Reacting to People's Reactions to You Starting HRT

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Starting hormones soon? Worried about the inevitable awkwardness when people comment on your changes from hormone replacement therapy? Speaking from my own experience of going on testosterone and pulling from accounts from other trans people, I share some tips and solidarity for reacting to other people's reactions to you starting HRT.
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@Hayden_Cat 4 года назад

I accidentally told a trans guy “woah your voice dropped harder than my grades” He laughed but I still feel bad about it

@jackisnotabird 4 года назад

I can’t speak for him, but that sounds genuinely funny and complimentary 😅

@punktic Год назад

LMAOOO I LOVE THIS

@SarahDarkhand 5 лет назад

Without HRT Christmas is just Cismas

@ko-lq7vu 5 лет назад

indeed

@courtnrysalamone7677 5 лет назад

Mind blown

@youcantlotorme8528 4 года назад

Smooth

@Dolfo89 4 года назад

Epic

@karasprouse595 4 года назад

That is just stupid. I bet you do not even know what CIS/TRANS is or where it comes from or used in.

@mandymckk 5 лет назад

A simple “you look happy” would feel great, I’d imagine!

@owengreene2026 5 лет назад

For me, that feels very positive and affirming without feeling like you're under the microscope!

@isaacwilliam6780 5 лет назад

YEAH

@alteredalex 4 года назад

So I said to my dad what do you think about trans poeple? "Do whatever you want sweetie."

@alias_hallow 5 лет назад

can't believe you said "welcome to being unrelatable" while spinning around in your chair, i.e. doing one of the most relatable things ever

@jackisnotabird 5 лет назад

so unrelatable he doesn't even know what's relatable

@davianlafountain9032 5 лет назад

I know right! That is my favorite thing to do(especially when I’m procrastinating).

@screamsformemes 5 лет назад

SAME

@Alina_Schmidt 5 лет назад

I found thinking about reactions to other people's reactions quite relatable and interesting, but now I'm confused...

@benw9949 5 лет назад

When my gayer side thinks, "Oh, you dizzy boy, you," and then I realize I'd thought that. LOL. I am mostly moderate, still maybe unlearning a lot, and yet, somewhere in my subconscious is this much more comfortable and much gayer side of me that slips out when I don't always know it. Haha. But I think that's maybe the better adjusted, healthier part of me. I still feel I was a little better about being gay, back in high school, and somehow, I went overboard in college and am still undoing the messed up uptightness. (I hope that made any sense at all.) -- Anyway, I liked the spinning, and it also told me I'm cool with Jackson being trans. But I've liked Jackson since I first found Will It Waffle, before he'd transitioned and during and now, so, cool.

@transmasc 5 лет назад

“You sound sick” has become my life being three months on testosterone

@anonymcosin 5 лет назад

A friend saw some pictures of me before I cut my hair and they just commented "you look so sad, so unhappy." And I started crying after they said that, because I was So sad and uncomfortable in that time of my life, and lots of family think I've made a bad decision to cut my hair and start presenting more masculine saying I was happier then. I got that into my head, especially when my mom revels about her "beautiful little girl" *vomit* and so just the acknowledgment that I was clearly not okay then was really amazing

@torrinashley6076 5 лет назад

You know if you weren't happy or not. If you weren't, it doesn't matter what your family says. You weren't happy

@hufflebuffben 5 лет назад

I am new, and 100% in the "can you notice" phase with my close friends and family. 🤣 And my mom noticed my ultra blonde whiskers before I did, so the mom power is too real.

@anonymcosin 5 лет назад

Ben Smith the mom power can overpower anything, even the excited trans guy senses

@nylonsghost7938 5 лет назад

Hey!! I'm a non-binary Individual who's close to starting Testosterone. My current experience is that my dad has been putting off talking about it and most of the time appears uncomfortable if I urge him to find time to take me to an appointment for it. Remember that you are not a burden and you deserve to find what makes yoi feel better. If thats hormones or simply a new name, you shouldn't feel bad for wanting it. Don't let someone's reaction to you dictate how you can and can't live. I've been out for 3 years or so and I've fought my way here, one click away from making an appointment. I just have to keep pushing for it and to be heard. It's hard to fight against people who are uneasy or dislike your transition, but surround ypurself with more welcoming people who can remind you that its not your fault if someone reacts poorly and you are deserving of medical and social respect.

