Grown men are crying watching this because it shows us a true expression of a lesson we were never taught in our youth. I could have used a mentor like this guy when I was a kid!
Damn.....the truth hurts. Took me over 30 years and counting of trial and error to learn what this youngster is learning in minutes. Control and discipline. Being kind is a good virtue. but as a man being kind sometimes can get you and those around you killed. Knowing when and how to change from kindness to killer, and back, without anger or malice, is a very important skill set. These boys are blessed to be trained by this man at such a young age. Training like this should be mandatory for young men living in urban single parent communities.
I am speechless. The boy didn't want to hurt him. What impressed me the most is the other students didn't smirk or laugh at him. That shows you what they're being taught by their sensei and other support systems. I wish I had a mentor like that when I was a kid. I'm 37 and I need a mentor like that now for my professional life at work and in entrepreneurship. These boys are blessed. Thank you for posting this incredible video.
That's true but there's a balance. You overdo it and you'll end up with fully grown adults that have low confidence, low self esteem, and underdeveloped social skills. You let them go, and it's highly likely they'll end up becoming assholes that nobody likes, doing whatever they want despite what anyone else thinks, constantly getting into trouble(maybe even with the law) and ending up a bad seed in society. Gotta find the balance.
and then its like once youre an adult youre all of a sudden expected to be that assertive and bold person, but you never learned so you have that fear all the time of what might happen if you try
I've got mixed feelings on this. He is trying to bring out the lion by treating him like a lamb? The only teacher is pain. It seems like he's trying to mix the two halves of the yin and yang; Which is dangerous. Keep your civilized and primal selves separate; Trying to be both at once will cause psychosis.
@@TexZenMaster Please understand that not all people need pain to learn a lesson like this. In my family, we call those people hard headed and yeah,, they have to learn the hard way through pain. I personally was a very observant child and didnt want to learn the hard way. If there is someone who walked my path, I never turn down their words of wisdom and knowledge. But then again not everyone is like me or the hard headed. Everyone learns differently.
@@ChrissyReam Knowing something and exhibiting it under duress are two different things. When adrenaline starts pumping, this kid's body wants a hug; Mine expects pain and peril.
Exactly right. To face your emotions to master them requires discomfort, pain and sacrifice of self. Burying them is escapism. One breeds strength of character the other breeds insecurity and weakness of character.
I'm a grown assed man and I teared up watching this. We need more strong black men, like yourself, in our communities and especially our families. Thanx for maintaining the example brother 🙏🏿.
Kids get in trouble for showing emotion, especially anger, so they hide it. Teaching them to control it takes more patience but is definitely better. Parents/teachers ect don't have the patience to teach kids, it's easier for them to put them in time-out and not deal with it. It's a huge problem really...
I hope child-raising and education can one day aspire to greater standards than the minimal effort near-factory line approach it's done with now. It's such a vital foundation of all of mankind and it's treated like an afterthought and most parents are apathetic in the sense that when their kid cries, they want them to stop crying so they can sleep in peace instead of wanting to figure out why they cry and then helping them work through that pain. We've been here for millennia and still parenting is treated like a thing you just sorta do on the fly.
This is incredible. I am 39yrs old, a Marine Corps veteran and I feel just like this young man, where I’m afraid to let the lion out. For years I’ve felt like the lion has been lost and can’t be found. Ive learned from this video and I hope to find my lion once again.
Integrating the shadow is imperative in the shaping of a man. It's tough, bud. It's scary, especially when you know what you're capable of in that darkness. Big bless, hope you're okay.
It can come back dude but you got to work on it daily , if you're in a really bad place try just saying no and walking away from disrespect and it'll start to come back slowly
Your not alone man. i think this is the reason i explode every now and again. I'm to passive and feel that i'll hurt someone mentally and emotionally also physically if i let it out.
