For real? How about you have 20 kids and figure how you’re gonna pay for them? They got to have running water and clean clothes and meals cooked for them and lots of friends. What more could you ask for. Greed grasps people and takes them down a terrible road. An unhappy place. Get over it. So Unthankful.
@@brittanystewart723 how about NOT having 20 kids! Live within your means, which could mean, maybe just have a few! Crazy, I know!! For instance, I have 3. Just 3. Kids are not put into the world to be THE PARENTS meal ticket to exploit how they see fit. They were supposed to be paid for their part in the SHOW!
@@brittanystewart723 providing food, water, shelter for your underage child is a DUTY in the eyes of the state. Parents are supposed to provide for that or the state will take you to court. You're telling us the kids should be grateful they were given the basic necessities to survive when they didn't ask to be here? The parents decided to have kids, they have the responsibility to provide!
I love to see how Jill is the talker... and Derrick adds to her thoughts.. she is not that girl that only say yes and agrees with him all the time. Go, girl!! You rock!!
You don't know that she does or doesn't agree with him, just because she is not verbally expressing which it is. Sometimes the wife is more of the talker, sometimes the man is and neither one is better than the other, all about personality.
@@rufusdusol9453 my comment was just based on other women that grew up in the same environment as her. They have the tendency to only agree with everything their husbands say and are not allowed to express their opinions and thoughts. Jill, as we can notice, broke free from those ancient rules.
I can't believe she only earned less than minimum wage given the amount of money the parents amassed in the series. No wonder they are pissed off with the family.😖
Yea he basically became jumbo a bible buddy to marry his daughter and get her tf outta there lol. Remember how “close” Derrick was at the beginning to Jim bob makes u wonder if he did it just to get Jill out of that toxic famoly
My heart breaks for how you are being treated by your family. You are so brave to stand up for the truth that your heart is telling you. Plus, you married a good man who supports you to being your authentic self. You have and are walking through fire but will come through with a joyful, loving and honest heart.
I was raised in very similar circumstances as Jill (we are the same age and we've been through a lot of the same stuff, I just haven't gone through it publicly) and I applaud her for speaking out about boundaries/seeking therapy. It's SO important. I personally do not consider myself religious at all anymore and I'm very politically left leaning, but I still enjoy hearing from Jill. I also find Derrick to be very supportive and warm towards Jill which makes me happy.
Jill, you’re so brave. Congratulations on your personal growth. Keep growing! Derek, you’re such a good husband for supporting your wife through this. This is what it’s about.
I applaud your efforts to distance yourselves from some of the more unpleasant aspects of your upbringing and open yourselves up to understanding beyond your own beliefs. I hope you'll continue to do so, it's beautiful on the other side. Take care.
There are MANY Duggars, so there’s a high probability that AT LEAST someone is part of the lgbtq+ community. I’m surprised NO ONE talked about this before.
That's not how it works though, you can have a family of 3 children and they're all gay just like you can have a family of 19 and none of them be gay, that's not how stats work
Oh absolutely. At least 1, likely a boy and a girl. I wish they weren’t so anti lgbt because the kids will suppress their feelings and become depressed and not feel accepted.
A lot of people from fringe religions/cults have that. Marshall Applewhite of Heaven’s Gate did too. So does someone I know who’s into healing crystals
Just stumbled on this and listened. As part of the LGBTQ+ community, I really appreciate what you said and agree that no one agrees on everything and we all have valid and fair viewpoints. I enjoyed this. Thank you.
If this is your first time finding them, I’m sorry to say this is not fully representative of their views. They are extremely homophobic and the husband in particular has been in hot water more than once for his off color comments. Look them up. Specifically his name, Derek Dillard, and jazz Jennings, a young trans tv star.
