I respect John. He didn’t try to push his mistakes onto OP. He owned his mess up and tried to protect OP even when things got heated. He’s not a good student, but he is a good man.
Idk about owning up to his own mistakes. He didn't bother telling his parents that he failed because of his own mistakes. (Not that his parents would listen anyways.)
Right like how they acting like the child WANTED to be born WE owe that child for bringing them to this world and we don't need to get them everything just help them out when they need ut😒
Those parents are incapable of unconditional love. They see everything as a transaction, or a "loan" that has to be repaid in full with interest. Never mind that they treat their kids as nothing but their personal bank account once they are old enough to make their own income. It comes to no surprise that they pull every card they can when their kids don't automatically cough up money on demand, including but not limited to: crocodile tears, angry berating, threats of legal actions/violence or actual physical abuse.
That’s my mom! She regularly informs me that since she gave birth to me I owe her my life and *will* be her worker. I don’t get to even leave my room to go to the bathroom when I want to.
Man I feel bad for Jon in the first story. He maybe wasn't the best student, but he was certainly a good friend. He didn't put any blame on OP. His parents were just awful.
I think that John was being pushed too hard by his parents on the acting and voice acting, and never got to have fun once. That’s understandable on John’s part. His parents were expecting WAY too much out of him, making them sound like a couple of Tiger Parents, even going as far as to force their own son to leave the university, but ALSO tried to force OP to leave the university as well, because he was a “bad influence” on John. I hope John not only moved away from these controlling entitled parents, but ALSO cut all contact and block them both! Because entitled parents like John’s parents are the reason why half of their kids are rebelling against them. “We were ONLY forcing our adult child to work harder because we expect the BEST from them, NOTHING ELSE! We just don’t understand WHY they’re not doing what we demand from them!” Because they’re not your damn flying monkeys to boss around and perform for you, they’re your KIDS, AND THEY’RE HUMANS. Unlike you so called “parents”! Get over yourselves and grow a heart!
True, although I have two points: 1. I get Jon's point of view, but doing the exact opposite of what he was supposed to do and not go for the soft spot in between, is all on him. 2. Jon's dad is a total idiot. If OP was such a "bad influence" on his son, how come he's actually doing pretty okay at college, when their son isn't? That thought never crossed his mind...
yeah of course there are tiger parents, but at least tiger parents have the decency to know to to cut it out. these parents aren't tiger parents, they are just entitled over Jon's life.
Last story: If the mom ends up getting the scholarship, OP should report the mother to the scholarship and let them know of the fraud. I'm sure they'd love to know.
No time to wait for that to happen. OP and the fazher should make them aware that father, not mother, is paying for tuition, so he should recieve the scholarship (if it would be given)
They would also have a very good case to sue the school. OP’s mother was abusive, and not on any of the paperwork. The school should NOT have given the paperwork out to anyone besides OP and their dad. Now the mom knows information that was specifically withheld from her.
Honestly, OP should let the college know that her name isn't on any contact info and threaten to sue for giving out private info. If OP does that fast enough, she should be denied the scholarship.
I think there's also the matter of there needing to be invoices on what the scholarship is being spent on, no receipts, no more scholarship depending on if that scholarship goes for a year, semester, or the duration of the course
John really needed to shout back at the parents and say as is, that it's the parents fault for pushing him so hard that he fell back once he had some freedom
Yup and when the RA came and said they'd call campus cops op should've said please do or should I just dial 9-1-1 now. OP should've also got a restraining order too against the dad for trying to get op's personal information.
OP should have consulted a lawyer and checked into suing Jon's father for attempting to access his information as well as harassing him and even the threatening behavior toward him when he was getting Jon from school.
Good news about the final story with the mom who tried to steal her own child's scholarship money: the scholarship didn't go through, and OP went no-contact 100% (even telling their mother to F off, which the mother deserved).
Story 2: He has nowhere to go!" Well, he can just live with the person he cheated with (as RSlash said), and if he can't, he should have thought about that before he *cheated on OP!*
The sister purposely told her kids that OP was going to Disney to try and manipulate him into taking them along. (On a trip to propose to his girlfriend!) “They’re so upset!!!’ Yeah, because of you.
You know what. Good on Jon for standing up to his parents as much as he did for OP. Sure, he wasn't built for university as is, but despite the fact that his parents is are awful, he seems like a good guy.
