There's a biological reason around men why don't cry so much the male tear duct is recessed 200% further into the eye socket then the woman so it takes twice as much emotional weight to cause the tear.
I am Black American this song got me through my teen years. Everyone loved this song. It didn't matter if your white, black, yellow, orange, purple or black. MUSIC IS UNIVERSAL!!!!!
I'm 65 years old, and that amazing song came from my generation. There was a time when people actually cared about one another. Can we make that happen again?
@@stalinjoesph700 Not all of us baby boomers are responsible for the mess this country is in. Many of us fought for, protested against, and stood up to the federal government. It's not us you need to be blaming. It's our corrupt government that seeks at every path to divide us. If we ever come together we will be a force to be feared and the government will learn its place: servants to the citizens, not their masters.
The strong men know how to recognize their feelings and experience them and learn from them. Men who shot their feelings down inside and don't learn from their experiences and their emotions are the week ones.
I am hurting now. A man I loved just died. He took me in when I was homeless at 19. He introduced me to REM. Desmond Robinson was a great man. I loved him dearly.
@@GetOnTheFloor82 thank you so much. This is snowballing. Desmond Robinson's sister just died of Covid. Ripped the bandages off everything. I was his white roommate, Kelli was his sister. She didn't approve of our living arrangements. She told me she didn't like me living with her brother. She died, I was invited to funeral arrangements. I didn't know what to do. Kelli didn't like me. I had no feelings about her except sadness that she hated me being her brother's roommate because I am white. I know different people feel differently about who is appropriate to attend funeral services. Kelli didn't like me. I felt so sad about her death. That family losing another? Awful. I chose not to attend her zoom service, because I thought it was disrespectful. Other white friends of mine reported tears, sobbing over Kelli"s death. I really don't know what to think. I am truly looking inward to see if my own unconscious thoughts might be racist. I am perplexed, unutterably sad and confused. I know I will continue to examine myself and root out any awfulness. Right now I am wrestling with why I didn't like Kelli. Was it because she was awful to me? She was. How much because she was grating? She was. Was her being black part of it? Yes. I am thinking and feeling very thoroughly about all of it. I know if Skip were alive he would help me through this, my beloved Skip. My good friend. My benefactor.
There is a tremendous need in all societies for people who can repress their emotions in the moment of action and chaos, when all those who cannot are overcome. We ask men to repress their pain, their anger, their fear, their hurt in the face of suffering, and I think sometimes that women forget (or never really considered) that these habits are not a light switch to be flicked on and off as it suits others. A few people can open and shut on command; most if us have predispositions in one direction or the other, reinforced by habit and group need.
Fifty years ago I came so close to ending my life. My parents told me over and over how much they hated me. I was ten at the time, and so very alone. And one day a person became a friend. Some one valued me, and that got me through. Thirty five years ago I got help for the rage that was planted in me, and while it was a long journey, I found peace. And I never doubt the value of a friend.
I'm so sorry you went through all of that. Nobody should be subjected to that kind of treatment. What they did to you says everything about WHO THEY WERE and NOTHING about you. For whatever reasons, your parents were very flawed individuals. Just think of the strength and courage it took for you to overcome those challenges and obstacles in your life and you are STILL HERE. You are giving many people inspiration and strength just by sharing your story.
This song is written for: suicidal persons, lonely persons, people going through medical problems, loving caregivers, young people who don’t have loving parents, a jilted relationship, a loss of a loved one, it goes on & on & on, because we live in a time when everybody hurts, no matter who they are!😑
Exactly, if I feel like crying I’m gonna just let it out I’m not going to keep it inside, nothing good can come from that it’s natural to have emotions
@@linda86760 I couldn't agree more, I hated that phrase growing up it felt like so much pressure. There should never be pressure for any gender to do things a certain way or bury your feelings based on these stupid gender stereotypes, women have it just as bad don't you , with being told "ladies don't do that" etc. Totally agree with you , like that one "boys don't cry" , not true it's the opposite boys should cry and getting called a wuss or wet if we are upset is ridiculous
People feel this is a sad song, it isn't, if you listen to the words it tells you that it gets better, you're not alone and you have friends. It is emotionally jarring but one of my favourite uplifting songs. On repeat for nearly 30 years, will never kip this song. Michael Stipe is a genius
I knew you'd cry at this one, real men cry. You're a wonderful, kind sensitive soul. As I always say, a smile can save a life, I'm living testimony. A stranger, an African man, when I lived in Cape Town, smiled at me one day, I was on the brink of taking my own life. That stopped me, I thought he saw something to smile at in me, maybe I'm not as worthless as I imagined I was. This song was always on the radio, after my second parent passed, my mam in 1995, I was home alone a lot, when this would come on, I felt it was mam talking to me, advising me to hang on, this too shall pass, what I was feeling was normal. I'm extremely sensitive, as are you, in fact, I feel that you're an empath and healer too, as I have been told I am by several of both. Maybe your calling, is to react to songs on here, that are universal. If I had watched you react to this, when I was grieving, it would have comforted me. You are helping many souls already. God bless your work, and wisdom at such a young age ❤
@Professional Keyboard Warrior Music from an older generation. This music from REM isn't even that old when you come from the 50's! But music becomes "classic" pretty quick.