@@ciaradiam0nd one, if they are so homophobic then why are you on here watching and commenting on their video?! Second, being gay and a child trans person is not even in the same ball park. I have numerous gay friends that also think it’s wrong and damaging to these kids by having hormones and surgeries and being encouraged to be trans at a young age. There are numerous doctors and trans people that have come out and said it’s wrong as well. As well as many reversing their decision in adulthood. If you don’t agree with them, then don’t watch their stuff and move on and get a life.
@@lysan4878 so you’re only allowed to watch their content if you agree with them- sounds like a really good way to stay enclosed in a bubble and never have exposure to anything 👍🏼 two, the opinion of a few of your friends doesn’t shape the reality that hate towards trans people is extremely damaging to their mental health and well-being and is completely unnecessary. If you or your “friends” don’t think being trans is for them, they can choose not to be trans then!
You have to take some things with a grain of salt. Derrick has said some pretty transphobic things in the past and I don't recall him acknowledge that or apologizjng but I also stopped following the duggers around the Josh incident. I mostly came to this channel because I see the way Jill is being treated and I can't even fathom it. When I reported my sexual abuse my family was behind me 100% (it wasn't family who did it). I can't imagine speaking my truth and being met with what Jill is. I give her props for being so strong and brave. I do question the LGBTQIA stuff but I also know people that grew up in pretty conservative Christian households who believed everything they were taught about the LGBTQIA community etc and they're still learning, growing and changing and breaking away from that. When your raised in a religion that ingraines so much hate and it's enforced by everyone around you, it is hard to break away from. Some people are fortunate and do and some never do. I'll hold judgment and keep hoping for the best for Jill and her family in regards to the way she is being treated for being honest and open. All of this confirms my reasons for completely disengaging from most Dugger related stuff around Josh... I knew at least one of the girls was being forced in front of the media. There'd be no way I could have done it if my abuse had been made so public. 🤷♀️
I am so glad to hear that Derek's mom is now cancer free! I thought it was so sweet that Jill had kept Cathy involved with the wedding plans, either via phone or by going to visit her.
I respect that you guys support LGBT enough to hold friendships within the community, people will always have different beliefs and I totally get that, but as long as there’s civility and respect then everything will be cool 👍🏼
TBI Survivor Christians are sinners too, but we are to hate sin but love the sinner. Yes I am always Civil with homosexuals and respect them as a human being. I have found some to have very likeable personalities, same with heterosexuals.
Someone said this to me so I cannot claim it: If you must judge, judge them by their accomplishments. Is someone putting the health, safety, and well-being of others in jeopardy? Is someone trying to help improve the quality of life for others?
I really wish you didn't put being queer in the same category as being a murderer. Because being gay is just who I am. I can't see myself wanting to date or have sex with a man just as much as I can't see myself intentionally killing another human being. Also, I identify as a Christian. I've never felt like my love for Jesus was in contradiction with my desire for a wife.
Jill I'm so glad that you are making your own path for your family and have opened your eyes to the real world. You can be a Christian and not be bound to all of those crazy rules
I am so happy to hear about your mother Derrick. A huge blessing from our Lord. I heard that Derrick is through law school now! This is awsome to hear.
I love this video because it's so real, honest, and relaxed. It's so neat to see you bloom away from the tv show and into yourselves. It's light and refreshing to just see you be you. Thank you for opening your lives and home to us. God bless!
Putting lgbtq+ people in the same list as perverts, thieves, and adulterers isn’t the mantra of a loving God- have you had the chance to read the linguists Kathy Baldock and Ed Oxford who translated the bible (without a religious agenda but as linguists) from the earliest iterations recorded? Their findings are fascinating, 100% recommend
I appreciate your honesty and open mindedness that you are young, growing and don't have it all figured out. I also appreciate that you left that show so you could be who you are and not what someone wants you to be for money. I definitely had a different perspective of you on that show. It's great to get to know the real you. 💜
I am so sorry for the way you were treated Jill by TLC. That is disgraceful. Glad you and Derick are living your own lives and making your own decisions as a Godly married couple.