The only people worried about looking childish are childish people! Disney OP should tell the kids "your mom is teasing you. She's going to take you herself." Redirect those weapons right back at the source. I hope the gf has a great time and is cool with the proposal.
Story 4: That was one of the most pathetic attempts at manipulation ever. Not only did EM claim to do things thAt she actually didn’t do, but she literally became a spoiled teenager just because OP decided to do something nice.
You know, I am not surprised by what Jon did, this is the problem with strict parents. Jon had little to no freedom so I can understand fully why he did what he did. but the parents tho, like they are on next level crazy. I have heard of parents like these before but never have i heard of an actual story of parents acting like this. If they weren't happy with Jon's behavior then I blame the parents, at some point they should have realised that their parenting was going to have to lasting effects, unless they are so thick that they think their kid will love them unconditionally. this isn't love, its toxic behavior. I don't blame one bit on Jon for what he did, he needed the freedom. but for the parents to still ask OP to drop out, i mean come on, how did they expect for it actually work out in their favor. Idiots.
Meet some Asian parents. There's A LOT of that kind of behavior in those communities. Not necessarily to this degree (well...most of the time) but a lot of the same stuff.
@@OrigamiMaster06 i know about asian parents because i have an asian mom and i live in asia. but never have i seen extreme strict parenting except for maybe 1 or 2 parents. but even then they know when to give their child some freedom rather than awarding them with more work.
@@bernhardprziwara2392 Have you heard about Jennifer Pan? She's an extreme example of what happens with tiger parenting gone wrong. Even when her parents found out she was lying to them, which most children of helicopter parents do to create a semblance of freedom, they doubled down on controlling her and monitoring her every step. Most kids with tiger parents often grow up to become depressed, anxious, socially awkward adults
@@ahstiasummers5583 yes i know about her. again I blame the parents. its fine to be strict but not overly strict. honestly the parents made their death bed, the parents don't deserve sympathy. Honestly as well, Jennifers sentence was too high. but again, not a lot of people are fully aware of the extent of tiger parents and jenn's father wouldn't admit that his parenting played a part, but deep down he knows.
*OP’s mom, to OP:* “YOU S.O.B.!” *rSlash:* “Congratulations; you played yourself!” Merry Christmas to everyone celebrating! If you’re not celebrating, happy Saturday!
Merry Christmas everyone! First story: I kinda feel bad for the son, but he partied a lot. If John is in a lot of voice acting shows, then he should be fine
Well all college kids party and you know how people are when they have a controlling parents they don’t do anything through high school like go to parties and as soon as they get to college they’re free and they can do whatever they want go to parties stay out sleep all day and also didn’t he say that he was a child actor
Feeling bad for Jon is not a bad thing. He at least defended his roommate against his parents, up until the end. It's also likely that he fell out of his classes and acting because it's not fun to him anymore, but that's all his parents want him to focus on and they never let him have any fun on his own. They pushed their expectations on him so hard that once he was given a semblance of freedom, he used it to live a little, which cost him his grades. I can't fault him for that, but I can fault his parents. Expectations should be self-imposed, something that you set realistically so you can improve and feel good about it.
@@MashuTora All evidence shows that helicopter parenting does more harm than good. By micromanaging their kids to "prevent them from making mistakes", the child never learns problem solving skills or how to make their own choices. The moment the kid gets a taste of freedom, they'll do everything their parents told them not to because they're kids who want to experience the world on their own
Quick aside about that last story. Depending on where OP lives what the college did is super illegal and they might have grounds for a lawsuit. I used to be an RA in college and one thing my university stressed to us was we were not allowed to give almost any info anyone but the student as they are adults. Different countries and states have different rules. I'm not a lawyer. That's also not even mention the potential fraud that is about to happen with the mother pocketing the scholarship money.
