I heard this song for the first time in the hospital garage in the morning after spending the night with my step-dad at the hospital after his heart attack and they found he had stage 4 lung cancer. We both knew he didn't have a chance, and we talked for most of the night. I told him how much I appreciated him, loved him, and respected him for treating me as his flesh and blood even after he and my mom split up years before, and even mentioned the Brad Paisley song; "He Didn't Have to Be" and played it for him. When I got in the car in the morning to go home, this song came on the radio. It absolutely 100% fucking broke me. He died a few weeks later and I'm so glad I got to tell him everything i flt before he died.
One of the most beautiful and heartbreaking songs i have EVER heard and for his dad to be with him in this is wonderful and to know his dad has now got a kidney transplant and doing well.❤
I had read the the line, "I'm not your son, your not my father, we're just two men saying goodbye." was what they used to say to each other when they left for war while they were both serving in the British Army.
This was the first time that James sang the song to his dad. They did it in one take and apparently at the end of filming everyone was in tears from the crew. James' dad being from the generation of the British Stiff Upper Lip and being ex Military Officer like James, apparently said *What's everyone crying for, I'm Not dead yet* Thinking of your friend and his dad. It's hard when a parent is ill. I lost my dad last year aged 84 after suffering from a lung condition. I watched this video a few times since he passed. Always tears, but They are healing as are memories.
@@shugiemullen6664 thank you. I should have told the good part of the story. My dad was dying 20 years before and thanks to a miracle he was able to live much longer, and our relationship grew much stronger during that time. I was so grateful for all those extra years.
James and his father were both officers in the British military. I heard James donated all the proceeds from this amazing song to the wonderful UK charity 'Help For Heroes' who do so much fantastic work with ex-servicemen & women, so it was a lovely thing to do. 🙋♂ ❤
JB, I know this was hard for you. You are such a loving and good friend to react to this song to honor your friend and his father. You are loving man who isn't afraid to show emotion. Thank you.
Both James and his father were in the British military and when either would be deployed they used to say this to each other: “we’re just two grown men saying g goodbye.”
Never try to hold back the tears. People watch reaction videos because they WANT to see honest emotional responses. Most people cry when they see this video, and when I see reactors who don't, I wonder what is wrong with them.
Not having your father around is the harshest way to "lose" a father. Not your fault any more than cancer would be. The "I'm not you son, you're not my father" is used to explain that they have also become adults and equals
I have lost my dad first then my mother. I cry every day and thank God for giving me to them. James and his father were both in the Military and that’s how they said goodbye, we are just two men saying goodbye.
I don't know how anyone can not be touched by this song. All children will go through this at one time in their life with someone they love. Not only do I think of my father who passed when I was 19, but now, my husband has dementia and it tears me up even more with him. Life and living is difficult and aging is not for the faint of heart. Thanks for being you and keeping it real. Prayers to you and your friend.
When I first listened to this song, I had no idea, that I would find me broken down in tears a few minutes after I hit the play button. This song is like that.
James dad was actually dying from kidney disease & this was his tribute & farewell to his dad. Thankfully his dad received a donor kidney & is doing okay now. If this song doesn't get to you emotionally, there is something wrong with you. This song resonates with me as I was my dad's caregiver for 5 years until he passed away 4 years ago.
The dads donor is a relative from Australia that they didnt know about but who saw this video and was a match. His name is George Blount just like James’s dad, who is in this video.
It is hard to sing when you really cry. This was one take, no auto tune and his Dad agreed to be in it for James because he only had a couple of weeks left. His Dad was a rare match and had donated one of his kidneys to someone years earlier. James and his sisters were not a match. By releasing this song a first cousin of his Dad that no one knew about came forward. He even shared his Dads name, Charles. He was a match. His Dad is doing great now. If you watch the newer video of James playing the piano and singing this. There is nowhere near the emotion of this version. You are lovely and it is okay to feel. Thank you.
In my opinion… the part “I’m not your son, you’re not my father, we’re just two grown men saying goodbye” is about the fact that the relationship has grown and changed as he’s no longer a child. We aren’t just that dynamic any more. We are both men, we can relate as men and can understand each other on a different level. And as men, friends, father and son.. we can say goodbye without any regrets.
Do you know how amazin kind an a really sweet person u r ..been watching awhile seen u go some hard shit ..I jus wish u d best ..all luv n hugs from Ireland 🇮🇪 ..ur amazin x
Story I heard is that when James would deploy his father, also a military man, would say that to him.. to be strong for each other. I think a lot of folks think it means that they aren't close, but in fact it's just the opposite.