He’s kinda shy and awkward but shit for a religious Christian dude to support his wife while she exposes her super wealthy and powerful family is a guy who loves his wife.
It's important that people realize that just because you don't agree with their views or beliefs it doesn't mean you cannot be friends or civil. Not one person is the same and no opinion should be invalidated.
Not when it comes to lgbtq+ you clearly don’t agree with their lifestyle or who they love. How can you feel safe calling them when you need help and they refuse bc they “don’t agree” with them?
@@jackieg37 I'm not the judge of other people's choices. I love anyone regardless of anything they choose to be because we're all flawed humans, so one cannot judge another because we're all sinners.
I understand it partly but isn’t being lgbtq literally someone’s identity? That kind of sucks to say “I disagree with who you are” vs “I disagree with what you believe in” 🤔faith is important to me too but I do feel bad for lgbtq folk with Christian friends who aren’t supportive bc it’s not a choice for them ...
I'm not in agreement with the idea of being gay is your identity. It is a choice of sexual preference, it isn't who you are. Your personality is not gay, your character is not gay...those are things that we choose to be or are raised in a way that predicts those aspects! Life comes along and affects them over the years...but those are not our identity, not whom we are attracted to intellectually or even chemically. BTW you just said it was a choice in your last sentence...so how do you really feel?
@@darlamills6846 I said “it is NOT a choice” for them, if you know how to read miss Darla. You can fight others about it all you want, but being gay is what someone is born as, not what someone chooses. Go ahead and spew hatred though, since that is all most Christians like you, love to do 😙❤️
Happy for you both. I am going through a similar experience of stepping outside of my family and having healthy boundaries, something that I’ve learned to do via therapy and lots of hours of reflection. I see some comments below about “dishonoring” your parents, something which I’ve heard from my parents as well when I decided to create some boundaries... I learned this is a form of spiritual abuse and spiritual gaslighting. It sounds like you both are reflective and considerate in your choices and that is creating healthy growth. Congrats!
I have loved watching your family for so many years. You are a beautiful couple and I love how your husband supports you in everything. You can tell that he truly loves you.
I don’t understand this comment. She always had a voice. They’re not suppressed! Even in these videos, in some videos she’s more talkative than others.
I really appreciate your honesty. I have to agree with alot of your other subscribers, I enjoy watching your RU-vid channels more than the show. I feel like you and your siblings are authentic and real. Thank you for sharing your candid answers. I am happy to see that you and your siblings living life as you see fit. God Bless and Love From Nashville Tn
I’m happy that you use birth control. I was a bit confused about the “abortion” claim but kinda drop it and figured you meant miscarriage. Also I am happy you do accept the LGBTQ+ community. You guys actually sound pretty open minded.
She didn't mean miscarriage. Hormonal bc purposely prevents or ends pregnancy, is how they're looking at this. Regardless, a natural miscarriage is a spontaneous abortion, but they'll do nothing to purposely end the pregnancy
@@lets.get.lost. I was about to fight you on it but then read the line “how they’re looking at it” and thought “ you know what, yeah. I’m just happy they’re using something”. So thank you for that.
I'll tell ya something. You've honestly made me feel like I don't have to be perfect to be a christian. For years I've felt like God was unobtainable because I have been so focused on feeling like I couldn't make the grade. Your openness has showed me that it isn't as hard as I thought. Thanks for that. 🙂 You both have a sincerity that can't be faked.
Just a question for potential future videos: How do you cope with the trolling and negative comments, now that you're essentially an internet persona, due to your famous family? Sometimes when I see the things people say or ask you, I get mad FOR you. I couldn't imagine facing the unnecessary scrutiny you face. You're so strong. 💜
I know this is an old video but I had to say I respect the authenticity, y’all have my respect and I’ll be praying for you both I truly appreciate you touching on these topics it’s extremely real! Jesus is proud of y’all for sure! I know I am! May God bless y’all on your journey!