@@guerra_dos_bichos I wouldn't say he was a freeloader. He didn't know any better nor had an understanding or emotional maturity (OP stated he was a bit emotionally immature) to actually survive in the outside world. His entire life was controlled and paid for. So finally feeling some freedom he most likely wanted to do what he could to rebel, but he never balanced that he needed to actually try hard with school. When people are controlled or sheltered for most of their life, they can be overwhelmed and not have a sense of reality. He was never allowed to actually make mistakes and learn the hard lessons. He only knew that he'd get things from his parents and they'd make the troubles go away. I wouldn't be surprised if Jon's actions were a subconscious cry for help. A lot of negative behavior when developing is because of parental behavior. He was acting out because he could. I think The fact Jon continuously defended OP shows he has some good qualities. His parents NEVER accepted their son could be at fault and then went over the top with how they responded. Not only forcing him to drop out instead of letting him actually try to redo his classes, but then demanded the same of someone else. The parents are delusional and their son is unfortunately their greatest victim. I know someone who was held to a higher standard and was expected to do certain things despite not only a desire to have a different path, but an actual learning disability which greatly handicapped learning engineering programming. They continuously got angrier and pressuring higher to either be an architect or engineer, when this person didn't want to do those things to begin with. There was an emotional immaturity and a lot of mental issues because of these unfair standards. It doesn't help that other relatives were given a choice in their career paths and had their schooling fully paid for. Often times it isn't a matter of laziness, but late emotional development for having a lack of freedom in their childhood and teen years.
Johns parents had invested so much of their time and effort into controlling him like a robot his whole life that when he was finally given personal responsibility and failed due to lack of naturally acquired maturity, they couldn't accept that it wasn't their own failure as parents and had to find a scapegoat. He was also probably burned out so college was more or less a way to let loose finally.
Last story, sue the fuck out of everyone. Your mother for accessing private information and the college for giving out private information. That's not okay, and they will bend to you quickly once they realize that someone fucked up. You'll basically be guaranteed a free ride to college anyway depending on the settlement you get.
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As someone who was an Avid Disneyland Passholder for almost 10 years before the pandemic (and before the recent lawsuit), it's ironic that the Entitled Sister says that "Disneyland is for kids". Walt created Disneyland because back then a lot of amusement parks were kid-orientated, meaning that only kids could ride the rides and the adults just kinda sat on the sidelines. He got bored and thought there should be a place where both the kids AND adults could have fun together. If anything, I've been seeing a lot more adults going to Disneyland in recent years thanks to collectible events and unofficial holidays at the park. Disneyland itself has become much more family and adult orientated, like Disney himself wanted.
@@vaporean_boylove.0w083 i can spare a minute to have fun, not thousands of dollars and multiple weeks of my life year in and year out on the same stuff i was obsessed with when i was 5
@@ianh1504 Cartoons are for everyone. The Disney parks are family parks. Meaning adults can enjoy it without needing to have kids enjoy it. Disney is a phase for some, but for others, it's a loved lifestyle.
@@vaporean_boylove.0w083 like i like pokemon, every so often ill play the old games or indulge my young cousins in some pokemonery. what i dont do is go around naming myself about the most doable pokemon uwu theres lines in life, theres boundaries, people might put up with your bs because theyre afraid of the tantrums youll throw that doesnt mean its good
ur comment is incomplete. i think u meant to say "to do with it." the roommate had plenty to do.........................like.................................STUDY
I think something is missing from that last story. That’s not how scholarships work, also the reception desk wouldn’t have a lot of the info required to get a scholarship. Also, OP only has to go to the school’s financial aid office and alert them to the situation. Which he needs to do anyway as there’s the potential for fraud charges here which may come back to him
I'll never comprehend how parents can use their childs money. Growing up, we were dirt poor. No indoor plumbing, ate gravy biscuits all 3 meals, 3 months straight. My mom absolutely refused to use mine. I've been dead broke & my son had around $120 because he's a saver. I'd beg on a street corner before I used his money, young or an adult.
Sadly it's very common. My mother for example (who I have no contact with nowadays) took everything I had saved up, then proceeded to ask for "gas money" (she actually used it for gas maybe one or two times), then stole another 1000$ before running off lmao
then there's my mother, who owes me ~$200 (plus the furniture she stole when she threw my fiance out of the house where WE paid most of the rent, SHE WASN'T LIVING THERE BTW) which includes $100 she used to buy a dog she dumped on us after less than a month, and her simp of an ex (the reason we got kicked out, the place was in his name) threw a temper tantrum when I refused to give my ABUSIVE MOTHER money when 1, I didn't have the money he was asking for (and she wanted it for cigarettes and pot) and 2, my FIANCE's BIRTHDAY was coming up! (I bought him dinner, we had greek)
Now, my parents didn't mind me using their Amazon Prime account while I was at college (more economical to have one Prime account for the household), but I still used my own card to pay for it.
