Yes, good for you. I share your feelings exactly, I am a dentist for 37 years now and I would not choose dentistry if I were a young person today. It seems that you medical doctors have it a little worse than we dentists have it. Healthcare in America today is controlled by the suits!! I love and find dentistry very gratifying, I absolutely love my patients but the insurance companies have too much control and the stress of maintaining a modern, competitive general practice is overwhelming. The huge debt that the young doctors come out of school with today, I feel the return is not worth the investment. And now we have to deal with COVID!! I am happy that I am at the end of my career and not the beginning.
I am about to cry 😭, finally a Doctor who is not from my generation understands what I feel. I am in the field for 1,5 years and I always wanted to quit, since the 4th year of Med School, but I let my family have such a hold on my life path that I ended up graduating after 2 years of depression and today, working for 2 different private practices I am still unhappy. I feel this path is not for me, I feel drained physically, mentally and spiritually every single day. The paycheck is not good for all we have to do for the sake of the job, I have no personal life because the career is so time consuming... I have always dreamt of having a big happy family and right now I don’t even have a love life, I am on my way to nothing, working like a slave and that’s it. I can’t take it anymore 😭😭😭
I totally understand! We spend all of our youth struggling through a medical education just to work for a system that often takes us for granted - with patients that think we are just order takers ! Physician burnout is real and even worse if it is not your passion. Please talk to to other physicians who are also going through the same experience. Consider joining Mocha Medicine on Facebook- if you are not already a member. Great support from other Black female physicians and a place to vent without judgement. I hope one day you will have the courage to do whatever it is that will bring you joy and fulfillment. Life is short 😘
Your story is raw and I felt it. I am a Social Worker and I have been in the field for 15 years and me too I 've had it! I am just buying my time until I throw in the towel. No title, money, or status is worth your health or peace of mind. Follow your bliss sis💖HAPPY BELATED INTERNATIONAL WOMEN"S DAY💪
Hi Habiba, I feel like this is a breath of fresh air for me to hear about your path. My father is a physician and he knows I always wanted to be one. However, seeing you at the end of your day is the same way he is at the end of his. He tells me since I am older not to go to med school. I'm so torn inside because I love the medical science and there are so many things I wanted to learn. However, I do know of the reality of medical practice and it does suck. It shouldn't be this way. It is not realistic to see a patient for 15 minutes and properly assess their problem. It sometimes might even take them time to tell you their problem. I have contemplated getting just a PhD in something and go into medical writing. I know that it is something I would get some joy out of to a degree. But there is a part of me inside that sometimes splits in half about giving up what I really wanted, but I know the reality is that it is way too expensive to go to medical school. Sometimes the education isn't even that great to be honest, and I feel burned out before even trying. I did graduate from a medical school with a graduate degree. I keep telling myself this is enough, but I just feel sad inside that the field has gotten this bad. I also know how bad patient care has become. Our system is sick and on life support and no-one is going to fix it. It keeps good people from going into medicine. No-one should have such debt load and start life out this way. Really, thank you for being raw and honest of how you feel. It helps me knowing that it isn't just my father but lots of people feeling this way.
Vent all you want...it's a great way to release stress. I'm in the medical field ( not MD but Cytotechnologist) and I understand how hospitals being run by non-medical personnel is hurting medicine big time. You are one of the lucky ones with the support of a wonderful husband and loving children and a loving extended family in your life. Keep safe and take care to you and yours!
Anybody who thinks doctors are paid too much must be crazy. You dedicated 12 years or more of your life to college, medical school, and then residency. On top of that you had kids with in that time. You and all other doctors are so amazing!
YES Habiba......I feel you! Yep, medicine can be stressful. I have enough medical persons in my family & as friends & have worked at a medical complex, that I am very aware of doctors who burn out, have heart failure, commit suicide, etc. even though the service to assist them is available. I so agree with you. There is no amount of money that is worth your physical or mental health. Take your break, enjoy your artistry & return if & when you feel like it (just attend the symposiums, etc. that will keep you medically relevant & aware, if you wish to return). Enjoy your family & keep making us smile.....until you get fed up of us🤣😂😆
Nurses too. I gave up my nursing job when I paid off my house and my other debt. I was stressed out during the end of my career,the money was good but stressful. When my house got paid off, I just resigned 4 years ago and never gone back to do any kind of nursing job ever again. I have less money now but less bills and do work here and there whenever I feel like. I now have time for my one and only 15 years old daughter to do a lot of stuff together.
