R&B Artist October London Doesn't Believe in Marriage 

I think when he said he left, he was speaking mentally and emotionally. When he said she lost me...he was speaking on his attention...his time.

He's telling the truth about how he feels...don't knock him down for speaking his facts🎉😂

He said. She LOST me... Not I LOST her. That's a big difference. She got pregnant and he longer cared for HER. Got it!

Imbalanced. You can have marriage and be a provider.

These young black BOYS are so immature. They tell themselves BS to justify what they want to do.

Make no sense to leave when she needs you the most.

Why couldn't he do both? Because when you really want someone to be in your life & you really love them, you will make a way for it to work. And I know a lot of guys that work a lot and they're on the road & everything, but they still have a family.

I am glad that he's honest. His transparency is refreshing. So many are suffering in silence with unsatisfactory marriages.

No offense but it Sounds more like he ran from the marriage thinking he did it for his child. Saving the Marriage should have been a priority.

There are too many voices on social media. This isn't something to applaud. This dude left a woman and child. " I had to go get it ". C' mon mane, its call prioritizing.

I'm so blown away by his response. You can have both. So he left her in a single parent home. This sounds like a cop out. October, WOW.

You refuse to be an ‘ain’t shit father’, but you’re cool with being an ‘ain’t shit husband’. You’re showing your child how to be an absent partner in a relationship and to minimize the significance of a cohesive family unit. That’s what you’re actually providing.

Another way of saying he wanted to be single. He is 100% Netflix and chilling with other women. I wonder how he will feel about the kid getting a step daddy. They are probably only cool because she is probably single atm. If he gets sick, he’ll want her back by his side and he’ll manipulate her because of the kid. Anyway let me get back to my husband. 💅🏾

Being an amazing provider is not being an amazing father are totally two different things. It appears he has chosen his career over family. He is honest, but the one that suffers is the child.

Translation: there will be too many groupies to pass by…”I gotta go get it!”😌🤦🏽‍♀️

Snoop (whom you signed under) and Cube managed to do both. I love your music, but I'm finding that I'd rather not learn about folks personal lives. It was so much easier to find escape in music pre-social media.

“I’m never around my kid, but he’s got material things” is not being a good father either

I really wish we could hear her side

With this mentality, I don't want to hear anybody clowning women for being single mothers. We keep telling yall, a man can change his mind at the drop of a dime and MAKE a "baby mama" out of you. There are plenty of good husbands who do their best to ensure that their children can trust them. This man wanted fame and fortune under the guise that he wanted to "provide" for his son.

"I refuse to be an ain't shit father" But he's an absent father and was an absent husband

Yes at least he is honest. I can agree he's married to his career. Marriage is not for everybody!!!

His response doesn't make sense. There has to be a balance in a relationship. He became successful in his career and wanted to be single. You only get 15 minutes to fame bro! 😮

It's key he said "my" son and not "our" son That's telling

It's the, "She's a good girl. She didn't ask for child support," for me. 🙄

October baby, you can still be an amazing father to your son & have a wonderful relationship. It’s okay baby just keep living. Sending love ❤️ from Dallas.

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

" why would i take child support, you're an amazing father". That sentence doesn't even make sense. These dudes have mothers thinking supporting your child is wrong. Insane

Funny how he associated marriage with being a father like they’re cousins but not the same.

What he doesn’t know is biblical principles that marriage unlocks the bigger bag of money when done correctly. You won’t have to grind hard it’ll just be unlocked but oh well

Why do men think because they have a great career it's makes them the greatest father in the world????

…in the last days men will be lovers of self, money, proud, boastful, abusive, disobedient to parents, ungrateful and unholy…2 Timothy 3:2

This is intriguing. I feel sorry for that lady, imagine dating a guy who loved to watch movies and hold you on the couch and hang out with you .. to marrying that man and having his child .. just for him to tell you he no longer has time for “Netflix and chill” and you. And he walks away and gets his career on, while you may have possibly traded your identity for “mother” & “ex - wife” chile ☕️, grab the kettle. But this is only half the story.

