I had mine at 20 😅😅 While it’s much easier physically and it’s easy to “bounce back” we’re definitely not in the ideal place financially and have to wait a while before having another. Also we get judgement and it doesn’t help that we look even younger than we are. There are definitely pros and cons.
I conceived at 36.. didn't have insurance until 5 mths so I did the most minimal check ups.. Went for my 14 weeks, anatomy scan & got checked into a birthing center at 30 weeks. I believed my baby was healthy bc I did all I can so u didn't obsess over what could go wrong bc even if things went wrong are u prepared for the angst you would be putting yourself through?.. There's no reason to manifest those energies in the air ladies. YOU GOT THIS. YOU WILL GET PREGNANT. YOU WILL HAVE A HEALTHY BABY. AN AMAZING SAFE DELIVERY & A WONDERFUL MOTHERHOOD CHAPTER 💜
UPDATE:: Ladies, I'm on baby #2. 🤭 14 WKS & 6 MTH PP. 💕💕 Didn't anticipate the short gap but hey... I did start a little later so I'm just catching up 😂🤣😂 THIS IS UR SIGN!!! DONT GIVE UP 🤰🏽 Dustin' on all y'all wanting babies!! ✨🔮🪄🌌
It’s important to recognize (1) all of this is increased RISK, meaning a higher percentage of AMA women have these issues than non-AMA women- it does NOT mean it definitely will happen. Dr Ali, I think it would help people feel a lot less scared if you told us the difference in absolute risk. The likelihood of these issues at any age is still very low. And (2) there are a lot of other factors that affect the health of your baby more than just your age. I got pregnant for the first time at 40, but I’ve been healthy and physically active my whole life, and my doctor straight up told me she’d rather have a healthy older woman than a young woman who wasn’t taking care of herself, in terms of maternal and fetal outcomes. Finally (3) it’s not like 35 is some magic number where if you’re 34 and 11 months everything is fine and then you hit 35 and all hell breaks loose. Biology doesn’t work that way. Things slowly break down as you age, but exactly when and how that happens is different for every person and depends on their genes, preexisting conditions, etc. So let’s stop shaming women who chose to get pregnant at older ages for somehow “harming” their babies. And let’s also stop scaring the sh*t out of them!!
Thank you so much 🙏 I needed to hear this. ❤️ I'm 35, have 2 year old and badly desire her to have a sibling. I'm active, take good supplements, and a picky health conscious eater. I'm so sick of hearing about all the stigma around "AMA" pregnancies. Your health level and genetics DO play a huge role!
Had my first at 20 and we’re definitely waiting but likely not that long. Deffo 6+ years though. My MIL says that’s too large an age gap between siblings but I really don’t think we’ll be ready until we’ve fully sorted ourselves out. 😅😅 Poor babe will be an only child for a while but I feel young enough to where she might see me as a sister 💀 I see my mum as a sister and she’s nearly 32 years older than me 😂
37 yr old here. Going on my 34th week. All my genetic testings and other tests came out negative. I also dont have preeclampsia or gestational diabetes. We also got pregnant naturally. I still work out around this time, biking and weight lifting. Im glad my husband and I waited tonhave kids. Dont be too scared to wait, its okay. Uou know yourself more than others. Have kids when you're ready. Just because youre over 35 doesn't mean you'll have a complicated pregnancy. Part of it is also genetics but also a lot of it is lifestyle. Try to be positive and gave a healthy lifestyle as much as you can. If youre trying to get pregnant and You're reading this, i will you all the best. And happy pregnancy to all the pregnant mamas ❤❤❤
I'm 38 and currently 17 weeks pregnant with our 4th and last baby. All our genetic testing came back with low risk and negative. This is my 2nd pregnancy being considered AMA. Our 3rd baby was born when I was 35. They have me do my anatomy scans with a Maternal Fetal Medicine doctor and all the ultrasounds and NST's starting at 36 weeks. I'm so glad we waited to have children later personally because we are financially ready for children, more so than we were in our 20's. Plus if we didnt decide to have this last baby we would have never had our only son. We have 3 daughters and this last baby is our little boy💙
I married late, and now I’m 33 going to be 34 early next year. I’m worried that my clock is ticking and at the same time don’t know if I will be a good mother.