Bro, the look on your face as you watched the end of this video just broke my heart. Im glad you made it through whatever you went through. And Im glad your here. Thanks.
Sweetie, I'm from the '70s the music back then was so heartfelt. We lose someone, you lose your job, the love of your life is gone. Yes everybody hurts. Oh by the way. I'm an old white lady that love's to see this generation appreciate the music of my generation. My grandson is 14 now and he knows more 70's songs than me sometimes. He listens to the words. It's funny he'll say put it up Memaw. Too funny. Thank you for being you. Do not change for anyone. Hugs from NC. Try to listen to Starry starry night by Don McLean. About the artist Vincent Van Gogh. Listen to the words.
Nennine1 YES YES YES Starry Starry Night. This song is absolutely amazing. This song is the reason why I needed to learn all I could about Vincent Van Gogh. An amazing artist who had such a tragic life. I highly recommend this one and like you said listen to the words. Very moving song. 🤗
I never knew what true hopelessness felt like until my 6yr old son and my husband were killed by a drunk driver years ago. True darkness. I got thru it.. you just have to truly hang on❤️
So very sorry for your loss my its crushing me reading comments like this I am a survivor of suicide attempt I was in coma 5 days on life support over a week and I'm so glad God gave me another chance I'm angry at myself for others I hurt although. God bless
Vonda Berryman .. We are survivors, let’s not waste our second chance being angry. I wish you all the happiness this world has to offer, it’s yours for the taking. Take care of yourself, sending you all my love my friend❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I lost my brother in 1993 in a car accident he was only 16 at the time I was 22 yrs old and the pain I felt was such a deep hurtful pain that literally made my heart hurt I cried everyday for 2 weeks and then had to see the pain my parents went thru. So when you talk hopelessness I feel your pain and I pray that God comforts you and hope you heal and try to move forward.
I always say, if someone doesn't get emotional with this song, it's probably not human. Because no matter what happens in my life, this song always makes me cry.
This guy gives some of the rawest, most honest reactions I've seen. I feel for him, he is dealing with some serious private pain but if reaction videos and empathy from his viewers helps him then that's amazing. Keep your beautiful soul my dude.
MY HUSBAND OF 40 YEARS NEVER CRIED WHEN OUR LITTLE BOY DIED...HE THOUGHT HE HAD TO BE STRONG....IT CAUSED HIM TO HAVE A HEART ATTACK....YOU CAN NOT HOLD YOUR FELLING IN....THE STRESS WILL KILL YOU....CRY...TALK TO SOMEONE!!!
Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. I can't bear it, how you must be feeling, it's so traumatic, bless you. Yes, you are totally right though, holding feelings inside, it does have a negative effect on the human body itself. It's healthy to cry, to mourn, scream shout, in whichever way that you need to let it out. You can literally make yourself ill by holding things in. Let yourself go! Much love and healing hugs to you and everyone else here xx
"Man up" is one of the stupidest things anyone ever said. It's like telling someone with depression to "snap out of it". Utterly pointless, completely unhelpful and possibly dangerous. Showing your feelings is the pressure valve we all need sometimes, don't ever, ever be afraid to be yourself. That's the sign of a real man, not all the macho bullshit we're fed on. Well done for being the man you are, not the one others expect. Much love.
It's not stupid. It's basically a simplified explanation of stoicism. " Keep swimming", " keep moving", " man up". The nature of man is to overcome things. The harsh reality is not everyone can make it in life. We live in the easiest time in human history.
@@moonlightgemsart6071 - thank you for your comment. To me good songs are heart felt poetry put to music. An if you actually “listen” to this poem with the respect it deserves you cannot fail to feel that he wrote this from a place of deep understanding and personal experience. It never fails to fill me with sadness love and hope every time I “listen” to it. It’s a truly therapeutic masterpiece. “You are not alone” four simple words that I’m sure have an will continue to give hope an save lives. ❤️💙❤️💙
This came out 2 years before Cobain died (92 v 94); the Cobain tribute was Let Me In - which is also great, if not so accessible -m.ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-DD77lbxMaFk.html
To some. But to others it helps them recover. Everyone is different after all. "Man up" has been my way of living since childhood, without being taught this.
