Puberty Doesn’t Turn Us Into 'Aliens.' We’re Just Girls | Op-Docs

Подписаться 4,5 млн

Просмотров 56 тыс.

50% 1

Adolescence isn’t easy. With puberty comes immense mental and physical change - and a self-consciousness about how you and your body are observed, treated and understood. Bronwen Parker-Rhodes's previous Op-Docs shed light on what can be isolating about childbirth and menopause. But what’s left unsaid begins even earlier, when girls are often made to feel strange and ashamed about their bodies.
In Bronwen's short film "Just Girls," above, girls ages 14 to 17 open up about the excitement, confusion and anxiety of going through puberty today. What they share speaks not just to their peers - or parents - but to all women whose coming-of-age experiences went unacknowledged. Bronwen hopes that rather than gloss over what happens during puberty, we can share it more openly.
Read more: nyti.ms/3Isj703
Watch "Menopause Stories:" • What Menopause Feels L...
Watch "After Birth:" • After Birth: Is It Sel...
More from The New York Times Video:
Subscribe: bit.ly/U8Ys7n
Watch all of our videos here: nytimes.com/video
Facebook: / nytvideo
Twitter: / nytvideo
----------
Op-Docs is a forum for short, opinionated documentaries by independent filmmakers. Learn more about Op-Docs and how to submit to the series. Follow The New York Times Opinion section on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram (@NYTopinion).

Опубликовано:

1 июл 2024

Ссылка:

Скачать:

Готовим ссылку...

Добавить в:

Мой плейлист

Посмотреть позже

Комментарии : 168

@aspiring... 2 года назад

This is a very important video. Men and boys need to be educated about the female body. We need to speak more about young girls being approached or cat called. This can happen before girls even become teens and it's scary.

@hazikaiyan5903 2 года назад

Wait what do men and boys have to be taught about the female body?

@MooneLightEntertainment 2 года назад

@@hazikaiyan5903 Help me ask her.

@aspiring... 2 года назад

@@hazikaiyan5903 You and all men must be expert gynaecologists. Explain with the correct anatomical language why that young girl was experiencing period cramps in her bum hole.

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад

@@aspiring... sarcasm isn't helping bridge the divide of understanding. If we were to put the same level of expectations on you, am I to assume you know male puberty as well as you know female puberty? It's as if parents are supposed to be there to help because they're gone through it already, would a mom be there explaining why a boy feels like burning down the world? No. A dad would probably help though but apparently society teaches us those are accessory objects with no purpose and exist purely to oppress the rightful rulers of the world. Know what I mean?

@scslre 2 года назад

@@aspiring... i was about to take you seriously. good save!

@rasheedvitalis 2 года назад

WOW this was really helpful. My daughter is 13 and this information helps me understand what a young girl is going through. God bless all the young women in this video. Thank you 🙏🏾

@Ruth-xt5js 2 года назад

Wow, this doc really struck me. It was moving to hear these teenagers talk so candidly about their experiences. Puberty/menarche can be such a disorienting and alienating experience. Watching this documentary reminded me of how strange that time in my own life was - how you feel like you’re being shoved, face first, into the unknown. Your body is changing, your relationship to your body is changing, and the world’s relationship to you is changing, all at once. What a trip. Thanks for posting this one.

@lilyaide4961 2 года назад

This digs up old feelings and makes me laugh at my younger self and want to laugh at these girls, but also it makes me upset I wasn’t offered resources. Had I been put on birth control to regulate myself and had a parent who taught me about biology, I would have suffered less pain, had less acne, had no risk of teen pregnancy, etc.

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад

Sounds like there was a lack of open honesty and communication in your environment. Where were your female role models to help you through it all?

@ashleelorendabird2474 2 года назад

👏👏👏Such respectful, beautiful young women! I'm 36 and I just laughed and smiled throughout this entire video because I can 100% relate! I love how much you a girls are so naturally in tuned with yourselves and your bodies! I hope you can all look back one day and are proud of the choices you have made thus far. I cannot say it enough, you girls (young ladies) are the perfect spokeswomen for all young women around the globe going through this exact situation. Beautiful!!!! And remember...girls rule, boys drool🤤 !!! ✌❤🌻🦋🌙🌔🌈👑💄👠🩸🩹🚺♀️

@user-si9sb1lf9y 2 года назад

In China , workers have proved that they can live without capitalists. But mind you, not a single capitalist has proved that he can live without workers !!!

