But god damned it worked. D': now i'm scared to become blind too, for no reason. ..I'm going to read a book now, better than constantly staring at the phone. bye y'll
She wanted to help him, but knew he had to help himself. This is what a good mother does, letting him learn and grow cause the world isn't going to be nice to him.
How do we take seeing for granted? It's one of the 5 senses of the human body. If it's stripped away from us we have no choice but to deal with it. Ain't nobody take it for granted bruh.
Especially going blind later in life. I had a great grandmother that went blind in her teen years after an unknown illness. She was black and back in the early 1900s it was very difficult for blacks to get doctors that would help, and she gradually went blind. Even though she went blind she was known as the greatest cook in town.
Stop Rubbing When dem Damn Eyes do you don’t make em go blind Just wash Em for lords sake Wipe dem Eyes Bcs u damn blind so It don’t make a damn Difference now
I understand what she was trying to do, make ray be independent but god hearing that lil boy cry for his momma made me legit tear up.. dunno how she didnt go runnin
Nani K you could tell it was hard for her not to, but she didn't want to enable him to rely on other people. She was making him learn how to take care of himself and doing what was best for him.
I think it’s something we will never understand. She was raising him to deal with the world, not only as a blind man but as a black man. It’s not easy being black now, but back then, I’m sure you had to be very tough to survive.
@@thepoeticjay sorry bud that everyone's not an emotional person. That's how certain people make light of upsetting situations, the scene reminds me of my ma shooting up and fuckin junk yard dogs in the trailer park.
@@ginniekinz5401 only because the child has it's whole life to learn and adapt the older the adult is the less time they have to learn to change their old way of living
@FRANCO PEREZ lol yeah no body wants to be blind I'm blind in one eye so when I play sports I have to wear goggles it's the same color as my good one but I was born without being able to see out of it so yeah my fear is to be blind no one wants that
Imagine how hard that must've been, to watch your baby struggle, unable to see and is calling out to you desperately, but you want them to be able to grow stronger so you stand in silence. That would've crushed me.
@Qųɛɛŋ Dɛʂ Black mothers always claim they're the mother and father; they can only have one parenting role. It's impossible to portray a masculine role because the woman is feminine. A black mother can't teach a black boy to transition into manhood, that's a black man's job.
He's probably the most talented actor in the whole movie but I'd need to watch the movie to be more certain.. The mom is decent but he is insanely talented and younger
Not for the time they was living in. She had to be tough on him. This was during a time when just breathing black could get you killed. So she was tough on them cause the world was gonna be tougher on her boys. I always loved this scene cause you saw the doubt in her....like i should help him...but no she didnt coddle she let him be; thats love i would of broke. That cry.....
She wasn’t harsh, she was teaching him how to be independent without saying a word nor do a single action but watch. Her being “harsh” can not be compared to how harsh the real world is.
Don’t know why people are mocking you for saying this, it’s because they don’t understand. Asian parents are like this too, more so in asia then America. It’s people in tough situations that have to grow up tough and parents always mean the best for their children even if the children don’t understand at the time
@@454ffv I know the feeling, I'm asian. I just find black parents to be more hard skinned when it comes to their kids, asian parents want their kids to be successful. While black parentd want their kids to be honest and live a healthy life. That's why i love parents similar to mine.
“I hear you too, Mama. You’re right there.” Ugh 😫 that right there. I can only imagine how his mother must’ve felt to know her son was going to be alright in this world 💕
@@narutotexting5418 it's ok young man! We were all once young and snippy like yourself, use that moment of embarrassment to better yourself, and use it as a lesson to not jump to be rude at any given moment
I treated her bad as a teenager and now I'm older and sorry. But now we live far away. Now I finally want a relationship with my mom and it just doesn't work....
Tears, tears, tears 😭....The moment when your baby cries for help and you can't reach out because your plan is to make your child strong enough to withstand and adapt to the difficulties in a cruel world.That had to be rough on his mom.TOUGH LOVE.
This is the type of mom I want to be. Kids only feel they can't do something once they are told so. The mom made sure he was safe but also let him figure it out on his own. She gave him strength and independence.
