Even if the little sister doesn’t lie, will her family still think it’s cute if she gets herself involved with ANOTHER twenty something who actually is some kind of pervert??
And while they keep saying they know her and she won’t lie, did they think of her as the type of kid to try and break into someone’s room? If she’s willing to do that then there is no telling what other lengths she will go to. This and the lack of respect from the gf are huge signs to break it off. OP needs a relationship where he feels love, respected, and safe from creeps
It's SO insane. OP might not be a kid diddler, but there are a bunch of other perves out there who absolutely would take advantage of this girl. It's better to be SUPER clear with her now before something really awful happens.
She doesn't need to lie. She can say something that's truthful to the wrong person or where she can be overheard and that could lead to an investigation. Say, for example, if she's chatting with a friend at school and is overheard by a teacher who is legally obliged to make a report.
I was thinking the same thing. There’s nothing stopping her from finding an actual kid diddler. I had a friend who was the same age who was dating a 20 year old. Their mom actively encouraged the relationship because it was an online relationship and the 20 year old sent my friend things. Like an iPad and switch. I was actually appalled that any adult would ACTIVELY ENCOURAGE a kid to be in a relationship with a pedo. Let alone the kids BIOLOGICAL MOTHER. It was so outrageous. And my friend was like ok with it despite the 20 year old having their address and could easily find them. The 20 year old also threatened to send me to the hospital because I was close with my friend. After that I had to report it to the police. I don’t think anything came from it tbh. And my friend ended up breaking up with the 20 year old because they had a person of the opposite sex sleeping on their couch after being kicked out of their parent’s house. But like idk how any adult could actually be ok with their kid being in a relationship like that. Even if they are getting luxuries out of the relationship. If I was their mother I would’ve never let them be taken advantage of like that.
@@Ya_boi_jasper See, I've had the opposite experience. Years ago I knew a 16/17 year-old girl who was dating a guy around 20. This was before online relationships. The thing was, she had been sexually active before meeting him and found him to be both more respectful of her needs and more interested in her as a person outside of the bedroom than guys her own age. Her parents had met him and were okay with the relationship. I'm not saying that my experience is more common than yours or that people don't need to pay attention to potential problems, just that I can understand why some parents would be okay with this kind of relationship. Note, however, that sexual culture in Canada is a bit different than US, especially 30 years ago, so this doesn't directly transfer.
1st story is a dangerous situation. Honestly it's probably best to distance yourself now. Imagine if the sister wrote fantasies in her journal, someone read it, and thought it was true.
There are tons of cases where they didn’t even write it down, they just simply say it happened. And everyone tends to believe them. And what the dumbass girlfriend is failing to realize is just because SHE would know OP wouldn’t do that, it doesn’t mean everyone else will. All it takes is ONE person calling the cops and making accusations and having the sister “confirm” it.
I think what bothers me most is they're not teaching her to take no for an answer. How is she ever going to understand consent if no one is pointing out what's wrong with her behaviour? And that's ignoring the major red flags already pointed out. OP needs to run and not walk 🏃🏻
There are so many things that needed to be done before it got to this point n the adults in her life have failed to do them because her crush is “cute”. If he were a predator imagine how badly this would turn out for the girl. Either way he should have a meeting with his girlfriend, her parents n his to talk about how serious the problem is then explain their lack of action is why he has to end the relationship for his own legal safety. It would be a good idea to record the meeting as well.
Op still would be in danger even if he broke up with his girlfriend, the sister can get upset because he won't come anymore and she wont be able to get to see him and she can still lie about it, he needs to gather all evidence that can point out that she is the problem and keep company as well for a while, he will need back in case of interrogation , cameras in his apartment too just in case
3:20 The sister *will* be 18 in 4 years and by then everyone will have humored her so much that either they won’t be able to establish real boundaries or she won’t react well to real boundaries being established
Doesn't even need to take that long. If GFs little sister starts having horny fantasies of OP, it's only a matter of time until she tries to come unto him in her underwear when they're alone. And when OP rebuffs her advances, THEN will the lies be coming...
