r/EntitledPeople - Sister-In-Law DEMANDS I Pay $35,000 for HER Family Vacation! [My Job Pays Well] 

What would you do if you suddenly found yourself with 1 Million dollars TOMORROW? How would you spend it, and who would you hide from? Best comment wins THIS cookie. 🍪

It wasn't money that destroyed the family, it was greed and entitlement.

This is why you should act like poor even if you have millions. And never let family know about your bank balance. Ever

My aunt once told me she wouldn’t want to win the lottery, because everyone would be after her money. I said You can just give it to me. She said See, it’s already started!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Respect to her husband though. Always by her side and acknowledging its "her" money and not "theirs" is huge.

The national wildlife service recommends you _don't_ feed the animals. It makes them dependant and unwilling to forage for their own food.

She is not that sister-in-law's personal bank account. She paid for their house, I would've been so grateful for that.

She paid off their mortgage, and their kids college funds. That's what people work their whole lives for. Why cant they pay their own damn vacation

That poor woman. She's been more than generous with HER money.

I hope the uncle who slapped OP got arrested and charged with assault.

The uncle that slapped her knew what he was doing. His aim was for her to hit him back so he could sue for assault charges so he would get that money any way. She was super smart to have the cops there to prevent her retaliation.

"I know some of you will wonder why I don't just give the money" yeah, no. I'm wondering why you have already given that much.

Having paid off their mortgage, their kids college, etc, was already very generous and kind of her. To demand her to pay for an expensive vacation for them is incredibly fd up. Really! What greedy, ungrateful rats!

I think OP has a six figure salary. In my opinion, she shouldn't give the ungrateful relatives a cent.

I knew a person who won a large amount of money from the lotto. Just like you relatives and non relatives came out of the woodwork demanding money. He simply told them that ALL of it was invested and he had no control or access to it. Ended the problem.

I jaw dropped when they asked for 800,000 dollars for each child, LIKE WHERE TF ARE YOU TAKING THEM TO NEED THAT MUCH!?

If I came into a lot of money I wouldn’t tell anyone

I hope this woman stands her ground, and doesn't give in to what is amounting to be family terrorism/extortion.

After all this woman did I can't believe that this SIL is still trying to get MORE. she's disgusting. Good for OP saying No And the others that called later are just as gross as the other greedy ones. I would cut off anyone that feels entitled to anything. I also love that she gave them the same quote they gave when OP and hubby needed help. I pray she dosen't give into any of the demands. Stay strong

The point lost on the BIL and SIL is: when someone gives you money, you thank them graciously. You do NOT ask them for money or even demand money from them.

OP has NO fault on this! She shouldn't feel bad at all,. She is not dividing the family, she is cleansing it!

My god, if anyone even considered paying off my mortgage I’d be so eternally grateful and make sure they knew it. But I guess I’m not entitled

Family can be far more toxic than strangers, cut everyone off the money and tell them that she is the blame for it.

Don't you dare give another child college money. After treating you so badly. Have nothing to do with BIL or SIL they're trash. Surprisingly their kids sound wonderful!!! Take care. 😷😎😷

The person with the money should keep it. They have already been more than generous

„You can pay for the holiday, you just don‘t want to“ Yeah, Bill Gates CAN pay the holidays too, so why doesn’t she just ask him?

In elementary school....I had started giving a poor girl in my class a nickel for juice or milk money.... (yes I am aging myself...lol).....UNTIL she showed up to one of my classes....had me go to the classroom door to find she had her hand out demanding “her” nickel she felt was due her....needless to say...that was the end of that....even as a 3rd grader I was well aware I was being used.....sad....but when someone is kind to you....you should never take that for granted....nobody owes you a damn thing...:(

Had a friend come into money. I was there when it happened. I flat out told him don't let anyone know you have this, just spend only a little extra on yourself over time and no one will be the wiser. He didn't listen to me. Now, the two of us hung out in mostly different circles of friends, I was aquaintance level at best with a few of the circle he hung out with. He said it was no big deal, nothing would change with his close buds. Yeah...within a week his 'close buds' were asking him for money, by the end of a month he had to cut ties with all of them. His own family was haranging him for cash too. After 7-8 months he moved out of state, changes his numbers, didn't tell anyone about his new job, etc. The only one he still talks to is me and his sister, I was shocked to hear the two of us were the only people who never asked him for money. All this from what was honestly not a lot of money. He only found himself suddenly flushed with 'buy 3 houses' money. Which is what he did, one to live in, two to rent as supplementary income while his job generates his actual income. It is incredible how people are more like guppies than they would want to admit.