I've loved getting a glimpse into your lives post counting on, leaving was the best thing you ever did. You have a beautiful happy healthy family, keep living your best lives.. ❤
I've been thinking about doing more budgeting in my life. Thank you for the links (I'm going to check them out) & I think it's awesome that you guys have budgeting meetings. Also I am so shocked that you guys were not getting paid for being on the show. So glad you were able to get a portion of the money back. and... Good luck with law school! that is so amazing! Goodluck to both of ya'll :)
You don't have to have a relationship that revolves around one topic. Exactly. We are all struggling with our natural human nature. Best thing we can do is talk about faith, lovingly discuss our views, tell the truth, love the person. Great advice.
I’m reading your Mom’s book, and it is inspiring. Glad to hear she is doing well.💜❤️✝️🙏🏻 I plan to pass her book on to my friend’s Mom, whom is walking through cancer right now. God Bless you guys.
it doesn't sound like you have any LGBTQ friends. you can't disagree on who someone is as a person because ultimately that implies that you think sexuality is a choice. I think you can think it is a sin based on your religion (even tho I disagree), but its different to talk about it as if it's a decision.
Ya I’m a Christian and I would never tell a gay person they have a choice. I do believe homosexuality is a sin in same way heterosexual sin is sin along with all the other sins Christians commit daily! It’s certainly not a greater sin and I dnt believe it’s a choice but I do Believe it’s something someone can be delivered from jsut bc I’ve met so many ppl in body of Christ that’s happened to. But there are plenty of gay ppl in the body of Christ that I love and would never judge bc I’m a sinner just like everyone else. We are to love our neighbor as ourselves
@@amandacarmel6084 wouldn’t you tell a murderer they have a choice to not murder? Or say, you were born that way, you can’t help it so keep doing it. Which to that I’d say, yes they were born that way, a sinner. We all have desires that are sinful but we don’t have to be slave to it. We are to take up our cross and deny ourselves our sinful desires. There is freedom in the cross. Jesus came to free us of our sin, not to free us to keep sinning. And if you know someone who is a brother or sister in Christ and you see them sinning, God absolutely calls us to gently and privately call them out on it, out of love. Sin hurts us and others, so why not say something. I struggle with this too and people pleasing, but we need to lean on God for strength.
You were my favorite couple on the show. You were the couple that seemed the most genuine. And I’m so ecstatic that you’re doing great! I love you guys and missed you on the show! I support your decision to leave 100% and I hope your lives are so much happier now! I also hope your siblings follow in your steps eventually.
It good to see y’all make your own desisions about birth control and stuff despite being raised to not use it ect. You gotta do what’s best for your family!
I just adore you guys. I love watching your journeys and am so proud of you both for being true to yourselves and defending your family. I send you all so much love, good health, prosperity, and many blessings. Keep up the good work you are doing! 😷❤🙏🌹😊
Hi I'm a new subscriber from Los Angeles. I first watched you when you two were courting and Jill went to Nepal to visit Derrick. But I lost touch when you "detached" yourselves from Counting On. Good luck to Derrick on ur law school. Hope to see you become a lawyer soon. Jill's very supportive so that's good. Stay safe!
Yall are great and truly appreciate your openness, your willing to share your perspective/beliefs while sharing biblical truths. Proud of yall for speaking out and sharing about your family unit and how you've made things your own :)
Omg! Yes I just found your over video!!! I am also 6 yrs cancer free April 3rd!! I would LOVE to connect, her description of finding her cancer saved my life!