This is your year babes. I waited & I didn't conceive until 36 😊 Make sure you're making the moves to support these vibes & this energy though... Take the prenatals, eat healthy & clean, stop vices like drinking etc. It's coming for you. I feel it 💜 good luck
Same here. I waited for 7ys after marriage. Now i realised it's getting late. I need to hurry up. Im 37yrs now. Recently I Conceived naturally immediately after trying 2months but i had miscarriage in 7th week. So im trying again now.
I got pregnant at 35 and had a miscarriage now I am 37 and 16 weeks pregnant and everything looks good all my genetic testing has come out negative or low risk. I truly believe I will have a healthy baby without any complications. I know society scares you if you’re pass 35 yrs old. But my mother-in-law had two beautiful healthy babies passed age 39. My friend had a healthy baby at 39 I have another friend who had two healthy pregnancies, pass the age of 37. I hate that I’m considered High Risk just because of my age when everything else is healthy.
My mom has a cousin that had each of her kids past 35 and they’re both fine! I also know other female friends of my parents that had kids past 35 and they’re both fine.
I had a baby (conceived naturally and easily) in my late 30s. I know tons of women like me, late 30s or early 40s, who have had healthy pregnancies and perfect babies.
I had 5 babies at 35 and older, and never had extra ultrasounds or non stress tests. Thank God I didn't have to go through that. Perhaps because they werent my first?
Extra ultrasounds are generally more for in your fourties. I didn’t have extra for the ones in my thirties except for my second because I had been in Mexico…and they saw multiple holes in the heart.
@@ngs5554 neglectful it just extra stress and it not good for the baby or you ...i hate them it not needed unless you are having complication and many health issues .i just want my baby scan and know the gender so i can go shopping and i with the picture of scan too and my rh injection! the rest is not needed not my first pregnancy.
I wish this myth would die: I'm 43 years old, this is my first kid, and everything has gone 200% well. I am the healthiest I've ever been mentally and physically. I'm in a great place in my career and have the resources to provide well for my child. I am mentally ready to start this new chapter and have no regrets about what I have left undone now that my kid will be the #1 priority for years to come. No gestational diabetes. No high blood pressure. Anterior placenta, but no further complications there. In other words, there's no reason to assume that everything is going to go sideways because you're 35+!!! Please note that the "35" as the end of it all is (a) based on very outdated studies and no longer based in current, sound science; (b) not shared by doctors in most of the rest of the world. Please worry more about staying healthy: get all your hormonal and blood tests before trying to get pregnant; start taking prenatal vitamins and other steps for great fertility at least 3 months before you plan to get pregnant; if it's taking you a long time to get pregnant, please have your male partner check his sperm/fertility too, and don't assume it's your eggs/body that are the cause.
@@keyboarddancers7751 That can happen regardless. My mother was way younger than that. My parents broke up, neither ever had kids with anyone else, hence me being an only child.
I actually developed preeclampsia with my pregnancy when I was 18 years old, due to high blood pressure and protein in the urine. 🙁 delivered at 33 weeks
My ObGYN told me that age is just one factor. Overall health, your nutrition, genes, etc. all plays a role here. There could be very sick 22year olds having trouble vs. a really fit 40 year old. It depends on the person. I know ao many women conceiving easily well up until 40, my best friend with 39 on the first try. I am 37 and pregnant with my last kid. My grandma had her last at 46 - she said back in her day it was normal to conceive until it wasn't possible anymore. All healthy children.
I appreciate the info in this video. I feel like my prenatal care has been sorely lacking. Very disappointed given this is my first experience at 36yo. So far, very healthy with no complications but my providers have really only focused on potential complications arising even though there have been no signs or symptoms or existing risk factors other than being 36yo. Overall the only negativity this whole time has come from my prenatal care. Very frustrating. Praying for a natural and nontraumatic delivery, due in 2 weeks.