Is it just me or is 35,000$ for s family vacation insane ? Normally when i go on a family vacation its 200-300$

Her first mistake was giving extended family a dime

Having horrible family members in combination with joining the military, I have learned that just because you are kin doesn’t mean you are family. Shout out to my brothers and sisters across all branches!!! Semper Fidelis

OP is not the one ripping the family apart, the families own greed and sense of entitlement is doing a good job of that. She needs to stand her ground. And if she has to cut a few people out of her life, better yet.

There has to be a part 3 to this where she presses charges and gets restraining orders against the family members that ganged up on her. I hope the uncle that hit her gets a long jail sentence.

NOBODY should ever expect someone else to pay for their vacations, mortgages or college. You were very generous. This is why I don’t know if I would help if I ever obtained that kind of financial success.

I remember this story. OP should press charges on all the family members who were the aggressive assholes that invaded her lawn. They chose to cause a fissure in the whole family by being greedy, especially the punch crazy uncle who is apologizing out of desperation to avoid prison.

These people are like blackmailers. They would never be satisfied. They would drain you dry if you let them.

This is why I told my Husband if we EVER come into money.... we will NEVER tell anyone. It brings out the worst in everyone.

“We pack up the kids and go home” I’m just imagining putting the kids into a suitcase or luggage bags.

Sister-in-law that started it would get nothing ever again!

“Do not cast your pearls before swine lest they turn and rend you.”

I wasn’t wondering why op didn’t pay for the holiday. I was thinking “Wow!!! How incredibly generous she had been.”

ok, who is actually thinking "wh don't you just give them the money?" I'm certainly not, she's been far to generous as it is

I feel so bad for the rich woman’s struggle. That family is absolutely insane, and I’m hoping she is still alive and well and far away from those people. Maybe hired security guards.

NEVER EVER tell family or friends about your wealth. Family thinks you’re obligated to give them your hard earned money.

She should send out an announcement to all those family members who showed up "The day you showed up to my home, I was just coming back from my financial advisor where we were in the process of setting up college and vacation funds for you and your children. Your behavior that day was reprehensible and as I don't want to seemingly give in to your threats, I contacted my advisor and canceled those plans. This decision is final. Do not contact me again" That way it seems that they are the cause of not getting the money.

Never act as the family ATM

She is an angel if she is willimg to paying for her relatives children college funds

"I know some if you wonder why I not simply give them the money" Who in der right mind would wonder about this?! You are incredibly generous as it is.

I feel bad for her being put in this situation. She doesn't desrve it. She worked hard for the money and they just wanna be greedy... Godbless her..

I dont care how much money she has, I want to know how she made it.

Money, or lack of money, exposes how much family members truly care about someone.

Do NOT pay for those other kids!! They need to learn how being kind and humble pays off and that threats and violence doesn't get them anywhere. It was your choice to do what you wanted with your earnings. Stay classy. And as for your husband, don't let go of that guy he is a class act on his own. Best wishes for you and your family.

Wait, she already paid off their mortgage, put their kids through college and now they expect her to fork out for their ridiculous holiday?! That’s insane!

That’s why my husband’s family doesn’t know I make double of their son is making. We both keep it down low.

OMG! OP is so much more generous then I would have been. That is exactly why you don't let people know if you have money. Stay strong OP.

Don't be a damned fool, do NOT give one cent to any of them or their grandkids. Go NC and get court orders for them to stay away from you. Press charges against the fool who hit you.

OP, *DO NOT* and I repeat *DO NOT* pay anyone even a penny. Screw them and their collelge fees and vacations.

The extended family really blew me. Like where do you get off demanding hundreds of thousands of dollars from someone you barley know or talk to. ESPECw11IALLY since you've refused and talked down to them when they asked for help in the past. I could understand if they were just asking OP to help with college, but what they did was truly despicable.

She needs to stand her ground. I didnt lay out the money she did but I laid out over 1.5 million this is a huge amount to me. When money was flowing I had people stopping by all the time But after i finally got them to understand there is no more to give away i have not heard from any of them for over 7 years. This all got started by my parents they would get the money from me and give to them first older brother and sister then to nieces and nephews. It got to the point they were giving away more of my income then I was keeping for myself. I don't care how close you think you are with your family when it comes to free money for them they will suck the life blood out of you and then kick you to the curb like a worthless empty McDonald's soda cup.