I can totally imagine this situation becoming a "If I can't have him, then nobody can", and either she'll stalk him, destroy all his possible future relationship, or make falls accusations ... That little sister is sick and the family needs to correct that behavior right now! Because if she doesn't destroy OP's life, she'll still do it to someone else !
yeah, im not sure what the family problem is, yeah crushes happen and can be harmless but only under two conditions: 1 that boundaries are established and enforced 2 if nobody encourage the behavior they are not helping, that only reinforce the crush and it's not harmless anymore Sespecially since the sister already demonstrate an uncanny level of envy for her sister (bangin at the door, following them around) and trying to get Op attention all the time, thats not a crush anymore, its an obsession and possessiveness that happened because they keep teasing and reinforcing her about it, it wouldn't be so funny if Op were the one doing it. he should brake up with her girlfriend honestly nobody there respects him and he is condemned to walk in eggshell if he stays there, she doesn't worth that stress and risk , no if she doesn't have his back
She could even do that before then. It is totally believable that she could make up lies that she had sex with OP while she is still underage, either to hope that the OP Gfs breaks up with him or as vengeance that OP rejected her. And either way, OP is screwed for the rest of his life.
I'm agreeing with Rslash's true love rant because my mom was recently diagnosed with colorectal cancer and no matter how much she apologizes for the gas or running to the bathroom multiple times a day, my dad just tells her it's fine. That's love, dealing with each other's crap.
As a 2 time cancer survivor I have had the horrible poo issues. From the can't go to the omg can't stop! A true love will stand by you in both cases lol.
Yeah but in the case of a brand new person also a sign of a good egg, someone with a good head on their shoulders who knows what matters or not and deals with it. This guy will change diapers and help her when she's too sick to move.
Marriage is about supporting each other in the way that's needed. My husband has helped take care of me since getting diagnosed with a chronic illness. There are sometimes when I can't do anything, and he just takes care of it. I'm also pregnant now, and he takes care of so much, plus working so I can stay home and not worry. I love him so much, and I'm so appreciative. Even though it's difficult, sometimes he never gets angry or upset and just helps me. I wish I could do more sometimes.
That line at 5:18 " _My mom blames herself for allowing him to be part of our lives once again_ " ?!?!?! Especially with the previous part about him being gone for 10 years.
I’m hoping there’s an update in the future. I lived with a couple from a cult my mom got us into and I found a camera in my room one day. I’ve had to deal with too much crap to go after them so unfortunately I never did anything, they wouldn’t have seen much as I was severely depressed, just me crying, drawing, sleeping and eating brownies. 💀
Or was they baby something the husband agreed to because the wife wanted it AND he knows it ties her to him? OP said, she's trapped now. Obviously her husband knows this.
Seems like all OP's husband cares about is not being a loving father, but rather he wants his wife to remain the skinny attractive girl, even with their child on the way and of course, pregnancy changes your body and he hates that fact. To him, it's all about physical love when having a woman in his life, not starting a family with her.
Story 1: It’s disappointing that OP’s gf doesn’t take his issues seriously especially because it’s something more serious than she thinks it is and when he tries to tell her she brushes him off. Definitely breakup territory.
@@timoborri298 It's 14 for minors with minors kind of relationships. If an adult tries to have a relationship with someone under 18, they would get lot of problems.
@@timoborri298can we stop spreading pedophilic lies that make countries look like havens for that garbage? It’s for fellow minors, not adults to get freaky with minors.
Wasn’t there another story with the EXACT same scenario of the little sister having a crush on OP and everyone disregarded his feelings, except shit hit the fan when OP woke up to find the little sister in bed with him so he screamed at everyone and broke up with the gf on the spot before storming out? And then later when the gf tried to downplay what happened, OP point blank asked her if she and her parents would’ve been as cool about this if heaven forbid one of them had walked in and saw the sight first before he woke up, and the bitch couldn’t answer because she knew they would’ve freaked out on him. That OP dodged having the cops called on him and having his entire life ruined by complete chance, so I really hope this OP dumps his gf before he finds himself in a similar position because he might not be quite as lucky.