Thanks for venting about how tiring it is to be a doctor and care for patients. I miss my Internist who retired a few years ago. He was always running late unless a couple of patients cancelled or did not show. I did not mind waiting because he was worth it because he really cared. You sound like the same kind of doctor. Best wishes in all that you do.
I'm not a physician, but I am a pharmacist and I completely understand the work that you all do. The burnout has crossed over in the pharmacy world also and the greedy insurance companies are to the thank for ruining quality healthcare. I'm also working, but looking for a way out as well. The world of medicine will chew you up and spit you out if you're not careful. I'm glad that you have changed your routine to benefit you, because the hospital CEOs could care less. I pray things get better for you and God bless!
You are certainly not one dimensional and I 100% hear you and get where you are coming from. I am so glad you are doing RU-vid and that you share your creativity and interest. Be happy and I hope you continue to find that balance to life and continue to share and educate us all. 💜
Thanks for sharing this. I have been a nurse for over 10 yrs and I totally understand. I did it to take care of my 3 kids as a single mother but after a while I became so out of tune with being a parent and even as a person from having to deal with high demands and unrealistic expectations as a healthcare professional. It was so draining and my health declined a lot from exertion, sleep deprivation, unhealthy eating. I’ve recently decided to take a break from nursing and honestly don’t wish to go back to it. Then I’m burdened with the fact of if I don’t go back to field how will I pay off my student loans for school or even provide for my family. But I have to realize that I cannot buy a life with the money that I make as a nurse. I really don’t like when I say I wish that I wouldn’t have ever entered the field. If I would have been more educated beforehand I ABSOLUTELY wouldn’t have became a nurse. I feel this post is much needed because so many of peers as well as myself are faced with a decision like this daily! God blessings to all who are in a dilemma so that you are guided to make the right decision!
This is one of my favorite videos that you’ve posted. Whenever I first saw this when you initially posted it, I was a MSW working as a Chemical Dependency Counselor with Adolescents and Adults… I am now a LCSW / LISW-C working with as a clinician with people who battle with SMI. This video resonates with me now, just as much, or more than it did 3 years ago. Burnout is real. I wonder if I want to continue this route. I feel that I need a break to reset and reevaluate. I’ve been burned out since I started in the field..
Better late than never! I am cautiously optimistic that my laptop will cooperate ! I missed you guys for real! I hope someone finds this meaningful and shares it with someone else. Links to other videos in description box. I look forward to the future and only God knows where it will take us but hopefully you will be around to join us!
Kenton & Habiba I’m a nurse and I can completely understand having very stressful days. I really enjoy your channel and look forward to more videos from you and your family.
This was very accurate in how physicians are viewed. Worked in HR and our recruitment efforts were heavily geared toward physician and nurse professionals. Another life now for me. But, I really understand how you felt. We take our physicians for granted and don't realize they are human beings and can become burned out. And no they don't make a lot considering what comes along with it. So I for one salute your accomplishments and am glad you found a good space. Thank you for sharing with us. 💕
@@landofmilkchillies5832 HI.. My experience was a mix of highs and lows. I worked for the federal government and the HR program is quite different than the private sector. We had heavy workloads and long days. I enjoyed learning the aspects of how the program functioned which took me many years to learn. There were days of feeling accomplished but more days of feeling under appreciated. If you are lucky to have a good manager it makes all the difference. Did I dislike the work. No. The environment we worked in was brutal. If you so choose to go that route make sure you find a good match for you. Hope my answer helped.
God bless you sister. I decided to leave medical school 2 months ago. I have my RN to fall back on. But while in med school I battled very dark, depressed thoughts as it related to my future. Now, only 2 months out of the medical school system I have so much more joy & peace. I look forward to the future. Thank you for documenting this. You are liberating many people.