This is why when you win the lottery or otherwise come into a lot a wealth, you hire a CPA immediately and file that shit away into trust funds. For only the people you trust the most. Don't tell anyone about it and live life the way you want to. Money brings out the worst in people around it.

A heads up for anyone who’s comes into money. Tell no one not even your spouse and first hire a lawyer that won’t let you hand out huge amounts of money then let people if you want to. Eventually your spouse would know so just tell them after the lawyer. Nobody can manage money when you think you have enough to spend 10,000 a day.

Wow. This is a whole new side of crazy. If OP gives them MORE money, they will never stop.

"Money comes in the door, love flies out the window."

“A wise man once told me, 'family don't end in blood.' But it doesn't start there either. Family cares about you, not what you can do for them family's there; for the good, bad, all of it. They got your back, even when it hurts. That's family. That sound like your mother?”

This is the family from hell! OMG! I feel so sorry for her. She should never have told anyone that she had money. I wouldn't give them one red cent.

This reminds me of stories you hear about in places with heavy starvation. Some group shows up and helps feed as many as they can and the people are grateful. Before long the people are no longer grateful, instead they complain the food they are being given isnt what they want or its not enough. The people no longer thank the group for helping them but now consider it the groups responsibility to give them the food they deserve. Theres the old saying; Give a man a fish and he can eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he can eat for a lifetime. Its wrong, it should read; Give a man a fish and he will be back with his friends tomorrow for more fish. Try to teach a man to fish and he will complain that you should just give him some fish. Better yet just give him money, then he can get fish, beer and cigarettes. He then hints about borrowing your car for a few days

I told my relatives that I would never tell them about my good fortune and of course, they were offended. Money changes everything. That poor woman!

What a family, I wouldn't give a dime to such ungrateful people.

Lesson of the story: Hide your money

That's probably the most generous person I've heard of. And SIL is the most ungrateful

The last thing I would do Is let anyone in my family know I came into money The worst mooches in the world is family members Trust me I know from experience

Honestly if someone offered to pay my mortage and education for my kids, I’d be super great full of what they have done. It’s just generosity.

I’m almost in tears. Poor woman. Nobody deserves that.

Absolute truth, it destroyed my dad's family 40 years of bickering, arguing, and flat out being nasty to one another. Aunts (mostly) speaking ill of my family (we were the black sheep). I broke away from the family and joined the military for the next 20yrs. I wanted NOTHING to do with the money. I instead made my own and proud of it. My general rule is: DO NOT let anyone know your networth!! Be humble and be a "secret santa" year round. I give in smaller increments, its harder to track it. Last, it never stops amazing me how people become entitled for your hardwork. Also, if you do run into money...quickly get a lawyer and file a living trust.

I wouldn’t give ANY of them ANYTHING ever again!!

Kudos. How can a man raise their hand to a woman like that, all the while trying to steal all her money as a horde. Disgusting avarice empowered humans. I would predict apx. $420-500 mil. was her financial gain.

She feels bad that she isn’t standing out for them, but she needs to remember, that they dont stand out for her, before or after. And while being the better person is being above that, it also means not letting them get their way and destroy you. They are no longer family, for they removed themselves when they stopped treating you as family, and instead as gold enriched dirt.

I was expecting her to give the uncle a right hook.

My dad told me as a kid, a millionaire lived down the street from him. The guy lived in a nicer mobile home and drove a Volkswagen. That was his life. What would I do if I’d won the money? Probably be very conservative. But, at the same time, remember you can’t take it with you. It’s still important to bless others. Just find discrete ways of doing so.