I remember hearing that one on a podcast! The BF on that one kept bringing it up and everyone kept brushing it off and downplaying everything until then. And even then they kept trying to downplay it and "Sweep it under the rug." You're right, OP in this story is dodging a major bullet but at the same time, OP needs to make sure that they have everything in case the sister tries to get back at them!
Actually, I think with that other story, the sister was also taking over OP's wife's spotlight and confidence because the parents care more about their kids being into looks and money rather than OP's wife's hobby, being this amazing intelligent woman, OP was trying to help his wife rebuild her confidence because that's how much he loves her.
I 100% agree with RSlash's love rant. It's about them being with you and holding you threw everything that life throws at you. In a span of 11 months I had a hysterectomy, loss my Mom to cancer, lost my grandma to dementia, bought a house, loss his Mom to alcoholism then COVID hit and we made it all through together and stroger. Sending love to everyone today
I already knew I loved my husband, but after a lengthy hospital stay, I accidentally pooed the bed while sleeping, thanks to the potassium infusions. This beautiful man not only scrubbed the mattress because I couldn't, going on 2 hours of sleep mind you, he also helped me bathe because I was too weak too do _that_ myself as well! He also got someone out to steam clean the mattress. I love this man.
If I'm OP in the first story I'm dumping the girlfriend because she doesn't respect OP's boundaries, and this situation could ruin his life in the end, so OP needs to END it now before its too late.
Honestly, the first story is so scary. I've heard so many stories of false allegations that destroyed people's lives. I remember when I was 18, a youth pastor friend of mine told me about a colleague of his that turned down the advances of a young lady, and she told the entire church awful things. Later, she admitted that she lied, but by then, his life was destroyed. It's a truly sad thing
Addiction story: I am so goddamn proud of op! I also had an addiction (i won’t specify what for personal reasons) and one year it got to a point where i never thought i could recover, then during the summer i redefined myself in a very similar way. I developed new ways of thinking, new beliefs, basically my whole psyche. Great job op, glad to see another person who overcame an addiction basically on their own.
Well done! I’m proud of him as well. My husband and I separated for almost a year due to his porn addiction. He came into the marriage with it, I always felt something was off but knew he wasn’t physically cheating on me with someone else. He has been clean for two years and is so much happier and present in life! I’m so proud of him and happy for him. We just passed 27 years a few months ago and it’s like falling in love all over again. I’m rather unimpressed with r/slash being so blasé about it. Porn addiction has been scientifically proven to change the brain and not in a good way. It’s as bad as drugs or alcohol. Keep up the brilliant work 👏👏👏🥳
you should check something called "the rat paradise experiment", it's about addiction and I found it very interesting, I think you would found it interesting too
Last story: I clogged the toilet at my bf's once at like 2am (period poop 😭) and he got up and plunged it and got me ibuprofen and a fresh pad. OP got a keeper for sure
Story one: It's an extremly dangerous situation for op. And the fact that his girlfriend and her family see nothing wrong with the little sister's behavior is even worst. OP need to run away from that family because it's a drama waiting to happen. And when he breaks up, he should be very clear about his reasons to leave ! Also, I hope he never gets alone with the little sister, otherwise she has an opportunity to make up lies !
Story 1: if the roles were reversed and op in their 20s had an open crush on a 14yr old, police would be called! This behaviour is not cute and is honestly dangerous! The parents and gf are all insane for finding it cute and the 14yr old seriously needs spoken to!
?? The difference is kids develope crushes on adults all the time (crushes on teachers, or other impotent adults in their lives) it's a normal, healthy part of development A 20 YEAR OLD HAVING A CRUSH ON A 14 YEAR OLD IS NOT 💀💀💀💀 BUT it's important for the 14 year old to understand that the person is too old for them and there for unobtainable and this kind of behavior is NOT appropriate. The crush isn't the problem. Its the behavior she's showing🫠🫠🫠🫠
@@KomaedasOneTrueHope Perhaps I should've explained more. I don't fault the girl, my negative attention is aimed at the parents and gf. As you say, they should be explaining to her why she can't have a crush on OP, not encouraging it and even saying to her "is OP her boyfriend". She's young and just needs to be told. That's what the parents should be doing, not encouraging it!