This song rips my heart out, beautiful but heart wrenching. I know the story behind this song and I am ecstatic with outcome. I wished so much to have that time to say goodbye to my father. He disappeared for 10 days, some people on a snowmobile found his frozen body. I search as did all my family but we never found him. He died alone and scared and that is something I can never forgive myself for. We had our issues with each other and for a 10 year period we never spoke but with time we reached out to each other and a beautiful relationship blossomed from that and we became so close I swear at times or hearts beat as one. I want to dedicate this song to my Dad, an amazing person that helped me grow into a respectful and caring person. Alfred T Calder, you are my hero and always will be.
The whole of this Song and video is just so powerful! His dad was dying and he wrote this as a goodbye! The whole crew were in tears as were james tears! very pure...And due to the video they found a Kidney donor and saved him! Such a gorgeous song. I cant listen without tearing up every time! Having lost my dad due to Covid and Cancer it literally BROKE me the 1st time i saw it!
I will send positive vibes to your friend's Dad through you, they will find their way to him! My cousin just brought me sad news, he has cancer both in his bladder and his prostate, but thankfully it was caught in the real early stages and hopefully will be cleared up in a matter of months. How are you doing through all of this? You know the man and might I say you feel pretty close to him so he is like a father to you in some way, I hope he lives close enough to you so that you can go visit him! You will both feel better! Deb
This song was hard for me. I lost my Dad in 2006 to colon cancer. He was in the hospital after surgery talking and laughing one night and the next morning I was racing to get there to hold his hand when he took his last breath. I lost my Mom to Alzheimers 15 years before she died in 2018. Losing your parents is hard. God is gonna have to drag me away from my kids kicking and screaming.
You did not want to do this but you did it anyway. It is a testament to your love for your friend. Kudos. And emotions are nothing to be shamed of. (I cried my eyes out btw.)
That really is his father in the video. And they sung it live right there in the video without any retakes because he started crying. He wanted it to be authentic.
Thank you for your AUTHENTIC reaction. Don't "keep it together" because your viewers want your 100% reaction no matter what it is. You did awesome! ❤❤❤
1 month later comment may be too late. but just wanted to let you know that even though you think you can't relate as well just because you never connected with your father, you can become the father that your child could to relate this song. Its never to late to break the cycle. Fatherhood is perhaps the most important role for anyone on this planet.
This and Johnny Cash HURT that he filmed not long before his death ... are 2 songs that make me cry, but I still listen to them again and again. This song attracted the attention of a distant relative and James dad got a last minute kidney transplant. So the song saved his life. That is James dad in the video. They were both in the army. I think James did 2 tours. His dad was a career soldier.
His father has stage 4 kidney disease.All of the family were tested but nobody was a match.No match could be found anywhere but after this song, a relative they didn't know about was tested and matched.His father is doing ok now
The distant relative who was found to be a match also had the same name as his father, they were both called Charles Blount. Somehow it seems like it was meant to be. His father had previously donated a kidney so he only had one left which was failing.
It wasn’t so much that a match didn’t exist as it was his dad didn’t qualify for a high enough place on the transplant list to get a cadaver organ. Age was the main factor. They James said he was near the bottom of the list in England. Between age and the rarity of his blood type (which made far fewer organs appropriate for him) his only hope would be a live donor donation meant only for him.
amazing song for his father true story. James was an officer in he army (British) he was so disgusted by the behaviour of his own men that he left the army and began doing what he wanted to do , music bless you how refreshing to see a man with emotions I am a Mum and granny of 64 well done you
After James recorded this song, a distant cousin heard it and donated the very much needed kidney, his father is alive and doing just fine, at least that's what I've read in many of the comments. This song really hits home, I was born 805 deaf and my mom gave me to my grandparents, they were wonderful to me. My grandpa died when I was 12 and it was just grandma, my aunt and I, my 3 younger brothers with my mom and stepdad. When grandma got older, she became diabetic and went blind, my aunt took care of her while I was in school, then I'd get home, and my aunt would go to work. Grandma ended up on dialysis, by that time I was in my 30's, I took care of her just like she had taken care of me all my life, she was the most important person in my life, my whole world evolved around her. After 11 years on dialysis, her little heart gave out, she died at home like she wanted, we had come full circle.
God Bless you and your family. I just spent the last 4 years taking care of my elderly parents. They are both gone now but I was able to keep them both at home, where they passed. It was probably the hardest thing I've ever done but a gift to me at the same time. I am forever grateful to have been able to do that~ not everyone has that choice. The part about him folding his father's clothes and setting them on the chair really gets to me because I did that with my dad every night. Beautiful, beautiful song, James Blunt.
This hit me on the other side. My father passed away in 2008, but we didn't have a good relationship. The only pain I felt was for my sisters who knew a different side of him. As a father, I hope that I have been there for my son to have earned this type of response in the end.
@Whitewolf1827 I have tears of joy for you at this very moment. Praise God, simply put. I'll continue to keep you in mind and pray for you. I believe many great things are yet to come for you. Keep faith, even if as small as a mustard seed, it can grow into a huge magnificent healing plant. Thank you, thank you for responding!