Nahh … you jus wanted to be bck in the streets…and not held accountable/responsible or feel guilty w wut comes along w the game….#can’t be in two places at one time

He wanted to be out in the streets basically😂 at least he didn't put his ex down. If he wanted to make it work, he would have found a way to make money, while being a good husband and father like many before him. He didn't value marriage and family. But at least he's real about it.

So before she was pregnant you weren’t really providing or getting to it. Then she gets pregnant and you decide you don’t have time to be a husband because you need to work. And aren’t providing child support. How can you be best friends with someone you set up to be a single mother.

Nobody can see the irony in his thinking?🤔 😢

He tells himself to excuse his abandonment that at least I pay for my kid.

He's lying. He hates her guts, the real reason he left... the kid would have been an anchor to the relationship, so he cut it off soon after... Im a guy, trust me, he wanted out before the kid.

I will never understand the "Me and my ex-wife/ ex-husband are best friends now" comment.

The crap he saying doesn’t even make sense. So he couldn’t be a husband, father and provider. Men have been doing this since beginning of time and now in 2024, he only can be a provider.

Once she said she was pregnant, I realized I didn't believe in marriage. Sounds like he panicked

This is the boys of today 😂

That's what George Clooney said. He got married again...

I’m an artist myself I feel my brother follow your heart Don’t let anybody tell you different.

Say that 1 mo time " I refuse to be an ain't shit father." People in the back did you hear you?

Marriage is honorable! Just because you've had a negative experience with someone doesn't imply that marriage is bad! The two people involved in the marriage was bad for each other! This is why God said in the Holy Scriptures "what I/He put together let no man [person/government] put it under!"❤

THIS DUDE IS ZESTY 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈

"I'm not saying my marriage was bad".. but I'm never getting married again! 🤔... sounds like he's heartbroken like a lot of us are

His mentioning that his ex is a church girl says a lot about his mindset. That quiet, docile, low-body count fantasy girl started talking. She's cool for not taking child support. That's a red flag across his face. He's still friendly with his ex because she still provides him with something. She may still be having relations with him. She's definitely still allowing him to dump all his emotional/mental load on him. When she stops being available on his terms, he'll stop providing for the child. Never shake hands on money matters. It must be legally documented.

I think we’re in a time where we have to admit that everyone will not be a good wife or husband, but that does not take away their ability to be a good mother or father.

Leave your wife for money; leave your child for money; leave building a family structure for money. When you get older hopes money comforts him. When you are running away for anything that means anything in life.

I hate when people suggest that child support means you are a bad parent or that putting somebody on child support is a negative thing. If you have 50-50 custody, then fine, we’re both taken care of our child when they are with us. If one parent is custodial, I don’t see anything wrong with two adults, saying this is approximately the cost of taking care of our child on a monthly basis, so let’s just set up a payment plan for that. Especially if your relationship is contentious, just set it up that way, no matter what the state of your relationship as you both know that that part is already taken care of. If you’re too immature to come up with a rationale figure, then guess what the court is going to come up with one for both of you and just move on. If you’re a good parent you are always willing to kick in more for extracurriculars. I think if more people just set up child support people wouldn’t have such contentious relationships that just end up hurting your child.

I think it was Pattie Labelle that said years ago. "I really don't like doing interviews. As soon as you start TALKING PEOPLE DON'T LIKE YOU ANYMORE!" BUT!! You gotta give him credit for being honest.

Same story I have heard a million times. Man gets married, kids come into picture, marriage falls apart because it becomes hard work.

its amazing that people are actually saying he's lying because he's telling his TRUTH 😂

You were never there. If the baby inspired you to focus on your career, support for this child is a must. You said a lot.

