (radi allahu anhum) have the correct interpretation. It should be clear who does. 2. Be careful when talking about the punishment Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will inflict in someone, that is left alone to Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala). There is a hadith about a rightgeous man who was talking to another man who was not rightheous. The rightheous man said the other one was sure to end up in Jahannam. On the day of judgement Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will ask the rightgeous man about this. And he will tell him that judgement and punishment is left to him alone. In the end, all the good deeds the rightgeous man did will be credited to the other man, and he will enter Jannah, meanwhile the rightheous man will enter Jahannam. Just say Allahu alam. 'Cause it's true, Allah knows best, even everything I just wrote, Allah knows best. Salaam sister.
Safiyah Yasharahla “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” 4:129 this is the full ayah.
LOL so... did o you have an actual point or did you just wanna rant? Also.. my 2nd/3rd wife would only be widows or single mothers. There are lustful men out there but there are just as many good natured men if not more.
To inform first wife before second wife is a Good gesture and good faith It is Not Waaajeeb or Compulsion. This is Islam Take it or leave , a woman has the right to divorce. One cannot question the directives of Allah . Simple
Thank you for this video! I already know what is righteous in Islam. Allah blessed me to be introduced to polygyny as a child. I accepted it then, for our family, and InshaAllh, I shall now embark on this way of life for myself. This is to please Allah as well as to please my beloved husband. To follow the life of the Prophet Mohammed (MPBUH), is a vital part of worship to Allah. My future husband is everything a man should be. Why would I deny his right to have the wives he chooses? I would not! He does all he can in pleasing me and making my life comfortable, so he deserves the same in return!!!!
***** you do have a right if he didn't let you know before marriage that he was already married or he wants couple more wifes then consider it being fooled or cheated on. I personally would ask for a divorce because if you are smart enough you wouldn't get involved with him to start with but then Allah knows best talk to your local imaams
Debra, I am seeking a good wife like yourself. Unfortunately, I am not Muslim, but a good man I am. I follow only African Spirituality belief system of Maat. So I am a moral individual. I believe polygamy is a good solution for Black America because of the crisis they face from White Supremacy. As the Brotha Khalid stated, the ratio between men and women are way off and many of our women are left alone to fend for themselves. WE have to change this paradigm to create better stability and ease of life burdens. www.panafricanalliance.com/polygamy/#comment-9509
I’m here to see all the sisters comments.... 👀🌚 Masha’Allah this is an amazing lecture that covers so many things in this particular topic! All the women AND men of this Ummah need to watch this.
May Allah bless Sheikh Khalid Yasin and increase him in knowledge and wisdom. As a muslim woman I am in agreeance with the Sheikh on everything expect one point. I agree that the husband does not require permission of the wife, but I disagree that he does not need to let her know. She must absolutely be informed of any plans to introduce another wife into the family, and at this point the sister also has the right to seek patience with Allah - or remove herself in kindness from the situation if this is something she feel sincerely she cannot deal with. It is absolutely a deception to keep this information from her and I believe it is a sin, as you will knowingly and purposely be creating mischief in doing so. This allowance for multiple wives is a protection for the wives as we get older is it not right for our husbands to trade us in for newer models and leave us to the curb after we have sacrificed our youth, body and beauty for them, but they are permitted to take on another wife while still being obligated to take care of us and give us a fair amount of attention and affection. Similarly there are those sisters who rather struggle and be alone than share their husband and Allah has made a way for them as well, in divorce.
Asalaam Alaikum wa Rahmantuallahi wa Barakatu this is great talk. Instant all sisters listen and take heed so that the sisters, such as myself may find a husband.
We share a man whether by choice or not...I would prefer to be a second wife with this understanding. Than to be married to a man thinking I'm the ONLY woman in his life and find later he's a man who cheats...they are not the same
petra bach since I'm not a man, I can't answer that; perhaps you should ask one and see. The truth of the matter is; in the west the majority of men who do cheat on their spouses, don't give they're spouse a choice or say so. This behavior is deceptive & dangerous.