It's totally different，Kids are allowed to pine for people wildly inappropriate for them，Someone in their '20s cannot.The adult in this situation is always the adult Situation，
The last part is true. I knew my sweety was a keeper when he helped spray calamine all over my body when I got systemic poison ivy. That was a genuine nightmare. A person that will patiently spray every inch of you down and take care of you when you are so miserable after we had not even been together a year is truly a keeper. And decades later they still are.😊
Okay, story 3 annoys me too : It's the typical dude who wants a wife and kids but doesn't want to be a husband or a father. When his wife body changes and her health is on the line because of the baby he wanted her to have, he abandons her insteat of supporting her. He missed the birth of his baby and left his wife in a terribly vulnerable position just so he could get some s*xual gratification... He's disgusting and immature.
the one who just had the baby but can't afford to leave needs to give herself one harsh reality check. Just because she can't afford to leave doesn't mean she shouldn't be forming an exit plan, and fast. If that man is complaining about her talking non stop about the baby before its even born he is going to get even more sick of it now that the child is here. He is and will leave her over it. She needs to gather evidence for court and do her best to get SOMEthing in place because he's already checked out of their family. She's one argument over a diaper changing away from being out in the streets.
The comments about love in the last story are so true. It goes the same for ordinary friendship. Holding their head while they are sick, understanding when they are depressed, being happy when they are.
OMG that comment about love at the end 😂😂😂 It's so true though, my BF and I are super blunt and honest with each other to the point where people would think we hate each other, but him saying "You smell like dog shit and depression, go take a shower" is the purest form of love to us 🥰🤣
Last story, my bf took care of me the first Christmas we were together - I got a stomach flu from a work Christmas party while over at his place. I was so wobbly, I could not do anything more than step in the shower. He cleaned the bathroom up, all while in a calm manner. And then took me home the next morning in my car (we were supposed to go see my dad with my sister and BIL, they drove him home). We're still together 7 years later. He's a keeper and I know a good thing when I see it. So yeah, OP, your bf is a keeper and a good one.
I don't think they do. They just see it as a harmless crush and a phase the 14 year old is going through. So they're going along with it because they think it's all fun and games.
If the roles were reversed and it was OPs little brother having a crush on the girlfriend, I've got a feeling the family wouldn't brush it off the same way. For whatever reason girls acting creepy isn't taken as seriously as when boys do it. This needs to stop.
I don’t think it’s taken that seriously when any child does it but this is a pretty disingenuous take when boys often get away with a lot of this behavior even into adulthood
The problem with the first story is that if op dose break up with his girlfriend. I feel like her sister would get pissed that you left and might lie about you touching her.
1: Even if the sister wasn't being inappropriate, it's really *mean* to tease her over this. If this was just a puppy crush, how embarrassed do you think she might be about it in the future? And everyone around her is basically making fun of the kid.
The poop thing sort of happened to me once. I was on some new meds and hadn't gone in a while. I for some reason decided to eat a ton of cheese with some nachos one night. So at like 4 in the morning I woke up in horrible stomach pain. I was living at my parent's at the time. It got bad enough that I ended up telling my parents to call 911. The paramedics showed up pretty fast and around when they got to the house I managed to go number 2 and was no longer in pain but felt really weird. The medics checked me out just to be safe and concluded that other than the absolute panic I was just in and was coming down from, I was just fine.
Story 1. THIS! This is the reason I am no contact with my niece. Accused me of shoving her down once and despite people seeing it wasn't what happened I was still treated in the wrong. So I stay away because I'm never going to give her the chance to accuse me of worse.
Little sister story: ask your GF if she'd think it'd be cute if a 14 year old boy had a crush on her. If she drops the "that's different" line, ask "how?"