Thank you. This video uplifted my spirit. I'm 36yrs old ttc our 3rd baby. I just took out my non-hormonal iud. I hope I get pregnant right away. I'm nervous. I had my 2 boys in my early 30s with no issues.
@Relle LB I got pregnant right away unfortunately I had a loss and then I got pregnant right away and I am 33wks right now. I can't wait to meet my little man. Sending baby dust your way. Track your ovulation and do the deeds 😜, and I promise it will happen.
I had my first son at 25, and now I’m 40 and pregnant again. I’m high risk but still doing a vaginal birth unless something goes wrong. Your age doesn’t matter.
YES, I totally agree with you!!! I hate it when people ask me that (it's common in Asian culture and I hate it) It's a negative connotation when an Asian woman doesn't have a kid. (not sure if that's common in many other cultures?)
My hubby and I are hoping for our third baby,but I will be 35 in March. I also had GDM with both pregnancies and one miscarriage before my first was born. I’m terrified of potential risk for baby and I. I have two perfect healthy babies and I don’t want to be greedy,but my heart feels like there’s one more in the cards. Thank you for the informative video.
I certainly hope this video didn’t make you feel “too old for a baby”! If it’s something you truly desire and want then it’s 100% okay!! I hope you feel more informed and more ready for the future!
I just turned 30 and had my first kid at 21. I’m nearly done with school and ready for another kid I’m starting to freak that I’m getting old and my eggs are dying. Thanks for the reassurance
For any female who’s watching this video. The most important thing to do is to get to know your body. Is not expensive and you can learn so many important factors on RU-vid/internet. Just starting to understand your cycle and get to know when you’re ovulating is the first step. Then if you have the money is to visit your doctors to see any medical issues. Honestly what’s more scary is how little females know extremely information. My female friends in their late 20’s ask me the most ridiculous questions about ovulating. Some don’t even know when is their period coming.
I will be 35 by the time I finish my medical training. I'd like to be an attending before I have kids if I decide I want them. Are there any pre-conception genetic testing options available? Thanks for an informative and helpful video
@@alirodmdI couldn’t find the video on pre conception testing on your channel. Would you please make a video about it? Thank you so much for sharing all your knowledge ❤️
All i know, is id be mortified if my child and wife died in the same day all because we wanted kids. It makes me feel selfish for risking the the lives i treasure the most in that moment. Id rather risk my money, that can be replaced. Just be carefull please, i want us as human to keep repopulating! Take care of yourselves health wise, as previously stated. I love women and seeing families with with babies/kids loving happily. I yearn for this so much. Just feels so fleeting sometimes knowing what can happen. Worst kind of gamble, in my opinion. Once its started theres no going back! Men need to be ready and healthy and women need to be healthy and ready for what may come. No more sensless deaths. Innocent should not suffer, so please, as stated in the video, freezing is the best bet. Much love and good luck
Issues aren't guaranteed for particular mom, it's just % of risk increasing. Still for each random person it depends on health and luck, because nobody has 100+ babies to check statistical number. Only guaranteed complication is paying 500$ out of pocket for genetics testing 😂. But this is needed.
Hi there so I have had 4 normal vaginal births and my last one was actually july 2019. I'm curious if you think having my last one in 2022/23 would be ok?? considering I'll be 36 in Feb. 2022 and would like to conceive this year but have it 2023... what are your thoughts
It’s like “don’t worry, you’re perfectly fine, it’s gonna be easy peasy” then proceeds to dump a million very negative things as a result of “AMA”. Scary.
Just found out im pregnant at 37. And my state doesnt allow abortions & will prosecute if you dont seek prenatal care & end up miscarrying. This is our 4th baby & i lost my medicaid for 3 months & condoms didnt work well enough obviously. Im terrified.
When you setup a preconception appointment , especially for a mom who had complications from a previous pregnancy, would the doctor ever advise against another pregnancy? I had pre eclampsia with my first pregnancy and have been told by other moms that had it as well with their first, went on to have another baby and did not get preeclampsia again.