That last story has an EASY solution… file a formal complaint about the privacy violation to the uni. That way the “scholarship” is denied AND she gets thrown in jail for fraud
First story: I have a friend who is a college professor. According to the stories he tells, some parents never accept that their child is less than perfect and try to blame others. He has had the parents of second-year college students sit in his office and demand he change their child's grade. (He teaches a specialized field of physics, by the way, so the grades are strictly based on getting the right answers.)
Oh yeah, nothing makes me smile more than the time my mother called me an SOB and without missing a beat I said "Oh yeah? What does that make you!?" and she just screamed it back at me also without missing a beat. Ah, good times...
The dad didn’t even give the kid a chance to turn it around? There’s no way to know the college wouldn’t have continued to work with him either, even if he didn’t ace those two finals. What a psycho!
That last story: I feel OP hard. When I was in middle school, I had to go to a special church class after school once a week with my brother. It worked like any other class/school where my parents had to leave information in case something happened. The classes were also attached to our church. It's also fair to mention that my grandfather lives in the same area and everyone in the church knows him and our family. On top of that, he's as invasive as OP's mother in the story. He always asked my mom when our classes were so he could just show up and tag along after our parents picked us up, but she refused to tell him. One day, out of the blue, my mom gets a call from the church and she's MAD! It turns out that he got the receptionist talking and got her to tell him when my brother and I had class. When he left, she realized she did something wrong as he wasn't even on our papers and called our mother to inform her. I learned a lot of colorful words that day.
What? Adults aren't allowed to go to Disney? What? "I know you're going to propose and would definitely like privacy, but you should take MY CHILDREN with you anyway, despite the costs and despite your plans." 🙄 Edit: OP isn't the one who upset the kids, their own mother is. Do NOT feel guilty.
That story with the mother getting OP's info from her college... I have worked a lot in post-secondary institutions and where I live it's federal law that you can't give out that type of information. If the student is legally an adult (true of virtually all of our students) then the school cannot even confirm or deny if the student is enrolled there, even if the person asking is the one footing the bill. Anyone who would give out that type of information would be in serious trouble not just from the employer but also legally. You can image that some parents get irate when they phone to complain about exams, grades, etc. of their (adult) children and are told the school cannot even confirm that the person is a student there. There are actually scripts printed out for the staff to read in different situations to ensure that the students' privacy, and the responding employee, are protected. It is unbelievable to me that anyone would give out that type of information about an adult even if there were no laws like that in place. As OP mentioned, how do they even know that woman is the mother? How do they know if OP wants her mother involved in her financial affairs? How do they know that the mother is not trying to harm OP? etc., etc., etc. (and in this case, all of the 'bad answers' to those questions apply). The school has a responsibility to take care of its students. Shame on the person(s) who opted to go behind the back of one of their students in favour of a random stranger on the phone.
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That last story op seems to not like conflict. But I vote they call out the school and sue for that violation. It's kinda illegal to give a student's information out to people not on the paper work. This is how kidnappings and identity theft happen.
Scholarship story: I hope OP tries to contact the school to see if there is any way to block that scholarship money from his mom. If there isn't anyway to block it. I hope he considers sueing the school. That's a breech of privacy. That money, rightfully, should go to OP and his Dad who are paying those loans.
Eh, last I checked. Disney is for the whole FAMILY. NOT just for Kids. And OP, don't you or your Fiancé DARE feel guilty. Your sister got her kids hopes up and had them dashed. Not you and your Fiancé. Your Sister is just jealous of you because you have the Money to go to Disneyland, which I think is a beautiful place for a Wedding.
Kinda two months late here. But the last story, the college giving out information like that without it being approved by OP is a FERPA (Family Education Rights and Privacy Act) Violation. As a Resident Assistant and Community Director for one of the dorms in my University, this is not something you want to break because it can cause some serious repercussions for the University. OP could definitely have grounds to file some kind of suit for information being disclosed to a parent without express permission.
