Glad you watched right to the very end. Some people miss the most important moment of the video. It’s confusing , because the video makes it seem like it’s about his father , but the ending implies something very different. NF doesn’t mention his dad very often , but I think they had an “ok” relationship. I think his grand parents were the real positive force in his life , and his mom’s addiction , her boyfriends and her overdose were obviously the source of most of his pain. I’m pretty sure Johnny was one of his mom’s boyfriends ... and most likely the worst of the bunch.
You're right at the end, the older man in the video was NF and he was speaking to his younger self. He feels like he let himself down in the past and he feels guilty for how he treated himself now that he is older. Thanks for the reactions Tom, I enjoy them always! Much love.
The first time I heard this I thought it was about his father too, but after a few more listens I figured it out. The "dad" is our adult self that keeps ignoring and denying the wounded child. Not wanting to face it and geting the help we need. But it definately works and is relatable with either interpritation.
Another song that hit me years after my brother's od I hate my father for that night. He got the call and showed up and gave him his drugs back. My neither was having a reaction that was leaving him blind. And my dad left without calling the ambulance. My brother died that night... an adult would have made the better decision
Love your way of explaining mental health to the general audience. Your personality reminds me a lot of my therapist, it’s very down to earth and real. You have a great heart sir, keep up the wonderful work!
To be honest it’s both he did it in a way where you can interpret it as old NF looks back on himself, but also it’s about a parent figuring lettting there kid down as well it’s a double meaning. The video is about relates to Nf story and he did it in a way where it can relate to everyone
This song captures my relationship with my dad as a child perfectly. I was never good enough, I was a constant disappointment, I tried so hard to be a daughter he could be proud of but it was never good enough. He would tell me about how he expected me to fail high school, get pregnant as a teenager and start using drugs. None of these things I ever did, he told me he always had low expectations of me so he didn’t have to feel disappointed when I inevitably messed up. I never messed up though, I “rebelled” against his emotional abuse by proving him wrong, I graduated school, got myself a stable and growing career immediately. I gained financial independence so that the day I turned 18 I could move out and never have to go back. I have never gone back, he doesn’t have the power over me like he did as a child. I won’t tolerate disrespect or abuse from him as I have the power to walk out of his house, get in my car and leave. I’ve proven this to him the few times he’s tried it as an adult. He will still never say he’s proud of me but I know he is. He will still never acknowledge the absolute torture he put me through as a child. I felt so low I was victimised by sexual predators and when my father found out he blamed me for being a promiscuous 12 year old… Anyway the one thing I want from him before he dies is an acknowledgment and apology for the abuse he put me through as a child. The only reason I didn’t commit suicide as a teenager was because that would have only proved to him how much of a disappointment I really was 😕 I’m 27 now, I’ve never recovered from this, just moved on. He lives in denial because he managed to abuse me without once laying a hand on me. Thanks for reacting to this song that means so much to me.
Wow! What a powerful story! I’m so grateful you would share this and be so honest. None of that is your fault and you’ve overcome so much since you’ve made it this far. The way you laid this story out tells me you have a good perspective and have had to pay the future price for your fathers past choices. Keep moving forward, and try to get a healthy and qualified professional to talk with, you deserve that. And stay in touch with me because this can be a beginning of a new future. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment😊👍
You’re better than your father. Better than his hate filled words. I know it’s hard to move on from the words/thoughts/expectations of our parents. But you are worthy, you are special. Blessings.
I never knew my dad and will never know him now, he left when I was around three and I grew up hating myself and thinking it was my fault and I was the reason why he left and I ruined my parents lives by being born, but cocaine is a monster
My dad is the epitome of apathetic. It’s a big part of why my mom divorced him and why after years of trying to get him to see me for me that I’ve gone limited contact with him. So when this song came out it hit me hard. I was driving and ultimately had to pull over because I was crying so hard. I was fortunate that when my mom wasn’t deployed that I had her to support me otherwise I think things growing up would have been a lot worse. Falling in Reverse, Popular Monster is another song that I think you’d enjoy picking apart the lyrics and music video. He has several other songs that would be good too, but Popular Monster is specifically about mental health.