@rwyke1 5 лет назад

Apathetic Lights I totally relate to all of this. I have been on T for just over a month now but I waited 3+ years to socially transition first and really take my time. I’m 33 and a teacher. The kids have been hella supportive, but the fam is now the biggest obstacle. I really appreciate what you said about not letting others reactions keep you from doing what you need to do for yourself. I have my brothers 1000% support & my mom has concerns but is hella understanding. I have to tell my sister I’ve started T and I’ve never actually come out to my aunt. she made me shave my armpits to go swimming in her pool last summer.... so yeah. Its hard but we have to take care of ourselves. I support you!!!!

@nylonsghost7938 5 лет назад

@@rwyke1 ❤️❤️❤️❤️ We have to stand up for ourselves because it's never certain who else will stand up for us. I had to leave behind my mother and most of her side of the family because I came out. Keep pushing, I believe that you can do it, you already even started T and that means even if some people don't like you, yoyuve already taken control of yourself and they can't just suck the testosterone out of you and stop it. 😂 Stay safe!

@emilr8745 5 лет назад

I’m so glad to see another non-binary person who’s starting testosterone as well

@penelopevarley6463 5 лет назад

That's so cool! I'm non-binary and would love to someday start Testosterone. I admire you!

@Connorsedols2002 4 года назад

I'm non-binary, I'm not allowed to bind, are there other ways to help with the dysphoria I feel about my chest?

@skatersurfersnowboarder3545 5 лет назад

one thing thats super awkward after top surgery is family and friends literally physically leaning over to comment on "ooh your scars are fading well" but like every time im shirtless. like "can you chill lmao", i just wanna be shirtless and not get comments on my scars. relax.

@rickiwright4815 5 лет назад

Yes they are. Any idea when your social awkwardness will start to fade?

@melissadomagala5576 5 лет назад

Honestly your channel is still one of the positive trans spaces on RU-vid. So thanks for being awesome.

@badreanna 5 лет назад

When I started hormones MY CAT WAS COMPLETELY CONFUSED it took about a month for him to chill out. My other cat was fine. I also got a lot of comments (from women) about my facial hair and I would respond that yes it's like im 15. And I stopped getting comments like that cuz yes its puberty thanks for pointing it out. It worked as a good signal that they should stop for me.

@badreanna 5 лет назад

The confused cat is featured in my pic btw.

@screamsformemes 5 лет назад

I'm a trans guy and I've almost been 5 months on testosterone. I moved out and haven't seen my pets in like 3 months. I wonder what they're gunna do lmao

@davianlafountain9032 5 лет назад

Your pets will not recognize your sent because T changes it. Just spend time and let them get used to you being around so they know the true you.

@tylerburney8576 5 лет назад

Dc24kong _ Uhh, no? Animals have eyes and ears, they don’t solely rely on smell to recognize people lmao.

@davianlafountain9032 5 лет назад

I know they don’t solely rely on smell. They just wont recognize you at first.

@melissadomagala5576 5 лет назад

Your animals reaction does not change. 100%. I have an 11 year old cat and she didn’t even bat and eye. Nor did my dog who I only see once every few weeks because she lives with my parents. Trust me. Pets know it’s you.

@torrinashley6076 5 лет назад

@@melissadomagala5576 Your smell does change. That's a fact

@teaguebean 5 лет назад

omg MOMS I spent my first 2 years on T working in the same (family run close knit) Cabaret Theater that I had started working at 5 months before I started. And all of the mom people commented on my changes constantly. Like, it was a lot and mostly about facial hair

@noahlevenberg325 5 лет назад

I just started on testosterone 5 days ago so this is super relevant to me right now. I love that you posted this. There aren't any other videos talking about reactions to HRT.

@nikhansen8775 5 лет назад

Congratulations!!

@davianlafountain9032 5 лет назад

Congrats man

@noahlevenberg325 5 лет назад

@@nikhansen8775 Thank you!

@noahlevenberg325 5 лет назад

@@davianlafountain9032 Thank you!

@AkatsukiKing 5 лет назад

Congrats! That’s awesome dude! ❤️

@hufflebuffben 4 года назад

My mom noticed my ultra blonde whiskers before I did. 🤣 And from friends/family/coworkers (I'm transitioning openly at work because I like my job and I don't want to quit), I welcome the friendly "oh hey, I noticed [the voice, etc.]" because man, I've worked hard for this. I've also had people genuinely compliment me on the progress and then be like, "oh man, I'm so sorry if that was offensive" and I'm just like, "no, no--THANK YOU." I'm upgrading myself on purpose, glad to know it's showing.