Katie Anne no this is the type of mom she needed to be because there was nothing to help disabled people back then. you shouldn’t be forced into this position and you should never purposely be this way towards such a young child unless it’s necessary.
@@lemon-dg5lp She made him depend on himself while still keeping a watchful eye on him. I'm not saying they were not under extreme conditions but she was this way from the very beginning of the film. She teaches him to get himself off the floor and wipe his own tears instead of leaning on her for everything. But if u think that parenting style is only handy for extreme circumstances that's your opinion and I can't change it.
When I was a baby and I used to fall my mom wouldn’t run over to me and coddle me she would look at me smile and clap. She would say ‘Oh no tears! You have to get up to play’ after that I never cried when I fell unless I started bleeding or it hurt bad but I learned to use my words rather than get attention with tears.
@@katieanne7450 in modern times, it kind of is. They didn't have anything to help them back then, so she was forced to let him figure out how to use his other senses on his own. I don't think it was really extreme, I know she was doing it for his own good because one day she won't be there for him. But I personally would have comforted him and told him it's okay but you're gonna have to learn how to figure it out because I won't be there for you forever and everything, and then leave him to it. Everyone's teaching methods are different, but not everyone will adapt to them well. Everyone is different.
Like many single mothers raising children of course the father's would leave their children's lives when they're young causing the children to not knowing who their fathers are when they grow up I know because I never knew who my father was growing up and I still don't know him today.
When you lose an ability like sight your hearing increases. The brain is working full time to help you manuver from not being able to see. Our bodies are amazing 💖The brain is even more special.
I think that was too show that he was now completely blind. Before she said he was just going blind but I think the sounds getting louder meant he was loosing his vision completely
B.C. HarrisArt. Your telling me how blindness works yet my sisters and my parents are both visually impaired and my dad has slowly lost more of his vision.
This is so emotional, I love the mom for what she did. She tried her best and used the tough love to try and teach him to be independent for the future
I think she wanted to help him see and understand that there will be times when nobody is around to help him get up and not to live in fear because of that, but also to help him learn that even without his sight, he can take care of himself when he needs to and not rely on other people every time something goes wrong. I also wonder if Ray thought he was being punished with blindness for failure to save his brother.
Why is everybody bitching and complaining. Did he not become very successful in life. As a natter of fact he was rich. Love and grew up on his music. The talent this man has. What yall have nothing.
My mom taught me a lot. I'm autistic, and she has always pushed me to be independent. She didn't know during my childhood that I was autistic, but she still believed in my capability. Though my childhood was rough, she taught me social skills and how to handle myself. It was tough love for sure, but I'm so grateful to her.
You may not see this comment but I have autistic family members and I’ve always wondered what parents of very high functioning autistic people specifically do to make sure their kids can thrive in the real world
Im High Functioning Autistic As Well And I Understand Everything What You Say . Besides Autism Is Been Misunderstood So Many Years And People Dont Know What There Lifestyle Is All About . I Feel Your Pain Keep Your Head Up Things Will Be Better . 🗣💯💯💯
Listen back then they didn’t have special things to make life easier for the blind and deaf. His mama loved him, but I hate to tell you but mama is not gonna be there always to hold your hand. She helped as much as she could, but he had to learn the rest on his own and he did.
Ironically, that's how moms really hold our hands forever. A mom that does everything for you will only be able to do it for a while, afterwards, you're nothing but a wimp without mommy's help. If mommy teaches you to do it your own, even when she can't do it anymore, you will still be taken care of.
I have a blind friend. He says some days are better than others and he pretty much relies on his other 4 senses for everything. He’s been blind since birth but manages to make the best of everything and gets around by himself with the help of a cane and is sometimes better and doing everyday tasks better than most people!
It’s weird to think this way but at least Ray had an advantage- the ability to see for so long. He knew what things looked like, he saw colors, he knew his world with sight. Ply made it harder to transition without it tho
missychelle33 "Ray had an advantage" Yes and No. Yes, he was able to see BUT He became blind *During* his childhood. And I don't think it would be the best memory of your childhood...
This is very sad, and I’m very grateful that God has allowed me to have a life where I can see and hear everything around me everyday! I know someone already made this comment but I just wanted to comment that I’m grateful too!