I am still hurting over my friend's death. Thank you thank you all, for the comfort you have given me. This channel has the best people. Desmond Robinson has been honored here. Thanks, all of you. It really helps when I miss him that you have all been so very kind. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Michael Quinn i lost a long time friend a few years ago. it hit me really hard. we spent years helping each other through difficult times and this song reminds me of him, as well. sadly, dealing with loss is part of life and dealing with the grief can take time. it's been 6 years for me and i still have my moments when i break down because of it. time will ease the pain and it will get easier. J.D. Bailey will never be forgotten. RIP. :(
This album came out a few months after my mother committed suicide, when I was fifteen. It was just the two of us, so the trauma was... all encompassing. You are right, you never know when the smile or frown you give someone will turn the tide for them one way or the other. We must be the good we want to see in the world. Having emotions is human. Showing them is healthy. Working through grief, sadness, depression, it’s possible. When you see yourself getting too close to the end, get help. Please, please reach out. Be visible, and find a way to work through it. 💗
I can’t even begin to grasp what you went through, and it breaks my heart to hear that that happened to you at such a young age. I’m really sorry. Truly. I hope you’ve found some sunshine since the clouds and that you’re doing well.
No shame - EVER, Young Sir...when YOUR heart is SO FULL of care and love and well-wishes for others, ok??! You are such a terrific role-model and not JUST for men but also we women...not that you asked to be a role-model but...being A MIRROR to The World is a SUPERB characteristic, James! WoW. And, thank you!!!!
This song literally saved my life when it first came out...I had it on repeat continually...Then couldn’t listen to it without getting upset...30years later...it still makes my tummy flip but Without it I would not be here...🥰
I'm a 61 year old stroke survivor and I can relate. With the pieces of my memories that are now gone, I fell into depression. A year after the stroke, I had the opportunity to move to rural Tennessee, where my dad used to live. A lot of memories are coming back, but some never will. To help keep me here on earth, I got a dog. He's my responsibility and he's saved me a few time from the dark reaches of reality. Loved your reaction. Keep them coming.
I think the most manly thing you can do is be open and honest about how you feel. When you said "I'm gonna feel what and how I feel, and i'll never change that for anybody." THAT was manly, that was king shit.
James, thank you for adding that simple sentence, "animals hurt". I love my fellow human beings but I also have always felt compassion for all God's creatures who can't speak for themselves. In addition to having pets I've always done animal rescue work (& always ended up keeping the handicapped/special needs ones who are usually completely unwanted), I know animals have the same emotions we do. Sometimes people need to be reminded. Thanks again for such a heartfelt reaction to a beautiful song.💙
Wow.... I feel the same way about animals... my last rescue was a little Shitzu dog going blind. He is so precious... I now look for other dogs with disabilities. They seem to know they are special to us!! Thank you.. its nice to see others feeling the same way I do.. I LOVE ANIMALS too!❤
I’m old, a 63 year old great grandmother but kiddo I love you, your reactions and the way you let your emotions show makes you very special, I love the way you give us personal information about your self, like depression, your what they call an open book
You’ve got to hand it to Michael Stipe, he read about the teenage suicide rate and wanted to do something about it. Many songwriters might have the same sentiments but very few could write, what is arguably one of THE songs that makes the listener reach inside of themself and conduit their own emotions and expose their feelings.
He didn't write the song. It was by one of the other band members. I remember that because of when that member hat to quit due to medical reasons Michael emphasized who wrote it.
Hey dude - really wanted to applaud you talking about the issues you do. Being told to "man up" etc is such a barrier to young men learning to express their emotions healthily and if they can't then this can lead to depression and anxiety. i LOVE watching your reactions and especially your love of classical and opera music. Keep doing what you do and it'll really help break down these old school barriers. Thank you.
My first impression: you’re special and real. Just the first 30 seconds and I feel your trueness. I think I’m subscribing to your channel. Thank you. ♥️
You nailed this. We live in a sick society. Men aren't allowed to show their emotions, their fears their sadness, their grief. My his song was written for everyone, but men should take notice and be noticed. It's ok to cry, to be sad sometimes.
And with what is going on in the world today, this song is needed so people can understand and we can move forward. Bless you James. Keep safe & well, Squire.
It’s never a shame to show your emotions. Indeed, a real man, person, can cry in front of others without apologizing. Don’t apologize. Nothing to apologize for. Your parents, your mom, raised you well. Bravo, man!