Story 1, op should always hide voice recorder every time he goes on a date with his girlfriend or comes to his girlfriend's house, even if it's illegal at least it's better to be safe
Happened with my ex-husband when I was pregnant with my daughter, and got much worse after she was born. I was nursing, and he was SO jealous of her everytime she'd be eating and even said stuff like "they're not even MY toys anymore - it's soooo unattractive to think of something I got such pleasure from being turned into nothing more than a dairy factory for a kid." Yep...that's how he talked about MY body, doing what it was biologically designed to do, nourishing HIS child ("a kid" in his words!)! It was disgusting how childish he was! 😢 he also was cheating on me during the pregnancy, as well as abandoning me at the hospital after she was born "to shower, sleep and take care of the dogs" (I guess "the dogs" being his intimate needs with his affair partner...), when he truly had zero need to leave the hospital at any time during or after her birth. I am now divorced and happily remarried, with a 5 month old son from my new husband. He helped me heal in so many ways throughout our relationship that I decided to give having a baby another chance. I'd sworn off any more kids after my first experience with my ex, but this last pregnancy and our parenting journey to-date, has been a dream! He found me MORE sexually attractive while pregnant and is more attracted to me and deeply bonded to me spiritually AFTER delivering our son than he was before. He took care of me while pregnant, treated me like a queen, and waited on me hand and foot. Once our son was born, he was/is in awe of my body for growing, birthing and now nourishing our son, loves seeing the bond I have with our son, has a fantastic bond with our son himself and still treats me like a queen. He loves everything about me, even my postpartum body changes, the changes/shifts in our relationship, tolerates my mood swings like a champ and truly has blessed me with showing me what true love really is! Sorry for the essay, I just got to thinking how bad I felt for this woman in the post because I *was* her at one point. I hope she finds an exit strategy soon because she NEEDS one, and I pray she finds some way to see it can be better in the future someday! ❤
@@KitKat10281 ooof, so sorry this happened but glad you got out anf found better! Seriously i'm starting to notice rslashs lack of understanding in some stories with women and I find myself yelling at the screen like " its not crazy its litterally social conditioning of women to act certain ways omg please for ur family lookit up ahhh!"
@mortuarydoll i love slash, but I completely agree with you on some things like this. I do take it with a grain of salt, though, since he's a guy and sometimes gender role and life experience differences do exist, lol. He does seem very understanding of a lot of a woman's plight on quite a lot of things, so I do give him credit for that! My main beef with him is that he is TOO nice in AITA stories... I'm like, "6 out of 5 buttholes!" and slash gives it "2 buttons out of 5." I'm like,"WHAT?!! I'm genuinely insulted that the butthole score is so low!" Rofl!
@@KitKat10281 agree, and of course I do remind myself hes a guy and very often like u said he will have a response from a womans story thats much more informed than most guys. His own conditioning as a guy in our society takes alot of dilligence to unpack that for himself and for his wife and daughter, too, and sometimes hes there and other times soooooo close just soooooooo close!!
Yeah. The “guilty until proven innocent” culture coming from this belief is very very dangerous. This is why intentional false accusations need to carry the same penalty as the actual crime. Otherwise there is no reason for the false accusers to stop
@@raarasunai4896 the issue is proving that it was false. In order to be found not guilty you only need to prove that there is reasonable doubt. You don't need to prove that you didn't commit the crime or that it didn't happen, hence "innocent until proven guilty," so being found not guilty does not prove that the alleged victim lied. If you gave out serious charges for admitting to having lied, then no false accusers would admit to their crimes, which would likely lead to many innocent men ending up in prison who wouldn't have otherwise. Filing a false police report and lying under oath are already crimes, and they should be enforced. Unfortunately our culture is very quick to judge and to hate. People will see a 30 second video with no context and start wishing death on someone who may be innocent. This is why everyone is really guilty until proven innocent in the court of public opinion, but the way you change that is to fix the culture. Politics is downstream from culture, not the other way around. Unfortunately western culture has been intentionally sabotaged from within, which is why degeneracy and hatred are so common. Yuri Bezmenov warned us of how this sabotage would take place, but people allowed it to happen anyway.