@@a.n_artstudio7814 ameen. The thing is I have small kids otherwise mashallah I am beautiful and a good woman alhamdulilah. Once he remarries I will leave inshallah
@@user-ve4zw6jp9i get out of that marriage i hope you are safe with your kids and you find an amazing husband with 0 wives and he feels complete with you and your kids
@@Samsamchicc ameen . Thank you . I doubt there is many real ones out there . For now my rent is being paid and my kids dont interact with him at all but I ask Allah for what is good for us insha Allah
if anyone sees this I have a question. Near the end of this video he said no one can question a man on choosing another wife, regarding his time, his money etc. No one should question him, but a man I know secretely married another woman. He didn't tell her, and when she discovered it he lied to her and said he didn't. First of all his first wife also had mental illness, e.g depression and anxiety because she was widowed in her early 20s. So being decieved by his actions had severe emotional implications for someone who is already mentally weak. So how can this advice be good in such a case? Secondly, he by no means has the finances to uphold his first family as well as a new one... but he determines himself he can have another wife for his own needs. He never gave his first wife her rights as a wife, nor his children e.g providing for them, but chooses to for his second wife. In such a case some of this advice cannot apply...?
Maybe he wants more wives. this has nothing to do with public advice. Because he did not tell the men their responsibility only their right to have many women they want and that is very dangerous advice 😒😒😏😏
A K Obviously this man is not man enough to even look after the first, Brother Khalid mentioned that a Man no doubt he was referring to a real Man and not one who is a irresponsible and gives his first wife a dogs life.
i disagree, i think even though the husband doesnt need his wifes permission, she should know that he has a second wife. Husbands cant just keep a secret second wife somewhere, thats lying. Everytime he goes to visit her or her child he would have to lie
+Wai Ai Yu no it IS mandatory, taking permission is mustajaba. Letting the wife know that she isnt his only wife is fard. Because its a lie to tell your wife that shes ur only wife when in fact shes not. Zakir naik gave a talk on this a few months back
Men just want their cakes and eat it - they don't like the housework or responsiblity to look after the house (they should look after the work/house) women look after kids/house/work) not 2nd husbands. The males they rather go around to another house to concubine the 2nd female and make more kids! That is the truths of it.
Sadia Ahmed be careful with saying something is "Fardh" coz by saying that, you are implying that there is a verse in the Quran regarding it. In your claim, there isn't one! Only a statement in the Quran can make something Fardh. If it doesn't exist in the Quran, its not Fardh! Thank you.
He didn't say he should never tell her. What he means is that he can wait until after he has married the second before telling the first wife, so that the first wife would not prevent him from marrying the second wife.
Have it been forgotten that ALLAH SUBHANA WA TA 'ALA declare 4 wives as a limit, but conclude to that verse by stating that ONE (wife) is best if man only knew....
@@haruyanto8085 And the sexual misery of men today is on the rise. Polygamy concerns only a minority of men and it is done in the form of fornication, not marriage. The overwhelming majority of women choose only the prettiest and richest men. Even among Muslims today the divorce rate is high cuz men are not pious and commit adultery with other women.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said: وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِى الْيَتٰمٰى فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ مَثْنٰى وَثُلٰثَ وَرُبٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذٰلِكَ أَدْنٰىٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا "And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]." (QS. An-Nisaa 4: Verse 3) When Allah Subhana tala said marry once and this way the possibility is more that you won't do unjustice . Clearly if one can't do justice he should marry only once , clearly men nowadays can't do that.
Qur'an is the only book that said "Marry only one" According to Islamic laws, marrying more than one is "Optional" and the rule for that is to be "just". An Islamic Scholar Shafii said, "When the rule is corrupted, the only action is corrupted". It should be noted that Polygamy is not compulsory or encouraged act, it is "permitted". Even the close companions of the Prophet did not practise it. This video is there to educate us about the advantages of polygamy not reinforcing it.
Karolein Jorgensen Polygamy is a practice that only makes sense at the macro level in certain situations (such as when famine or war reduces the availability of able husbands), whereas men are likely to take advantage of such institutions for their own gain if it is common. So, God provides for polygamy as an alternative, but only orders that His followers use it in certain situations.
The prophet's daughter Fatima's husband, Ali, wanted to take a 2nd wife but she objected to his 2nd marriage so the Prophet told Ali that if he wanted to marry a 2nd wife, he would have to divorce Fatima 1st. So, he did not marry a 2nd wife and stayed with Fatima.
Yes, that's a good example, he has to respect her feelings too, Sheikh did mention that, as far as I remember he didn't have to divorce Fatima but Prophet Muhammad PBUH said that Ali would be going against his wishes too, in this case, if a Muslim man is deciding whether or not to take another wife he must consider the opinion of his first wife's father/wali
Islam and Muhammad are not Saudi Arabia....Saudi Arabic is a corrupt government that works closely with the US and Israel. And you are wrong about having more than one wife...