Hi there! I'm a new subscriber. I'm so glad I ran across this video. I needed to hear this message. I've worked in mental health care for almost 30 years. I'm not a MD, but I can totally relate to how you feel. When I tell others I feel this way, they think I'm complaining too much. So it was a pure relief hearing you express exactly how I've felt for a few years now. It was very liberating, and I can't express how much I appreciate you sharing❤
Habiba I feel yah. I realize that I'm not experiencing compassion burnout but I'm feeling documentation burnout. I now dread treatment plans Tx, progress reporting and reauths, and quarterly reports. I'm honestly also fed up with the disease model and prefer to help my mental health clients with holistic and more natural approaches for mild mental health issues that can be managed once they learn to self implement strategies on a consistent basis.
Good on you Habiba. You are so generous and compassionate. This is soo helpful and therapeutic for you to express yourself. I’ve recently been on a journaling for self development course as like you I had to rethink my work like balance . For you RU-vid vlogging is a brilliant outlet we are lucky to have you. Like journaling it helps to clarify thoughts, feelings and relationships, put things in perspective helps to prioritise and make realistic plans. I recall your vlog where you showed how you have kept all your diaries over so many years. You will continue to be successful as you listen to your body and your heart and follow your passion.
This video came on time during this time that we are dealing with the pandemic virus. Just imagine if you were still practicing at these times, you won’t be calling “burnt out” but you’ll be in a front line putting your life in danger while treating your patients. You knew right moments to take a break......
Habiba sorry about that experience ,I respect doctors and I really love mine she is very nice. You are a very beautiful woman and when you cook put the dolls together decorate your home effortless I said wow ,no one promise tomorrow you deserve what you want to do much love to you and your family 💕
I really get exactly what you mean, please take good care of yourself. Taking care of patients is not easy, thanks for taking care of others, remain blessed.
Good for you! You're taking your own advice. I just watched the video where you and Kenton were interviewing your eldest son before he left home for school, and you very clearly advised him to make choices about his life, but to always be willing to re-evaluate and make changes. Be proud of your good sense! :). Wasn't it also you in the car video who said something along the lines of "sometimes you take the wrong road to get to the right destination"? If medical practice is not permanently right for you, you'll learn that by going through this process. So, bless you on your path, and may you always enjoy progressing toward your best happiness.
Dear Habiba, thank you for this. I have been sharing again as I appreciate the ‘straw that broke the camels back’. How the cleaning lady did not check as you worked late, How you had the foresight to wear your badge. How scary when those ‘law enforcement’ appeared, the sherif, the guns. Thank God your supervisor turned up!How you ended up walking into the wrong appartment....The Trauma!!! God help us all. You’ve done your best, made the right decision. You are safe for us . Lived to tell the tale! I know so many Medical practitioners here in🇬🇧 who are traumatised by their responsibility. And as you May have heard so many BAME frontline workers have died of Covid19 in the past months! Even though I was passionate about my work as a Smoking Cessation Therapist it was stressful. You are blessed Habiba. 🤗🥰
It's good you're talking openly about it. It's about time the Medical World starts addressing these issues & starts training Doctors from Day 1 on how to take it easy & avoid Burnout & stress in Medicine. Cos some Junior Doctors can't cope & instead of them to seek help or take it easy they take the easy way out.
Yes Habiba I completely understand what you are going through. I am a Pediatrician who is married with 2 grown children in graduate schools. I also run a Pediatric Clinic. It is not easy but God has been my strength. I wish you the best in your new endeavors. I am interested in casting news in youtube, l love Politics.You are very talented, so I know you will make it as an entrepreneur.
Cheer up Habiba. I feel you because there are days where most of us have and vent. Life it's such, but feel better and try to kinda relax. Love you girl.
OMG! Gurllllllll you were LUCKY that night on several counts! SOOOOOOO glad we didn't read about you the next day! That was SOME day! Bless your heart. I feel ya on days like that, I've had a few myself. You are so fortunate that you are smart enough to be a doctor but you are also smart enough to know when you need a break! Thank God you have so many talents. Thank you for sharing this story with us! Take care of yourself and be safe and healthy! So good to see you back, I've been missing you!