I actually sat my parents down after I had a major mental breakdown in which I screamed at my dad “FUCK YOU” over and over again over the phone and we had a screaming match. I sat them down and basically explained this entire song to them to explain the relationship I feel with my dad and this song explained everything down to a tee about everything that was bad between me and my dad. All the way down to moving out and feeling like he wouldn’t regret what he was doing until I died.
Ah, I relate to this song so much. Our mother never listened to us about any of our illnesses, whether they mental (we were suicidal from the age of 5!! 5!!!!) or physical (we have chronic pain we were born with, a permanent injury (that never healed in part because no one believed us. fixing it now would require invasive surgery we can't afford), and also POTS that got really bad in our teens, and despite knowing that she loved us, I don't think we can forgive her for that. We went through so much pain because no one listened, even now we struggle to advocate for ourselves because if our mother wouldn't believe us why would anyone else? Even on a personal level, the looking back, our original host couldn't deal with existing. I never met them. All I know about them is that they were absolutely terrified, and they were brave. They were so brave, and it wasn't enough. There were so many things they wanted that will never happen, and I do feel sometimes that I just... I wonder what they would think, if they could see where we are now.
I came across this video and couldn't resist. Three of my favorite things (NF, Music reactipns, and therapy) all in one video! Love your comments!! You have a new subscriber! I will start with ALL your NF reactions.💗
As a 31 year old man who never knew his dad, but who has a 4 year old son. I struggle with this daily......i feel like I need to do everything for my son I missed out on, but I've never been shown how to do the basics in life, I don't even understand myself. Fuck that song man
This song breaks my heart cause it reminds me of my nephew. His Mother had him young and drug him through hell. Alcohol, drugs, violence and frequently used him for sympathy to get people to give her money. Through all that he was such a sweet and gentle soul. She would randomly kick him out when he got older and then got him sent to prison. When he got out a charity started helping him because he has had seizures his whole life and then him doing drugs made him have deficits mentally. He was living about an hour away in Chicago but seemed to be doing good. A year ago his Grandma got a message on her answering machine from a hospital wanting to find next of kin for him. She deleted the message thinking is was him trying to get money from her, but we knew it meant something happened. So my Daughter and I called every hospital we could think of and the coroner. We finally found the hospital he was at but they would not talk to us they wanted his Mom. We tracked her down and found out he was stabbed and almost died. His Mom has now used this situation to move in with him and cause more chaos. Some people are really put through it in life. Hoping for my nephew to keep going on the right track, he has been clean and sober but now with her right back in his life I fear her nonsense will impact him again. She is his Mom and as much as he knows she hurts him he feels like he owes her because she has conditioned him into thinking her life is a mess because she had him young.
Some of my favorite lyrics of this song are "My hands are full, what else should I carry for you? I care for you but..." When this song first came out I was in a horrible relationship and felt as though I was carrying the relationship on my shoulders alone and was still expected to do everything else too. Just my interpretation based of my experience.
I love your reactions man. Don't take this the wrong way but I really like how you're an old white guy and you say stuff like spitting, bars, and drop, and it just comes off as completely natural. Just a wholesome guy with great insight who doesn't see the lines other people draw in the sand for things like culture and age, I love it. Keep doing what you do.
I don’t know why but I love listening to him talk and his understanding of how they feel and being so accurate and being able to explain it so easily. Love your vids keep it up
I think it's about failing to live up to ones own expectations and standing by/watching instead of taking the necessary steps to stop yourself from self-destructing.
The back and forth of the camera work represents Nate backsliding. Drowning in his problems. He looks back at how he could have made changes in his life to help himself.