This was the best and most sincere reaction I’ve ever seen. I applaud you and your courage to discuss suicidal ideations and admit your emotional reaction to this beautiful and somber song. You are a real man and do not let anyone tell you differently. Compassion and understand are sorely needed these days. Thank you. This the first time I’ve subscribed to someone after seeing just one reaction video (actually I subscribed during the reaction).
Mate you're an absolute legend. Men get a lot of stick for crying when in reality we have feelings just as much as everyone else. Gotta subscribe to a real one, much love brother
R.E.M.’s music is timeless. Such a beautiful song with a beautiful message. Hold on, don’t give up. You’re not alone. God bless each and every one of you. 🙏❤️
I was watching reactions videos. Can’t sleep. And I stumbled on yours. I’ve been in a dark place lately and I’m 47, I grew up with REM. But seeing your reaction, feeling your pain, sharing your pain, gave me hope that I can open myself and let go of mine. Thank you. Thank you.
Hi, carlos.....i too, an in a dark place lately. I've found that these reaction vidros are really helping. I'm 59 and found music really helps. Try his queen reactions.....it's wonderful for someone my age to see someone discovering the music i listened to when i was growing up....just hang on in there. you will emerge at the other end, believe me. Take care....😆😆😆 xx
I hope you've found your way, my friend. Just remember, we're all in this together and you are never truly alone. There are random internet people who will help lift you up when you fall.
Hi Carlos, I feel your pain even though I don’t know your situation. I am in my 50’s and feel like I have made all the wrong choices in life even though it was the plan that I was supposed to follow. Had to work night shift jobs to go to college and then study all my free time. Never was able to have time to get married or have kids. So I am at a spot where I totally screwed everything up and all alone. I will make it through and I believe you will too. Hang in there and talk to someone about what you are going through. God Bless.
Good luck and remember it seems like it will never end but it will . You are worth so much to a lot of people . Good luck and don't ever give up please. Sending prayers your way 🤗🤗🤗
There is a few select situations, were you can use it though. But yeah. Some hate the phrase. It all depends on the situation, so use it carefully. 😉 As for me, I am way past that thinking pattern. These words mean nothing to me. If someone said that to me, I would not react in any way to them. No mental reaction, no physical reaction. I would just reply with a simple "And when will you say please"? After all, it is just words and nothing else. To be honest, if people have a problem with the phrase, then one have to be able and alowed to say that they have a problem with it. In the end, what is the core issue anyway? Just words man, just words. And if you get past all this, then the words renders non valid, and they will not be used anymore. When you change your mind.... 1: You dont realise what they are. 2: You realise what they are and you become political correct in your language. 3: You get past that shit, the words render invalid, and they slide out of the language. That said. In a war situation. Those words can be usefull, because the neanderthall mind of a soldier, still renders them valid and take them personally with all emotions attached to the phrase. We are just past that shit. Are we not?
@@brostenen I understand that now. But tell that to the 12 year old boy in the mid-70s in grade school that has a coach screaming that in his ear I had a a coach in gym and I did everything he could to tear me down on a regular basis when I coach is able to stand there and call you a faget when your 12 the words man up doesn't make it any easier
@@martycullison4095 Exactly. The failure on everyone around you. Was that you were not taught that the words meant nothing. And that you were in your right to speak up. Personally, I hated gym as well. For other reasons that is. I just hate all type of sports, unless it is a single person sport, were people have to shut up. Archery is the best I have ever tried in my life. You see. I was also born different than the vast majority of all people. My thing or lot in life, is that of being born with non-typical aspergers syndrome in mild degree. You were born with the ability to only be able to have a male partner. I was born with extreme sensitivity. I just hope you found your place in life, as I have found mine. I make it a goal of life, to teach my children these things that I stand for. That way they do not get a tough reaction when exposed to these neanderthall ways of life. I am not gay. Not in any way. Yet I am in a strong believe, that we all have a right to love and live with the person that we personally love. I am not religeous in any way. You can call me the man without, religion, faith, god or gods. Like I said. I am way past that in my thinking pattern. We live, we love and we die at our own end of the road. No matter what, as long as life was a good ride.
