For that person who needs to see this... If you are a widow i.e you're involuntarily having to raise your Son by yourself... I don't think apostle means that your son will be a failed man because there's no father... Here's what you do Encourage him to have male mentors, have your brother (if you have any) have a place in your sons life, that is if you're sure of your brother's values o... Encourage him to be close to masculine figures that will positively impact his life Dear Single Mom that didn't have a choice YOU ARE RAISING A KING YOU ARE HELPED BY GOD❤️
The very first thing I heard him said that saddened me, having to do many jobs, prayers, discipline to train my sons alone. My brothers who grew up with me are successfully married and are not petty, There is also a God factor in all of this.
Practical things before marriage: 1) Maximize your singleness 2) Marriage is a journey 3) Heal before you deal - Overreacting to things means you are seeing someone else in your spouse - Heal process ( Seek the Holy's spirit to mend your heart, your partner does not have to deal with your traumas) Heal and forgive ( Don't give the devil a foothold in your life by not forgiving them) 4) Learn submission ( Women who do well in marriage is the one who understands submission) We have to submit to wise head
This is so true,I saw myself turning into a toxic person because of an emotionally immature boyfriend who was a serial sexual offender,I became violent to the extent of lifting a knife threatening to kill him several times,he could embarrass me in public,I dumped him several times but he kept coming back,he knew I loved him and he could manipulate his way back into my life through my daughter 😢 but I thank God for setting me free from that foolish love before I could make the biggest mistake of my life,am now single and more sane,working on myself,consciously on my healing journey. I now know better and I value my mental health more
Keep healing in Christ...I've been there myself, also healing and God has been faithful. The Lord will give you peace in Him and your own husband after God's heart. The Lord continually be with you, keep you, transform you and meet you at every point of your needs in Jesus mighty name.
Things you need to know as a woman before marriage: 1.Heal 2.Submit 3.Be financially stable -Friendship 4.Know basic homekeeping 5. Know God Things men need to know before marriage: 1.heal 2.financial stability 3.emotional maturity 4.understand the female species 5.get purpose right
00:03 Preparing for marriage through practical teachings 02:59 Marriage is for complete individuals, not those who need another to complete them. 08:30 Ensure emotional intelligence before marriage 10:57 Authenticity before marriage is crucial 16:23 Heal completely from your past before marriage. 18:51 Healing is crucial before dealing in marriage 23:12 Emotional trauma needs healing and forgiveness for personal growth. 25:24 Don't carry emotional baggage into your marriage 29:43 Submission in marriage and its misconceptions 31:41 Take responsibility and understand the totality of marrying someone. 36:22 Be a woman your husband can trust and rely on. 38:25 Be financially independent before marriage 42:55 Sense compatibility and intellectual space are crucial for a successful relationship. 45:17 Practical steps for a successful marriage 49:50 Maintaining cleanliness and order in the home is crucial for a successful marriage. 52:22 Understanding the importance of prayer in marriage 56:29 Men need to bring more than just physical appearance to the table. 58:45 Men are often raised not to show their fears or emotions, leading to emotional struggles and difficulties in expressing love. 1:03:27 Communication is key in marriage 1:05:38 Men need emotional healing too 1:10:25 Understanding a woman's love language, including the role of money 1:12:49 Prepare financially and responsibly before marriage. 1:17:22 Men need financial security and emotional maturity before marriage. 1:19:28 Lack of emotional maturity leads to neglect and suffering in marriage. 1:23:23 Emotional abuse can be more harmful than physical abuse in a marriage. 1:25:26 Don't excuse mediocrity and be cautious in choosing a partner. 1:29:52 Understand the female species before you marry 1:32:07 Happy wife, happy life. Speak well about her, don't compare with anybody. 1:37:00 Communication is key in marriage 1:39:31 Get purpose right before marriage.
I'm single and been avoiding anything about marriage video cause I want to concentrate with God,but I just woke up this midnight to pray n got back here,❤
I've decided to go into a relationship this December after 8yrs of REAL breakup but listening to this message I realized that I was making the same mistake with this new person in my life because I don't talk, I tolerate all even though I know I am not comfortable with the act. Now I got it that a close mouth is a close destiny... Talking doesn't mean you don't respect or love your spouse but it brings out the best in them.