I have been watching you and your family for yrs...you have my subscription. I am very happy for you and look forward to watching your family. Love&Hugs. 🙂
Y'all so great together, I'm pleased to see that how jill supports Derek out lot over her duger family .. my thoughts and prayers for y'all,... 💕💋🌹 😇😷stay safe 🌍🙏
Jill.... I just have to say how much I just feel like you've recently really grown. You're such a wonderful woman mother and wife. Im so sorry for the horrible and or sad things you've had to go thru. NOT that almost everyone has to go thru some horrible and sas times in their lives also. I just love to see you finally finding and USING your voice. Doing what you want with yourself and your own family. AND NOT allowing your parents any leeway no more. I can only imagine how nervous you were in the beginning. But how amazing it feels to you now! My last comment is that Im really really sad.... Shocked..... Taken aback...... and absolutely down right SICKENED that not only you had to ask your father for YOUR SHARE of the earnings that were allocated FOR you. But to actually be required by your father to hire an attorney to get it just makes me sick and ANGRY for you. And not only am I all those things about this situation, but I'm ALSO EXTREMELY EXTREMELY CONFUSED! Because for so many many years, I've watched your family's shows. And I couldn't even begin to count the times your father portrayed himself to be such a GOD FEARING RELIGIOUS MAN WHO ALWAYS DID THE RIGHT THING. That he has all these morals and values. YET HE TRULY STOLE FROM HIS OWN CHILDREN. THERE'S ZERO OTHER WAY TO PUT IT!! What on earth could possibly make him think he didn't owe it to you. And quite frankly, more than likely many of your siblings. I just see him now for the crop of crap he is and not who he portrays himself to be. Because it's a lie. He has NO MORALS!! He shuddered to think of giving you YOUR MONEY THAT YOU RIGHTFULLY EARNED. But yet I wonder whos helped your eldest brother pay all his EXTREMELY RECENTLY COSTLY ATTORNEY FEES??? Hmmm..... Give you 2 guesses! Jill.... PLEASE KEEP ON BEING AMAZING YOU!! Great big huge hugs to you. D and the boys!
I don't believe you have any real friends that are LGBT or Q. You may know people who are, but you're not friends with them if you believe they are sinners and are judging them and not wanting them to be who they are. We all know that feeling when someone doesn't like you or is judging you, even if they're being polite, and it doesn't feel good, it hurts.
I have to agree. I couldn’t be friends with someone who believes I’m sinful based on how I was born and created. I would be polite and respectful but not friends.
Kind of like how everyone acts like they don’t like the Duggar’s and judge them just because of their beliefs? Does that mean that if someone doesn’t think like you or act like you, then you hate and don’t want them too? Really think about what you’re implying about them when you yourself don’t actually know that they feel that way. It’s hypocritical to say “if you don’t think like me, you’re a bigot” and then judge them for supposedly doing the same 😅
If you can display and be open about your love, marriage and family it has to be just as protected and safe for all diversities of families. Your words give me hope.
I really enjoy your vids. I love getting to know you through this medium. You are a sweet couple with precious kids. This is better than watching a scripted show on tv.😊 God bless you .
Thank God about your mom 🙏 I also saw when she was at your wedding and it broke my heart but I also was very happy that she was able to be at your wedding . I also have my son in law that is going through Cancer right now he had 2 surgery’s and now in a couple of weeks he will start radiation and chemo treatments so I’m praying that he will be Cancer Free like your mom he’s only 44 years old and has a lot to live for. He has a son that’s 20 years old that just went into the Air Force that we’re all very Proud of him and he also has a daughter that’s 18 years old that is in college to be a dental hygienist and we’re all very Proud of her too so we all need him to be here with us 🙏. So if I could get some more prays for my son in law I would really appreciate it 🙏. I’ve been watching you Jill since you were so young and have been falling your story until now you’re so sweet and I love the way that you decided to live and change good for you . You have a wonderful family ♥️
It’s good you were able to finally get compensation for your appearances on TLC. It seems incredible you were denied being paid especially when you used your income wisely including furthering your education.
I got married with a little bit of wedding debt but we paid it off quickly. Honestly being in debt strains a marriage. I am glad you went to school debt free.