@@martycullison4095 I'm so sorry this happened to you. I totally understand how you feel. My high school basketball couch used to yell at me in front of everybody "move yur fat legs" "No use even trying. You're going to miss that shot" "why are you so fat" 😔
I think you mean Man on the Moon, and the Beyond! Micheal Stipe himself said he cant stand shiny happy people...to the point where he wouldn't play it live
What BOGGLES MY MIND N FREAKS OUT MY BEING AS A HUMAN BEING...A ANIMAL.. INSECT ANY LIFE BEING THAT CAN BREATH N REPROCREATE...ANY LIVING BEING CAN THINK.. . YOU R BETTER THAN ME. .. PLEASE REMBER WHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP... WHETHER YOU LIKED BARBIEDOLLS RV SPEEDWAY. ..THAT IS A CHILD...MAKE BELIEVE... WE ALL LIVED WITH MAKE BELIEVE WHEN WE WERE LITTLE. ..ONE Brother..one Sister... GROWING UP WITH DOLLS R CARS. BIOLOGICAL. HORMONES SET IN AS A CHILD..A. . HUMAN DEVELOPS...A CHILD IS INFACTURATED WITH life...BARBIE DOLLS... SUPERMAN..BATMAN....... SOCIETY THAT REALLY can step back and guide our young children past Barbie Dolls n BATMAN...n understand the difference...BARBIE N BATMAN...NEVER LET A MAN INTIMIDATE YOU.N IF HE TRIES NEVER BACK DOWN..😊🦅🇺🇸
When you feel like giving up on life this song is definitely one to listen to...always makes you think that you are not alone and that tomorrow is another day and things can get better....that's the way it makes me feel....the power of music right there in this song.
My dad was the rare man who cry in public and not give AF. I didn't know for a long time that he was the exception. Men who skow emotions, all of them are real men.
Love to you man. I played this non-stop when my marriage broke up but I had my brothers, parents (now sadly departed), even my wife's friends to talk to but most importantly my beautiful daughter who I would never let down.
I am so grateful that you posted this. Thank you. I lost my husband three years ago to a stroke. He was only in his 40s. I lost myself in grieving. This is an excellent life raft. Remembering that we all hurt. That feels like the way back from where I am. To being more alive again. More caring. Because getting lost in our own pain...is consuming. Empathy is the path to growth. I appreciate your authenticity. You've moved my heart.
My brother took his own life on November 5, 1977. Everybody hurts, but some people have a lower pain threshold than others. It took me many years to come to understand that and forgive. The pain he left for me was replaced with sadness and eventually forgiveness. Yes, everybody hurts, sometimes.
Your reaction moved me once again, JB. Tears are rolling down my face right now, because I am so close to giving up. This song has brought me back, once again as it has in the past. Thank you for saving me JB by playing this song right when I needed it most.
Kathy H Don’t give up. Please don’t. I know how you feel. I feel like I’m hanging on by my fingernails sometimes and it’s tough. But there IS good in your life and it’s worth living. Take how you’re feeling seriously and reach out for help if you can. Please.
We're all a thread away from giving up at times. Hold on, You will be stronger when you come out the other side. I feel that way often too. You're stronger than you even know.
With EVERYTHING going on in the world and our country today, I wish we could all come together and hold hands and ALL walk together, with each other, and for each other! Our world needs hope. Our world needs peace. We ALL need each other. Peace, From Texas
I feel for you man. My heart rate won't get sane for the last 12 hours and I'm going out the door with congestive heart failure soon. But everybody hurts, and I love you for your keeping on and hopefully being the best person you can be for all those your life allows you to face. Hard to treasure them in our difficulties sometimes, but you strengthen me and this gentle soul and you bless me. Thanks for being you.
When I first heard this song I was in my early 20s and I just thought it was a really nice song with a beautiful melodic beat and positive message. At that time, I had no idea how much I would go through in my adult life and how I would come to rely on the words of this song some 25 years later just to get through a day. Thank you R.E.M.!🙏🏾
I suffer with depression and ptsd . After I lost my husband I saw no future for myself. I still struggle. For you to allow your feelings to come out is profound. That sharing of raw emotions is what helps us all through those dark times. We know we're not alone. You opening your heart like that and making yourself vulnerable causes a ripple effect of hope and love. Stay true. Thank you.
This song had me sobbing. I'm going through so much and feel like I have noone. This song caused the floodgates to open and I feel better now. Thank you for doing a reaction on this song. Bless you
This song will always make me tear up a little. Relatable to everyone everywhere at some point(s) in life. Doesn’t have to even be about getting to the point of suicide or anything, but “everyone hurts....sometimes” is just so poetic and beautifully true.
This song affects me the same way it does you. I am bipolar and suffer with depression. When I hear this it has made me shed a few tears too. I dont think its wrong for any man to show emotion, it just shows you are a human being with a caring side. The world needs so much more of that.!Good luck to you.
This song came out when I was alone, tired and broken. The 80's and 90's were always so dope...... there was pain underneath our laughter and antics. This song said it all.