You better talk so he gets to know the real you. Cos one day you will start talking cos you will eventually explode if you keep bottling things up. If you are not talking then he doesnt know who you are. The issue is not to keep quiet but to learn how to communicate your feelings n opinions respectfully. You also need to set boundaries. A man who loves you will respect your opinion and boundaries
It’s been a beautiful journey of immense joy filled with revelations and healings since I started dating Jesus, I will date him until he personally hands me over to the man he has handpicked for me.
I use to be like that, I accept anything, I don't talk or react to negative actions, even when I'm hurt I hold it in claiming I want peace. But the day I realised that the peace is meant to start from within me I stopped. I stopped doing those things and I'm doing fine
First time listening to your message and it has really enlightened me…I love the fact you did not leave any stone unturned and did not hide anything all in the name of spirituality. I like how you handled this session thank you Sir
I am 'complete' in Christ. It is difficult to expect love from others without first understanding the love of God. You will frustrate the people because they can't give you what 'only' Christ gives. Only God should give you meaning.
Thank you Pastor Lazarus. The calmness with which you release this God given wisdom is a praise to God. Thank you Holy Spirit for blessing the body with your Sons with this Son.
Man of God, stay forever blessed. I told my son today that I am amazed at how practical you are with your messages when you teach or preach, drawing examples from your own marriage that I am sure many men of God never carry with them to the pulpit. I am forever grateful that I came across your messages, I have answers to a whole lot now. Thank you
Can't lie he looked intimidating on the thumbnail but I'm so glad I watched this👏 yeah he covers men and women's sides but essentially it's about the human heart plus being healthy and whole.
Marriage is not just a destination, it is a journey that requires a lot of equipping more importantly because the quality of the time the life you lived depends on it. Blessings Apostle 🙏🙏
1,Heal from your past completely before you deal,2,learn submition as a woman, 3,be financially independent prov 31vs 10,if you don't have a job, what you need is work not marriage, Breakup happens, 4,learn basic home etiquettes/knowledge, be a home keeper, 5, know GOD, be a prayerful wife, apart from been a fine girl, what else can you bring to the table. MEN 1,Heal from baggages/Trauma,real men are whole men and whole men are scarce,2,Be financially mature,you need money as a man,In anything you do as a lady,never marry an irresponsible man, 3, Have Emotional maturity,4, understand the female species/Gender before you marry her, Happy wife, happy life, 5,Get your purpose right.
Thank You Sir for this gem... At some point tears where in my eyes because of how direct, truthful and realistic this message has been.... You've helped me regain balance and clarity on how life should as a man.... God bless you sir
I cried at the start too when I realised how much baggage I've been carrying, childhood trauma and past partners trauma and now I'm struggling with letting people in and being vulnerable, we trust God for his healing though...
Emotional Maturity fights 1.Abadonnment 2.Loneliness 3.Deprivity 4.Nakedness 5.Physical,Emotional and psychological abuse 6.Disregard 7.Mentally derangement.. Thanks you sir for this
This series is just an eye opener for me. What a word... Jesus... Now I see reason behind my actions and acts.... God pls just take over. Thank you Apostle.
At 21:01 to 21:20, the Apsotle was speaking to me 😭… But thank God that my mom and I are healed and restored, it’s actually amazing what God has done for us 😭🙌🏾
There's so much healing to be experienced from this teaching for anyone who listens to this teaching... Whooosh🔥🔥 Thank you Apostle for sharing such depth.
I was married for 18yrs and it was very difficult for me to express myself to my ex husband. He filed for a divorce when I was going through work stress in investigations and at the same time, I lost my dad.
I am blessed and my decision as regarding choosing a partner and being the right partner for my spouse is taking a new & positive approach through your teachings sir..More Grace sir …I am so grateful
This here is a life and game changer for me. Thank you so much sir for standing for the truth and delivering God's message to His children. May God be with you forever.
God bless you sir, I am really blessed and this basics will help me a lot before going into it. I really do appreciate your sincerity honestly not all pastors will say some personal things while they were dating or even in their marriages and for the fact that you balanced the two gender that was awesome. You're indeed a blessing to this generation of ours. Thank you once again. ❤
‘Love and Vows’ took another dimension. These are ‘practical’ things every couple and intending couples should sit with, in preparation for a great and peaceful home. God bless you Apostle for sharing this light.