@@AnnaSzabo True I’d often Dissociate in order to please another person that had conflict with me and come out my own frame because I wouldn’t wanna see anybody hurt 🤦🏾♂️ Wish I had these classes
Right? And people making fun of you for it. But nobody's laughing when you finally snap. I used to cry sometimes when other kids teased me and I asked them to stop but they wouldn't. I was usually bigger than them. And they'd tease me further for crying. Not understanding that I'm crying because I don't want to hurt them when I know I can... Easily.
Your mission of transforming boys to men by breaking them in the flesh to allow their spirit to rule their lives is the most effective way I have come across in my few years of living. Better than organized sports or Bible school. Can anyone join these classes?!
Don't know what bible school you speak of, but it is the Holy Spirit through Christ Jesus that is to rule their lives, not their own...besides, they're only children. Human, temporal spirits can be broken, but there is no other spirit, clean or unclean, that's more powerful than the Holy Spirit. "But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you." ---Romans 8:11 KJV
He is putting the wisdom of the Bible into practice the right way. Rarely can we see that in the world. Now, don't misinterpret what I am saying, I am not a religious person and I don't "practice" Christianity. But what the Bible has to offer to us is the esoteric knowledge that a man can acquire by doing many different things. It is a matter of spirituality and looking within.
@@BatkoBrat True, I’m mostly in the same boat as you. I’m not very Christian, but the values the Bible has are essential. Treat others how you wish to be treated, treat everyone as if they were your brother, all that jazz
@@BatkoBrat looking within can sometimes bring out selfishness and egocentrism. That's why we Christians are taught to look to God and to surrender to His will, by that meaning knowing our wills and desires can be our downfall if we don't subscribe to Jesus' teachings and ask for His Holy Spirit. Please don't take this as a preachy comment, I'm just expressing my knowledge as a Christian. Have a nice day!
This man is offering deep healing to this child. All boys would benefit from an instructor like him - to get in touch with the lion and master that aggression, in order to use it so it doesn't end up using them. It's beautiful to see this man's love and care for these boys.
Wow, this really hit the spot. So many wise things he said - "We've been lied to", "learn to control the lion", "only the wicked run when no one is chasing them". This man is a grand master Jedi and I feel so fortunate to witness this.
This brought tears to my eyes. Even though I'm a grown man, I still struggle with my emotions and being passive at times. I wish I was taught this when I was younger. You all are doing an excellent job. Keep up the good work.
Thank you my brother for your courageous transparency and sharing encouragement. Please remember it's a process, and do not beat yourself up. Just continue to breakthrough the emotional barriers in your way to living a purpose driven life. Btw, I just remembered that I wrote a short book entitled "Breaking Through Emotional Barriers: The Four F's to Freedom". Read the sample to see if it's something that will encourage you. You can only buy now on Kindle, here's the link - www.amazon.com/dp/B01LZO0HCV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_8u-7xbGF870YY
@@dodo2829 thats not good at all, it may seem like that after you look around and percep crying as "weakness", at one point in your life you will break and will be worse than never crying because you will have so much stored emotions in you
This is the best feeling I've ever gotten from a RU-vid video. I look at it over and over... as I do, sometimes in my spirit I am the kid, others I am the teacher. Sometimes I am the camera man watching.
Well… That was something we don’t see very much in our world today. Kids crying, pushing past their inhibitions, and parents not being upset or trying to shut that down. They must trust the sefu a great deal. That says a lot about the parents there and the sefu. Much respect from Canada.
As a child I was overly sensitive, extremely shy and scared, especially of fighting. When I was in martial arts as a kid, I loved it but was petrified of sparring. Scared I would get hurt or I'd hurt someone else. I wish I had this instructor, to show not to be afraid of the Lion, but to strengthen yourself to be a Lamb as well. Awesome video, and very cool school. I'd put my kids in this guys class anyday!
I struggle with assertiveness and being bold. All throughout school I was timid and quiet and it's not until now in my 20s that I'm learning to bring the lioness out. I was tearing up watching this video because I knew exactly how that young man felt. This was inspiring for me and I appreciate this video/lesson so much, you have no idea. THANK YOU for sharing!