Yeah privacy laws are only wishful thinking, or if you have enough money and time to go to court over it. Privacy gets violated all the time, odds are if someone who hates or is targeting you wants to get you, they can just call up a utility company or where you work and sweet talk the representatives on the phone and there is a good chance they will hand over all your info. I know so many people that their family members have ripped them off this way. Doesn't have to be family. Know a few people who got plain old scammed by enemies, but unfortunately I know a lot of people that feel it is ok to steal from family. It's weird that you are more likely to be ripped off by someone close to you than a stranger.
I feel bad for the guy. Because of that father who jump to conclusions way fast with no explanation to why. He just completely assume that it was the roommates fault.
In the 3rd story i totally agree that OP should go no contact with his parent but not before leaving them a text that calls them out for their BS and telling them that he's better without them alongside many other insults before blocking them out entirely and essentially ghosting them, that would be a sweet revenge. On the 4rst i think story OP should call a Lawyer and sue her mother, he can't let her get away with what she has done.
I agree on this. TBH, no contact without letting them know why is kind of pointless. You want them to know why so they can possibly change themselves and become a better person, even if you don't want to talk to them ever again. And, hey, if they toss out your reasons for going no contact, then their loss.
That first story... Wouldn't it have been possible to ask for attendance from both students' teachers? Even if it's at college or university level, teachers need to keep track of the students that are present, no? At the very least, someone who's skipping all of the classes they're registered to would be found out pretty quickly, while OP would be protected by his teachers saying he has perfect attendance, which therefore would give away that the ex-child star is the only one to blame for the failure.
Ok.. if Jon was a child actor, he was paid, and at least some of that money should have been invested on his behalf... what happened to all that money that he needed/qualified for any type of scholarship at all, "Dad" ? Hmmmm...?
Who wants to be babysitting someone else's kids on a romantic vacation, regardless of where?! Personally, my wife & I are massive Disney fans. I wasn't allowed to watch "mindless waste of time things like Disney" growing up so my wife is the one that introduced me to it around 86 so a trip like that would be very special and very romantic for us, and for the life of me I can't imagine what a damper looking after someone else's children would be to that trip. OP, please just blow off the entitlement and enjoy y'all's trip to Disney Paris! These times are priceless!
story 1 : If that dad tried that to me while i laid in that bed he would have catched a strong spray of deoderant in his eyes and mouth. EDIT i would sent the cops and computer crime unit after them after so much harrasment.
The last OP needs to report her mom. Mom could and should go to jail for that. It’s literally fraud. It would also be easier to go no contact, which OP should definitely do as well.
No, the entitled parents from the first story though op was pulling a flame king from adventure time and repeatedly whispering "Evil evil evil evil" into their son's ear while he slept😂
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11:44 Sounds right to me, his mother basically called herself out for being a B. Yatch to him. At this point, he could just call out the ultimatum with the price of chairs for taking them back, since they're in his name.
I've worked for private schools as a teacher. It is completely within the realm of possibility that parents enable their children's bad behavior, even well into adulthood. How do you think we got Donald Trump?
I firmly believe that if a child is to be an actor, then the parent should not be their manager. Be present and offer guidance, but get a professional agent to handle the child's career. I've seen too many instances where child actors had their parents also be their managers, the kids grow up to be total wrecks, doing drugs, having mental breakdowns, going to prison or the psych ward, end up in conservatorships, and finally it comes out that the parents were being abusive and exploiting their children's fame for their own gain. And even if they can successfully restart their career, that stigma still stays with them. But sometimes, it ends tragically. Look what happened to Michael Jackson. The abuse he suffered at the hands of his father made him grow up to be a very troubled adult, especially when it came to children, and he finally died of a drug overdose. And I remember watching the anime Zombie Land Saga, where one of the zombies idols, Lily Hoshikawa, was formerly a child actor who was pushed too hard by her father, focusing more on her career than being a child. Finally, at a young age (as in, just entering puberty), she died from an exhaustion-induced heart attack. Her death was probably the saddest of all the zombies.
For that last story, that girl needs to sue the university for handing out her personal information to a stranger without her consent. She also needs to sue her mother and report her for fraud. That university literally broke the law by handing out a students personal info to a stranger without their consent. OP needs to take legal action NOW. BEFORE her mother gets the first payment. Because if her mother gets the first payment, it will be extremely difficult to stop all the other future payments. She has allowed her mother to get away with this shit for too long. OP needs to grow a fucking spine and stand up for herself, before her mother ruins her life!