Take care of yourself, Dr. Habiba. Yes, balance and respecting your need for breaks to nurture yourself and thoroughly enjoy your life and family is superbly I portent. Take care & continue to live your life according to your plan. Peace & Blessings
People sometimes forget you are human too, and your candidness in this video should remind folks it's not just a glamorous life filled with endless money. You've already earned my respect, this is just icing.
All Doctors , Nurses etc...deserve more money. It is a stressful field of work. Thanks for your honesty and sorry you had to go through that trouble on that day.
Just came on here & you popped up first. I'm not even sure what time it Is, wondering if the clock went forward tonight. But anyway I do understand the burn out doctors and medical personnel get. We've lost 3 doctors at my job with the past 2yrs from suicide. Last yr a nurse assistant committed suicide as well. Stress is such a serious issue and I encourage everybody to either speak to a professional or someone you trust. Sometimes the best medicine to get through problems is talk about it rather to let it fester. Pray and trust God
I can definitely say that I "feel" your frustration. I am not a doctor but I am a professional in a very demanding field with my own practice - travel, long hours, etc. but it is what I always wanted. Have you ever considered teaming with other doctors and related professionals to leverage your expertise in another business model?
Before private practice I was in a traditional group practice with other physicians. I have worked hospital and outpatient care. Private & Government. To be honest I feel I have tried pretty much almost every Physician related type work setting. Sometimes you have to recognize you just need a break from it all or move on and reinvent yourself doing something else.
Kenton & Habiba I wandered whether fir the future the business Medics Abroad ,which Adanna David (also a GP in Ireland) Set up would interest you as it would involve ‘remote administration and you would still have time for your hobbies and youtube..
@@Kenton-Habiba I understand the frustration but I was referring to other business models besides that of "direct" doctor-patient care. I worked as a consultant for a couple of years before I opened my practice and, during that consulting period, I rendered my services to a corporation that was started by a group of doctors and other professionals. The corporation's annual revenue at that time was approx. $250 million and that was several years ago. It should be noted that though they remained in the healthcare industry, they no longer functioned as doctors but as businessmen. Anyway, all the best to you on your new adventures.
habiba you're my nigerian auntie in my head and this was a REAL auntie rant! thank you for your honesty-- we all need to hear this! the us healthcare system is such a shitshow and i love seeing working professionals/mamas like you tell it like it is.
i just watched this video and i really hope youre doing good ❤️❤️ i dont know you but i love you and i wish nothing but the best for you and youre family you seem so nice ☹️❤️
Best wishes my Nigeria sister Habiba 😘 i want to use this medium to say THANK YOU to all the Doctors around the world 🌍 we as patients love and appreciate you 😘
I agree with everything you say. I can just imagine that day. I believe many of us has had similar experience where sometimes the beginning and end of the day just go completely wrong.
Hello Habiba, thanks for taking good care of others, however, you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others!!!!! I do understand! I'm not a Doctor. I took care of my elderly mother for 4 years, until she passed in 2012, it was a job! During that time, I realized I had to take time out for myself, it was a job. I refused to put her in a nursing home! Thank you for sharing! Much Love Ms Linda
I work in the medical field, I get off at unusual times but I'm having to manage my hours for my baby coming in June, be careful getting off late by yourself, doctors don't make enough you have a lot of responsibility
Cuss some Jamaican badwud and feel better my dear 😂😂😂 I know you're frustrated but I was cracking up when you said 'screw you!' I felt like you wanted to say something else. Tomorrow is a better day ❤
Habiba that video almost made me cry. There are some parts of you that's like me - you are very sensitive and caring.I believe that you have a wonderful voice , well modulated when you speak and so I believe you should consider voice-overs, doing Ads, speaking engagement etc.How about formalizing your creative skills and doing an advanced course in Interior Design ? Anyway it was a very enjoyable video.