@quilespiritu 5 лет назад

"Welcome to being unrelatableee" *immediately does the most relatable thing I've ever seen by getting dizzy from spinning in a swivel chair*

@Kleineganz 5 лет назад

I'm 9 months on T now and I'm definitely the "oversharing" type of person, so I have been very welcoming of all comments and questions from my friends and family. Heck, I have even posted RU-vid videos about it since there aren't a lot of Gen-Xer FTM RU-vidrs out there. The only thing that currently irks me is the fact I still don't pass - despite my voice definitely having deepened a lot and the fact I dress and cut my hair in a very masculine way, I still get called "ma'am" by everyone who doesn't know me. The fact that my facial hair is still practically invisible (even if I let it grow out for 2+ weeks) doesn't help any. I look forward to the day when a stranger calls me "sir!"

@jackisnotabird 5 лет назад

It took me a few years to consistently pass. I think there's a confirmation bias we see online. Folks who can be read as male quickly on T are more likely to post photos and videos of themselves. The reality is that it can take a lot longer for most of us. Hang in there! I'm gonna check out your videos because I love seeing folks from generations above mine :)

@nylonsghost7938 5 лет назад

If there's an issue with yoir voice still being a little higher/more androgynous you can look through videos explaing head voices and chest voices. Chest voices are deeper because there's more room for your voice to resonate. Of course you don't have to change anything about rhe way you speak if you don't want to. But if it's bothering you I think voice training is something you could look into that might help you get gendered correctly more often. Until then, its just waiting for all those lovely other changes T gives you and to hope for the best ❤️

@Kleineganz 5 лет назад

@@nylonsghost7938 My voice has started to drop a lot in the last few months, so that's not the issue. The real issue is my body and how curvy I still am. The fat redistribution has started to happen, but my hips/thighs are still way too feminine and there's not a lot I can do to hide it (even with baggy clothing).

@nylonsghost7938 5 лет назад

@@Kleineganz Oh damn alright. Then it's just a waiting game and I wish you the best!

@dandadamo4299 5 лет назад

Since you mentioned resources, I think it'd be awesome if you made a video like "Trans People 101." A video that trans people can send to people in their life if they're not in a position to explain everything. Or a place to send people to other resources. Something that covers everything someone who has never been exposed to trans people should know. Great video as always!

@jackisnotabird 5 лет назад

Great suggestion! I'd love to make more 101 resources like that at some point. For now, you can show them my TED Talk. In addition to the talk itself, if you click on the tabs at the bottom that say "Reading List" and "Footnotes," I compiled a TON of resources for allies and trans people alike. go.ted.com/jacksonbird

@dandadamo4299 5 лет назад

@@jackisnotabird Great! I forgot you had a TED Talk, but that is pretty awesome! Thanks!

@vilmabostrom2 5 лет назад

Love your eyebrows I've just stared at them for the whole video

@artbookgaming 4 года назад

I'm a very androgynous non-binary person, going towards masculine representation. The only piece of transitioning I did before coming out was cutting my hair. My mom asked me if I was sure it was a girl's haircut. Of course I said yes as I had just minutes before cropped the photo to hide the man's face. Then there were the comments on how pretty I used to be before I cut my hair. I don't think that's a good thing to say whenever someone changes up their hairstyle even if they're not trans in any way. My hair style was also compared to my aunt's, which made me very conscious about it again. I've had it cut again since and now it's okay and I don't obsess over it anymore. After coming out it has been a lot more social, me getting braver to talk about it and advocating for myself, rn in the process of getting a binder, they're all order online and I need parental permission to use my money online even though I have my own debit card. Then there's been some talk about a name change with a couple friends, and there will be a long wait to get double mastectomy, first to be of age and then the whole diagnosis thing. So yeah, I'm still very much at the beginning, but we'll get there in time. I'm sure.

@Imagisweet 2 года назад

Oooo! Thank you for the "pets may act weird" comment! I'd been wondering about that, and how my cat will react, and how some pets "don't like men/women" and how a non-binary transition will play into that. lol

@kinsleewest7924 5 лет назад

I never thought I could love watching someone talking about their sponsor that much

@cameroncurtis8168 4 года назад

I’m starting T in 8 days - I can barely believe it - so I’m watching all of these videos trying to prepare. Ahhhh im so excited!! But scared!! But excited!!

@silverseen8300 4 года назад

Aye, how's the T going?