GOOD FOR YOU!! I absolutely love ❤️ you two!! You seem very down to earth and honest. Thanks for sharing your lives with us. I've been a subscriber for awhile and I just noticed that RU-vid changed the 🔔 icon to no notifications! I can't even get it to change back to getting notifications!! What is that all about??? Anyway, God Bless you and your family!! Stay safe!!
Hello Derrick & Jill.👋This was informative and light hearted. You both seem so much more at ease. I hope becoming monetized will relieve some of ur financial burdens. Keep ur Love for God, each other and family. I've heard it said, we get to pick our friends not our family so tread lightly an err on the side of kindness. 💗
Thanks! I really enjoy your Q&A videos. You guys are just such a beautiful couple, and Jill you are just a beautiful person inside and out. I love your family.
How about y'all go to Fiji?!?! It's a tropical country with awesome resorts! My birth homeland!! Will always, remember my childhood homeland! 🇫🇯🌴 I enjoy watching ur lovely family. Thank you for sharing ur journey with us! Love and many blessings! ❤️🙏🏽
I have always watched the show(s) so interested in how others lived their lives. I was impressed with so many aspects of your families faith. But as the cracks happened, I very much came from the view that you both are now, and I started to watch with a different set of eyes. I am a Christian, and I see that our beliefs line up exactly. My heart is happy for your hearts and He lives in us when we invite him. I fully support you both on this beautiful journey of faith and self discovery. 🙏🏻❤️
It is good to have values from your upbringing, but you must be your own person. I'm glad you are being individuals and not just extensions of your parents.
Dear Jill and Derek I hope you see this before comments disappear from RU-vid, I know they do randomly and it's not your guys`s doing. I appreciate both of your calm natures and your informative RU-vid channel. Your children have such good loving parents so great job to you both. Love your channel, and your sister Jana Duggar`s channel, and Joyannas and Jessas!😊💕
As a mom to an LGBTQ 18 yr old teen, I have to say I LOVE Jill and Derek. And let me tell you why....we don’t have some of the same beliefs but BOTH Jill and Derek are loving kind people. They love the Lord, I love the Lord.They are good parents, I’m a good parent (I try to be anyway) they love their faith, I love my faith. I choose to see the similarities instead of the differences. I’ve followed Jill for almost ten years now, she’s a truly genuine person. As is Derek ! Anyway, we love you guys. Keep it up !!!
Thomas Morgenstern I sure do my friend, I guess I should have stated that,, but YES I deeply and wholeheartedly support my trans teen. Was there every step of the way.
@@meghanservidio1726 I'm so happy to hear that. I'm a big follower of Dan Reynolds. I had suspected but didn't realize how many LGBT children commited suicide. Trying to live up to a Christians parents expectations is too much for some of them. Being Mormon, he helped bring this to light. Checkout his RU-vid video of the Loveloud concerts he's done if you haven't already. Thanks for being a good Mom. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-snHZPjB7MsQ.html
@@meghanservidio1726 as a Trans adult, thank you for being their for your teen and supporting them through this process and loving them for who they are.
Meghan Servidio I guess I’m on the same boat as your child . My mom is Christian ( I go to church with her) but I’m trans so it’s a bit hard to being a mom , and support your trans kid when there’s so much pressure from society , but a moms love will never change and it’s stronger than anything . my relationship with god is very special and that will never change , no matter how much people try to make me think differently( people are the ones with hate ) god is not about hate . God bless 🙏🏼
I used to have my thoughts on Derrick, but now, I feel like he is the reason Jill was able to break free and really explore herself. She looks happier.
I am glad that you woke up about the money you are owed. You need to wake up to all the other things you are brainwashed by. You guys are amazing and I think you guys are the only hope for your siblings. God bless you guys and your families!
If travel is important, don't put it off, taking time for an occasional trip. We kept putting it off due to family and work demands, and my husband passed away suddenly far too young. Biggest regret is we didn't take time for a few couple and family trips. You always think you have more time.