Not easily cured, but modern medicine can slow it's effects. My brother has glaucoma and it's awful stuff man... He at least made it to his 20s before he started losing peripheral vision. Even today with surgeries and drops childhood glaucoma will typically render you blind by your 50s or 60s. The treatments aren't cures, they just delay blindness. Hopefully for many people's sake medical innovations are made in the next decade.
@@danielfindley6931 blindness does occur from glaucoma but it is a relatively rare occurrence. If it's caught early then you really have about a 10% chance of getting any sort of damage. You won't go completely blind but ever time you might get some damage.
Yeah it chokes me up because it's like he befriended the cricket because that's all he had left besides his mama who he didn't know was there until she couldn't hold her tears in more looking at her innocent her baby was
Your mama ain't gonna be with you till the end of the world. She's gonna die eventually. And you just have to learn to take care of yourself. She was trying to help ray gain independence for himself.
@@peachyrings1112 I agreed with the person who posted my mom babied my brother and now me and my mom and dad he muches off all off us and won't try to get a job
The thought of going blind scares me so much it makes my heart race, this scene made me cry when I heard him say "I hear you too mama, you're right there". I thank God I'm still blessed with sight. And see Ray as an inspiration for those without it
Mom: I'll help you if you messed up twice, but the third time you're on your own. And that's how it is in the world. Yoo, she gave her child the realest life lesson. Ain't nobody gonna take pity on you for a damn thing. 💯
“I hear you too mama, you’re right there.” -Ray To me, that tells me that you have 4 other senses that can help you see, especially hearing and touching your surroundings
THIS was some POWERFUL shit! It's like... at 4:08, it was that exact moment, that she knew her baby would be OK and would be able to take care of himself and not have to depend on the kindness of strangers. Hats off to the actress. Just goes to show there are no small parts, only small actors. 'Cause she BODIED this scene!
Every time I watch this movie this scene always makes me cry 😢 because when Ray Charles went blind and he started to call his mother for help but when his senses came to him and when he hugged his mother that scene always touches my heart.
She's so proud of Ray using his senses to move around, exactly what she wanted him to do. _BUT_ at the same time, there's the pain of your child losing his vision
Traww 95 i think they meant that black people would have been treated differently and he could have been given medication that wasn’t as good or possibly harmful medication to scam the mother for her money which would mean she would keep coming back and paying for more, just a theory though
Because a lot of people mix up tough love and beating/emotional abuse. When its the second, your kids learn bad behaviors and most likely turns into mental illnesses that will take years to heal.
@@MsPatrioteqc this exactly. A lot of parents who claim to use tough love are downright abusive and looking for any excuse to strike their kid and take out their anger. There is hands off, tough love parenting that’s affective but learn the difference
When Young Ray said 'I hear you too Mama' it made me tear up, ⬇️ is how much love you give to Ray Charles and the child who played him when he was young
As a mother with a child with Cerebral Palsy and is legally blind this made me tear up.. Because I know exactly how this woman feels... It took my daughter seven years to walk and when she falls down I would sit there and look at her the exact same way this lady did. She would feel her way around and find a way to pull herself up. The first time she took a step... Her very first steps I dropped to my knees and cried out thank you Jesus and I couldn't do nothing but cry because I was told she would never walk or talk. Now this year she will be 10! She is walking and talking plus she is a honor roll student... She isn't even in special education classes anymore. So as a mother with a child with a disability I commend this lady for her toughness her spirit and her courage... We as single mothers especially single mothers of child with a disability we have to tough and strong. It's not easy but somehow we find the strength to do it. I thought about what she said and I tell my baby almost the same thing. Just because you're disabled don't mean you're stupid and don't allow nobody to treat you like you are.
@r.harris5615 I can only imagine how incredibly proud you are for your daughter, that must be the greatest and most rewarding feeling in the world. I believe that you did the right thing by NOT coddling her and NOT automatically/immediately running to her side to pick her up whenever she would fall or trip which is most likely why she has come so far and accomplished so much at such a young age. God bless you and your daughter, y'all deserve all the happiness in the world. ❤️