@rainbowgirl401 5 лет назад

I’m 2 months on T now and even though I’m out to close friends and family I still go by female pronouns and my birth name bc I can’t decide what I want my new name to be and I don’t know how to ask people to call me something else without it being awkward :/

@mmtruooao8377 5 лет назад

me: trying to present more masculinely nice person walking by: hello beautiful lady! me: than- awww fuck

@Secret-rc8eq 5 лет назад

If you ever get dizzy from spinning, just spin the other way a couple of times and you won't be dizzy anymore

@JetPak808 5 лет назад

MOMS.*oof* Mom-types are awkward. Especially the actual mom. Great vid as always, Jackson, look at all the people in these comments feeling seen 🙂

@davianlafountain9032 5 лет назад

Thank you for this video. It helped my confidence and I am currently trying to get a gender therapist(FTM). And I am able to wear a tux to my junior prom and it really boosted my confidence that my parents are understanding more. BTW my names Davian and your channel and some others has really helped to to use them as a template to explain me being trans to family.

@davianlafountain9032 5 лет назад

Also I’ve been out for over a year and my friends are the main support system

@owengreene2026 5 лет назад

I'm really happy for you! Much love from another trans dude :)

@immortalvelociraptor7810 5 лет назад

All my friends are starting hormones before me and my reaction is always just a sobbing mess. I become so overwhelmed with joy for them that I can’t even react properly. Can’t wait till it’s my turn to get those reactions from them.

@Mark-s747 Год назад

I feel you, did you get your turn yet?

@l-_Val_-I 8 месяцев назад

How's it going?

@penelopevarley6463 5 лет назад

Jackson Bird is my role model, he is the one who helped me realize I was non-binary, he is the one who makes me THINK about life and about society, he has helped me come out to my family as bisexual and non-binary, he has helped me so much. He will probably never read this, or maybe he will, I don't know, but I just want to say thank you, because no other RU-vidr, no other human being has helped me in the way that Jackson Bird has. If someone asked me who I want to be like when I'm an adult, it would be Jackson. So...just thanks, thank you, for creating the content you do, because there is no way for me to express how thankful I am. I'm getting repetitive now, haha, I'll stop. Also, dude, I mean Wolfstar is my OTP.

@Gabriel-tn9cg 5 лет назад

Omg I literally was in a terrible mental breakdown and just by watching ur videos I became feeling like much better, I'm so freaking thankful

@coltlineberry2444 5 лет назад

You are the first to talk about how pets react to changes. I have been wondering about that.

@colorbandiits 5 лет назад

I was completely out to everyone for several years before I was able to medically transition because I came out when I was 14 or 15 and I've never really had a choice but to be open about being trans coming out during high school. When I started T near the end of junior year I definitely got some weird comments, especially after not seeing a lot of people all summer. It was weird because there were definitely people who said shitty things, but because everyone there had obviously gone through puberty not too long ago a lot of people where also really understanding. Because I started transitioning at 17 I definitely had it way easier than a lot of people who transition earlier because not, 2 years later, I'm at about the same place as my cis peers. It's not weird for a 19 year old cis guy to still have a patchy beard or a bit of a baby face.

@meggink9126 4 года назад

The whole 'not seeing that people change but only seeing it looking back' is so true. I have this friend who had already hit puberty and stopped growing as she entered highschool while I was young for my grade and hadnt had my growth spurt yet. Now she has become the shortest of the entire friendgroup and I got amongst the tallest and we now think it is hilarious that I used to be shorter. It is especially hilarious to the people who have only been with the friend group for two/three years because they can't imagine it having been that way around.

@rickiwright4815 5 лет назад

A long time friend and his wife are over the top happy for me, and both mentioned that I just look and sound happier than they have ever seen. :) That was nice affirmation. Also, the pets comment is totally true: Cats think I am The Best thing to sleep on, and not just mine. Alllll cats. It seems estradiol has given me animal attraction as well as super powers and a clear mind. Thank you Jackson for sharing part of your life. It has helped immensely.

@rickiwright9005 5 лет назад

Cat attraction is just one of the many super powers estradiol has given me. :D

@ApollosDagger 5 лет назад

Thank you, I think I really needed that. I’m hopefully starting hormones in August and I still have to “properly” come out to most of my family. I’m transmasc but on the nonbinary spectrum and I started socially transitioning last year already. Starting with a new name which all of my friends and family know of by now. But only a few know that I use male pronouns (in German) and well, that I am trans. I haven’t really put out the obvious yet I guess haha. Also because it took me a while to really realise what I want and who I truly am.

