As someone whose life goal is to have children. Who cares if you don’t want kids, that’s fine, if you don’t want them then they shouldn’t be forced upon you. If you don’t want kids you are an amazing candidate to not have kids.
@@The_George_Washingtonnot exactly. hes not making fun of the idea of having kids as the life desicion itself but putting it as your goal is..a pretty small goal. i wont make fun of it as i get it even tho i dont want kids but i get why but i also see why he said what he said as he probably is not trying to make fun of the idea of having kids.. i mean.. no one is that stupid... or maybe there are those who are but still i dont think he was!
And let's make clear something about those people who eviscerated about hearing some not wanting to have children: A huge number of them became parents "accidentally".
Because THEY don't have a life and feel absolutely great telling somebody (Actually a complete stranger) what to do or not to do or to think or not to think... It's ridiculous 😒...
I love being a father and am so blessed to have my kids. However, the ones who are bashing him for not wanting kids might be projecting something in their own lives. Tiss his choice to not have kids. He seems to better fit the "crazy uncle" type who can have fun with a kid for an hour and then go off and enjoy a kidless life.
Yeah because the USA birth rate is on the verge of collapse that’s why lots of people get mad because the people that wants kids now has to have 10 kids to make up for the collapse of the birth rate, but it’s your personal decision so that should be respected
As somebody who does want kids, I completely respect and understand your life choices. The people shown here are the real assholes for not respecting somebody's life choices.
People shown here are the ones who make for better content engagement. Ray could easily make a follow up video about the support he was given and even one about the people who don't care.
People shouldn’t force other people to have kids. It’s okay not to want kids and it’s truly sad to see these idiots calling you these names. It’s childish
As someone who doesn't want kids I've been told all my life that one day I'll want kids it's so frustrating that people don't respect someone else's life decision.
those people cant understand that other people might not like something they like and all they reveal is that they dont think whats best for the others
omg you dont want kids you suck!1!1!!1!!1!!1!1!11! Jokes aside, do what you want, don’t let them command you, just tell them to respect your life decisions and just push them aside, if they get ignored they’re not really gonna be able to do anything to you
I get where you are coming from but it’s kinda programmed to say Ey I want to have a familie and stuff because that’s what makes most people happy. So if they’re polite about it you shouldn’t take it as an insult. If they’re not than at least you know who your friends are😊
@@TheRunningCameraMan its not programmed to us. its programmed to some and those people do want and the ones with no desire like that programmed into them doesnt want. Some have programming in their brains not to respect other people choices also
As someone who wants to be parent, I respect you're decision not to have kids. I never understand people who can't respect that some people don't want to have kids.
It's the culture, imo. I've seen some couples being guilt-tripped into having more just because they were fertile while their in-laws struggled to bear seconds. With that info alone, imagine how bad those who chose not to have any are being treated in such environment.
I'm almost 64 and I chose to never have kids and I NEVER regretted it. It's an individual personal choice, not an obligation to society. Ray, hang in there man, you still have lots of fans. I'm one of them.
As someone who longs to be a parent, I have utmost respect for Ray! I have seen people in my extended family and friend circle who have been extremely bad at parenting, either they have raised unruly kids or depressed kids. Highly irresponsible parenting, and it's sad because such people aren't meant to be parents at all. Some have children out of social pressure while some have them because they like the idea of having kids, either ways it's not benefitting the children! You go, Ray! Tell them!
Having a kid requires a lot of responsibility. Not having a kid from the first place is definitely more responsible than what most people do these days.
@@eryndelosreyes8224 HAVING A KID REQUIRES ALOT OF RESPONSIBILIITY. NOT HAVING A KID FROM THE FIRST PLACE IS DEFINETLY MORE RESPONSIBLE THAN WHAT MOST PEOPLE DO THESE DAYS
It's so sad that people can't learn to respect other people's choices. Parenting is hard and it's not for everyone. I was relieved when I watched your video about not wanting kids, because, as someone who doesn't want kids either, it made me feel less alone.