This is the song I relate to most. My dad's never been around but my mother's been there and I feel like I have never been good enough to her. I was always compared to my older brothers. I have never really been good at math and I think I was in first year at school and my mother slapped me because I had failed math, which led to me being scared of my own mother. My psychology teacher was the first one who got to know me in high school and that's like 13 years after my mother had put me through shit. This song just breaks my heart
Love watching your reaction therapy videos especially on Juice Wrld day!!! I can truly say your videos really give me something to look forward to each day. Keep up the great work Tom!!! Much love ❤️
My mom and father got divorced when I was like 5-6 years old. My father had and most likely still has an alcohol issue. And my mom had to work all the time, I have a littlesister, that I had to care of aged 8-9. My relationship with my father os nonexistent, but its fine with my mom, she did what she had to do, now that im 24 i still doubt myself, but its getting better. This song is so powerful, just like How Could You Leave Us. NF is just doing the job!
I was blessed enough to catch covid but it gives me time to keep up with all your reactions! Also congratulations on 80k! Hands down one of the only videos i look forward to watching when i open my laptop!
The way i relate with this song is the relationship between me and my mom, born to a broken family and lived with a mother with trust issue, she pushed everyone close to her (particularly our family) to always do what she wants unconciously, nothing is ever enough for her and so "im sorry that I let you down" was always me saying it to my mom. And the 3rd verse oh my god that is the exact situation im in whenever im just there with my mom, she always talking about all the good things in the past "that didnt even happened" because its overshadowed by all the bad things she did to me so i didnt really have a good memory of these "good times" Just like the song describes, i still care for her and I want to give her the best I could, but I can never really love her the way a child suppose to, and that there will always be a distance between us. Sorry mom, i hope that i still have enough time to make you proud
Nate had to raise himself, so yes, he was his own parent. Nate is talking to himself in many of his songs. Nate avoids his issues. When he says he just walks past himself with his “head down,” he is referring to walking past a mirror. When Nate says “I don’t even want to go to your house” he’s referring to his own mind (house=mansion=mind). He doesn’t want to go there because “every time I sit on that couch, I feel like all you do is lecture me (like therapy)”Nate doesn’t want to have these tough conversations with himself.
That song is just so good….in a way it kinda reminds me of how I feel around my parents alot of the time….my mum said she was disappointed in me once….and I started to believe i was just a disappointment and couldn’t do anything right…tbh ive had alot of stuff going on in my life….I really dont feel okay most of the time but im glad you reacted to this song because its one of my favourites and the way you explain everything is just so accurate
Something to help out with NF is that he always is talking about himself or his burdens internally unless he specifically makes a distinction like he did in "How could you leave us" with his mother. If it's not about him he makes it very clear.
Hello again friend..still watching your amazing videos. I suggested earlier on another video about 2 Avenged Sevenfold songs that I'd love to see you react to..thought of another deep one by Ozzy Osborne called Under the Graveyard. Its a newer one and it tells his life story about drug,alcohol and sex addiction. His beautiful wife brought him through with tough love. Its amazing and the video is documentary style in a bad a$$ way. Extremely deep and relatable lyrics plus it's Ozzy!! Lol,anyways as a recovered addict of 8yrs this song is everything! Thanks for what you are doing 🤟 much respect
i subbed to you and added you to one of my fav list for bars breakdown/meaning.. because what? you are breaking and telling the meaning from different prespective and side. i also like the way you break the hidden meaning with full details. i like it!!
I'm so glad you watched to the very end. a lot of reactors miss that. At first, i thought the song was about his dad, as we see the old man standing by and watching him go through all of these terrible things (drowning, trapped in burning car, dead) and yet never reaching out to help. Then, after the ending and discovering the old man was NF, i feel like maybe he was saying that he let himself down. he didnt help himself when he could have.
I know I’m late but the old man represents his father through most of the video. After his mother died his father was emotionally distant. He felt like his father watched him drown in depression, burn in anger and did nothing to help. When it came to it, his father did care, but he showed it too late. Cutting back to the first scene someone calls the old man Nate because he has mentioned before that one of his biggest fears is making the same mistakes with his own kids. So the old man represents both NF and his dad.