@@Svarttorden I felt like he didnt want to be aggressive to his instructor because the man is so loving. The child had no anger towards him but was still instructed to be assertive. The lesson is how to differentiate between anger and assertiveness. Hes learning though. 😊
I understand what is scary about bringing the lion out. If you never do it, or rarely do it, then it is a wild beast that is out of control. It can hurt people. And when the lamb comes back out and sees the carnage... what have I done? The Incredible Hulk archetype...
I'm a 41 year old white man with so much trauma I've been self medicating for 20 years. I wish I'd had a strong Christian man who pushed my boundaries like those sensei to open up and feel my feelings when I was a child. You're doing good work. It's almost difficult to watch because I see myself in these upset kids. But I'm guessing after they digest these lessons and hopefully get comfort and scriptural lessons they become strong young men who can balance those emotions and be assertive when they need to and passive when they don't. I still choose passive in almost every situation and when I choose assertive it is more of a defensive position but from a place fear, not confidence. Please keep doing what you're doing for young men
I teared up hearing that young man’s cries. Confronting, fighting in the face of and overcoming his fears. And becoming EMBOLDENED. I identify with that young man and have always struggled with letting people push me over without putting them in their place for fear of making a scene. But J Wilson said it correctly, it’s a process and I need to learn how to control that “lion” when it is indeed needed.
Man Brother, you CAN'T have me CRYING at my desk like this, I'm a Cop, Cops DON'T cry...LOL!!! But SERIOUSLY, I've done something similar to this with Young Boys to Grown Men over the years, in terms of facing their fears, but the reason for the tears is that I myself had to learn to FACE and CONTROL the Lion in me years ago as a younger man. THAK Yah, in His INFINITE Wisdom that I learned this BEFORE putting on the Badge!!! GREAT work Soldier!!!
THANK YOU for your courageous transparency my brother! The encouraged my soul this morning. Bless you for your sacrificial service to our youth and community. Thank you! #Salute
Recent years have brought a lot of dark aspects of the police to the surface, but almost always the corrupt and violent among the ranks are those who seek to abuse their power or to brutalise others to assuage their personal issues. Honestly I feel that if police had to go through (semi-regular) combat training where they had to address their emotions like this, it would prevent a lot of otherwise honest officers giving in to the corrupting influence of having near-total legal immunity. The world is a trying place, and many people can fall from grace when given an inch of untouchable influence over others. Aside from the truly evil among us (which I can only hope are few and far between), getting officers to challenge their own aggression, fear and self-esteem would go a long way in helping them keep their cool rather than pulling guns out over non-issue stops. I mean, it goes deeper than just mere training, its a deep systemic issue... but we always build from the foundation up, right? This video is great, but I think the reminder that there are officers out there doing genuine self-work is a hopeful reminder. When people say 'All Cops Are Bastards', its a mantra to remind them not to trust the system of power, because corruption lingers everywhere, and its always a gamble on whether the officer is secretly a genuine hero or a lowly cowboy. I hope that you don't take such things to heart, because ultimately people still very much want to believe in the old police ideal, the hero who you can call upon, the person who will uphold justice without prejudice. It will take more than a handful of good apples to purge the corrupt system, but those who manage to work as cops and resist becoming part of the corruption? You're doing gods work. It's often thankless, but the people you protect and serve absolutely acknowledge you (even if they may be fearful at first that you may not be one of the good ones). Sorry for getting heavy there, policing is a muddy subject these days, and we've seen a lot of awful things caught on video. But then there are videos like this one, of people opening up and being honest about their feelings, and showing the young its okay to have emotions, its okay to be angry, or afraid, and its okay to fight, just as its okay to run away. Its a matter of when, and why, and how you act that decides whether a person is brave, or a coward, or a hero, or an abuser. The honesty in this videos teaching is touching. I think we need a lot more of this in the world today. Acceptance of the shadows within us, and then working to bring them to light, to change ourselves, and doing it by guiding each other. Inspiring.