Nope, in this case it was actually their bio dad. OP said he bailed for a decade but then decided to become a part of their life again. I guess we know why he wanted to come back around.
My grandmother went to school with a girl who was repeatedly r***d by her bio dad after her mother's death when she was 9. The truth didn't come out until years later when he started doing it to his younger daughter after the first one was able to get out of the house.
The last story, I'm pretty sure that those two are going to get married. For some reason, poop is good luck in a lot of relationship stories that I hear 😭
Unironically 1st story advice is if he wants to stay with the gf, start burping and farting and doing things to make the girl’s crush go away. If that doesn’t work… I dont know. Outta ideas since the girlfriend isn’t taking it seriously.
I did wonder how their family situation is...where are OP's parents? Does she seriously not have any support system? No way in hell I would want to stay in marriage like this... it's clear that OP's POS excuse of a husband is not interested anymore AFTER pumping a baby into her which makes him an even bigger AH.
Had to restart the video because I missed the little sister's age in the first story. Genuinely, I thought she was a child, not a teenager. Like you know when kids are 5 and say they want to marry their great grandma, and it's actually cute because it's just so innocent? The family that thinks it's cute a 14 year old is doing it are weird.
The last story OP probably was on a narcotic for the pain after surgery. Narcotics are known to brick you up. Lots of water and maybe even some sort of stool softener. Goes a long way.
100%, also, I would recommend a stimulant laxative, opioids stop your bowels from moving and the stimulant laxative counters that. I would not recommend a stool softener alone, as a teacher of mine used to say “you can’t push mush”. Water, some gentle exercise (that’s safe for post-surgery) and if you still can’t go, stimulant laxative with a stool softener.
the addiction story really encapsulates one of the biggest issues in addiction treatment: going home. staying in familiar places. it keeps you stuck where, both physically and emotionally, the coping mechanism started, and it can backslide you so fast you dont even realise its happening.
The first story is one of those situations that you have to put your foot down and give an ultimatum: either set boundaries and stop "humoring" the sister or he's out. The situation is too dangerous and the GF/GF's family isn't giving the situation the attention it deserves. They are disrespecting his feelings on the subject and totally ignoring the problems that this can pose.
I have to wonder if the GF in the first story is one of those people who just can't imagine. You know, the "How would you feel if you didn't have breakfast this morning" "But I had breakfast this morning" type
The third story is absolutely incredible to hear. It makes me so happy hearing when people beat their addictions and even happier hearing that he found a love and respect for women. That takes a lot of work The last story, super funny! Reminds me of all the times I tried to poop during active opiate addiction. Iykyk
Addiction: OP’s advice works for many kinds of addictions. Environments and habits play a huge role in enforcing addiction. There is a great a video on RU-vid called rat paradise (I think) that explains a follow up experiment on the classic rat hits button to get drugs experiment. They explain it beautifully
Ibs sufferer here: you have no idea how strong the urge is to take your pants off. I related to ops story. I’ve cried… seen lights… everything. Don’t feel bad op. The alternative is having a doctor remove it. Theres actually a hilarious story with a gay couple (men) where op described his incident like he was giving birth because at that point… he ended up in hospital.
*Last Story:* I'm reminded of the Jim Jeffries bit where he recounts the time he helped out a pair of brothers, one of whom was wheelchair-bound, to visit a brothel (a legal one in Australia). In order to receive the brothel's 'services', they needed to put the wheelchair brother's member under some special light to see that it was clean, and the able-bodied brother, without skipping a beat, confidently declared _"I washed it myself this morning!"_ Jim went on to say that was probably one of the most tangible proofs of (familial) love he's witnessed; to say that you've washed a disabled relative's genitals with absolute pride.