@GinaNunez12345 2 года назад

I'm a proud father of a young adult woman and I approve this message 👍✌️👊

@wickandde 2 года назад

33 year old woman watching this, and literally relate to everything on this video. This has to be more well known and distributed!

@2nd3rd1st 2 года назад

Wow, they're all such awesome girls/young women. Great insightful piece. I wish them all the best for their exciting futures!

@sarcasticbookworm9352 2 года назад

This made me feel better about my self. Heck I’m crying.

@matt_freund 2 года назад

This is really important!

@jackjac 2 года назад

Wow, such open and strong young women. It's ridiculous what girls are facing in puberty regarding body shaming/ awareness, while boys just go on...

@s.gabriel2853 2 года назад

This is lovely. I saw a lot of myself in these girls. A lot of the same thoughts and experiences, even though we are generations apart.

@bindasguy3666 2 года назад

women in 20s and 30s should have a bridge of interaction with teenage girls. This will make things better.

@Braxant 2 года назад

Like a mother? Lol

@jennab8649 2 года назад

@@Braxant Do you think women are only two things? Daughter and mothers? Gosh that’s sad.

@MooneLightEntertainment 2 года назад

@@jennab8649 who hurt you?

@bindasguy3666 2 года назад

@@Braxant I mean like friends

@PlsWaLuigiDomMe 2 года назад

I almost never get cramps but when I do it’s almost exclusively in my bum hole and I completely get what she means. It is seriously painful!!!

@OK_frumpy_ 2 года назад

This is beautiful

@civilizeddiva 2 года назад

Sharing information is powerful.

@oliverbielovic1559 2 года назад

Thank you, my daughter just turned 4 and I just had to answer at an interview like where do I see mysel in 10 years and in my adult life it didn't seem like much would change but seeing what she will go through in this time, it feels like an eternity away and at the same time so close and I'm so unprepared for that.

@makeitmakesense2616 2 года назад

I don't even have a child let alone a daughter and this is stressing me out

@artisticagi 2 года назад

Being a woman is a beautiful experience. I choose to frame it in a ✨beautiful ✨way and am actually very excited to have a daughter and pass on the ways of womanhood to her. To celebrate and welcome her passage into womanhood the way I wanted someone to for me. I want to throw a period party, (I think this is a Hispanic thing) and give her red jewelry for her first moon time. Special jewelry she is to only wear during her moon time. Maybe we go to pick it out together. To be teaching her about it beforehand, and frame it in a powerful way. How women have the power to create and sustain life. That men also have the power to create life but not sustain it. Etc. I’m excited.

@patrickbateman7453 2 года назад

I got a 5 and a 9. And at nine years old trust me it’s starting.

@theplaylister 2 года назад

It's been a while since there's been content produced by a mainstream media on the biological reality of womanhood and the unique and alienating experience that sadly comes with it. It's refreshing and necessary.

@louisasevier1034 2 года назад

This is a really interesting video for me to watch because I'm only a few years older than these girls and I remember feeling like this. If I could I would tell them that it gets better. But it's not that I don't have some of the same anxieties, I just don't give them as much ability to control my life as I did in high school.

@disgracefulharmony5380 2 года назад

This is sad, few little know how tough to develop and being a woman it so emotionally unexplainable it's like going through a mystery you will never solve its like a burden u carry around until you make peace with it and forget it

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад

no one grows into a woman, you learn how to act like a woman based on the availability of appropriate role models that rise to the occaision. A girl and boy are no less free to grow up as they are to be in control of the environments that they exist in. Just because your body changes doesn't mean your mind does if it doesnt know what to do with the information. That's why you end up with adult-children well into their 20s and 30s

@scslre 2 года назад

this is just the human experience generally. it's a hard knock life, for us.

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse 2 года назад

@@scslre compared to what? I mean, you could take the place of a deer, blissfully unaware of the complex social problems that we deal with, but forever in a state of panic, fear and hunger. A cog in a machine. We are a cog in a more complicated machine or a larger machine lol more abstractions, more cogs, same system.

@scslre 2 года назад

@@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse i wasn't making a comparison. pain is perfectly capable of existing in a vacuum.

@2nd3rd1st 2 года назад

11:00 Wow, I love their back yard! Nice long grass and dandelions, and shrubbery. ❤ people who aren't cleanfreaks who practically live on a golf course.

@9840vajjayquiiii 2 года назад

We need in depth, comprehensive puberty education for all children ages 7 to 25. We need to empower ourselves and feel a support system. No more laughing about our natural body rhythms geez....