I relate to this song on many levels. My father was toxic. He wanted to completely control my life. I didn't let him and that pissed him off. Would go into a rage when I refused to debate with him.(no one was ever aloud a different opinion other than his) He'd then hang up on me then not call for months. Forget him ever admitting to doing anything wrong. It was always someone else's fault. One Christmas he got a gift for my brother and his dog. I got nothing. I was rated lower than a dog in his eyes. Had to go no contact in the end, he passed two months later in 2020. Was sad but not as sad as I should have been for losing a parent. I truly believe he was narcissistic. Sad thing is that was how he grew up in a toxic family environment. He repeated the cycle.
This is definitely one of my favorite NF songs. I'd love it if you reacted to my favorite artist, nothing,nowhere. I recommend his song Skully or Letdown
I always interpreted the scene of the father saying those words as an apology to his son because he can see him drowning, but doesn't know how to help. And in fear of doing something wrong (or because he's overwhelmed by not knowing how to help is child) he just stands there and does nothing, which in turn makes him feel like a failure.
See everyone feels like its about dad but I for some reason get the feeling that this is him as an old man remembering things he went threw and survived, maybe thats how I feel cuz my dad never was there
Tom… you really need to get into Tom MacDonald, he’s completely independent and makes amazing music… Castles is one of my favorites you’ll love it, he does a lot of different styles. Please get into him!!! You’ll get all of HangOver Gang here too, it’s millions of ppl FYI… ❤️ 🙏
You realy need to see this songs (Suicidal YNW Melly ft. Juice Wrld) please, and i love your video so much, I realy like how easy you can understanding the lyrics, by the way sorry for by bad English I'm French so 😅
I’ve been in love with this song ever since it came out, but I always thought it was between a couple. Now that I realize it was his father, it hits me harder than any other song😭
truthfully this was the song i would put on whenever i felt like a disapointment. like i somehow was a burden to my family. who litterly would only yell at me for what i did wrong and never compliment me on what i did right.
sadly my father as policeman never understand me, I am slow dying but he want control my future like I am robat, and with your break down and nf song I just cried 4 times on this 20mins
Another great reaction. Appreciate it Tom! Still waiting for Joyner Lucas-Frozen, youll love the video. So well done. And the message is amazing. Keep the reactions coming! and thanks for your time!
I'm a new fan of the show so i hope you enjoy my breakdown of this song as much as i enjoyed yours. I don't know for sure about NF's life but I'm going to assume his other songs are a good representation. from his other music i think his parents split when he was young. the first verse seems to represent these early years. symbolized through rough waters and the imagery of trying to keep your head above water. the lyrics support this but it would take forever if i broke it down line by line. The second verse would be the older years. If I remember his music correctly his mother overdosed, or at least dealt with substance abuse and his father drank heavily. Burning vehicles represent emotional aggression or a lack of rationality. such as his irrationally holding onto the grudge from their broken relationship. wanting to be seen as a peer and man hes become not the unruly child he was. The final scene is him reaching that stage in life where he "becomes his father" and realized that while he wasn't what he wanted him to be it wasn't because of a lack of love or respect it was from his own inability to keep his head above water. that they in fact let each other down. This song paints a perfect picture of the relationship between fathers of the past with neural divergent sons. They raised us as their fathers raised them, and did the "best they could" but didn't really understand what they were doing wrong, because they didn't understand what was wrong.
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If you want a more hardcore beat for Lil Peep, I definitely recommend “Witchblades” (definitely not an excuse to hear the song for the 79473659636th time lol)
Um Hey there MR. Therapist, thanks for this i cried aal time i felt soo good like so good im suffering from this too im a 15 yr guy lol, it's idk how to express it tbh i got noth left except numbness and i cannot move too
Main stream cause we all have parents like this. Just constantly disappointed in me despite how far iv came he’s never said you’ve done well. When I got my results from school i did really well apart from one subject that I had always struggled with and when I showed him my results that’s the one he pointed to. Never helped me with my home work but that don’t matter all my fault. Single mum of 2 kids at 18 both girls are now getting degrees. Nice house. Doing every thing right. Still not good enough
You should react to some of the $uicideboy$ stuff....their music can be emocional and powerful at times too....i reccomend reacting to $uicideboy$ - Life is but a stream