Probably only if there is a very high risk that the woman could die a doctor would advice against having children. Surely this is very rare. Preeclampsia is not a condition that cannot be controlled. If you had previous pregnancy complications it does not mean you will have them in subsequent pregnancies, but the risk is higher compared to a woman that had no complications at all. You would probably be monitored more closely. The important thing is to keep your doctor informed of all health conditions you have or had in the past and get proper prenatal care.
Hiii🥰 this is a great question! The younger we are when we freeze embryos (meaning the health of the egg used is younger) the lower the risk of chromosomal abnormalities. As far as pregnancy outcomes kinda like I said in the video, for the mother it’s going to depend on her personal health. As we age we’re more likely to develop medical conditions, but if we remain healthy etc then those risks go down. I hope I’m explaining this well!
I had our 5th birth at 34 yrs old. At our sonogram I was saying I was thrilled I wasn't AMA, missing it by a year, so when I was called a geriatric pregnancy, I quickly corrected them. It was twins, and I didn't know AMA is lowered to the age to 34 for multiples. My husband laughed and asked, "How does it feel to get old in 10 minutes?" 🤣🤣 Our pregnancies over 35 weren't successful. I had an ectopic pregnancy at 38 and a miscarriage at 41 so very happy we had our family before age 35.
In most industrialised countries, we've become socialised into the 'small family' norm. The typical earliest age for a first pregnancy is 30 which leaves only a few years in which to have more than 1 or 2 children. In order for a modern economy to flourish well into the future, the fertility rate needs to be at least 2.1 children per woman. Japan, South Korea and china are the most extreme examples of what can happen to a country's demography when fertility rates fall well below this figure but most other countries are following a similar trajectory. Stephen J Shaw's *Birthgap* is just one of a growing number of documentaries and commentaries which address this existential issue. We need to be honest in the message that's conveyed to young girls about human biology so that they can make a very clear and genuinely well informed choice as to what age they decide to start to have children.
As a young mum I’ll say it’s hard but you also feel a great sense of motivation to provide for your child and a big sense of optimism for the future? And another bonus is I don’t feel like my life is over because I really didn’t have much to start off with 😂 I definitely feel there is judgement though. I can only imagine the judgment older mums receive.
The earth's carrying capacity has been reached. We don't have an issue with a declining birth rate. The earth would do better if there were less people on it.
@@Nashbash4397 The distribution of wealth and resources around the world is very uneven thus many people fare very badly compared to others. Most countries' populations will continue to rise for quite some time but they will be much more aged populations which will stifle/stunt economic and technological progress.
Dr. Ali, please can you do a video on PMS and Severe PMDD please? It has/is ruining my life and the lack of awareness and education on this is also not helping. The gynecology department don't treat it properly, they think it's more a psychiatry issue and vice versa or the psychiatrist thinks my GP should deal with it and the psychiatric nurses don't seem to believe it at all as being so bad to impact ones functioning for two weeks. I asked to be referred to endocrinology to see what they think and they dismissed that. So in the end I've got so much worse due to them trying an extreme treatment on me without warning me of how it could make everything worse initially. They gave me 3 month injection of Decapeptyl to switch my ovaries off therefore a chemical menopause Then I had to start tibilone for the severe side effects eg hot flushes. Thankfully this will no longer be in my system in 3 weeks and I wont be getting any more of this injection However, that means I'm back to where I was but worse off having tried everything and been in and out of the psychiatric hospital and general hospital since this injection for how bad my symptoms became. Now I will need to just suffer with PMDD 😢 and if this is what menopause is like I don't wanna live til that age. I'm near 32 and I've not got any proper help for any of this. I would love if you'd put a video up of your view on this as someone educated in it and also raise awareness of PMDD and how it is not really recognised or believed. I was told I should keep busy and therefore my hormones won't impact me (by a female psychiatrist who turned out to be pregnant at the time) it's like she had no sympathy at all. I don't want to die young because of this condition. I nearly did last week and was hospitalised. It's horrendous. My PMDD takes two weeks out of my month which means half of my year goes to this awful illness. All of 2023 was a hormonal trial period for me and it's nearly killed me. It's way to dangerous. Much appreciated Thank you
Age 35 and ttc baby #3... I've been super stressed thinking I'm too old to conceive again in the first place. Hoping that isn't the case and I still have a little more time.