May Allah fill our hearts with patience and fear of Allah, as a first wife I can't go against what Allah has allowed, that's what a muslimah who submits to Allah's will. May Allah make it easy for us all.
What about the woman that like women, the women that join the military, the women that don't want kids, what about the women on drugs, the women in jail, the women with men of different races, but I respect your opinion brother
These words sound beautiful. But how manage emotions when husband married younger one? How manage feelings about he married other because I am old, the same with him age. How manage wet eyes fŕom his mistakes regarding to be ok to all? I pray, yes, I ask Allah to help me, but unfortunatelly in mostly cases when husband has more than one, it is good for him only. Maybe there are and happy families, I don't argue, may Allah bless them. I really need a help, I don't have opportunities to go to the therapist. Maybe some one can recomend some book or video about this topic. I will be greatfull.
May Allah make it easy for our sisters. But if you want to understand that it is not for his benefit only, when yours gets a second, leave him for the second wife and u remain without a husband. ..
I mean I kinda wish this was true but I looked up demographics on Wikipedia and it didn’t say the west was 2.5 females to one men. And it said overall even there’s more men in the world
Wikipedia isn't reliable, use statistia, it actually depends on which country but I've heard and read that in the west it's mostly about 2 women to 1 men, since women live longer, suicide rate for women is much much lower and there's a growing trend for western men to marry women from other regions
The message is an excellent. Alhamdulillah. Having spent my early years as a Catholic, polygamy was difficult to conceive, and I saw the effects of secret paramours on marriages. I accepted Islam and polygamy as Allah's command. Living in the west, it was, at first, hard to think of my spouse taking another wife, especially since, the newcomer's attitude often is.." something must be wrong with you if he wants me". Alhamdulillah, some brothers have the wisdom to involve his wife in his choice and decision and harmony prevails, especially if the husband fulfils his responsibility properly. Brothers need to see polygamy as a means of being responsible and fulfilling his duty as shown by the Prophet SAW. We need to see the justice in Allah's plan and submit. Brothers who CANNOT afford to maintain another wife, should NOT take on what he cannot deal with, abusing his wives in the process.
I don't think polygamy is good at all. From what I read the Quran presents polygamy as an exception rather than the rule and it's implied that it's a last resort of sorts. I personally don't see the wisdom in polygamy especially in this day and age.
Allah knew about this day and age so you need to be very careful not to make a comment that can take you out of Islam. If Allah says something is good for us then it is even if we do not understand or see the wisdom in it. This is a common problem today, especially with those living in the west have lost sight of what Islam is all about and adopted the ways of the kuffar. Allah Knows Best
IM a woman convert and I live in the us and I am my husbands second wife . Alhamdulillah...... Mashallah .brother this video is amazing and very touching.
It is simple, sisters if your man marries a second wife, just leave him if u cannot handle polygamy. Look for a single man. But it is not your right to.stop him, it is your right to leave him and stay alone
Yes brother I agree with you . Some time we achieve things as a team which we cannot achieve as ones and some time we destroy our lives for our egoes and satanic thinking.. agreeing with polygamy or not is one thing but people's called themselves Muslims and still critising Islam and Allah's commondments in accordance with our limited knowledge and thinkings is so bad and calling for a dustrucion upon ourselves I believe.
alhamdulilahi..thanks for the upload but no matter what some people will always find hypocrisy in whatever we do or say just cos we muslims..look at the big picture
Why do some Muslim men think polygamy is the priority in this. Believe me if you need your soul to be at rest in the here after you will stick to one wife.
@@danyald6103 How i exist only out his sheer love and mercy ( there is none worthy of worship except Allah & Muhammad pbuh is his last slave & messenger ) ! When i was Mr or Mrs No body am still functioning
No offense, but the way you counted the 7.5:1 ration for men:women is utterly ridiculous. About 47% Americans are unmarried. This nonsense ratio will never concur. And if you could pls provide Quranic proof to say (In you traditional inherent rendition) that a man can marry a woman unless they are Al-Yathama or fatherless children I will give you, any of you my respect. I mean Quranic proof, not just belief or explanations without scriptural proof. And please explain why you are not quoting the full verse. It does not say "Marry women of your choice". When we Muslims ask Christians to quote their bible in context all the time like parrots why arent we following our own request? Where is the part about fatherless children or orphans? And Mathna, Thulatha, Rubah does not mean 2, 3 or 4, rather it means twos, threes or fours. Know your own scripture or rather dont change your scriptural meaning to support your cause. I dont mean to offend anyone but these are facts in the Furqan. Peace.