@somethingsmatter 2 года назад

Im 35, mom of 2 and I totally agree that periods are a bit much „just to have a child“. Seems like a really bad deal is women got!! And yeah, periods start way too early.

@jahasoto 2 года назад

This really makes me feel for girls, like oof, bruh uh it's not your fault. But goodness hope you're doing well

@nice1365 2 года назад

this is properly superb

@sayafkhan748 2 года назад

Informative.

@queen4269 2 года назад

I still resent my puberty

@ednasuter3297 2 года назад

am so glad I came across you May my god continue to bless you ☝🏾☝🏾

@joyleenstrozier4295 2 года назад

Wow! that is crazy!

@jlindsa 2 года назад

Would be interesting to see this interview repeated with young girls around the world

@valentinegger8870 2 года назад

Respect to them! I think that it is important to educate more, the social presure put on by boys seems to be huge. It soundes like as if boys where accused of not knowing about the period. It is important not to accuse, but instead to educate them on the period. It is impossible for a man what it is and how it works. Men are just not educated about it wich would help to raise awerness! Like in many discussions about feminism men should be included and their voice should also be heard, if not they will just block the conversation, wich is not good. Respect to the girls in the interview!

@baconbitz1363 2 года назад

Anyone else notice two of the girls have the same octopus stuffed animal?

@paul_domici 2 года назад

It sucks that these young girls have to go through all these difficult changes!

@AirspotterUK 2 года назад

Growing up with sisters and now three daughters nothing is a shock, I was pretty aware of it all even in yr 7 and those annoying years they speak off. Even us men think 11-20 year old boys / men are annoying.

@pandapower5902 2 года назад

I was SOOO jealous of boys when I got my period. I felt like (and still feel like) it's just unfair to have periods and the burden of pregnancy and men dont have that, and they also dont have any empathy about it either most of the time.

@pandapower5902 2 года назад

@Rabarbersoep both. If you arent aware of how widespread a lack of empathy for women's health issues and pain is then you aren't paying attention or could stand to do some research. The husband stitch, women's heart attacks not being taken seriously, women and girls feeling shame for their periods, even in remote tribes like the Masai, women and girls arent given any money or funds to deal with their periods

@bz3086 2 года назад

Panda, No empathy for women's health?! Are you on drugs? Theres a women's clinic for every health ailment on every corner in every city on the US.

@pandapower5902 2 года назад

@@bz3086 except you are still wrong.. again ignorant. why isn't there an option for male birth control then, other than condoms? why do so many women have PTSD just from IUD's? why are women taken less seriously in emergency rooms? etc. you didnt look up any of the things i mentioned either. and just treating women's periods as some disgusting thing.. women can't even get decent maternity leave and women can't stay home when they have horrible periods without using up days, etc. despite these issues being super duper common among women. cities aren't designed for women either, there have been studies on this that public transit and a lot of things were designed with men in mind, not women. even the clitoris was only recently included in only some anatomy books in its entirety.

@standup2982 Год назад

@@pandapower5902 absolutely 💯

@pedroloto 2 года назад

As a guy, it's crazy to hear all the things girls have to go through

@jonnyfendi2003 2 года назад

Trans girls be like “I already know how it feels” smh

@standup2982 Год назад

@@jonnyfendi2003 transing children is child abuse.

@cfcreative1 2 года назад

It is a Foustian bargain it gives and it takes away.

@mertde Год назад

Would be better if there was an actual time-lapse growing taller video showing the puberty stages.

@kelil1750 2 года назад

This is the....article ever..

@christinebutler7630 2 года назад

Period cramps would get you excused from gym but nothing else; we were told to "offer it up for the poor souls in purgatory." Going through that kind of pain for a week each month sure felt like purgatory.

@enzoocampoiii2881 2 года назад

Just curious would that give trans women an advantage in sports?

@jennab8649 2 года назад

@@enzoocampoiii2881 This question of “advantages” is rather odd to me as trans women experience scrutiny of and challenges to their bodily autonomy, as well

@enzoocampoiii2881 2 года назад

@@jennab8649 i was asking the lady, but like being trans is a choice also your "challenges",🤦‍♂️ my bad i meant by advantage is in sports, cuz i have a aunt only 4 years apart who is a table tennis player and when she have periods she doesnt train for almost a week.