Story 3 sounds like ops husband is showing signs of being a predator. Going for younger women, complimenting how small she is, her small chest, etc. Liking petite and flat women is fine on its own, but in tandem with going for someone younger? Idk, that feels like a warning
That last story was so funny (because I have the humor of a 5-year-old) but it's also very sweet because it's totally true. True love is doing the embarrassing things you would NEVER ask anyone else to do. Like, "Babe, I've been having bad poops and they hurt, can you see if I have an hemoroid?" as you grab some gloves and tell them to bend over to give them an at-home exam.
That last story tho.... I felt that. I had an emergency appendectomy, and the anesthetic, combined with prescription painkillers afterward, bound me up so badly that they kept me in the hospital for observation until I was finally able to poop. During my stay, they tried an enema; a crazy concoction of coffee, prune juice, and other mystery ingredients that a nurse told me her grandmother used to make; and finally some oral liquid medication. Through one or all of those things, I was FINALLY able to go, and it was just like OP said: I was crying, screaming, begging for it to end. It was like exorcising a demon! Only difference is the mortification factor was less in my case, because the hospital staff understood what I was going through. I'm sorry OP had to have that happen with her SO and his roommate there!
Oof, i seriously feel bad for op in story 1. I wish there was some form of protection for guys in situations like this so that their lives aren't ruined over the "love" of a minor. They say that her crush will pass, but like, if they continue to enable her, it absolutely won't.
my partner and I both have horrendous stomach issues. when one of us sees the other hurrying to the toilet with phone in hand, check in 15 minutes later to make sure we're still alive xD the last story's guy is def a keeper his comment about it not smelling as bad as his dad or brother is so relatable too haha
Screaming: Oh, poor OP! I've had poops like that, and it's REAL. The cold sweats, the cramping, the stripping down, the noises, the inevitable "a-are you okay in there?" because someone got concerned. I hope she's okay and feeling better after getting all that out.
That first story is terrifying to all guys. Every guy knows the fear of being falsely accused of being a R*pist, SAer, and of course the big P issue. I remember one story of this poor guy who ended up game-ending himself because some idiotic girl claimed he'd R*ped her, very literally just for attention, they'd barely even talked and the night it supposedly happened he was elsewhere entirely with multiple witnesses, but once the accusation happens, most of the time you're considered guilty, even if proven innocent.
There's a similar story of another OP who actually does get accused by the younger sister he gets arrested he losses his job and her family jumps him and send him to the hospital, the story ends that she was pregnant but with her highschool boyfriend and she got scared so she lied about who the father was. OPs girlfriend didn't believe in him until both the sister and her boyfriend confessed.
oh that last story, I know her pain! The pain of passing a blockage is so real and so intense! RSlash is right, she found a keeper of a guy for helping her through that!
Screaming hard (and oversized) poop followed by whoosh is my life every couple of weeks (I have no gall bladder and don't really take care of my diet like I should). I've also stripped in the run-up (no pun) to pooping. I feel for you, OP. I really hope you don't have to go through this again.
That first story is so incredibly dangerous, not only for op, but also the little girl. She is a child and her family is actively encouraging her crush on a grown man. How do they think that will translate to her relationships in the future? How can a family encourage their little girl, their daughter, a CHILD, to pursue her crush on a man in his 20s?? That’s not just gonna go away when OP leaves and the next guy who comes along is creepier. It’s not gonna go away when she gets on the internet and starts looking for grown men to get into relationships with cause that’s what her family encouraged. The things encouraged to you and painted as okay to you as a kid are not easy to get rid of, or to even realize are wrong. They’re setting that poor little girl up for failure, not only in the way that her crush that’s being encouraged will never ever come to fruition, but also possibly for the REST of her life. Someday she’ll be 18 and think it’s okay to take her sisters boyfriend cause “is that your sisters boyfriend or your boyfriend” isn’t gonna leave her head, at the very least on a subconscious level
I honestly relate a lot to the sixth story with the bowel issues. You know you've gotten a good egg to date (or even just a good family) when they're willing to nurse you when you're sick beyond imagining.