500 dollars OP, I am so sorry. The one time my Mom's borrowed a substantial amount from me, she asked and made sure to be clear about what it was for and tell me that I could of course say no. It was from an account that she put money into all the time to pay for my braces (which are Uber expensive as in almost a million all together in my currency). She started it when I was like 9 years old and she'd asked me about taking a quarter million or so out to give my big sister a massive opportunity when I was like 13. I said yes and she double checked and made sure to be thankful and kind about it all. That's how you respect your children.
I have to give Jon props for, however ineffectually, standing up to his parents about OP. He couldn't stop them, or beat them, but he TRIED. He NEVER threw OP under the bus. Poor guy. He got his very first taste of freedom, ever, and he lost it, because he couldn't control the addiction to freedom and rebellion. And at a top-tier school, too! Maybe it would have been easier at a lower-ranked school, but his parents probably wouldn't have allowed him to attend a "low class" school.
Cheater's mom is insane. If he has nowhere to go, then maybe he shouldn't have cheated on the person he lived with? Maybe you can take him back home, mommy.
I swear, parents who try to sponge off their kids as adults are the worst. They think that since it's their child, and that they raised them, they're entitled to their money, benefits and their lives. Like who does that? Why would you choose to have a child,just so you can Rrip them off later in life? Don't you understand you're just gonna ruin your relationship with your own child?
Jon parents are crazy just because your kid fail college doesn't mean his roommate should follow him. I think there put to much on Jon college not for everyone. I graduate college 2013 but it was fun. Op nta but Jon parents are the one
My mother used to call my little brother a pig when we were kids. I think it was because of the way he ate. This was over 20 years ago, so I don't really remember the exact reason. Anyway, my little brother would just answer, and I remember jokingly asking what the mother of a pig is called. It works better in Danish because a swine or sow is called a "So," which is the same word we use for "b***h" in Danish. So she was essentially calling herself a "b***h."
I work in the admissions office of my university and on the first day we all went through online training. One of those trainings was all about FERPA, a US law that basically says that identifying and private information that can’t be seen by basically doing a Google search is not meant to be given out unless the person can prove they are the student or someone the student has given access to. That last story is a huge FERPA violation, based on the way I was taught about it anyway.
Story 2: If Mommy Dearest cares so much about where her poor, misguided son is staying, why doesn't she have him stay with her? Surely she's at least got a couch for him to stay on for a couple weeks.
That last story sounds like the school violated FERPA laws which could land them in serious legal trouble. Also, OP posted an update. The "scholarship" for the mother didn't go through. OP cut off all ties with the mom.
*last story* The OP is from Spain. The scholarship was denied and OP has cut ties with their mother. The dad bitched out the dorm administrators but didn’t sue as he didn’t want to go through the hassle.
In the last story, OP has the chance for a Malicious Compliance. Act sarcastically grateful towards your mom and ask the information for the scholarship, since you will need evidence that the funds are being used in paying your tuition. If she doesn't hand you the info and the money she might get in trouble for fraud and will get arrested. If she is doing this in your name, you might be held accountable as well, so prepare your evidence that your father is paying and your mother is the one using the money. I bet she won't be happy, but would comply before getting into jail.
That last story, OP should definitely involve the school. If they're in the US, that's a FERPA violation. (Think HIPAA but for education.) Plus if the mom gets any funds, it *is* money taken from OP. The school determines how much OP is eligible for. The student can then take the full amount or partial. So let say he's entitled to $10k/semester. The mom takes $4k, that means instead of him having the flexibility to receive uptown $10k, he now can only get $6k. (Numbers are hypothetical and for example purposes only.)
Mom forces ex-husband to pay for kids' college. Mom then constantly pesters kids to get money kick backs for said college payments. Dad somehow DOESN'T immediately react with the law on his side. People are not smart. Edit: WTF is wrong with that school!? REPORT BOTH THE MOM AND THE SCHOOL.
That last story is crazy, the university violated FERPA a strict ruling that you cannot give out any student information to anyone besides the student. That’s super illegal
There's got to be something they can do about that last one. She has to apply using OP's information to get the scholarship, if she has to apply through the school they could probably warn that someone is trying to commit fraud and flag it. Or report it or something so the fraud isn't pinned on OP