@standup2982 Год назад

@@enzoocampoiii2881 biological men should not be competing in women's sports. It's called cheating.

@stephsbbatea4207 Год назад

I started my period in the summer after second grade

@jackmax6019 2 года назад

Lovely & fierce young ladies secure in their person & gender. A blessing!

@IrresistibleWitch 2 года назад

This has NOTHING to do with gender.

@jackmax6019 2 года назад

@@IrresistibleWitch many girls fall victim to gender trenders, seeking a way out with new pronouns. Steadfast with clarity of mind and purpose, they’ve embraced themselves, real and true girls.

@lesbiannotthespian 2 года назад

@@jackmax6019 thank you for acknowledging this. at this age, it's easy to get caught up in gender and identities when they aren't needed.

@christinacascadilla4473 2 года назад

This is getting me depressed. I want to go back in time and tell these girls it will all be okay. Also, my brother says he’d take having menstrual period for the guarantee he’ll never go bald.

@makeitmakesense2616 2 года назад

He has a point

@J0E1L3 2 года назад

It is less likely for women to go bald but it is not guaranteed

@makeitmakesense2616 2 года назад

@@J0E1L3 he's saying for himself. He's saying as a man he would rather go through a menstrual period then to lose his hair

@apollolucifero9216 2 года назад

DA NEW YORK A LAS VEGAS CON I VARI AFFILIATI NON CÈ PROBLEMA DI SICURO E POI?È GRAVE LA SITUAZIONE NE VÀ DEL FUTURO COGNITIVO E INTELLETTIVO DI TUTTI GLI STATI UNITI-🔥

@kaisla_onerva 9 месяцев назад

5:08 hip dips arent the fat but the opposite of that, they're your hip bones and the "dent" under them, that are nore dominant on skinny people.

@De_Tjiminator 2 года назад

Next time one about boys. We need to get attention about our experiences

@nevaehwilson1976 Год назад

🙄

@iwantmyfriescrispynotburnt3981 2 года назад

I'm gonna just drop "they're beautiful" comment down here.

@harinig1344 2 года назад

I think one of the problems that all these girls are dealing with are the rigid gender norms that our society has- on how a girl has to look, or how tall she has to be or how she should behave

@viadryz 2 года назад

12:13 her reaction is priceless lmaooooo

@sabrinaball6417 2 года назад

I agree with the last statement, all this to have a child, it seems like a bit much🤣🤣🤣 Wait until said child is actually being made and is ready to come out🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤣

@lololololololo 2 года назад

It absolutely does not make anyone an adult.

@Thebreakdownshow1 2 года назад

One of the single most influential series for me as a film maker has to be NYTimes op-Docs. Added this to watch later when I can enjoy the film.

@alezandradavila2581 2 года назад

Yea it’s sick

@MonkyDollqueen 2 года назад

If they walk away, let them go. If they don't value you enough to work through the hard times, they don't deserve all the good times.From

@MrJingles4577 Год назад

I don’t get why boys and girls don’t understand each other it’s silly we argue over things like this both genders need to be more educated on ourselves and others

@thinkabout602 2 года назад

💚💪🌺

@lucashiroshins 2 года назад

Those things should be taught to men as well

@MooneLightEntertainment 2 года назад

Why? Like we don't have more than enough on our plates?

@joenuts5250 2 года назад

*Nriama

@MooneLightEntertainment 2 года назад

@@joenuts5250 what's up?

@standup2982 Год назад

@@MooneLightEntertainment try not to be ignorant.

@nevaehwilson1976 Год назад

Look what girls have to go through and why are you on a girls vid

@itsapieceoflemonorisitcake9499 2 года назад

Umm boys don't rea!ly know the females body they need two know about it more

@styledbydaisy5367 2 года назад

Bump

@homewall744 2 года назад

We raise children to wish they were Peter Pan, and amazingly most US "adults" (by age) also do their best to remain children, based on how we dress and want others to provide for us.

@alfonsklapa3353 2 года назад

Jack murphy wants to know youre location.

@windywendi 2 года назад

If there's a way to apply a bug fix to humans, i want to fix the period of ladies, so they don't need to have periods when they don't plan to have a child.

@dae1925 2 года назад

"Why doesn't it happen to men? it's not fair!" *big brain*

@BeliaLastes 2 года назад

🤔🧐😵

@yoonseokjang9268 2 года назад

1등

@user-si9sb1lf9y 2 года назад

In China , workers have proved that they can live without capitalists. But mind you, not a single capitalist has proved that he can live without workers !!!