@vaimlune8055 3 года назад

Yeah, that's the one I was curious about! Your pets thinking you're a different person because of scent for a few days. I have a lot of pets, the biggest currently being cats, and I'd been wondering when I change if they'll still recognize me or if they'll think "Wait.. Who are you?! What did you do with our person?! Where's Shad?! Help!" Also, more importantly, I wanted to ask you guys about how to come out to your parents. I've been hinting to pretty much everyone my entire life that I hate my current gender so much without being blunt about it, but I know none of them expect me to change, so how do I go about telling them without making someone pass out? I unfortunately have very sensitive and kind of old fashioned relatives. My main issue being one of my parents who was so proud to have a daughter but I hate it so much. Everything about being female sucks in my eyes and I've always been a man mentally, I'm just in the wrong skin. But how do I tell my family that? I'm kind of a poor speaker. Writing's so much easier but it'd be kind of weird to hand everyone in your family a letter and then dive behind the couch in case of explosions.

@MaddieTheMermaid 4 года назад

Oh thank god you addressed the pre-t/pre-coming-out stress I appreciate that SO MUCH! I have been on overdrive, hell near panic attack, these past couple weeks worrying about perceptions and how coming out would affect my work and social life and yada yada yada. And I think you’re right-I think coming out AFTER starting T would be best for my peace of mind. So thank you for sharing that nugget of knowledge.

@nikhansen8775 5 лет назад

Thank you for the very thoughtful exploration of this topic. Transition is wonderful but also very strange and a little scary and having these tools to navigate makes it so much better

@nrppl 2 года назад

The “oh that made me dizzy” after saying how unrelatable it was, was the more relatable thing in the world.

@wordybirdycs 3 года назад

A friend recommended your channel and I've been binging it all day. I'm pre-T and you're really helping me work through the doubts and fears I've been stuck in for a while.

@kevincollins53 Год назад

Jackson, thank you for this video. Although I'm watching it 3 years or so after you made it, I found so much useful info in it. I'm in the infant stages of my transition (ftm), and reacting to people's reactions is something I def need to think about. So far, I have only come out to a couple of people (besides my therapist). It all gets really overwhelming to think about everything involved in transitioning. Your videos help a lot! I hope all is well with you and, again, thank you for this video.

@rhubarbarian723 5 лет назад

I super appreciate this video! Thanks for talking about this 😊

@cadenscamera5444 5 лет назад

This video is super helpful, thank you. Im currently starting the process to get started on hormones (just had my blood drawn for the first time woo) and only a handful of people know right now that I'm doing this. This addressed a fear I didnt quite have the words to describe so thanks for all the advice!

@Bl00dBl055um Год назад

I'm in my second week and I'm super heart on my sleeve! I have been excitedly telling everyone who's in my circle about my brand new pimples and smells.

@jasperk5562 4 года назад

Wow, thank you so much for this video!! Really useful stuff!!! I thought ftm youtube was something I needed as a baby trans, but this video is exactly what I need as an adult starting transition!! This is super helpful, and makes a lot of sense. Keep up the great work :)

@stanwalk101 5 лет назад

Perfect timing! I got my prescription literally on Monday

@wetsocksyum1791 2 года назад

It's been a min seince I've heard dollar shave club and it's giving me alot of serotonin

@thehumantumbledryerakamand8303 4 года назад

I met up with a trans friend in a comedy workshop but I didn't recognise her. I said "Oh, hi K, nice to meet you" and she said "We've worked together before" and I said "Oh, sorry, I didn't recognise you. You've grown your hair and, uh, other things". I think she was ok but I was mortified,

@JessicaTea 5 лет назад

Great video, thanks for creating this! I'm a bit over 3 months on testosterone right now and am kind of the opposite of you tho. I am encouraging my friends and family to point out changes they have noticed. It makes me feel more valid in pointing them out myself, bacause I sometimes feel like I might just be imagining them. I really like it when my friends playfully point out my voice breaks, saying that I would probably be mortified if someone I didn't know all that well point them out!

@arlenemartin8894 5 лет назад

This is a good topic thank you for covering it!

@pacegibbs 5 лет назад

I just started T today so this is perfect

@porksoda703 5 лет назад

CONGRATS !!!!!

@garydeanbaker 5 лет назад

Oh my, you are so wonderful. Thank you so much for these videos!!

@bethmcloughlin8148 5 лет назад

thanks for all your insight. i have several people in my life doing some transition with gender n i appreciate all the helpful things to say or not say. love your videos and fun merchandise.

@oliver-ox3rk 5 лет назад

i might start t this year, and i can't help but be so SO scared about people's reactions.