He wanted the lime light,he wants fame,that's what he wants,he's still an ain't shit father,John Legend is there with is wife and children and he's a provider,John is a super star and has not left Chrissy Teigen. This man just didn't want her.

He sounds so much like Marvin Gaye. He’s awesome.🥰

You don't need to get married to be something! I appreciate dude !❤

As a married man that's an excuse because you can find a balance. These days we have a group of individuals that just don't want to put in relationship work. While you can be an individual in a relationship you must understand the power of US & WE. It takes give and take, sacrifice and compromise, checks and balances. I rather he just said "It ain't for me" because let's be honest SELFISHNESS can't thrive in a MARRIAGE.

Yea he definitely wasn’t down for family life. Probably should’ve been discussed before “I do”… but he is honest about it. You just do better moving forward.

Awww man! This one interview has me looking at him with the side eye😢

Seems like an intact family and an available daddy would have been a better thing to provide his son.

I appreciate his transparency. So rare these days

He refused to be an "ain't shit father", but not an ain't shit MAN to the child's mother. Make it make sense...YOU CAN'T!

Some of y’all in these comments are sad. Women say all of the time that they chose their career over family. This man had family and it motivated him to pursue his career and y’all are blasting him for that. He’s young, if he’s gonna get it, now is the time. Yall are unbelievable. 🤦🏽‍♂️

“What are we not talking about here?”

Once she said she was pregnant, she lost me, I left. So there was nothing else he could've done to make money and stay?? Gotcha

What he really said was: "Whoa. I got money now. That means I can have any woman that I want. BYE WIFE........."

He says he worked for the very thing he lost.

He left cause he wanted none of that and all he could do is provide. Crumbs. Narcissism is running rampant. I’m glad she got the message. He refused to be “an aint shit” father while being an “aint shit father.” Children have other needs than a a measly provider. You hurt your child when you abandoned their mother. Listen up ladies…beware of me who leave good women for the streets. No level of good will ever fulfill men like this. Why? Because he’s a child and at that a child of trauma. He’s got some healing to and growing up to do. Girls when you see this come your way…run! My prayers go out to his children. May they heal from the generational wound men like this create because they’re selfish.

You just had the wrong woman who didn't understand the hustle. You had to get it while the irons were hot and she just didn't understand doesn't mean there's not another woman who wouldn't understand it .

I can't even enjoy his love songs anymore 😂

He technically never answered the damn question! 😂

A marriage needs balance. Without balance everything will fall apart.

Provision is not simply money, but time as well. So, if you're working that much how is your child and wife receiving what they truly need which is you? Sounds like there is some pain behind that response to get married again and those shades😢

He’s against capitalism then

There are enough resources today, and I’m sure he was the type of person to be able to afford expertise to learn how to balance his marriage with work and home. It just showed you all he really cared about work. He was married to his work. He was not married to her or his family.

Good u all best friends! That's the way to go my brother❤❤

Priorities... he lacked priorities... because you can be an AMAZING father and provider AND an amazing partner... the fact that he emphasized that he refuses to be an "ain't shit father" without recognizing that part of being a good father is honoring his partner and the relationship with his presence really speaks to the delusion he is under.... he probably cheated since he was out so much...🤷‍♀️

Sounds unhealed to me. Now he bout to traumatize someone else.

Awesome 👌

Your first name, is my birthday month. You are, Marvin Gaye, born again. I enjoy your music. Do not give up on marriage, October. You are in your feelings right now, and, that is ok. As handsome as you are, and, your singing, trust and believe, when the time is right, you will have love again. God bless.🙏😇😊

Sounds like finding out he was going to have to financially care for a child triggered a trauma response. If he grew up struggling that’s understandable but there needs to be work life balance to create healthy family dynamics.