Yeah, this isn't anything new, apparently. From stories my Grandma told me when I was a kid, this was standard behavior towards rich relatives, in olden times. My Grandpa was the only son of an extremely rich man. My Great Grandfather was also an only child so my Grandfather ended up inheriting all the family wealth. My Grandma was also from an extremely well off family. So we were financially stable. My Grandpa decided to relocate our family to a big city because he was a lawyer and he wanted more opportunities than he would get in his village. At this time two of my Grandfathers cousins, from his mother's side, came and asked him to split all of his wealth into two and give a part to each of them. Their logic was that my Grandma was just as rich as Grandpa and nobody needed that much wealth. And since he was going to make big bucks as a lawyer, he could afford to give all of his money away. Grandpa had bought them each new houses and a few acres of land the year before. And it wasn't like they were suffering for money or struggling to make ends meet. They were comfortably middle class, just not wealthy. Well Grandpa refused. They said that they deserved a share and Grandpa told them that his wealth was from his father's side and they were on his mother's side of the family. They didn't deserve anything and he wouldn't give anything. They tried everything, from water works and guilt trips to curses and abuse. Grandpa left with our family and they never saw each other again. Good riddance, Grandma always said.

One thing I learnt having a good income is: nobody is happy for you. My best friend broke off our relationship since he realised how much money I have.

If I had a member of my family do for me and my siblings what OP did for hers, I'd slap anyone whoever acted like Entitled SIL. I'd also hope that someone would slap me if I acted like Entitled SIL too. OP didn't have to do any of that and it's stupid to expect more.

She should stick to paying for the ones she likes, and disowning the ones she doesn't, as they've shown their true colours alright! Cheeky baskets, the lot of them, a family of vultures!

Those family members tore their own family apart by the way they acted. Not money. Saying that it’s the fault of money and not their own gives them a pass. It’s as if they can say “sorry the money messed with my mind” and then they can get off scott free and not be held accountable for their own detestable actions.

The first lady had been EXTREMELY generous! Her sister-in-law had NO RIGHT to demand more!!!

I pray that the lady does not give in to her family. She owes them nothing and should only give to whom she chooses! Stand her ground and tell them: BYE FELICIA!

That's when you need to tell,the relatives "you know, i never liked you", and cross them off your Christmas card list.

She should get an award for helping so many people, not be "attacked" by anyone. So from me, thank you for helping so many kids with a good start in life!!!!

Had the same Experience with my sister in law, who refused to work saying it's too stressful. I decided to STOP being her ATM( after about 15years) and suddenly I'm a bad person, my brother sided with Her and i put Him in the same spot with Her. Now i can enjoy my hard earned money the way i want. She kept saying that i have one child so my expenses are lower than Hers with four kids and so i must help out with money. I work for the Money ALONE but She gets to Spend it with Me.

Wow she came into loads of money. What a incredibly nice lady to pay for so much of her family and friends bills and debts. I would be so grateful for that type of kindness!!

i hate that people think because you have things or money that you are OBLIGATED to give to them.

OP you have been extremely over the top generous to your family, and a friends. Stick to your guns and keep saying NO, to that entitled brats of a SIL and BIL. OP your not an ATM, also OP NTA.

This whole unpleasantness comes down to one sister in law who decided if she couldn’t have her expensive holiday she would make life very Difficult for you. There is no getting out of this, but you didn’t divide the family she did.

Mistake #1 was paying all the college fees - that doesn't teach kids to be responsible. She started hanging out money and she built the entitlement tree. She taught them to expect it. It wasn't the money, it was how she handled all of this - a real lack of wisdom. I had a neighbour who got trapped in this after he won $14 million on the lottery. He and his wife moved across country to get away from the relatives and moved in next door. If I won, I would tell no one: I would move.

This is crazy, OP should have a restraining order on all of them especially for the uncle that slaps her. OP shouldn't be forced to give her money, she should only do it to the family that actually help her and her husband during stuff time and they like. The rest can screw themselves.

This is a prefect example of the saying: "No good deed goes unpunished." Keep your business to yourself. The less people know about your situation, the better - especially family.

I have a similar story. Although it doesn’t involve as much money as the woman in the story, my husband and I, through hard work and good timing, came into a decent amount of money. Enough to retire early and debt free. One morning, a nephew I hadn’t spoken to in years (and was never really close to) calls me at around 7 am - waking me and my husband up. Without any courtesies, he launches into how a major appliance broke and they need a new one and could we “lend” them the money (I know from other family they never pay back what they borrow). I said “no” and he replied “Well, just wanted to explore our options”. What? I have never been an “option”!

She should not give the relatives any money.

Please don’t ever give any of those vultures anything. You will never hear the end of it. Give to whom you want and/ or charity, but to reward such behavior puts you down on their level. They will drain your money, your character and your heart. ❤️

I have a rich aunt and uncle I would never demand anything from them, I admit they have a vacation home, but I only want to go on vacation if I can go and do things with them.