@JackWhite-zf6ww 4 года назад

My friend is starting T soon and I'm really excited for him, like he's wanted this for as long as I've known him

@kovu_nonexistent3750 3 года назад

I'm kinda scared of telling my family about me being trans, and my sister Is getting suspicious about me because I keep dropping hints.

@jacksona1049 5 лет назад

people have recommended me bra styles and tampon brands and it was even more awkward because they didn't know I was trans, they just thought I had short hair and wore more masculine clothes. Who thought that was an okay thing to say to anyone though? it's so weird

@robertrist2300 5 лет назад

You are always cool to me another good video take care till your next video

@ArielVHarloff 5 лет назад

Figuring out wether to shave my legs or what to wear at formal events is the worst thing

@AlthenaLuna 5 лет назад

NB who went on T a few years ago now. In my case, something that made it easier to talk about was that 2/3 of my best friend's sons were/are at about that same stage of development in voice cracking and dubious facial hair growth (and the acne). So, it's something that's very easy to discuss openly and have them relate to. Also, wondered out loud at the bestie about why he didn't warn me how itchy bacne can be. 😾

@melttyarts5996 4 года назад

I'm trans and mon binary and I've been on hrt for more than a year and I have a bit of facial hair even and I'm still constantly misgendered. I think one of the weirder things is when people I'm around who I never formally came out to just kinda figure out via facebook or whatever. But the weirdest part is when they do when they know. My favorite is when they just use my correct pronouns and then thats it but I've had a few weird pulling me to the side and asking in like the weirdest way possible. The worst is when they just ask in front of everyone and I mean I'm not in the closet really but im not very forthright either. Its just so awkward and I hate being called ma'am constantly. I mean its been a whole year for gods sake and I still get misgendered so much. However (im an afab) I get hit on less often which is a plus for me.

@sol5407 5 лет назад

I just started T last week and this vid came out at a good time. For the most part, I am the first person who is trans that my family has met and to be honest I feel a lot of pressure. Mostly because now I have to be transgender spokesperson in my family for the time being

@reapnotsow 4 года назад

the part about pets is really true! sadly my dog passed away a few months before i started T but when i got the big hair cut and he saw me for the first time he barked like crazy at me because he didn't recognize me!

@TheRegina3108 5 лет назад

I’m pre T and my family is already coming with rude comments that makes me cry ...

@breakingboardrooms1778 3 года назад

That would probably be most of my family if I came out to more than a handful.

@scrambledpp8956 4 года назад

My friends all agree I'm much happier after coming out so hopefully they'll notice how happy I'll be on T

@Mango-cz2st 2 года назад

How is it going?

@scrambledpp8956 2 года назад

@@Mango-cz2st I get to start T on the 29th

@etiennetavares8949 4 года назад

I do feel like my cats noticed! Omg nobody else ever commented on that kind of thing, I thought it was only my impression lolol

@imaginareality 5 лет назад

Thanks, this is just the video I needed. I am super nervous about medically transitioning at my workplace. While I am out to all my coworkers and don't hide my trans identity, I interact with quite a few parents and I never know which parents caught on and see me as a (trans)guy and which ones are oblivious. There is at least one father who I am almost certain still reads me as female (interactions with him are just very from-one-man-to-a-younger-woman, a bit patronizing, touching my shoulder a lot) and I am pretty nervous about how he will react once I start showing clear signs of being on T.

@IceKreacher 4 года назад

I'm not going on HRT but I will be getting surgeries. Good video nonetheless. Thanks Jackson!

@arturiapendragonkingofknig9808 5 лет назад

Somehow I only just now noticed your eyes and I'm just captivated

@ciel1083 Год назад

lol the first time my dog saw me leave my room in a dress and makeup I saw her tilt her head and stare like she didnt recognise me. until I pet her and she realised it was me lol

@M1rela 5 лет назад

your hair looks so soft ^^

@kittysunlover 3 года назад

Jack: "Welcome to being unrelatable!" *chairspin* "Oh, that made me dizzy..." Me: *relates hard*

@deovolente5867 4 года назад

I'm nb and I was planning to change my name. And sure the name I chose sounds like a male's name in the country I live in but it's a gender neutral name. And my mother didn't support me. Told me that I will never find a job tlwith this name. I told her I don't want people in my life who don't support me more to call them my family. She doesn't know I'm nb and with the way thing are going I don't think I wanna come out to her. Can't imagine what would happen if I were to take hormones. And this video helps me to keep going and never let anyone to tell me what to be. So glad RU-vid recommended this to me at the right time.