Ok, as a Parent Educator, I work as an Advocate for Fathers in Divorce/Custody Cases in order to get better visitation rights. Although many Mothers start out saying "I don't want to put him on Child Support" and the overwhelming majority of them say that because they're still very much in love with him, hoping for a reconciliation etc... as an Advocate for Fathers, I strongly and always advise Fathers to not fall for that. Why? OK while everything is cool, he's still coming by regularly, he's giving her money regularly. They're probably still "physically" involved, everything is cool. Oooh but once he starts seeing someone else, he's not coming by as regular as he use to and maybe he’s not giving the same amount of money as he use to.... her mind and her feelings changes. And THAT'S when she could decide to take him to court for Child Support. Ok, here comes Mr. October London, with his "receipts" of all the money he gave her. And guess what? She tells the judge "Your Honor, he doesn't come to see his son, and he ain't never gave me a dime, Im our here on my own with my son." Mr. London: "Your Honor, that's not true, look here's my Cash app receipts! The Judge: "In this court, because that was not court mandated, those receipts are considered as "gifts" not Child Support." So now he's considered to be in arrearage, and the court will then assess what he owes from the day the child was born. Sadly sooo many men find themselves in this kind of mess, trying to just have an arrangement/understanding with their children's mother and 9 times out of 10 it backfires on them. In my assessment with men they do this cause: "I don't need no Judge telling me what to do or I don't want nobody taking money out of pocket." And that thought process always comes back to hurt them. Mr. London in his legal ignorance, is saying "she's a church girl" shows that while he masterful in his music, he is naive in his understanding of the Law and court. Child support is for the child's protection and future. And in the same scenario I described about her possibly changing her mind, the same can happen with him. As long as she's not seeing anyone, as long she's every now and then still letting him hit it, yeah he'll come through with the money. But then she starts seeing someone, maybe she lets him spend the night OR she lets him move in?! Oh sh**! Mr. London could be like "OH HELL NAAWWHH! SHE DONE MOVED OLE' BOY IN? THEY LIVING OFF MY MONEY?!" And gives her an ultimatum. You put him out or the money stops. Oh yeah in my over 20 years of working alongside Fathers advising them, helping them get better visitation rights and a fair support payment, I've seen this mess waaaay too many times. Mr. London is free to not believe in marriage, but not believing it doing this above board and legal can come back to bite him hard. Lastly, the people around, supposedly helping with his taxes etc.... if they know this is how he's handling this are doing him a disservice in not sitting him down and explaining this to him. And if they have and yet he still doing this? Then that further let's me know, he's an unwise man.

I'm so in love with his song. "I want to get away from the world. "

Don’t want to be an aint sh father but I’m being an aint sh husband/ person

Wtf.. you left your wife to make money smh

Lol that man lied in real time

I am glad he is honest about being a great provider and not wanting to be married so now there will be more netflix and chill ladies😮

This is his amazing truth❤but age and experience brings about a different view❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

If he knows he will not be faithful, chase the bag and it's power, let him be 👌

A Lot of these brothers seems sus nowadays.. smh

Yall are confused Af. An aint shyt husband IS an aint shyt father. You can't abandon your wife and child then think you're a good person/dad because you can easily pay for stuff. That's nonsense even if she (the church girl) is being a good sport about it. That's evidence of her dignity and strength not yours. You have none.

Yall just ignore the whole provider part huh.. he didn't treat her bad.. he just worked hard and she couldn't handle his lifestyle

Man this dude sounds just like Marvin Gaye. I couldn't believe it. Snoop was smart for signing him & Jane Hancock. And that new D.P.G record is DA Sheez-Nit. But he should do a Lady of Rage Record. She still one of the coldest Lyricist out here. I didn't realize how good she was until. I heard her on the new Dog Pound Record.

It seems like the pregnancy was used as his way out and for him to pursue a lifelong passion.

When you are a ain't shit husband, your kids may soon look at you as a ain't shit father. Best example you can give you kids is treating their mother as she is the most important thing in your life.

He's a Libra! Explains exactly why he's so off balanced!

Dudes explanation sounds wild.