@@Sneakysneaky88 your misguided and misinformed opinion of the police is terribly biased. I advise you to stop blindly eating up what you see and hear on mainstream media and news headlines. You thought you sounded deep and philosophical, but it was just regurgitation of the many lies and falsehoods pushed by the mainstream media for views/sensationalism. The reality is…most cops are good folks and do the best they can day in and day out. Most news stories of “bad cops” turns out to be bs and their actions justified. But most folks don’t follow the cases through and through. They just recall the headlines like you do. Unfortunately, many people like you don’t want to take the time to study and research the facts, data, and truth.
This man is pure gold. his work with this kids cannot be paid with money. I wish i had someone like him to find inner peace. it took me 2 decades to find it.
Just flabbergasted by the amount of love and wisdom I felt watching this lesson. As if the lesson itself wasn't powerful enough, then he drops biblical knowledge and praises the Most High. This made my day. Thank you. God bless you and your mission. May your school, students, family and subscribers be protected by the blood of the Christ.
I got tears. I was literally talking about my girl about this just the other night. That anger isnt sin until you sin. That Jesus would be angry but that doesnt ever mean he was sinful. Great lesson, young lions need to know control or they get caged.
I had a personal development class in hs that had a portion about assertiveness and boundaries. The teacher had everyone banging on desk and screaming. Me and a couple others didnt partake in this portion of class because we already knew our demons and beast inside ourselves that we could unleash. I also think the teacher looked at our personal files and knew we were alright in that department.
Im 28 years old and I wish I had learned this at that age. I grew up Christian and ended up easy going and passive, but timid, and a walking mat. No more. Thank you. Keep doing what youre doing.
this man is so good with dealing with the kids anxiety, i wish i had that teacher when i was a kid so i dont have to deal with it crippling me as an adult.
I wish I had this man in my life. So many valuable life lessons that I never received in life. "It's okay to be angry but do not sin." I've struggled with my anger issues from when I was younger because my dad was an alcoholic. I needed these lessons when I was younger to help me to be a proper man and know the difference between assertiveness and rage. Thank you for teaching the next generation these valuable lessons, God bless you.
This is so darn wholesome, I can't even put into words what your little talk did for that young man, and again for me, a 35-year-old former Marine. I grew up with a dad who was usually there for me, but he did not have the ability to be free with his emotions and I am now working hard to try to get in touch with that part of myself. It's been a long battle, but I'm still trying. Great job, you're doing God's work.
I have seen very few videos as beautiful as the work this man does with young men. May God continue to bless you and all you do that is in line with his will. Thank you for your service!
I see a lot of myself in this boy when I was younger. I was always taught to be passive and not cause any conflict, but when times came to stand up for myself in troubling times, I could never do so. I usually relied on someone else, either a friend or authority figure, to do the standing up for me. I wish we had more people out there to teach us these lessons to us.
I am not religious, but these videos hold so much meaning and transmit it in a direct and extremely sincere way that makes them better than most other similar things
Because being godly is the actual religion. It has nothing to do with religiousness, but with religiously being the ideal human being. It's why you are not religious yet you totally get it. 😉
That's why humility (meekness) is part of the fruit of the Holy Spirit. God's infinite wisdom.... Yeshua, Jesus, Christ The Messiah, The Son Of Man, Immanuel, however you want to relate to him in whatever language or address, humbled himself and operated as a servant when he walked this earth, despite his power and authority.
This is amazing. I struggled with this my entire life--- When I do get angry and let it out, it comes out as rage. These boys are so fortunate to know this man and be taught by him.
He's so amazing for those young kings! Compassion, patience, obedience, and strenghth! He's also creating a space for them to heal, release, and transmute their weaknesses. WOW! When I have children, they need to meet!
Thank you for your ministry. Seeing these young men learn this from you is moving. My father has been disabled with herniated disks and brain damage since I was an infant. So even though my father was alive and in the house growing up, between all of the medications he had to take and his lack of consciousness of his surroundings most days, I had no father figure growing up. The only thing I learned from my father was how to shave and the toll his injury took on our family. I love my father immensely and we have eventually, now in my mid twenties, developed a slight relationship. I wanted to share this because I realize a very large group of young men such as myself didn’t have fathers to teach us any of these needed lessons in our lives for various reasons. I know for a fact that we all have seen in our pasts the areas we fell “short” or “behind” due to the absence of a father. So thank you for your ministry, sincerely. Much love from a fellow brother in Christ. May your lions roar strike fear into the wicked, and your lambs gentle voice be remembered in the hearts of your students.