This song of James Blunt’s, “Monsters” was a heartfelt tribute to his father. The emotional track reflects the deep bond between them and a touching farewell. In the music video for “Monsters,” James Blunt sings directly to the camera, his eyes welling up with tears...The video is so powerful because sitting beside James Blunt is his real-life dad, Colonel Charles Blount. who was a former cavalry officer, & battling stage 4 chronic kidney disease. The song captures the raw emotions of facing mortality and saying the things one wants to say to a loved one before it’s too late 💗 I can never get through this, without crying..........
Apparently his dad got a kidney transplant and is doing better from what I've watched in the videos from other people. His sister wrote something like this sort of but he made it into this song.
I never met my Father, he passed right before I was born and yet this song makes me think of him.. even if he was never there I still miss him, I still want to make him proud.. I love him and this song tears me up every time I hear it.
I remember sitting at my mothers side on her last day telling her it was ok to go home in Spanish because in her last 3 months she had lost the ability to speak in English.
Yes I believe they're just two grown Men saying goodbye and we're good You can go in peace because every mistake each other made is forgiven and you have nothing but love for the Man he was.
yes JBLETHAL, James blunt found out his father was sick when he was already in stage 4 kidney disease his father only had a few week to live when James write this song as a letter to his father the good thing is a ew days before he was told he would die they found a distant cousin who was a match to James father so James father is living and is well now. i cry also everything im hear that song
This is as tough as it gets. Real raw emotion. I cant get through it without tearing up and ive seen it dozens of times. I still have my father in my life and we are very close. I dread the day that he is no longer here.
As the tears rolled down your cheeks,i thought to myself, now there's a true human being and a proper man! Respect bro ❤ps must dash, I've got to go and hit your subscribe button.god bless you man ❤
I been following uawhike seen ur hardships .u look amazing ..I'm jus happy ur OK...hey all d hugs from Ireland ....u b more them welcome .wat he meant ....ur a clever beautiful sweetheart....there loss ...our gain ..ur d best xx
Lost my mom to stage 4 ovarian cancer in August of 2022 and I still burst into tears every time I hear this song. I know it’s about losing your dad but my mom was my best friend in the world and I’d give anything to have her back.
This is beautiful, because we all would love to tell our mummy's and daddy's that they don't have to worry about us anymore and that you did the best job ever as parents and we love you ❤️ And you taught me to chase the monsters away because you chased them away from me ❤
This song is beautiful for son to father - I was holding my dad's hand as he took his last breath and I sat there holding his hand not knowing what life will be like without him - its very hard !! A good Dad is really important !
I love this song so much, and to me it shows how important a dad is in a boys life when I see the reaction of the male presnters, most break down, and that is nothing to be ashamed or embassed about!
I'm not your son your not my father were just 2 grown men saying goodbye is what him and his father said before James went off to war. That was their way of saying GOODBYE.. 😢😢😢
I just heard this recently. I hope you are doing well. I got stuck with nervousness, anxiety, depression - been there, been here. But I am still alive ..striving to live on...
His father did get the kidney he needed. The guy who donated the kidney, remarkably, had the same name as his dad, Charles Blount. He was a distant cousin. Being ‘very nervous’ that doctors would get confused about which Charles was donating the kidney and which was receiving it, James revealed that when they went onto the operating table … James wrote “giver” on one forehead in marker pen, and “taker” on his dad’s, just to make sure they absolutely got the right bodies.
It's okay to be emotional. I lost my Daddy when I was 27. He was only 59. I'm 59 now. This song hits me really hard but, was a precious tribute to his Dad!
You know what~ you DID lose your father. I'm sorry for that but hope you had SOME father-figure to bond with. Your reaction was honest and beautiful. I'm praying for your friend and his father ❤🙏🙏
James ‘s sister actually wrote these words, for their dad. And James put them into the song, during a very difficult time as they thought this was the end. Lucky he received a kidney which saved him. I don’t think anyone could get through this without shedding a tear or 2.
Hey J,no sense trying to hold back the tears on this one,cause it's as real as it gets!When he says,I'm not your son,you're not my father,we're just two grown men saying goodbye,I believe he is purposely downplaying their relationship in words,to try to make it more manageable,realizing his dad,and best friend is going to pass soon.This is his real dad in the video,and amazingly his father lived.I am sending prayers right now for your friend and his dad.I believe that when all of us take our last breaths someday,our love that we shared NEVER dies❣
By saying I'm not your son, your not my father it takes out the emotions of a father/son saying goodbye where they wont dwell on the past. It's just time to love each other as they say goodbye.
You may not have known the love of a father but you inherently know the loss of a father by never having been raised with him. Perhaps you've known a loss your whole life that most only know upon their father's death. Blessings and that was a fine reaction.