I appreciate your candor. I’m from a family with nurses and an NP. I’ve heard about this around the dinner table growing up. I went into education and am now burnt out. 😂
Habiba, I tell my females black eye doctor that she must be one of the hardest working docs in the field. Damn, it’s like she overloads herself with patients. We talk and she asks me about black events cause she would like to go to some.
I am not a doctor but I was in a similar experience as you had. Having been a hard working mom, I got so stressed on many occasions. Instead of using my card to enter the turnstiles to the train, I was trying to use my house keys, looking for a hole!, instead of inputting my PIN to withdraw money from an ATM, my card was eaten by the machine, then, I realised I was pressing my home phone number. Living in apartments with identical doors, I tried to open a door which was not mine.
Our African Darling Dr. Habiba! Thank you for being you! Yes, it's ok to take a break. "Burn-out" is for real. However, once a doctor always a doctor, my darling. Love you my dear.❤❤❤
So true habiba i agree..... Doctors job is no joke.... Very stressful i feel ur pain dear... Sometimes i wonder if doctors get enough sleep.... I always though about it.... No seriously i think 🤔 you should take a break... Yes i really think so.
Good bless you I’m not in the medical field but I can understand how it must of been for you but I want to thank you for all the years of your hard work and passion and the care of your patient .I can understand the hard decisions to make of leaving but your humble and human to and you have to take care of you mentally emotionally and physically because your a mother wife first and if you not taking care of of yourself then you can’t give that 💯💯so I want to thank you for all that you done in those years as an doctor your one in a million given what we’re going through now at this critical time through this Pandemic .I wish you a blessed journey as you continue on your life journey and the next phase god bless and I really appreciate and enjoy your vlog as I’m new to your story but you made one heck of a strong humble doctor once again thank you for sharing your world it a blessing ❤️
Thanks for sharing your story. I love all your videos. They are a place of beauty, love, and intelligence of a young American family with many international threads. You are fun, intelligent, a good teacher, lover and creator of beauty and health. I wish each of you well.
I like your approach to life..getting away from the stress of everyday work and routine just to conform to the norm is wrong. Do whatakes you happy so you can live a fulfilled life ..not just live to pay bill...I already emulate that..taking it easy ..work less hours because I now work for me..and loving the freedom I bought from my job..less stressful andpre fulfilling..
My GP doesnt ask me anything new when go for yearly check. Doesnt check my ears , nose or heart. Reads my blood results and he is more concerned about not takeing more than 15 minutes.
Life is hard universally and most have it way harder. Count your blessings daily, not your troubles, make the necessary adjustments and keep moving... hopefully with a smile, as you seem to be doing.
Yes you are correct people think 🤔 doctors make the world of money but no one knows what goes on in medicine. You are like my PCP only he is a Male I dread the day he retires he knows about our lives my husband & I . One would think 🤔 that doctors gets decent money, insurance telling them this what it cost ,this is what we are paying a whole lot of garbage. Take a break from it . I just love watching your videos of course when I get time . Thank you 🙏🏾 thank you Doc 👍🏾
When my daughter said she will change from medicine to Nursing due to this as parent especially from Africa we were very sad until she quit and told us she will be OK with Nursing and was sick so we have to allowed her and reason with her
Hi Habibia, love you show. I remember when my mom started nursing school. It's funny. My mom will always treat us like her patients. Also please can you make the print bigger on the show can not read fast and the writing is small.
It is time for the medical professionals to change medicine back to the way it used to be ......without insurance and high costs. This is sick care and the only way the system makes money is by keeping you sick. And the hippocratic oath is for naught with the toxic treatments and drugs that are given patients today.
This is serious burnout. A young African American Man would have had a different outcome during such unfortunate encounters...... What is life?? Well said
An amazing video. This is a video you needed to get off your chest. Applause, applause... Well done! I applaud your bilingualism. You speak perfect french lol. You're indeed, a very brilliant, talented and creative lady ( love the dolls) and I would love to see some of your creations/merch on the site. Thank you for sharing. Stay strong!
Are you totally quitting medicine? If youtube does it for you that's great then. I do love your vlog and how family oriented it is. Your partner is studying law as a Doctor, I guess he should be the your first source of encouragement and motivation not youtube or the feedbacks.