@AkatsukiKing 5 лет назад

Does anyone else try to take a picture of their mustache hairs? You see them there but can never get a good shot of them 😂

@Ryan78336 2 года назад

Someone once told me, off hand that if I went on T, I'd look like Bowie and it was probably the best compliment ever. Wouldn't mind looking like Bowie if I'm honest. I could definitely live like that. That said, still undecided on T.

@dacisky 4 месяца назад

Kerwin and I went to a buffet and I stood waiting for him (ftm) to pay for his meal..The cashier spoke to him thusly:"Yes mam,uh sir,uh mam!" Kerwin kept a strasight face and knew better than to look at me (he had already started taking testosterone and was in a grey area.) It was all I could do not to laugh and the cashier was sooooo embarrassed cause Kerwin would not fit into her little box. Second story; I went into Kerwin's area and he was at his computer. I casually looked at what he was looking at. He looked up at me and said"I went through puberty twice!" I said:"Inded you did." And then I asked THE question...And I got the answer...Same question you get asked...😃

@lucasmannion8787 5 лет назад

One thing I'm kind of worried about is my dog's reaction. I know that sounds a bit weird, but he's a rescue and is very territorial and protective of the family, and doesn't like non-family members *especially men* . I should be starting testosterone at the end of summer, but then I'm also planning to go and work abroad for about four months (continuing HRT while I'm away). So yeah, I'm a little bit worried that I'll come home and he'll go mad and think I'm a stranger

@rickiwright9005 5 лет назад

If you can, every couple of weeks while you are away, send a t-shirt you wore that day home to your dog to sleep on :) Just tell your dog sitter it's so the dog does not miss you.

@lucasmannion8787 5 лет назад

Erika Wright that’s a good idea thank you! He’ll be with my parents and sisters while I’m away, because he’s the family dog, so at least I won’t have to have a weird conversation about sending unwashed clothes home to a dog sitter 😂 He also tends to sleep with a blanket (he has several, he likes to make nests) so I could just tell them to swap it for a shirt. Thanks for your suggestion :)

@rickiwright9005 5 лет назад

@@lucasmannion8787 I am happy to help, and happy for you.

@rickiwright9005 5 лет назад

@@lucasmannion8787 Also, checkout susans.org if you have not found it already. Hugs!

@Arthur-yf9yv 5 лет назад

9:18 Yes. I'm open about things because I'm so awkward. Earlier today I randomly brought up the last time I peed myself as a talking point.

@Arthur-yf9yv 5 лет назад

I was about 8, and I came downstairs more than half asleep at about 11 o'clock, asked my mum if I could go to the toilet, and peed on the carpet. '30 years I've been asking permission to piss. I can't squeeze a drop without say-so.'

@thomasfieschi-rose3705 3 года назад

Remember (and this applies to everyone, not just trans people) that for better or for worse, you are your own worst critic, so don't worry too much about how much people will notice changes in behaviour and physical attributes.

@toby________toby 3 года назад

this is a weird question that you are under ZERO obligation to answer, but do you have people close to you who are autistic or are you autistic yourself? I ask because the way you communicate is SO incredibly autism friendly. I always know what to expect from you, I know what you mean and I feel safe and comforted hearing you talk rather that confused and alert like when a lot of people talk about complex issues. I wish I knew how to better describe this, but i just think it is so amazing. You're my absolute favourite youtuber.

@RageDeRuin 3 года назад

I'm curious too but I don't get that vibe from him, even though I know a ton of trans people are autistic (like myself). Of course everyone is different so maybe he is and I just don't notice.

@Cleridwen 3 года назад

I also love the way he communicates and explains things. it's really cool

@xiomanaxoxoxo3212 3 года назад

Happy you made this video .it’s important

@doctor_owl 5 лет назад

Ahhh!!! Your hair looks so good! I'm jealous! I've been rocking that same hair style for the last 10 years but I've never been able to get my bangs to really sweep up and over the right way. They always want to fall back down or stick straight out... Do you use any products like hairspray or gel? Please tell me your secret! Lol You're basically my trans twin, we look so similar you could probably pretend to be my brother and nobody would think twice! Tbh I love your videos not just because you make such great content, but also because you look so much like me your stories and experiences are even more relatable :P Oh PS: I can definitely vouch for dollar shave club. Their "Wanderer" line of hair products is REALLY good. The sage and black pepper shampoo is literally the ONLY thing I've used on my hair for the last year and a half. It smells soooo good and it's a very gender neutral scent :)

@c_and_l 5 лет назад

I am nonbinary, transmasculine. One of my aunts, whom I had not even seen or talked to in almost a decade, emailed me and asked for "transformation photos" on finding out that I'd transitioned. I responded not so politely. That was a weird one. For the voice changes, most people just asked if I had a cold, and I just said yes and then they never mentioned it again. One friend I had not seen in quite a while noticed IMMEDIATELY as soon as I said hi, and obviously I told her and she was happy for me. I have a couple of friends I can go to and ask if they notice specific things that I get worried about. Otherwise nobody has much commented other than to say I seem a lot happier and more able to be myself. I've been on t for... oh geez. Maybe a year and a half? I don't track it or changes at all.