This is a myth. Sone babies move a lot, others almost don't move at all, only once or twice a day. The important thing is to recognize the pattern and to feel the baby move every day.
32 yo TTC our first baby. We’ve been trying for 4 months now. I’ve had a chemical pregnancy and another time I felt like symptoms such as heightened smell were present and I was optimistic but I got my period. I am otherwise healthy, no known medical conditions, normal BMI. I have regular but painful periods(I take advil for the pain and it is controlled). Is there a possibility of endometriosis?
My intention for this video was not to spread fear. These are important topics to discuss, especially because women are waiting to have children later in life. This video was made to better prepare women, so that they know risks and expectations. Because pregnancy at 20 is very different than pregnancy at 40. I hope it provides encouragement and empowerment over how important it is to care for your bodies and be aware of potential complications. It was never my intention to spread fear. I wish you nothing but the best!
@@WatchYourTone14 close to it, the truth shouldn’t scare you. You are projecting your fear on to her and her video when it’s just science and the truth. She said you can have a healthy pregnancy after 35+ but she goes to mention the challenges that arise from it. Life isn’t always positive.
@@cgurl lol close to it. I don’t expect you to understand. It’s my opinion about the video. I’m not fearful of the truth. I am happy to hear all the information. All I said was it made me fearful. It was full of risks. That scare me. I understand my pregnancy could be healthy but allll the risks scare me. I’m human. For you to comment on my post is kinda ridiculous.
My girl wanted a baby but shes 37 and has health issues and im 34 and beat up and overweight. And neither one of us really wants to chase a baby around at almost 40. Nor do we want to look like their grandparents at graduation. Oh well we can still be a helluva good auntie and uncle. My niece and nephew are almost like our surrogate kids to a certain point. And we dint have to discipline them so it makes it even better for us
I have turned 38 and suffer from recurrent miscarriage. I got all the test done and apparently there is nothing wrong with me. The only explanation i received was my body may not be able to differentuate a bad egg from a good egg. This gave me no comfort other than at least im fertile. After over a year after my last miscarriage i am still not pregnant but now its like im.not even getting pregnant and miscarrying but im using ovulation kits so i know im hitting the most fertile times . Im so confused any advice i would be so greatful
Did you try checking your blood for auto immune disorders? All my bodily tests were fine after my miscarriage. But my blood test for aps was positive which makes my blood thicker and have a chance to clot due to which the previous foetus couldn’t grow due to not getting enough oxygen and food through the umbilical cord leading to miscarriage. But now I’m 39 and 11 weeks pregnant. But i had to start blood thinner medicines and injections daily from the day i got a positive pregnancy test. This is keeping my baby grow properly.
in Chinese medicine they correlate fertility with the kidneys, perhaps some kidney support and more research will help 🙏 i focussed on my kidney health and got pregnant fast at age 38🎉 🙏 hope this helps🙏
I started trying for my 3rd at 36 and had a missed miscarriage, after that 2 years passed and I had 4 more miscarriages. I turned 39 last month and I finally got a heartbeat and I am 10 weeks pregnant
Geriatric is fine just means you're old enough to biologically be a grandmother. Women hate hearing they're getting old but it's life and no one wants to argue with a hormonal pregnant lady lol
Hello, anyone who's had kids, can you please tell me if 33 is old to have a kid. I'm 27, single and don't wanna get married until I'm financially well-settled.
Hi Dr, I just had fertility bloodwork done, im 41 soon to be 42 and had 1 miss carry a few yrs ago. the new bloodwork showed my estradiol was 12 and at least 5 osacyctes upon stimulation, do you think it would be worth trying egg freezing for possible ivf with a surrogate?
