Raising Teenagers: Some Practical Advice | Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi 

Summary of lecture: 1. Inculcate fear of Allah from a young age 2. Stop micromanaging 3. Stop reprimanding(putting them down and making them feel guilty instead appreciate ) 4. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them(ask them what they would do if they were in your place as a punishment). Be a life coach. 5. Your cannot make them feel empowered by giving them gifts or spoiling them. Let them earn it. It gives them self dignity. 6. Allow them to understand that they are part of bigger picture(family, society, etc.). Encourage them to come to family gatherings, functions. 7. Find a mentor other than parents. A positive role model.

Absolutely stunning khutba. May Allah allow all parents and teenagers to benefit from this Khutba, Ameen.

Having 3 young adults now, I can relate to many items that Sheikh Yasir elaborated on. However few of many qualities as parents we must have are patience, persistence, positivity and unconditional love regardless of your prevalent personal condition especially at the sliver of time you may have with your family. These qualities are super easy to say or type in but equally super difficult if not more so, to put to practise in all conditions you and young adult may be in. As a parent, I failed many times to control myself plus any and all excuses are useless other than to submit to Allah that we are not perfect while continue to learn and cognizant of consequences of our words/actions.

The best advice on raising children I’ve ever heard! JazakAllahu khair Sheikh!

Maa Shaa Allah

Excellent advice for all parents no matter the age of your kids. Only thing I’d like to add to the first point Sheikh made: yes we need to make sure our kids have a fear of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’aala, however we need to be careful to balance it with Allah’s Mercy, Love and Forgiveness. Several of my own family members have left Islam (as adults) after a childhood filled with fear and believing Allah hates them and will never forgive them for any sins because our parents (may Allah forgive them) never once mentioned these beautiful attributes of Allah SwT. So they feel they have no reason to belong to a religion that (in their mind) condemns them to hell. Please make dua for their hidaya (guidance) and please teach your kids that Allah loves and forgives and is the Most Merciful. And don’t forget to tell your kids you love them and respect them too, especially fathers to your daughters. Otherwise they might find someone else to “love” them instead, so please remind them, and show them they are valued as children and as adults. Salaam.

Subhanallah سُـبْـحَـانَ ٱلله اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّٰهِAlhamdulillah اللّٰهُ أَكْبَر‎AllahuAkbar لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا ٱللهْ. Laa ilaaha illallaah 4 words Allah loves the most مَا شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ ‎مَا شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ ‎مَا شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ ‎

السلام عليكم ورحمت الله وبركته Strong words, بارك الله فيك، you speak about the important things. You helped me and my friends so much with the teachings about family Life, mariage and so on. May Allah give you and your family the highest janna. Greetings from Germany

Maachallah God bless you and your family🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Assalamualaikum Sheikh. Also devote one khutba to the reality of Hijab, taking account of the recent controversy in Karanataka, India.

Jazak Allah Khairan for this lecture. Years ago I was looking these answers. Alhamdulillah

This has me in tears. I wish all parents thought like this.

Asking the young adult what they would do if they were the parent to prevent the same act or mistake and find ways of compensation is a window toward compassion and understanding for both sides. A mentor is very important for teens who are are isolated.

Jazak Allah kheir dear Imam for your khotbah and we hope more like this, following you from France

Mashallah Shaikh. I think I am guilty of a few points there. Even though we always hugs and say we love our children to them personally but we need to do more to improve. I totally agree that our children even though they are lack of nothing, they still falls into depression. May Allah answer the Doa of all parents including us. Amin.

Jazak Allah khair Respected Sir

Jazakum Allahu Khairan

Wonderful advice..May Allah reward you♥️

Jazakallahu khayran shaykh, the part where you say those words representing parents really hit deep. Even though I know that my parents love me, but still hearing it is something else. I am not close to my parents, but nor are we in bad terms. Imagine with someone that are much more distant than their parents hearing it. I tried searching for the quote that was mentioned from Saidina Ali ibn Abi Talib because I wanted to share it, but I've found that the words are not from sahaba nor tabi'un. Similar quote is from Greek philosophy.

آمین ثم آمین

May Allah reward you Shaykh. May Allah preserve you upon all forms of good.

Its the school they learn all the bad things. subxaanalah. May allah help us. Amin yaarabi

I cant even imagine how the muslims would prosper if the lessons learned from this speech were implimented , although i have to say do not praise your child too much because that creates one of the most hateful traits , arrogance and ignorance , but then again do not give too little praise aswell .

جزاک اللہ خیرا کثیرا

Jazaka Allahu khayran

Thanks so much for the spectacular khutbah. I believe the advise u gave over here will be so helpful to all the parents, especially who have teenagers growing. I would really appreciate if you could make more videos on teenagers. Thanks so much again. May Allah bless us all, In Sha Allah.

Awesome. Very beneficial. Jazakallahu khairan

Absolutely necessary for all... Very beneficial advise JazakAllahu khayran Shaykhna

Allahuma barik our beloved sheikh YQ.

Aslamualaikum wrwb to all ( from india)

Sheikh, Library chat plz

Duas... Best

Amazing Khutbah. Def needed this.

The no.1 reason of depression in kids is free time, they're not doing stuff. Nothing to do gives you time to mourn over little things and get depressed easily. Back then people were physically active and doing hard work, their days were busy making something useful out of life. That's the main reason.

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Looking fit and fine sheikh

Mashallah what a powerful message

Brilliant analogies 👌🏽

Wow masha Allah what a beautiful words. May Allah bless you and your family

Jazakallahu khair brother. May Allah grant you barakah and rizq ameen

Jazakallahu khairan

Jazakallah khair.i was waiting from a long time to hear about this topic. May Allah bless you. Duas from India

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Alhumdulillah, Jazakumullahu Khair brother.

He reads the dua suratul furkan ayat 74❤

Thank you Shaykh

Jazakallah khair Sheikh

Masha Allah Kudos, great khutbah.

no young adult is gonna live in my house for free and have bad akhlaq

May Allah reward you. Anyone knows what music is in the intro?