As someone who wants to be a husband and Dad more than anything. It's perfectly fine if you don't want kids. I don't know if you noticed but we have 8 BILLION people on this planet. We aren't exactly in a shortage.
China kinda is in a shortage of women as sadly sons are more valued than daughters (one child policy effect) but that aside, humans are not going to go extinct anytime soon
@@yicongfang8435 I was just using that as an exaggeration. What I'm trying to say is that in America we have the luxury of being able to choose whether or not you want to have children, so if he doesn't want to that's fine. Obviously it's different in other countries.
“Accidentally have kids”. Yeah, that’s the real reason people like this get mad. It’s because you’re making the choice after what I’m assuming was careful consideration, instead of knocking someone up accidentally then having to deal with what follows. Deep down they’re jealous because even deeper down they’re not happy with their choice but can’t admit it and instead want everyone to be just as miserable as them. People who are truly happy with their choice to have children don’t care about people that don’t. They’re mature enough to understand that everyone is different and so happy with their lives that it doesn’t matter to them
I totally respect your decision man. One of my goals in life is to be a better dad than both my father and step dad. I'm honestly terrified of what life would be like with having kids, and I can understand where you're coming from. But I'm not going to let the fear control my choice, and I can see you're not going to let fear control yours either.
I'm 57, i have no children. It was by choice. I could see no reason to pass my bad personality traits to the next generation. That is what was done to me. Made worse by my parents being 18. Accept who you are and what you want. My wife decided to stay with me for that reason. She had parent issues also. No children appealed to her.
@@logancocks5848 I have both. What difference does that make. They are free thinking adults and can lead their lives as they choose. As do I my choice was to not to have children.
Wow. That is weird that so many people responded that way. Personally, as someone who raises other people’s kids for a living/calling (foster parents) I applaud your choice to not let yourself accidentally get into a situation that you don’t want to be in. And hey, if you do ever decide you want a kid you could always adopt a child who needs a home like we did. We got to skip the whole potty training part. 😊👍🏻
As a parent, your feelings are valid! Kids are a lot. They take up your time they’re expensive and who would really want to bring babies in this crazy world.
As a parent, let me tell you that I fully respect your decision not to have kids. Anyone who doesn’t, they don’t deserve to be your fans. Not everyone can be a parent, and I’ve seen too many of them have kids.
To the people that are mad at him for not wanting kids, you shouldn’t care really. If someone doesn’t want kids and they end up with a kid, they can become a bad parent. Love you Ray and keep being you 💙
It's crazy to me how hard it is for others to accept someone's life choice even though it has no bearing on anyone's life except for the person making the choice
I'm a teenager, so I don't think about that stuff. But my dad advises me not to have kids, at least while I'm still working on myself to be financially stable.
I always find it better to not have kids than to have kids just for the sake of having kids. You should only have kids when you genuinely want them and will show the love and care for them. I have seen kids brought in into this world who have parents that dont really love them and its sad
It's crazy. People are crazy. It is a shame though because you have brains and there's too many parents that have none, but I completely respect your decision.
I don't understand why are people calling you selfish when it's quite literally the opposite. You're literally being responsible for sticking up to your decision, it would be selfish to have children you don't want, and would affect the children negatively.
I have three kids and respect your decision, sir. Kids are not for everyone and not everyone should have kids. Very mature of you and your spouse to have arrived at such important desicion
It's actually nice to hear someone say that not having kids is alright. I was raised in a pretty traditional community and I don't get told that not having kids is okay. Thanks Ray
I'm so sorry you had to go through all this. Some people honestly don't know when to mind and respect other people's business and decisions. I'm super glad this didn't get you super down though! Keep living your best life, Ray! Love and support from Indiana!
Parenting is not for everyone . Why do people want someone who doesn't want kids to have kids? Makes no sense. 🤷♀️ he's honest with himself. Much respect for sticking with it🙏.