@jesseberry7521 4 года назад

Very helpful my therapist was telling me to ask trans guys what to do how to deal with transphobia

@TheBiohazardKick 2 года назад

I know this video is 2 years old but I resently figured out that I'm agender and am trying to figyer out were I go from here.

@kamdynjensen4344 Год назад

Hey Jackson Bird: I just discovered that there's actually a Transgender Clinic in Massachusetts and a free legal services on changing names and gender markers the name of this Transgender Healthcare is Fenway Health

@rosesinthegard3n 5 лет назад

So I'm nonbinary, I haven't transitioned yet, but I'm out to a few close people. Whenever I speculate about going on testosterone (which I'm considering) and getting top surgery (which I really want) my dad gets really worried that I will suffer and doesn't want me to be 'messing with that stuff'. He loves me a lot and had an amazing time with his daughter but I don't know how to help him feel better about all of this.

@al-muwaffaq341 5 месяцев назад

As a gay Muslim man I've ben trying to reflect as this is somethin I've buried down my whole life

@owenpridgen4406 5 лет назад

I had to go to the hospital with my son for weeks when I saw my dog for the first time she was confused I had a beard lol

@AkatsukiKing 5 лет назад

I’m out at work but not really much with my family. We’re not that close and we don’t live near each other.

@cameron4015 5 лет назад

Why’d u at me like this... yes I did tell everyone I know bout the little dirt stache I’m growing lol

@foregroundeclispeleon6223 2 года назад

Hopfully I'll be on testronone soon. I'm currently 20 I'm a trans man ftm who is currently pre- T.

@username_773 2 года назад

question? how can I get a binder without having a personal account, im too scared to ask my parents right now, but chest dysphoria really sucks?

@Ryan78336 2 года назад

Also, at work once, I had a bunch of customers over time who would do and say things that made me want to crawl into a hole and disappear. One person blurted out, "that's a BOYS name!" pointing out my name tag which thankfully doesn't deadname me, and I wanted to tell them that wasn't my problem, but as usual, I simply said nothing and took their obvious derision in stride. Another person repeatedly refers to be as Darling, dear, dahl, (an ausie expression used to refer to women) others are obviously confused and doubletake over pronouns and forms of address and it all just adds up to awkward. One person at one of my old jobs outright called me out for being a male child and said my mum should be here with me. Super awkward! This liminal space I live in right now can be hell if I focus on it too much. Not sure if anyone shares this experience though.

@teagansalmon2439 5 лет назад

are we gonna talk about the Queen at the end... or not.

@ConstanzaRigazio 5 лет назад

16:41 Love Queen :D

@weirdwormsaloon4088 4 года назад

9:17 I’m the weird oversharing type of person lol

@benw9949 5 лет назад

"Celebrating Trans Lives" -- iTunes has a button / section up for a selection of movies about trans folks for $4.99 each on sale. I have not seen pretty much any of these, and intend to take a look at two or three. @JacksonBird , I thought you and viewers would be interested. Just saw it, dunno how long it'll be up, and it's way before Pride month.

@benw9949 5 лет назад

Drat. I should have copied down the titles of those movies to watch later. The button in iTunes for those is no longer on. They looked interesting. I doubt searching for "celebrating trans lives" will work within iTunes, but I'll try it. -- Jackson, maybe you'd like to do a video on trans movie recommendations, please?

@lonelycrescendo 2 года назад

Yesterday my dad said "why don't you just buy a fake beard instead of taking testosterone" and kept enforcing how difficult it is for me to transition. "that's so expensive" "if the therapist says no you can't do it" "they're doing it for the money" "your mother will never understand" excuses excuses excuses

@lonelycrescendo 2 года назад

Wow thanks dad yes my problems are solved I'll just get a beard and strap it on and call it a day. As if he knows anything about who I am. He gaslighted me at 15 and stopped me from transitioning for 12 years