I'm not religious but this is wholesome. Teaching young boys to learn their own aggression. Do not fear it instead learn what it is and when its needed. Loving the fact. That you are teaching them through a hug. And stopping to understand and explain to them what is going on and why. Good man keep it up
Just finished your book, Jason. It took me a few steps ahead in healing my own passivity and cowardice. I’ve been a nice guy for a long time. I recognised how my own emotions were often disproportionate, boiling over to rage and fits of anger rather than controlled and managed. So much work to do but God is willing! Many thanks from an Aussie in Japan.
I love this man! He is instilling all the best qualities of manhood into these young men. Emotion and compassion are not lost topics for real men. God Bless!
One thing I've learned on my journey is this; never confuse aggression with identity. When one is wild and shows their aggression, there is a deep underlying hurt in the soul, this hurt is attached to it but it is not the soul itself. Only with reflection and release and love can aggression be conquered. Thank you for the video, it was very emotional and beautiful.
The boy started crying when he was asked to intensify and slap the back harder. It seemed as though being in that position of hugging triggered something and he was wanting or needing the coach to hug him tightly. I might be wrong, but I while watching it I perceived the boy needed the coach the hug him tightly to let him get that emotion out. I don’t know what his home life is like. I don’t know how much loving physical contact he gets at home. People need to feel love and to be hugged. Physical affection is important, especially for children. A father’s love and physical hug hits different. It fosters a sense of positive self esteem, worthiness, safety, and security❤
God Blesses us, and the bold will stand with them, knowing that they stand in the righteousness of Truth. I like how the teacher quoted "be angry, but do not sin." This is a gift for the world.
I'm a sensei in Okinawan martial arts, and a Christian. I've come across this channel for the first time just now. What an amazing ministry. Teaching kids the truths the bible through martial arts.. This inspires me greatly, I will be using this when teaching me own kids someday
I've went to prison and missed the birth of my two boys. These videos have really inspired me and taught me how to raise my boys and be a father to them, growing up without one.
Man, I needed this growing up. I just learned today that I've been blocking my emotions for almost 30 years. As a kid, I thought that was a sign of maturity, but it just wasn't healthy. Because of it, I've grown up loathing my lion. I've always seen it as some devious trickster, trying to convince me that being angry will make me happy. Every time I've stood up to anyone, I've been left with immense shame afterwards, feeling like a destructive force that did nothing but inflict pain. To this day, I still haven't wrapped my head around what wielding the lion in a healthy way feels like. Perhaps if I'd been taught to deal with it like in this video, I'd have a healthier relationship with that side of myself.
Never take someone’s kindness for a weakness because when they bring out the LION God forbid you become a victim! Teaching these children self control is great I love your work my brotha much respect ✊🏾
This is some awesome reconstruction for these boys. It's pleasing to see that moment where they break past their comfort zone and expand their boundaries. Great lesson! 💯
Thank you for teaching this soul that to be strong isn’t weakness. That to be kind you must have a strong lion when you need to bring it forth to help or defend others
My father tried this with me as a young boy, but he hit me in my chest and told me to hit him back, let out the lion.I could never hit him back. Til this day, I've never release the LION. 47 Yrs. Never been in a fight, was always called a "chicken". But my biggest FEAR was that if I EVERY DID IT OR HAD TO FIGHT "Let out the Lion", I would probably kill someone.
Berry Collins thank you for your courageous transparency brother Berry! This happened to me as well. My father challenged me the same but unfortunately I never felt his love, so that lesson gave me a season of rage. I learned to forgive my father and give him grace because he did not know how to comprehensively raise me.