I thought people in western countries were open minded and respect people 's decisions. But Ray uncle you showed the reality. Here in the Eastern world except China, Japan, Korea people would outcast you for not having kids. Hell, you can't even get a house on rent if you are not married. Tfffffff.
Im a woman. I don't want to have kids. I'm sorry if my personal life choice hurts your feelings. If you're looking for something productive to do, maybe have another kid instead of attacking people online who have done nothing to you.
Honestly, as a man, it blows my mind that more women aren't against having children. Having something grow inside you like some giant parasite and going through a painful and potentially dangerous process to birth it sounds disturbing. But hey, maybe there is something I am not getting.
I'm not a woman yet but I'm a girl who's gonna be a teenager but I also don't wanna give birth to them. If I want a kid when I'm an adult so I'd rather adopt.
I'm a woman. I would love kids, but I'm single and raising kids alone is not something I want to do. So I decided I would not have them unless I got someone who also wants them. If I don't get someone,then I won't have kids. Luckily,I enjoy my own company a lot, so either way,I'm going to be happy and fulfilled. I totally get it Ray.
i wonder of those people didnt have choice themself, made a mistake and accidently got someone pregnant and the other wanted to keep the kid and so now they have to live with the mistake and think thats how it must be or something
What do they expect to happen, he's not going to instantly change his mind because some losers living in their parents' basements want him to have kids
I thought only women got kid shamed. 😂😂😂 someone called me selfish for not wanting kids. 😅 made me cry. But after the pandemic fucked up school for everyone, OOF am I glad I don’t gotta figure out what to do with a kid in this environment
In my opinion it is your choice I have kids and I love them to death but you not wanting kids is your choice. It's your life you make your own decisions and if your happy with your decisions that is all that matters who cares what negative people have to say it's your choice
It is selfish to have children in the 21st century. Purely selfish. There are over 460,000 children in foster care. Go get one of those and then we can talk about who is selfish. Disgusting attitude.
This is the funniest thing I've ever seen. Also the saddest thing. Seeing people mad because of your own personal beliefs shows that people don't have any self thought of their own. You don't wanna have kids. How does this impact your own personal life or your mental health because he dosent wanna do something. I love that you don't let them get to you ray. Been a fan for over a decade not stopping now.
I now respect you even more because I love how you always speak your mind and don’t care what all these haters say. Because you should be able not to have kids and it should be your choice not anyone else’s.
It's better not to be a parent than to be a bad / uninterested parent. You can find happiness in countless things. I hope you've found that in roasting people and creating fun content for your subscribers. All the best bro.
I didn't want kids, but I was pressure by family. Now all that family abandoned me and my son because he's handicapped and no one wants to help. I love my son, but I feel so bad because he has to struggle for the rest of his life and it all my selfish family's fault. I can't change the past, but if I had known, I would not have had my son.
@@sagirem not really their love and attention because if it becomes too much and they can’t handle it anymore they could put the kid up for adoption so it could get all the love it needs from somebody who truly wants them
I am 35 and don’t have kids. I am just unsure about it but I wouldn’t attack anyone who said they didn’t want kids period. The people bashing Ray seem like they low key are are envious of people that don’t have kids and feel they have to struggle just to get by like them. It comes off like they low key regret their decision to have kids and are lashing out. Also, I feel sorry for the kids who have those folks as parents, they are prime examples of people that probably shouldn’t have had kids in the first place.
You're loved Ray, you're entitled to your own opinions and thoughts. We shouldn't feel like we need to conform to the 'norm' or what society expects of us. I thought I wanted kids once but now I'm 31, I'm not so sure. It's a scary thought tbh. I have bad depression and anxiety and I don't know how people do it, raising a family..I love kid's, I'd rather adopt..Anyway, you do you Ray. It's your life. Love you and your channel. ❤️ Lot's of love from England.