@mzm4344 2 года назад

...china is extremely capitalistic....

@creativename2683 2 года назад

Kek

@user-yg9un2lq6b 2 года назад

🤗🤗🤗🚀

@elvisekros8036 2 года назад

First!

@Cam5000 2 года назад

Second

@bz3086 2 года назад

Media: periods are sexist. Also media: here boys, take these pills 🤔

@viadryz 2 года назад

11:07 I’m sorry but she said “like” 8 times 😭😭

@iprav1234 2 года назад

Men have nightfall........ Make vedio on that alsso😅😅😅😞😞😞😇😇💀

@blancocd 2 года назад

excellent video but they are british

@blancocd 2 года назад

@Linda Illinois almost as bad as being from illinois

@Damir9728 2 года назад

Epstein disagrees

@jasonnewstead3174 2 года назад

You's must hate Project Veritas lol

@reinhardt5405 2 года назад

Guys, be happy you're a man lol But hey, kudos to the ladies. You also have better days.

@nevaehwilson1976 Год назад

Girls matter you know that's so funny that girls commit suicide because they dont be the same person who doesn't have a childhood anymorw

@colinmaharaj 2 года назад

Women are form Venus, men are from Earth 😂

@GreatArdent 2 года назад

Just read a book

@jennab8649 2 года назад

Cool idea! Which ones would you recommend on this topic?

@woodrude78 2 года назад

@@jennab8649 Rambo : First Blood........boom boom I'm here all week ladies and gentlemen

@idkidk8278 2 года назад

daddy issues

@Rubble1 2 года назад

Are you guys gonna do a story on the nyt editor that just died of a heart attack a day after getting the covid booster?

@AlexRodriguez-ue1xc 2 года назад

Bruh these girls here are looking like 9/10!! Come to Chicago, you gonna see these young females 12/13/14/15 looking like 18/19/20💯 and with the drill shyt lmao

@nukingjapanwasok6265 2 года назад

10:44 Been together 1 year 8 months and haven't kissed? Brah...

@2nd3rd1st 2 года назад

creep

@stateofgr4ce 2 года назад

weirdo

@Vendetta_Armada80 2 года назад

Wtf is this

@donnyhh313 2 года назад

It’s a Doc. about puberty………

@torik02 2 года назад

Fredy Pisacano reads the title and still asks what its about😂😂 seems about right.

@blt4life112 2 года назад

We'll explain it to you when you're older.

@Vendetta_Armada80 2 года назад

@@satarikta6435 what does that even mean

@Vendetta_Armada80 2 года назад

@@torik02 seems odd talking about it in a public platform where anyone can click on the video Kidd

@290TrafficCone 2 года назад

*BEWARE* This video gave me the covid

@BILLBOND84 2 года назад

Hello wokes! They are not aliens. They are inter-extra worldly beings! Get with the times! Oh by the way, unsubscribe.

@ridlr9299 2 года назад

what

@violetlavender9504 2 года назад

What are you talking about???

@jnelletrim1478 2 года назад

Remember God loves you!!♥️ John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life. Please turn your life around and repent.🙏 the clock is ticking.

@teogonzalez7957 2 года назад

God doesn’t accept nonbelievers 2 chronicles 15:12-13 And they entered into a covenant to seek the Lord, the God of their fathers, with all their heart and with all their soul, but that whoever would not seek the Lord, the God of Israel, should be put to death, whether young or old, man or woman. Take your preaching somewhere else.

@jnelletrim1478 2 года назад

@@teogonzalez7957 how can he accept someone who says he doesnt exist. I can remember a scripture saying he left us without excuse, look around you he gave us everything that we need to know that he is real and to come to him. He wont force himself on us he is waiting for us to come to him and if you dont come to him, how can he accept you.

@Hagbard1138 2 года назад

I'm sorry ladies, I wasn't paying attention and I walked in here by mistake. I thought this was The New York Times, you know, hard news and relevent topics. As long as I did stumble in here may I offer... The the wisest among us have always pointed out that "life is suffering" and nature does do some horribly unfair things for no apparent reason. Also, you might find Judy Blume's, "Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret." an entertaining read.

@jennab8649 2 года назад

James it seems like you offered this opinion for no reason, either! Not sure if you listened to these interviews since the girls discussed social consequences of puberty not simply how their bodies changed.

@MooneLightEntertainment 2 года назад

@@jennab8649 What's news about it?