@@Cave313 "My father challenged me the same but unfortunately I never felt his love, so that lesson gave me a season of rage... because he did not know how to comprehensively raise me" I feel like I'm in a similar situation. While I realize I'm rather tardy, I would appreciate any advice you have for processing it and pushing through the rage and disgust to the lesson at it's core and embracing or realizing what lies beyond it. (28 year old Male here.)
This man is doing what fathers everywhere should be doing with their sons. Forcing them to grow through initiation is a rite of passage that’s been lost through the generations. It’s apparent, now more than ever, that boys and young men NEED these fires of passage for our own personal growth and development.
This was beautiful. Fear keeps the lion caged, but that's the wrong path. The lion must be trained, and to be trained it must be embraced. If it's not embraced, it will become feral, and a feral lion will devour the lambs it was meant to protect. It's a lesson that all children, no matter their parents' faith or lack thereof, need to learn but most parents can't teach, because they never really learned it themselves. Or if they did, they don't know _how_ they learned it.
This video was so powerful!! It brought me to tears. I don't have a son, but I have a 31 year old daughter who I raised as a Christian single parent and even though she is a beautiful young woman, she sometimes struggles with issues from not having a Dad growing up. You are doing a great job at teaching young men. I wish I had known something like this for girls when I was raising my daughter. God bless you richly!!
This is a lesson I wish I’d learned. I’m trying to teach it to my son, but it’s hard, since I never learned it myself. It’s ok to be angry. Anger is natural. What’s not ok is using that anger to hurt the vulnerable. Because I didn’t want to hurt anybody, but didn’t know how to express my anger either, so it stayed bottled up for years. Along with every other emotion.
Detroit...I am at a baseball game in Toronto and I heard some folks talk about how much a gem Detroit is to visit for its humility and history. Men like this who are willing to teach ALL men dignity and respect are to be honoured. Regardless of race: culture of life. Thank you personally. I went to church today; your vid...
We need men today. I'm inspired by your videos. These boys are getting the help they need to be men by a man! We are the blade embodied, the tree, the wood and earth of the world. Woman have their place too. And every man has some amount of woman in him, but this world is dominated by woman in the education sector and it's up to us men to take our boys back and teach them how to approve of themselves and be comfortable with their male nature. Or else they will remain forever ignorant of their power as THE LION!!
Pizzaman Gargatuloth thank you for this encouragement. It crushes my soul to see boys struggle through their emotions but I rather help them through them, than to watch them fail to them.
@@Cave313 hard facts every failure I've had has been directly linked to letting my anger get the better of my mind I wasn't one that couldn't let the lions out because it was out since the get my problem is reigning it in I was beyond fortunate to have a dad that taught me compassion as well as showing me how to be hard as nails his lessons stuck so hard that even after watching him break strength and plunge into addiction I still hold on to the best parts of what he instilled
It is uncommon these days to see a man teaching young boys to be bold in spirit and gentle at heart at the same time. Yahusha bless this man in his works and may these young men be blessed as well. Yahusha bless!
What's being taught here is inspiring. I do my best as a single dad who's parenting with my daughters mother to teach her the right virtues and values in life.
You get this kid in wrestling on top of this and he’ll be a beast. Even 70% and the will to power through a technique will beat just pure technique and knowledge all day. The right mindset is key. How you’re teaching these kids is remarkable. Kudos to you!
Let him be kind. And teach him the technique so that he can use it when necessary. Kindness is the most heroic thing ever. Let him not use his side that he has manages to keep down
Im not gonna lie, I’m damn near 40 and still pretty passive. I see my son falling into the same traps and it breaks my heart, knowing he’s got so much potential that he might be afraid to use. I hope you don’t mind cuz I’m stealin your lessons to show my boy a better path
My dad was never around much growing up. And my mom and sister are not assertive people. So I was passive my whole life until I hit 25 and since then I've reflected on all the times people took advantage of my kindness or being passive. This teacher is so right. I wish I had learned to be more assertive and bold at an earlier age. It probably would have helped a lot with my confidence.