Last story reminded me of my husband. First trip away a couple of months in I did an awful poop in the hotel room. So embarrassed. No toilet brush. I finally admitted to him convinced he'd never be attracted to me again. He laughed. Said his dad did worse and then took the shower head and cleaned it up for me. I knew he was a keeper then. That will be 7 years ago next week. We've been married for 5 years and just had our second kid!
Fun fact about the screaming post: poop starts off very liquid and the bowels and intestines soak up the water so the longer you wait between poops, the harder it will get and since the bowels are decidedly larger than the butthole, if it’s that hard, it can and will split your bootyhole. That’s why it’s suggested to take laxatives whenever you haven’t pooped in a few days.
Story 1: I get op's concern, but like he does realize that it could be an issue with any relationship that has a child in its orbit, romantic or otherwise? Like the only reason flags are going up her is because the kid's crazy is showing, but you can't wait for the crazy to reveal itself to you. He might need to adjust his thinking from "this could happen", because the worse case is always possible, to "are these people trust worthy" because that's really all he has to go on with out living in paranoia.
1st story....don't blindly believe the "victim" you need evidence before deciding guilty or not...that mindset of nobody lies is really toxic and causes more damage than people think it does
It's way too easy to beleive and get someone arrested over something they didn't even do. All trials should be fair when considering something so life changing
Whatever happened to "Innocent until proven guilty" in the US? A girl can say something and anyone will automatically believe her with no proof and someone's life can be ruined like that. That's insane.
Innocent until proven guilty only means you can't be punished with a crime until it is proven you committed one in a court of law. It doesn't mean don't believe the victim who says a crime occurred. It doesn't mean you can't be arrested and charges can't be pressed and thereby proof of a crime must be presented in order to be proven guilty. You can be questioned by police, taken into custody as a suspect of a crime, etc. And even if they are innocent, those sorts of actions can affect peoples perception of a person. So you may be innocent until proven guilty. But people can still think how they will about someone accused of being a p word.
Poomageddon OP: You DEFINITELY have a keeper! A++ boyfriend. I went through something similar with my now husband. I physically can't plunge do to chronic back issues. It's still a little embarrassing after 15 years, but it's definitely an expression of love. ❤😂
Does anyone know which rslash video has the feel good story of the wife who realized she brought nothing to the relationship andn takes it upon herself to become a present mother and better wife. It was so refreshing to see such a wholesome ending and i can’t find it.
Last Story: I know OP's pain. I had surgery and after couldn't go to the toilet for almost three weeks (all the muscles inside my lower digestive system went slack and couldn't shift what was there). I ate stool softeners by the handful and I actually ripped my perineum from how big the initial bung was (later needing antibiotics and stitches). It was the third most painful thing I have experienced (2nd was putting most of my 30ish stone weight on a shattered ankle to climb aboard a stretcher and the 1st being a 100% blocked urinary catheter) So if I somehow need to be put under again for surgery I will ask for laxatives before I'm given a general anesthetic again. 😬 So enjoy that mental image 🤣😈
Story 1: OP, you need to run, not walk, to the nearest exit and book a one-way ticket to Outta Dodge Story 3: This is the side a lot of people don't see in abusive relationships. Pregnancy makes you extremely dependent on your partner and (in the US) companies aren't required to provide maternity leave, forcing you to quit and rely solely on one income. I really hope OP is able to leave that situation eventually.
1st story I wonder if saying something along the lines of "I dont want to be guest starring on that tv show with Chris Hansen" would change their minds
Yeah no first story is super weird. The teenager will have crushes. Everybody did, but rest of the family encouraging her is just weird. It's not cute when she's actively trying to get on with a adult. In age of the internet it can be seriously dangerous. One photoshopped photo or just allegation released to the wild can end badly for OP. Honestly if OP's gf doesn't see anything wrong with her sisters behavior then OP should just leave.
Rslash is so right. Literally just 2 months after my parents started dating my mom ended up needed to get some abscess removed from her ass or something, so my dad would literally have to pack gauze into a hole in her ass when they had only known eachother for 2 months. This February they’ll have been married for 30 years. 😂
